Dad Knows His Son And His Male “Friend” Are Secretly Dating, Asks People How To Tell Him It’s Ok, Posts A Wholesome Update
Quarantine has brought people from all over the world back to their families. And as we’re once again setting foot into our childhood rooms, dining with parents, and getting that puzzle out from the attic, some things have changed.
And one dad definitely noticed. After his son came back with his friend to self-isolate together, the dad was convinced they’re a couple. He “strongly suspected” that to be the case since his son’s teenage years, but now “more or less [has] confirmation that this is true.” But the question he went on to ask Redditors sounds easier said than done: “How do I let them know it’s okay?” In no time, the dad became one of the most loved internet dads ever with 55K upvotes and everyone begging to get adopted. The story doesn’t end here, because the cool dad just came back with the wholesome update, which is plain heart-melting.
The dad posted this question on the r/relationship_advice subreddit alongside the whole backstory
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Everyone was eager to help dad and he received tons of advice
And the dad came back with the most wholesome update!
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Human Rights Campaign recently released a National Coming Out Day Report that explores the difficulties American teenagers face. The survey run on more than 10,000 LGBT-identified youngsters showed that 9 out of 10 (91%) came out to their close friends. Significantly less, only 56% said they’re “out” to their close family members.
The same survey showed that a staggering 30% of LGBT youth say their family is not accepting of their sexual orientation. 19% claim “they’re scared of reaction, afraid, or don’t know how their family will react.” 10% confessed they don’t have a strong relationship with their family and coming out to them isn’t an option.
Acceptance from parents is one of the most important antidotes for the many psychological challenges LGBT youth have to face. According to psychologist Dr. Earl Turner, “Parental rejection can exacerbate depression among LGBT youth and is a significant risk factor for suicide and risky behavior among this population.” Parents probably have as much direct influence on their LGBT kids as their friends.
People were amazed by how supportive this dad is
This had me in actual tears. What a beautiful, wonderful man! I tried to tell my mom that a friend I had once brought over to the house was actually a girlfriend and she very coldly said, 'well, I hope you got THAT out of your system.' I didn't. I just never mentioned it to her again and have effectively hid a major part of myself from my entire family as a result. I wonder how different my life would be if she had reacted in a positive (or at least a neutral) way. At the very least, I probably wouldn't be going through a divorce from a husband who walked out on me and our 2 small children.
I'm sorry for your experience. I'm straight, but can't understand when a parent has that reaction especially to their child. I've told my kids that there's nothing they could do that would change my love and support of them (including murder) or negatively impact our relationship. As long as my kids find love and happiness then I'm good. You have to do what's best for you and your kids. Life's too short to be surrounded by negative even if they happen to be "family".
Load More Replies...My parents told me and my sibling from basically the second we were born that no matter who I was or what I did or did not believe in that they would always love me. I wasn't sure if I was gay or straight or bi but then I remembered what they said and I just talked to them and they said "it doesn't matter who you are just love who you love because we love you"
I was in the same boat as you, my friend! My parents always told me I could tell them anything, but still, coming out to them very emotional (i cried) and my mom was like "why are you crying? you know we still love you" hah! tears shed over nothin' i suppose :)
Load More Replies...this queer person who is estranged from her mom is literally crying right now. positive parenting of LGBT+ children does exist and it warms my heart to see it. I also really love that this dad didn't feel he needed to act like he knew it all. it's okay to ask for guidance and help and be vulnerable. <3
Im sorry you don't have a relationship with your mom. It's painful when a parent doesn't accept you for who you are. I'm sure you know this already, but I wanted to say that you are worthy of being loved unconditionally by your parents. You are not flawed for being queer, she is flawed in her thinking. I hope you've been able to make peace with everything.
Load More Replies...When my brother came out, he did it at dinner with most of the family there (most of the brothers, my mother and father, and me). He told us that he was gay and had a boyfriend (this was the 80's and we didn't have a lot of the terminology that we have now). My brothers were like, "yeah, we know." My mother told him that it was still his turn to do the dishes, and my dad reminded him of the "Relationship Rule" (we weren't allowed to be serious with someone unless the family met them) and demanded he have the boyfriend at the house for dinner that Sunday so that "we can get a look at him." I always admired my parents for that - they just accepted it and demanded to meet the boyfriend and life went on.
Amazing family, really. But... How went dinner that saturday??? Don't let us hanging there!!!
Load More Replies...I get dad's point. I had a close friend who is gay and knew he was however I didn't want to force him to tell me. He made a 'friend' and they were always together. I knew it was his new boyfriend but again, I thought if he wanted me to know he'd tell me. A few months later he finally told me ask scared ... my response was 'and?'. He was so worried but I really couldn't have cared less as long as he was happy!
This man is incredible. First of all, even though he made a mistake at first, he had the courage to admit it, and make up for it the best he could! Second of all, he is so supportive, and third, he is genuinely worried about what his son will think of HIM! I wish every man were like this.
My son was very fortunate to have a "practice family". He was in a Summer Foreign student exchange program in Costa Rica. He went from our very rural, little town, we're talking "not a single stop light" to a city in the multiple millions population so he was able to practice "coming out". When he arrived home, we met him at the airport. When I saw him, the first thing out of his mouth was "I have something really important to tell you!" We arrived back at our hotel room, the others went inside and my son would not even let the door close, "Mom, we have to go on a walk." So we headed for our walk but he couldn't wait! "Guess what?!?" "I'm GAY!" I looked at him and replied "I know, I've know since you were 2!" 2around what?" "Guess ,Mom wwhatwhat,
Sorry my comment kept being weird, ignore the line or so.
Load More Replies...I worked with a girl that made working more fun and not so dreary. One night as we waited for customers, kind of tipsy from their bathtub margaritas stroll though, she turned to me and she just had to tell me something because she wanted me to know. I thought she was dying or worse. She looks at me and says "I'm gay". That's it. That's what you scared the s**t of me making a big deal! What's that got to do with anything? So now you won't be my friend? A persons sexuality is they only thing they ever truly own. People abuse it by judging, shaming, guilting, bible thumping, and even killing. I don't care what they do behind closed doors. And no one else should either. Kudos to this man. He's like iron. Tested by the fires of his own hell and come out stronger. And a shining example of what we miss by judging others. Thanks for being a real dad and a real man. Your son is going to be a better man because of you.
"He's part of our family now". And there are the tears. All the tears.
This man is an example of what a parent should be. He acknowledged his mistakes when his son was younger and stepped up and did what he needed to do to get his son away from abuse. The way he handled talking with his son about being gay and not only never wavered in his unconditional love for his son, he now has, as he put it, two sons. Thank you for restoring my faith in humanity for showing folks how to be a real dad. and for being an
Great feel good story!! Salute pops your awesome!! Great story in these terrible times! Everyone continue to stay safe! Don't know any of you but I love you all!!
This guy deserves the "best dad" award! This story almost made me cry. I wish my parents were like him, but they are very biased, and my only grandma is definitely no better. I'm bi, and always scared what other people would think, and this reminded me that there are good people in the world who are fine with who you are. This made me happy af.
Very sweet, very touching, very good person. That said, this should be the norm, not something exceptional.
Wonderful for ll concerned. When my daughter was young - at high school - I said to never, ever, be afriad of telling anything at all, and that if it turned outthe opposite sex didn't attract her that was okay. Love is love, and out love for her is unconditional. Turns out she is hetero, just like her parents, but she knew from early on that whatever happens we will always be there for her.
I didn't think I'd be shedding tears at the end of this, but here I am. Love to all 3 of you. It makes me happy thinking about you all sharing a home during this time. How sweet and lovely. You've done a very, very good thing here and put something beautiful into the world. Thank you.
Upvote, upvote, upvote!!!!! Awesome!!! This just made me feel soooo wonderful. Excellent dad. And I'm not crying, I just have something in my eye!
Love this, such an amazing man. I have a friend who has twins, boy and girl. When the brother told his sister he was gay she “I’ve known since we were in the womb!”
My mother once sat me down and said "Son, if your gay, I want you to know I'll always love you". Poor old ma was almost disapointed when I told her that no, I'm quite boringly hetrosexual. I think she had misinterpreted my friendship with my best friend lol. Still it was lovely of her to let me know that if I had been inclined that way, her love was unconditional.
when I came out to my mum as bisexual she said to me 'it doesn't matter whether you come home one day with a boy, a girl or heck even a blue alien, i'll still love you' and I'm really lucky my parents are so supportive of me. this dad is great and his son is so lucky
I told my son I knew he was gay at 16 and I was OK with it. He wanted to adopt all the kids whose parents rejected them. I said if I had the room I would but unfortunately that's a large number.
Awesome Dad, Son and Friend! I tried not to tear up, but those are tears of joy and gratitude for having people like them on the planet. They are the sort that renews my faith in humanity.
I’m an old guy - 75! I’ve never had a coming out experience. I just “was”, and if family and friends were too dense to pick up on it, that was their problem. Family and most friends BTW were always accepting of me and significant others. I’ve always maintained that if your family was paying attention, it wasn’t necessary to come out. I have a most loving family. And I think the father and son in this scenario are very lucky.
Dear all those who are hating because this is about acceptance of an LGBTQ person, F**k off Love, The LGBTQ community
I've never understood why someone would hate, or wish harm, to someone else just because of their sexuality. I'll be 100% honest. As a striaght 43 man I do feel uncomfortable when they show 2 guys kissing on tv or whatever but that's it. Uncomfortable. No hatred. It's exactly the same as old grannies getting it on. Not something I want to think about or watch so I don't. Simple. As long as no-one gets hurt (unless it's consensual lol) then people should be left to do whatever they want with whoever they want imo. Glad these guys got it all out in the open.
All of this is wonderful, but best of all is that his son’s boyfriend suddenly has a family again.
How wonderful, not all parents would do a lot of things he did. Everyone should have a person like this in their life.
You are an outstanding human being! Your loving attitude and heart, have given your son and his partner, the most amazing and forever gift. The gift of being loved u conditionally and accepted as he same! Thank you, for restoring faith in me, that Love,is the greatest of all!
So happy that you are who you are and so open with your heart. The world needs more people like you
From the amount of Awesome Dadness radiating from this, this is not a mere human. It is the Father himself
Well if this wasn't the most wonderful post of the week! Love it! Love is love and it's beautiful!
I'm crying like a damn baby! This is so amazing and heartwarming. You are an awesome Dad who raised an equally awesome son! The unconditional love and support you've shown your son and his partner is the biggest blessing a child can have. You win my vote for Father of the Year!
I love heartwarming stories like these. In a world where the opposite or worse is still prevalent, it's at least encouraging.
This is all well and good, but I will be waiting for the day coming out is not necessary. When people can bring home any one they love. GLBTQIA
I hope for that day too. It would be an amazing day when that happens. Also, in LGBTQIA+, the L goes before the G. Just figured I should correct that ^-^
Load More Replies...All I wanted in my children was for them to be kind, respectful, giving, compassionate and loving. Who they fell in love with was up to them and I had no worries if they were male or female. I feel for anyone who does not have support from parents who claim love for them but cannot accept their life style, does not make sense to me.
First I read a story about a man who wakes his deaf/blind dog by blowing gently on her, now I read about a man who conquered addiction in order to rescue his son, raised the boy with love, and welcomed son's partner. My heart is so full it's spilling out of my eyes.
Dear Dad: you already know what to say, in fact you already said it, “there is nothing he could do to make me love him less.” You can let your son know how you feel *without* making it specific about his private life. He’ll get it, and no one gets outed. I had an opposite experience, growing up with a gay dad (I’m closing in on 60, so it was a worse time in this regard. He died of AIDS because that was a crisis back then. We never spoke about anything specific, he just knew that I had complete acceptance starting when I was about 8 and figured it all out. I was mad at him for other things - like his not handling it well with my mother - but never for what he was born with. With a child, your actions can be enough. Or as I offered above, telling him you love and accept him unconditionally no matter what/non-specifically is likely something he’s heard from you many times already. Please don’t put yourself down for thinking you aren’t smart enough to figure this out. Props, Dad
So sweet! Coming out is such a nerve-wracking experience for some people and it's hard to tell when the right time to do so is. So glad his dad is a caring guy because often times when I have come out to people, i worry about their reaction. Such a nice story!! <3<3<3
"...look not on our sins but on the faith of your Church" I am not an expert of this but it is for us to accept our children as they are and lead them to a better light as well. As per experience, it is not the parents who will define them whether they are gay or the likes but it will be their call whether to tell the truth or not in their own time. Let us just respect them and set a very good life for them.
I really needed this today. With all the bad going on. I really needed to hear this story before I went to bed tonight. Warms my heart. I had a s**t weekend. Lol. But I'm soooooo much better now.
This dad is absolutely amazing. Shows what it really means to love your child unconditionally. My mom thankfully is super accepting. When people ask me how my mom feels about me being gay, I tell them that she's been to more gay pride parades than I have. She tells me she can't wait to have a daughter in law (my mom has 3 girls including me). My mom is also a huge advocate in the LGBT world, and it warms my heart to see more parents so accepting like she is. To all those whose parents have not shown much love, know that you are loved by the rest of the LGBT community (me included!). We will happily be your chosen family.
As he is leaving one day to meet with his boyfriend, just casually say hey why don't you invite (name) over for dinner, we would love to get to know him better. Then just be cool about it when he comes over... if it's not a big thing for you then he will feel that... or you could just have a relaxed chat with him about sex and relationships and let him know it doesn't matter and the important thing is that he is happy maybe... or if you watch movies together sometimes slip in guess whose coming to dinner.... it's not so in your face but it is about choices based on love, fear of others reactions, and in the end acceptance and more love :) and could give you some chances to make the comparison of the taboos of the past vs today and your openness to all things possible
I am a two time cancer survivor and know life is to precious to have secrets like that. Yes, I am in tears! Congratulations to the three of you!!! Good job DAD
Wow! That is incredible! Twice? Congratulations!
Load More Replies...While my parents probably knew, I came out when visiting home after I discovered my partner had been cheating. I was so stressed, I got up from the dinner table and vomited (in the garden thankfully!!). The word "man", "gay" or "homosexual" were never uttered as I explained I'd recently been badly hurt. But it was sufficient. Not easy for them, but 15 years later and my family and my husband (different fella) of ten years get on like a house on fire. It can be done.
Just crying my eyes out reading this. You're the most amazing parent. Thank you for accepting both of them. Wish them and you all the happiness in the world.
My younger cousin is gay, he came out to his parents, they were like "no...really, we have known since you were 4 dude and it doesn't change a single thing, you are our son, simple", afterwards i spoke to him and told him i always knew since he was a kid, the whole family did, now i just joke about it to him and everyone treats him the same, i know not everyone has family like that though.
It's a sweet story and the dad is great, but this really shouldn't even be an issue in 2020. I'd be like "Yeah, he can stay. If you're friends or partners, everything is cool of course."
This man is fantastic, and other parents who disown their children never loved them to begin with! I love my children and when they became teenagers I told them they could love whomever they wanted as long as that person treated them right!
My theory is that if you have a good relationship with your kids..just rip the bandaid off and say it. A friend of mine suspected that her teenage daughter (17) was pregnant because of recognizable signs of morning sickness. We knew her boyfriend and had no problem with it. Plus she'd been extra irritable because I think it was eating at her keeping a secret from her mother. So one day I just said out of the blue "Casey..Are you pregnant?" She looked at her mother, not sure how to answer. I said "She already suspects and keeping the excitement bottled up is killing her..just tell her she's going to be a grandma already." Casey replied "Yeah..." And my friend lost her mind "We're gonna have a baby in the house!!!!" Dancing around.
I bet they are so sad that you wont be welcoming them with open arms, like they actually give a s**t ;)
Load More Replies...Did it ever occur to you that the boyfriend is from Candyland? Therefore making him a candian. Sheesh. What a tiny thing to pick on in a beautiful story.
Load More Replies...Though it may be difficult for some people to believe, there are many stories of loving parents wanting to accept their children's sexuality, and seeking advice online is extremely common.
Load More Replies...Wtf is wrong with you? This wasn't supposed to be a biography of his kids life, it was a question on a forum.
Load More Replies...But, being a christian means accepting people for who they are. You cannot choose how other people live their lives, and frankly, who would want to? Too much responsibility for me. God says to love one another. Being a true christian means accepting people and loving them no matter what.
Load More Replies...This had me in actual tears. What a beautiful, wonderful man! I tried to tell my mom that a friend I had once brought over to the house was actually a girlfriend and she very coldly said, 'well, I hope you got THAT out of your system.' I didn't. I just never mentioned it to her again and have effectively hid a major part of myself from my entire family as a result. I wonder how different my life would be if she had reacted in a positive (or at least a neutral) way. At the very least, I probably wouldn't be going through a divorce from a husband who walked out on me and our 2 small children.
I'm sorry for your experience. I'm straight, but can't understand when a parent has that reaction especially to their child. I've told my kids that there's nothing they could do that would change my love and support of them (including murder) or negatively impact our relationship. As long as my kids find love and happiness then I'm good. You have to do what's best for you and your kids. Life's too short to be surrounded by negative even if they happen to be "family".
Load More Replies...My parents told me and my sibling from basically the second we were born that no matter who I was or what I did or did not believe in that they would always love me. I wasn't sure if I was gay or straight or bi but then I remembered what they said and I just talked to them and they said "it doesn't matter who you are just love who you love because we love you"
I was in the same boat as you, my friend! My parents always told me I could tell them anything, but still, coming out to them very emotional (i cried) and my mom was like "why are you crying? you know we still love you" hah! tears shed over nothin' i suppose :)
Load More Replies...this queer person who is estranged from her mom is literally crying right now. positive parenting of LGBT+ children does exist and it warms my heart to see it. I also really love that this dad didn't feel he needed to act like he knew it all. it's okay to ask for guidance and help and be vulnerable. <3
Im sorry you don't have a relationship with your mom. It's painful when a parent doesn't accept you for who you are. I'm sure you know this already, but I wanted to say that you are worthy of being loved unconditionally by your parents. You are not flawed for being queer, she is flawed in her thinking. I hope you've been able to make peace with everything.
Load More Replies...When my brother came out, he did it at dinner with most of the family there (most of the brothers, my mother and father, and me). He told us that he was gay and had a boyfriend (this was the 80's and we didn't have a lot of the terminology that we have now). My brothers were like, "yeah, we know." My mother told him that it was still his turn to do the dishes, and my dad reminded him of the "Relationship Rule" (we weren't allowed to be serious with someone unless the family met them) and demanded he have the boyfriend at the house for dinner that Sunday so that "we can get a look at him." I always admired my parents for that - they just accepted it and demanded to meet the boyfriend and life went on.
Amazing family, really. But... How went dinner that saturday??? Don't let us hanging there!!!
Load More Replies...I get dad's point. I had a close friend who is gay and knew he was however I didn't want to force him to tell me. He made a 'friend' and they were always together. I knew it was his new boyfriend but again, I thought if he wanted me to know he'd tell me. A few months later he finally told me ask scared ... my response was 'and?'. He was so worried but I really couldn't have cared less as long as he was happy!
This man is incredible. First of all, even though he made a mistake at first, he had the courage to admit it, and make up for it the best he could! Second of all, he is so supportive, and third, he is genuinely worried about what his son will think of HIM! I wish every man were like this.
My son was very fortunate to have a "practice family". He was in a Summer Foreign student exchange program in Costa Rica. He went from our very rural, little town, we're talking "not a single stop light" to a city in the multiple millions population so he was able to practice "coming out". When he arrived home, we met him at the airport. When I saw him, the first thing out of his mouth was "I have something really important to tell you!" We arrived back at our hotel room, the others went inside and my son would not even let the door close, "Mom, we have to go on a walk." So we headed for our walk but he couldn't wait! "Guess what?!?" "I'm GAY!" I looked at him and replied "I know, I've know since you were 2!" 2around what?" "Guess ,Mom wwhatwhat,
Sorry my comment kept being weird, ignore the line or so.
Load More Replies...I worked with a girl that made working more fun and not so dreary. One night as we waited for customers, kind of tipsy from their bathtub margaritas stroll though, she turned to me and she just had to tell me something because she wanted me to know. I thought she was dying or worse. She looks at me and says "I'm gay". That's it. That's what you scared the s**t of me making a big deal! What's that got to do with anything? So now you won't be my friend? A persons sexuality is they only thing they ever truly own. People abuse it by judging, shaming, guilting, bible thumping, and even killing. I don't care what they do behind closed doors. And no one else should either. Kudos to this man. He's like iron. Tested by the fires of his own hell and come out stronger. And a shining example of what we miss by judging others. Thanks for being a real dad and a real man. Your son is going to be a better man because of you.
"He's part of our family now". And there are the tears. All the tears.
This man is an example of what a parent should be. He acknowledged his mistakes when his son was younger and stepped up and did what he needed to do to get his son away from abuse. The way he handled talking with his son about being gay and not only never wavered in his unconditional love for his son, he now has, as he put it, two sons. Thank you for restoring my faith in humanity for showing folks how to be a real dad. and for being an
Great feel good story!! Salute pops your awesome!! Great story in these terrible times! Everyone continue to stay safe! Don't know any of you but I love you all!!
This guy deserves the "best dad" award! This story almost made me cry. I wish my parents were like him, but they are very biased, and my only grandma is definitely no better. I'm bi, and always scared what other people would think, and this reminded me that there are good people in the world who are fine with who you are. This made me happy af.
Very sweet, very touching, very good person. That said, this should be the norm, not something exceptional.
Wonderful for ll concerned. When my daughter was young - at high school - I said to never, ever, be afriad of telling anything at all, and that if it turned outthe opposite sex didn't attract her that was okay. Love is love, and out love for her is unconditional. Turns out she is hetero, just like her parents, but she knew from early on that whatever happens we will always be there for her.
I didn't think I'd be shedding tears at the end of this, but here I am. Love to all 3 of you. It makes me happy thinking about you all sharing a home during this time. How sweet and lovely. You've done a very, very good thing here and put something beautiful into the world. Thank you.
Upvote, upvote, upvote!!!!! Awesome!!! This just made me feel soooo wonderful. Excellent dad. And I'm not crying, I just have something in my eye!
Love this, such an amazing man. I have a friend who has twins, boy and girl. When the brother told his sister he was gay she “I’ve known since we were in the womb!”
My mother once sat me down and said "Son, if your gay, I want you to know I'll always love you". Poor old ma was almost disapointed when I told her that no, I'm quite boringly hetrosexual. I think she had misinterpreted my friendship with my best friend lol. Still it was lovely of her to let me know that if I had been inclined that way, her love was unconditional.
when I came out to my mum as bisexual she said to me 'it doesn't matter whether you come home one day with a boy, a girl or heck even a blue alien, i'll still love you' and I'm really lucky my parents are so supportive of me. this dad is great and his son is so lucky
I told my son I knew he was gay at 16 and I was OK with it. He wanted to adopt all the kids whose parents rejected them. I said if I had the room I would but unfortunately that's a large number.
Awesome Dad, Son and Friend! I tried not to tear up, but those are tears of joy and gratitude for having people like them on the planet. They are the sort that renews my faith in humanity.
I’m an old guy - 75! I’ve never had a coming out experience. I just “was”, and if family and friends were too dense to pick up on it, that was their problem. Family and most friends BTW were always accepting of me and significant others. I’ve always maintained that if your family was paying attention, it wasn’t necessary to come out. I have a most loving family. And I think the father and son in this scenario are very lucky.
Dear all those who are hating because this is about acceptance of an LGBTQ person, F**k off Love, The LGBTQ community
I've never understood why someone would hate, or wish harm, to someone else just because of their sexuality. I'll be 100% honest. As a striaght 43 man I do feel uncomfortable when they show 2 guys kissing on tv or whatever but that's it. Uncomfortable. No hatred. It's exactly the same as old grannies getting it on. Not something I want to think about or watch so I don't. Simple. As long as no-one gets hurt (unless it's consensual lol) then people should be left to do whatever they want with whoever they want imo. Glad these guys got it all out in the open.
All of this is wonderful, but best of all is that his son’s boyfriend suddenly has a family again.
How wonderful, not all parents would do a lot of things he did. Everyone should have a person like this in their life.
You are an outstanding human being! Your loving attitude and heart, have given your son and his partner, the most amazing and forever gift. The gift of being loved u conditionally and accepted as he same! Thank you, for restoring faith in me, that Love,is the greatest of all!
So happy that you are who you are and so open with your heart. The world needs more people like you
From the amount of Awesome Dadness radiating from this, this is not a mere human. It is the Father himself
Well if this wasn't the most wonderful post of the week! Love it! Love is love and it's beautiful!
I'm crying like a damn baby! This is so amazing and heartwarming. You are an awesome Dad who raised an equally awesome son! The unconditional love and support you've shown your son and his partner is the biggest blessing a child can have. You win my vote for Father of the Year!
I love heartwarming stories like these. In a world where the opposite or worse is still prevalent, it's at least encouraging.
This is all well and good, but I will be waiting for the day coming out is not necessary. When people can bring home any one they love. GLBTQIA
I hope for that day too. It would be an amazing day when that happens. Also, in LGBTQIA+, the L goes before the G. Just figured I should correct that ^-^
Load More Replies...All I wanted in my children was for them to be kind, respectful, giving, compassionate and loving. Who they fell in love with was up to them and I had no worries if they were male or female. I feel for anyone who does not have support from parents who claim love for them but cannot accept their life style, does not make sense to me.
First I read a story about a man who wakes his deaf/blind dog by blowing gently on her, now I read about a man who conquered addiction in order to rescue his son, raised the boy with love, and welcomed son's partner. My heart is so full it's spilling out of my eyes.
Dear Dad: you already know what to say, in fact you already said it, “there is nothing he could do to make me love him less.” You can let your son know how you feel *without* making it specific about his private life. He’ll get it, and no one gets outed. I had an opposite experience, growing up with a gay dad (I’m closing in on 60, so it was a worse time in this regard. He died of AIDS because that was a crisis back then. We never spoke about anything specific, he just knew that I had complete acceptance starting when I was about 8 and figured it all out. I was mad at him for other things - like his not handling it well with my mother - but never for what he was born with. With a child, your actions can be enough. Or as I offered above, telling him you love and accept him unconditionally no matter what/non-specifically is likely something he’s heard from you many times already. Please don’t put yourself down for thinking you aren’t smart enough to figure this out. Props, Dad
So sweet! Coming out is such a nerve-wracking experience for some people and it's hard to tell when the right time to do so is. So glad his dad is a caring guy because often times when I have come out to people, i worry about their reaction. Such a nice story!! <3<3<3
"...look not on our sins but on the faith of your Church" I am not an expert of this but it is for us to accept our children as they are and lead them to a better light as well. As per experience, it is not the parents who will define them whether they are gay or the likes but it will be their call whether to tell the truth or not in their own time. Let us just respect them and set a very good life for them.
I really needed this today. With all the bad going on. I really needed to hear this story before I went to bed tonight. Warms my heart. I had a s**t weekend. Lol. But I'm soooooo much better now.
This dad is absolutely amazing. Shows what it really means to love your child unconditionally. My mom thankfully is super accepting. When people ask me how my mom feels about me being gay, I tell them that she's been to more gay pride parades than I have. She tells me she can't wait to have a daughter in law (my mom has 3 girls including me). My mom is also a huge advocate in the LGBT world, and it warms my heart to see more parents so accepting like she is. To all those whose parents have not shown much love, know that you are loved by the rest of the LGBT community (me included!). We will happily be your chosen family.
As he is leaving one day to meet with his boyfriend, just casually say hey why don't you invite (name) over for dinner, we would love to get to know him better. Then just be cool about it when he comes over... if it's not a big thing for you then he will feel that... or you could just have a relaxed chat with him about sex and relationships and let him know it doesn't matter and the important thing is that he is happy maybe... or if you watch movies together sometimes slip in guess whose coming to dinner.... it's not so in your face but it is about choices based on love, fear of others reactions, and in the end acceptance and more love :) and could give you some chances to make the comparison of the taboos of the past vs today and your openness to all things possible
I am a two time cancer survivor and know life is to precious to have secrets like that. Yes, I am in tears! Congratulations to the three of you!!! Good job DAD
Wow! That is incredible! Twice? Congratulations!
Load More Replies...While my parents probably knew, I came out when visiting home after I discovered my partner had been cheating. I was so stressed, I got up from the dinner table and vomited (in the garden thankfully!!). The word "man", "gay" or "homosexual" were never uttered as I explained I'd recently been badly hurt. But it was sufficient. Not easy for them, but 15 years later and my family and my husband (different fella) of ten years get on like a house on fire. It can be done.
Just crying my eyes out reading this. You're the most amazing parent. Thank you for accepting both of them. Wish them and you all the happiness in the world.
My younger cousin is gay, he came out to his parents, they were like "no...really, we have known since you were 4 dude and it doesn't change a single thing, you are our son, simple", afterwards i spoke to him and told him i always knew since he was a kid, the whole family did, now i just joke about it to him and everyone treats him the same, i know not everyone has family like that though.
It's a sweet story and the dad is great, but this really shouldn't even be an issue in 2020. I'd be like "Yeah, he can stay. If you're friends or partners, everything is cool of course."
This man is fantastic, and other parents who disown their children never loved them to begin with! I love my children and when they became teenagers I told them they could love whomever they wanted as long as that person treated them right!
My theory is that if you have a good relationship with your kids..just rip the bandaid off and say it. A friend of mine suspected that her teenage daughter (17) was pregnant because of recognizable signs of morning sickness. We knew her boyfriend and had no problem with it. Plus she'd been extra irritable because I think it was eating at her keeping a secret from her mother. So one day I just said out of the blue "Casey..Are you pregnant?" She looked at her mother, not sure how to answer. I said "She already suspects and keeping the excitement bottled up is killing her..just tell her she's going to be a grandma already." Casey replied "Yeah..." And my friend lost her mind "We're gonna have a baby in the house!!!!" Dancing around.
I bet they are so sad that you wont be welcoming them with open arms, like they actually give a s**t ;)
Load More Replies...Did it ever occur to you that the boyfriend is from Candyland? Therefore making him a candian. Sheesh. What a tiny thing to pick on in a beautiful story.
Load More Replies...Though it may be difficult for some people to believe, there are many stories of loving parents wanting to accept their children's sexuality, and seeking advice online is extremely common.
Load More Replies...Wtf is wrong with you? This wasn't supposed to be a biography of his kids life, it was a question on a forum.
Load More Replies...But, being a christian means accepting people for who they are. You cannot choose how other people live their lives, and frankly, who would want to? Too much responsibility for me. God says to love one another. Being a true christian means accepting people and loving them no matter what.
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