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30 Of The Darkest Realities People Often Choose To Live In Denial About, As Shared By Folks Online
It’s nice to put on rose-tinted glasses and create your own tiny happy bubble avoiding all the world’s problems. But pretending that they don’t exist won’t make them go away and being aware of them is important in trying to combat them.
However, people tend to do that as they refuse to deal with the negative emotions that sometimes can be crushing. Though not Reddit user Spartan1694, who wanted to hear only serious answers to the question “What are some of the most common dark realities people choose to live in denial about?”
More than 17k people joined the conversation and wanted to talk about the things that happen in real life but some choose to not acknowledge. Do you agree with them? Are there any more that you would like to add? Let us know in the comments!
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Mental health issues are not cute, funny or quirky. Being called a psycho is no compliment.
Depressions arent just a phase, schizophrenia is not just hearing weird noise sometimes, anxiety and panic attacks are not just 5 seconds of a flip out and everything is fine again.
Mental health issues are real and not to be taken lightly, it's not just a phase.
If you need help, please reach out to someone, talk to them. Let them help you. Theres not just that one way out. You can and will have good days again.
People don't take mental health seriously enough. Please get help if you need it, stay safe y'all, someone loves you!! If you don't feel like there's anyone you can talk to, I'm a friendly internet stranger who won't judge 💖
Toxic relatives... Just because they have your blood doesn't mean they are good for you or that you have to stay there.
it's okay to cut family members out of your life, you don't owe them anything. if your relationship with them is making your life worse in any way, bye bye! the fact that you're related to them means nothing if they're not a good person. don't be afraid 💖
That a majority of us are completely utterly ordinary people, and that’s okay.
Love is not enough. Loving someone enough will not ensure your relationship will be successful. Loving your child enough will not ensure they love you back or that they live a good life.
With love, you still need trust, communication, and respect (at least)
There isn't someone for everyone and some of us will pass away alone. Not everyone will reproduce and carry on their line.
Slavery still exists in many places of the world.
Why the Lego picture for this? Why not a child working in the diamond mines or numerous big corp sweatshops?
That sometimes comeuppance is a myth and evil can triumph. That a huge factor in life is not hard work but luck.
I really hope Putin doesn’t ultimately triumph. Even reality must realise that’s just too much.
One Accident or tragedy can completely flip your life upside down.
Firsthand experience. My dad had an accident when I was 18 years old. Massive brain injury. He was bedridden, in diapers, with a feeding tube, at home in our front room for the next 21 years. He died a year ago and I can guarantee I have no idea where my life went in those 21 years. I still live at home. And I still miss my dad.
The memory of most people’s existence will be completely forgotten sooner than you think, even by their own families. I can’t even tell you the names of my great-great grandparents
I know some of mine only because of the genealogy search my folks did. But I had no clue my mom had cousins and aunts.
Just because something lasts a long time - like a marriage, or a job - doesn't mean it's any good at all. There are lots of reasons that things don't end, some are very bad.
That you can also alter your memories to believe your own lie if you think about it enough
You will lose everyone you've ever known and cared about - either to the end of the relationship, your passing, or theirs. We only borrow the people we love for a short time.
That's why I try to show as much love as possible to the people I care about. Nothing lasts forever except memories.
Elon Musk has the liquid assets to fund the UNs world hunger program.
He'd rather buy Twitter.
The problem is more complicated than simply providing food, entire economies and systems need to be put into place so that people and societies can support themselves moving forwards. Food aid is a short term solution to a long term problem, which doesn't mean it isn't necessary but it's not a long term solution.
Most new houses are overpriced trash.
I totally agree...A friend of mine once said »cars,houses and women...only with a past » I laughed at the time but have come to agree on houses...old houses have soul,charm and space....ok,I need a new roof but am willing to put up with the works..and price just for the pleasure of living in an oldie..
The number of innocent people in prison.
People say "Don't commit crimes and you'll not have problems with getting arrested." They have no idea how common mistaken identity, being at the right place at the wrong time, lazy jurors can ruin your life.
The clothes you wear and buy for $50 really cost close to $5 and are manufactured by slaves.
How livestock is treated
I think about this all too often. The animals are handled so roughly and farmers think they can't feel pain. My dad ( I don't really associate with him much) admitted to me he punched a pig in the head after the pig tried biting him or pushing him. Must've been a reason why the pig did that. My dad said "Pigs are tough. It didn't hurt him." How would he know? Just because an animal doesn't say "OW" and we can't see their tears that well, and they don't cry like we do (well, they do but people hear it as regular animal noises) doesn't mean they don't feel pain nor express pain. Plus, how baby animals are ripped apart from their parents to be slaughtered for tender young meat.
Your favored politician isn't your savior. Nor anyone else's.
I swear politicians are that kid that asked you for some Soda-Licious and pleaded with "I'll be you're friend" then says "Syke" when you give them some.
That being overweight is seriously detrimental to your health.
Yes, but being overly concerned about weight is seriously detrimental to people's mental health. Just try to keep yourself healthy and don't try to police the weight of others. edit: yall, I just replied to a lot of people in the comments, but I just wanted to say this: while this topic doesn't relate to me specifically, I've seen many people (especially women) endure a lot of hate about their bodies. if you're going to comment something about how you think everyone should look a certain way or be a certain weight, please just don't. society's beauty standards are ridiculous, and you're not responsible for the health of others unless you're a medical professional. please, please, treat people with kindness.
Yes this is what the body positivity movement is about. Simply don't put people down or give unsolicited advice or bully people that are over or underweight. Don't have to praise them either just let people be. Let them wear what they want and be happy w who they are. There's nothing you can change about them and it doesn't affect anyone but that person. People get suicidal when they become overweight bc of the torture they face from others. That's the problem not their weight
Load More Replies...Quess what? Fat people KNOW they are fat! They are reminded of this dozens of times every f***ing day! The straight up nasty comments from complete strangers, the looks of repulsion from others, the laughs, the lectures from their doctors/family/friends. They have to buy multiple seats on a plane, they can't join their kids on rides at the amusement park, shopping for clothes is a nightmare. Then there is the physical side of it. " Just get your fat ass off the couch!" Is much easier to tell someone than to do. Next time you go for a run, try carrying 25 extra pounds with you and see how your joints/bones do. How's your breathing, heart rate, blood pressure? Now take that and multiply it by 4 or 6 or 10 times. Diet, medication, income, time, access to healthcare are all factors that judgmental a**holes never consider. Being overweight is like being in quarantine or prison for people. The physical and emotional anguish keeps them from going out to do anything the judgment locks the door
Funny enough a lot of overweight people actually lead healthy lifestyles, they just have big bodies. Sometimes it's just genetics.
So is being underweight. So is crash dieting. So is the stress caused from people constantly judging your weight.
Unfortunately in a lot of cases obesity is mental health indicator. And I think a lot of us doesn't really understand that we are not ok, just because majority of people around us is like that too in one way or another. We are just thought to just accept that and call it as part of life or changing society.
It's also the food in the us it has so many chemicals banned in most other countries. Most people that move here from other countries talk about how easily they gained a lot of weight. Most people in the us cannot afford healthy food as it is. 69% of Americans don't have 1000$ saved up they definitely can't afford to buy healthy food all the time. Overworked underpaid always on attack from their employers and their insurance companies if they can afford it if not that's a whole other set of problems. Can't go to a doctor or dentist or obgyn will cause a multitude of health problems along w weight problems. You either starve yourself or you eat what you can afford in the US.
Load More Replies...Actually, it’s healthier to be slightly overweight than slightly underweight. The key word here, though, is slightly.
There IS an answer to obesity and being overweight. WHOLE FOOD PLANT BASED. Yet, almost 100% of people will scoff at that answer. Due to having an incurable disease in my brain, my wife studied up on health benefits of a anti-inflammatory diet. We jumped right in on plant based food. She and I both were considered obese. Now though we both lost 55 plus pounds. I'm still crippled with a brain disease that makes it damn near impossible to exercise. I lost the weight with just the diet. People give up on thier diet for sugar or animal products, like dairy, or poultry. To quote a famous philosopher, 'Let thy food be thy medicine and medicine be thy food'. It has helped me so much. I have heard the arguments of morons and fools. Those buffoons that said they where on a WFPB and then went BACK to animal products and or that someone may "need" animal products. I will NEVER belive that BS. WFPB is the answer. There is no other answer, nor can I be convinced that there is another answer
Not necessarily. Being overweight doesn't necessarily mean that a person is greedy, lazy or unhealthy. Genetics can play a huge role in how much people weight, how their body burns or stores fat. Also health issues and medications can affect people's weight. I know loads of skinny people who have very unhealthy lifestyles and terrible diets but never gain weight and some overweight people who do everything right and just don't lose weight. I myself have an underactive thyroid which can make losing weight difficult, I also have digestive issues that make eating very difficult, meaning that most day's I only eat one meal. Sometimes I have flair-ups where I am Ill for months and have to live on a liquid diet (soups and yoghurt mainly) yet I am still overweight and shamed for it all the time (literally every doctor or hospital visit I am 'advised' to lose weight) I walk everywhere and exercise as much as I can, I barely eat and still get nasty judgemental comments all the time.
Life is the most detrimental thing to anyones health, but most people seem to want to extend that as long as they can.
Excess weight should be a health issue not an appearance issue. I am overweight and have been most of my life and I am 54 years old- but contrary to popular belief, I do not have diabetes, high blood pressure, high cholesterol or any other ailment said to be caused by obesity. I bike, walk and swim regularly and consider myself proof that being overweight doesn't automatically mean you are unhealthy. I have had doctors tell me that it's just the way I was built - that even with drastic weight loss surgery, I would likely never be a size 8. The best I could hope for would be size 14 or 16. I do work out but that is more related to being 54 than being over 200 lbs. When the doctor advised against weight loss surgery, I gave myself permission to just be who I am and as long as I am healthy, I don't need to beat myself up for being fat. As long as I stay healthy, being fat is irrelevant.
I have yet to meet the person who is not a medical expert in a professional setting and criticises others for their weight for any reason but to push his own ego. It's never about the health of the overweight person. It's shaming others to feel better themselves. Normal, decent people just don't make such comments, because they are aware that weight problems (over/ or underweight) can have many reasons. To ignore that outs the speaker's nasty intentions.
I've always wondered how the people in these candid "fat people" shots feel about their bodies being used to describe fat people. Like this pic. This isn't a standard stock photo of someone in a studio. This is probably people at a game or in the park that someone randomly took a pic of and sold and think it's ok cause their face isn't in it.
People are absolutely OK with telling others they are overweight, but you don't see a lot of strangers getting on people for smoking or drinking and those things will end your life faster.
I agree with the second half of this comment, but telling someone they weight more than you think is appropriate is never okay. the world would be a much happier place if no one worried about the weight of other people.
Load More Replies...And that you will never be "beautiful" the way you are (fat), its just people around you trying not to hurt your ego.
All evidence points to people absolutely giving no f***s about hurting other people's feelings. Guess what, you will never be "beautiful" the way you are (shallow and judgmental). Fat people are aware of their weight. They have mirrors and their doctors tell them. Stop being so concerned with what other people do with their own bodies.
Load More Replies...so now you're the judge of who gets to be happy with how they look and who deserves shame? "you can't be too big or too small, you have to be exactly perfect". this kind of thinking hurts a lot of people, please keep comments like that to yourself.
Load More Replies...There is no such thing as unconditional love. There is always something you can do that will make someone, anyone, turn their back on you
Working yourself to death to the benefit of wealth hoarders is admirable and expected, and wanting to exist without struggle is lazy and shameful.
This is a tiny part of the reason I work in health and social care (UK). Of course someone, somewhere is profiting, but mostly I'm helping people in need and that's cool with me.
Gen X is in serious trouble when it comes to paying for retirement.
Things changed between my parents' generation and mine (GenX). No more company pensions, just Social Security and whatever we managed to save. My daughter (Millennial) has it even worse, which is why I'm paying off my house as fast as possible, so she'll have it mortgage-free, and why I have a huge life insurance policy to her benefit. Meanwhile, my parents left me with their debt.
Privacy basically doesn't exist anymore
No but I don't think we're really focused on as much as we think. Like when you're in a store, like Walmart. Ordinary shoppers can go in and if they're not doing anything suspicious likely they're merely glanced at for the most part, just like everyone else you pass by you're not intently focused on. There's just too many people in the world and neither of us are that special.
Under the right circumstances, anyone is capable of anything.
I don't believe this. People have been willing to die instead of doing something that is morally wrong. Dietrich Bonhoeffer was one of them.
That our memories are subjective, full of errors and patches in order to maintain a balance in our understanding of events. Some memories are even false and some memories are so different from other people present at the same events that actions, reactions and outcomes could be entirely opposite from each other. Humans assume that memories are correct all of the time, however they are prone to errors and even change over time.
I hate this. This is what gaslighting manipulators use on people. Under normal circumstances we're pretty good with our memories but we retain the information we deem relevant and most interesting. Traumatic, big events, or exciting times, anything that elicits a major reaction may get fuzzy or exaggerated in our minds. Of course an observer is going to have a different take on events than someone who was involved in the action. It doesn't mean one is wrong and the other is right. It just means 2 people have different perspectives.
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Please excuse me as I go look at cute hedgehog photos. This was sadder than I thought it would be.
"If you ignore them, they'll leave you alone." Told this while I was bullied in school. Once actually ignored it for three months. Big shock. They didn't leave me alone.
Well I certainly didn’t expect to feel like I got punched in the gut...
Loving someone doesn’t mean they love you back, it also doesn’t mean you have to be “in love” with them. Loving someone means so many things, I love my ex-partner still, but I don’t want to marry them. I just care about them so much and would be devastated if anything happen to them. I love my friends, but I don’t want to date them, I love them because they’re my friends and mean so much to me.
Please excuse me as I go look at cute hedgehog photos. This was sadder than I thought it would be.
"If you ignore them, they'll leave you alone." Told this while I was bullied in school. Once actually ignored it for three months. Big shock. They didn't leave me alone.
Well I certainly didn’t expect to feel like I got punched in the gut...
Loving someone doesn’t mean they love you back, it also doesn’t mean you have to be “in love” with them. Loving someone means so many things, I love my ex-partner still, but I don’t want to marry them. I just care about them so much and would be devastated if anything happen to them. I love my friends, but I don’t want to date them, I love them because they’re my friends and mean so much to me.