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“Being Dumb Is A Disability”: Woman Cuts Parents Off After They Leave Everything To “Disabled” Son
Looking at the bigger picture, no one benefits from parental favoritism. While the favored child may enjoy the special treatment, the bias can only strain the family dynamic, especially when it is blatant.
This is the case in today’s story. A woman grew fed up with her parents’ outright partiality toward her older brother because of his “below-average IQ.” It led her to cut off her elderly mom and dad, both of whom had been in poor health.
The author now wonders if she was too harsh and asks the AITAH community for answers. Scroll down for the entire text.
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A woman is c*****g off her parents for showing blatant bias toward her older brother because he has a “below-average IQ”
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CK 10 months ago
If someone has a low IQ and is unable to function well enough to take care of themself, that's an intellectual disability.
MegDragon 10 months ago
From what cursory research I did: if his IQ is 80 and his age is 24, that puts his mental age around 13. I don’t know how he could provide for himself at this point. But she clearly resents it.
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Lizzy Lizzard 10 months ago
In a similar situation, although my brother is severely intellectually disabled and will always need some form of support. When my parents broached the subject of inheritance both my sister and I said to save it all for him because we are able to provide for ourselves and he will need it more. It's all about communicating, and empathizing on both sides
Melissa Harris 10 months ago (edited)
Sounds like like the OPs got a whole cargo ship full of resentment and one big axe of emotional neglect to grind. I believe her that it's not about the money but about always being second and feeling abandoned, not just financially, but emotionally. Her brother is clearly intellectually disabled. I agree with all those saying she needs to talk with her parents about setting up a trust/conservatorship for her brother with a third party acting as trustee. She also needs to go to therapy to help her with the HUGE amount of anger and resentment towards her parents.
MegDragon 10 months ago (edited)
It’s odd though, because OP says the parents treated them equally their entire childhood. Then OP was able to take care of herself and enter adulthood, while her brother wasn’t. They’ve had to help him. Which makes sense, since he has an IQ of 80 (edit: and only 24). Shes talking like she doesn’t grasp that. Edit: I read her update and she changes her story to say they’ve always babied her brother. So I don’t know. The parents sound unpleasant to say the least.
Load More Replies... CK 10 months ago
If someone has a low IQ and is unable to function well enough to take care of themself, that's an intellectual disability.
MegDragon 10 months ago
From what cursory research I did: if his IQ is 80 and his age is 24, that puts his mental age around 13. I don’t know how he could provide for himself at this point. But she clearly resents it.
Load More Replies... Lizzy Lizzard 10 months ago
In a similar situation, although my brother is severely intellectually disabled and will always need some form of support. When my parents broached the subject of inheritance both my sister and I said to save it all for him because we are able to provide for ourselves and he will need it more. It's all about communicating, and empathizing on both sides
Melissa Harris 10 months ago (edited)
Sounds like like the OPs got a whole cargo ship full of resentment and one big axe of emotional neglect to grind. I believe her that it's not about the money but about always being second and feeling abandoned, not just financially, but emotionally. Her brother is clearly intellectually disabled. I agree with all those saying she needs to talk with her parents about setting up a trust/conservatorship for her brother with a third party acting as trustee. She also needs to go to therapy to help her with the HUGE amount of anger and resentment towards her parents.
MegDragon 10 months ago (edited)
It’s odd though, because OP says the parents treated them equally their entire childhood. Then OP was able to take care of herself and enter adulthood, while her brother wasn’t. They’ve had to help him. Which makes sense, since he has an IQ of 80 (edit: and only 24). Shes talking like she doesn’t grasp that. Edit: I read her update and she changes her story to say they’ve always babied her brother. So I don’t know. The parents sound unpleasant to say the least.
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