Instead of taking this story as a sign that humanity is devolving, think of it as proof that you’re its advanced counterpart. Vix from Canada was dating a guy, and everything seemed well. Until she decided to open up a bit more. You see, she had cancer, has been in remission for six and a half years now and even though she’s cured, the illness still casts a shadow over her. This confession, however, wasn’t something her date was expecting. And his reaction wasn’t something she was expecting, either. Basically, the guy demanded proof that he won’t catch it. And articles by the American Cancer Society, saying that cancer is NOT contagious weren’t enough.
“We met on a dating app, and had dated a year before, stopped dating, and then he reached out again to give him another chance, and we had just gone out again once,” Vix told Bored Panda.
“This was the first time [I met] someone [who] thought they could catch it but I’ve had others who just wouldn’t call or text back once I’ve told them. It’s ok. I get that it’s a scary subject.”
Vix thinks that this happened because of fear. “Cancer makes people think about death and we live in a society that puts life before everything,” she added. “Cancer can touch so many people, hearing the word can bring feelings of grief which is the most powerful emotion that humans can feel. After all, it’s the price we pay for love.”
And even though she has “blocked and deleted” the guy from her life immediately, Vix doesn’t think it’s something that deserves a lot of attention. “He’s was a nice guy, we had lots in common and great talks. I don’t wish him any ill will, just not the man for me.”
She believes that everyone is misinformed about something, this just happens to be one topic this particular person doesn’t know much about. “No time for hate, that’s giving him way too much power.”
Scroll down to check out how the ridiculous exchange unfolded and let us know what you think about it in the comments. (Cover image: George Redgrave)
A healthy person can’t “catch” cancer from someone who has it, and let’s hope the same goes for stupidity
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More than his lack of knowledge about cancer, what's worse here is his attitude. If he doesn't trust her now about this issue, he will be doubting her about other things forever.
Exactly. He doesn't think she's intelligent enough to know what she's talking about even though he's the one lacking in the brains department. He'd always treat her like a lesser human being. She is very well shot of him. Hopefully the cancer forever as well.
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WTF?! Are some people seriously this ignorant? She should be grateful not only for having survived cancer, but also avoiding the risk of having this morons babies! Talk about dodging a bullet! We don't need his offspring walking amongst us - there is already enough stupidity in the world!
So, for the privilege of dating you, you want me to 1) make an appointment with my doctor 2) pay for an appointment with my doctor 3) have my doctor state and explain my medical history to you. Well, since I'm not a race horse and you are not a functioning adult, I'm going to have to give that a hard pass.
Each and every one of these douchebags that thinks cancer is contagious or that a woman can pass it on to her kids needs to take an Anthropology class to learn about inheritance and a Biology class to understand how cellular division works.....
I think the word Anthropology would make them s**t themselves. They probably would think it's contagious!
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I can’t believe that conversation lasted as long as it did. She should’ve stopped on his first response. I know a girl whose boyfriend left her because she got diagnosed with breast cancer. I couldn’t think of a worse individual.
Wow, that guy's picture should be next to the encyclopedia entry for “douchebag“!
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"The Way This Guy Reacts To Learning That His Date Had Cancer Is So Stupid, It’s Unbelievable" OK, this time the title fits
If a person treats you like this, they're not good enough to be with you anyways.
My job tried to fire me for taking too many days off innorder to erradicate my cancer.
They thought I took off an unreasonable amount of time, & I didn't even have to get chemo. They were also afraid to keep me on since it could come back. The thing is though, it was a very treatable form of cancer. It could come back but odds were it could be conquered again
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It's disturbing how stupid this guy is. This is stuff you should know after finishing primary school. Let's hope he either understands it eventually or never breeds again for the sake of our future generations...
Glad to know that douche is out of your life! You deserve better, and you will find him.
2018: the year of "let's share every single text we've ever had to get internet accolades". next year: rate my poo
Now that glysophate (Round Up) has been found in many different foods we all may get a visit from the "c word"! Thanks Monsanto-Beyer!
"And even though she has “blocked and deleted” the guy from her life immediately, Vix doesn’t think it’s something that deserves a lot of attention." And then she posts the entire conversation somewhere on the internet, where anyone can see it and it gets shitloads of attention..
Some peoples stupidity, never cease to amaze me. And my heart go out to that woman. Not only has she survived a cruel sickness, but she also have to deal with the most stupido amigo I have heard about.Sigh.
I SINCERELY hope he sees this post. I want in the worst way for him to see and read just what an idiot he is. BUT - thank God she found this out before this relationship went any further. Congratulations on your surviving!
What a very stupid person that human is, better know now that they are so backward than after your in a relationship! Attitude adjustment needed&more brain power! This female is better off finding someone with real intelegents&a kind heart to understand the struggles&admire the strength of your survival!
How the hell can this guy be so ignorant of the causes of cancer from smoking, drinking, diet, genetics, work related, preexisting conditions or sheer chance? In the 21st century how this guy be so f*****g thick? Let alone callous and uncaring. She is So much better off than having this thick as s**t prick for a boyfriend 😊
I'm replying to myself as I realised how vitriolic my response was. I am disabled with multiple illnesses and diseases, this means that I have suffered a LOT of people with ignorance of the contagious aspects. Now some of mine are extremely rare but there really is No way that guy cannot have known anyone with cancer or can't have Knowledge of even its most basics, it's impossible! Hence my anger at him, his attitude and ignorance. Apologies for the rudeness of my original comment, there is no way of editing that I can see on here.
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What an uneducated boy. He isn’t even a man. I think he either coasted through school or, dropped out, and never learned anything. And in all his. Wahingever cUght on that cancer, isn’t contagious!
I'm sure we all remember the terror when AIDS was first discovered. Despite being told repeatedly that you couldn't catch it from a hug, handshake or toilet seat, people freaked the f**k out. Remember that kid, Ryan White? He got AIDS from a tainted blood transfusion. He was 12 (?) and grown a*s people called him a f****t, he was shunned and bullied at school. People made his life a living hell. All due to ignorance, stupidity and unfounded fear.
Seen this very close up. When people hear that someone has cancer, they get cold feet, and when the treatments start, they get the cold shoulder, and when things turn south, people start disappearing like puffs of smoke in the wind, as they can't "cope with it". Wasn't your friendship with the person worth more than that? You just toss them away when things get real, rather than be there, give the lending hand you did before, the listening ear you lent for gossip, the support when they felt sad, the very things they did for you, when you felt the same or needed a bit of help? People are thick, and only think about themselves... and yes, how many times have i not heard the thing - are you not afraid of getting it? or even, i'm afraid to get it off you, as you deal with her... how do I know you are not contagious with that cancer thing? (you need a fscking brain implant, pal...). It is at this point you get to know who your real friends are, and which ones you need to dump.
I knew a guy who didn't have sex with his wife after she had ovarian cancer. She was cured but he never touched her again in that way. Just because his mom told him it was contagious. They had a son who was born before she got cancer. He hat some health issues (allergies and neurodermatitis). One time the guy said that his son probably had this because the mother had cancer some years after the birth. Thats more than stupid to me.
I understand being worried that your children could have an increased risk as a result of a parent survivors genes, but never on earth have I ever heard of someone being afraid that THEY were going to catch cancer from their partner. Never on earth, have I seen the most painful results of the modern death of the intellectual our world is experiencing.
I'd say yep, you've got it to, and your d**k is going to shrink even smaller, if anyone can believe that, then fall off...
I fail to see why this is so outrageous to people ("I hope he never has any kids." etc.) He's just ignorant and paranoid. People do love a good moan at others
I think if you love this person the right kind of this conversation should be like: "The whole "C" thing freaks me out." "I'm afraid that it could come back and take you away from me. So we should live along and enjoy our time together as if every day is our last." The End.
I literally just learned this week that I have cancer, these stories are far from encouraging. On that note I would like to add that it's good to know what to expect.
"Obviously not the girl for you." <-- That's wrong. "Obviously you're not the person for me." <-- That's correct.
He should have been tested to make sure he can't sexually transmit stupidity
She is private about her medical stuff for the most part? I think not - why is she posting this on social media? These people don't TALK to each other instead of texting about important issues such as trust, and understanding the disease.
I know it’s a lot different, but I had septicaemia (blood poisoning) when I was four years old, and it shook my family enough. I can imagine what it’s like for parents when their child gets a form of cancer.
There isn't enough room on the Internet to type all the "WOW"s this needs. Just...WOW.
She should have told him if he's so damn concerned he can set up an appointment with HIS OWN doctor and ask them about whether or not cancer is contagious and waste their own doctor's time. And then she still shouldn't have gone out with him because he's a moron.
he could have googled "is cancer contagious" and generated an answer without having to bother her with his dumb a*s insecurities. He did her a huge favor. She's too strong for him.
I totally understand. When I was diagnosed, my ex-wife said, "I didn't sign up for this." She got the kids and the proceeds from selling the house; I was basically homeless until an old friend from the Army let me move in with him. Fast forward 8 years, I'm remarried to a much better (and better looking) woman and we're blessed with a handsome, intelligent toddler.
What a nightmare. I am a survivor, as well. She was far more patient than I would have been. Life is too short to waste it on mean, selfish, people. Of course, my husband was the one losing his cool when we got the bad news (the kids had to calm him down)(poor guy). Somehow, I knew I would be fine, so that's what I told my family. So far, so good (9 years remission/cured).
Whichever school this guy went to needs to thoroughly review its biology department...
My dad had cancer when I was 10 and I kissed him goodbye and a girl who lived next to my mums work said “doesn’t your dad have the ‘thing’?” And I’m like “what?” She whispers “cancer” and I’m like “uh yeah?” And she’s like “you just kissed him? can’t you catch it? Are you going to get cancer?” And I’m like “.... no” I mean like she was 9 but still
Sometimes I do wonder how I'm single and arsehats like this are about...
My second comment to him after "what?" would be "I'm sorry, but you are too stupid for me to date."
Is this real? Can't believe someone is that stupid. On the other hand, what does "I'm really private about my medical stuff"mean?
I suppose it means she doesn't want to disclose her full medical history in details. She has the right to decide what and with whom to share.
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Not only is stupid contagious, it has grown more virulent. Proof? Trump.
More than his lack of knowledge about cancer, what's worse here is his attitude. If he doesn't trust her now about this issue, he will be doubting her about other things forever.
Exactly. He doesn't think she's intelligent enough to know what she's talking about even though he's the one lacking in the brains department. He'd always treat her like a lesser human being. She is very well shot of him. Hopefully the cancer forever as well.
Load More Replies... WTF?! Are some people seriously this ignorant? She should be grateful not only for having survived cancer, but also avoiding the risk of having this morons babies! Talk about dodging a bullet! We don't need his offspring walking amongst us - there is already enough stupidity in the world!
So, for the privilege of dating you, you want me to 1) make an appointment with my doctor 2) pay for an appointment with my doctor 3) have my doctor state and explain my medical history to you. Well, since I'm not a race horse and you are not a functioning adult, I'm going to have to give that a hard pass.
Each and every one of these douchebags that thinks cancer is contagious or that a woman can pass it on to her kids needs to take an Anthropology class to learn about inheritance and a Biology class to understand how cellular division works.....
I think the word Anthropology would make them s**t themselves. They probably would think it's contagious!
Load More Replies... I can’t believe that conversation lasted as long as it did. She should’ve stopped on his first response. I know a girl whose boyfriend left her because she got diagnosed with breast cancer. I couldn’t think of a worse individual.
Wow, that guy's picture should be next to the encyclopedia entry for “douchebag“!
Load More Replies... "The Way This Guy Reacts To Learning That His Date Had Cancer Is So Stupid, It’s Unbelievable" OK, this time the title fits
If a person treats you like this, they're not good enough to be with you anyways.
My job tried to fire me for taking too many days off innorder to erradicate my cancer.
They thought I took off an unreasonable amount of time, & I didn't even have to get chemo. They were also afraid to keep me on since it could come back. The thing is though, it was a very treatable form of cancer. It could come back but odds were it could be conquered again
Load More Replies... It's disturbing how stupid this guy is. This is stuff you should know after finishing primary school. Let's hope he either understands it eventually or never breeds again for the sake of our future generations...
Glad to know that douche is out of your life! You deserve better, and you will find him.
2018: the year of "let's share every single text we've ever had to get internet accolades". next year: rate my poo
Now that glysophate (Round Up) has been found in many different foods we all may get a visit from the "c word"! Thanks Monsanto-Beyer!
"And even though she has “blocked and deleted” the guy from her life immediately, Vix doesn’t think it’s something that deserves a lot of attention." And then she posts the entire conversation somewhere on the internet, where anyone can see it and it gets shitloads of attention..
Some peoples stupidity, never cease to amaze me. And my heart go out to that woman. Not only has she survived a cruel sickness, but she also have to deal with the most stupido amigo I have heard about.Sigh.
I SINCERELY hope he sees this post. I want in the worst way for him to see and read just what an idiot he is. BUT - thank God she found this out before this relationship went any further. Congratulations on your surviving!
What a very stupid person that human is, better know now that they are so backward than after your in a relationship! Attitude adjustment needed&more brain power! This female is better off finding someone with real intelegents&a kind heart to understand the struggles&admire the strength of your survival!
How the hell can this guy be so ignorant of the causes of cancer from smoking, drinking, diet, genetics, work related, preexisting conditions or sheer chance? In the 21st century how this guy be so f*****g thick? Let alone callous and uncaring. She is So much better off than having this thick as s**t prick for a boyfriend 😊
I'm replying to myself as I realised how vitriolic my response was. I am disabled with multiple illnesses and diseases, this means that I have suffered a LOT of people with ignorance of the contagious aspects. Now some of mine are extremely rare but there really is No way that guy cannot have known anyone with cancer or can't have Knowledge of even its most basics, it's impossible! Hence my anger at him, his attitude and ignorance. Apologies for the rudeness of my original comment, there is no way of editing that I can see on here.
Load More Replies... What an uneducated boy. He isn’t even a man. I think he either coasted through school or, dropped out, and never learned anything. And in all his. Wahingever cUght on that cancer, isn’t contagious!
I'm sure we all remember the terror when AIDS was first discovered. Despite being told repeatedly that you couldn't catch it from a hug, handshake or toilet seat, people freaked the f**k out. Remember that kid, Ryan White? He got AIDS from a tainted blood transfusion. He was 12 (?) and grown a*s people called him a f****t, he was shunned and bullied at school. People made his life a living hell. All due to ignorance, stupidity and unfounded fear.
Seen this very close up. When people hear that someone has cancer, they get cold feet, and when the treatments start, they get the cold shoulder, and when things turn south, people start disappearing like puffs of smoke in the wind, as they can't "cope with it". Wasn't your friendship with the person worth more than that? You just toss them away when things get real, rather than be there, give the lending hand you did before, the listening ear you lent for gossip, the support when they felt sad, the very things they did for you, when you felt the same or needed a bit of help? People are thick, and only think about themselves... and yes, how many times have i not heard the thing - are you not afraid of getting it? or even, i'm afraid to get it off you, as you deal with her... how do I know you are not contagious with that cancer thing? (you need a fscking brain implant, pal...). It is at this point you get to know who your real friends are, and which ones you need to dump.
I knew a guy who didn't have sex with his wife after she had ovarian cancer. She was cured but he never touched her again in that way. Just because his mom told him it was contagious. They had a son who was born before she got cancer. He hat some health issues (allergies and neurodermatitis). One time the guy said that his son probably had this because the mother had cancer some years after the birth. Thats more than stupid to me.
I understand being worried that your children could have an increased risk as a result of a parent survivors genes, but never on earth have I ever heard of someone being afraid that THEY were going to catch cancer from their partner. Never on earth, have I seen the most painful results of the modern death of the intellectual our world is experiencing.
I'd say yep, you've got it to, and your d**k is going to shrink even smaller, if anyone can believe that, then fall off...
I fail to see why this is so outrageous to people ("I hope he never has any kids." etc.) He's just ignorant and paranoid. People do love a good moan at others
I think if you love this person the right kind of this conversation should be like: "The whole "C" thing freaks me out." "I'm afraid that it could come back and take you away from me. So we should live along and enjoy our time together as if every day is our last." The End.
I literally just learned this week that I have cancer, these stories are far from encouraging. On that note I would like to add that it's good to know what to expect.
"Obviously not the girl for you." <-- That's wrong. "Obviously you're not the person for me." <-- That's correct.
He should have been tested to make sure he can't sexually transmit stupidity
She is private about her medical stuff for the most part? I think not - why is she posting this on social media? These people don't TALK to each other instead of texting about important issues such as trust, and understanding the disease.
I know it’s a lot different, but I had septicaemia (blood poisoning) when I was four years old, and it shook my family enough. I can imagine what it’s like for parents when their child gets a form of cancer.
There isn't enough room on the Internet to type all the "WOW"s this needs. Just...WOW.
She should have told him if he's so damn concerned he can set up an appointment with HIS OWN doctor and ask them about whether or not cancer is contagious and waste their own doctor's time. And then she still shouldn't have gone out with him because he's a moron.
he could have googled "is cancer contagious" and generated an answer without having to bother her with his dumb a*s insecurities. He did her a huge favor. She's too strong for him.
I totally understand. When I was diagnosed, my ex-wife said, "I didn't sign up for this." She got the kids and the proceeds from selling the house; I was basically homeless until an old friend from the Army let me move in with him. Fast forward 8 years, I'm remarried to a much better (and better looking) woman and we're blessed with a handsome, intelligent toddler.
What a nightmare. I am a survivor, as well. She was far more patient than I would have been. Life is too short to waste it on mean, selfish, people. Of course, my husband was the one losing his cool when we got the bad news (the kids had to calm him down)(poor guy). Somehow, I knew I would be fine, so that's what I told my family. So far, so good (9 years remission/cured).
Whichever school this guy went to needs to thoroughly review its biology department...
My dad had cancer when I was 10 and I kissed him goodbye and a girl who lived next to my mums work said “doesn’t your dad have the ‘thing’?” And I’m like “what?” She whispers “cancer” and I’m like “uh yeah?” And she’s like “you just kissed him? can’t you catch it? Are you going to get cancer?” And I’m like “.... no” I mean like she was 9 but still
Sometimes I do wonder how I'm single and arsehats like this are about...
My second comment to him after "what?" would be "I'm sorry, but you are too stupid for me to date."
Is this real? Can't believe someone is that stupid. On the other hand, what does "I'm really private about my medical stuff"mean?
I suppose it means she doesn't want to disclose her full medical history in details. She has the right to decide what and with whom to share.
Load More Replies... Young people. People from the west coast older than 10 but younger than 45.
Load More Replies... Not only is stupid contagious, it has grown more virulent. Proof? Trump.
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