Dad Doesn’t Invite Daughter’s Bully To Her Birthday Party, The Bully’s Mom Confronts Him Over This, He Stands His Ground
Bullying should never be rewarded. Sounds like a simple moral that probably everyone could get behind, right? Well, welcome to Planet Earth where even clear ethical decisions carry a certain amount of ambiguity for some people. And here’s one story that fits the bill perfectly.
A dad turned to the AITA community on Reddit for their judgment whether he was right in excluding a kid, ‘Nick’ who kept bullying his daughter from her 7th birthday celebrations. And while this situation seems fairly clear to most of us, the bully’s mom was furious that her son didn’t get an invite! Have a read through the full story below and give us your verdict, dear Pandas. Oh, and scroll down for our interview about bullying with an expert dedicated to protecting kids from it.
A dad put his foot down and refused to invite his 7-year-old daughter’s bully to her birthday party
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The redditor dad said that the bully’s mom thought it would be the perfect time to have taught his daughter about compassion by forgiving ‘Nick’ and inviting him to the party. However, as one redditor put it in the comments, this argument is a double-edged sword: you could have just as easily told the mom that it’s a wonderful opportunity to teach her son about how our actions have consequences.
“Bullying is never acceptable”
Lauren Seager-Smith, the CEO of Kidscape, a UK-based charity that aims to keep children safe from harm and abuse, put it very simply to Bored Panda: “Bullying is never acceptable.” There is never a ‘good’ reason for anyone to get bullied, whether it’s their family situation (as in the case of the redditor dad, sharing his story), having a ‘funny’ name, wearing glasses, being overweight, or anything else.
According to Lauren from Kidscape, when somebody attacks the things that are vital to a child’s identity, it can be very tough to bear and the kid will need lots of support.
“Never underestimate the impact of bullying, understand what your child needs to feel safe and if the bullying is in school—make sure you let the school know the impact of the situation,” Lauren gave some simple but spot-on advice to parents who might not know how to act.
“You may also want to seek out opportunities to build your child’s confidence and assertiveness skills so they can feel proud of who they are,” she said that there is another layer to dealing with bullying and that means encouraging our children to be emotionally resilient when dealing with injustices that should never happen in the first place.
Here are some people’s thoughts after they read the dad’s story. The vast majority thought that he did absolutely nothing wrong
The most important thing here is the Daughter can trust her Dad to look after her, and he listens to her - and it's her party - she has who she wants Xxxx
Exactly. I loved how he stood up for the daughter instead of just inviting the bully to not have an argument
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My kid spent third grade being a huge jerk to the kids in his class. I couldn't get him to stop, teachers couldn't get him to stop, he was a mess. Then near the middle of the year some fifth graders related to his classmates circled him on the playground and berated him for being an asshole, and the teachers did nothing. He was devastated. I explained that he'd spent three months bullying other kids, and everyone thinks he deserves to get bullied back, so ofc they won't do anything. He cried tears of unfathomable sadness, and started to be nicer to kids. Got frustrated that they weren't receptive right away, but I told him it would take at least three months of being nice to make people forget three months of being an asshole. So anyway, I kinda understand what the bully's mom was going through, but if I were her I would have told my kid that "OFC the birthday girl doesn't want you there - you've been so mean to her for so long! Actions have consequences."
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Nick bullies a child who's mother DIED and Nick's mother thinks it's the victim who needs to learn compassion? Lady, you have no idea what the word means!
Your daughter is your number one priority, not the child bullying her. You did the right thing and showed your daughter that her happiness comes first.
If I had been in the same situation as a child, my mother would absolutely have invited the bully, too. I always learned to avoid confrontation and be nice to everyone, no matter how they treated me, which is very hard to unlearn as an adult. The child can be glad to have a dad who stands up for her.
My 10 year old daughter was recently excluded from a party. She was excluded because a few weeks earlier she was overheard saying something not very nice about the birthday girl. I though it served her right for being mean and I think she learned something from it. I hope the boy in the story also learns from it.
A birthday party should be enjoyed with people you want there. Adults don't invite people they don't like.
Sometimes not. As a kid my mother made me invite a kid who i was ok with but not really friend, because he was poor, badly dressed, never invited to parties, and bullied because he had a condition (pooped his pants often) and it was a decent thing to do. And i was really fine with it, i didn't thought of inviting him because we were not friends, but i was glad to invite him after my mother suggest it.
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I was bullied relentlessly until I left school and I am 100% on this guy's side. As a kid, your birthday is the one time in all the year (and years seem longer when you're a kid) that you get to take charge and pick who you want to spend time (and cake) with. That is your right and nobody should be allowed to take that away. Regarding the bully, I feel sorry for him because obviously something has happened in his life that has made him that way. Most bullies really need therapy. It's sad and I wish it didn't happen.
You can't pick who you want to spent time with when it is not your birthday?
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Well, a little jerk can also use this opportunity to learn that he is not entitled to anybody's friendship and second chances and that nobody is obligated to invite him if they don't want to. If he really wants to start getting along with his classmates, he will have to find another opportunity.
Now imagine a group of colleagues going out and not inviting the office bully. Would anyone tell them to include the person who was verbally/emotionally abusive to them? Granted a child doesn't have the same thought processes, but in that case, a responsible adult steps in to help them acquire social skills.
I was severely bullied in junior high. My parents had to pull me out and put me in private school. When my dad went to get my things from my locker he had it out with the principal. The principal was very sympathetic as it happens all the time there. But when he tries to discipline the kid/kids, he gets a call from the parents giving him what for. The parents are bully him.The kids are bullies. God only knows what the kids grew up to be. Same thing. The kid's a bully. His mom's a bully. Good for you for standing your ground. If you're going to treat someone like that, surprise! No friends. No one wants to be around your son. Made his bed. Now he has to lay in it.
So great that your parents had your back. Mine just told me it was all my own fault because I wouldn't "Just ignore them". :\
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My husbands boss tells me how his daughter, who goes to the same school where her mother teaches, goes up to a boy and says "You know nobody likes you." Apparently the boy burst out in tears, told his mom and the mom called and yelled at my husband's boss. I was about to protest about his daughter being so harsh and being a bully until he says "Yeah...this kid has been spending the better part of the year terrorizing the other students, never my daughter, but she'd had enough and spoke up to get him to stop." He then explains that he told the mother "Perhaps you should tell your son to stop bullying other kids. I'm not going to punish my daughter for standing up for a friend. Your son just got a taste of what he was dishing out. Maybe teach him that he shouldn't do something he wouldn't want done to him."
The father is not the a**e hole. In my opinion the school and the mother are the ones deserving that title more. Schools are notoriously indifferent to bullying and it seems that this school isn't any different. Instead of constantly giving him time outs, they should have warned to mother that the kid would get expelled if she didn't start to work on his problems.
I'm in awe of parents like this and I think it's great that more and more parents are grounded in protecting their kids. My parents would probably of made me invite the bully. I was an old teen and had a stalker who broke into my house (he lived over two hours away btw) and my mom made me be nice to him and take him to the movies with my friends because "he had come all this way" to see me. I feel like today's parents would kick him out and call the cops.
Holy crap, would your mom have offered coffee and cake if a burglar broke in?! "But he went to so much trouble to come in!"
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Your daughter learned about standing her ground. More importantly this is a great time to ask her how SHE felt about it. You will make mistakes along the way. It happens. But your daughter learned that her dad will defend her. Trust isn’t always easy to teach or show. As for the bully’s mom? Later on, as right now might not be the best time, if you feel okay, calmly discuss the situation. Perhaps he doesn’t have a positive male role model.
you definetely did the right thing here. that was really good parenting. nick's mom? not so much.
Definitely NTA, we shouldn't be teaching people to accept poor treatment from others in the name of "compassion". This is why so many people get caught up and stuck in abusive relationships. If you act like a terrible human being, people won't want to be around you, simple as that.
NTA. Bullying is wrong. Especially if it'sabout a dead parent! Just cruel.
Since when is a birthday party about inviting all the kids in a class ? When I was a kid, you invited your friends and that's it.
Apparently it's the in thing now. I personally could not handle having over 20 kids at a birthday party. But if others are happy doing it, then that's their prerogative.
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Bullies aren't born, most are created. As their parent are you part of the problem or are you trying to be part of the solution? What if HE hosted a party and invited everyone?
Eh, not always. My son is on various medications, mainly to keep him emotionally level. Sometimes, he can be a complete A-hole to people. Its not taught, its him just not knowing that his actions are incredibly hurtful. He's always been this way - he really was born with it.
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Is inviting the whole class to your child's birthday party a relatively new development in child-rearing? In my day (am I old enough to say that? I'm 37) we only invited our actual friends from school to our birthday parties, and we only got invited to the birthday parties of our friends. I kinda hope we can still do it that way for my kids. Having a party for 30+ kids (that's the average class size, right?) seems daunting. And buying gifts for 30+ kids a year. Yeesh.
1. way to go Dad! 2. There are schools that have rules about birthday invitations? How come schools have any say in private matters? Thats stupid. 3. I really pity the Bully. I think he would like some friends but does not know how to make them and his Mother makes matters worse. He could probably be a good kid if someone would just teach him.
The dad and daughter bonding is more important than the bully kid learning compassion from strangers. I do think that a stranger will have to intervene if the boy has any hopes for his future and not being a bully. Clearly the bully boy is a victim of his parents and it’s not entirely his fault. But still, the daughter needs to know she can depend on her dad. Especially since it’s a new relationship. If this story is real.
Everybody needs to take responsibility for their actions, whether adult or child. The Mother is not doing that, and in turn her child is not learning how to take responsibility by example. She is essentially throwing the blame onto the Dad. So many parents can not handle their child being picked on and hurt. To me, these parents are as childish as their children. Life can be cruel so teach your children how to develop in a mature way. The birthday Dad is showing you the way.
I think he taught her a better lesson in that it's okay to remove the jerks from your life.
When it comes to 7 year olds, this is a really tough issue, because 7 year olds are still too young to fully understand the consequences of their own actions. If the boy's mother had half a brain, she could use this as a way to teach her son about consequences and to help him learn to be a kinder person. But it sounds like she has just made him the victim and no doubt he will continue along the same sad path as before.
The apple doesn't fall far from the (bully) tree. The mother is an entitled a-hole, clearly. Yeah, it's important that your children learn to be compassionate, but it's just as important that they learn to stand their ground. Good for you, new Dad! You're doing great.
You may not have this "dad" thing down but I think you're a natural. Great job keep it up!
Classless adult spawning tactless offsprings. The saddest character here is the bullying kid. The bad role model could very well shape him into a disgusting person. Some people should really not be allowed to breed.
I don't get why this is even an issue. It's his house, his daughter, her birthday, surely they get to invite whomever they want.
Why would a bully be invited to a party where he terrorized those kids? Seems the mother was a bully back in the day and she condones his behavior and not dealing with it. She seems to be brushing his behavior under the rug. There's a problem at home where he is learning his behavior. Kudos to the dad for listening and hearing his daughter.
They shouldn't have distributed the invitations at school, but that's a minor thing in the whole situation. I don't socialise with people who are assholes, I wouldn't expect my kid to do so.
The mother probably can't stand the kid either and just wants a couple of hours on a weekend where he's someone else's problem. Hopefully shemakes her kid understand the reason the other kids don't want him around. Bullies are allowed too many excuses and not enough consequences. Good for the little girl's dad
My 8 y son has a kind of bully in class..makes a lot of trouble for the other kids..Had some fights with my son. Decided to invite him to play with my son after asking son if it was ok and so they could be better a coping before they would start a fight. Actually worked out fine. 2 tiles there was almost a fight. Went to them and had a talk about it's better to talk than fight. They're not best friends but at least the learned to deal with each other. (Now he's fighting other kids my that's not my problem.) Poor kid. He's having a hard time and letting out steam at school. Should have a lot of hugs instead.
You intervened in a positive way. My niece was bullied on two occasions in elementary school. In the first case, it was a lone boy. She started helping him with schoolwork because she felt he needed a friend. They became friends. In the second situation, a group of girls picked on her. She drew a picture of the group's leader and stabbed it with a pencil in front of her. The leader was terrified and the group never picked on her again. I was impressed that she figured out what each situation required. That was years ago. She's now starting a PhD in psychology.
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Yeah, definitely don't do public invites. I'm sure the other kids who were bullied WERE glad he was excluded too. I hope he continues to be shunned outside of school until he learns to be pleasant in school. Of course, that's a cycle of destruction if he doesn't get taught how and why, or gets to the root of his bullying. It could be bullying is his only way of exerting any control in his own life. Seeing how bad of a parent the mom is does imply she may be the root of some of his issue.
"Nick's" mom is the asshole - and "anon-y-mousey" is an idiot. The article gives the impression that "Nick" is the only kid who wasn't invited, and who the hell cares about a bully's feelings?
F**k that little bully. He'll figure it out soon enough to not be a little d**k bag to people and you might get better life experiences. Serious, just try being super nice to anybody in retail and you more often than not get what you're asking for. Apply to all life situations and people normally will do nice things. Funny how the golden rule prevails once again. Think the whole world could use a reminderer TBH....
He has been raising her for long and he may be nervous about asking people he knows.
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I wonder about the last comment. I've never gotten involved in who is invited to a party off campus. The kids pass out the invites at school sometimes, but it is none of my business what people do in their homes.
Yet another in a continuing series of AITA on Bored Panda where no, the author is not the asshole. Bored Panda, when are you gonna quit this lazy s**t?
This is going to be an unpopular opinion. If you are going to invite your kids classmates to a party, you invite ALL of them. What better way to teach a bully to not be a bully but from an example of kindness and how to treat others. What better way to further isolate and fuel a bully but excluding him. These are 7 year old kids for crying out loud. They need to learn social interaction and what is acceptable, and that is not treating them as a pariah. Try to think of it from this YOUNG childs POV, he is completely clueless how to behave, and it is not going to get any better if his community of adults are being jerks to him. Shame on anyone who thinks this is ok.
I think there are better ways to teach a child not to be a bully. Why does it have to be at the expense of your own child's happiness? Is it a lesson that should be taught by other parents or the bully parents? Besides, one could also argue that children should learn that in life you don't always get your way. I don't think the community of adults are being jerks to "Nick" because his mother was told why he hasn't been invited, it's up to the mother to so something about it, raise her child properly. If she can't, she can ask for help, rather than "demand" it.
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It is not his or his daughter's responsibility to help her raise her child. She can get professional help if she's that desperate.
Load More Replies... The most important thing here is the Daughter can trust her Dad to look after her, and he listens to her - and it's her party - she has who she wants Xxxx
Exactly. I loved how he stood up for the daughter instead of just inviting the bully to not have an argument
Load More Replies... My kid spent third grade being a huge jerk to the kids in his class. I couldn't get him to stop, teachers couldn't get him to stop, he was a mess. Then near the middle of the year some fifth graders related to his classmates circled him on the playground and berated him for being an asshole, and the teachers did nothing. He was devastated. I explained that he'd spent three months bullying other kids, and everyone thinks he deserves to get bullied back, so ofc they won't do anything. He cried tears of unfathomable sadness, and started to be nicer to kids. Got frustrated that they weren't receptive right away, but I told him it would take at least three months of being nice to make people forget three months of being an asshole. So anyway, I kinda understand what the bully's mom was going through, but if I were her I would have told my kid that "OFC the birthday girl doesn't want you there - you've been so mean to her for so long! Actions have consequences."
Load More Replies... Nick bullies a child who's mother DIED and Nick's mother thinks it's the victim who needs to learn compassion? Lady, you have no idea what the word means!
Your daughter is your number one priority, not the child bullying her. You did the right thing and showed your daughter that her happiness comes first.
If I had been in the same situation as a child, my mother would absolutely have invited the bully, too. I always learned to avoid confrontation and be nice to everyone, no matter how they treated me, which is very hard to unlearn as an adult. The child can be glad to have a dad who stands up for her.
My 10 year old daughter was recently excluded from a party. She was excluded because a few weeks earlier she was overheard saying something not very nice about the birthday girl. I though it served her right for being mean and I think she learned something from it. I hope the boy in the story also learns from it.
A birthday party should be enjoyed with people you want there. Adults don't invite people they don't like.
Sometimes not. As a kid my mother made me invite a kid who i was ok with but not really friend, because he was poor, badly dressed, never invited to parties, and bullied because he had a condition (pooped his pants often) and it was a decent thing to do. And i was really fine with it, i didn't thought of inviting him because we were not friends, but i was glad to invite him after my mother suggest it.
Load More Replies... I was bullied relentlessly until I left school and I am 100% on this guy's side. As a kid, your birthday is the one time in all the year (and years seem longer when you're a kid) that you get to take charge and pick who you want to spend time (and cake) with. That is your right and nobody should be allowed to take that away. Regarding the bully, I feel sorry for him because obviously something has happened in his life that has made him that way. Most bullies really need therapy. It's sad and I wish it didn't happen.
You can't pick who you want to spent time with when it is not your birthday?
Load More Replies... Well, a little jerk can also use this opportunity to learn that he is not entitled to anybody's friendship and second chances and that nobody is obligated to invite him if they don't want to. If he really wants to start getting along with his classmates, he will have to find another opportunity.
Now imagine a group of colleagues going out and not inviting the office bully. Would anyone tell them to include the person who was verbally/emotionally abusive to them? Granted a child doesn't have the same thought processes, but in that case, a responsible adult steps in to help them acquire social skills.
I was severely bullied in junior high. My parents had to pull me out and put me in private school. When my dad went to get my things from my locker he had it out with the principal. The principal was very sympathetic as it happens all the time there. But when he tries to discipline the kid/kids, he gets a call from the parents giving him what for. The parents are bully him.The kids are bullies. God only knows what the kids grew up to be. Same thing. The kid's a bully. His mom's a bully. Good for you for standing your ground. If you're going to treat someone like that, surprise! No friends. No one wants to be around your son. Made his bed. Now he has to lay in it.
So great that your parents had your back. Mine just told me it was all my own fault because I wouldn't "Just ignore them". :\
Load More Replies... My husbands boss tells me how his daughter, who goes to the same school where her mother teaches, goes up to a boy and says "You know nobody likes you." Apparently the boy burst out in tears, told his mom and the mom called and yelled at my husband's boss. I was about to protest about his daughter being so harsh and being a bully until he says "Yeah...this kid has been spending the better part of the year terrorizing the other students, never my daughter, but she'd had enough and spoke up to get him to stop." He then explains that he told the mother "Perhaps you should tell your son to stop bullying other kids. I'm not going to punish my daughter for standing up for a friend. Your son just got a taste of what he was dishing out. Maybe teach him that he shouldn't do something he wouldn't want done to him."
The father is not the a**e hole. In my opinion the school and the mother are the ones deserving that title more. Schools are notoriously indifferent to bullying and it seems that this school isn't any different. Instead of constantly giving him time outs, they should have warned to mother that the kid would get expelled if she didn't start to work on his problems.
I'm in awe of parents like this and I think it's great that more and more parents are grounded in protecting their kids. My parents would probably of made me invite the bully. I was an old teen and had a stalker who broke into my house (he lived over two hours away btw) and my mom made me be nice to him and take him to the movies with my friends because "he had come all this way" to see me. I feel like today's parents would kick him out and call the cops.
Holy crap, would your mom have offered coffee and cake if a burglar broke in?! "But he went to so much trouble to come in!"
Load More Replies... Your daughter learned about standing her ground. More importantly this is a great time to ask her how SHE felt about it. You will make mistakes along the way. It happens. But your daughter learned that her dad will defend her. Trust isn’t always easy to teach or show. As for the bully’s mom? Later on, as right now might not be the best time, if you feel okay, calmly discuss the situation. Perhaps he doesn’t have a positive male role model.
you definetely did the right thing here. that was really good parenting. nick's mom? not so much.
Definitely NTA, we shouldn't be teaching people to accept poor treatment from others in the name of "compassion". This is why so many people get caught up and stuck in abusive relationships. If you act like a terrible human being, people won't want to be around you, simple as that.
NTA. Bullying is wrong. Especially if it'sabout a dead parent! Just cruel.
Since when is a birthday party about inviting all the kids in a class ? When I was a kid, you invited your friends and that's it.
Apparently it's the in thing now. I personally could not handle having over 20 kids at a birthday party. But if others are happy doing it, then that's their prerogative.
Load More Replies... Bullies aren't born, most are created. As their parent are you part of the problem or are you trying to be part of the solution? What if HE hosted a party and invited everyone?
Eh, not always. My son is on various medications, mainly to keep him emotionally level. Sometimes, he can be a complete A-hole to people. Its not taught, its him just not knowing that his actions are incredibly hurtful. He's always been this way - he really was born with it.
Load More Replies... Is inviting the whole class to your child's birthday party a relatively new development in child-rearing? In my day (am I old enough to say that? I'm 37) we only invited our actual friends from school to our birthday parties, and we only got invited to the birthday parties of our friends. I kinda hope we can still do it that way for my kids. Having a party for 30+ kids (that's the average class size, right?) seems daunting. And buying gifts for 30+ kids a year. Yeesh.
1. way to go Dad! 2. There are schools that have rules about birthday invitations? How come schools have any say in private matters? Thats stupid. 3. I really pity the Bully. I think he would like some friends but does not know how to make them and his Mother makes matters worse. He could probably be a good kid if someone would just teach him.
The dad and daughter bonding is more important than the bully kid learning compassion from strangers. I do think that a stranger will have to intervene if the boy has any hopes for his future and not being a bully. Clearly the bully boy is a victim of his parents and it’s not entirely his fault. But still, the daughter needs to know she can depend on her dad. Especially since it’s a new relationship. If this story is real.
Everybody needs to take responsibility for their actions, whether adult or child. The Mother is not doing that, and in turn her child is not learning how to take responsibility by example. She is essentially throwing the blame onto the Dad. So many parents can not handle their child being picked on and hurt. To me, these parents are as childish as their children. Life can be cruel so teach your children how to develop in a mature way. The birthday Dad is showing you the way.
I think he taught her a better lesson in that it's okay to remove the jerks from your life.
When it comes to 7 year olds, this is a really tough issue, because 7 year olds are still too young to fully understand the consequences of their own actions. If the boy's mother had half a brain, she could use this as a way to teach her son about consequences and to help him learn to be a kinder person. But it sounds like she has just made him the victim and no doubt he will continue along the same sad path as before.
The apple doesn't fall far from the (bully) tree. The mother is an entitled a-hole, clearly. Yeah, it's important that your children learn to be compassionate, but it's just as important that they learn to stand their ground. Good for you, new Dad! You're doing great.
You may not have this "dad" thing down but I think you're a natural. Great job keep it up!
Classless adult spawning tactless offsprings. The saddest character here is the bullying kid. The bad role model could very well shape him into a disgusting person. Some people should really not be allowed to breed.
I don't get why this is even an issue. It's his house, his daughter, her birthday, surely they get to invite whomever they want.
Why would a bully be invited to a party where he terrorized those kids? Seems the mother was a bully back in the day and she condones his behavior and not dealing with it. She seems to be brushing his behavior under the rug. There's a problem at home where he is learning his behavior. Kudos to the dad for listening and hearing his daughter.
They shouldn't have distributed the invitations at school, but that's a minor thing in the whole situation. I don't socialise with people who are assholes, I wouldn't expect my kid to do so.
The mother probably can't stand the kid either and just wants a couple of hours on a weekend where he's someone else's problem. Hopefully shemakes her kid understand the reason the other kids don't want him around. Bullies are allowed too many excuses and not enough consequences. Good for the little girl's dad
My 8 y son has a kind of bully in class..makes a lot of trouble for the other kids..Had some fights with my son. Decided to invite him to play with my son after asking son if it was ok and so they could be better a coping before they would start a fight. Actually worked out fine. 2 tiles there was almost a fight. Went to them and had a talk about it's better to talk than fight. They're not best friends but at least the learned to deal with each other. (Now he's fighting other kids my that's not my problem.) Poor kid. He's having a hard time and letting out steam at school. Should have a lot of hugs instead.
You intervened in a positive way. My niece was bullied on two occasions in elementary school. In the first case, it was a lone boy. She started helping him with schoolwork because she felt he needed a friend. They became friends. In the second situation, a group of girls picked on her. She drew a picture of the group's leader and stabbed it with a pencil in front of her. The leader was terrified and the group never picked on her again. I was impressed that she figured out what each situation required. That was years ago. She's now starting a PhD in psychology.
Load More Replies... Yeah, definitely don't do public invites. I'm sure the other kids who were bullied WERE glad he was excluded too. I hope he continues to be shunned outside of school until he learns to be pleasant in school. Of course, that's a cycle of destruction if he doesn't get taught how and why, or gets to the root of his bullying. It could be bullying is his only way of exerting any control in his own life. Seeing how bad of a parent the mom is does imply she may be the root of some of his issue.
"Nick's" mom is the asshole - and "anon-y-mousey" is an idiot. The article gives the impression that "Nick" is the only kid who wasn't invited, and who the hell cares about a bully's feelings?
F**k that little bully. He'll figure it out soon enough to not be a little d**k bag to people and you might get better life experiences. Serious, just try being super nice to anybody in retail and you more often than not get what you're asking for. Apply to all life situations and people normally will do nice things. Funny how the golden rule prevails once again. Think the whole world could use a reminderer TBH....
He has been raising her for long and he may be nervous about asking people he knows.
Load More Replies... I wonder about the last comment. I've never gotten involved in who is invited to a party off campus. The kids pass out the invites at school sometimes, but it is none of my business what people do in their homes.
Yet another in a continuing series of AITA on Bored Panda where no, the author is not the asshole. Bored Panda, when are you gonna quit this lazy s**t?
This is going to be an unpopular opinion. If you are going to invite your kids classmates to a party, you invite ALL of them. What better way to teach a bully to not be a bully but from an example of kindness and how to treat others. What better way to further isolate and fuel a bully but excluding him. These are 7 year old kids for crying out loud. They need to learn social interaction and what is acceptable, and that is not treating them as a pariah. Try to think of it from this YOUNG childs POV, he is completely clueless how to behave, and it is not going to get any better if his community of adults are being jerks to him. Shame on anyone who thinks this is ok.
I think there are better ways to teach a child not to be a bully. Why does it have to be at the expense of your own child's happiness? Is it a lesson that should be taught by other parents or the bully parents? Besides, one could also argue that children should learn that in life you don't always get your way. I don't think the community of adults are being jerks to "Nick" because his mother was told why he hasn't been invited, it's up to the mother to so something about it, raise her child properly. If she can't, she can ask for help, rather than "demand" it.
Load More Replies... Lucifer used to be an angel. Special place in hell and all that.
Load More Replies... It is not his or his daughter's responsibility to help her raise her child. She can get professional help if she's that desperate.
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