Domestically Abused Woman Reveals Texts She Used To Get From Husband, And It’ll Make Your Skin Crawl
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Leaving an abusive partner is one of the most difficult choices a victim can make, but for some, telling their story afterwards is even harder. This woman decided to break the silence and share hers, and she’s been met with a viral round of applause.
The woman, an Imgur user who goes by the screen name krissykross, used screenshots of text conversations and written anecdotes to tell the world about ‘Adam,’ her physically, sexually and emotionally abusive ex-husband. “Strangers on the internet are better than keeping it inside for so long,” she wrote about her decision to open up 3 years after the end of it all. Her post has now been viewed over 600 thousand times, and has received an outpouring of support from commentators. “I upvoted because this is insanity and should be seen by more. Glad you’re okay,” one user wrote.
Though this woman was able to escape from her ordeal, it’s estimated by The Huffington Post that at least 3 women are killed by intimate partners each day in the US – over 1 thousand per year. Stories of survival are crucial for current victims who may be afraid to find help, and who may even still be unaware that they’re being abused. Read how krissykross found a way out of her toxic marriage below.
One brave woman decided to share the story of her abusive husband, showing some texts he had sent:
“This is a good example of strings of texts I would get at work while on shift (I am not allowed my phone on the clock.)”
“Tony was a coworker. I knew when he clocked off because it was when I was clocking on. Fella helped me change my tire one time and I was suddenly banging him (apparently.)”
“I stayed the night with a female friend from work. He knew because he “set traps” for me”
“I visit my mother one every couple years. I had a huge bruise on my arm from where my husband had bit me, leaving visible teeth marks. The bruise was so bad it hung around for almost a month. Long enough for a visit to my mothers and to still be photographed by NCIS when I finally turned him several weeks later.”
She continued to share her whole story:
If you or someone you love needs help, don’t be afraid. Call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233
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Hardest part of domestic violence and abuse is that it is a slow and steady indoctrination into that world. Clearly if this man acted like that early on in the dating, she would not have moved forward. Even now, after all that, she refers to him as "kind, loving man" and she takes the responsibility on her shoulders for losing weight as the trigger point. That man was neither kind or loving. He was most likely an abuser from very early on blaming his actions on her behavior, and she thought she had some control, she didn't. His parents didn't see his behavior as criminal or abusive - probably mirroring their relationship. Leaving an abusive relationship is very hard. Even more so when there are children involved. The abuser will in a lot of instances be granted access to the children, and the children become the portals to continue to abuse, and or victims themselves. Then those children in turn are at risk to continuing the abusive patterns.
That's a good point. Kind and loving people don't just flip and become abusers after someone loses weight. They were abusers from the start just not as overtly.
So many pass judgement not realizing this. If my ex had revealed that side to me before we got married I would have NEVER even looked in his direction let alone married him.
I'm right with you on this one. My ex husband was the perfect gentleman prior to our marriage. After exchanging vows, he became a monster.
Yes ur certainly ryt about all that...hopefully she sees now that none of this was her fault...he has serious issues he needs to deal w
☝🏾☝🏾☝🏾☝🏾Exactly! He was a suite when he met her, and because she was an overweight woman he planned to manipulate and abuse her when he got with her because he saw her as vulnerable. Some abusers like to pick women they think have low self esteem due to health issues, mental disabilities, or weight problems. They were always abusive, and planned to be that way Just looking for the "correct" victim.
Correction: He was an abuser when he met her...
It's normal when you're a young couple to be hit and bashed about by your husband!? This what replied her husband's father who is a Pasteur???!!!! What kind of a father in law says such awful things to his daughter in law?!!! Her inlaws are mad as is her ex-husband. Shame on a man who is the head of a church. What kind of bible has he studied or not?! In what world does he live in this horrid man. F Son like father! It's OK to hit women since when? What kind of upbringing have these two men received?! This poor lady will phycological scares for the rest of her life. No can get over abuse, whether is done by one's parents, friend, or spouse. This young lady can be very proud of herself and I wish her the very best in life.
She didn't say he was kind and loving, it was the people who were testifying for him
She actually does say that. In the last section titled "she continued ...." First sentence of second paragraph. She is describing how it began.
That was so brave to finally leave, because I guess many victims would be terrified about not being believed, not managing to leave, and them being "punished" by the violent partner when they find out they told someone what was going on. It's such a sad thing to go through and I can't believe she was told it was "normal" by her father in law. If I was being abusive, my mother would be the first to tell me I had a problem and need help to find ways to solve my own issues instead of being abusive and violent towards someone else.
When my sister was going through her abusive relationship with her now ex-husband, my mom and I kept with her about getting away from him. Never leading her to believe what was happening to her was safe or normal, and she should consider her life and her kids lives. We eventually succeeded in convincing her to divorce him. But he tried it. Tried separating her from us, and threatening us, and so forth. But no! We were trying to save my sisters life. He didn't stand a chance.
Please just ignore "Robert Johnson". He's nothing but a troll, and all signs say he has a tiny dick-that's his problem, not this brave woman's story. Poor guy. I wonder how long he's been single?
I think Robert's just butthurt because he was *so sure* his abuse tactics were new and novel, and now he finds out he's just like every other POS spouse-beater.
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Lol sure "Paris." Any other ridiculous arguments you want to make? If there are countless real scenarios, then I'd like to read about them instead of ones that are made up. Idiot.
Robert Johnson is the infamous ADAM.
So you can call all of those stories fake as well? What would convince you this was real?
You have no right or reason to say this is fake. You wouldn't if you had ever been in an abusive relationship. It devastates you.
Sanity, make you doubt everything. They're abusers. Losing consciousness after having a stove handle hit you in the kidney, bruises to hide
Instead took his side, gave him shelter after jail and tried to convince me to take him back. Men like him will make you doubt your own
Useless. Called me horrible names and hit me. And even after getting arrested for it, half my neighborhood witnessing his violent outburst
Ridiculous arguments.... I was a victim of abuse. Several years with a man who believed nothing I told him yet made me feel small and
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Story could be fake. What proof is there other than screenshots of someone supposedly named "Adam"?
This story may be fake but there are hundreds that are NOT and hundreds that don't end in the woman getting out or getting out alive. Either you have your head in the sand or your are a "adam". Either way I feel sorry for any females in your life.
Even if this were to be fake, there are countless scenarios that are not. Possibly too thick to come to that conclusion by yourself? Don't answer that, i have come to a conclusion myself. See how that works?
Omg, this is so powerful! Thank you for sharing your story.
Hardest part of domestic violence and abuse is that it is a slow and steady indoctrination into that world. Clearly if this man acted like that early on in the dating, she would not have moved forward. Even now, after all that, she refers to him as "kind, loving man" and she takes the responsibility on her shoulders for losing weight as the trigger point. That man was neither kind or loving. He was most likely an abuser from very early on blaming his actions on her behavior, and she thought she had some control, she didn't. His parents didn't see his behavior as criminal or abusive - probably mirroring their relationship. Leaving an abusive relationship is very hard. Even more so when there are children involved. The abuser will in a lot of instances be granted access to the children, and the children become the portals to continue to abuse, and or victims themselves. Then those children in turn are at risk to continuing the abusive patterns.
That's a good point. Kind and loving people don't just flip and become abusers after someone loses weight. They were abusers from the start just not as overtly.
So many pass judgement not realizing this. If my ex had revealed that side to me before we got married I would have NEVER even looked in his direction let alone married him.
I'm right with you on this one. My ex husband was the perfect gentleman prior to our marriage. After exchanging vows, he became a monster.
Yes ur certainly ryt about all that...hopefully she sees now that none of this was her fault...he has serious issues he needs to deal w
☝🏾☝🏾☝🏾☝🏾Exactly! He was a suite when he met her, and because she was an overweight woman he planned to manipulate and abuse her when he got with her because he saw her as vulnerable. Some abusers like to pick women they think have low self esteem due to health issues, mental disabilities, or weight problems. They were always abusive, and planned to be that way Just looking for the "correct" victim.
Correction: He was an abuser when he met her...
It's normal when you're a young couple to be hit and bashed about by your husband!? This what replied her husband's father who is a Pasteur???!!!! What kind of a father in law says such awful things to his daughter in law?!!! Her inlaws are mad as is her ex-husband. Shame on a man who is the head of a church. What kind of bible has he studied or not?! In what world does he live in this horrid man. F Son like father! It's OK to hit women since when? What kind of upbringing have these two men received?! This poor lady will phycological scares for the rest of her life. No can get over abuse, whether is done by one's parents, friend, or spouse. This young lady can be very proud of herself and I wish her the very best in life.
She didn't say he was kind and loving, it was the people who were testifying for him
She actually does say that. In the last section titled "she continued ...." First sentence of second paragraph. She is describing how it began.
That was so brave to finally leave, because I guess many victims would be terrified about not being believed, not managing to leave, and them being "punished" by the violent partner when they find out they told someone what was going on. It's such a sad thing to go through and I can't believe she was told it was "normal" by her father in law. If I was being abusive, my mother would be the first to tell me I had a problem and need help to find ways to solve my own issues instead of being abusive and violent towards someone else.
When my sister was going through her abusive relationship with her now ex-husband, my mom and I kept with her about getting away from him. Never leading her to believe what was happening to her was safe or normal, and she should consider her life and her kids lives. We eventually succeeded in convincing her to divorce him. But he tried it. Tried separating her from us, and threatening us, and so forth. But no! We were trying to save my sisters life. He didn't stand a chance.
Please just ignore "Robert Johnson". He's nothing but a troll, and all signs say he has a tiny dick-that's his problem, not this brave woman's story. Poor guy. I wonder how long he's been single?
I think Robert's just butthurt because he was *so sure* his abuse tactics were new and novel, and now he finds out he's just like every other POS spouse-beater.
This comment is hidden. Click here to view.
Lol sure "Paris." Any other ridiculous arguments you want to make? If there are countless real scenarios, then I'd like to read about them instead of ones that are made up. Idiot.
Robert Johnson is the infamous ADAM.
So you can call all of those stories fake as well? What would convince you this was real?
You have no right or reason to say this is fake. You wouldn't if you had ever been in an abusive relationship. It devastates you.
Sanity, make you doubt everything. They're abusers. Losing consciousness after having a stove handle hit you in the kidney, bruises to hide
Instead took his side, gave him shelter after jail and tried to convince me to take him back. Men like him will make you doubt your own
Useless. Called me horrible names and hit me. And even after getting arrested for it, half my neighborhood witnessing his violent outburst
Ridiculous arguments.... I was a victim of abuse. Several years with a man who believed nothing I told him yet made me feel small and
This comment is hidden. Click here to view.
Story could be fake. What proof is there other than screenshots of someone supposedly named "Adam"?
This story may be fake but there are hundreds that are NOT and hundreds that don't end in the woman getting out or getting out alive. Either you have your head in the sand or your are a "adam". Either way I feel sorry for any females in your life.
Even if this were to be fake, there are countless scenarios that are not. Possibly too thick to come to that conclusion by yourself? Don't answer that, i have come to a conclusion myself. See how that works?
Omg, this is so powerful! Thank you for sharing your story.