Women On Tumblr Point Out The Most Common Mistakes In Female Characters Created By Male Writers
Sometimes when you read a book, you ought to suspend your disbelief to believe the fantasy. However, there are times when it’s impossible to ignore some of the blatant inaccuracies, especially when they are connected to a substantial demographic (like half the world’s population).
It’s no secret that, at times, male authors describe women in the weirdest most sexist ways, creating awkward, unrealistic female characters that, unfortunately, other men often buy into. Well, women are not too happy about it, and some have come together to compile an ‘open letter’ to men writers. From the realities of periods to the functionality of high heels, these ladies cover a wide range of topics, correcting the misconceptions found in books with female heroes penned by male authors.
Now, we are not trying to be overly feminist, but if a strong female character demeans an average men’s masculinity, there’s something wrong with the guys themselves, not the women and feminism is not to be blamed of that.
Scroll down below to learn a thing or two about the gender roles and real women. Girls, if you have your own additions, don’t forget to leave them in the comments!
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Share on FacebookI agree with lots of this, but feel really badly for the woman who has THAT much of a problem putting in a tampon. 🙄
I physically can't use tampons, and have to use pads, so I thanks for feeling bad for me. :)
Load More Replies...ALL OF THIS! ++++! And women in combat or post apocalypse roles, they don't have a toiletry kit to have clean shaven pits and legs. Or a 5 step face care to remove zits, hairs, bushy eyebrows, bags, or black circles. And where are they getting so much water that they have shampooed, conditioned hair daily while dying of thirst and starving and under a constant threat? Deal with it, women in their natural state are furry.
The problem with badly written female characters is about more than bras and periods. I find all these “strong female leads” unrealistic because they don’t do the one thing all women I’ve ever met in my life always do: talk to other women about what happened and how they feel about it.
Actually not all women (nothing is true for all women). I honestly hate "girltalk", the going over daily events, he-said/she-said, feeling-sharing etc.
Load More Replies...If a woman has said she is not interested in you, she does not want to be "convinced" through a series of gestures you deem romantic.
thanks, Rubee Tubesteak. This. IF i say no, I mean no, and to f**k off and leave me alone. I believe in my own judgement and if I don't want a guy, I've made a sound DECISION, not a moment of delusion.
Load More Replies...I seriously witnessed a guy express annoyance at a girl 'choosing to deal with her period' (by changing her tampon in the bathroom) at a particular time and place because he deemed it a stupid time/location to do it.
Load More Replies...So glad to see gardeners included in the list of reasons for having short nails! I have short hair and short nails. Both were a choice made for convenience - I garden a ton and backpacking with super short hair is soooo nice! Everyone always assumes it's a statement about my sexuality.
Not that there's anything wrong with either way. I just feel weird when people assume.
Load More Replies...I would like to add to this list that not all women wear bras and/or make up to sleep! Therefore, we don't wake up wearing a bra and a perfect face of make up! If we do fall asleep with our make up on, it doesn't look that great the next day!
I actually find it shocking that some women do wear bras in their sleep. Like ... whaaat? That sounds so uncomfortable to me. I definitely go to sleep in my make up sometimes, though ... due to sheer laziness. But I guarantee you it doesn't look pretty the next morning.
Load More Replies...Why is it that almost every strong female character I see is some violent Mary Sue chick that can kill everyone with ease? Violence does not make someone strong or powerful, it just makes you violent.
At the age of 68, being a male, you still find it hard to believe what society inflict on lady's, Meaning lady's shouldn't be sold short! Thank you,ladys
What I, as a woman, learned from this is that I'm way more uncaring about my appearance than most of the women who contributed to the Tumblr thread. I don't shave anything. I don't wear underwear unless I have a skirt on. I only just obtained bras in the last couple of years that my boobs have gotten bigger as I gained weight; I spent my teens and 20s outspokenly bra-free. The only makeup I own is eyeshadow, which I don't put on very much because the only places I routinely go are Walmart and my therapist's. I don't have a clue where to even start with other makeup, and don't really care anyway; if people don't want to look at my splotchy acne skin, too bad. The clothes I usually put on if I leave the house are jeans and a t-shirt or tanktop, usually. At home I wear the same shirts or tanktops and pj pants or boxers. I'm disabled and usually in some level of pain, and very tired at all times, so a lot of this could be because of that. I go for comfort and ease first, appearance second.
Being in pain does make a difference - I use to care a lot more about clothing and now it's comfort first and appearance second just as you say. Shaving - I'm blonde so what they eye can't see the woman gets away with!
Load More Replies...uhmmmm... though I agree with the main point of this entire article, I do disagree about nipples. Some bras are thin or with minimal padding, and for those women with pointy nipples, there's nothing wrong with you XD even if it shows through your bra when cold or aroused. Some are just pointier than others- despite what the article says above, sometimes it *is* still an issue, especially if you're not a fan of tons of padding and enjoy thin t-shirts. (or can only afford thin cheap t shirts, join the club xD)
There have been winter days in my workplace that were so cold that I was pointy all day long. The nipples were rubbing on the fabric of my bra and at the end of the day, they hurt like HELL. Nothing funny about that. :-(
Load More Replies...As a husband of 18 years I agree with all things said. But if you are reading a romance it's much nicer to read about an idealized reality than the stark truth. I have stark truth every day of my life. Coping often enough isn't easy. So reading about lifes lighter moments is much more pleasant. Men are also different than stereotypical males in action movies. I have little muscle, my stomach is flabby and I cry. I am not tough as steel. My back aches when I get out of bed. I am so glad that I'm in a happy relationship and don't need to go searching for a partner.
I hear what you're saying, Oliver. I think the problem here though is that the myth of the "perfect woman" who always looks freshly made up or is miraculously shaved during the apocalypse isn't just in romance novels - it's so pervasive you see it in ads, movies, books of all genres. There are even some women who feel compelled to wake up before their lover and quietly go do their makeup so they aren't seen without it! (Rare but it happens.)
Load More Replies...Lot of women have some strong opinions about bras and periods in books. I stopped wearing bras three years ago and with the IUD I don't have a period and even before that I never had much of a period to speak of. I guess what I would tell male writers and female writers, a normal reaction to a man being a f*****g d**k to you is not to sleep with him and realize he is 'the one' the normal reaction is to tell him he is a f*****g d**k and if he continues to harass you, you will have to go to the police. I am so sick of reading how these women get into these abusive relationships like it is some sort of love story.
Women KNOW when they’ve had sex. They don’t wake up unsure—virgins especially. Also sex has a smell. Character types who wear perfume/aftershave can be detected when hiding in close proximity.
Load More Replies...Also breast reduction surgery is *fantastic*. Relieved pain in my back muscles, the pain of the back strap. ( and yes i wore professionally fitted bras ). Relieved the pain over the shoulders, relieved the horrrrilble rash under the boobs that HURT. Relieved the neck pain. and guess what ! a woman with all that pain relief feels a bit more like doing the horizontal folk dancing :)
I second this. My life changed for the better after surgery last year. I can run now, and actually be in shape. People know what color my eyes are. Bras are much easier without a wire. I could go on, but you already know.
Load More Replies...I have noticed that women writers do this too, ESPECIALLY if they are writing in the Horror Genre. It's just... weird. Can I get a Heroin in a horror book that is not a Mom, a Sherrif or Deputy who is still a dusty rose, or chasing some dude? PLEASE?!?!?!?!
Incredibly minor comment, but based on my 7+ years of work in construction design, women's restrooms tend to be larger and have more stalls than men's rooms. I suspect that women's restrooms have lines for the simple fact that men have the obvious advantage of urinals. It sure is very convenient to need only to whip out one's d**k to urinate and not have to sit down every time. So yeah, I'm just here to confirm that life as a man is way easier, and any incel/MRA idiot out there who says otherwise is lying.
Yeah, I think it was worded a little unclearly, but that was the point she was trying to make. There are generally more *stalls* in women's restrooms, but if you take into account urinals, men tend to have more options.
Load More Replies...We don't instantly pull the sheets/blanks to cover our breasts after sex.
i'm just wondering, in what kind of novels are women described like that, and who buys all those novels, which makes men write more of them... bc in the books i read, they never mention anything like that about the female protagonists, no matter if they are written by a man or a woman.
I have seen it in romance novels and teen novels, but I don't read either of those so I don't see this type of thing either. To be honest though, I don't read much of anything unless it is for a class because college just took all the fun and entertainment out of reading.
Load More Replies...- Women who are fighting in high heels with long hair in ponytails. I have seen this so many times. In high heels you can barely walk and ponytail is so convenient to be caught by opponent and used against her - no, we don't always match our underwear, in fact, most of the times we don't bother - women at work that requires precision, hygiene, safety precautions etc do not wear hair floating around their face and shoulders, no matter how sexy it would look - after and often even during work, we don't look cute and pretty, we get tired and after 8-10 hour shift we can look like hell and need a break - yes, women DO get periods once a month or so, male writers usually forget that - we do not wear thigh high stockings all the time, even when bathing or sleeping and with nothing else except heels. Please, Serpieri take a note at that. Most of women hate stockings all together, they are horribly uncomfortable.
Walking in high heels has a learning curve. Running? Not so much. If you really need to run, then you take off your shoes to do it.
Load More Replies...Having a baby: - not everyone goes into labour in public - when waters break, it's usually not on the sidewalk -not everyone labours in the cab, then has her baby 10 minutes after arriving to the hospital -We don't always yell at the midwives. Sometimes there are complications, several day long labours, emergency c-sections, after which holding your baby isn't always just pure bliss
I have no words to describe how offended and angry I am after reading all of this. Terrible of how mostly of men writters describe and think about us. Disgusting and horrible.
I can't believe most of this stuff even has to be explained! Like, people actually think women casually wear makeup and lingerie at home? People actually think someone would look sexy in a bra two-sizes to small, as opposed to looking like they've attached a miniature camel on their chest, not the slightest bit attractive and in lots of pain? People actually think pee uncontrollably 'drizzles out' with gravity, or think you can hold in period like pee? Have these people ever met a real woman?
Correction: Not a miniature camel - it'd look like you've attached a balloon animal version of a hedgehog to your chest. You'd just have weird cluster multiple small lumps.
Load More Replies...Women cannot wear cute frilly bras with a T-shirt...we have to wear T-shirt bras which are not sexy. Because wearing a cute frilly on with a T-shirt gives your T-shirt weird a*s bumps and looks stupid. Women smell weird while on period. We are constantly cleaning ourselves. We often sneak to the bathroom without our purses otherwise everyone knows we are on our period. Pads are like wearing a saddle. Shaving causes red bumps on many women and the thought of a man shaving me would scare the hell out of me. M M
Honestly though, as a writer, I have thought about how I would describe my body. Although not really in a sexual way.
I'm confused by all the parts about how all women wear bras all the time and they are essential, etc etc. I absolutely hate bras and I've been wearing the same gross one (when strictly necessary, otherwise I don't wear one at all) for over five years because every time I consider buying a fresh one, I am filled with rage at the thought of spending $50 on a tight uncomfortable contraption that is solely for the purpose of making it look like I don't have nipples.
It all depends on your boobs and the life you live. The size of your boobs and if your nipples get hard easily, than if you have a busy life or around a lot of people. Or lazy like me, it doesn't go on until I have to do something but once it's on it stays on the rest of the day.
Load More Replies...All true. just one thing Lesbians have short nails? One doesn't necessarily have anything to do with the other. By the way, I have short nails, too; because almost everything is easier: typing, cleaning, washing ...
To have long nails as a lesbian is to risk slicing open your lover from the inside and giving her some kind of infection.
Load More Replies...I've had men ask me how I pee out of my clitoris...? Really? Really... SMH
Geez, sorry ladies, but no wonder men are replacing us with other men. We're too demanding! As a woman who has seem men, i don't like seeing so much realism on a guy. A movie it's just entertainment, so reality on it's people can be dropped a bit to fit a cool fetish. I choose a chiseled dude over a flabby beer belly wearer. And for the ladies, a variation of a Marilyn Monroe wold do wonders for me. Characters are our fantasies, they were design so we could escape from the s****y reality of which we live on. Relax and let us dream!
I wore stilettos for years, in fact for quite a while I wore nothing under a 10cm heel! I ran in them and walked across grassy parkland without any trouble! That sounds like something from a movies doesn’t it! But guess what?? Now I’m paying for it! I have a neuroma in my right right foot and can’t wear any heel over 2cm! I also have to have padding under the ball of my foot! They may look sexy but honestly it’s not worth it!
I was honestly a little surprised at the conditioner one. I kinda just thought that everybody used conditioner, not just girls. Conditioner does make your hair super smooth though :)
I was all on board until I read that some women walk backwards downhill in heels. WHUT??? Cripes! I can barely walk on a flat surface!!! I look forward to seeing a woman, anywhere, randomly walking backwards down a hill in high heels. Bwahahahahaha!!!!!
High heel shoes are a torture and are so bad for one's back and health in general. Plus, they make us seem weak andstupid, as we can't barely run or simply move freely.
Load More Replies...When I've been asleep since 1000pm and its 2 am being woke up by a dude trying to slip it in is not romantic at all. I am not every night dream of some dude taking me this way, I'm not turned on or horny I've been asleep and just wanted to stay that way. Now I'm awake I may or may not fall back to sleep and I feel sorry for anyone who has to deal with me the next day when I've been woken up like that.
One thing that no one has mentioned yet, is the fact that, when you turn on a movie, and the credits start rolling, there are like 12 male actors listed, then 2 females. Let's back up here. Women comprise more than 50 % of the population. 😕
This isn't even close to accurate. Did you see Ocean's 8 by chance? Or any moving starring Julia Roberts, Jennifer Lawrence, Reese Witherspoon, Cate Blanchett, etc...their names are not 13th and 14th in the credits.
Load More Replies...I tried tampons a long time ago, didn't finish the box and i went back to pads. There was a time when I bleed [and i mean bleed] profusely that no ordinary pad would do so I used baby diapers
Hopefully you went to your doctor. That was seriously abnormal.
Load More Replies...Also, tights are not pants. Leggings are pants, but you really need to wear them with longer shirts, like a tunic, not a crop top. Lol
Load More Replies...The fact that some men need this as a guidebook makes me sick. But on the other hand I am grateful I grew up in a houseful of women. I can understand and empathise a whole lot better. I dated a girl with large breasts and man if I was in her position and had the money I would go for breast reduction surgery and I hate the idea of going under a knife for any reason personally. All the days of back and knee pain complaints :( . Next time a lady you know is snappy or down think about this list it may help you understand more.
Some complains are weird...I wear white pants on my period and I am a relatively heavy bleeder, gotta wear the right pads or you will get blood on any pants anyway, black won't save you cause when you sit you will leave a blood puddle behind. Also, vaginimus, men have no idea about the difficulties.
In all fairness, some of the worst writing I've seen about women has been done by women. I read what was supposed to be a mystery novel (ended up being like a bored housewife fantasy) where she would not stop talking about the main character's breasts.
Yeah, in my experience trash is just trash regardless of gender. There have been plenty of novels and even fanfiction I've read where I didn't know / notice / care about the gender of the writer because they just wrote all characters like people rather than stereotypes of any particular sort.
Load More Replies...I fall into the category of butch women, I own this, I look darn good in my flannels and short hair, but you bet I'm rocking a full manicure and double ds and I look great in a dress. I just want to be comfortable. Large boobs hurt to the point I would gladly chop them off to eliminate my back and rib pain so yes I shove them into a tight ass sports bra and squish them tight and fit against my chest. I have painful periods and will still ride my motorcycle while cramping so hard I could cry. Write dynamic women men. Yall can do better and it's why Frankenstein is literally one of the best books written by a women before she was 30. Shape up men women have been writing better than you for centuries.
Most of these I get but a good fitting bra should not leave red marks and I'm a 40 DD, so don't come at me with size.
i wish someone would talk about how you don't need to wear a bra if you don't want to and it wont cause any problems if you don't
Adding to the vast variety of comments about tampons: the box is rarely any help. When I was first learning to use one- I remember learning no more from that “directions” on the box then I already assumed. Took me 30 minutes of crying and feeling pathetic to figure it out 😅
Bigger bras - not available from Victoria Secret or sports bra shops. I can wear a total of ONE brand and style of boring underwired torture device. Bras are like shoes, I have to wear on if there are people, I have to wear one if doing anykind of manual labor, I have to wear them for sports including swimming damn it. Any deviation in size or style will result in discomfort (including breathing/eating restrictions) to any movement resulting in partial or complete escape of boobage.
I'm just curious to hear some citations for any male authors that have ever referred to their heroine's tampax insertion routine? or are these all fabricated?
One of my favorite (and that's saying something if you know me) books is What Light, by Jay Asher, but there's a part that gets me every time. The main character (a teenage girl with long hair) puts it back in a ponytail, THEN pulls strands out to frame her face. If I tried that, the best-case scenario is that half of my hair ends up billowing up on the sides and looking like someone tried to pull it out of the ponytail. Worst case, nearly all the hair just comes out. The character also mentions (they live in a trailer for the holidays) that sometimes, after a shower, she wanders around without a shirt on before remembering that a bunch of high school boys work outside. I don't know any girl who would forget to put a shirt on after a shower. As a choice, maybe, but how could you forget that you're not wearing an entire shirt or bra or anything? Especially in a trailer with open curtains? I fully acknowledge that not all women are the same, but these things just seem odd to me.
I'm guessing taking off a corset is a greater relief than taking off a bra, would that be right? Or is it just a different type of relief? I'm not a writer, I'm just spectacularly bored and a little curious.
One thing I loved about working in the medical field was the scrubs. I started in the 80's when big hair and clown make up was in. Think Mimi from the Drew Carey show but thinner and less ugly. When I had to be in surgery at 6 am that s**t had to stop! I gained weight, well, because scrubs! And my eyes weren't even opened at 6am let a!one made up. The plus. My Wasband liked the skinny, Tammy Fay version and cheated with a younger, broker me. My 2nd husband cheated with a fatter version of me. So Ive given up completely. Got tatted up and now shave one side of my head. Occasionally my pits and legs. Got a vibrator. Sorry. Not sorry.
I wake up looking like a homeless person. OMG - that made me laugh out loud!!! Because it's true!
How should they know? They're men. They don't nitpick and nag about small things that otherwise should be ignored. It's FICTION, not your recent new Buzzfeed videos you guys are trying to imitate.
I giggled through these - identifying and testifying LOL - and I agree with most comments below. MEN - if you're going to write about women - for Pete's sake - TALK TO A WOMAN!
There are A LOT of comments about periods but VERY LITTLE about menopause, and especially about hot flashes above. They're a pain. Especially when I'm cooking because with the heat of the stove and the hot flashes my face will be shiny with beads of sweat. Even my hair will be soaked with sweat, and even if I washed it earlier in the day, I may still have to wash it. Also, even on cool days I can be hot. Typically, I wear short sleeves or sleeveless clothes all year long with a jacket because you can take a jacket off if you're hot but not a sweater. And coffee or hot, spicy food make the hot flashes worse.
The only part of this I disagree with is the bra. Not all women, even with large breasts, wear a bra most of the time, if at all. I have extremely large breasts... It wasn't until 2 years ago I realized what bras do to a woman's chest muscles, shoulders, etc. Think about it this way; put your arm in a sling every day... What happens to the muscles? It's the same with your chest. Wearing a bra is more harmful to the body, and my very large 34G size breasts are more perky and healthy than ever. I'm also significantly stronger, without changing how I exercise. (Fyi, it will hurt for a few weeks if you give up the boob sling.)
I really enjoyed this article. I do some work in the 3D industry and trust me the guys are just like writers for movies or TV shows, they have a totally, messed up, idea of what women go through. Reality is just too ugly for them to realize when creating outfits, hair or poses for the 3D women characters. SAD! I grew up without a dad and knew first hand what mom and my sis had to deal with. I did drag for a few years, being gay and I tell my friends all the time, taking 4 hours to get ready, walking in heels and then trying to go the bathroom, taking down the pantyhose and undies and then, being a dude, retucking my s**t and getting it all "looking" just right.. no thanks. Glad that phase of my life is over! lol
Non-standard body makes buying clothes a miserable experience. I buy loose separates that at least fit - mostly. Small boobs that hang towards my arm pits with the nipples pointing down means you are never "perky." And many years ago, when I needed one, a nursing bra in a size 38A didn't exist. Sure, they do now, but i needed one 45 years ago.
A handful list. Sadly enough most of us men need to be remembered of some of these things. So thank you. We'll try to be better
I especially like the last one. Female characters who lie down with their boobs still standing up like mountains make me wonder if the director/writer has ever actually seen a woman lie down.
Writers, regardless of gender, should be free to describe female characters whichever they see fit and not necessarily to reflect the daily struggles of an average woman at all times. And I find it too general when it says that all/most male writers male authors "...describe women in the weirdest ways, creating an awkward unrealistic image that, unfortunately, other men often buy into." Who are these writers? What percentage of men buy into these unrealistic image? These article generally lumps most/all male writers and readers as sexists and misogynists. When I read a book, I don't look at how the female character fits into the real society. I see how the character fits into the book as a whole. Because at the end of the day, it's just what it is - a book.
So much YES in this. I might have thought some of this when I was a very, very young teenage girl, but real life kicked it out of me in a big hurry. My husband used to tell me he thought I was still sexy and my only thought was it's time to get his glasses checked, lol! Sweet, but I had seen that body and yeah...
All of this is true but the whole thing about lesbians cutting their fingernails? Can we not have long nails too??
If a woman is stretching and staring at her breasts in the mirror, it is to check for signs of breast cancer, not because she is inner-monologuing about how sexy she is or isn’t.
I'm trying to recall any book, film or play where the female lead has had a period! Let alone the wrong colour or consistency. This complaints above seem to be women complaining about every day problems and not what is represented in 'art'. And if women want women to be more accurately portrayed on stage and in film, better get writing.
About bras--it is entirely possible to develop a skin yeast infection in hot and humid weather and an underwire bra. The best remedy seems to be athlete's foot powder or the stuff they sell for abies with diaper rash. About periods and sex, for me, and I suspect for a lot of women who suffer from cramps AND bloating, i.e. swelling, the idea appeals about as much as morris dancing when you have bee stings on the bottoms of your feet and you're slightly allergic to them.
As for a woman having sex during her period, varying slightly with the severity of cramps, bloating, swelling, etc., for me, at least, that idea has all the appeal of Morris dancing when you have bee stings on the bottoms f your feet and are slightly allergic to bees.
All is +++ but being a lesbian doesnt mean you cut your fingernails.
some of them are bottoms and/or ace.
Load More Replies...I don't know why, but most of this does not relate to me at all. Should I feel not like woman? I do not know if anyone shares my sentiment here. In the end of the day, yes reality is reality, but film industry creates esthetic or sexual look for women and men. We go to pop kind of movies due to their fantasy like allure, rarelly we want mirror effect of reality, so this topic looks drawn too far.
Jaberwockypie Please tell me then why I see so many women on the street with obviously poorly fitted bras. Also I'd like to know why so many bra fitting stores advertise so ardently that people need to get fitted & that so many ( over half the female population )are wearing the wrong size by their own definition.
When I worked for a couturier, we consulted often with a woman who did custom bras. Some very busty ladies had to have very specific underpinnings for their formal wear. // The main problem that women have with badly fitting bras is that they wear too large a band size. The hint? If the back of your bra is riding up between your shoulder blades, THROW IT OUT. Go DOWN a band size and UP a cup size. /// You don't have to spend a fortune to get bras that fit. Once you know what brand and size you need, go online. I have some wonderful things from La Perla and Natori that I got for up to 80% off on sale.
Load More Replies...What movies or books involve female characters inserting tampons??!!
yes I agree with all this etc, but I bet women are ignorant of what men are really like too. Maybe women don't get to see totally behind the scenes either? and I bet dudes aren't always muscly and gorgeous like in the movies or books. It's called Fiction for a reason, people.
Any wonder why lots of men are sick of hanging around women? The brush used here is as wide as the deathstar.
Making the same comment multiple times isn't helping anyone, shitbag. Yes, some men actually understand female bodily functions, but you making a misogynistic comment is just making it even more clear why this article matters. As for the "men are sick of hanging around women", how's that blatant sexism working for you?
Load More Replies...Ever wonder why many men are sick of being around women? Wow, the brush used to paint men here is as wide as the deathstar, and just as believable. Women write men just as badly. Look at the cover of pec-fic, and the ridiculous images women hold of men. But that's okay, because muh-patriarchy. Grow the hell up.
I am honestly floored by white cishet men's need to be oppressed. I mean, look at yourself! "waaah, men don't like women because they generalize" "waaaaah, women want men to f*****g respect them". Someone bring this guy a pacifier and a diaper.
Load More Replies...That’s why my fav heroine is Alice from resident evil. She’s grungy, sharp witted, clever, strong, brave, not afraid of pain or any nasty zombie creature!
Nothing against Mila Jovovich - it's the way those movies were written, not how she acted them.
Load More Replies...5 older sisters growing up...Half of this is just angry women who are oblivious to the fact that men are not walking boners...don't flatter yourselves. Guys would probably be just as happy to stay TF out of your way and do whatever it is we do in the garage, office, backyard etc. Some of the comments sounded conflicted and just pissy. Sexy clothing hurts? Don't wear it..we'll get over it. Stupid heels are a pain to walk in? No one asked you to look like a bad mix of a young horse and a Vegas Hooker. Be civil and polite to people (guys) and you might be shocked at what you receive in trade..giggity giggity.
Dafaq you're reading ppl? Really? Books that say some girl inserted a tampon and became aroused? Books that say you wake up with your bra on? Books that... for f***sake, you simply look at a woman's calves and you can say how often she's wearing high hills. And don't get me started on makeup. Really ppl, move on, get to reading good literature. It's worth it.
Not disputing all this, but after so many posts detailing the effects of bras on boobs and tampons I started wondering if they're just listing their own problems or is this really what you want to see in every movie represented? There is a lot of relevant stuff here too, but you some of it you might consider why you want it represented in the context of a movie.
We have to listen and read a lot of men stuff that hasn't any interest to us. Always.
Load More Replies...I don't know what shows those women are watching, but I've never seen any show, written by anyone, that suggested tampon insertion was sexy, or that ear rings were sharp ? Nor holding in a period. I have seen women write man-hating shows that accuse men of all kinds of crazy things..... this this thread.
I wanna see this with what WOMEN writers get wrong about men... and this is coming from a woman incase any of you call Sexist BS on it. women writers get just as many things wrong about male characters as men do about female characters.
The amount of people mentioning menstruation makes me feel I've lived in some sort of golden cloud where the books I read just don't bring it up. The closest I can even think of is a random comment about throwing some women's hygiene products in the shopping cart when restocking on the run. Is it seriously that common a topic in fiction?
It is not impossible to run in heels. My ex-girlfriend once did it. I walked on the street and just listened a strange and loud and rythmic noise and could not believe what could it be, and when I turned around it was her. (She wanted to tell me something and I had not my cell so she ran after me) It was one of the cutest thing I saw in my life.
I would break my ankle. just cause you saw one woman do it doesn't make it ring true for us all.
Load More Replies...Women have one thing in common, they are genetically women. All other similarities stop there (i.e. all shapes and sizes). But consider that there is no limits on fiction. If I want to write about a female character that uses earrings as a weapon then it is simply a matter of how well I tell my story.
Women have one thing in common: they are women. Not all women are biologically or genetically female.
Load More Replies...Maybe I don't read a lot of trashy literature but I haven't run into any of these problems so far. I don't think I've ever read a book by a man that went into anything about periods except maybe The Book of Negroes and that was handled fine if I remember correctly (it's been a few years, but the book is also historical so it doesn't go into stuff like tampons).
Put it this way : "Lesbians, and other women who are not lesbians but who work with their hands"...
Load More Replies...It's annoying to hear about the mistreatment of women? Image what it is like experiencing it.
Load More Replies...I agree with lots of this, but feel really badly for the woman who has THAT much of a problem putting in a tampon. 🙄
I physically can't use tampons, and have to use pads, so I thanks for feeling bad for me. :)
Load More Replies...ALL OF THIS! ++++! And women in combat or post apocalypse roles, they don't have a toiletry kit to have clean shaven pits and legs. Or a 5 step face care to remove zits, hairs, bushy eyebrows, bags, or black circles. And where are they getting so much water that they have shampooed, conditioned hair daily while dying of thirst and starving and under a constant threat? Deal with it, women in their natural state are furry.
The problem with badly written female characters is about more than bras and periods. I find all these “strong female leads” unrealistic because they don’t do the one thing all women I’ve ever met in my life always do: talk to other women about what happened and how they feel about it.
Actually not all women (nothing is true for all women). I honestly hate "girltalk", the going over daily events, he-said/she-said, feeling-sharing etc.
Load More Replies...If a woman has said she is not interested in you, she does not want to be "convinced" through a series of gestures you deem romantic.
thanks, Rubee Tubesteak. This. IF i say no, I mean no, and to f**k off and leave me alone. I believe in my own judgement and if I don't want a guy, I've made a sound DECISION, not a moment of delusion.
Load More Replies...I seriously witnessed a guy express annoyance at a girl 'choosing to deal with her period' (by changing her tampon in the bathroom) at a particular time and place because he deemed it a stupid time/location to do it.
Load More Replies...So glad to see gardeners included in the list of reasons for having short nails! I have short hair and short nails. Both were a choice made for convenience - I garden a ton and backpacking with super short hair is soooo nice! Everyone always assumes it's a statement about my sexuality.
Not that there's anything wrong with either way. I just feel weird when people assume.
Load More Replies...I would like to add to this list that not all women wear bras and/or make up to sleep! Therefore, we don't wake up wearing a bra and a perfect face of make up! If we do fall asleep with our make up on, it doesn't look that great the next day!
I actually find it shocking that some women do wear bras in their sleep. Like ... whaaat? That sounds so uncomfortable to me. I definitely go to sleep in my make up sometimes, though ... due to sheer laziness. But I guarantee you it doesn't look pretty the next morning.
Load More Replies...Why is it that almost every strong female character I see is some violent Mary Sue chick that can kill everyone with ease? Violence does not make someone strong or powerful, it just makes you violent.
At the age of 68, being a male, you still find it hard to believe what society inflict on lady's, Meaning lady's shouldn't be sold short! Thank you,ladys
What I, as a woman, learned from this is that I'm way more uncaring about my appearance than most of the women who contributed to the Tumblr thread. I don't shave anything. I don't wear underwear unless I have a skirt on. I only just obtained bras in the last couple of years that my boobs have gotten bigger as I gained weight; I spent my teens and 20s outspokenly bra-free. The only makeup I own is eyeshadow, which I don't put on very much because the only places I routinely go are Walmart and my therapist's. I don't have a clue where to even start with other makeup, and don't really care anyway; if people don't want to look at my splotchy acne skin, too bad. The clothes I usually put on if I leave the house are jeans and a t-shirt or tanktop, usually. At home I wear the same shirts or tanktops and pj pants or boxers. I'm disabled and usually in some level of pain, and very tired at all times, so a lot of this could be because of that. I go for comfort and ease first, appearance second.
Being in pain does make a difference - I use to care a lot more about clothing and now it's comfort first and appearance second just as you say. Shaving - I'm blonde so what they eye can't see the woman gets away with!
Load More Replies...uhmmmm... though I agree with the main point of this entire article, I do disagree about nipples. Some bras are thin or with minimal padding, and for those women with pointy nipples, there's nothing wrong with you XD even if it shows through your bra when cold or aroused. Some are just pointier than others- despite what the article says above, sometimes it *is* still an issue, especially if you're not a fan of tons of padding and enjoy thin t-shirts. (or can only afford thin cheap t shirts, join the club xD)
There have been winter days in my workplace that were so cold that I was pointy all day long. The nipples were rubbing on the fabric of my bra and at the end of the day, they hurt like HELL. Nothing funny about that. :-(
Load More Replies...As a husband of 18 years I agree with all things said. But if you are reading a romance it's much nicer to read about an idealized reality than the stark truth. I have stark truth every day of my life. Coping often enough isn't easy. So reading about lifes lighter moments is much more pleasant. Men are also different than stereotypical males in action movies. I have little muscle, my stomach is flabby and I cry. I am not tough as steel. My back aches when I get out of bed. I am so glad that I'm in a happy relationship and don't need to go searching for a partner.
I hear what you're saying, Oliver. I think the problem here though is that the myth of the "perfect woman" who always looks freshly made up or is miraculously shaved during the apocalypse isn't just in romance novels - it's so pervasive you see it in ads, movies, books of all genres. There are even some women who feel compelled to wake up before their lover and quietly go do their makeup so they aren't seen without it! (Rare but it happens.)
Load More Replies...Lot of women have some strong opinions about bras and periods in books. I stopped wearing bras three years ago and with the IUD I don't have a period and even before that I never had much of a period to speak of. I guess what I would tell male writers and female writers, a normal reaction to a man being a f*****g d**k to you is not to sleep with him and realize he is 'the one' the normal reaction is to tell him he is a f*****g d**k and if he continues to harass you, you will have to go to the police. I am so sick of reading how these women get into these abusive relationships like it is some sort of love story.
Women KNOW when they’ve had sex. They don’t wake up unsure—virgins especially. Also sex has a smell. Character types who wear perfume/aftershave can be detected when hiding in close proximity.
Load More Replies...Also breast reduction surgery is *fantastic*. Relieved pain in my back muscles, the pain of the back strap. ( and yes i wore professionally fitted bras ). Relieved the pain over the shoulders, relieved the horrrrilble rash under the boobs that HURT. Relieved the neck pain. and guess what ! a woman with all that pain relief feels a bit more like doing the horizontal folk dancing :)
I second this. My life changed for the better after surgery last year. I can run now, and actually be in shape. People know what color my eyes are. Bras are much easier without a wire. I could go on, but you already know.
Load More Replies...I have noticed that women writers do this too, ESPECIALLY if they are writing in the Horror Genre. It's just... weird. Can I get a Heroin in a horror book that is not a Mom, a Sherrif or Deputy who is still a dusty rose, or chasing some dude? PLEASE?!?!?!?!
Incredibly minor comment, but based on my 7+ years of work in construction design, women's restrooms tend to be larger and have more stalls than men's rooms. I suspect that women's restrooms have lines for the simple fact that men have the obvious advantage of urinals. It sure is very convenient to need only to whip out one's d**k to urinate and not have to sit down every time. So yeah, I'm just here to confirm that life as a man is way easier, and any incel/MRA idiot out there who says otherwise is lying.
Yeah, I think it was worded a little unclearly, but that was the point she was trying to make. There are generally more *stalls* in women's restrooms, but if you take into account urinals, men tend to have more options.
Load More Replies...We don't instantly pull the sheets/blanks to cover our breasts after sex.
i'm just wondering, in what kind of novels are women described like that, and who buys all those novels, which makes men write more of them... bc in the books i read, they never mention anything like that about the female protagonists, no matter if they are written by a man or a woman.
I have seen it in romance novels and teen novels, but I don't read either of those so I don't see this type of thing either. To be honest though, I don't read much of anything unless it is for a class because college just took all the fun and entertainment out of reading.
Load More Replies...- Women who are fighting in high heels with long hair in ponytails. I have seen this so many times. In high heels you can barely walk and ponytail is so convenient to be caught by opponent and used against her - no, we don't always match our underwear, in fact, most of the times we don't bother - women at work that requires precision, hygiene, safety precautions etc do not wear hair floating around their face and shoulders, no matter how sexy it would look - after and often even during work, we don't look cute and pretty, we get tired and after 8-10 hour shift we can look like hell and need a break - yes, women DO get periods once a month or so, male writers usually forget that - we do not wear thigh high stockings all the time, even when bathing or sleeping and with nothing else except heels. Please, Serpieri take a note at that. Most of women hate stockings all together, they are horribly uncomfortable.
Walking in high heels has a learning curve. Running? Not so much. If you really need to run, then you take off your shoes to do it.
Load More Replies...Having a baby: - not everyone goes into labour in public - when waters break, it's usually not on the sidewalk -not everyone labours in the cab, then has her baby 10 minutes after arriving to the hospital -We don't always yell at the midwives. Sometimes there are complications, several day long labours, emergency c-sections, after which holding your baby isn't always just pure bliss
I have no words to describe how offended and angry I am after reading all of this. Terrible of how mostly of men writters describe and think about us. Disgusting and horrible.
I can't believe most of this stuff even has to be explained! Like, people actually think women casually wear makeup and lingerie at home? People actually think someone would look sexy in a bra two-sizes to small, as opposed to looking like they've attached a miniature camel on their chest, not the slightest bit attractive and in lots of pain? People actually think pee uncontrollably 'drizzles out' with gravity, or think you can hold in period like pee? Have these people ever met a real woman?
Correction: Not a miniature camel - it'd look like you've attached a balloon animal version of a hedgehog to your chest. You'd just have weird cluster multiple small lumps.
Load More Replies...Women cannot wear cute frilly bras with a T-shirt...we have to wear T-shirt bras which are not sexy. Because wearing a cute frilly on with a T-shirt gives your T-shirt weird a*s bumps and looks stupid. Women smell weird while on period. We are constantly cleaning ourselves. We often sneak to the bathroom without our purses otherwise everyone knows we are on our period. Pads are like wearing a saddle. Shaving causes red bumps on many women and the thought of a man shaving me would scare the hell out of me. M M
Honestly though, as a writer, I have thought about how I would describe my body. Although not really in a sexual way.
I'm confused by all the parts about how all women wear bras all the time and they are essential, etc etc. I absolutely hate bras and I've been wearing the same gross one (when strictly necessary, otherwise I don't wear one at all) for over five years because every time I consider buying a fresh one, I am filled with rage at the thought of spending $50 on a tight uncomfortable contraption that is solely for the purpose of making it look like I don't have nipples.
It all depends on your boobs and the life you live. The size of your boobs and if your nipples get hard easily, than if you have a busy life or around a lot of people. Or lazy like me, it doesn't go on until I have to do something but once it's on it stays on the rest of the day.
Load More Replies...All true. just one thing Lesbians have short nails? One doesn't necessarily have anything to do with the other. By the way, I have short nails, too; because almost everything is easier: typing, cleaning, washing ...
To have long nails as a lesbian is to risk slicing open your lover from the inside and giving her some kind of infection.
Load More Replies...I've had men ask me how I pee out of my clitoris...? Really? Really... SMH
Geez, sorry ladies, but no wonder men are replacing us with other men. We're too demanding! As a woman who has seem men, i don't like seeing so much realism on a guy. A movie it's just entertainment, so reality on it's people can be dropped a bit to fit a cool fetish. I choose a chiseled dude over a flabby beer belly wearer. And for the ladies, a variation of a Marilyn Monroe wold do wonders for me. Characters are our fantasies, they were design so we could escape from the s****y reality of which we live on. Relax and let us dream!
I wore stilettos for years, in fact for quite a while I wore nothing under a 10cm heel! I ran in them and walked across grassy parkland without any trouble! That sounds like something from a movies doesn’t it! But guess what?? Now I’m paying for it! I have a neuroma in my right right foot and can’t wear any heel over 2cm! I also have to have padding under the ball of my foot! They may look sexy but honestly it’s not worth it!
I was honestly a little surprised at the conditioner one. I kinda just thought that everybody used conditioner, not just girls. Conditioner does make your hair super smooth though :)
I was all on board until I read that some women walk backwards downhill in heels. WHUT??? Cripes! I can barely walk on a flat surface!!! I look forward to seeing a woman, anywhere, randomly walking backwards down a hill in high heels. Bwahahahahaha!!!!!
High heel shoes are a torture and are so bad for one's back and health in general. Plus, they make us seem weak andstupid, as we can't barely run or simply move freely.
Load More Replies...When I've been asleep since 1000pm and its 2 am being woke up by a dude trying to slip it in is not romantic at all. I am not every night dream of some dude taking me this way, I'm not turned on or horny I've been asleep and just wanted to stay that way. Now I'm awake I may or may not fall back to sleep and I feel sorry for anyone who has to deal with me the next day when I've been woken up like that.
One thing that no one has mentioned yet, is the fact that, when you turn on a movie, and the credits start rolling, there are like 12 male actors listed, then 2 females. Let's back up here. Women comprise more than 50 % of the population. 😕
This isn't even close to accurate. Did you see Ocean's 8 by chance? Or any moving starring Julia Roberts, Jennifer Lawrence, Reese Witherspoon, Cate Blanchett, etc...their names are not 13th and 14th in the credits.
Load More Replies...I tried tampons a long time ago, didn't finish the box and i went back to pads. There was a time when I bleed [and i mean bleed] profusely that no ordinary pad would do so I used baby diapers
Hopefully you went to your doctor. That was seriously abnormal.
Load More Replies...Also, tights are not pants. Leggings are pants, but you really need to wear them with longer shirts, like a tunic, not a crop top. Lol
Load More Replies...The fact that some men need this as a guidebook makes me sick. But on the other hand I am grateful I grew up in a houseful of women. I can understand and empathise a whole lot better. I dated a girl with large breasts and man if I was in her position and had the money I would go for breast reduction surgery and I hate the idea of going under a knife for any reason personally. All the days of back and knee pain complaints :( . Next time a lady you know is snappy or down think about this list it may help you understand more.
Some complains are weird...I wear white pants on my period and I am a relatively heavy bleeder, gotta wear the right pads or you will get blood on any pants anyway, black won't save you cause when you sit you will leave a blood puddle behind. Also, vaginimus, men have no idea about the difficulties.
In all fairness, some of the worst writing I've seen about women has been done by women. I read what was supposed to be a mystery novel (ended up being like a bored housewife fantasy) where she would not stop talking about the main character's breasts.
Yeah, in my experience trash is just trash regardless of gender. There have been plenty of novels and even fanfiction I've read where I didn't know / notice / care about the gender of the writer because they just wrote all characters like people rather than stereotypes of any particular sort.
Load More Replies...I fall into the category of butch women, I own this, I look darn good in my flannels and short hair, but you bet I'm rocking a full manicure and double ds and I look great in a dress. I just want to be comfortable. Large boobs hurt to the point I would gladly chop them off to eliminate my back and rib pain so yes I shove them into a tight ass sports bra and squish them tight and fit against my chest. I have painful periods and will still ride my motorcycle while cramping so hard I could cry. Write dynamic women men. Yall can do better and it's why Frankenstein is literally one of the best books written by a women before she was 30. Shape up men women have been writing better than you for centuries.
Most of these I get but a good fitting bra should not leave red marks and I'm a 40 DD, so don't come at me with size.
i wish someone would talk about how you don't need to wear a bra if you don't want to and it wont cause any problems if you don't
Adding to the vast variety of comments about tampons: the box is rarely any help. When I was first learning to use one- I remember learning no more from that “directions” on the box then I already assumed. Took me 30 minutes of crying and feeling pathetic to figure it out 😅
Bigger bras - not available from Victoria Secret or sports bra shops. I can wear a total of ONE brand and style of boring underwired torture device. Bras are like shoes, I have to wear on if there are people, I have to wear one if doing anykind of manual labor, I have to wear them for sports including swimming damn it. Any deviation in size or style will result in discomfort (including breathing/eating restrictions) to any movement resulting in partial or complete escape of boobage.
I'm just curious to hear some citations for any male authors that have ever referred to their heroine's tampax insertion routine? or are these all fabricated?
One of my favorite (and that's saying something if you know me) books is What Light, by Jay Asher, but there's a part that gets me every time. The main character (a teenage girl with long hair) puts it back in a ponytail, THEN pulls strands out to frame her face. If I tried that, the best-case scenario is that half of my hair ends up billowing up on the sides and looking like someone tried to pull it out of the ponytail. Worst case, nearly all the hair just comes out. The character also mentions (they live in a trailer for the holidays) that sometimes, after a shower, she wanders around without a shirt on before remembering that a bunch of high school boys work outside. I don't know any girl who would forget to put a shirt on after a shower. As a choice, maybe, but how could you forget that you're not wearing an entire shirt or bra or anything? Especially in a trailer with open curtains? I fully acknowledge that not all women are the same, but these things just seem odd to me.
I'm guessing taking off a corset is a greater relief than taking off a bra, would that be right? Or is it just a different type of relief? I'm not a writer, I'm just spectacularly bored and a little curious.
One thing I loved about working in the medical field was the scrubs. I started in the 80's when big hair and clown make up was in. Think Mimi from the Drew Carey show but thinner and less ugly. When I had to be in surgery at 6 am that s**t had to stop! I gained weight, well, because scrubs! And my eyes weren't even opened at 6am let a!one made up. The plus. My Wasband liked the skinny, Tammy Fay version and cheated with a younger, broker me. My 2nd husband cheated with a fatter version of me. So Ive given up completely. Got tatted up and now shave one side of my head. Occasionally my pits and legs. Got a vibrator. Sorry. Not sorry.
I wake up looking like a homeless person. OMG - that made me laugh out loud!!! Because it's true!
How should they know? They're men. They don't nitpick and nag about small things that otherwise should be ignored. It's FICTION, not your recent new Buzzfeed videos you guys are trying to imitate.
I giggled through these - identifying and testifying LOL - and I agree with most comments below. MEN - if you're going to write about women - for Pete's sake - TALK TO A WOMAN!
There are A LOT of comments about periods but VERY LITTLE about menopause, and especially about hot flashes above. They're a pain. Especially when I'm cooking because with the heat of the stove and the hot flashes my face will be shiny with beads of sweat. Even my hair will be soaked with sweat, and even if I washed it earlier in the day, I may still have to wash it. Also, even on cool days I can be hot. Typically, I wear short sleeves or sleeveless clothes all year long with a jacket because you can take a jacket off if you're hot but not a sweater. And coffee or hot, spicy food make the hot flashes worse.
The only part of this I disagree with is the bra. Not all women, even with large breasts, wear a bra most of the time, if at all. I have extremely large breasts... It wasn't until 2 years ago I realized what bras do to a woman's chest muscles, shoulders, etc. Think about it this way; put your arm in a sling every day... What happens to the muscles? It's the same with your chest. Wearing a bra is more harmful to the body, and my very large 34G size breasts are more perky and healthy than ever. I'm also significantly stronger, without changing how I exercise. (Fyi, it will hurt for a few weeks if you give up the boob sling.)
I really enjoyed this article. I do some work in the 3D industry and trust me the guys are just like writers for movies or TV shows, they have a totally, messed up, idea of what women go through. Reality is just too ugly for them to realize when creating outfits, hair or poses for the 3D women characters. SAD! I grew up without a dad and knew first hand what mom and my sis had to deal with. I did drag for a few years, being gay and I tell my friends all the time, taking 4 hours to get ready, walking in heels and then trying to go the bathroom, taking down the pantyhose and undies and then, being a dude, retucking my s**t and getting it all "looking" just right.. no thanks. Glad that phase of my life is over! lol
Non-standard body makes buying clothes a miserable experience. I buy loose separates that at least fit - mostly. Small boobs that hang towards my arm pits with the nipples pointing down means you are never "perky." And many years ago, when I needed one, a nursing bra in a size 38A didn't exist. Sure, they do now, but i needed one 45 years ago.
A handful list. Sadly enough most of us men need to be remembered of some of these things. So thank you. We'll try to be better
I especially like the last one. Female characters who lie down with their boobs still standing up like mountains make me wonder if the director/writer has ever actually seen a woman lie down.
Writers, regardless of gender, should be free to describe female characters whichever they see fit and not necessarily to reflect the daily struggles of an average woman at all times. And I find it too general when it says that all/most male writers male authors "...describe women in the weirdest ways, creating an awkward unrealistic image that, unfortunately, other men often buy into." Who are these writers? What percentage of men buy into these unrealistic image? These article generally lumps most/all male writers and readers as sexists and misogynists. When I read a book, I don't look at how the female character fits into the real society. I see how the character fits into the book as a whole. Because at the end of the day, it's just what it is - a book.
So much YES in this. I might have thought some of this when I was a very, very young teenage girl, but real life kicked it out of me in a big hurry. My husband used to tell me he thought I was still sexy and my only thought was it's time to get his glasses checked, lol! Sweet, but I had seen that body and yeah...
All of this is true but the whole thing about lesbians cutting their fingernails? Can we not have long nails too??
If a woman is stretching and staring at her breasts in the mirror, it is to check for signs of breast cancer, not because she is inner-monologuing about how sexy she is or isn’t.
I'm trying to recall any book, film or play where the female lead has had a period! Let alone the wrong colour or consistency. This complaints above seem to be women complaining about every day problems and not what is represented in 'art'. And if women want women to be more accurately portrayed on stage and in film, better get writing.
About bras--it is entirely possible to develop a skin yeast infection in hot and humid weather and an underwire bra. The best remedy seems to be athlete's foot powder or the stuff they sell for abies with diaper rash. About periods and sex, for me, and I suspect for a lot of women who suffer from cramps AND bloating, i.e. swelling, the idea appeals about as much as morris dancing when you have bee stings on the bottoms of your feet and you're slightly allergic to them.
As for a woman having sex during her period, varying slightly with the severity of cramps, bloating, swelling, etc., for me, at least, that idea has all the appeal of Morris dancing when you have bee stings on the bottoms f your feet and are slightly allergic to bees.
All is +++ but being a lesbian doesnt mean you cut your fingernails.
some of them are bottoms and/or ace.
Load More Replies...I don't know why, but most of this does not relate to me at all. Should I feel not like woman? I do not know if anyone shares my sentiment here. In the end of the day, yes reality is reality, but film industry creates esthetic or sexual look for women and men. We go to pop kind of movies due to their fantasy like allure, rarelly we want mirror effect of reality, so this topic looks drawn too far.
Jaberwockypie Please tell me then why I see so many women on the street with obviously poorly fitted bras. Also I'd like to know why so many bra fitting stores advertise so ardently that people need to get fitted & that so many ( over half the female population )are wearing the wrong size by their own definition.
When I worked for a couturier, we consulted often with a woman who did custom bras. Some very busty ladies had to have very specific underpinnings for their formal wear. // The main problem that women have with badly fitting bras is that they wear too large a band size. The hint? If the back of your bra is riding up between your shoulder blades, THROW IT OUT. Go DOWN a band size and UP a cup size. /// You don't have to spend a fortune to get bras that fit. Once you know what brand and size you need, go online. I have some wonderful things from La Perla and Natori that I got for up to 80% off on sale.
Load More Replies...What movies or books involve female characters inserting tampons??!!
yes I agree with all this etc, but I bet women are ignorant of what men are really like too. Maybe women don't get to see totally behind the scenes either? and I bet dudes aren't always muscly and gorgeous like in the movies or books. It's called Fiction for a reason, people.
Any wonder why lots of men are sick of hanging around women? The brush used here is as wide as the deathstar.
Making the same comment multiple times isn't helping anyone, shitbag. Yes, some men actually understand female bodily functions, but you making a misogynistic comment is just making it even more clear why this article matters. As for the "men are sick of hanging around women", how's that blatant sexism working for you?
Load More Replies...Ever wonder why many men are sick of being around women? Wow, the brush used to paint men here is as wide as the deathstar, and just as believable. Women write men just as badly. Look at the cover of pec-fic, and the ridiculous images women hold of men. But that's okay, because muh-patriarchy. Grow the hell up.
I am honestly floored by white cishet men's need to be oppressed. I mean, look at yourself! "waaah, men don't like women because they generalize" "waaaaah, women want men to f*****g respect them". Someone bring this guy a pacifier and a diaper.
Load More Replies...That’s why my fav heroine is Alice from resident evil. She’s grungy, sharp witted, clever, strong, brave, not afraid of pain or any nasty zombie creature!
Nothing against Mila Jovovich - it's the way those movies were written, not how she acted them.
Load More Replies...5 older sisters growing up...Half of this is just angry women who are oblivious to the fact that men are not walking boners...don't flatter yourselves. Guys would probably be just as happy to stay TF out of your way and do whatever it is we do in the garage, office, backyard etc. Some of the comments sounded conflicted and just pissy. Sexy clothing hurts? Don't wear it..we'll get over it. Stupid heels are a pain to walk in? No one asked you to look like a bad mix of a young horse and a Vegas Hooker. Be civil and polite to people (guys) and you might be shocked at what you receive in trade..giggity giggity.
Dafaq you're reading ppl? Really? Books that say some girl inserted a tampon and became aroused? Books that say you wake up with your bra on? Books that... for f***sake, you simply look at a woman's calves and you can say how often she's wearing high hills. And don't get me started on makeup. Really ppl, move on, get to reading good literature. It's worth it.
Not disputing all this, but after so many posts detailing the effects of bras on boobs and tampons I started wondering if they're just listing their own problems or is this really what you want to see in every movie represented? There is a lot of relevant stuff here too, but you some of it you might consider why you want it represented in the context of a movie.
We have to listen and read a lot of men stuff that hasn't any interest to us. Always.
Load More Replies...I don't know what shows those women are watching, but I've never seen any show, written by anyone, that suggested tampon insertion was sexy, or that ear rings were sharp ? Nor holding in a period. I have seen women write man-hating shows that accuse men of all kinds of crazy things..... this this thread.
I wanna see this with what WOMEN writers get wrong about men... and this is coming from a woman incase any of you call Sexist BS on it. women writers get just as many things wrong about male characters as men do about female characters.
The amount of people mentioning menstruation makes me feel I've lived in some sort of golden cloud where the books I read just don't bring it up. The closest I can even think of is a random comment about throwing some women's hygiene products in the shopping cart when restocking on the run. Is it seriously that common a topic in fiction?
It is not impossible to run in heels. My ex-girlfriend once did it. I walked on the street and just listened a strange and loud and rythmic noise and could not believe what could it be, and when I turned around it was her. (She wanted to tell me something and I had not my cell so she ran after me) It was one of the cutest thing I saw in my life.
I would break my ankle. just cause you saw one woman do it doesn't make it ring true for us all.
Load More Replies...Women have one thing in common, they are genetically women. All other similarities stop there (i.e. all shapes and sizes). But consider that there is no limits on fiction. If I want to write about a female character that uses earrings as a weapon then it is simply a matter of how well I tell my story.
Women have one thing in common: they are women. Not all women are biologically or genetically female.
Load More Replies...Maybe I don't read a lot of trashy literature but I haven't run into any of these problems so far. I don't think I've ever read a book by a man that went into anything about periods except maybe The Book of Negroes and that was handled fine if I remember correctly (it's been a few years, but the book is also historical so it doesn't go into stuff like tampons).
Put it this way : "Lesbians, and other women who are not lesbians but who work with their hands"...
Load More Replies...It's annoying to hear about the mistreatment of women? Image what it is like experiencing it.
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