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Mom Asks For Advice After She Finds Out Her Adult Daughter Has Been Making TikToks About How She “Traumatized” Her, So She Disconnects The Internet
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Mom Asks For Advice After She Finds Out Her Adult Daughter Has Been Making TikToks About How She “Traumatized” Her, So She Disconnects The Internet

Imagine how horrible you’d feel if you found out that someone you care about is saying awful made-up things about you online. Now imagine that ‘someone’ is a close family member. Like your own child. We’d be absolutely devastated!

It’s any parent’s nightmare to find out that their kids are lying about them on the world wide web. And that nightmare became a reality for redditor u/TraumatisedKid12021. In a very candid post on the AITA subreddit, the mom shared how she confronted her 20-year-old daughter after taking a peek at the TikTok videos she uploads. She took drastic measures to try and correct this behavior.

Scroll down for the full story in the author’s own words, as well as to see how the internet reacted, Pandas. Who do you think was in the wrong here? What would you have done in this case? What do you feel is the best way forward? Share your thoughts and opinions in the comments.

Some parenting challenges are far more difficult to overcome than others

Image credits: MART PRODUCTION (not the actual photo)

A mom turned to the AITA community to ask if she was wrong to punish her daughter for lying about her on TikTok

Image credits: Karolina Grabowska (not the actual photo)

Image credits: TraumatisedKid12021

There is no such thing as a ‘perfect’ parent. There are only parents who do their best to grow and improve as people, for the sake of their kids. Redditor u/TraumatisedKid12021, the author of the post, pointed out that she in no way thinks that she’s a ‘perfect’ mother.

She detailed that her grown daughter doesn’t have a job, isn’t studying anything, and feels that her parents are to blame for her ‘trauma.’ It’s difficult to come to any conclusions as to what extent the daughter may or may not be traumatized without getting her side of the story.

However, going solely by the information that her mom presents, it appears that she might be attributing ‘trauma’ to situations that appear not to be traumatic at all. At the same time, the redditors who read the story noted that the daughter probably might benefit from going to therapy. Family counseling can be incredibly beneficial in situations like this one: everyone can get on the same page and start unraveling what’s actually going on here.

Some AITA community members believe that there’s a serious case of entitlement going on here. As we wrote on Bored Panda very recently, one antidote for entitlement while growing up is playing and socializing a lot with kids around your own age. When you’re made to solve arguments and settle differences, pretty much on your own without adult oversight, you start to realize just how valuable your ability to communicate well, compromise on decisions, and collaborate with others really is.

The internet and all of the high-tech gadgets we use in our day-to-day life is definitely here to stay. It’s our responsibility to not let them consume our lives and those of our kids. However, telling your kids they can’t be online is a tough challenge to tackle. Dr. Liz Donner explained to Bored Panda earlier that finding what to replace screen time with can be an issue.

“A screen is very captivating and can keep a child entertained for hours while their parents are busy getting other things done. Many parents allow free reign because they feel that the screen is harmless or even educational for their child’s developing brain,” she said.

“Limiting screen time increases the amount of valuable real-life skill development. Kids require actual human interaction to enhance their social skills and even motor development. They need to learn to understand real human facial expression, body language, tone of voice, and reciprocal communication skills,” Dr. Donner told us.

“Screen-free interaction with your children doesn’t have to be anything fancy. Reading a book to them as early as 6 months of age has shown to increase their language and reading skills later in life. Hands-on play time will teach them social interaction and motor skills that are essential to their healthy development. Lastly, we find that less screen time in the toddler years corresponds to lower rates of ADHD by the age of 7.”

Most internet users thought that the mom was right to react the way that she did

However, some readers felt like everyone was to blame for the entire family drama

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Ches Yamada
Community Member
2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You know, I'm just going to drop this here that quite a lot of very abusive parents *never realize* (or admit openly) that they were indeed, the problem. It sounds as if the daughter has issues, but I doubt the big, scary internet has anything to do with them.

Doctor Strange
Community Member
2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I was going to say the same thing. We only have one side of the story, and no way to know just how true the parents side is.

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NG
Community Member
2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

NTA but it's kinda funny bc she's talking about her daughter on social media platforms too. Not like that serves her daughter any justice though.

serenyaa
Community Member
2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yeah but the girl posts videos of herself, the parent's friends may recognise their daughter, teachers and friends can recognise her and see how she talks about her parents. While we will never know who OP is

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Kennedy Kargeaux
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2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I feel like Jane & mom need therapy. Jane because well... the obvious & because someone with "so much trauma" shouldn't be going without it. & mom needs it because she needs to learn how to handle this level of manipulation from her daughter.. this is a two way street. Jane didn't get this way just because of TikTok. She got this way because she's been allowed to get away with it her whole life.. it seems like she's never been told no, she's been spoiled since birth & she's so used to being the center of attention who always gets her way that now that she's an adult she's using whatever excuse she can to not be an adult so mommy & daddy care for her & coddle her for the rest of her life which isn't healthy for anyone in this household. I hate when parents act like they're so shocked when they're kids act like this.. but then they fail to see how they got that way. My step sister is also an only child & she's exactly the same way. Love her to death but.. she's got issues.

Natsu Dragneel
Community Member
2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My sister is the same way, and my parents told us 'no' all our lives. Sometimes, it's just a disorder.

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Ches Yamada
Community Member
2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You know, I'm just going to drop this here that quite a lot of very abusive parents *never realize* (or admit openly) that they were indeed, the problem. It sounds as if the daughter has issues, but I doubt the big, scary internet has anything to do with them.

Doctor Strange
Community Member
2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I was going to say the same thing. We only have one side of the story, and no way to know just how true the parents side is.

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NG
Community Member
2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

NTA but it's kinda funny bc she's talking about her daughter on social media platforms too. Not like that serves her daughter any justice though.

serenyaa
Community Member
2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yeah but the girl posts videos of herself, the parent's friends may recognise their daughter, teachers and friends can recognise her and see how she talks about her parents. While we will never know who OP is

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Kennedy Kargeaux
Community Member
2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I feel like Jane & mom need therapy. Jane because well... the obvious & because someone with "so much trauma" shouldn't be going without it. & mom needs it because she needs to learn how to handle this level of manipulation from her daughter.. this is a two way street. Jane didn't get this way just because of TikTok. She got this way because she's been allowed to get away with it her whole life.. it seems like she's never been told no, she's been spoiled since birth & she's so used to being the center of attention who always gets her way that now that she's an adult she's using whatever excuse she can to not be an adult so mommy & daddy care for her & coddle her for the rest of her life which isn't healthy for anyone in this household. I hate when parents act like they're so shocked when they're kids act like this.. but then they fail to see how they got that way. My step sister is also an only child & she's exactly the same way. Love her to death but.. she's got issues.

Natsu Dragneel
Community Member
2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My sister is the same way, and my parents told us 'no' all our lives. Sometimes, it's just a disorder.

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