“AITA For Refusing To Take Down My Daughter’s Graduation Photo And Replace It With My Husband’s Graduation Photo?”
Don’t deny that all those pictures you’ve taken of yourself, your family, your pets, your kids, your vacations, your local architecture—whatever—will be revisited at some time in the future.
Chances are they’ll become a pain to manage, so you’ll put off sorting them, hence you’ll probably return to them maybe once or twice in your entire lifetime until you run out of storage space to support this endeavor.
And then they’ll be buried under more piles of photos.
But hanging them on the wall is definitely a solution if you want the memory to stay alive. Just make sure nobody starts threatening your mural feng shui. Speaking of which…
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Hanging a picture on the wall is a sure way for the memory to stay alive. Just make sure nobody starts threatening your mural feng shui
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A mother of an 18-year-old high school graduate recently turned to the Am I The A-Hole community on Reddit for some perspective.
The mother has proudly hung a framed picture on her living room wall, featuring her daughter at her graduation ceremony. Incidentally, her husband, the stepdad to the 18-year-old, has also had his graduation, albeit getting a Master’s degree from it, fairly recently. And he also had a picture that he’d like to hand on the living room wall.
Well, this wall’s feng shui got threatened by a 35-year-old husband who was “competing” for wall space, his graduation photo vs. that of his stepdaughter
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But here’s the problem. At first, the mother thought he’d want his picture next to the daughter. Apparently, he wanted his picture instead of the daughter’s. The odd request-turned-demand was immediately questioned.
Well, the husband thought that the two photos had “different weight and value”—one’s for high school and the other one’s for a Master’s degree. But, in the mother’s eyes, this did not justify the replacement. According to her, he can’t just claim the entire wall, shoving the daughter’s picture—which she deserves to enjoy, if anything, for encouragement—into the hallway. But he insisted. This quickly turned into a huge argument. One the mother considered a “hill” she’d die on.
Also, one that she’d also share on the AITA subreddit. Since its posting a few days ago, the post received love in the form of 13,900 upvotes and a handful of Reddit awards.
Apparently, the husband thought his Master’s graduation photo has more weight and value than that of his stepdaughter’s high school grad photo
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Right off the bat, folks voted that OP’s not the jerk here, with the top-rated comment, coming in at 31,100 upvotes, suggesting OP hang the husband’s picture over the toilet “where his attitude belongs.”
Others took a jab at the husband’s fragile masculinity, and were just surprised by how he blatantly was against having a “family wall” altogether, pointing at other possible issues in the family dynamic.
Folks online were having none of it, asking if the husband is really 35 because his behavior makes him look 12
OP spent some time responding to commenters, where we also discover that this isn’t the first incident they’ve had. The husband is also critical of the daughter’s food, saying he’s not into vegan food, but she really loves to cook and that has caused a problem in the past.
Folks were suggesting to be realistic about it and said the beloved Master’s degree didn’t do much for the husband if he’s acting like that.
Whatever the case, you can check out the now-viral post here with all of the responses intact. But before you go, share your thoughts about who’s the a-hole here, or, if you’ve ever run into a similar situation, tell us how you resolved it in the comment section below!
He's asking you to choose him over your daughter and is pissed you won't.
Absolutely nothing comes above your child's self worth - children, regardless of age, feel good when a parent praises them for something / anything. Her graduation picture on that wall is her mom's way of saying, "Way to go, great job! I'm so proud of you!" - Husband is a loser and things are only going to get worse. Never stay with a person who is blantantly / unashamefully disrespectful to your child(ren), it'll bite you in the a*s down the road.
As a kid who's mother always put her husband first (and told me her husband would always come before her children), I can tell you it is very damaging mentally. I'm very LC with her, and now she wonders why. She isn't married at the moment, which is why she's bothering to try to talk to me at all.
Load More Replies...Hang his in the toilet so that he can see it every time he wishes to reflect on his crappy attitude 😒
Self entitled, elitist, a*****e for sure. Would be interesting to see if there is some misogyny in there, too. Literally threatened by a teenage girl. i think OP indicated they did not finish their degree. Perhaps husband needs to sleep elsewhere. Not sure she's accomplished enough to share a room with his majesty, apparently the first man to ever earn a master's degree. /s
Get a bigger version of the daughter's photo and hang it in the kitchen (or a very frequented room) and/or get a bunch of copies of the daughter's photo and hang one in every room that his isn't in.
The glorious pettiness of this really tickles me.
Load More Replies...well technically a high school graduate is an adult, but yes
Load More Replies...Hanging up a highschool graduation photo is a way to encourage your child and show them you're proud. I feel that at 35 needing that level of attention and validation is a bit infantile. I mean you just earned a master's ffs. You wanna cookie too?
There is many stories on this site of people being narcissistic idiots, but this one takes the cake and for such a ridiculous, pointless reason.
Exactly. He doesn't realize that he is in fact the one who has chosen a stupid hill to die on
Load More Replies...HE says SHE'S the one making a big deal out of it?!?! Bahahahahahahahaha... no. Get rid of him. NTA.
She does say he has generally been acting odd lately. I think maybe he should try talking to a therapist because this is not normal behavior for a parent, step or bio.
He's getting full of himself. She said she dropped out of college, her kid hasn't started college, he's the only one in the house with a degree and he feels it makes him the most important one.
Load More Replies...Where do they keep finding these immature and insecure men? I personally find the idea of hanging your diploma on the wall slightly cringy for adults. But to demand that the daughter's diploma is taken down? No way honey.
These were graduation photos, not diplomas, but your point is definitely valid. Hanging a HS graduation photo makes sense--that marks a major milestone in a young person's life. But a 35 year old's master's degree photo (which he admittedly only pursued to further his career)? Definitely cringy. That would be like me framing my annual performance review.
Load More Replies...That is an adult. That is plain gaslighting and not an accident. Forget "hill to die on", I'm team "run for the hills"
Load More Replies...A friend of mine told me her grandma had a picture of my friends sister hanging in the bathroom of her house. When asked why, she said the sister had a potty mouth so that's where it belonged. Maybe you could hang your husband's there as well. When he asks why, tell him his attitude is carp
He got his master's degree and now thinks he is the smartest person in the room. It's actually a sign of low scale sociopathy . Narcissism is the first sign. Disregarding others feelings and beliefs is another. You and your daughter are suddenly beneath him and needs a constant reminder of this. For you two, not him. Get him into therapy or put him out. This behavior only escalates.
I agree with this. Toss him. Who has ownership of the home?
Load More Replies...first off what kind of b***h did she get married to? put his picture on the refrigerator and pat him on his head and say "who's a good boy" , to be crying over a placement of a picture is so childish and shows the lack of emotional attachment to his stepdaughter.
These AITA posts keep baffeling me to a degree I would not have thought possible. What on earth goes on in a mind like that to be so petty, so jealous and so self-centered like that husband. To actually be a grown man and think 'But my masters degree is more important than the hgih school degree of a teen. Unbelievable. May I just take this moment to thank the Gods for my lovely, jerk-free life? Thank you!
I have a PHD and i would choose to have the photo of my kid's graduation over mine all day long, no matter what graduation it would be ... 0.o How can a "parent" (biological or not, does not matter) even suggest such a ... wow i am literally speechless.
Stand your ground on this one. Anybody that unbelievably petty to try to one up your daughter like that, I don't know how you could even be with that person. You definitely fight and die on that hill if need be.
Oh heck no. I'd put that thing in the effing trash and tell him to gtfo if my partner did that to me. What a self centered, childish pos. I'd say it's time for a divorce.
Have your husband, with his hot-shot master’s degree, look up the definitions of “magnanimous” and “petty.” If he doesn’t want to be magnanimous, throw him — and his photo — out of your house. Don’t let his pettiness come between you and your child.
Wow. Can he be anymore arrogant? Tell him this is a hill you are willing to die on. If his fragile ego can't handle it, he can go hang it in his place of employment where I am sure his ego will be well served. Kudos on putting your daughter first
Considering it takes 12 years to earn a highschool diploma and two to earn a master's degree, I'd weight the daughter's more heavily. I have two masters degrees and zero graduation pictures, because it's not that big of a deal. The bachelor's degree felt much more consequential, TBH.
In front of it so he's forced to face his issues every time he sits to force an "issue".
Load More Replies...Reminds me of the ID channel show: "Evil Lives Here" But...... There were signs.......... Here's your sign!
He's saying that he is better than both of you now that he has completed this achievement. A lot of people (husbands) leave the people that supported them to get to that goal. This is f#cky.
This 'man'(baby) has many issues. No adult should ask a parent to choose them over their children. His behaviour worries me and I expect it's going to escalate.
I really wish the husband had been the OP so we all could’ve told him a thing or 2. What a selfish so and so to try to make his wife choose between him and her child. His degree has to go next to hers or on some other wall. Period!!
Asking someone to choose a spouse over a kid for such a petty reason is a d**k move, especially if the kid has been around longer than the marriage.
Interesting how he accuses OP of her lack of respect towards him... where is his respect for OP's daughter and therefore, the OP? Hypocritical and narcissistic. OP is NTA for sure. This guy is also giving off major bad vibes... I smell gaslighting in the near future if it hasn't already started yet. I just find this behaviour odd. OP should think twice about staying in this relationship.
Imagine looking down on someone for having 'only' attained the highest level of education they reasonably could have by their age. What a horrible, pathetic man. I would be seriously reconsidering the relationship if my partner were brushing aside and condescending to my child.
Saying your daughters accomplishment of 13 years of education is now big deal is degrading. If U can I'd suggest you go to couples therapy & find out WTH his problem is. Weird egotistical behavior after g degree sounds like a huge Red Flag. For a man to expect a mother to chose a new or 2nd husband/partner over his wife's daughter is unrealistic & egotistical. I'm curious as to know how long you've been married & how long you have known him? His behavior is Narcissistic & I'm wondering if he had issues with his parents.Men that marry older women (Not age shaming) are many times looking for a Mommy figure unless U are close in age.I've seen it many times. He may see you as choosing 1 child over another. He is in need of serious therapy & his behavior is is very telling. Has he been faithful to U while he was in college? There's a ton of "temptation" there & I'm wondering if he had to end a secret relationship with someone.Could be way off.If so sorry.U are NTA. U r a Good Mom!!
I'll tell you what, anything involving my kid is going to be my hill to die on!
I'd say that high school is actually more challenging. No one is going to stuff you in a locker in grad school.
The living room wall is the bragging parents (and grandparents!) wall.. Personal brags should be saved for Deb/offices. It looks more professional there.
All of this is stemming from small penis syndrome. Bloodhound gang said it the best. Just another D**k with no ballz
He is a jerk, & if you let him do this, he will control everything in your life.Why would you want to be with such a creep anyway?
Id recommend getting a couple small shelves and filling each with their respective achievements. If he wants to be petty, be petty back. Call each the "I love me" shelf. Let one be daughter, let the other be his. If he wants to compete with a child, let him. She has more life left in order to earn more achievements. And I'm sure she'll rise to the challenge of proving her "worth" over him.
He won’t change. That’s embedded deep inside. He needs a therapist and you should probably let him go about his business. Any man that has the audacity to treat your child this way isn’t worth it. Chose your child every time.
Put his one on the toiletwall because his arrogant behavior stinks. Good for you for not caving in and support your daughter.
Anyone who basically implies "I come before your child", in any regard, needs to be reevaluated in a relationship, married or not. I don't like kids personally, but it doesn't mean they don't deserve respect and it absolutely shouldn't mean they shouldn't come first to a mother or father. This guy is on another self entitled planet if you ask me. It sounds like, with Information about the vegan food, that he just doesn't like or respect her in the first place. (The daughter)
NTA Place both photos right next to each other. If he can't handle it, straight up ask what his deal is. And to get TF over it. They both accomplished something. It's fair to have the photos together. He seems to have a problem with your daughter rather than the photo itself. And that's not a good thing at all. Good luck with all this.
Sounds like your husband is jealous of your daughter and is using this to try and display his dominance and make himself feel more important. Does he have any kids of his own? If not it could be a case of him trying to make himself look good by belittling your daughter, (Never a smart move), and competing for your attention. Best to nip such an immature attitude in the bud. It will only get worse if allowed to continue.
Leave your daughter's portrait right where it is and your husband can go hang himself elsewhere. Lol!
You married a child. Your only mistake is keeping this little boy around.
Definitely NTA. He seems to have a fragile ego and narcissistic tendencies. His jealousy of your daughter is extremely childish. He isn't acting like a step-dad as this seems more like sibling rivalry on his part. Seeing as this is not the first time, I'd say RED FLAG. He can have his photo hung in the hall, where he can have the whole wall to himself. If he doesn't like it he can have a timeout. Since he's acting like a toddler you can treat him like one.
You want. wall to yourself.. sure pick you a toilet. or I am gon a pick a trash can
Super glue the girls photo to the wall. Then also super glue his to the wall. But put his lower than the girls photo.
NTA. Something else may be going on here. Feels like a deflection, perhaps from something he has done, or another disagreement that he felt no control over. Now he chooses THIS issue to force his dominance? Perhaps some counseling is in order. (minus your daughter) I'm wondering why this one achievement is what stokes his self esteem. He shouldn't be making this a contest between your daughter and him. I wish you well. Dr. Conni
My boyfriend recently finished his HNC in electrical engineering (that's two levels lower than a degree in the academic hierarchy), he worked really hard whilst doing a completely different job. I was DELIGHTED to put his certificate up next to my Master's because his achievements have nothing to do with mine and he should be just as proud (and is!).
This is clearly not about the photo. Most likely he feels (justified or not) underappreciated in the family.
Have you heard the phrase educated fool or book sense but no common sense?
Sounds like he feels emtitled for having graduated college and feels "above" all others. Given this story n replies you made to posts....might be time to sit him down and have a serious talk about his behavior
Saying your daughters accomplishment of 13 years of education is now big deal is degrading. If you can I'd suggest you go to couples therapy and find out WTH his problem is. Weird egotistical behavior after g is degree sounds like a huge Red Flag. For a man to expect a mother to chose a new or 2nd husband/partner over his wife's daughter is unrealistic and egotistical. I'm curious as to know how long you've been married and how long you have known him? His behavior is Narcissistic & I'm wondering if he had issues with his parents.Men that marry older women (Not age shaming) are many times looking for a Mommy figure unless U are close to his age.I've seen it many times. He may see you as choosing 1 child over another. He is in need of serious therapy & his behavior is is very telling. Has he been faithful to U while he was in college There's a ton of "temptation" @ college & I'm wondering if he had to end a secret relationship with someone. Could be way off.If so i'm sorry.
Actually a hs diploma has more weight. A masters is fairly easy to get.
Me personally I would have been so pissed I would have set his DIPLOMA on fire. I am a single mother because I have not met anyone that's going to put up with my son comes first and not in a disrespectful way. If my son wants to go skating we going skating and we can go out to dinner tomorrow because he is a child, now if it's something really important of course my son would have to wait but simple stuff, you will be alright.
On the toiletwall with him his arrogant behavior stinks. Good for u for saying "no"
I suggest you hang it over whichever toilet he uses the most, that way he can "appreciate" his achievement several times a day. Your husband is a complete douchebag.
I see big red flag he throws a fit about a picture that both can be hung together with no issues he will cause problems on down the line are you sure you want to stay with this 2 year old man/child?
He married her and the stepdaughter when he said I Do and that means he became a parent and sometimes being a parent mean that you have to do things you don't want to sometimes. This guy needs to grow up.
In this age even kindergarteners get a diploma. The younger the person, the prouder they are of their paper that shows their accomplishment. But if you are a family you should all be celebrated together. Personally I would hang all the diplomas in the hall and put a piece of artwork in the living room, but that is just me.
Hmm, a change in behavior? That makes me suspicious. Is he vindictive enough to cheat?
He's this way because he's narcissistic and thinks he's better then her and her daughter!! Move on.
Personally, I don't think the living room wall is the right place for family photos of any kind. Those should be in the hallway, on the mantle or side table, or perhaps in a rec room.
But it's the living room. The comfortable decoration room. The family photo room.
Load More Replies...Okay, but can we talk about how this is a 35-year-old man married to a woman with an 18-year-old daughter?
He's asking you to choose him over your daughter and is pissed you won't.
Absolutely nothing comes above your child's self worth - children, regardless of age, feel good when a parent praises them for something / anything. Her graduation picture on that wall is her mom's way of saying, "Way to go, great job! I'm so proud of you!" - Husband is a loser and things are only going to get worse. Never stay with a person who is blantantly / unashamefully disrespectful to your child(ren), it'll bite you in the a*s down the road.
As a kid who's mother always put her husband first (and told me her husband would always come before her children), I can tell you it is very damaging mentally. I'm very LC with her, and now she wonders why. She isn't married at the moment, which is why she's bothering to try to talk to me at all.
Load More Replies...Hang his in the toilet so that he can see it every time he wishes to reflect on his crappy attitude 😒
Self entitled, elitist, a*****e for sure. Would be interesting to see if there is some misogyny in there, too. Literally threatened by a teenage girl. i think OP indicated they did not finish their degree. Perhaps husband needs to sleep elsewhere. Not sure she's accomplished enough to share a room with his majesty, apparently the first man to ever earn a master's degree. /s
Get a bigger version of the daughter's photo and hang it in the kitchen (or a very frequented room) and/or get a bunch of copies of the daughter's photo and hang one in every room that his isn't in.
The glorious pettiness of this really tickles me.
Load More Replies...well technically a high school graduate is an adult, but yes
Load More Replies...Hanging up a highschool graduation photo is a way to encourage your child and show them you're proud. I feel that at 35 needing that level of attention and validation is a bit infantile. I mean you just earned a master's ffs. You wanna cookie too?
There is many stories on this site of people being narcissistic idiots, but this one takes the cake and for such a ridiculous, pointless reason.
Exactly. He doesn't realize that he is in fact the one who has chosen a stupid hill to die on
Load More Replies...HE says SHE'S the one making a big deal out of it?!?! Bahahahahahahahaha... no. Get rid of him. NTA.
She does say he has generally been acting odd lately. I think maybe he should try talking to a therapist because this is not normal behavior for a parent, step or bio.
He's getting full of himself. She said she dropped out of college, her kid hasn't started college, he's the only one in the house with a degree and he feels it makes him the most important one.
Load More Replies...Where do they keep finding these immature and insecure men? I personally find the idea of hanging your diploma on the wall slightly cringy for adults. But to demand that the daughter's diploma is taken down? No way honey.
These were graduation photos, not diplomas, but your point is definitely valid. Hanging a HS graduation photo makes sense--that marks a major milestone in a young person's life. But a 35 year old's master's degree photo (which he admittedly only pursued to further his career)? Definitely cringy. That would be like me framing my annual performance review.
Load More Replies...That is an adult. That is plain gaslighting and not an accident. Forget "hill to die on", I'm team "run for the hills"
Load More Replies...A friend of mine told me her grandma had a picture of my friends sister hanging in the bathroom of her house. When asked why, she said the sister had a potty mouth so that's where it belonged. Maybe you could hang your husband's there as well. When he asks why, tell him his attitude is carp
He got his master's degree and now thinks he is the smartest person in the room. It's actually a sign of low scale sociopathy . Narcissism is the first sign. Disregarding others feelings and beliefs is another. You and your daughter are suddenly beneath him and needs a constant reminder of this. For you two, not him. Get him into therapy or put him out. This behavior only escalates.
I agree with this. Toss him. Who has ownership of the home?
Load More Replies...first off what kind of b***h did she get married to? put his picture on the refrigerator and pat him on his head and say "who's a good boy" , to be crying over a placement of a picture is so childish and shows the lack of emotional attachment to his stepdaughter.
These AITA posts keep baffeling me to a degree I would not have thought possible. What on earth goes on in a mind like that to be so petty, so jealous and so self-centered like that husband. To actually be a grown man and think 'But my masters degree is more important than the hgih school degree of a teen. Unbelievable. May I just take this moment to thank the Gods for my lovely, jerk-free life? Thank you!
I have a PHD and i would choose to have the photo of my kid's graduation over mine all day long, no matter what graduation it would be ... 0.o How can a "parent" (biological or not, does not matter) even suggest such a ... wow i am literally speechless.
Stand your ground on this one. Anybody that unbelievably petty to try to one up your daughter like that, I don't know how you could even be with that person. You definitely fight and die on that hill if need be.
Oh heck no. I'd put that thing in the effing trash and tell him to gtfo if my partner did that to me. What a self centered, childish pos. I'd say it's time for a divorce.
Have your husband, with his hot-shot master’s degree, look up the definitions of “magnanimous” and “petty.” If he doesn’t want to be magnanimous, throw him — and his photo — out of your house. Don’t let his pettiness come between you and your child.
Wow. Can he be anymore arrogant? Tell him this is a hill you are willing to die on. If his fragile ego can't handle it, he can go hang it in his place of employment where I am sure his ego will be well served. Kudos on putting your daughter first
Considering it takes 12 years to earn a highschool diploma and two to earn a master's degree, I'd weight the daughter's more heavily. I have two masters degrees and zero graduation pictures, because it's not that big of a deal. The bachelor's degree felt much more consequential, TBH.
In front of it so he's forced to face his issues every time he sits to force an "issue".
Load More Replies...Reminds me of the ID channel show: "Evil Lives Here" But...... There were signs.......... Here's your sign!
He's saying that he is better than both of you now that he has completed this achievement. A lot of people (husbands) leave the people that supported them to get to that goal. This is f#cky.
This 'man'(baby) has many issues. No adult should ask a parent to choose them over their children. His behaviour worries me and I expect it's going to escalate.
I really wish the husband had been the OP so we all could’ve told him a thing or 2. What a selfish so and so to try to make his wife choose between him and her child. His degree has to go next to hers or on some other wall. Period!!
Asking someone to choose a spouse over a kid for such a petty reason is a d**k move, especially if the kid has been around longer than the marriage.
Interesting how he accuses OP of her lack of respect towards him... where is his respect for OP's daughter and therefore, the OP? Hypocritical and narcissistic. OP is NTA for sure. This guy is also giving off major bad vibes... I smell gaslighting in the near future if it hasn't already started yet. I just find this behaviour odd. OP should think twice about staying in this relationship.
Imagine looking down on someone for having 'only' attained the highest level of education they reasonably could have by their age. What a horrible, pathetic man. I would be seriously reconsidering the relationship if my partner were brushing aside and condescending to my child.
Saying your daughters accomplishment of 13 years of education is now big deal is degrading. If U can I'd suggest you go to couples therapy & find out WTH his problem is. Weird egotistical behavior after g degree sounds like a huge Red Flag. For a man to expect a mother to chose a new or 2nd husband/partner over his wife's daughter is unrealistic & egotistical. I'm curious as to know how long you've been married & how long you have known him? His behavior is Narcissistic & I'm wondering if he had issues with his parents.Men that marry older women (Not age shaming) are many times looking for a Mommy figure unless U are close in age.I've seen it many times. He may see you as choosing 1 child over another. He is in need of serious therapy & his behavior is is very telling. Has he been faithful to U while he was in college? There's a ton of "temptation" there & I'm wondering if he had to end a secret relationship with someone.Could be way off.If so sorry.U are NTA. U r a Good Mom!!
I'll tell you what, anything involving my kid is going to be my hill to die on!
I'd say that high school is actually more challenging. No one is going to stuff you in a locker in grad school.
The living room wall is the bragging parents (and grandparents!) wall.. Personal brags should be saved for Deb/offices. It looks more professional there.
All of this is stemming from small penis syndrome. Bloodhound gang said it the best. Just another D**k with no ballz
He is a jerk, & if you let him do this, he will control everything in your life.Why would you want to be with such a creep anyway?
Id recommend getting a couple small shelves and filling each with their respective achievements. If he wants to be petty, be petty back. Call each the "I love me" shelf. Let one be daughter, let the other be his. If he wants to compete with a child, let him. She has more life left in order to earn more achievements. And I'm sure she'll rise to the challenge of proving her "worth" over him.
He won’t change. That’s embedded deep inside. He needs a therapist and you should probably let him go about his business. Any man that has the audacity to treat your child this way isn’t worth it. Chose your child every time.
Put his one on the toiletwall because his arrogant behavior stinks. Good for you for not caving in and support your daughter.
Anyone who basically implies "I come before your child", in any regard, needs to be reevaluated in a relationship, married or not. I don't like kids personally, but it doesn't mean they don't deserve respect and it absolutely shouldn't mean they shouldn't come first to a mother or father. This guy is on another self entitled planet if you ask me. It sounds like, with Information about the vegan food, that he just doesn't like or respect her in the first place. (The daughter)
NTA Place both photos right next to each other. If he can't handle it, straight up ask what his deal is. And to get TF over it. They both accomplished something. It's fair to have the photos together. He seems to have a problem with your daughter rather than the photo itself. And that's not a good thing at all. Good luck with all this.
Sounds like your husband is jealous of your daughter and is using this to try and display his dominance and make himself feel more important. Does he have any kids of his own? If not it could be a case of him trying to make himself look good by belittling your daughter, (Never a smart move), and competing for your attention. Best to nip such an immature attitude in the bud. It will only get worse if allowed to continue.
Leave your daughter's portrait right where it is and your husband can go hang himself elsewhere. Lol!
You married a child. Your only mistake is keeping this little boy around.
Definitely NTA. He seems to have a fragile ego and narcissistic tendencies. His jealousy of your daughter is extremely childish. He isn't acting like a step-dad as this seems more like sibling rivalry on his part. Seeing as this is not the first time, I'd say RED FLAG. He can have his photo hung in the hall, where he can have the whole wall to himself. If he doesn't like it he can have a timeout. Since he's acting like a toddler you can treat him like one.
You want. wall to yourself.. sure pick you a toilet. or I am gon a pick a trash can
Super glue the girls photo to the wall. Then also super glue his to the wall. But put his lower than the girls photo.
NTA. Something else may be going on here. Feels like a deflection, perhaps from something he has done, or another disagreement that he felt no control over. Now he chooses THIS issue to force his dominance? Perhaps some counseling is in order. (minus your daughter) I'm wondering why this one achievement is what stokes his self esteem. He shouldn't be making this a contest between your daughter and him. I wish you well. Dr. Conni
My boyfriend recently finished his HNC in electrical engineering (that's two levels lower than a degree in the academic hierarchy), he worked really hard whilst doing a completely different job. I was DELIGHTED to put his certificate up next to my Master's because his achievements have nothing to do with mine and he should be just as proud (and is!).
This is clearly not about the photo. Most likely he feels (justified or not) underappreciated in the family.
Have you heard the phrase educated fool or book sense but no common sense?
Sounds like he feels emtitled for having graduated college and feels "above" all others. Given this story n replies you made to posts....might be time to sit him down and have a serious talk about his behavior
Saying your daughters accomplishment of 13 years of education is now big deal is degrading. If you can I'd suggest you go to couples therapy and find out WTH his problem is. Weird egotistical behavior after g is degree sounds like a huge Red Flag. For a man to expect a mother to chose a new or 2nd husband/partner over his wife's daughter is unrealistic and egotistical. I'm curious as to know how long you've been married and how long you have known him? His behavior is Narcissistic & I'm wondering if he had issues with his parents.Men that marry older women (Not age shaming) are many times looking for a Mommy figure unless U are close to his age.I've seen it many times. He may see you as choosing 1 child over another. He is in need of serious therapy & his behavior is is very telling. Has he been faithful to U while he was in college There's a ton of "temptation" @ college & I'm wondering if he had to end a secret relationship with someone. Could be way off.If so i'm sorry.
Actually a hs diploma has more weight. A masters is fairly easy to get.
Me personally I would have been so pissed I would have set his DIPLOMA on fire. I am a single mother because I have not met anyone that's going to put up with my son comes first and not in a disrespectful way. If my son wants to go skating we going skating and we can go out to dinner tomorrow because he is a child, now if it's something really important of course my son would have to wait but simple stuff, you will be alright.
On the toiletwall with him his arrogant behavior stinks. Good for u for saying "no"
I suggest you hang it over whichever toilet he uses the most, that way he can "appreciate" his achievement several times a day. Your husband is a complete douchebag.
I see big red flag he throws a fit about a picture that both can be hung together with no issues he will cause problems on down the line are you sure you want to stay with this 2 year old man/child?
He married her and the stepdaughter when he said I Do and that means he became a parent and sometimes being a parent mean that you have to do things you don't want to sometimes. This guy needs to grow up.
In this age even kindergarteners get a diploma. The younger the person, the prouder they are of their paper that shows their accomplishment. But if you are a family you should all be celebrated together. Personally I would hang all the diplomas in the hall and put a piece of artwork in the living room, but that is just me.
Hmm, a change in behavior? That makes me suspicious. Is he vindictive enough to cheat?
He's this way because he's narcissistic and thinks he's better then her and her daughter!! Move on.
Personally, I don't think the living room wall is the right place for family photos of any kind. Those should be in the hallway, on the mantle or side table, or perhaps in a rec room.
But it's the living room. The comfortable decoration room. The family photo room.
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