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Daughter Calls Her Mom “Fat”, And Mother’s Viral Response Sparks Heated Discussions
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Daughter Calls Her Mom “Fat”, And Mother’s Viral Response Sparks Heated Discussions

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When Allison Kimmey told her kids it was time to go home from the pool, her daughter got so upset she told her brother ‘mama is fat’. Kimmey decided to teach them a lesson.

After coming back home, she asked her kids to come up for a talk. “The truth is, I am not fat,” she said. “No one IS fat. It’s not something you can BE. But I do HAVE fat. We ALL have fat. It protects our muscles and our bones and keeps our bodies going by providing us energy.” Kimmey went on teaching the kids that “fat is not a bad word in our house”. While Kimmey can’t control what goes on outside of her house and what kids hear at school, she is determined that in her household, they will not call people fat as an insult. “It is our job to continue to be the loudest, most accepting, positive and CONSISTENT voice they hear,” Kimmey said. Kimmey shared her story on Instagram and it has gone viral since, with over 32k likes.

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When Allison Kimmey told her kids playtime was over, her daughter got so upset she said ‘mama is fat’

So Kimmey decided to teach her kids a lesson

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While Kimmey can’t control what goes on outside of her house and what kids hear at school

She is determined that in her household, they will not call people fat as an insult

“It is our job to continue to be the loudest, most accepting, positive and CONSISTENT voice they hear”

Kimmey shared her story on Instagram and it has gone viral since

With over 32k likes and tons of different comments

Some of which are positive and supportive

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While others disagree with Kimmey’s point of view

What do you think about all this? Let us know in the comment section below!

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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

OK let's be politically corect forever and denie the obvious truth because someone might get "offended".The lady is perhaps a great person,a good mother but her daughter was right.She's fat.Oh no,si has fat.A lot of fat.

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Wanda Queen
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yes. But....she's still allowed to teach her children not to use it as an insult.

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Ricky Couture
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Like with most issues in this country, the truth is suppressed by shame, denial, and ignorance, all pulling the principle we settle on in many different directions. Truthfully, being overweight isn't healthy, and it isn't something that should just be treated incidental. On the other hand, labeling, judging, criticizing, and condemning people isn't right, and nobody should ever have to be accountable for how they look to anybody but themselves. This narrative of body shaming, though, and reactive tendency we have to glorify certain things in order to combat judgment isn't the best solution. I don't think any person should be inclined to view anything in a way that isn't natural to them...So long as they understand that others see things differently. In terms of obesity -- I don't see it as my place to judge at all. It isn't. And I don't. But I also don't pretend that it's inconsequential. In life, you should always look to better yourself and your health. Insecurities notwithstanding.

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Rafaella Bueno
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I agree. I don't think we should teach kids to judge and bully, but the opposite like this, pretending that everything and everyone is great and perfect, is also not okay. Kids shouldn't think of "fat" as an insult, or bully fat people for being fat, but they should be able to know that there are fat people and that obesity can be a huge health issue.... they might even be able to help someone who wants to lose weight at some point. It's not different, imo, from trying to convince everybody that everyone is beautiful and perfect and s**t... no, ugly people ARE a thing. And 1. they don't want compliments that they know are empty, they just want to not be treated badly for being ugly and 2. no amount of convincing yourself will make you see an ugly person as beautiful, it'll only make yourself feel bad because you know you still actually think they're ugly and you "shouldn't". We should teach kids to not treat others badly for having flaws, not that acknowledging said flaws is a sin.

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ItsPam Duh
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Can these stories have their own section? Like narcissistic parenting 101

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Hristina Beeva
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The sad thing is, this little girl is growing pudgy as well. A child at that age should be leaner, if fed right and given enough movement. So maybe there's a general lack of awareness about food choices, and it's affecting the daughter as well.

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Sally Brite
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

In most cases, obese parents raise obese children. For some reason this lady doesn't feel responsible for being a negative life-style example for her kids.

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Jacob
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Well, she is fat. I'm not saying that being fat is a bad thing. But let's face it; the woman is fat.

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Marta Bessi
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I think she has a point. I agree that being overweight is unhealthy and dangerous but the word "fat" shouldn't be used to bully people. I've suffered from obesity during my teenage years and I was totally aware of my condition and trying to fight against it. The most difficult part was the constant bullying from my classmates. Being bullied for the only reason of being fat DOESN'T HELP people to lose weight, instead I was getting more and more depressed and I would eat more and more as a direct consequencence. So please, is not that if you say to your child to don't use the word "fat" as an offense, he/she will become automatically obese. BODY SHAMING DOESN'T HELP. (Sorry for crappy english)

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Vickie Martin
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The steroid meds I have to take for COPD have caused me to put on 15 lbs.Quitting smoking helped me with 5 of it. I don't gorge myself on food...I eat less than my 82 year old Mom who weighs 108 lbs. I have a treadmill I use faithfully. I've tried to walk distances but I have osteoporosis in my back which makes me stop every few minutes. I went on a healthy food diet, cut out sugars, no junk food, no desserts and was only consuming 1200 calories a day for 3 months and lost 4 pounds lol. So some of us aren't chubby by choice. Be kind. You don't know everyone's story.

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T M
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

1200 calories, while being midnful of proper nutrient intake, is a perfectly acceptable amount of calories to eat per day, in order to lose weight. Of you had done it for a year instead of giving up after 3 months, you would've lost nearly all the weight you said you had gained. Plus, you would've had markedly healthier Labs, like blood sugars & lipids, etc.

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Yugan Talovich
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

English teacher here: "fat" is a noun & adjective, so "She is fat" is correct. And unhealthy.

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T M
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Agreed. The daughter should've replied, "Okay, Mom, you're *overweight".

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Naima Ivansdóttir
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

she's super-right, fat is not an insult. if you have a lot of fat, you will be called fat. and that's... a fa(c)t. some other thing this lady should be explaining her children is the definition of "unhealthy". i'm not suggesting she is leading an unhealthy life here, but all of the effort in explaining how "fat" is not an insult could be shared in showing how "having too much fat" can affect your life and health in a negative way.

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Bonnie Gembey
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

There is nothing inevitable about someone being called fat. What if people learned to mind their own bodies and describe people according to the hundreds of other features that all people have? People can learn to be less prejudiced if they are not intellectually lazy.

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Salena
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Her response was age appropriate for her children. Teach love first as they get older then talk about the health consequences of extra fat

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FABULOUS1
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yes, she is obviously overweight. But she appears to be comfortable in her own skin, and plenty of people half her size cant even say that. It is non of my business what she puts in her mouth or what size is good for her.

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T M
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Nope. If she were truly "comfortable in her own skin", she wouldn't be feeding her children lies about fat protecting their muscles, and pretending that adjectives versus nouns don't exist. While it's good to teach against cruel insults, the reality is that she denied to her children the truth -- that she is very overweight.

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Laury M.
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

People keep repeating that being overweight is unhealthy. Okay. So is not exercising at least 30 minutes a day, sitting for hours, or standing for hours, smoking, getting drunk, being stressed, living in highly polluted environment like major cities. In none of these cases will a person have their intrinsic value as a human being questioned, and that's what is at stake here. Shaming someone for being overweight will probably only ever push them to do something about it - if something can be done at all, because it IS sometimes out of their control, or would require a sacrifice they cannot make, like medication - maybe what? 1 time out of 100? The fact remains, 'fat' is being used as an insult as if it reflected the value of a person. You don't hear, "ahah, you're diabetic!" because 99% of the time, it's not about health. If you have trouble treating an overweight person as a human being, you're perpetuating negative self-image and self-esteem that are just likely to worsen the problem.

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Katie Ward
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Oh brother!! I think it's so funny how everyone turns into a doctor/dietitian in comment sections of articles like these. "OH HANG ON! Let me tell you why just based on your appearance, i KNOW you are going to die from diabetes! But first, let me finish my bottle of wine and cigarette!" I am thankful to have been blessed with good genes that make it very easy for me to stay thin, so looking at me people think i'm healthy and active. GUESS WHAT? I'm actually pretty lazy, and although I don't eat meat, I DO eat tons of junk food, and also very much like wine. One of my best friends is a bigger person, but she runs about 4-5 times a weak and home cooks most of her meals, and has definitely made comments about how much butter/salt/cheese i put in my food! If we both went in for a check-up, i bet she would be in better overall health than me! Please stop the judging.

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Tamama Nitohei
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

There is an obvious difference than being fat and just naturally being chubby.

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giovanna
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

One thing is body shaming, and nobody should ever be bullied because of her/his body. Another is being aware of what obesity and malnutrition can cause in terms of health impact. So yes, if obesity is caused by wrong food choices like standard American diet, you should rethink your choices.

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Nancy E
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I do not believe in fat shaming anyone, & , I think some people can be quite cruel . Yet, we are a nation of overweight people, many of them not due to diabetes or other physical reasons, but, due to poor lifestyle choices. As a RN , I worked pediatrics for 3 years , &, our doctors would have had us graph & chart Kimmey as overweight. Will she lose this tummy as she gets older ? Maybe, but the odds aren't in her favor. Positive body images are important , but , so are the other healthy choices , that can improve you as a person.

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Bonnie Gembey
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Kimmey doesn't have to go on a diet to please you. Her daughter is too young to diet. This type of thinking is asinine. And never assume that because you are a health care professional, you don't have prejudice against larger people. Plenty do, based more on the myth that. Ring slim cures everything when it is only one potential indicator of health amongst many.

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Gail Paul
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

What does it matter? Those of us who have excess fat, know it. We all know the risks to our health. This is a beautiful woman, a beautiful mother. No one knows how long we will live, so just live your best life, be your best self. Work out and eat kale if that makes you feel good. But don't shame others for not taking the same path. We all do what we can do. Our destinies are not all determined by protein shakes. and going to the gym. Do you see what her priority is? Being outside with her children.

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Diane Moffatt
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

She took her kids out and got active with them rather than staying in and being inactive. Good on her.

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Belinda Matson
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

For all the posters hating on overweight Mum or the "that's not healthy" fat shamers.... Back stories of some of the people I know who have become overweight, Fem18 Hodgkins Lymphoma // Male19&27 Anti psychotic meds // Fem46 Depression after son killed // Fem37 Bipolar meds // Male36 back injury // Fem26 pregnancy diabetes // Fem23 thyroid // Fem34 raped>depression // The list goes on & on. Point is they were all "normal" & gained weight from a disease, treatment or trauma. They know overweight isn't ideal or healthy but have/had bigger problems that caused weight gain, many lost the weight gain after counselling, time, treatment, some probably never will because their ailment is life long (bipolar & schizophrenia) & the best treatment for their ailment literally causes weight gain as a side effect. WHO THE HELL are we to judge. Stop being such jerks!

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Sally Brite
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

No one forced this woman to publish this story. She brought it to the public's attention, and the public is expressing opinions.

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Fairsher
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

As someone who was above average weight my entire life I never called myself fat or use the word fat when talking about a person's weight. Overweight yes, fat, no. I also taught my 3 children not everyone has an family life like they do, where access to good food every meal was a given,.that some families cannot afford fresh veg and fruit, meats. It is not always as clear as some people make it out to be. I believe most do better when they know better yet there will always be some who are happy to be as they are no matter what anyone else thinks.

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Cheryl Fontaine
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I think this woman would be one hell of a great neighbor, fun, smart, loving. Unlike the self-righteous bitches piling the hate on her here

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Matthew Courtland
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

After having a couple kids she's pretty normal. She's chunky and still cute. She's not obscenely fat like the kind of folk you see in the grocery riding scooters. You people are so f*****g superficial. How many magazine covers have any of you been on lately?

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Nancy Rattigan
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I've been both slim and fat. I can tell you this: when I was thin, I was a hot mess, always dieting and never satisfied with my size. I was a size 7, weighed 130 pounds and was 5'6" tall. I gained weight with my daughter and never got back to a size 7. I was a size 10 for the next decade, then size 12-14 after that. I'm now a size 20. I no longer am a curvy woman since my waist is gone. I miss that hour glass figure that I once had, but you know what? At 68, I'm about 240 pounds and happy. I'm not saying that everyone would be, but my neurosis about weight is gone. I'm no longer competing for any beauty contest, chasing men or worried about winning a marathon. I'm a retired granny who has had many serious medical problems that added to my weight and fitness issues. But, I'm still standing. I'm still able to be me, with no excuses and I fully understand what this mom is trying to convey to her children. We all come in many shapes and colors as to all living things. And that's fine.

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T M
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Well, when I'm thin, I'm pretty happy, in general. And when I'm fat, I'm a "hot mess". And most people prefer being leaner. Glad if you're happy, but it sounds like you're trying to enable other people's less healhful lifestyle choices.

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Richa Gupta
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Dear people who are talking about being politically correct, diabetes and heart attack, maybe she was a super thin person and pregnancy took a toll on her body, maybe she knows how she looks and she's trying to shed the extra pounds to be healthier, maybe she's got a hormone issue like thyroid which is a stumbling block in her journey. We don't know her full story, nonetheless she's put this little piece out for maybe not you but people like myself who need such a story to deal with problems like body dysmorphia! It's easy to write negative things sitting behind a computer anonymously.

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Lisamarie Dexter Pocza
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm fat. I have struggled all my life with ignorant Gits who try to shame me because I have extra weight. I have gone to drastic measures to lose weight. My thyroid is all shot to hell which makes losing weight Damn near impossible. I take several meds that cause weight gain. And I'm stressed out. I exercise, I watch how much I eat and guess what.... I'm still fat. Just when I start to feel good about myself image I hear some well meaning idiot say that I am an awful person who doesn't care about myself because I have extra tonnage. Well yay for you hypocritical Bitches. Many of the "skinny" people smoke and drink. But let a heavy person actually enjoy a meal? Can't have that. And we wonder why anorexia and bulimia run rampant. I have ruined my health trying to fit into what society thinks I should be.

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Krysta Pandoo
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The principle is correct, but trying to make herself look better by saying all of her fat is protective is not correct. She is implying being overweight is not a health concern so the kids grow up thinking being fat is normal, or worse, healthy. The others are right, another shameless 'look how wonderfully I parented, please tell me I'm a good mummy'. Simple fact for you that you can't seem to face - you are very overweight, possibly even life-threateningly. Your best response to your girl is to say 'yes, I am but it is a mean thing to say to someone and hurts their feelings, which is wrong. It is never polite to say something personal about another person to make them feel bad. I am going to work on my weight by changing my lifestyle and show you that you are right that I am unhealthy; I am going to show you how I become healthy again and get back to a good, healthy weight. I hope you follow the good example that I will set you and learn something important'.

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Sill Marien
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

that girl is not so skinny herself so probably someone out there called her fat. That's how she learned that

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Cat Lady
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Small children are meant to have fat! it's called 'puppy fat' for a reason

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Valentina Danus
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That lesson wouldn't work in spanish because we have 2 different words for calling someone fat (gordo) and the fat you have ( grasa)

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Sparkwater
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Fat protects our muscles, yeah. Too much fat can be bad. But still, not everyone can control being fat or thin or whatever. They're not you.

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T M
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

No. Muscles do NOT need to be "protected by fat". It's utter denial and lies she's feeding her kids about anatomy. For her our self-serving reasons at her children's physical expense.

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Ja Legge
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It isn't our business to determine if she doesn't care abt her body. Lesson: we do not have the right to judge outloud. Keep it 2ourselves

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T M
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

She POSTED it for public consumption to make it other people's business. The world did not knock on her door. She courted feedback. You seem to have missed that she did not "keep it 2herself".

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T M
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Muscles do NOT need protection by fat. That is pure ignorance. Fascia cover muscle. Skin is our largest organ and skin protects us from external exposure. Our BRAINS need the most calories, and clearly the surplus adipose is not giving this mother a mental advantage. It's good to teach against meanness, but it's bad to rationalize & deny your own relative lack of health.

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Marysia Jawłowska
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

B******t. That just teaches the kid that it's something to be sensitive about. Yes, you are fat and please don't make a big deal out of it.

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Isa
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Why some people have the need to put everything on facebook? I can't understand why you have the need to expose yourself and your family to others opinion....

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artcatcms
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I think Mom is brilliant! Teaching her children the point that your weight doesn't define you as a person!! Sick of people's weight seems to be the last and possibly the only thing not protected by political correctness!

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Allie Orona
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It's great to teach your child not to shame another person, but this isn't the way to teach them not to shame. Acceptance is about seeing differences in one another and realizing they're okay. What the mother did was say that there are no differences because we all have fat, whereas there is a difference between a healthy amount of fat and an unhealthy amount of fat.

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PeggyWestmoreland
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Ms. Kimmey, you are a wonderful mother and mentor. Our world is better because your children are a part of it, thank you.

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Keyz Karanza
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I think Allison is smoking hot. And fat. And has fat. It's all good! I came up with this graphic some time ago. Was going to have it made into a t-shirt, but my ADD often carries me away to other things. new-1-5943...1f-png.jpg new-1-5943d4061e11f-png.jpg

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Brigitte
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I understand what she is saying but for someone who claims 'Fat is not a bad word in our house' she does protest a lot. I'm not judging her body, it's hers but she shouldn't ignore reality.

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Laury M.
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

She's not ignoring it for one second. "You have a lot more fat than me mama" "Yes I do"

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Edie Seedsman
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I think that this is a great thing to teach kids. Sure, she may be a bit overweight but she's confident in her own skin and that's GREAT!!!

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River Smith
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

you CAN be fat, like you can be gay. it's not the only part of your life. being fat isn't bad, it isn't always unhealthy, and this mom was correct to tell her kids that it's ok to be fat. we are giving eight year olds eating disorders. it's time to get rid of beauty standards. if you don't like the way someone looks, then don't look at them. if they're happy with their appearance, be happy for them. you don't have to bring people down because you don't agree with them. and that's the real problem with our country: we're so busy tearing each other down that we can't work towards a better future where we aren't debating whether someone is allowed to be fat around kids

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Pi...
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Fat, skinny... as long as you love YOURSELF, nothing else matters! I'm glad ur doing the right thing by you.

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HumanBeing
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

In the comment she posted, it says that nobody can be fat. I find it kind of bad parenting to tell kids that nothing can make you fat. :/

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Kelly Johnson
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

She means it literally, we are not just big globs of moving fat. It's like if someone says all people are is skin, it is only part of you, not all you are made of.

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SIRiMAC
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Teaching kids fat is okay is NOT OKAY. It is unhealthy. It shouldn't be used as an insult but don't sugarcoat anything about your health.

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Tamama Nitohei
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It's fine to have a bit of fat, since our bodies need it to function. But when you start to encourage kids being fat is good..

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Rosa Greyhound
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

She put it on her Instagram to try to get people to not be mean. It went viral-other people have decided this is important, so stop hating!

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Michelangelo
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This is so idiotic she apologizes and you give her a lecturer but then you post if online selling out your daughter for approval from people

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Margie Lazou
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Honestly, the first thing that came to my mind, after I opened the article was "wow, she's worse than me, and still isn't bashful, go her". Dunno what that means, I know I'm fat, she's fat, but the distinctive difference is that she's not ashamed of it. I am. If she can pass that on to her kids, that's a great thing. In my life I've been dealt some serious blows regarding my body, and I don't show it off. Maybe I wish I could, I don't know.

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Laury M.
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I think that the shame comes from feeling judged as a person. That is incredibly damaging. Being overweight, for whichever reason, does not change your value as a human being. You're a complex person that is far more than just your looks, or your health. And I know it's incredibly difficult to let go of the negative things people keep repeating, but you deserve to be happy, regardless of your body type <3

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Michael Johnson
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Look, the fact is that people that are overweight are limited in what they can do physically beyond a certain point. If being very overweight was not an issue related to health, wouldn't we see a lot more overweight athletes in the Olympics competing side by side with athletes that were in much better, I'm sorry, 'different' shape?

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Bonnie Gembey
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

So based on your logic every person who lost weight and ceased to be larger would be eligible to be an Olympic athlete? I don't think I need to say that this is a seriously way out comparison.

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panda
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

So you r not fat, you just have fat. 😂 lol Not too much fat? So maybe its time to burn some fat-"yeah kids lets stay in the pool,lets swim and play for hours,we will be healthier" Or you can either get them out and stop for McDonald on the way home. Your life your way your business. Good luck

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Sondre Strøm Linde
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

After I heard of the whole Skittles-incident, I thought I had heard the dumbest thing ever. But saying that we HAVE fat, instead of being fat, is even dumber. Congrats.

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Autumn Shelton
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I think the real point was missed. She called the mom fat to be mean after she wasn't getting what she wanted. That's not cool. Recognizing people are fat isn't bullying but using that against them to get what you want is just cruel.

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T M
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Then, the mom should've said that, only. Just: don't be cruel, don't bully. But she didn't. Instead, the mom ALSO told her children selfish LIES about anatomy and physical health.

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Byrne Berggren
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

No mom... you're fat and teaching your kid stupid things like this will only shorten her lifespan just like your's is being shortened....

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T M
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This mom's nonsense lies about adipose & overweight can motivate those of us who are health-minded to lose a few extra pounds of fat. We've learned not to be mean by name-calling AND making our children fat, too. Thank you, lying, self-serving, in denial mom! We see ya and don't wanna be ya!

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Alusair Alustriel
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I understand the idea of teaching children not to insult people for their health condition. But c'mon, stop excusing yourself and denying that you ARE FAT. It's not obesity, it's fat. And the daughter is also fat. Please please please stop making things like being fat (just fat, not medically conditioned like thyroid problem, hormone theraphy etc) a good, common thing...

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Alusair Alustriel
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

And in excusing I mean stop naming being fat something else than it is - I have fat vs. I'm fat... That's pushing your problem to a voidzone where it doesn't concern you directly... I don't know how to put it - stop renaming things to make them less hurting for the sake of making yourself feel better.

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Anna Sheridan
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Um am I the only person here who thinks this woman isn't actually that fat? The bikini is just an unflattering choice!

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Andrew Keane
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

People reacting exactly like her daughter did. Be responsible with your own weight just don't judge others. That's the point.

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floof lover
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That mom is DEFINITELY fat. Her daughter deserves a time out for being a brat, but there's no denying the truth- she's a whale

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Matthew Courtland
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Who gives AF. Not all fat folks are diabetic or have heart disease. There are also plenty of "fit" people that die of massive coronaries. Regardless of all of this, on a long enough timeline everyones survival rate is ZERO. Anyone one on any given day could meet their maker from a million different causes. Our society gets more and more judgemental and superficial by the second. What is the point?

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Ruthie Quinn
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I think we've all missed the point, on this, she was amazing to turn it into a teachable moment. You are who YOU are, not by how you dress, what size you are, what you do for a living, or what you want to do when you grow up. You can BE racist, BE unforgiving, hateful, and even JUDGEMENTAL, or you could BE kind, BE honest, BE patient, BE understanding, BE love. At the end of the day that's who you are. My mother also, taught me that to sit there and judge someone because they are different, is wrong! So for me to sit there and read about how fat someone thinks she is, or how she is very wrong, for teaching her children this, they are sadly missing the point, we are doing the very thing she is trying to teach her children not to do. Instead of yelling at her children, punishing them she teaches them to see people as who they are, or could be, not what they have.

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T M
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

She was not being honest. As you wrote. That's a key point, here.

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Lorna Sinclair
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Not all overweight people can help being overweight some may have health issues and some may be on medication I eat healthily o have fruit and veg and I'm on way 2 much medication and I'm overweight did I ask to be no have i tried losing it yes for those who aren't overweight they should stop and think instead of shaming those that are overweight maybe stop and think you don't know what's going on with that person's life or their health and I won't go to a gym as an ex I had was taking the p**s out of an overweight lady who was on an exercise bike and he wanted me to go to the gym and I actually snapped at him and told him that's why most women like me won't go to a gym coz of men like him shaming women like me didn't last long after that

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Abe froman
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Metabolism some people have a faster digestive metabolic rate and some have a slower Metabolism, so that being said people with slower Metabolisms will need to work double time to keep the calories burning healthier food choices and Vigorous exercise. Using metabolism as an excuse isn't a very acceptable one.. stay helathy y'all

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Claudia Lorenz
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

She is fat. Glorifying fat women has become very fashionable these days. Does it matter that their health problems cost millions a year to treat? Fat is neither healthy nor normal. And in most cases, not beautiful.

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Michele Lewis
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

How about taking the insult out of the word by acknowledging it as fact? "Right. I'm fat. I know you said that to get back at me because you are mad but it's not going to work. Now get your hiney out of the pool and let's go." Then the lesson is we don't call people names to get our way or just because we are mad at them. Maybe even toss in a little consequence for name calling. Something like extra trash duty for talking trashy.

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Martin Marcheezy
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Is it because u are fat and don't want to feel insulted by your own child ?

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Olga Śmiełowska
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

to be honest, "you're fat" is a statement no different from "you are skinny", but we use it as an insult. it's good to teach your kid not to judge people by how they look, but she also should say that being obese is not healthy. and you can see that her kid is already too chubby...

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SusanS
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Can't ANYONE just do their job and not look for affirmation that they are doing okay? This trend is getting out of hand. Whoop-dee-doo.***** Your child no doubt heard you bellyaching about being fat and she was repeating it.

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Stanimira Deleva
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The kid is not stupid, she sees the obvious. When I was a little kid, I also thought my mom was fat, needs to lose weight and I told her. She replied, that she is fat because she gave birth to me and my sister. Then I checked photos - she was never fit, not even when she was a teenager. I was not stupid, I saw that she never exercises and smokes a lot. What an example is this to a child? You might not notice, but children are actually very much influenced by their parents look if you give them a good example, exersize, eat healthy and dress decently, it will make them happier and healthier when they grow up.

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Gertrude Cole
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If labeling someone as "fat" is part of your internal dialogue, you need to reassess. #1. It's none of your business #2. You're embarrassing the woman who raised you #3. You're intellectually limited if that's what your brain does on it's free time

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Belinda Matson
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Lmao - "intellectually limited if that's what your brain does in it's free time" I love that line so much!

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.gas.
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

From the mouths of babes. I started losing weight after my little niece (innocently) called me 'fat.' I didn't lecture her on how it's 'normal' to get winded after only five minutes of play. Let's stop the excuses.

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Laury M.
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It's actually a super important lesson for a kid who might be at risk of being overweight. "Everyone has fat," she says. EVERYONE. You know who end up thinking they can get rid of all of their fat? People suffering from eating disorders, especially anorexia.

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Barbara Elzohairy
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It is not ok to insult and criticize people because it wont change anything. Just shame them. But to teach kids that having too much fat is ok is false. It is dangerous to life to one's heart among other body parts. The mother needs to set a healthy example with her own body otherwise the kids will follow her into morbid obesity, diabetes, and heart disease.

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Cassidy Middleton
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Thank you I'm have been called fat because my leg muscles but online I am under weight

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Korrtni Lenney
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Allison Kimmy is playing thousands of gullible frail-minded women, getting them to buy her stupid fatkini workbook: 55 pages of how to get the nerve up to wear a bikini to the beach. WOWWWW, hope my daughter grows up to pull off this feat! Never mind my dream of her becoming a doctor or lawyer, discovering a cure for type 1 diabetes, etc. That's all little stuff. All I want for her is to wear a bikini !! Allison, you will surely change the world - NOT!

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Ragen Chastain
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This is a terrible lesson. Better to teach kids that people come in lots of sizes for lots of reasons and we should respect everyone of every size, rather than trying to engage in word play. If her daughter called her brunette would she insist that she's not brunette, she just has brown hair? The perceived need to talk around the word reinforces the oppression and the idea that fat should be the voldemort of adjectives. https://danceswithfat.wordpress.com/2016/11/14/that-fat-and-fingernails-thing/

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Ronnie Smith
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

While she could lsoe some weight and should she sure as hell is very good looking to the point of beutiful;

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Ken Wiesner
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

if it takes shame to save lives then so e it To be FAT, is to DIE EARLY it DISGUSTS ME to see that political correctness is insisted Upon even when it teaches people to let them self DIE of FATness Alisson Kimmey you are the CAUSE of the epidemic of obesity and the people like you who share you FUKT attitued

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Patriotism ForAll
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

When does defensively affirming your own body confidence chill proactive communication and undermine your child's intellectual confidence? The daughter is just a kid and called it like she sees it. She was exercising her critical thinking skills - noting the differences between people. We can be pretty sure her observation wasn't something she picked up at home - where the majority of discrimination and hatred are learned. Mom should have just said, "You are right. I have a lot more fat than a healthy person does." All lessons taught.

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Cynthia Collins
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Some may think of this as a parent bragging. But, I'd rather see something like this than a list of "what women over 50 shouldn't wear," or "10 things you shouldn't. . . " because those are opinions without any moral or ethical value. This mom has a point, and it is a good one. Kudos for her! There are many reasons people are overweight, and in some cultures it's a good thing.

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Claire Kallenbach
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

lol brainwashing her daughter to think that being a whale is a good thing XD

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Cj Snyder
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

She is not fat, She has an unhealthy amount of fat and her daughter is on the same unhealthy path as her mom.

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T M
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The daughter should've replied, "Okay, Mom - you're very *overweight*."

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Via Garcia
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That is how the English language is spoken as opposed to Latin languages (Spanish, French, Italian, etc...). In English we are our things, such as our feeling, mood or descriptive adjectives, such as tall, hungry, sad, pretty, mad, skinny or yes fat. In English we ARE those things, in other languages, people possess them. You would not say 'I am hungry', you would say literally, 'I have hunger', nor would you say 'I am fat', but more like you are in a state of fatness. Yes, she was making a point but she needs to pick a dictionary first and understand how our language is spoken.

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Janet Davis
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Hate to point out the obvious...but mama IS a bit on the THICK SIDE of things. Daughter is only pointing out this reality.

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Niềng Răng Lăng Xăng
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

''Yes i'm fat, like you have yellow hair and we are human on the planet earth. What do you want to inform me about that?" If the girl uses the word ''fat'' to offend her mom, she would know ''fat'' isn't something to be used to shame someone. But who knows, that maybe is just her observation. Who knows, she cares about her mother's health.

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Robert Battersby
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Good message all around, but... the main reason I'm here is... The mom there is a hottie. ;P

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Kelly Johnson
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I am one who normally prays for good things for people, but I sincerely hope every person that made a negative remark about the mom experiences too much fat of their own and how difficult it really can be to get rid of.

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T M
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The reason people are making a negative comment is because she chose to LIE to her children about a physical condition – being overweight. And that that protects muscles which is completely false. So, she publicly posted her own self-serving teachings at the expense of their children's health education, while telling her own child not to be selfish. Quite hypocritical.

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Ash Hulme
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yes, we could all stand to use "fat" as an insult less. Yes, a person absolutely CAN be fat. Yes, a certain amount of fat is essential. But yes, there is such a thing as too much of it -- where you drown your internal organs in fat and clog your arteries up with fat and overburden your heart and lungs and circulation with fat and poison your body with too much fat...

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Wombat34
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This is noise that skirts the salient elements of obesity: why are you fat, and do you want to be?

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Jay Telford
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

What do I think? I think that woman is damn fat, I mean just look at her - she looks like an amorphous blob. That's not healthy, that's not protecting anything, that's not normal - that's FAT!!!

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Bonnie Gembey
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You're an abusive s**t. Have you been to see a psychologist about your anger problems? It would be a shame if you pass them on to your children.

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Meri Svancarek
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I love what she did, but I don't understand why she didn't correct her daughter on thinking it was alright to speak about her mother that way, and then believe it was OK to do so because she apologizes.

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Bob W.
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

"FAT" is disgusting AND unhealthy. Such cheap justifications will not change that when you drop dead, or end up with chronic disease.

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Bonnie Gembey
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Hey Bob, thanks for posting a pic of yourself. Oh, wait, you didn't do that. Afraid someone will judge you as harshly as you judge larger people. Get thee back under your bridge, troll.

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Allison Pierre
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm sorry, but she is fat, and so are her children. Regardless of what she'd like to call it, the fact is, she's fat, and that's unhealthy. She's sending a good message, but she also needs to acknowledge the truth about herself, whether she wants to believe it or not.

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Gayle Bynum Cardosa
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That's right. We can call a tomato a strawberry all we want but it's still a tomato and just trying to get everyone else in the room to call it a strawberry doesn't make it anything but a tomato either. Things are what they are.

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Ty Gerhardt
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Living in a nation full of self-righteous c***s is really neat.

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Jess Janveaux
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I agree with Laury. Though i will say to the d**k who had the gall to open his mouth. Boys may not like bigger women but MEN do.

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Michael Ziegler
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If they don't like the word fat to describe a person's body type then just say overweight, obese, morbidly obese, tubby, chunky butt or whatever else you can think of, but don't say fat. It's hurtful.

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Muniza Tariq
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Why do fat people want to justify their fatness by being in denial about its harmful side effects? it would help them and everybody else around them if they accepted the truth and did something about it. The first step to bringing a positive change is to accept that something is wrong. Being fat is not only unattractive it's unhealthy too and fat people should accept it and try not to delude themselves into thinking that it's okay to be fat.

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Sophie G
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

sounds a bit like playing semantics and I like that she's not hiding her protective tissue ;o)

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George Sladkovsky
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Ok, so now we teach our children that being fat is great and beneficial and awesome. No. It's unhealthy and it's dangerous for your heart and other organs. Ask your local GP and NOT the internet. On the internet you will hear things like "As long as I am able to walk - it's fine"... sure...

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Angie Thomasina
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Sometimes I think people just need to keep these things to themselves ... everyone has an opinion (eye roll) ..

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Lovely Dardompre
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I feel no shud judge lest we be judged,children shud be taught about healthy eating diet and xercise so they can live long healthy lives

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Meowton Mewsk
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You don't get an award for teaching your kid something. It's literally your job. Get over yourself. And she is fat. She's not ugly. She's very beautiful but she's fat. Fat is something you can be. She is teaching her children a dangerous lesson. Just because she's so small minded that she let a child hurt her feelings. She looks great and she may be healthy but she shouldn't encourage overeating (which is how you get fat) in her kids. And again. Stop posting on Facebook that you patented your own kid. It's your job.

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Michael Johnson
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Oh please. No child is going to be able to make that differentiation between the idea of 'being fat' and 'having fat.' It's simply a cop-out. Look, your child shouldn't say such things to their parents, especially out of malice. That being said, you are overweight enough that it should be a significant concern for you, health-wise.

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Jasminka
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

She is denying the truth to her daughter. She IS fat. Like come on woman, don't be so ignorant

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laurie
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If this is the stuff that goes "viral," I'm so glad I don't do social media.

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Pol Macqueron
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Maybe the fat she has comes from her pregnancies. But then her daughter would feel guilty for the fat... bad idea...

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Sherri LoRusso-Smith
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

maybe she should say "I'm not just fat, I'm bones, muscles, etc with lots of fat on top"....why would anyone think that being this overweight is a sexy & healthy thing to be? why would you teach your daughter that she has fat on her stomach too? I can't agree with this woman....no shaming here believe that 'cuz I am overweight myself since I had my son at an older age I've had a hard time losing the "baby fat"but I try to teach my young son that it is unhealthy to be overweight , it puts so much strain on our hearts & other organs as well as our joints. No matter how she wants to explain this away. There is nothing sexy about seeing someone with everything hanging out all over the place. yes, she should not feel less then or not beautiful 'cuz she is beautiful & doing her best but i don't think those teeny weeny bikinis are the best choice. If you disagree please remember that this is my opinion & I have a right to it, so please show respect like I respect your opinion.....

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The Cappy
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Political correctness aside, define "fat" objectively in a way that doesn't include that woman. Her BMI appears to be well over 40, and that's the line for "morbidly obese". If a morbidly obese doesn't count as fat, then you're doing a Ministry of Truth trick and attempting to remove a word from the lexicon just to shape the minds of the proles. Also, remember that almost all of the mannerisms of a child that age came from the mother. So if the child is already calling names, that's likely because the mother does. Sounds like a bit of "Do as I say, not as I do" *shrug*

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Miklós Nagy
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Those fast food viral merketing stuffs are starting to take over boredpanda.

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Cristina Burciu Advent
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

She is right, we have to stop learning our children that fat people are to be ashamed or blamed. I admire that this mother is proud the way she is. We have to forget about labeling and stop being narrow-minded.

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darknessIsMyOutfit
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

She's fat pretty but fat and not teaching them you could die from complications. Fat is bad for you I'm saying this as a fat chick (157lbs 5'2"

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Sondre Strøm Linde
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

OH MY GOD. Haha, seems like that all I can say in the comments these days.. Well, it is quite obvious that she is indeed fat. Not just fat, but obese. This is just so dumb. How about instead of pretending like it's ANYTING natural about her looks at all, she loses the fu**ing weight, and maybe her daughter has a mother a little longer. JEEZ.

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ADHORTATOR
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

many years ago, I met the two grandmothers of my girlfriend. They haven't seen me for a while - in this time, I had taken some weight...Granma One "You look like a man now!", Granma Two "Hey you are a fat one!"... Well, I was a fat man :-)

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John pan
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

She must be a Liberal cause that's how they make stupid excuses for everything. Almost all fat people have mouth control problem. I said almost cause some will get fat even by drinking water. So by this story she taught her kids that make an excuse and pretend to be happy instead of trying to become who you really want to be. It's funny when she was counting the fat benefits. I guess she is burning her brain instead of her fat.

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Ronnie Smith
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

She could lost some lbs and enjoy life more but i bet few of her friends could compete with her in beauti

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Skeptical Eye
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Children are brutally honest, and the mom is fat, and the kid knew what she meant and the mom knew what she meant, I understand if she wants her daughter not to hurt other people's feelings but she's trying to bend reality. Protect my organs and bones my a*s

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Al C.
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

fat is an adjective and noun. You ARE fat because you HAVE fat. How hard is that.

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Heather Melick
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

She needs to wear appropriate clothing. Other than that, I think she should be teaching her kids that any word that disparages another is WRONG and should never be used, inside or outside of her home.

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Clare Elliott
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I really think if you dont have anything to add to this issue without being judgemental,then a simple "like" or scroll on....chiming in because you can is overrated.

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Lyra Logan
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Her kid is fat to. Obese kids is child abuse, plain and simple.

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Toni Stutz
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I didn't realise how many qualified doctors/general practitioners read these stories and added their comments. Wow, just wow!

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Kelly Johnson
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Lol, right!? Oh she's "super fat, obese, and obviously unhealthy" she's a lot healthier mentally than the people who are trying to shame her.

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Corinne Boomhower
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

why do people assume skinny people are healthier than heavier ones??? and why do we assume larger ppl are lazy and eat like pigs and skinny ppl eat salads and work out,, all a crock of poo, everyone is diff, some large ppl work their butts off just to be the size they are, and their counterparts eat like hogs and dont gain an ounce... mom gave her kids a diff perspective to their attitude...

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Gayle Bynum Cardosa
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

because overweight people ARE unhealthier than people of normal weight. It's pretty widely known. It's not an assumption. Medical science has given us this information

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Tess Calogaras
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

What are these people on about? Such hatred! She looks wonderful! And she's not teaching bad eating habits, she's teaching her child not to use the word as an insult which is amazing. So many small children bully kids chubbier than them because they've been taught that being fat is 'disgusting' or 'unhealthy' she looks pretty healthy to me, some people are just bigger than others.

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Debra Starr Moon
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It would have been more honest to say "yes I am fat but it's not okay to think less of me or treat me badly as a person." Teaching a child that there's nothing wrong with obesity sets a dangerous precedent for the child's choices about her own health and eating habits. Yes all people have fat, but after a certain point it is no longer healthy. Just like being too thin is unhealthy. She should make her child aware of the potential health risks while still teaching her not to be cruel or body shame based on someone's outward appearance. She tried, but she missed the mark.

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LaurenF
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I respect this Mom teaching her kids appropriate behavior and instilling respect and values. Nobody should be fat shamed, we have moments in life when we struggle with stress and lose control of our weight. But she needs to be objective and explain the downsides and risks of being overweight. Nobody likes to be told they are fat, it is not obviously something we enjoy, and Mom might be hypersensitive when it comes about her body image, but the girl should be guided towards a healthier style of life. I can see she is already plumpy, and strictly from a medical perspective, weight control needs to be addressed responsibly, especially when you see your daughter has a tendency for becoming overweight. Cancer, diabetes, heart disease, blood cloths are all serious risks for overweight people, and I am sure this Mom will not want her baby to ever be confronted with such challenges.

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Laury M.
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I would teach a child about self-respect and respecting others long before I would teach them to check their weight. That's how eating disorders start.

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Delilah Ripley
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

So are we telling the truth, or are we creating some parallel universe inhabited by unicorns and fairies and totally disconnected from the reality? The woman is overweight, and that's the truth, no matter how you put it. It's not "body shaming|", it's the TRUTH. Why lying? Why deceiving? I also have a few extra pounds - so big deal. I'm not going to make a drama out of it. But I also - and most definitely - will not pretend it's not true. What I am saying there is no need to warp the reality. It is what it is. As simple as that. It doesn't define what kind of person she is. It just reflects the current condition of her body (which I believe to be her own choice and problem, not ours, and if she is happy the way she is - great!). But yes, she is fat (the child is overweight, too). And yes, the most outcry and "support" will come from other fat people with serious insecurities on the subject, looking for both public justification and an ego-boost.

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Laury M.
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The vast majority of people in the comments are missing the point entirely. There is nothing in what she said that suggests that being overweight is healthy. What it suggests, is that it does not define or characterize the value of a person. She's not saying for one second that she's not overweight, either, which is another thing that people seem to have imagined. Two of my brothers smoke. I don't devalue them as human beings even when they make unhealthy choices. THAT is the point of the lesson she taught her children.

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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

there are soooooooo many very mean and hurtful comments here, she is just trying to teach her child self-confidence and that everyone will have some, and so she won't get anorexia later in life

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William Bass
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If you're fat, you're fat. It is generally a sign of unhealthiness in women, and it can be fixed through diet and exercise, something a lot of people refuse to do. This is what the total acceptance movement has done. fat acceptance, incest acceptance, transgender acceptance, and the list goes on. It has turned people into fragile little snowflakes who think their lack of self-control or plain mental disease is special.

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Jane Doe
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

She should have smacked that little brat upside the head, right after she tells her she's a little fatty herself.

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Jane Doe
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

She should have slapped that little brat & told her what a fat load she's turning in to herself.

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Lindy Ma
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Ok I think you need to teach children to have compassion for people. But people including children have preference for what the see. I think there is a reason why people are more turned off to very overweight people. Because it is a look of being unhealthy. The mother isn't teaching her child compassion. I am over weight and don't want people pretending it is equal to someone more healthy. And no I wouldn't want my child calling me fat. I would tell them it hurts my feelings you calling me fat. And that when you love others you don't say mean things to hurt them. She is teaching her child that if the child gets overweight no one is suppose to disapprove that is unrealistic. The truth is being very overweight isn't as appealing or healthy as being a closer to normal body weight. To a lot of people not everyone but to society in general. And even if it is more acceptable isn't as healthy.

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laurie
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

She IS fat and her daughter is on her way to being fat. I'm sick of the PC nonsense about obesity.

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machin truc
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

But she IS fat. And she is full of cellulite. And her little daughter too is obviously already fat. Because of her bad nutrition and bad education. That woman is a criminal.

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Jess Janveaux
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

No she isn't. You're a rude misinformed a*s if that is how you think. Just because someone is a little or more overweight does not mean that they have poor nutrition or are inactive.

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Abigail Kreiss
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

What about not disrespecting your parents when they tell you to do something???

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Laury M.
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The worse is cellulite, as "cellulitis" is an infection, not visible ripples in the skin. About 15% of women don't have cellulite, btw, so it's not actually incredibly shocking.

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Shinomi Chan
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I agree that you shouldn't use fat as an insult, but once gaining weight is becomes a problem (Like in this woman's case), you shouldn't explain it to your kids, as if you're proud of it, true it's difficult to lose fat in the first place, but if it can literally KILL you, shouldn't one do something about it? a small amount of fat is good, but too much is a problem.

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Angela Marsden
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

she's a fat unhealthy cow teaching her daughter bad info. her daughter is fat as well. enough of the PC bullcrap and constant validations! when she's diabetic with neuropathy she'll be wishing she lost weight.

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Heidi Bergman
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Wow Angela Marsden, what a rude and vicious thing to say. You don't need to call her names. You could be an adult and just comment. Must make you fell really superior. Good for you!

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Hamilton Bubbub
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I would have slapped her (figuratively) and then told her if I am fat cause i had u and you and I r going to the gym see why i am like this

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Ivana
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I don't care what you look like, but I do care a great deal about the environment and healthcare costs which are both being severely harmed by our horrible eating habits. Obesity is not about body shaming, it is about an insubstantial lifestyle that we should not be encouraging.

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RustyLes IIJIMA
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

On Promoted Stories: I am appaulded that they would post false stories about people who died. and these people are still living and still acting. this is terrible, how would they like it if people say that about them...

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Helen Burgess
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

i like what she said for the most part... it's kind of medically inaccurate, but the message got across that you shouldn't pick on others or be shallow. that being said, i'm glad the little girl isn't body-conscious yet... kind of ironic that she called mom fat, no?

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Les Izmore
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

A better response from the mother would have been to tell the daughter the correct word to use is obese, not fat.

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Laury M.
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Her point is that they shouldn't use someone's excess weight as an insult. Obesity is a medical condition that requires diagnosis. It's also based on the BMI, which does not take individual physiological disparities into consideration, and was never designed to evaluate a single person's health, but rather establish a larger picture of trends across a large group or demographic.

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Victor Vakaras
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

And overweight woman raising an overweight kid. What are we supposed to like here?

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Emma Perkins
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6 years ago

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If you don't want to be called fat, don't be overweight. That's the only way to avoid it. Unlike most things people are condemned or shamed for today, this is something you can fix. There are very few cases where a person has a legitimate reason for being overweight, and we shouldn't immediately think of them as lazy or sloppy, but everyone should strive for a healthy weight and those who don't should be able to handle the consequences. It's like if you smoke, you should accept the fact that you're at high risk for lung cancer and people aren't going to want to be around you when you smell like smoke and have cigaret breath.

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Dana Gabriela
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yeah... but if I'm overweight I accept that I could have health issues, like the smoker in your example.. but nobody will insult me or bully me, if I'm in school, telling me "you're a smoker" with disgust... because, why not, I'm thin but I smoke and I drink like hell and that's ok: how I look it's what interest you, not my personal health.. gimme a break.. No matter if you will die of throat or lung cancer, if you look thin and fit, it's ok to smoke or drink (even if drinking have destroyed a thousand families, not like being fat... not talking about violence and many problems result of it) without beaing insulted. That's the way people treat you. Not because everyone of those scientifist here which know that being fat means for sure that I have health issues and they care... Bs..they care just about my look, and that's all. Hypocrisy it's mother of all of you. And superficiality.

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Natalie McCue
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God forbid should anybody's feelings be hurt if they are called fat or worse. Parents need to teach their kids to have thicker skins rather than not bullying. People are just too sensitive for anything that is said today. Everybody's a winner! What the heck does that teach kids today. Parents need to stop sugar coating everything. If you're fat, you're fat!

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Laury M.
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Parents should give their kids armour rather than prevent them from hitting one another with sticks and stones. They're just too sensitive. So what if they get a broken leg? It's entirely their fault for not having stronger bones!

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The kid was right. She probably feels embarrassed to be in public with her big fat cow mother. Her mother should never be seen in public with a two piece bathing suit. No doubt the poor kid will wind up FAT just like her mother.

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Hamilton Bubbub
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

What the hell is wrong with you What makes you think you can say that type of stuff it's disrespectful did your MOTHER teach you any manners

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Let's call a spade a spade. Mama is fat. But she is missing a golden opportunity to teach her daughter something valuable a about life...Boys don't like fatties.

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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

OK let's be politically corect forever and denie the obvious truth because someone might get "offended".The lady is perhaps a great person,a good mother but her daughter was right.She's fat.Oh no,si has fat.A lot of fat.

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Wanda Queen
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yes. But....she's still allowed to teach her children not to use it as an insult.

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Ricky Couture
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Like with most issues in this country, the truth is suppressed by shame, denial, and ignorance, all pulling the principle we settle on in many different directions. Truthfully, being overweight isn't healthy, and it isn't something that should just be treated incidental. On the other hand, labeling, judging, criticizing, and condemning people isn't right, and nobody should ever have to be accountable for how they look to anybody but themselves. This narrative of body shaming, though, and reactive tendency we have to glorify certain things in order to combat judgment isn't the best solution. I don't think any person should be inclined to view anything in a way that isn't natural to them...So long as they understand that others see things differently. In terms of obesity -- I don't see it as my place to judge at all. It isn't. And I don't. But I also don't pretend that it's inconsequential. In life, you should always look to better yourself and your health. Insecurities notwithstanding.

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Rafaella Bueno
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I agree. I don't think we should teach kids to judge and bully, but the opposite like this, pretending that everything and everyone is great and perfect, is also not okay. Kids shouldn't think of "fat" as an insult, or bully fat people for being fat, but they should be able to know that there are fat people and that obesity can be a huge health issue.... they might even be able to help someone who wants to lose weight at some point. It's not different, imo, from trying to convince everybody that everyone is beautiful and perfect and s**t... no, ugly people ARE a thing. And 1. they don't want compliments that they know are empty, they just want to not be treated badly for being ugly and 2. no amount of convincing yourself will make you see an ugly person as beautiful, it'll only make yourself feel bad because you know you still actually think they're ugly and you "shouldn't". We should teach kids to not treat others badly for having flaws, not that acknowledging said flaws is a sin.

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ItsPam Duh
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Can these stories have their own section? Like narcissistic parenting 101

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Hristina Beeva
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The sad thing is, this little girl is growing pudgy as well. A child at that age should be leaner, if fed right and given enough movement. So maybe there's a general lack of awareness about food choices, and it's affecting the daughter as well.

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Sally Brite
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

In most cases, obese parents raise obese children. For some reason this lady doesn't feel responsible for being a negative life-style example for her kids.

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Jacob
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Well, she is fat. I'm not saying that being fat is a bad thing. But let's face it; the woman is fat.

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Marta Bessi
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I think she has a point. I agree that being overweight is unhealthy and dangerous but the word "fat" shouldn't be used to bully people. I've suffered from obesity during my teenage years and I was totally aware of my condition and trying to fight against it. The most difficult part was the constant bullying from my classmates. Being bullied for the only reason of being fat DOESN'T HELP people to lose weight, instead I was getting more and more depressed and I would eat more and more as a direct consequencence. So please, is not that if you say to your child to don't use the word "fat" as an offense, he/she will become automatically obese. BODY SHAMING DOESN'T HELP. (Sorry for crappy english)

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Vickie Martin
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The steroid meds I have to take for COPD have caused me to put on 15 lbs.Quitting smoking helped me with 5 of it. I don't gorge myself on food...I eat less than my 82 year old Mom who weighs 108 lbs. I have a treadmill I use faithfully. I've tried to walk distances but I have osteoporosis in my back which makes me stop every few minutes. I went on a healthy food diet, cut out sugars, no junk food, no desserts and was only consuming 1200 calories a day for 3 months and lost 4 pounds lol. So some of us aren't chubby by choice. Be kind. You don't know everyone's story.

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T M
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

1200 calories, while being midnful of proper nutrient intake, is a perfectly acceptable amount of calories to eat per day, in order to lose weight. Of you had done it for a year instead of giving up after 3 months, you would've lost nearly all the weight you said you had gained. Plus, you would've had markedly healthier Labs, like blood sugars & lipids, etc.

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Yugan Talovich
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

English teacher here: "fat" is a noun & adjective, so "She is fat" is correct. And unhealthy.

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T M
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Agreed. The daughter should've replied, "Okay, Mom, you're *overweight".

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Naima Ivansdóttir
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

she's super-right, fat is not an insult. if you have a lot of fat, you will be called fat. and that's... a fa(c)t. some other thing this lady should be explaining her children is the definition of "unhealthy". i'm not suggesting she is leading an unhealthy life here, but all of the effort in explaining how "fat" is not an insult could be shared in showing how "having too much fat" can affect your life and health in a negative way.

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Bonnie Gembey
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

There is nothing inevitable about someone being called fat. What if people learned to mind their own bodies and describe people according to the hundreds of other features that all people have? People can learn to be less prejudiced if they are not intellectually lazy.

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Salena
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Her response was age appropriate for her children. Teach love first as they get older then talk about the health consequences of extra fat

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FABULOUS1
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yes, she is obviously overweight. But she appears to be comfortable in her own skin, and plenty of people half her size cant even say that. It is non of my business what she puts in her mouth or what size is good for her.

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T M
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Nope. If she were truly "comfortable in her own skin", she wouldn't be feeding her children lies about fat protecting their muscles, and pretending that adjectives versus nouns don't exist. While it's good to teach against cruel insults, the reality is that she denied to her children the truth -- that she is very overweight.

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Laury M.
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

People keep repeating that being overweight is unhealthy. Okay. So is not exercising at least 30 minutes a day, sitting for hours, or standing for hours, smoking, getting drunk, being stressed, living in highly polluted environment like major cities. In none of these cases will a person have their intrinsic value as a human being questioned, and that's what is at stake here. Shaming someone for being overweight will probably only ever push them to do something about it - if something can be done at all, because it IS sometimes out of their control, or would require a sacrifice they cannot make, like medication - maybe what? 1 time out of 100? The fact remains, 'fat' is being used as an insult as if it reflected the value of a person. You don't hear, "ahah, you're diabetic!" because 99% of the time, it's not about health. If you have trouble treating an overweight person as a human being, you're perpetuating negative self-image and self-esteem that are just likely to worsen the problem.

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Katie Ward
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Oh brother!! I think it's so funny how everyone turns into a doctor/dietitian in comment sections of articles like these. "OH HANG ON! Let me tell you why just based on your appearance, i KNOW you are going to die from diabetes! But first, let me finish my bottle of wine and cigarette!" I am thankful to have been blessed with good genes that make it very easy for me to stay thin, so looking at me people think i'm healthy and active. GUESS WHAT? I'm actually pretty lazy, and although I don't eat meat, I DO eat tons of junk food, and also very much like wine. One of my best friends is a bigger person, but she runs about 4-5 times a weak and home cooks most of her meals, and has definitely made comments about how much butter/salt/cheese i put in my food! If we both went in for a check-up, i bet she would be in better overall health than me! Please stop the judging.

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Tamama Nitohei
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

There is an obvious difference than being fat and just naturally being chubby.

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giovanna
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

One thing is body shaming, and nobody should ever be bullied because of her/his body. Another is being aware of what obesity and malnutrition can cause in terms of health impact. So yes, if obesity is caused by wrong food choices like standard American diet, you should rethink your choices.

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Nancy E
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I do not believe in fat shaming anyone, & , I think some people can be quite cruel . Yet, we are a nation of overweight people, many of them not due to diabetes or other physical reasons, but, due to poor lifestyle choices. As a RN , I worked pediatrics for 3 years , &, our doctors would have had us graph & chart Kimmey as overweight. Will she lose this tummy as she gets older ? Maybe, but the odds aren't in her favor. Positive body images are important , but , so are the other healthy choices , that can improve you as a person.

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Bonnie Gembey
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Kimmey doesn't have to go on a diet to please you. Her daughter is too young to diet. This type of thinking is asinine. And never assume that because you are a health care professional, you don't have prejudice against larger people. Plenty do, based more on the myth that. Ring slim cures everything when it is only one potential indicator of health amongst many.

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Gail Paul
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

What does it matter? Those of us who have excess fat, know it. We all know the risks to our health. This is a beautiful woman, a beautiful mother. No one knows how long we will live, so just live your best life, be your best self. Work out and eat kale if that makes you feel good. But don't shame others for not taking the same path. We all do what we can do. Our destinies are not all determined by protein shakes. and going to the gym. Do you see what her priority is? Being outside with her children.

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Diane Moffatt
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

She took her kids out and got active with them rather than staying in and being inactive. Good on her.

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Belinda Matson
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

For all the posters hating on overweight Mum or the "that's not healthy" fat shamers.... Back stories of some of the people I know who have become overweight, Fem18 Hodgkins Lymphoma // Male19&27 Anti psychotic meds // Fem46 Depression after son killed // Fem37 Bipolar meds // Male36 back injury // Fem26 pregnancy diabetes // Fem23 thyroid // Fem34 raped>depression // The list goes on & on. Point is they were all "normal" & gained weight from a disease, treatment or trauma. They know overweight isn't ideal or healthy but have/had bigger problems that caused weight gain, many lost the weight gain after counselling, time, treatment, some probably never will because their ailment is life long (bipolar & schizophrenia) & the best treatment for their ailment literally causes weight gain as a side effect. WHO THE HELL are we to judge. Stop being such jerks!

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Sally Brite
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

No one forced this woman to publish this story. She brought it to the public's attention, and the public is expressing opinions.

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Fairsher
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

As someone who was above average weight my entire life I never called myself fat or use the word fat when talking about a person's weight. Overweight yes, fat, no. I also taught my 3 children not everyone has an family life like they do, where access to good food every meal was a given,.that some families cannot afford fresh veg and fruit, meats. It is not always as clear as some people make it out to be. I believe most do better when they know better yet there will always be some who are happy to be as they are no matter what anyone else thinks.

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Cheryl Fontaine
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I think this woman would be one hell of a great neighbor, fun, smart, loving. Unlike the self-righteous bitches piling the hate on her here

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Matthew Courtland
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

After having a couple kids she's pretty normal. She's chunky and still cute. She's not obscenely fat like the kind of folk you see in the grocery riding scooters. You people are so f*****g superficial. How many magazine covers have any of you been on lately?

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Nancy Rattigan
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I've been both slim and fat. I can tell you this: when I was thin, I was a hot mess, always dieting and never satisfied with my size. I was a size 7, weighed 130 pounds and was 5'6" tall. I gained weight with my daughter and never got back to a size 7. I was a size 10 for the next decade, then size 12-14 after that. I'm now a size 20. I no longer am a curvy woman since my waist is gone. I miss that hour glass figure that I once had, but you know what? At 68, I'm about 240 pounds and happy. I'm not saying that everyone would be, but my neurosis about weight is gone. I'm no longer competing for any beauty contest, chasing men or worried about winning a marathon. I'm a retired granny who has had many serious medical problems that added to my weight and fitness issues. But, I'm still standing. I'm still able to be me, with no excuses and I fully understand what this mom is trying to convey to her children. We all come in many shapes and colors as to all living things. And that's fine.

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T M
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Well, when I'm thin, I'm pretty happy, in general. And when I'm fat, I'm a "hot mess". And most people prefer being leaner. Glad if you're happy, but it sounds like you're trying to enable other people's less healhful lifestyle choices.

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Richa Gupta
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Dear people who are talking about being politically correct, diabetes and heart attack, maybe she was a super thin person and pregnancy took a toll on her body, maybe she knows how she looks and she's trying to shed the extra pounds to be healthier, maybe she's got a hormone issue like thyroid which is a stumbling block in her journey. We don't know her full story, nonetheless she's put this little piece out for maybe not you but people like myself who need such a story to deal with problems like body dysmorphia! It's easy to write negative things sitting behind a computer anonymously.

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Lisamarie Dexter Pocza
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm fat. I have struggled all my life with ignorant Gits who try to shame me because I have extra weight. I have gone to drastic measures to lose weight. My thyroid is all shot to hell which makes losing weight Damn near impossible. I take several meds that cause weight gain. And I'm stressed out. I exercise, I watch how much I eat and guess what.... I'm still fat. Just when I start to feel good about myself image I hear some well meaning idiot say that I am an awful person who doesn't care about myself because I have extra tonnage. Well yay for you hypocritical Bitches. Many of the "skinny" people smoke and drink. But let a heavy person actually enjoy a meal? Can't have that. And we wonder why anorexia and bulimia run rampant. I have ruined my health trying to fit into what society thinks I should be.

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Krysta Pandoo
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The principle is correct, but trying to make herself look better by saying all of her fat is protective is not correct. She is implying being overweight is not a health concern so the kids grow up thinking being fat is normal, or worse, healthy. The others are right, another shameless 'look how wonderfully I parented, please tell me I'm a good mummy'. Simple fact for you that you can't seem to face - you are very overweight, possibly even life-threateningly. Your best response to your girl is to say 'yes, I am but it is a mean thing to say to someone and hurts their feelings, which is wrong. It is never polite to say something personal about another person to make them feel bad. I am going to work on my weight by changing my lifestyle and show you that you are right that I am unhealthy; I am going to show you how I become healthy again and get back to a good, healthy weight. I hope you follow the good example that I will set you and learn something important'.

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Sill Marien
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

that girl is not so skinny herself so probably someone out there called her fat. That's how she learned that

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Cat Lady
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Small children are meant to have fat! it's called 'puppy fat' for a reason

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Valentina Danus
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That lesson wouldn't work in spanish because we have 2 different words for calling someone fat (gordo) and the fat you have ( grasa)

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Sparkwater
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Fat protects our muscles, yeah. Too much fat can be bad. But still, not everyone can control being fat or thin or whatever. They're not you.

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T M
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

No. Muscles do NOT need to be "protected by fat". It's utter denial and lies she's feeding her kids about anatomy. For her our self-serving reasons at her children's physical expense.

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Ja Legge
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It isn't our business to determine if she doesn't care abt her body. Lesson: we do not have the right to judge outloud. Keep it 2ourselves

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T M
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

She POSTED it for public consumption to make it other people's business. The world did not knock on her door. She courted feedback. You seem to have missed that she did not "keep it 2herself".

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T M
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Muscles do NOT need protection by fat. That is pure ignorance. Fascia cover muscle. Skin is our largest organ and skin protects us from external exposure. Our BRAINS need the most calories, and clearly the surplus adipose is not giving this mother a mental advantage. It's good to teach against meanness, but it's bad to rationalize & deny your own relative lack of health.

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Marysia Jawłowska
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

B******t. That just teaches the kid that it's something to be sensitive about. Yes, you are fat and please don't make a big deal out of it.

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Isa
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Why some people have the need to put everything on facebook? I can't understand why you have the need to expose yourself and your family to others opinion....

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artcatcms
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I think Mom is brilliant! Teaching her children the point that your weight doesn't define you as a person!! Sick of people's weight seems to be the last and possibly the only thing not protected by political correctness!

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Allie Orona
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It's great to teach your child not to shame another person, but this isn't the way to teach them not to shame. Acceptance is about seeing differences in one another and realizing they're okay. What the mother did was say that there are no differences because we all have fat, whereas there is a difference between a healthy amount of fat and an unhealthy amount of fat.

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PeggyWestmoreland
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Ms. Kimmey, you are a wonderful mother and mentor. Our world is better because your children are a part of it, thank you.

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Keyz Karanza
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I think Allison is smoking hot. And fat. And has fat. It's all good! I came up with this graphic some time ago. Was going to have it made into a t-shirt, but my ADD often carries me away to other things. new-1-5943...1f-png.jpg new-1-5943d4061e11f-png.jpg

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Brigitte
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I understand what she is saying but for someone who claims 'Fat is not a bad word in our house' she does protest a lot. I'm not judging her body, it's hers but she shouldn't ignore reality.

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Laury M.
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

She's not ignoring it for one second. "You have a lot more fat than me mama" "Yes I do"

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Edie Seedsman
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I think that this is a great thing to teach kids. Sure, she may be a bit overweight but she's confident in her own skin and that's GREAT!!!

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River Smith
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

you CAN be fat, like you can be gay. it's not the only part of your life. being fat isn't bad, it isn't always unhealthy, and this mom was correct to tell her kids that it's ok to be fat. we are giving eight year olds eating disorders. it's time to get rid of beauty standards. if you don't like the way someone looks, then don't look at them. if they're happy with their appearance, be happy for them. you don't have to bring people down because you don't agree with them. and that's the real problem with our country: we're so busy tearing each other down that we can't work towards a better future where we aren't debating whether someone is allowed to be fat around kids

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Pi...
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Fat, skinny... as long as you love YOURSELF, nothing else matters! I'm glad ur doing the right thing by you.

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HumanBeing
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

In the comment she posted, it says that nobody can be fat. I find it kind of bad parenting to tell kids that nothing can make you fat. :/

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Kelly Johnson
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

She means it literally, we are not just big globs of moving fat. It's like if someone says all people are is skin, it is only part of you, not all you are made of.

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SIRiMAC
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Teaching kids fat is okay is NOT OKAY. It is unhealthy. It shouldn't be used as an insult but don't sugarcoat anything about your health.

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Tamama Nitohei
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It's fine to have a bit of fat, since our bodies need it to function. But when you start to encourage kids being fat is good..

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Rosa Greyhound
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

She put it on her Instagram to try to get people to not be mean. It went viral-other people have decided this is important, so stop hating!

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Michelangelo
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This is so idiotic she apologizes and you give her a lecturer but then you post if online selling out your daughter for approval from people

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Margie Lazou
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Honestly, the first thing that came to my mind, after I opened the article was "wow, she's worse than me, and still isn't bashful, go her". Dunno what that means, I know I'm fat, she's fat, but the distinctive difference is that she's not ashamed of it. I am. If she can pass that on to her kids, that's a great thing. In my life I've been dealt some serious blows regarding my body, and I don't show it off. Maybe I wish I could, I don't know.

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Laury M.
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I think that the shame comes from feeling judged as a person. That is incredibly damaging. Being overweight, for whichever reason, does not change your value as a human being. You're a complex person that is far more than just your looks, or your health. And I know it's incredibly difficult to let go of the negative things people keep repeating, but you deserve to be happy, regardless of your body type <3

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Michael Johnson
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Look, the fact is that people that are overweight are limited in what they can do physically beyond a certain point. If being very overweight was not an issue related to health, wouldn't we see a lot more overweight athletes in the Olympics competing side by side with athletes that were in much better, I'm sorry, 'different' shape?

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Bonnie Gembey
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

So based on your logic every person who lost weight and ceased to be larger would be eligible to be an Olympic athlete? I don't think I need to say that this is a seriously way out comparison.

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panda
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

So you r not fat, you just have fat. 😂 lol Not too much fat? So maybe its time to burn some fat-"yeah kids lets stay in the pool,lets swim and play for hours,we will be healthier" Or you can either get them out and stop for McDonald on the way home. Your life your way your business. Good luck

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Sondre Strøm Linde
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

After I heard of the whole Skittles-incident, I thought I had heard the dumbest thing ever. But saying that we HAVE fat, instead of being fat, is even dumber. Congrats.

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Autumn Shelton
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I think the real point was missed. She called the mom fat to be mean after she wasn't getting what she wanted. That's not cool. Recognizing people are fat isn't bullying but using that against them to get what you want is just cruel.

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T M
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Then, the mom should've said that, only. Just: don't be cruel, don't bully. But she didn't. Instead, the mom ALSO told her children selfish LIES about anatomy and physical health.

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Byrne Berggren
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

No mom... you're fat and teaching your kid stupid things like this will only shorten her lifespan just like your's is being shortened....

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T M
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This mom's nonsense lies about adipose & overweight can motivate those of us who are health-minded to lose a few extra pounds of fat. We've learned not to be mean by name-calling AND making our children fat, too. Thank you, lying, self-serving, in denial mom! We see ya and don't wanna be ya!

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Alusair Alustriel
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I understand the idea of teaching children not to insult people for their health condition. But c'mon, stop excusing yourself and denying that you ARE FAT. It's not obesity, it's fat. And the daughter is also fat. Please please please stop making things like being fat (just fat, not medically conditioned like thyroid problem, hormone theraphy etc) a good, common thing...

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Alusair Alustriel
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

And in excusing I mean stop naming being fat something else than it is - I have fat vs. I'm fat... That's pushing your problem to a voidzone where it doesn't concern you directly... I don't know how to put it - stop renaming things to make them less hurting for the sake of making yourself feel better.

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Anna Sheridan
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Um am I the only person here who thinks this woman isn't actually that fat? The bikini is just an unflattering choice!

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Andrew Keane
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

People reacting exactly like her daughter did. Be responsible with your own weight just don't judge others. That's the point.

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floof lover
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That mom is DEFINITELY fat. Her daughter deserves a time out for being a brat, but there's no denying the truth- she's a whale

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Matthew Courtland
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Who gives AF. Not all fat folks are diabetic or have heart disease. There are also plenty of "fit" people that die of massive coronaries. Regardless of all of this, on a long enough timeline everyones survival rate is ZERO. Anyone one on any given day could meet their maker from a million different causes. Our society gets more and more judgemental and superficial by the second. What is the point?

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Ruthie Quinn
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I think we've all missed the point, on this, she was amazing to turn it into a teachable moment. You are who YOU are, not by how you dress, what size you are, what you do for a living, or what you want to do when you grow up. You can BE racist, BE unforgiving, hateful, and even JUDGEMENTAL, or you could BE kind, BE honest, BE patient, BE understanding, BE love. At the end of the day that's who you are. My mother also, taught me that to sit there and judge someone because they are different, is wrong! So for me to sit there and read about how fat someone thinks she is, or how she is very wrong, for teaching her children this, they are sadly missing the point, we are doing the very thing she is trying to teach her children not to do. Instead of yelling at her children, punishing them she teaches them to see people as who they are, or could be, not what they have.

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T M
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

She was not being honest. As you wrote. That's a key point, here.

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Lorna Sinclair
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Not all overweight people can help being overweight some may have health issues and some may be on medication I eat healthily o have fruit and veg and I'm on way 2 much medication and I'm overweight did I ask to be no have i tried losing it yes for those who aren't overweight they should stop and think instead of shaming those that are overweight maybe stop and think you don't know what's going on with that person's life or their health and I won't go to a gym as an ex I had was taking the p**s out of an overweight lady who was on an exercise bike and he wanted me to go to the gym and I actually snapped at him and told him that's why most women like me won't go to a gym coz of men like him shaming women like me didn't last long after that

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Abe froman
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Metabolism some people have a faster digestive metabolic rate and some have a slower Metabolism, so that being said people with slower Metabolisms will need to work double time to keep the calories burning healthier food choices and Vigorous exercise. Using metabolism as an excuse isn't a very acceptable one.. stay helathy y'all

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Claudia Lorenz
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

She is fat. Glorifying fat women has become very fashionable these days. Does it matter that their health problems cost millions a year to treat? Fat is neither healthy nor normal. And in most cases, not beautiful.

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Michele Lewis
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

How about taking the insult out of the word by acknowledging it as fact? "Right. I'm fat. I know you said that to get back at me because you are mad but it's not going to work. Now get your hiney out of the pool and let's go." Then the lesson is we don't call people names to get our way or just because we are mad at them. Maybe even toss in a little consequence for name calling. Something like extra trash duty for talking trashy.

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Martin Marcheezy
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Is it because u are fat and don't want to feel insulted by your own child ?

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Olga Śmiełowska
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

to be honest, "you're fat" is a statement no different from "you are skinny", but we use it as an insult. it's good to teach your kid not to judge people by how they look, but she also should say that being obese is not healthy. and you can see that her kid is already too chubby...

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SusanS
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Can't ANYONE just do their job and not look for affirmation that they are doing okay? This trend is getting out of hand. Whoop-dee-doo.***** Your child no doubt heard you bellyaching about being fat and she was repeating it.

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Stanimira Deleva
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The kid is not stupid, she sees the obvious. When I was a little kid, I also thought my mom was fat, needs to lose weight and I told her. She replied, that she is fat because she gave birth to me and my sister. Then I checked photos - she was never fit, not even when she was a teenager. I was not stupid, I saw that she never exercises and smokes a lot. What an example is this to a child? You might not notice, but children are actually very much influenced by their parents look if you give them a good example, exersize, eat healthy and dress decently, it will make them happier and healthier when they grow up.

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Gertrude Cole
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If labeling someone as "fat" is part of your internal dialogue, you need to reassess. #1. It's none of your business #2. You're embarrassing the woman who raised you #3. You're intellectually limited if that's what your brain does on it's free time

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Belinda Matson
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Lmao - "intellectually limited if that's what your brain does in it's free time" I love that line so much!

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.gas.
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

From the mouths of babes. I started losing weight after my little niece (innocently) called me 'fat.' I didn't lecture her on how it's 'normal' to get winded after only five minutes of play. Let's stop the excuses.

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Laury M.
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It's actually a super important lesson for a kid who might be at risk of being overweight. "Everyone has fat," she says. EVERYONE. You know who end up thinking they can get rid of all of their fat? People suffering from eating disorders, especially anorexia.

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Barbara Elzohairy
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It is not ok to insult and criticize people because it wont change anything. Just shame them. But to teach kids that having too much fat is ok is false. It is dangerous to life to one's heart among other body parts. The mother needs to set a healthy example with her own body otherwise the kids will follow her into morbid obesity, diabetes, and heart disease.

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Cassidy Middleton
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Thank you I'm have been called fat because my leg muscles but online I am under weight

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Korrtni Lenney
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Allison Kimmy is playing thousands of gullible frail-minded women, getting them to buy her stupid fatkini workbook: 55 pages of how to get the nerve up to wear a bikini to the beach. WOWWWW, hope my daughter grows up to pull off this feat! Never mind my dream of her becoming a doctor or lawyer, discovering a cure for type 1 diabetes, etc. That's all little stuff. All I want for her is to wear a bikini !! Allison, you will surely change the world - NOT!

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Ragen Chastain
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This is a terrible lesson. Better to teach kids that people come in lots of sizes for lots of reasons and we should respect everyone of every size, rather than trying to engage in word play. If her daughter called her brunette would she insist that she's not brunette, she just has brown hair? The perceived need to talk around the word reinforces the oppression and the idea that fat should be the voldemort of adjectives. https://danceswithfat.wordpress.com/2016/11/14/that-fat-and-fingernails-thing/

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Ronnie Smith
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

While she could lsoe some weight and should she sure as hell is very good looking to the point of beutiful;

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Ken Wiesner
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

if it takes shame to save lives then so e it To be FAT, is to DIE EARLY it DISGUSTS ME to see that political correctness is insisted Upon even when it teaches people to let them self DIE of FATness Alisson Kimmey you are the CAUSE of the epidemic of obesity and the people like you who share you FUKT attitued

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Patriotism ForAll
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

When does defensively affirming your own body confidence chill proactive communication and undermine your child's intellectual confidence? The daughter is just a kid and called it like she sees it. She was exercising her critical thinking skills - noting the differences between people. We can be pretty sure her observation wasn't something she picked up at home - where the majority of discrimination and hatred are learned. Mom should have just said, "You are right. I have a lot more fat than a healthy person does." All lessons taught.

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Cynthia Collins
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Some may think of this as a parent bragging. But, I'd rather see something like this than a list of "what women over 50 shouldn't wear," or "10 things you shouldn't. . . " because those are opinions without any moral or ethical value. This mom has a point, and it is a good one. Kudos for her! There are many reasons people are overweight, and in some cultures it's a good thing.

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Claire Kallenbach
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

lol brainwashing her daughter to think that being a whale is a good thing XD

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Cj Snyder
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

She is not fat, She has an unhealthy amount of fat and her daughter is on the same unhealthy path as her mom.

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T M
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The daughter should've replied, "Okay, Mom - you're very *overweight*."

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Via Garcia
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That is how the English language is spoken as opposed to Latin languages (Spanish, French, Italian, etc...). In English we are our things, such as our feeling, mood or descriptive adjectives, such as tall, hungry, sad, pretty, mad, skinny or yes fat. In English we ARE those things, in other languages, people possess them. You would not say 'I am hungry', you would say literally, 'I have hunger', nor would you say 'I am fat', but more like you are in a state of fatness. Yes, she was making a point but she needs to pick a dictionary first and understand how our language is spoken.

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Janet Davis
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Hate to point out the obvious...but mama IS a bit on the THICK SIDE of things. Daughter is only pointing out this reality.

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Niềng Răng Lăng Xăng
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

''Yes i'm fat, like you have yellow hair and we are human on the planet earth. What do you want to inform me about that?" If the girl uses the word ''fat'' to offend her mom, she would know ''fat'' isn't something to be used to shame someone. But who knows, that maybe is just her observation. Who knows, she cares about her mother's health.

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Robert Battersby
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Good message all around, but... the main reason I'm here is... The mom there is a hottie. ;P

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Kelly Johnson
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I am one who normally prays for good things for people, but I sincerely hope every person that made a negative remark about the mom experiences too much fat of their own and how difficult it really can be to get rid of.

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T M
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The reason people are making a negative comment is because she chose to LIE to her children about a physical condition – being overweight. And that that protects muscles which is completely false. So, she publicly posted her own self-serving teachings at the expense of their children's health education, while telling her own child not to be selfish. Quite hypocritical.

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Ash Hulme
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yes, we could all stand to use "fat" as an insult less. Yes, a person absolutely CAN be fat. Yes, a certain amount of fat is essential. But yes, there is such a thing as too much of it -- where you drown your internal organs in fat and clog your arteries up with fat and overburden your heart and lungs and circulation with fat and poison your body with too much fat...

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Wombat34
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This is noise that skirts the salient elements of obesity: why are you fat, and do you want to be?

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Jay Telford
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

What do I think? I think that woman is damn fat, I mean just look at her - she looks like an amorphous blob. That's not healthy, that's not protecting anything, that's not normal - that's FAT!!!

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Bonnie Gembey
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You're an abusive s**t. Have you been to see a psychologist about your anger problems? It would be a shame if you pass them on to your children.

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Meri Svancarek
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I love what she did, but I don't understand why she didn't correct her daughter on thinking it was alright to speak about her mother that way, and then believe it was OK to do so because she apologizes.

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Bob W.
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

"FAT" is disgusting AND unhealthy. Such cheap justifications will not change that when you drop dead, or end up with chronic disease.

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Bonnie Gembey
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Hey Bob, thanks for posting a pic of yourself. Oh, wait, you didn't do that. Afraid someone will judge you as harshly as you judge larger people. Get thee back under your bridge, troll.

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Allison Pierre
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm sorry, but she is fat, and so are her children. Regardless of what she'd like to call it, the fact is, she's fat, and that's unhealthy. She's sending a good message, but she also needs to acknowledge the truth about herself, whether she wants to believe it or not.

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Gayle Bynum Cardosa
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That's right. We can call a tomato a strawberry all we want but it's still a tomato and just trying to get everyone else in the room to call it a strawberry doesn't make it anything but a tomato either. Things are what they are.

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Ty Gerhardt
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Living in a nation full of self-righteous c***s is really neat.

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Jess Janveaux
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I agree with Laury. Though i will say to the d**k who had the gall to open his mouth. Boys may not like bigger women but MEN do.

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Michael Ziegler
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If they don't like the word fat to describe a person's body type then just say overweight, obese, morbidly obese, tubby, chunky butt or whatever else you can think of, but don't say fat. It's hurtful.

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Muniza Tariq
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Why do fat people want to justify their fatness by being in denial about its harmful side effects? it would help them and everybody else around them if they accepted the truth and did something about it. The first step to bringing a positive change is to accept that something is wrong. Being fat is not only unattractive it's unhealthy too and fat people should accept it and try not to delude themselves into thinking that it's okay to be fat.

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Sophie G
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

sounds a bit like playing semantics and I like that she's not hiding her protective tissue ;o)

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George Sladkovsky
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Ok, so now we teach our children that being fat is great and beneficial and awesome. No. It's unhealthy and it's dangerous for your heart and other organs. Ask your local GP and NOT the internet. On the internet you will hear things like "As long as I am able to walk - it's fine"... sure...

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Angie Thomasina
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Sometimes I think people just need to keep these things to themselves ... everyone has an opinion (eye roll) ..

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Lovely Dardompre
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I feel no shud judge lest we be judged,children shud be taught about healthy eating diet and xercise so they can live long healthy lives

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Meowton Mewsk
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You don't get an award for teaching your kid something. It's literally your job. Get over yourself. And she is fat. She's not ugly. She's very beautiful but she's fat. Fat is something you can be. She is teaching her children a dangerous lesson. Just because she's so small minded that she let a child hurt her feelings. She looks great and she may be healthy but she shouldn't encourage overeating (which is how you get fat) in her kids. And again. Stop posting on Facebook that you patented your own kid. It's your job.

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Michael Johnson
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Oh please. No child is going to be able to make that differentiation between the idea of 'being fat' and 'having fat.' It's simply a cop-out. Look, your child shouldn't say such things to their parents, especially out of malice. That being said, you are overweight enough that it should be a significant concern for you, health-wise.

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Jasminka
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

She is denying the truth to her daughter. She IS fat. Like come on woman, don't be so ignorant

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laurie
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If this is the stuff that goes "viral," I'm so glad I don't do social media.

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Pol Macqueron
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Maybe the fat she has comes from her pregnancies. But then her daughter would feel guilty for the fat... bad idea...

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Sherri LoRusso-Smith
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

maybe she should say "I'm not just fat, I'm bones, muscles, etc with lots of fat on top"....why would anyone think that being this overweight is a sexy & healthy thing to be? why would you teach your daughter that she has fat on her stomach too? I can't agree with this woman....no shaming here believe that 'cuz I am overweight myself since I had my son at an older age I've had a hard time losing the "baby fat"but I try to teach my young son that it is unhealthy to be overweight , it puts so much strain on our hearts & other organs as well as our joints. No matter how she wants to explain this away. There is nothing sexy about seeing someone with everything hanging out all over the place. yes, she should not feel less then or not beautiful 'cuz she is beautiful & doing her best but i don't think those teeny weeny bikinis are the best choice. If you disagree please remember that this is my opinion & I have a right to it, so please show respect like I respect your opinion.....

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The Cappy
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Political correctness aside, define "fat" objectively in a way that doesn't include that woman. Her BMI appears to be well over 40, and that's the line for "morbidly obese". If a morbidly obese doesn't count as fat, then you're doing a Ministry of Truth trick and attempting to remove a word from the lexicon just to shape the minds of the proles. Also, remember that almost all of the mannerisms of a child that age came from the mother. So if the child is already calling names, that's likely because the mother does. Sounds like a bit of "Do as I say, not as I do" *shrug*

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Miklós Nagy
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Those fast food viral merketing stuffs are starting to take over boredpanda.

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Cristina Burciu Advent
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

She is right, we have to stop learning our children that fat people are to be ashamed or blamed. I admire that this mother is proud the way she is. We have to forget about labeling and stop being narrow-minded.

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darknessIsMyOutfit
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

She's fat pretty but fat and not teaching them you could die from complications. Fat is bad for you I'm saying this as a fat chick (157lbs 5'2"

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Sondre Strøm Linde
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

OH MY GOD. Haha, seems like that all I can say in the comments these days.. Well, it is quite obvious that she is indeed fat. Not just fat, but obese. This is just so dumb. How about instead of pretending like it's ANYTING natural about her looks at all, she loses the fu**ing weight, and maybe her daughter has a mother a little longer. JEEZ.

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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

many years ago, I met the two grandmothers of my girlfriend. They haven't seen me for a while - in this time, I had taken some weight...Granma One "You look like a man now!", Granma Two "Hey you are a fat one!"... Well, I was a fat man :-)

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John pan
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

She must be a Liberal cause that's how they make stupid excuses for everything. Almost all fat people have mouth control problem. I said almost cause some will get fat even by drinking water. So by this story she taught her kids that make an excuse and pretend to be happy instead of trying to become who you really want to be. It's funny when she was counting the fat benefits. I guess she is burning her brain instead of her fat.

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Ronnie Smith
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

She could lost some lbs and enjoy life more but i bet few of her friends could compete with her in beauti

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Skeptical Eye
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Children are brutally honest, and the mom is fat, and the kid knew what she meant and the mom knew what she meant, I understand if she wants her daughter not to hurt other people's feelings but she's trying to bend reality. Protect my organs and bones my a*s

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Al C.
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

fat is an adjective and noun. You ARE fat because you HAVE fat. How hard is that.

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Heather Melick
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

She needs to wear appropriate clothing. Other than that, I think she should be teaching her kids that any word that disparages another is WRONG and should never be used, inside or outside of her home.

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Clare Elliott
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I really think if you dont have anything to add to this issue without being judgemental,then a simple "like" or scroll on....chiming in because you can is overrated.

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Lyra Logan
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Her kid is fat to. Obese kids is child abuse, plain and simple.

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Toni Stutz
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I didn't realise how many qualified doctors/general practitioners read these stories and added their comments. Wow, just wow!

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Kelly Johnson
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Lol, right!? Oh she's "super fat, obese, and obviously unhealthy" she's a lot healthier mentally than the people who are trying to shame her.

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Corinne Boomhower
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

why do people assume skinny people are healthier than heavier ones??? and why do we assume larger ppl are lazy and eat like pigs and skinny ppl eat salads and work out,, all a crock of poo, everyone is diff, some large ppl work their butts off just to be the size they are, and their counterparts eat like hogs and dont gain an ounce... mom gave her kids a diff perspective to their attitude...

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Gayle Bynum Cardosa
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

because overweight people ARE unhealthier than people of normal weight. It's pretty widely known. It's not an assumption. Medical science has given us this information

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Tess Calogaras
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

What are these people on about? Such hatred! She looks wonderful! And she's not teaching bad eating habits, she's teaching her child not to use the word as an insult which is amazing. So many small children bully kids chubbier than them because they've been taught that being fat is 'disgusting' or 'unhealthy' she looks pretty healthy to me, some people are just bigger than others.

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Debra Starr Moon
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It would have been more honest to say "yes I am fat but it's not okay to think less of me or treat me badly as a person." Teaching a child that there's nothing wrong with obesity sets a dangerous precedent for the child's choices about her own health and eating habits. Yes all people have fat, but after a certain point it is no longer healthy. Just like being too thin is unhealthy. She should make her child aware of the potential health risks while still teaching her not to be cruel or body shame based on someone's outward appearance. She tried, but she missed the mark.

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LaurenF
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I respect this Mom teaching her kids appropriate behavior and instilling respect and values. Nobody should be fat shamed, we have moments in life when we struggle with stress and lose control of our weight. But she needs to be objective and explain the downsides and risks of being overweight. Nobody likes to be told they are fat, it is not obviously something we enjoy, and Mom might be hypersensitive when it comes about her body image, but the girl should be guided towards a healthier style of life. I can see she is already plumpy, and strictly from a medical perspective, weight control needs to be addressed responsibly, especially when you see your daughter has a tendency for becoming overweight. Cancer, diabetes, heart disease, blood cloths are all serious risks for overweight people, and I am sure this Mom will not want her baby to ever be confronted with such challenges.

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Laury M.
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I would teach a child about self-respect and respecting others long before I would teach them to check their weight. That's how eating disorders start.

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Delilah Ripley
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

So are we telling the truth, or are we creating some parallel universe inhabited by unicorns and fairies and totally disconnected from the reality? The woman is overweight, and that's the truth, no matter how you put it. It's not "body shaming|", it's the TRUTH. Why lying? Why deceiving? I also have a few extra pounds - so big deal. I'm not going to make a drama out of it. But I also - and most definitely - will not pretend it's not true. What I am saying there is no need to warp the reality. It is what it is. As simple as that. It doesn't define what kind of person she is. It just reflects the current condition of her body (which I believe to be her own choice and problem, not ours, and if she is happy the way she is - great!). But yes, she is fat (the child is overweight, too). And yes, the most outcry and "support" will come from other fat people with serious insecurities on the subject, looking for both public justification and an ego-boost.

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Laury M.
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The vast majority of people in the comments are missing the point entirely. There is nothing in what she said that suggests that being overweight is healthy. What it suggests, is that it does not define or characterize the value of a person. She's not saying for one second that she's not overweight, either, which is another thing that people seem to have imagined. Two of my brothers smoke. I don't devalue them as human beings even when they make unhealthy choices. THAT is the point of the lesson she taught her children.

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pikachu
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

there are soooooooo many very mean and hurtful comments here, she is just trying to teach her child self-confidence and that everyone will have some, and so she won't get anorexia later in life

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William Bass
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If you're fat, you're fat. It is generally a sign of unhealthiness in women, and it can be fixed through diet and exercise, something a lot of people refuse to do. This is what the total acceptance movement has done. fat acceptance, incest acceptance, transgender acceptance, and the list goes on. It has turned people into fragile little snowflakes who think their lack of self-control or plain mental disease is special.

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Jane Doe
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

She should have smacked that little brat upside the head, right after she tells her she's a little fatty herself.

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Jane Doe
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

She should have slapped that little brat & told her what a fat load she's turning in to herself.

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Lindy Ma
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Ok I think you need to teach children to have compassion for people. But people including children have preference for what the see. I think there is a reason why people are more turned off to very overweight people. Because it is a look of being unhealthy. The mother isn't teaching her child compassion. I am over weight and don't want people pretending it is equal to someone more healthy. And no I wouldn't want my child calling me fat. I would tell them it hurts my feelings you calling me fat. And that when you love others you don't say mean things to hurt them. She is teaching her child that if the child gets overweight no one is suppose to disapprove that is unrealistic. The truth is being very overweight isn't as appealing or healthy as being a closer to normal body weight. To a lot of people not everyone but to society in general. And even if it is more acceptable isn't as healthy.

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laurie
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

She IS fat and her daughter is on her way to being fat. I'm sick of the PC nonsense about obesity.

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machin truc
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

But she IS fat. And she is full of cellulite. And her little daughter too is obviously already fat. Because of her bad nutrition and bad education. That woman is a criminal.

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Jess Janveaux
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

No she isn't. You're a rude misinformed a*s if that is how you think. Just because someone is a little or more overweight does not mean that they have poor nutrition or are inactive.

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Abigail Kreiss
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

What about not disrespecting your parents when they tell you to do something???

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Laury M.
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The worse is cellulite, as "cellulitis" is an infection, not visible ripples in the skin. About 15% of women don't have cellulite, btw, so it's not actually incredibly shocking.

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Shinomi Chan
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I agree that you shouldn't use fat as an insult, but once gaining weight is becomes a problem (Like in this woman's case), you shouldn't explain it to your kids, as if you're proud of it, true it's difficult to lose fat in the first place, but if it can literally KILL you, shouldn't one do something about it? a small amount of fat is good, but too much is a problem.

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Angela Marsden
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

she's a fat unhealthy cow teaching her daughter bad info. her daughter is fat as well. enough of the PC bullcrap and constant validations! when she's diabetic with neuropathy she'll be wishing she lost weight.

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Heidi Bergman
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Wow Angela Marsden, what a rude and vicious thing to say. You don't need to call her names. You could be an adult and just comment. Must make you fell really superior. Good for you!

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Hamilton Bubbub
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I would have slapped her (figuratively) and then told her if I am fat cause i had u and you and I r going to the gym see why i am like this

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Ivana
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I don't care what you look like, but I do care a great deal about the environment and healthcare costs which are both being severely harmed by our horrible eating habits. Obesity is not about body shaming, it is about an insubstantial lifestyle that we should not be encouraging.

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RustyLes IIJIMA
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

On Promoted Stories: I am appaulded that they would post false stories about people who died. and these people are still living and still acting. this is terrible, how would they like it if people say that about them...

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Helen Burgess
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

i like what she said for the most part... it's kind of medically inaccurate, but the message got across that you shouldn't pick on others or be shallow. that being said, i'm glad the little girl isn't body-conscious yet... kind of ironic that she called mom fat, no?

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Les Izmore
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

A better response from the mother would have been to tell the daughter the correct word to use is obese, not fat.

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Laury M.
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Her point is that they shouldn't use someone's excess weight as an insult. Obesity is a medical condition that requires diagnosis. It's also based on the BMI, which does not take individual physiological disparities into consideration, and was never designed to evaluate a single person's health, but rather establish a larger picture of trends across a large group or demographic.

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Victor Vakaras
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

And overweight woman raising an overweight kid. What are we supposed to like here?

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Emma Perkins
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If you don't want to be called fat, don't be overweight. That's the only way to avoid it. Unlike most things people are condemned or shamed for today, this is something you can fix. There are very few cases where a person has a legitimate reason for being overweight, and we shouldn't immediately think of them as lazy or sloppy, but everyone should strive for a healthy weight and those who don't should be able to handle the consequences. It's like if you smoke, you should accept the fact that you're at high risk for lung cancer and people aren't going to want to be around you when you smell like smoke and have cigaret breath.

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Dana Gabriela
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yeah... but if I'm overweight I accept that I could have health issues, like the smoker in your example.. but nobody will insult me or bully me, if I'm in school, telling me "you're a smoker" with disgust... because, why not, I'm thin but I smoke and I drink like hell and that's ok: how I look it's what interest you, not my personal health.. gimme a break.. No matter if you will die of throat or lung cancer, if you look thin and fit, it's ok to smoke or drink (even if drinking have destroyed a thousand families, not like being fat... not talking about violence and many problems result of it) without beaing insulted. That's the way people treat you. Not because everyone of those scientifist here which know that being fat means for sure that I have health issues and they care... Bs..they care just about my look, and that's all. Hypocrisy it's mother of all of you. And superficiality.

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Natalie McCue
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6 years ago

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God forbid should anybody's feelings be hurt if they are called fat or worse. Parents need to teach their kids to have thicker skins rather than not bullying. People are just too sensitive for anything that is said today. Everybody's a winner! What the heck does that teach kids today. Parents need to stop sugar coating everything. If you're fat, you're fat!

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Laury M.
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Parents should give their kids armour rather than prevent them from hitting one another with sticks and stones. They're just too sensitive. So what if they get a broken leg? It's entirely their fault for not having stronger bones!

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Ski Zawaski
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6 years ago

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The kid was right. She probably feels embarrassed to be in public with her big fat cow mother. Her mother should never be seen in public with a two piece bathing suit. No doubt the poor kid will wind up FAT just like her mother.

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Hamilton Bubbub
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

What the hell is wrong with you What makes you think you can say that type of stuff it's disrespectful did your MOTHER teach you any manners

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Patrick Bateman
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6 years ago

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Let's call a spade a spade. Mama is fat. But she is missing a golden opportunity to teach her daughter something valuable a about life...Boys don't like fatties.

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