Mother Finds Out That Her Daughter Is A Bully, Comes Up With An Unexpected Punishment
Parenting is never easy, despite all the help that modern technology offers or the original hacks that parents themselves come up with, it’s a neverending challenge with new problems appearing daily. Amanda Mitchell, a mother from Newfoundland, Canada, found herself in quite a situation after the school reported that her daughter Hannah was misbehaving and bullying a friend. This mother knew exactly what to do to teach her daughter a lesson and shared it on her Facebook page. “I think the problem with this generation is inadequate punishment,” Mitchell said. While some people may think her methods were harsh, Amanda disagreed. “Harsh? Not in my opinion. If she grows up to break the law then the result is jail and that’s not what I want for my children.” she explained.
“I know that I’m not doing harm to her. I’m doing everything I can to help her. I told her I’m doing this because I love her and want her to grow up to be a well-rounded individual.” Mitchell told GlobalNews. While initially Hannah was shocked, she later accepted her punishment and started working to improve her behavior. Scroll down to read the full story below and tell us if you think that Amanda’s methods were right for this situation or if she was too harsh.
Recently, one mother from Newfoundland gathered a lot of attention because of the way she punished her daughter
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On June 9, Amanda shared a post on Facebook detailing her daughter’s behavior and the way she dealt with it
Hannah was left only with her bed and a set of clothes for a day, though her mother said she later gave her a rotation of 4 anti-bullying t-shirts
Image credits: Amanda Mitchell
The daughter had to earn her items back by adjusting her behavior and fulfilling set tasks
Image credits: Amanda Mitchell
Some people on the internet were critical of her methods
However, others agreed with Amanda’s actions
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This is bullying? Only in the west is not having access to all of your splendid wardrobe and all of your toys (while still being properly fed and cared for) considered too harsh a punishment, haha. I can't tell you how many times when I'm out and about I want to slap the s**t out of the parents because of their little misbehaving a******s. This mom is demanding her child treat people with respect (she could not make it more clear to the child WHY the punishment is what it is) and the girl is responding to it, yet people still b***h. I'm pretty sure I know how the children of those people behave...
My comment is to Jurgen Shantz, but for some reason it won't let reply directly to him. Europe and Australia are also considered to be Western Cultures. They aren't using "west" to refer to a geographical location.
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Actually, I did something very similar to my son who was about 8 or 9. He's 38 now so no social media around then admittedly. We took every single toy, everything, out of his room, he got it back a month later. This was punishment for sheep worrying. We lived in a training barracks near Newcastle, it was an old RAF place complete with airfield. The whole area was surrounded by fields with sheep and cattle. He and his friend decided it would be fun to go into one of the fields and chase the sheep, they were just after lambing at the time. As it happened my husband's Commanding Officer saw them from his staff car and called my husband in to tell him, he gave my hub a severe telling off. So the toys went out, no treats, no outings, no TV, nothing that he would enjoy. He was told what his actions could have done to the sheep and lambs in no uncertain terms, we frightened him. I wouldn't care what other parents would think of me if I had said to anybody, probably like this mum.
I did something like this to my son, and he is 29 now. Like you said, no social media back then and no drama or other opinions surrounding it.
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Once, my mom looked me straight in the eyes and told me she was really, really disappointed in me. Once; that's all it took, because I knew that everything she's ever given me and done for me was a gift of her own time, will and effort, and I would always owe her for that. However I understand not all children are as grateful and understanding of this arrangement, and I think taking it all away to show them what life without support feels like, is a good lesson to someone who is being so unsupportive and disrespectful to others.
For me, it was my dad. My mother used to beat, insult and humiliate me for the stupidest of reasons. I grew up to be afraid of her and hide. My father, however, a military man and a very calm and patient one, took me aside one day. I was skipping school. All it took for him was to ask me if I think that I was doing the right thing, and that he was disappointed in me. I never felt more ashamed, humbled and respectful. He never laid a hand on me or raised his voice. I never skipped school after, and I will remember that lesson until the day I die.
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I am more concerned with why a child would be found wondering the halls twice in a week when she should be in class? Lying, disruptive etc , this all sounds sudden which may mean something is very wrong, punishment be damned find out why she seems to have changef.
It's usually an effect of friends and or bullying. It happens to kids. Some kids who get bullied often react and bully others who seem weak to them. We can't judge the parent though, she knows her kids more than us
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I agree with the idea. Doesn't do any harm beyond making her bored. Just wish she hadn't posted it so publicly. That makes it more about her getting pats on the back for parenting than anything. Plus, especially since she named her daughter publicly, she is potentially setting up her daughter to be bullied both at school and online.
her daughter is the bully, not her mother. this is the true act of a parent simply taking away all of a child's privileges & things as nearly all youngster simply take for granted their parental provided pleasantries & entertainment, etc.. nothing about her mother's actions are in any way setting her daughter up for being bullied , but to simply learn that her actions that her consequences. perhaps your of a younger, newer, social media type generation. this is actually a very necessary step universally for all young to coming of age, it never changes as it teaches the difference that one's words & actions hold meanings beyond into one's future.
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This is ridiculously stupid. So what does she learn? That is someone does bad things you take everything away from them? So the next time at school someone does something bad she will take there stuff and say "by it's what mommy does". Why not find out the cause, why is she acting out, why is she wondering the corridor etc??? Is it possible the teacher was mean, or maybe she's having problems at home. All this does is isolate her...it makes her learn to conform but to trust people less. It doesn't make her think about her problems, or feel like she's got someone to go to, or feel like anyone understands her. Either she will become very distant or she'll gradually get worse in acting up. After all, what will happen next...the clothes on her back taken away? Made to sleep outside? This is a very good example of bullying and bully.
That is such BS! There doesn't have to be an underlying reason a kid is acting like an a**hole and punishing them for it is not bullying; calling this mom a bully is bullying. She wrote that her kid was in the hall during lunch. Anyone that actually has kids or knows how the schools work know that teachers no longer sit with their classes during lunch. Normally, there are just a few adults monitoring the entire lunchroom; that's a lot of kids to try to keep track of. Everyone thinks that talking to kids that misbehave is the answer. For some kids, that works; for most kids, it doesn't.
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Wonder if she knows why her kid is acting up, cant be outta nowhere..
Don't YOU remember what a pile of emotions you were at that age??It CAN come out of nowhere and good thing this is a mother that isn't letting her get away with it.
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What concerns me deeply about this story is Why the daughter appears to suddenly become a bully that week. That type of behavioural change should be checked out before punishment is metered out. Often a child's behaviour can stem from themselves being bullied, or struggling to understand a school topic and getting stressed etc. A child does not normally suddenly bully their best friend. If this is the case then I sincerely hope that the daughter will find a Sympathetic teacher she can talk to as from the look of this, her mother isn't very approachable or understanding.
It wasn’t “suddenly that week”, it had been happening over time- skipping class, lying about her teacher... and probably other things not mentioned. I speech from personal experience with my own family.
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Why should anyone share this on social media? What's wrong with these people?? Some sort of not-enough-attention-syndrome maybe...
So it’s ok to share photos of your food, your travel experience, your family events... but you draw the line on your parenting skills of your children- either good or bad? Interesting...
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Okay, first off - why tell the Internet, I really do see a bit of a show-off here. And secondly I don't like the superficial way it was done (or maybe there was left out content). Did she have a talk with her kid? Did she just believe the teachers only? I don't know but it sounded like it wasn't the normal behaviour of her (she's been acting up all week etc) - so why the change/the more extreme behaviour than usual - is there a reason (there prob is). In my humble opinion getting into contact with the kid, seeing it as even and trying to figur out the picture he/she is seeing, her mind and her processes. Punishment is not the go-to i think. Of course its healthy showing her that her actions have consequences. Make up scenarios on how it could effect the life of others (the friend she picked on) - how far is she able to engage and think about her actions. Sorry for the novel I wrote but I really wasn't happy with how the mother was handling the whole thing.. Although parenting isn't a picnic and there's no real recipe for it :/
We walked past a mom yesterday whose 4/5 year old had completely refused, repeatedly, to put his shoes back on - so she was making him walk barefoot and naturally he was unhappy about it. My 9 year old said why is she DOING that to him? And I responded because he wouldn't put his damn shoes on and I'd do the same to you. She laid her head against me and chuckled, and said I know you would - and that's why I would put them on the next time. I totally high fived myself, inside, and her outside!
Children nowadays are so mollycoddled, it's bananas. I think this lady did a great job. Children need discipline and she disciplined. It's not publicly shaming her or, even stupider, bullying her. She didn't say her name or provide a picture of her daughter. Children who are treated like they're made of rice paper and ever so fragile, are in danger of turning into an entitled brat.
I don't have children, so maybe it's a naive question, but why isn't the mother interested in the reasons of her daughters behaviour? I wanted to know a motive, but there was only insulting and punishing the daughter. That's no how the justice system works!
Unfortunately, that *is* how the justice system works in many cases. But it shouldn't.
Load More Replies... It's one thing to teach your child a lesson, it's another to post it online so you can gain attention, and thus ruin your child's reputation as well. Things that are posted on the internet are forever, and now there's a viral picture floating around on the internet of something negative that this child did. What a "great" mom.
I feel like I understand why Hannah feels the need to lash out. Not having a go at the punishment as such, but the need to share it only makes her seem narcissistic and a crappy mother if she's so happy to repeatedly call her 9 year old child an a*****e. Seems to me like the kid is learning that behaviour somewhere...
why & how can many just instantly assume that there were no discussions at all between the parents the child trying to understand just what was going on with her - it's simply a complete unknown factor & matters not. we should judge not, lest we ourselves be judged.
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I'm not very enthusiastic about this punishment but at least there are some consequences for the girls actions. So, so many times parents ill just excuse any behaviour, especially of their sons, saying 'Oh, boys will be boys'. And after years of that, they learn they can get away with more or less anything.
I'm almost 54 and I wish I'd had positive reinforcement as a child. All my Brothers and I got when we played up was a hiding (either a belt or broom was used) and banned from going to the movies with the family Saturday night.
In no way did this mom shame her DTV. Publicly. She just showed her room and what would be done and how. She is being a bully. Well, she will get that out of her head right away, and that she, isn’t entitled to anything, except food, a roof over her head, clean clothes and a safe place to sleep. Her mother isn’t abusing her in any way, shape or form! The dtr, needs to re earn mo s trust that she can be counted on to behave properly, kindly and follow school rules. If she is bullied once or twice for wearing the same outfit, then she will know how it feels to be bullied, a very important lesson to be learned! That lesson will stay with her for a long time to come. I think, this mom was courageous and loving but firm with her daughter. She didn’t hit her, he’ll at her, or belittle her. She told her the consequences for her behavior and the rules to earn back trust. Good for her! I’d love to know the outcome of this program of consequences! How her behavior changed, and her attitude!
I don't know, finding out why she is acting up like this and taking care of that seems the better course of action than just punishing her and thinking that gets rid of the problem.
how old is the kid? I mean, if she's 6 or something this is pretty harsh, 14/15, not as harsh. but maybe if this girl has some issues, it's a risky game to put her in this situation, it might work and she's scared straight, but if it doesn't, it's just gonna make things worse.
I don't think the Nay Sayers have ever themselves been bullied. It is the most de-moralising thing to ever happen to anyone. The mother in this article was right to have done what she did.
When my daughter was around 12, she got pissed off for not being allowed to do some damn thing (so trivial now, I don't even remember what) and thought it was okay to throw a screaming fit, call me a b***h and slam her bedroom door - not once, but twice. Yep. Off came her bedroom door. For an entire week (this was before cell phones or iPads, btw). She remembered how to respect "The Mommy" real f****n' quick.
This is one of those cases where although I'd usually argue it's the parent's fault for not parenting properly, the punishment not only fits the crime but goes beyond it for preventative measures. It was most certainly the right thing to do as a parent who thinks they've really done a good job raising their kids only to find out they've been influenced to behave like shitheads. GG mom, good one. She'll definitely think twice before behaving like that again
It’s just lame how everyone has to post everything on social media- it’s so very “look at me!! Reinforce meeeee!!” Idk. I don’t get it. I don’t use social media so I have an outsider view it seems very solipsistic. Like why post about your children’s discipline? Why is everything for show and nothing private ? Super weird
1st. Wandering the halls during lunch? I don't see any issue with that, is that some US American B******t again? 2nd. Just because she acts like an a*****e doesn't make her breaking the law or even end up in Jail. This looks like a classical case of US American parents being completely bonkers. Yes apparently she did some bad things, but this punishment just shows that the mother already did a bad job at being a mother. Otherwise she would have found other means.
I'm truly okay with her decision I am 47; so are most rational people; it's okay you have your opinion. Please be respectful it's a digital age; she wasn't "bragging nor humiliating". Her daughter is smart and beautiful ; she shared; why does that offend you? Where are your children? Sucks right?
So you can't hit your kid and you can't not hit your kid but they need to turn out to be normal well adjusted adults? So happy I don't have any, people are crazy.
Good for her. I don't understand people these days that think children are beautiful, open, truthful creatures. There are some kids that are ok. But the vast majority of kids will go as far as they can go. Personally, this one mother rocks and I'd be happy to live beside her. I hope the rest of the helicopter parents and their brood find a nice trailer park so their children can run.
This is the definition of active parenting. She is not insulting the child, or assaulting her, she is adjusting the child's behavior through the very means the child understands. This is quite brilliant if it works. For my kids it would not have worked because they did not have an issue with wearing the same clothes over and over again... in fact, I had to become mean dad to MAKE them change them, but that is for a different post. Good job Mom!
A mom grounded her s****y kid. How is that newsworthy or even Facebook worthy?
Oh! stop trying to justify the girl's bad behavior, seems like in this case; the reason she started acting up and bullying is because she saw that behavior, did it to someone else and got away with it; so she escalated the taunting until it was serious enough to call attention to it, is that simple! She's just pushing social boundaries, many do it but some, are more naturally empathetic so not everyone becomes a bully, I've work with children of all ages for over 20 years, is constantly happening, we would never know unless someone is courageous enough to share it regardless of the judgements, if more parents correct bad behavior on their children; kindness and respect for others would be a guarantee for future generations
My daughter had similar punishments. She would lose belongings and have to earn them back.
This is why kids need to be disciplined. It's nobody's business how she goes about it (minus child abuse obviously) but if this is what it takes to get through to some of these spoiled entitled brats now a days then good for her.
In this case it seems less like her daughter is spoiled though and more like she's ignoring something actually wrong with her kid in favour of only punishing her.
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I generally don't think that punishing teenagers is worth anything. Especially not in public media. This has the opposite effect. One of my kids' teachers once said, "Closed for reconstruction." It means that children at this age would never take advice anyway. My children are now 23 and 21 years old. And all the values I was allowed to teach them in the first 12 years are now there! The reconstruction is completed. I had to endure it as a parent. I had to put up with my kids thinking they knew better. Their cheeky speeches. Your inappropriate tone. Your life defects, which I had warned you about. Bad experiences. My advice, as parents, don't take it personally. It's not an attack on you. It is part of the normal development. And when they are through..... then they usually build on the family values... and are terribly conservative. I think we should trust our children more. And we should also trust that what we have taught our children, family and social values, will never be lost.
Sorry, this is inappropriate english ... of course it is THEIT inappropriate tone. THEIR life failures etc...
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That Facebook post will be there for your daughter's future employers to read. It's not hard to look up first name + last name. This post will live forever. Your daughter's spelling awards did not get posted on Bored Panda; her swimming trophy didn't go viral; this is now literally the most popular piece of information about your daughter on the WORLD WIDE web. Remember the old rule: Praise Is Public; Punishment Is Private. The more of someone's self-esteem you can keep out of the punishment process, the faster the learning will be!
So that’s why children need to understand that their action have consequences... don’t do bad things and everything with be all good. But in this social-media-times we live in now, that’s what is going to happen no matter what.
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I stop reading when I see "I don't usually post this kind of stuff", because those people always post that kind of stuff.
Ha ha!! I'm a product of this style of parenting. I know I would have turned out way WAY worse if some of the things I had done weren't curbed appropriately through a combination of this style of parenting and explanations as to the consequences of my actions. Kids definitely need straightening out in their early ages because the stuff they get exposed to outside of a parents immediate control is bonkers mad and children soak up this stuff like cotton. This, in my opinion, is true of children and parents in any generation.
I mean, shaming usually does inspire change in someone. may be it's harsh but it is often effective. it's only for a week too so.........
we live in a historical period in which the education of children has become a game of tug of war between teachings and conflicting instructions. there are people who are pushed to allow their children to do anything, not to suppress their natural instinct, leading them to raise small Attila. others who are convinced that children should not have rules or limits, but must understand what they can or can not do by discussion and comparison. even in this case the result is null. why is it simple. children do not know where they are and if there are any limits to be respected and they will continue to try to overcome the limits they identify to prove their freedom. children need a strong arm by their side, a parent who can say no, and keep their point of view, even in the face of crying and the screams of the baby, without boredom or tiredness or tenderness to withdraw from this decision. because a no decided by children gives us a certainty that will be pèreziosa great, it will give us a
I agree with this mother's method of punishment. A child needs discipline and most kids don't have any. All this coddling of kids is creating little monsters that grow up to be big monsters. I don't think you need to hit kids to get your point across, but finding a creative way to teach a kid right from wrong it something they absolutely need.
I think that this punishment is unnecessary because it is way too much to take everything away from your own child, even if they earned/bought it themselves. Then posting it on social media takes it to a whole other level. What kind of horrible parent would punish a child so harshly, and the shame them by posting it? First of all, there may be a reason that Hannah may be acting up in her classes. Maybe its something to do with her friends, or somebody is bullying her. If I knew her age, this might be the effect of puberty. Why punish a child if you don't even know the reason they did this?
I think that this mom has taken a drastic approach but perhaps it will instill a sense of responsibility in her wayward daughter. I say this assuming that the child has not suffered trauma or abuse in her life to explain her anti-social behaviour.
To the poster who worries this may cause the child to be bullied for wearing the same ( cleaned ) clothes for a week. It might just teach her not to bully others. Teach her Empathy.
good on the mum!! my daughter when in her teens turned into a brat almost overnight, over an older boy she was trying to impress, she was 13-14 and this "boy" was almost 20! she couldn't see what was wrong with that either, she started skipping school to see him, refusing to come home etc. school wouldn't help as far as they seemed to be concerned as it was happening outside of school, it was nothing to do with them! so i told her that she either gets rid of this boy and start knuckling down at school again or she will be going to live with her Aunt who lives in the middle of nowhere in very rural Scotland, no internet, very basic 4 tv channels, possibly 5 sometimes, they didn;t have satellite or cable tv there either. she refused to leave this boy, so that night after packing her a bag, i drove her the 400 miles to her Aunts house and left her there for almost 3 weeks!! when i went back for her, she was a different kid and hasn't acted up like that again, sometimes being harsh works
This punishment seems exactly what the girl needed also about Her mother putting iT on social media . Im 20 also but I think people my age are to hung up on there phone and social media. This Will be an extra reminder when she has her stuff back not to behalve like that again. I think girl Will learn her lesson now.
The sad thing here is that when Hannah _is_ an adult she might go to jail because of hurting another person's feelings.
I had a friend whose drill sergeant father did the same thing to him. He was going out and his father said "Not until you clean your room." He said "I'll do it later." His father said "Do it now or I will do it for you." He ignored his dad and left. When he returned, the only thing left in his room was his bed, a change of sheets and a blanket, his alarm clock and one change of clothes. Everything else was gone. He thought, I'll just go retrieve my stuff from the dumpster. Nope..dad even took his stuff to the dump. He said after that, when Dad said "Clean your room." the answer was "Yes, sir!"
I'm proud of the mother, sorry if some don't agree but I have put up with seeing a lot of self entitled badly behaved brats and I am sick of it, so good on this mother, she is doing the right things. No one has any right to dictate how she should punish her child for bullying.
Parents should do what they think is best but I strongly suggest explaining that their words might cause the other child to take their life. BE HARSH
Those whiny people who think that shaming a child on social media and punishing it at all is why there are so many little creeps running around out here. And when the real world kicks their brats in the butt, they are offended that We don't offer sympathy.
It devastates me how disrespectful children are these days. When I was growing up....I didn't dare back talk someone older. I was spanked or punished if I did. I appreciate what Mom is doing her. And those of you so quick to criticize....like Jane said....she did not give location, names, photos...I am sure that the "anti's" were just excited to be critical. Things are frightening in this day since I was a child. Kids do what they want and parents are not as strict and punishments not as severe as they use to be it seems....and in a time where understanding consequences of actions is critical. Boy everyone sure loves to judge everyone else. Perhaps those same people should seriously consider what they would do if they found out theirnson or daughter were bullies? And better yet...what would you hope the parents of a child bullying your child would do to discipline their? And yes....considering that the youngest children....CHILDREN...have committed suicide. Imagine having to live with that as a parent that did not seriously punish their bullying child....or if the child of those so judgemental took their life... as we know....Mom...you have my support. there are not enough real consequences for actions these days. I am sure it was not easy doing what you chose to do. As parents we do the best we can. Not everyone will agree or be happy with others decisions. It is hardly your job to keep everyone else happy.
I think she was doing the best she could and all these goody two shoes either have brats for kids or none at all! By making your child see how wrong she was in NOT bulling. What would you have had her do? sit down and say." oh please my dear daughter be nice to your teachers and friends?" ya right I have one neighbor child who helps me. She is beyond a wonderful young lady with good moral and ethics. Guess what her father darn sure dishes out discipline in the form of taking some clothes away, her phone, no TV. I see other kids in town I know the parents think are never wrong no matter what they do! Well those I would not let near my home.
Rock on, Mama! You are doing a GREAT job. Your daughter will be a MUCH better person because she has you for a Mom.
I’m a teacher, a parent, and a grandparent. This is fantastic I believe this mom is sharing her information strictly to benefit others, which it definitely has. It’s a great idea - and those of you who are burying your heads in the sand - bullying is happening every day, in every school, all of the time. Period. Wake up.
I did things like this 40 yrs ago. We removed bedroom doors when they slammed them. They got the corner for other behavior. My oldest was ADHD so I had to come up with some creative things for her. Even before school she would be given punishment for bullying her siblings. Cleaning fingerprints on the sliding doors extra. Things she could reach. Also same for the other ones. I NEVER made a threat that I DIDN'T follow through with. Even in the car. If I said Don't make me pull over, I would if they continued. Yes they got the occasional swat but no more than 3 and always on the diaper. Makes a lot of noise and no pain. The are They
Mom bullying child? Hardly. This is called "con-se-quences" people! This is exactly why kids are so messed up these days. There are no consequences for their unkind, unthoughtful, irresponsible actions. Great job, Mom!
This mother had a very good punishment idea, we need more mothers to take control of bulling, it is a very serious issue. I wonder how many calls the teacher made with no parent response. I hope all teachers contact parents, they may save a life !!!
You cannot be all "touchy, feely, oh my poor child" when they are misbehaving! This mother took the matter to hand and did it right. Those who complain that she was "shaming" her daughter publicly need to reread and relook at the picture in the article. She taught an ungrateful child, who was bullying her "best" friend a real lesson in that what you have can certainly be taken away because of your actions and that you have to EARN them back by improving those actions. Bravo Mom. Way to Go!
This is a nice way to avoid showing her young'un and still making a point that this punishment fits the crime. Nothing here looks like bullying. Parents are put here, not to be a friend, but to be a mentor: to teach, to model behavior. My daughter had a bad habit of acting out in public long past the age when she would be expected to have a tantrum. My solution was simple: when she started yelling at me to buy something for her, I broke into "The Sound of Music"... it took two times. And I had amused looks from other mothers. I'm assuming they were storing the info for later use.
Why post this? I get the punishment but I don't get the public shaming.
I think each & every one of us went through childhood wearing the victim or bullying hat. #1. Remembering Psychology classes, detail discourse re: “psychological displacement” || sometimes The Bullied (victim) can become a Bully. Irrational aggression towards one can be an outlet for more displaced unjust aggression bestowed upon another innocent recipient. #2 what’s clearly wrong in this picture though is there’s no anonymity of the parties involved - highly problematic .#3. Wonder if there’s something else happening? Why bully suddenly one’s own best friend? Perhaps there’s more than what’s detailed in the story? 4. Children have to be dealt with a little differently. But no mother should refer to her young child as an “a**-hole” <~ that’s very revealing! (Just sayin’)
Great story & l interesting alternative approach to non-corporal punishment for teaching life lessons. Yet WHOA! What a hypocritical conundrum! Yikes, what started out as a post shared among friends went viral across Canada & beyond. This is now more a Case-in-Study: bullying & shame & “crime” vs punishment. While I’m sure Amanda of Newfoundland was just sharing among her closed social circle ⭕️. (I hope) Now it’s all viral & everyone knows the names of the parties involved? Yowzer! Horrific! Shame on GlobalNews 🇨🇦 (& perhaps Bored Panda ?) I mean seriously? Can’t you make them anonymous? It’s just not fair as this is going to live on & haunt that lady & her daughter FOREVER. (I hope very much there was NO intention of glory/bragging or fame). Forever The Optimist.
No one knows who the child is as there are no identifying signs on the posting. This woman is right - parents are not disciplining their children for bad behaviour, letting the poor teachers deal with it and the kids are getting away with all sorts of "crimes." This kid will never forget this lesson and hopefully, will teach her own children to behave themselves.
This should not be the first response to the behavior. It would be better to first talk to the child, ask her what was going on and why she was acting that way, and give her a chance to clean up her act, before doing this. Her daughter might not have realized how wrong her treatment of her friend was. Kids have to be taught. Assuming that Amanda had already tried a less punitive approach, I think the punishment itself is reasonable and appropriate. I especially like the fact that the daughter could earn some of her items back with good behavior - a bit of positive reinforcement within a punishment. :) But I also agree that it was wrong to post it on FB. I don't know where they live, but if it's a small town, it won't matter that she refrained from posting videos or giving out her location. People who live in the same town *will know* who Amanda is and who the daughter is, so yes, I believe it amounted to public shaming, however unintended that might have been.
Did anyone stop to ask WHY the child was acting out? Was this a new behavior? I'd certainly want to investigate to get to the bottom of this behavior. Molestation, rape, pending divorce by parents, and other behaviors by adults/children could be a cause.
Child rearing has been run of the rails by liberal ideologs who would rather see children indoctrinated by a misguided system of parenting. Parents are being forced by the PC Police to refrain from traditional discipline in exchange for time-outs and coddling. Holding children accountable for their actions is one of the most important lessons a parent can teach their children. Teaching a child to respect themselves and others happens when the child realizes that they must earn privileges. When things are handed to a child without earning them through acceptable behavior, the child feels entitled and losses respect. The greatest gift a parent can bestow upon their children is love and with that love comes the lesson of responsibility and respect for others and themselves. A child who is raised to work towards a goal of earning privileges will do better in life than a spoiled child who knows no boundaries. Spankings hurt and the pain disappears but the lessons live on.
I actually want to see more parents like that. I work in a school, and bullies deserve that, they don't deserve any sympathy. In my school educators sympathize with them, and the second we started to sympathize with bullies, it was the beginning when we lost our authority and respect as educators.
* The big dumb bully in our class always got away with it and got promoted every year because his mama was a PTA suck-up a*s-kisser but in high school mama's help didn't work and the big dummy had to go to summer school to graduate months after his pals. His high school girlfriend married him but dumped the bum after realizing what a demented spoiled abusive lump he was. :o
As a former teacher, I can tell you that this will have a positiv effect on the kid. Parents are not parenting and many are giving what's left to the teachers which is unfair to the kids and the teachers. Parenting is essential. Teaching respect, compassion, and common courtesy has been missing. That is the lessons this kid will be learning from this. Take back your control as a parent and teach your children well. Get their attention when it's needed and be consistent, talk, interact.
The mother knows her daughter and knows what will work. Good for her. Would like to see a follow up and how it worked.
I find it very strange that it was supposedly this kid's friend who was being bullied. it's usually the bullies and their friends who are bullying other kids who are NOT their friends.
I think that this type of punishment, which I would call discipline, is a good way to teach your kids to behave properly and take responsibility for what they do. Look at Trump. I don't know how that guy was raised, but he behaves as though he's entitled to everything, and he doesn't take responsibility for any decision he makes. It's always other people's fault. Do you want your kids to turn out like him?
Oh, please! Get over it snowflakes!!! This kid deserved this and more!! What if her mother did nothing and it continued until someone got hurt? Then ya’ll would be yelling about her NOT doing anything. One day she and her daughter will laugh about it and that kid will turn out to be a better person and actually consider her actions before doing anything out of the norm. I say, YAY mom!!!
Oh and my boys, 27/23 are indeed better for it. 1 is an advocate for legalizing the growing and production of marijuana and hemp products nation wide as well as graduating with high honors from Jeweler Academy and the other is an environmental engineer with a testing and consulting firm. What you don't know is that I was a single Mother with a degree, 10 yrs in the USArmy and sometimes had to work 2 or 3 jobs to make ends meet. So really, don't judge her posting to get some support and accolades for her parenting. Sometimes we look outside for support when it is hard to come by at home.
So I reviewed about 25 comments about the up and down side of this post. I will chime in with a few that I didn't see. 1. Why is it assumed that this change was sudden? She was made aware of it by the school which means it has become a distracted behavior of a child looking for attention and acting out inappropriately. For all those that feel her approach and subsequent posting was bullying then I ask this...Do you have children? Do you think that this was a knee jerk reaction without merit as a learning experience for the child? Do you think she didn't talk to her child first? Your quick judgement to limited information leads me to believe that you would be a doormat parent. I have done this to my children also. Because sometimes they need to truly be reminded that what they have is a privilege and if they continue on there path of behavior without changing then this is a real outcome later in their lives. You don't Know if this helped her learn to talk about it rather than bully her
And your quick judgement says more about you than her. Creative punishment should always fit the child. I shaved my son's blue hair off. He was allowed to be expressive and individual as long as he kept his grades up. But if he was going to fail in school then loosing the right to be an individual was taken away. If you can't fit into social settings and only care about you, then I am sorry for whatever network you belong to. Caring for yourself is essential, caring about others is vital.
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something is going on with the odd behavior for the girl. Pity that she can't talk to her mother about the cause. If she is doing it to be a brat, then one week of not having everything isn't going to kill her. Maybe a strict parent would get the other girls thinking about what their parents might do to them. It's just ONE WEEK folks...not permanent emotional scaring!
My mother did this exact thing to me when I was little. It was so effective that as an adult, when I misbehave, I now throw my own things out, and earn them back one by one...I’ll get my TV back soon! Thanks mom!
TBH I remember my mother doing something like that to me, but I don’t for the life of me remember what for. I do remember I started acting up in school after my parents were divorced and my home life and sense of security was disrupted. When I look back now, I think my mother was beautiful but had a cruel heart. I wouldn’t ever want to be like her.
Thumbs up for this mother .... she is courageous enough to say NO to the behaviour of her daughter. Bad behaviour has consequences, the sooner a child learns this, the better. We can discuss what is bad behaviour and what not .... but bullying is absolutely not acceptable!! When every parent would react to bullying, more children would be happier in school. You can teach a lot to your child but sometimes they learn only by seeing the consequences. I see the action of this mother not as mean, but give a very clear signal to her daughter!!!
I think this is called terrorirism. When we know that a child needs creativity and understand and AGREE by his own the rules and decline those that are not good for him as a danger ti his own way of being, to his identity we can see the toxic behaviour of this mother. Formatting children creates robots killers and a*s holes. Excuses for the harsh reality but this is the effect on the whole planet just take a look around!
I don't think the mum should have posted this on social media. She should have kept this within the family. I also think she should have had an in depth chat with her daughter to find out if something was bothering her and making her act out. It was not said whether this was a typical week for the girl, or if her behaviour that week was out of the ordinary.
Usually, if a child is acting out and generally being a d-bag, then that child is hurting. Where is the concern for this hurt, establishing a good connection and supporting this child, when clearly this is not a happy child. A child with a good connection to a parent is rarely going to be a turd in the punchbowl.
And MOST of the time..they're just being brats.I love all you people who act like THIS is some terrible punishment.Not compared to what could happen to her if her mother doesn't get this behavior out of her head right now.This isn't some worthless parent...you can tell that..because if she WAS worthless..she'd have complained to the school and let her brat get away with this ugly behavior she thought she wanted to adopt.
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Most kids who bully do it because they’re being bullied elsewhere. A parent who would publicly humiliate a child while aggrandizing her own parenting gives me a solid guess as to who created this bully in the first place. Hint: Punishment doesn’t teach a damn thing, except anger and resentment. Consider discipline, which involves teaching a lesson and modeling appropriate behavior—so basically the opposite of this. Ever read the book Mommie Dearest? Crawford did the same c**p to her kids. They didn’t exactly grow into happy, productive adults.
I agree with taking away toys and fancy clothes but her being treated like she actually is in a prison is horrible. And people wonder why so many kids kill them selves these days.
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I agree with the punishment, but also with the criticism. Keep it in the house, and don't publicize it to the world. It isn't necessary
I think that what this mother did was a good thing in this situation, I just know I would hate it if my mum did this to me
I applaud this mom 100%!!! There is nothing wrong with her method of punishment and experiment! The law doesn't require us parents to lavish our kids with toys, TV, electronics, etc,. Just food, roof over their heads and a bed. Which the beds can be on the floor, a pair of clothes and they can have them in the basement too! Children nowadays have an attitude that they are entitled to so many things when they aren't! Its a privilege to have things like they do and an award. This girl Hannah, I hope, has learned her lesson well. We, as parents don't do this enough. Stop with this " Children's Rights" B******t!! They are guests the home and guests aren't entitled, are they?? No! So, get off your guys' high freakin horse and give this mom an applause! I bet it was alot of work and also the mom didn't want to do this, but she knew her daughter would learn her lesson about her behavior and bullying! Way to go Mom!!
With a fascist mother like that, I'm not surprised she behaves badly! The mother writes a long post about how her daughter behaves at school??? WTF! Can you be more insensitive? Why not look at WHY your daughter is bullying instead? But then some of your own issues will come to the surface and you don't want that do you... Parents are responsible for children. So if a child is "mis-behaving" then it's because there is a problem in the relationship with the parents. It's not the child's fault! It's ALWAYS the parents "fault" (responsibility) until the child grows up. But the parents don't want to see that, do they :-/ Oh no, that's too scary.... So they blame the child. And it goes on and on, from generation to generation... :-(
I just hope she actually had some talk with her daughter. Bullies behave like that usually because of their own problems, and who knows what happened or bother her daughter. What should be the result of this so called "punishment"? After such a ridiculous reaction, I don't think her daughter will seek for her mother to talk if she will feel bad, stressed or something. And one note ... she wrote about her daughter being an "as*****" ... she put it publicly and now it's viral. Her own mother think this about her own daughter. Great. Good parenting ...
Most bullies are in some sort of emotional or psychological trouble.... better to find a way to understand what is going on with her child. Who is the bully in this family? Get some family support and together try to understand what is the need for this girl to take out her rage and impotence on others?
Punishing a bad child is great, excellent parenting. Sharing it with the world is grade-A bullying. The parent's hypocrisy is breathtaking.
I have a question though. Did the mother sit down with her child and ask about why she did that and tell her its wrong to do so and tell her how dissapointed she is with her? If the mother just go straight to punishment without gave an explanation to her child, won't make the daughter understand what she did wrong and only made her questioning why she deserve to have this kind of punishment.
Good on her. if parents don't discipline them from a young age when is this child going to learn? they will grow up to be an even more a*****e adult. Positive bs doesn't always work, i myself was physically beaten up to curb my behavior. Not saying this is right but im not scarred from it either. However, I know it worked because I was praised at school and collage for my well behavior and manners towards teachers and everyone else. IF my mother had just left me run wild as i wanted and never taught me to be courteous who knows where i would be today.
Using non-physical punishment, and taking an active part in raising your child is all well and good, but consider the fact that bullying comes from somewhere. It's either a learned behavior (from peers, family or role models), an outlet of stress in someone without the maturity to know better, or the child's personality. If it's the last one, go ahead and jump to discipline, but make sure to rule out the first two. It's a good idea to try to find out what is going on in the kid's head that is making her act this way. Are her friends doing it? Is she frustrated about some aspect of her life? Sometimes acting out and bullying can even be a sign that the child is being abused by someone. Maybe she's just always been an outspoken and stubborn kid and needs to learn to treat her teachers and peers respectfully, but if she's suddenly acting out, it's a really good idea to figure out what is bothering her instead of jumping to punishment.
I'm with the people saying that she seems to be looking for attention and validation by putting it on social media, and I think that's shameful. I can't really speak on whether or not she's doing the right thing for her kid - I'm not having any children because I don't think I would be able to make good decisions in child-rearing.
Eh, I take that last bit back. I think this is definitely a punishment, but one that neither teaches anything nor actually hits the root of the problem.
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I don't have any problems with the punishment but what good does it do to shame the kid to EVERYONE you know? Letting your kid know that you have that little respect for them seems like it could cause trust issues in the future. And the way other people raise their kids wouldn't be any of my business if the mom hadn't made it EVERYBODY's business.
I like the punishment, I probably wouldn't make her wear the same pants every day, and I def don't think she should have put it on social media.
My only opinion on this surprisingly thoughtful and inventive form of punishment. Negative reinforcement is when you take something away from someone such as liberty is property. Positive reinforcement is when you give something to somebody such as praise or pain. This is a combination of negative reinforce and positive reinforcement in that the mother took away the girl's possessions and then gradually gave them back in return for good behavior or as a reward for completing other tasks of positive reinforcement (writing lines and doing chores). I'm not here to criticise somebody's parenting choices, but every now and then it pleases me to remember what I learned when I studied psychology.
Good on that mother. She's teaching her daughter a valuable lesson! I'm with her all the way!
She (mother) did great! Look, it is simple as this - kids have only two things: rights and privileges. Every kid has a damn right not to be hungry, but it's a privilege to eat snacks, candies, fast-foods. Every kid has a damn right be dressed, but it's a privilege to wear brand fashion clothes. Every kid has a damn right to privacy and personal space, but it's a privilege to fill it with internet, gadgets, games etc. You don't "punish" your kid if it does something bad. Kid just loses privileges it has. Those are consequences of it's behaviour. Our adult world work this way. What she did is fantastic! Kid had privileges, and prove that those privileges are bad to her. So now she has to work hard to change herself and regain privileges previously own. Fantastic parenting!
The people who think what she's doing is wrong are what's wrong with parenting these days. You are the adult, not the child's bestie. They don 't have to like you, but they are supposed to respect you. You make a child responsible and accept responsibility for their actions so they can grow up and be a civilized adult.
my mum did this to me but when i came to her two days later with a heavy heart and apologized sincerely for doing wrong she knew that i was serious and truly sorry so the punishment stopped. discipline your kids but dont be cruel
I agree with what she did, but I don't understand why she feels everyone needs to know about it.
I did something similar to my kids at different times. GOOD JOB MOM! Thank you for correcting your child's behavior instead of enabling her and turning her into an a*****e adult!
I think the punishment is fine. But posting it on social media, not even nearly.
This sort of punishment, i.e. shaming and treating the kid like a prison inmate is absolutely inappropriate and imo worrying, especially for a child this young and for the kind of offense. There are surely much better options to show her daughter that this sort of behaviour won't be accepted. Kids used to get grounded when I was young. Also, there might be a reason she suddenly acted up at school. The parents ought to find out what that might be instead of treating the symptoms in such a radical way.
How is this punishment 'harsh'? Did Mom hit her child? Was there awful and demeaning words spoken to this kid? Did Mom shoot up her computer (remember that incident from a few years back and that kid was only disrespectful to her parents)? I've seen parents put their kid on a street corner with a totally degrading sign about why they were there. Remember that shaming FB post from a mother whose 12 year daughter was posting cringe-worthy pictures with a bottle of vodka? This kid got off easy. All you see in Amanda Mitchell's photos are a bare room and an empty closet. "But she should have gotten to the root of all this bad behavior, instead of publicly airing family dirty laundry!" some say. I have a feeling that she did and when that little jerk denied responsibility and tried shifted blame on someone else, Amanda Mitchell decided to be a parent and not her daughter's BFF. Most kids never ever consider consequences and that's why they do and say really stupid & s**** things.
Children need to be disciplined when they do wrong. All to often they get away with things that are unacceptable because they know there are few consequences for their actions. Too many bleeding heart liberals being soft on their kids.
I totally approve. The only problem I have is with the writing of the phrases. I think it could cause the child to associate negatively with handwriting, which would be a shame. Depending on the age, maybe she could do something like draw pictures of being nice to friends and being respectful to teachers or take extra tasks at school to be helpful.
This mom is actually doing right by her daughter!! This will teach her to think before she acts. IT WILL serve her well in the long run. Additionally, I would much rather see a mother being proactive rather than lazy parenting which I see too often! Also, any time a parent meets out such punishment, it is ALWAYS a punishment the parents must endure as Well! It is always FAR easier to ignore the behavior or make excuses for it (most parents today) than to engage in punishment!! She is being a responsible mother!!
So you disagree with punishing children in any form for misbehaving? I don't understand.
Load More Replies... This is bullying? Only in the west is not having access to all of your splendid wardrobe and all of your toys (while still being properly fed and cared for) considered too harsh a punishment, haha. I can't tell you how many times when I'm out and about I want to slap the s**t out of the parents because of their little misbehaving a******s. This mom is demanding her child treat people with respect (she could not make it more clear to the child WHY the punishment is what it is) and the girl is responding to it, yet people still b***h. I'm pretty sure I know how the children of those people behave...
My comment is to Jurgen Shantz, but for some reason it won't let reply directly to him. Europe and Australia are also considered to be Western Cultures. They aren't using "west" to refer to a geographical location.
Load More Replies... Actually, I did something very similar to my son who was about 8 or 9. He's 38 now so no social media around then admittedly. We took every single toy, everything, out of his room, he got it back a month later. This was punishment for sheep worrying. We lived in a training barracks near Newcastle, it was an old RAF place complete with airfield. The whole area was surrounded by fields with sheep and cattle. He and his friend decided it would be fun to go into one of the fields and chase the sheep, they were just after lambing at the time. As it happened my husband's Commanding Officer saw them from his staff car and called my husband in to tell him, he gave my hub a severe telling off. So the toys went out, no treats, no outings, no TV, nothing that he would enjoy. He was told what his actions could have done to the sheep and lambs in no uncertain terms, we frightened him. I wouldn't care what other parents would think of me if I had said to anybody, probably like this mum.
I did something like this to my son, and he is 29 now. Like you said, no social media back then and no drama or other opinions surrounding it.
Load More Replies... Once, my mom looked me straight in the eyes and told me she was really, really disappointed in me. Once; that's all it took, because I knew that everything she's ever given me and done for me was a gift of her own time, will and effort, and I would always owe her for that. However I understand not all children are as grateful and understanding of this arrangement, and I think taking it all away to show them what life without support feels like, is a good lesson to someone who is being so unsupportive and disrespectful to others.
For me, it was my dad. My mother used to beat, insult and humiliate me for the stupidest of reasons. I grew up to be afraid of her and hide. My father, however, a military man and a very calm and patient one, took me aside one day. I was skipping school. All it took for him was to ask me if I think that I was doing the right thing, and that he was disappointed in me. I never felt more ashamed, humbled and respectful. He never laid a hand on me or raised his voice. I never skipped school after, and I will remember that lesson until the day I die.
Load More Replies... I am more concerned with why a child would be found wondering the halls twice in a week when she should be in class? Lying, disruptive etc , this all sounds sudden which may mean something is very wrong, punishment be damned find out why she seems to have changef.
It's usually an effect of friends and or bullying. It happens to kids. Some kids who get bullied often react and bully others who seem weak to them. We can't judge the parent though, she knows her kids more than us
Load More Replies... I agree with the idea. Doesn't do any harm beyond making her bored. Just wish she hadn't posted it so publicly. That makes it more about her getting pats on the back for parenting than anything. Plus, especially since she named her daughter publicly, she is potentially setting up her daughter to be bullied both at school and online.
her daughter is the bully, not her mother. this is the true act of a parent simply taking away all of a child's privileges & things as nearly all youngster simply take for granted their parental provided pleasantries & entertainment, etc.. nothing about her mother's actions are in any way setting her daughter up for being bullied , but to simply learn that her actions that her consequences. perhaps your of a younger, newer, social media type generation. this is actually a very necessary step universally for all young to coming of age, it never changes as it teaches the difference that one's words & actions hold meanings beyond into one's future.
Load More Replies... This is ridiculously stupid. So what does she learn? That is someone does bad things you take everything away from them? So the next time at school someone does something bad she will take there stuff and say "by it's what mommy does". Why not find out the cause, why is she acting out, why is she wondering the corridor etc??? Is it possible the teacher was mean, or maybe she's having problems at home. All this does is isolate her...it makes her learn to conform but to trust people less. It doesn't make her think about her problems, or feel like she's got someone to go to, or feel like anyone understands her. Either she will become very distant or she'll gradually get worse in acting up. After all, what will happen next...the clothes on her back taken away? Made to sleep outside? This is a very good example of bullying and bully.
That is such BS! There doesn't have to be an underlying reason a kid is acting like an a**hole and punishing them for it is not bullying; calling this mom a bully is bullying. She wrote that her kid was in the hall during lunch. Anyone that actually has kids or knows how the schools work know that teachers no longer sit with their classes during lunch. Normally, there are just a few adults monitoring the entire lunchroom; that's a lot of kids to try to keep track of. Everyone thinks that talking to kids that misbehave is the answer. For some kids, that works; for most kids, it doesn't.
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Don't YOU remember what a pile of emotions you were at that age??It CAN come out of nowhere and good thing this is a mother that isn't letting her get away with it.
Load More Replies... What concerns me deeply about this story is Why the daughter appears to suddenly become a bully that week. That type of behavioural change should be checked out before punishment is metered out. Often a child's behaviour can stem from themselves being bullied, or struggling to understand a school topic and getting stressed etc. A child does not normally suddenly bully their best friend. If this is the case then I sincerely hope that the daughter will find a Sympathetic teacher she can talk to as from the look of this, her mother isn't very approachable or understanding.
It wasn’t “suddenly that week”, it had been happening over time- skipping class, lying about her teacher... and probably other things not mentioned. I speech from personal experience with my own family.
Load More Replies... Why should anyone share this on social media? What's wrong with these people?? Some sort of not-enough-attention-syndrome maybe...
So it’s ok to share photos of your food, your travel experience, your family events... but you draw the line on your parenting skills of your children- either good or bad? Interesting...
Load More Replies... Okay, first off - why tell the Internet, I really do see a bit of a show-off here. And secondly I don't like the superficial way it was done (or maybe there was left out content). Did she have a talk with her kid? Did she just believe the teachers only? I don't know but it sounded like it wasn't the normal behaviour of her (she's been acting up all week etc) - so why the change/the more extreme behaviour than usual - is there a reason (there prob is). In my humble opinion getting into contact with the kid, seeing it as even and trying to figur out the picture he/she is seeing, her mind and her processes. Punishment is not the go-to i think. Of course its healthy showing her that her actions have consequences. Make up scenarios on how it could effect the life of others (the friend she picked on) - how far is she able to engage and think about her actions. Sorry for the novel I wrote but I really wasn't happy with how the mother was handling the whole thing.. Although parenting isn't a picnic and there's no real recipe for it :/
We walked past a mom yesterday whose 4/5 year old had completely refused, repeatedly, to put his shoes back on - so she was making him walk barefoot and naturally he was unhappy about it. My 9 year old said why is she DOING that to him? And I responded because he wouldn't put his damn shoes on and I'd do the same to you. She laid her head against me and chuckled, and said I know you would - and that's why I would put them on the next time. I totally high fived myself, inside, and her outside!
Children nowadays are so mollycoddled, it's bananas. I think this lady did a great job. Children need discipline and she disciplined. It's not publicly shaming her or, even stupider, bullying her. She didn't say her name or provide a picture of her daughter. Children who are treated like they're made of rice paper and ever so fragile, are in danger of turning into an entitled brat.
I don't have children, so maybe it's a naive question, but why isn't the mother interested in the reasons of her daughters behaviour? I wanted to know a motive, but there was only insulting and punishing the daughter. That's no how the justice system works!
Unfortunately, that *is* how the justice system works in many cases. But it shouldn't.
Load More Replies... It's one thing to teach your child a lesson, it's another to post it online so you can gain attention, and thus ruin your child's reputation as well. Things that are posted on the internet are forever, and now there's a viral picture floating around on the internet of something negative that this child did. What a "great" mom.
I feel like I understand why Hannah feels the need to lash out. Not having a go at the punishment as such, but the need to share it only makes her seem narcissistic and a crappy mother if she's so happy to repeatedly call her 9 year old child an a*****e. Seems to me like the kid is learning that behaviour somewhere...
why & how can many just instantly assume that there were no discussions at all between the parents the child trying to understand just what was going on with her - it's simply a complete unknown factor & matters not. we should judge not, lest we ourselves be judged.
Load More Replies... I'm not very enthusiastic about this punishment but at least there are some consequences for the girls actions. So, so many times parents ill just excuse any behaviour, especially of their sons, saying 'Oh, boys will be boys'. And after years of that, they learn they can get away with more or less anything.
I'm almost 54 and I wish I'd had positive reinforcement as a child. All my Brothers and I got when we played up was a hiding (either a belt or broom was used) and banned from going to the movies with the family Saturday night.
In no way did this mom shame her DTV. Publicly. She just showed her room and what would be done and how. She is being a bully. Well, she will get that out of her head right away, and that she, isn’t entitled to anything, except food, a roof over her head, clean clothes and a safe place to sleep. Her mother isn’t abusing her in any way, shape or form! The dtr, needs to re earn mo s trust that she can be counted on to behave properly, kindly and follow school rules. If she is bullied once or twice for wearing the same outfit, then she will know how it feels to be bullied, a very important lesson to be learned! That lesson will stay with her for a long time to come. I think, this mom was courageous and loving but firm with her daughter. She didn’t hit her, he’ll at her, or belittle her. She told her the consequences for her behavior and the rules to earn back trust. Good for her! I’d love to know the outcome of this program of consequences! How her behavior changed, and her attitude!
I don't know, finding out why she is acting up like this and taking care of that seems the better course of action than just punishing her and thinking that gets rid of the problem.
how old is the kid? I mean, if she's 6 or something this is pretty harsh, 14/15, not as harsh. but maybe if this girl has some issues, it's a risky game to put her in this situation, it might work and she's scared straight, but if it doesn't, it's just gonna make things worse.
I don't think the Nay Sayers have ever themselves been bullied. It is the most de-moralising thing to ever happen to anyone. The mother in this article was right to have done what she did.
When my daughter was around 12, she got pissed off for not being allowed to do some damn thing (so trivial now, I don't even remember what) and thought it was okay to throw a screaming fit, call me a b***h and slam her bedroom door - not once, but twice. Yep. Off came her bedroom door. For an entire week (this was before cell phones or iPads, btw). She remembered how to respect "The Mommy" real f****n' quick.
This is one of those cases where although I'd usually argue it's the parent's fault for not parenting properly, the punishment not only fits the crime but goes beyond it for preventative measures. It was most certainly the right thing to do as a parent who thinks they've really done a good job raising their kids only to find out they've been influenced to behave like shitheads. GG mom, good one. She'll definitely think twice before behaving like that again
It’s just lame how everyone has to post everything on social media- it’s so very “look at me!! Reinforce meeeee!!” Idk. I don’t get it. I don’t use social media so I have an outsider view it seems very solipsistic. Like why post about your children’s discipline? Why is everything for show and nothing private ? Super weird
1st. Wandering the halls during lunch? I don't see any issue with that, is that some US American B******t again? 2nd. Just because she acts like an a*****e doesn't make her breaking the law or even end up in Jail. This looks like a classical case of US American parents being completely bonkers. Yes apparently she did some bad things, but this punishment just shows that the mother already did a bad job at being a mother. Otherwise she would have found other means.
I'm truly okay with her decision I am 47; so are most rational people; it's okay you have your opinion. Please be respectful it's a digital age; she wasn't "bragging nor humiliating". Her daughter is smart and beautiful ; she shared; why does that offend you? Where are your children? Sucks right?
So you can't hit your kid and you can't not hit your kid but they need to turn out to be normal well adjusted adults? So happy I don't have any, people are crazy.
Good for her. I don't understand people these days that think children are beautiful, open, truthful creatures. There are some kids that are ok. But the vast majority of kids will go as far as they can go. Personally, this one mother rocks and I'd be happy to live beside her. I hope the rest of the helicopter parents and their brood find a nice trailer park so their children can run.
This is the definition of active parenting. She is not insulting the child, or assaulting her, she is adjusting the child's behavior through the very means the child understands. This is quite brilliant if it works. For my kids it would not have worked because they did not have an issue with wearing the same clothes over and over again... in fact, I had to become mean dad to MAKE them change them, but that is for a different post. Good job Mom!
A mom grounded her s****y kid. How is that newsworthy or even Facebook worthy?
Oh! stop trying to justify the girl's bad behavior, seems like in this case; the reason she started acting up and bullying is because she saw that behavior, did it to someone else and got away with it; so she escalated the taunting until it was serious enough to call attention to it, is that simple! She's just pushing social boundaries, many do it but some, are more naturally empathetic so not everyone becomes a bully, I've work with children of all ages for over 20 years, is constantly happening, we would never know unless someone is courageous enough to share it regardless of the judgements, if more parents correct bad behavior on their children; kindness and respect for others would be a guarantee for future generations
My daughter had similar punishments. She would lose belongings and have to earn them back.
This is why kids need to be disciplined. It's nobody's business how she goes about it (minus child abuse obviously) but if this is what it takes to get through to some of these spoiled entitled brats now a days then good for her.
In this case it seems less like her daughter is spoiled though and more like she's ignoring something actually wrong with her kid in favour of only punishing her.
Load More Replies... I generally don't think that punishing teenagers is worth anything. Especially not in public media. This has the opposite effect. One of my kids' teachers once said, "Closed for reconstruction." It means that children at this age would never take advice anyway. My children are now 23 and 21 years old. And all the values I was allowed to teach them in the first 12 years are now there! The reconstruction is completed. I had to endure it as a parent. I had to put up with my kids thinking they knew better. Their cheeky speeches. Your inappropriate tone. Your life defects, which I had warned you about. Bad experiences. My advice, as parents, don't take it personally. It's not an attack on you. It is part of the normal development. And when they are through..... then they usually build on the family values... and are terribly conservative. I think we should trust our children more. And we should also trust that what we have taught our children, family and social values, will never be lost.
Sorry, this is inappropriate english ... of course it is THEIT inappropriate tone. THEIR life failures etc...
Load More Replies... That Facebook post will be there for your daughter's future employers to read. It's not hard to look up first name + last name. This post will live forever. Your daughter's spelling awards did not get posted on Bored Panda; her swimming trophy didn't go viral; this is now literally the most popular piece of information about your daughter on the WORLD WIDE web. Remember the old rule: Praise Is Public; Punishment Is Private. The more of someone's self-esteem you can keep out of the punishment process, the faster the learning will be!
So that’s why children need to understand that their action have consequences... don’t do bad things and everything with be all good. But in this social-media-times we live in now, that’s what is going to happen no matter what.
Load More Replies... I stop reading when I see "I don't usually post this kind of stuff", because those people always post that kind of stuff.
Ha ha!! I'm a product of this style of parenting. I know I would have turned out way WAY worse if some of the things I had done weren't curbed appropriately through a combination of this style of parenting and explanations as to the consequences of my actions. Kids definitely need straightening out in their early ages because the stuff they get exposed to outside of a parents immediate control is bonkers mad and children soak up this stuff like cotton. This, in my opinion, is true of children and parents in any generation.
I mean, shaming usually does inspire change in someone. may be it's harsh but it is often effective. it's only for a week too so.........
we live in a historical period in which the education of children has become a game of tug of war between teachings and conflicting instructions. there are people who are pushed to allow their children to do anything, not to suppress their natural instinct, leading them to raise small Attila. others who are convinced that children should not have rules or limits, but must understand what they can or can not do by discussion and comparison. even in this case the result is null. why is it simple. children do not know where they are and if there are any limits to be respected and they will continue to try to overcome the limits they identify to prove their freedom. children need a strong arm by their side, a parent who can say no, and keep their point of view, even in the face of crying and the screams of the baby, without boredom or tiredness or tenderness to withdraw from this decision. because a no decided by children gives us a certainty that will be pèreziosa great, it will give us a
I agree with this mother's method of punishment. A child needs discipline and most kids don't have any. All this coddling of kids is creating little monsters that grow up to be big monsters. I don't think you need to hit kids to get your point across, but finding a creative way to teach a kid right from wrong it something they absolutely need.
I think that this punishment is unnecessary because it is way too much to take everything away from your own child, even if they earned/bought it themselves. Then posting it on social media takes it to a whole other level. What kind of horrible parent would punish a child so harshly, and the shame them by posting it? First of all, there may be a reason that Hannah may be acting up in her classes. Maybe its something to do with her friends, or somebody is bullying her. If I knew her age, this might be the effect of puberty. Why punish a child if you don't even know the reason they did this?
I think that this mom has taken a drastic approach but perhaps it will instill a sense of responsibility in her wayward daughter. I say this assuming that the child has not suffered trauma or abuse in her life to explain her anti-social behaviour.
To the poster who worries this may cause the child to be bullied for wearing the same ( cleaned ) clothes for a week. It might just teach her not to bully others. Teach her Empathy.
good on the mum!! my daughter when in her teens turned into a brat almost overnight, over an older boy she was trying to impress, she was 13-14 and this "boy" was almost 20! she couldn't see what was wrong with that either, she started skipping school to see him, refusing to come home etc. school wouldn't help as far as they seemed to be concerned as it was happening outside of school, it was nothing to do with them! so i told her that she either gets rid of this boy and start knuckling down at school again or she will be going to live with her Aunt who lives in the middle of nowhere in very rural Scotland, no internet, very basic 4 tv channels, possibly 5 sometimes, they didn;t have satellite or cable tv there either. she refused to leave this boy, so that night after packing her a bag, i drove her the 400 miles to her Aunts house and left her there for almost 3 weeks!! when i went back for her, she was a different kid and hasn't acted up like that again, sometimes being harsh works
This punishment seems exactly what the girl needed also about Her mother putting iT on social media . Im 20 also but I think people my age are to hung up on there phone and social media. This Will be an extra reminder when she has her stuff back not to behalve like that again. I think girl Will learn her lesson now.
The sad thing here is that when Hannah _is_ an adult she might go to jail because of hurting another person's feelings.
I had a friend whose drill sergeant father did the same thing to him. He was going out and his father said "Not until you clean your room." He said "I'll do it later." His father said "Do it now or I will do it for you." He ignored his dad and left. When he returned, the only thing left in his room was his bed, a change of sheets and a blanket, his alarm clock and one change of clothes. Everything else was gone. He thought, I'll just go retrieve my stuff from the dumpster. Nope..dad even took his stuff to the dump. He said after that, when Dad said "Clean your room." the answer was "Yes, sir!"
I'm proud of the mother, sorry if some don't agree but I have put up with seeing a lot of self entitled badly behaved brats and I am sick of it, so good on this mother, she is doing the right things. No one has any right to dictate how she should punish her child for bullying.
Parents should do what they think is best but I strongly suggest explaining that their words might cause the other child to take their life. BE HARSH
Those whiny people who think that shaming a child on social media and punishing it at all is why there are so many little creeps running around out here. And when the real world kicks their brats in the butt, they are offended that We don't offer sympathy.
It devastates me how disrespectful children are these days. When I was growing up....I didn't dare back talk someone older. I was spanked or punished if I did. I appreciate what Mom is doing her. And those of you so quick to criticize....like Jane said....she did not give location, names, photos...I am sure that the "anti's" were just excited to be critical. Things are frightening in this day since I was a child. Kids do what they want and parents are not as strict and punishments not as severe as they use to be it seems....and in a time where understanding consequences of actions is critical. Boy everyone sure loves to judge everyone else. Perhaps those same people should seriously consider what they would do if they found out theirnson or daughter were bullies? And better yet...what would you hope the parents of a child bullying your child would do to discipline their? And yes....considering that the youngest children....CHILDREN...have committed suicide. Imagine having to live with that as a parent that did not seriously punish their bullying child....or if the child of those so judgemental took their life... as we know....Mom...you have my support. there are not enough real consequences for actions these days. I am sure it was not easy doing what you chose to do. As parents we do the best we can. Not everyone will agree or be happy with others decisions. It is hardly your job to keep everyone else happy.
I think she was doing the best she could and all these goody two shoes either have brats for kids or none at all! By making your child see how wrong she was in NOT bulling. What would you have had her do? sit down and say." oh please my dear daughter be nice to your teachers and friends?" ya right I have one neighbor child who helps me. She is beyond a wonderful young lady with good moral and ethics. Guess what her father darn sure dishes out discipline in the form of taking some clothes away, her phone, no TV. I see other kids in town I know the parents think are never wrong no matter what they do! Well those I would not let near my home.
Rock on, Mama! You are doing a GREAT job. Your daughter will be a MUCH better person because she has you for a Mom.
I’m a teacher, a parent, and a grandparent. This is fantastic I believe this mom is sharing her information strictly to benefit others, which it definitely has. It’s a great idea - and those of you who are burying your heads in the sand - bullying is happening every day, in every school, all of the time. Period. Wake up.
I did things like this 40 yrs ago. We removed bedroom doors when they slammed them. They got the corner for other behavior. My oldest was ADHD so I had to come up with some creative things for her. Even before school she would be given punishment for bullying her siblings. Cleaning fingerprints on the sliding doors extra. Things she could reach. Also same for the other ones. I NEVER made a threat that I DIDN'T follow through with. Even in the car. If I said Don't make me pull over, I would if they continued. Yes they got the occasional swat but no more than 3 and always on the diaper. Makes a lot of noise and no pain. The are They
Mom bullying child? Hardly. This is called "con-se-quences" people! This is exactly why kids are so messed up these days. There are no consequences for their unkind, unthoughtful, irresponsible actions. Great job, Mom!
This mother had a very good punishment idea, we need more mothers to take control of bulling, it is a very serious issue. I wonder how many calls the teacher made with no parent response. I hope all teachers contact parents, they may save a life !!!
You cannot be all "touchy, feely, oh my poor child" when they are misbehaving! This mother took the matter to hand and did it right. Those who complain that she was "shaming" her daughter publicly need to reread and relook at the picture in the article. She taught an ungrateful child, who was bullying her "best" friend a real lesson in that what you have can certainly be taken away because of your actions and that you have to EARN them back by improving those actions. Bravo Mom. Way to Go!
This is a nice way to avoid showing her young'un and still making a point that this punishment fits the crime. Nothing here looks like bullying. Parents are put here, not to be a friend, but to be a mentor: to teach, to model behavior. My daughter had a bad habit of acting out in public long past the age when she would be expected to have a tantrum. My solution was simple: when she started yelling at me to buy something for her, I broke into "The Sound of Music"... it took two times. And I had amused looks from other mothers. I'm assuming they were storing the info for later use.
Why post this? I get the punishment but I don't get the public shaming.
I think each & every one of us went through childhood wearing the victim or bullying hat. #1. Remembering Psychology classes, detail discourse re: “psychological displacement” || sometimes The Bullied (victim) can become a Bully. Irrational aggression towards one can be an outlet for more displaced unjust aggression bestowed upon another innocent recipient. #2 what’s clearly wrong in this picture though is there’s no anonymity of the parties involved - highly problematic .#3. Wonder if there’s something else happening? Why bully suddenly one’s own best friend? Perhaps there’s more than what’s detailed in the story? 4. Children have to be dealt with a little differently. But no mother should refer to her young child as an “a**-hole” <~ that’s very revealing! (Just sayin’)
Great story & l interesting alternative approach to non-corporal punishment for teaching life lessons. Yet WHOA! What a hypocritical conundrum! Yikes, what started out as a post shared among friends went viral across Canada & beyond. This is now more a Case-in-Study: bullying & shame & “crime” vs punishment. While I’m sure Amanda of Newfoundland was just sharing among her closed social circle ⭕️. (I hope) Now it’s all viral & everyone knows the names of the parties involved? Yowzer! Horrific! Shame on GlobalNews 🇨🇦 (& perhaps Bored Panda ?) I mean seriously? Can’t you make them anonymous? It’s just not fair as this is going to live on & haunt that lady & her daughter FOREVER. (I hope very much there was NO intention of glory/bragging or fame). Forever The Optimist.
No one knows who the child is as there are no identifying signs on the posting. This woman is right - parents are not disciplining their children for bad behaviour, letting the poor teachers deal with it and the kids are getting away with all sorts of "crimes." This kid will never forget this lesson and hopefully, will teach her own children to behave themselves.
This should not be the first response to the behavior. It would be better to first talk to the child, ask her what was going on and why she was acting that way, and give her a chance to clean up her act, before doing this. Her daughter might not have realized how wrong her treatment of her friend was. Kids have to be taught. Assuming that Amanda had already tried a less punitive approach, I think the punishment itself is reasonable and appropriate. I especially like the fact that the daughter could earn some of her items back with good behavior - a bit of positive reinforcement within a punishment. :) But I also agree that it was wrong to post it on FB. I don't know where they live, but if it's a small town, it won't matter that she refrained from posting videos or giving out her location. People who live in the same town *will know* who Amanda is and who the daughter is, so yes, I believe it amounted to public shaming, however unintended that might have been.
Did anyone stop to ask WHY the child was acting out? Was this a new behavior? I'd certainly want to investigate to get to the bottom of this behavior. Molestation, rape, pending divorce by parents, and other behaviors by adults/children could be a cause.
Child rearing has been run of the rails by liberal ideologs who would rather see children indoctrinated by a misguided system of parenting. Parents are being forced by the PC Police to refrain from traditional discipline in exchange for time-outs and coddling. Holding children accountable for their actions is one of the most important lessons a parent can teach their children. Teaching a child to respect themselves and others happens when the child realizes that they must earn privileges. When things are handed to a child without earning them through acceptable behavior, the child feels entitled and losses respect. The greatest gift a parent can bestow upon their children is love and with that love comes the lesson of responsibility and respect for others and themselves. A child who is raised to work towards a goal of earning privileges will do better in life than a spoiled child who knows no boundaries. Spankings hurt and the pain disappears but the lessons live on.
I actually want to see more parents like that. I work in a school, and bullies deserve that, they don't deserve any sympathy. In my school educators sympathize with them, and the second we started to sympathize with bullies, it was the beginning when we lost our authority and respect as educators.
* The big dumb bully in our class always got away with it and got promoted every year because his mama was a PTA suck-up a*s-kisser but in high school mama's help didn't work and the big dummy had to go to summer school to graduate months after his pals. His high school girlfriend married him but dumped the bum after realizing what a demented spoiled abusive lump he was. :o
As a former teacher, I can tell you that this will have a positiv effect on the kid. Parents are not parenting and many are giving what's left to the teachers which is unfair to the kids and the teachers. Parenting is essential. Teaching respect, compassion, and common courtesy has been missing. That is the lessons this kid will be learning from this. Take back your control as a parent and teach your children well. Get their attention when it's needed and be consistent, talk, interact.
The mother knows her daughter and knows what will work. Good for her. Would like to see a follow up and how it worked.
I find it very strange that it was supposedly this kid's friend who was being bullied. it's usually the bullies and their friends who are bullying other kids who are NOT their friends.
I think that this type of punishment, which I would call discipline, is a good way to teach your kids to behave properly and take responsibility for what they do. Look at Trump. I don't know how that guy was raised, but he behaves as though he's entitled to everything, and he doesn't take responsibility for any decision he makes. It's always other people's fault. Do you want your kids to turn out like him?
Oh, please! Get over it snowflakes!!! This kid deserved this and more!! What if her mother did nothing and it continued until someone got hurt? Then ya’ll would be yelling about her NOT doing anything. One day she and her daughter will laugh about it and that kid will turn out to be a better person and actually consider her actions before doing anything out of the norm. I say, YAY mom!!!
Oh and my boys, 27/23 are indeed better for it. 1 is an advocate for legalizing the growing and production of marijuana and hemp products nation wide as well as graduating with high honors from Jeweler Academy and the other is an environmental engineer with a testing and consulting firm. What you don't know is that I was a single Mother with a degree, 10 yrs in the USArmy and sometimes had to work 2 or 3 jobs to make ends meet. So really, don't judge her posting to get some support and accolades for her parenting. Sometimes we look outside for support when it is hard to come by at home.
So I reviewed about 25 comments about the up and down side of this post. I will chime in with a few that I didn't see. 1. Why is it assumed that this change was sudden? She was made aware of it by the school which means it has become a distracted behavior of a child looking for attention and acting out inappropriately. For all those that feel her approach and subsequent posting was bullying then I ask this...Do you have children? Do you think that this was a knee jerk reaction without merit as a learning experience for the child? Do you think she didn't talk to her child first? Your quick judgement to limited information leads me to believe that you would be a doormat parent. I have done this to my children also. Because sometimes they need to truly be reminded that what they have is a privilege and if they continue on there path of behavior without changing then this is a real outcome later in their lives. You don't Know if this helped her learn to talk about it rather than bully her
And your quick judgement says more about you than her. Creative punishment should always fit the child. I shaved my son's blue hair off. He was allowed to be expressive and individual as long as he kept his grades up. But if he was going to fail in school then loosing the right to be an individual was taken away. If you can't fit into social settings and only care about you, then I am sorry for whatever network you belong to. Caring for yourself is essential, caring about others is vital.
Load More Replies... something is going on with the odd behavior for the girl. Pity that she can't talk to her mother about the cause. If she is doing it to be a brat, then one week of not having everything isn't going to kill her. Maybe a strict parent would get the other girls thinking about what their parents might do to them. It's just ONE WEEK folks...not permanent emotional scaring!
My mother did this exact thing to me when I was little. It was so effective that as an adult, when I misbehave, I now throw my own things out, and earn them back one by one...I’ll get my TV back soon! Thanks mom!
TBH I remember my mother doing something like that to me, but I don’t for the life of me remember what for. I do remember I started acting up in school after my parents were divorced and my home life and sense of security was disrupted. When I look back now, I think my mother was beautiful but had a cruel heart. I wouldn’t ever want to be like her.
Thumbs up for this mother .... she is courageous enough to say NO to the behaviour of her daughter. Bad behaviour has consequences, the sooner a child learns this, the better. We can discuss what is bad behaviour and what not .... but bullying is absolutely not acceptable!! When every parent would react to bullying, more children would be happier in school. You can teach a lot to your child but sometimes they learn only by seeing the consequences. I see the action of this mother not as mean, but give a very clear signal to her daughter!!!
I think this is called terrorirism. When we know that a child needs creativity and understand and AGREE by his own the rules and decline those that are not good for him as a danger ti his own way of being, to his identity we can see the toxic behaviour of this mother. Formatting children creates robots killers and a*s holes. Excuses for the harsh reality but this is the effect on the whole planet just take a look around!
I don't think the mum should have posted this on social media. She should have kept this within the family. I also think she should have had an in depth chat with her daughter to find out if something was bothering her and making her act out. It was not said whether this was a typical week for the girl, or if her behaviour that week was out of the ordinary.
Usually, if a child is acting out and generally being a d-bag, then that child is hurting. Where is the concern for this hurt, establishing a good connection and supporting this child, when clearly this is not a happy child. A child with a good connection to a parent is rarely going to be a turd in the punchbowl.
And MOST of the time..they're just being brats.I love all you people who act like THIS is some terrible punishment.Not compared to what could happen to her if her mother doesn't get this behavior out of her head right now.This isn't some worthless parent...you can tell that..because if she WAS worthless..she'd have complained to the school and let her brat get away with this ugly behavior she thought she wanted to adopt.
Load More Replies... Most kids who bully do it because they’re being bullied elsewhere. A parent who would publicly humiliate a child while aggrandizing her own parenting gives me a solid guess as to who created this bully in the first place. Hint: Punishment doesn’t teach a damn thing, except anger and resentment. Consider discipline, which involves teaching a lesson and modeling appropriate behavior—so basically the opposite of this. Ever read the book Mommie Dearest? Crawford did the same c**p to her kids. They didn’t exactly grow into happy, productive adults.
I agree with taking away toys and fancy clothes but her being treated like she actually is in a prison is horrible. And people wonder why so many kids kill them selves these days.
Load More Replies... I agree with the punishment, but also with the criticism. Keep it in the house, and don't publicize it to the world. It isn't necessary
I think that what this mother did was a good thing in this situation, I just know I would hate it if my mum did this to me
I applaud this mom 100%!!! There is nothing wrong with her method of punishment and experiment! The law doesn't require us parents to lavish our kids with toys, TV, electronics, etc,. Just food, roof over their heads and a bed. Which the beds can be on the floor, a pair of clothes and they can have them in the basement too! Children nowadays have an attitude that they are entitled to so many things when they aren't! Its a privilege to have things like they do and an award. This girl Hannah, I hope, has learned her lesson well. We, as parents don't do this enough. Stop with this " Children's Rights" B******t!! They are guests the home and guests aren't entitled, are they?? No! So, get off your guys' high freakin horse and give this mom an applause! I bet it was alot of work and also the mom didn't want to do this, but she knew her daughter would learn her lesson about her behavior and bullying! Way to go Mom!!
With a fascist mother like that, I'm not surprised she behaves badly! The mother writes a long post about how her daughter behaves at school??? WTF! Can you be more insensitive? Why not look at WHY your daughter is bullying instead? But then some of your own issues will come to the surface and you don't want that do you... Parents are responsible for children. So if a child is "mis-behaving" then it's because there is a problem in the relationship with the parents. It's not the child's fault! It's ALWAYS the parents "fault" (responsibility) until the child grows up. But the parents don't want to see that, do they :-/ Oh no, that's too scary.... So they blame the child. And it goes on and on, from generation to generation... :-(
I just hope she actually had some talk with her daughter. Bullies behave like that usually because of their own problems, and who knows what happened or bother her daughter. What should be the result of this so called "punishment"? After such a ridiculous reaction, I don't think her daughter will seek for her mother to talk if she will feel bad, stressed or something. And one note ... she wrote about her daughter being an "as*****" ... she put it publicly and now it's viral. Her own mother think this about her own daughter. Great. Good parenting ...
Most bullies are in some sort of emotional or psychological trouble.... better to find a way to understand what is going on with her child. Who is the bully in this family? Get some family support and together try to understand what is the need for this girl to take out her rage and impotence on others?
Punishing a bad child is great, excellent parenting. Sharing it with the world is grade-A bullying. The parent's hypocrisy is breathtaking.
I have a question though. Did the mother sit down with her child and ask about why she did that and tell her its wrong to do so and tell her how dissapointed she is with her? If the mother just go straight to punishment without gave an explanation to her child, won't make the daughter understand what she did wrong and only made her questioning why she deserve to have this kind of punishment.
Good on her. if parents don't discipline them from a young age when is this child going to learn? they will grow up to be an even more a*****e adult. Positive bs doesn't always work, i myself was physically beaten up to curb my behavior. Not saying this is right but im not scarred from it either. However, I know it worked because I was praised at school and collage for my well behavior and manners towards teachers and everyone else. IF my mother had just left me run wild as i wanted and never taught me to be courteous who knows where i would be today.
Using non-physical punishment, and taking an active part in raising your child is all well and good, but consider the fact that bullying comes from somewhere. It's either a learned behavior (from peers, family or role models), an outlet of stress in someone without the maturity to know better, or the child's personality. If it's the last one, go ahead and jump to discipline, but make sure to rule out the first two. It's a good idea to try to find out what is going on in the kid's head that is making her act this way. Are her friends doing it? Is she frustrated about some aspect of her life? Sometimes acting out and bullying can even be a sign that the child is being abused by someone. Maybe she's just always been an outspoken and stubborn kid and needs to learn to treat her teachers and peers respectfully, but if she's suddenly acting out, it's a really good idea to figure out what is bothering her instead of jumping to punishment.
I'm with the people saying that she seems to be looking for attention and validation by putting it on social media, and I think that's shameful. I can't really speak on whether or not she's doing the right thing for her kid - I'm not having any children because I don't think I would be able to make good decisions in child-rearing.
Eh, I take that last bit back. I think this is definitely a punishment, but one that neither teaches anything nor actually hits the root of the problem.
Load More Replies... I don't have any problems with the punishment but what good does it do to shame the kid to EVERYONE you know? Letting your kid know that you have that little respect for them seems like it could cause trust issues in the future. And the way other people raise their kids wouldn't be any of my business if the mom hadn't made it EVERYBODY's business.
I like the punishment, I probably wouldn't make her wear the same pants every day, and I def don't think she should have put it on social media.
My only opinion on this surprisingly thoughtful and inventive form of punishment. Negative reinforcement is when you take something away from someone such as liberty is property. Positive reinforcement is when you give something to somebody such as praise or pain. This is a combination of negative reinforce and positive reinforcement in that the mother took away the girl's possessions and then gradually gave them back in return for good behavior or as a reward for completing other tasks of positive reinforcement (writing lines and doing chores). I'm not here to criticise somebody's parenting choices, but every now and then it pleases me to remember what I learned when I studied psychology.
Good on that mother. She's teaching her daughter a valuable lesson! I'm with her all the way!
She (mother) did great! Look, it is simple as this - kids have only two things: rights and privileges. Every kid has a damn right not to be hungry, but it's a privilege to eat snacks, candies, fast-foods. Every kid has a damn right be dressed, but it's a privilege to wear brand fashion clothes. Every kid has a damn right to privacy and personal space, but it's a privilege to fill it with internet, gadgets, games etc. You don't "punish" your kid if it does something bad. Kid just loses privileges it has. Those are consequences of it's behaviour. Our adult world work this way. What she did is fantastic! Kid had privileges, and prove that those privileges are bad to her. So now she has to work hard to change herself and regain privileges previously own. Fantastic parenting!
The people who think what she's doing is wrong are what's wrong with parenting these days. You are the adult, not the child's bestie. They don 't have to like you, but they are supposed to respect you. You make a child responsible and accept responsibility for their actions so they can grow up and be a civilized adult.
my mum did this to me but when i came to her two days later with a heavy heart and apologized sincerely for doing wrong she knew that i was serious and truly sorry so the punishment stopped. discipline your kids but dont be cruel
I agree with what she did, but I don't understand why she feels everyone needs to know about it.
I did something similar to my kids at different times. GOOD JOB MOM! Thank you for correcting your child's behavior instead of enabling her and turning her into an a*****e adult!
I think the punishment is fine. But posting it on social media, not even nearly.
This sort of punishment, i.e. shaming and treating the kid like a prison inmate is absolutely inappropriate and imo worrying, especially for a child this young and for the kind of offense. There are surely much better options to show her daughter that this sort of behaviour won't be accepted. Kids used to get grounded when I was young. Also, there might be a reason she suddenly acted up at school. The parents ought to find out what that might be instead of treating the symptoms in such a radical way.
How is this punishment 'harsh'? Did Mom hit her child? Was there awful and demeaning words spoken to this kid? Did Mom shoot up her computer (remember that incident from a few years back and that kid was only disrespectful to her parents)? I've seen parents put their kid on a street corner with a totally degrading sign about why they were there. Remember that shaming FB post from a mother whose 12 year daughter was posting cringe-worthy pictures with a bottle of vodka? This kid got off easy. All you see in Amanda Mitchell's photos are a bare room and an empty closet. "But she should have gotten to the root of all this bad behavior, instead of publicly airing family dirty laundry!" some say. I have a feeling that she did and when that little jerk denied responsibility and tried shifted blame on someone else, Amanda Mitchell decided to be a parent and not her daughter's BFF. Most kids never ever consider consequences and that's why they do and say really stupid & s**** things.
Children need to be disciplined when they do wrong. All to often they get away with things that are unacceptable because they know there are few consequences for their actions. Too many bleeding heart liberals being soft on their kids.
I totally approve. The only problem I have is with the writing of the phrases. I think it could cause the child to associate negatively with handwriting, which would be a shame. Depending on the age, maybe she could do something like draw pictures of being nice to friends and being respectful to teachers or take extra tasks at school to be helpful.
This mom is actually doing right by her daughter!! This will teach her to think before she acts. IT WILL serve her well in the long run. Additionally, I would much rather see a mother being proactive rather than lazy parenting which I see too often! Also, any time a parent meets out such punishment, it is ALWAYS a punishment the parents must endure as Well! It is always FAR easier to ignore the behavior or make excuses for it (most parents today) than to engage in punishment!! She is being a responsible mother!!
So you disagree with punishing children in any form for misbehaving? I don't understand.
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