Dad Catches 13 Y.O. Daughter Lying After She Fails To Introduce Her Date, Tells Her To Text Him And Call It Off
Parenting isn’t easy, period. However, it’s particularly tricky when you’re the only one responsible for your offspring.
First and foremost, you can never be fully prepared to care for another person. You won’t wake up in the middle of the night and suddenly realize that you’ve already experienced all life has to offer and will be a natural at raising children – frankly speaking, it’s a journey that everyone just wings.
There will be some things that you won’t know how to do, and it’s likely that you’ll also spend a significant deal of time wondering if you’re doing a decent job as a parent – but let’s face it, you’re not the first one, and you most certainly won’t be the last.
Living with a teenager under your roof is a job and a half, but it’s in your best interest to remember that bickering is unavoidable and, in fact, absolutely normal.
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You know what they say: “Parenting is the most rewarding, exhausting, exhilarating ride of your life”
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“AITA for making my daughter cancel her date?” – this web user turned to one of Reddit’s most judgmental communities, asking its members whether he’s indeed a jerk for telling his 13-year-old to cancel her date after she refused to let him meet her potential boyfriend. The post managed to garner nearly 10K upvotes as well as 2.8K comments discussing the situation.
Single dad ponders if he’s indeed a jerk for asking teen to introduce her date before going out and then demanding her to cancel it when she refused
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The man began his post by revealing that he’s been a single dad for nearly a decade; his beloved daughter is 13 years old, and she’s the apple of his eye.
Recently, she said that a boy in her class asked her out on a pizza date on the weekend, and since they don’t really do anything for Thanksgiving, the author of the post didn’t mind it. Now, the man did tell her that he wanted to meet the boy – however, his daughter got visibly annoyed and began asking why.
The post’s creator reassured his offspring that it wouldn’t be some kind of “dad interrogates boyfriend and acts all scary” type of thing and that he just wanted to meet him and say hi. The daughter finally agreed and they moved on.
When the author’s daughter revealed to him that she’d been asked on a pizza date, he told her that he wanted to meet the boy
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The day of the date came around and the man saw his daughter heading towards the door, so he stopped her and asked where the youngster was. She said that he was waiting outside, adding that they’d be riding their bikes to the pizza place. Of course, the author of the post pondered why her date wasn’t coming inside, to which the child began making up excuses.
Initially, she said that he was just frightened and unsure of what to say to him, but she quickly changed her story and said that she didn’t see why he had to meet him. The father explained why, once again, and asked her to go get him.
The 13-year-old then broke down and told the author that she’d lied to him. Turns out, she never mentioned it to her date because she believed that it was “stupid” that her father wanted to know what kind of boy his child was planning on hanging out with.
At first, she agreed – however, when the day of the date came around, she started to make up excuses
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The man instructed her to call off the date, and after a brief attempt at an argument, the girl stormed off to her room. When the author reached out to his sister to explain what had happened, she thought he was in the wrong and should have just allowed his kid to go on the date.
She eventually admitted that she had never told her date because she thought it was “stupid,” so the author told her to text him that the date was off
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Nothing in life compares to an understanding and supportive parent-child relationship. However, this journey is among one of the hardest ones, meaning that getting away from occasional bumps in the road is a mission impossible – let alone when you’re a single parent!
What do you think about this situation? What would you have done differently if you were in the author’s shoes?
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Well, sometimes "13 year old" boyfriends of 13 year old girls turn out to be 30 year old incels, so...
Yes that was my first thought, unfortunately. He could have walked out and met him though
Exactly, he (dad) should have went outside to meet him. This girl lied so easily to her dads face no remorse. just for that, I would punish her.
There was no indication that he was actually waiting outside
No, coming to my house to take my daughter out you can come up to the front door and introduce yourself. That's respectful thing to do in my opinion
No.
She said the boy was from her class, but even a 13yo meeting with a 13yo could be dangerous. Like, imagine the boy brought someone else, like kidnappers to the "date". The dad has the complete right to just see his face before they go.
My thoughts even before I read the full story. The "boy" was older. Possibly a grown man. I'd bet money on it. My parents didn't care enough to meet the kids I hung out with at that age, and sometimes it was fine and sometimes I wound up in unsafe situations and had no tools to deal with it.
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No I think she just saw it as an antiquated, sexist, custom. I don't think it's a grown man.
What dad should have done is explain that it was to protect the date if he believed she thought it was a sexist custom. Just say that you want to be able to help the police find him too if both are kidnapped or he is grabbed and she is rendered unconscious and can't provide his description. Just like she lied to him, she has no idea what he told his parents. So any meeting is about both of them.
Why walk on eggshells around a bratty child like this? Our society is so messed up because we give power to children they cannot handle.
One of my brothers had an experience like this. My niece was only 14, and would lie that she was out with her group of girl friends when she was actually meeting her “boyfriend”. One day, thinking my brother wasn’t home, “boyfriend” showed up outside the house to pick her up for a date. In his CAR! He was 18! My brother went right out to see who he was, and when he found out, he read him the riot act and threatened to have him arrested and put on the pedophile register since he was an adult and she was still a child. So yeah, Dad has every right to cancel the date if he can’t meet the guy taking his ONLY daughter out. Same would apply if he had a son and couldn’t meet the girl, who could also be way too old, going out for pizza with his son. Remember, 18 year olds can also ride bikes to the pizza parlor. Dad was only listening to his Spidey sense here, and could’ve been right to be concerned. When it comes to children, it’s always better to err on the side of caution, because the alternative is too horrible to think about.
You're absolutely right. I worked as a counselor in a lockdown treatment facility for girls 13-18 years old when my daughters came of age to date. So I think it made my senses feel more heightened by the knowledge of my work experience, but I tried very hard to not let it cloud my perception of my daughters behavior and I think I did well. My eyes were definitely open to the possibilities that could befall them though. Fortunately their boyfriends didn't drive and I did most of the transportation for them to go out on dates and visit each others homes, but they didn't "date" until they were 15 and this was almost 15 years ago now. We definitely had to know who they were going to be out with. They also went out with friend groups earlier, to which we delivered and picked up. After my childhood also I just had to keep a bit closer eye on my children.
is his sister a moron? she expects dad to let the daughter go on a date with a guy that he's never met, heard of or even seen before? is she in cloud coo-coo land where pedos dont exist or something?
You would think as a woman, the sister would be warry about 13 year old boys. I mean come on,... Everyone at this point knows how gross 13 year old boys are.
If he is actually a 13 yr old boy... High chance he's not, she lied already.
My first thought was that he's most likely nowhere near 13 if she's so desperate to hide him from Dad. Not a parent, but I'm totally on Dad's side here.
The aunt probably knows what's going on with the niece. I'm from NYC, I've seen too much! 1. She is probably I'm HS so most likely, the boy is an upper classmate. 2. We have all been teens before, lies to parents come with the territory! 3. Dad should have went outside nd made himself known.
Yes she is
Well, sometimes "13 year old" boyfriends of 13 year old girls turn out to be 30 year old incels, so...
Yes that was my first thought, unfortunately. He could have walked out and met him though
Exactly, he (dad) should have went outside to meet him. This girl lied so easily to her dads face no remorse. just for that, I would punish her.
There was no indication that he was actually waiting outside
No, coming to my house to take my daughter out you can come up to the front door and introduce yourself. That's respectful thing to do in my opinion
No.
She said the boy was from her class, but even a 13yo meeting with a 13yo could be dangerous. Like, imagine the boy brought someone else, like kidnappers to the "date". The dad has the complete right to just see his face before they go.
My thoughts even before I read the full story. The "boy" was older. Possibly a grown man. I'd bet money on it. My parents didn't care enough to meet the kids I hung out with at that age, and sometimes it was fine and sometimes I wound up in unsafe situations and had no tools to deal with it.
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No I think she just saw it as an antiquated, sexist, custom. I don't think it's a grown man.
What dad should have done is explain that it was to protect the date if he believed she thought it was a sexist custom. Just say that you want to be able to help the police find him too if both are kidnapped or he is grabbed and she is rendered unconscious and can't provide his description. Just like she lied to him, she has no idea what he told his parents. So any meeting is about both of them.
Why walk on eggshells around a bratty child like this? Our society is so messed up because we give power to children they cannot handle.
One of my brothers had an experience like this. My niece was only 14, and would lie that she was out with her group of girl friends when she was actually meeting her “boyfriend”. One day, thinking my brother wasn’t home, “boyfriend” showed up outside the house to pick her up for a date. In his CAR! He was 18! My brother went right out to see who he was, and when he found out, he read him the riot act and threatened to have him arrested and put on the pedophile register since he was an adult and she was still a child. So yeah, Dad has every right to cancel the date if he can’t meet the guy taking his ONLY daughter out. Same would apply if he had a son and couldn’t meet the girl, who could also be way too old, going out for pizza with his son. Remember, 18 year olds can also ride bikes to the pizza parlor. Dad was only listening to his Spidey sense here, and could’ve been right to be concerned. When it comes to children, it’s always better to err on the side of caution, because the alternative is too horrible to think about.
You're absolutely right. I worked as a counselor in a lockdown treatment facility for girls 13-18 years old when my daughters came of age to date. So I think it made my senses feel more heightened by the knowledge of my work experience, but I tried very hard to not let it cloud my perception of my daughters behavior and I think I did well. My eyes were definitely open to the possibilities that could befall them though. Fortunately their boyfriends didn't drive and I did most of the transportation for them to go out on dates and visit each others homes, but they didn't "date" until they were 15 and this was almost 15 years ago now. We definitely had to know who they were going to be out with. They also went out with friend groups earlier, to which we delivered and picked up. After my childhood also I just had to keep a bit closer eye on my children.
is his sister a moron? she expects dad to let the daughter go on a date with a guy that he's never met, heard of or even seen before? is she in cloud coo-coo land where pedos dont exist or something?
You would think as a woman, the sister would be warry about 13 year old boys. I mean come on,... Everyone at this point knows how gross 13 year old boys are.
If he is actually a 13 yr old boy... High chance he's not, she lied already.
My first thought was that he's most likely nowhere near 13 if she's so desperate to hide him from Dad. Not a parent, but I'm totally on Dad's side here.
The aunt probably knows what's going on with the niece. I'm from NYC, I've seen too much! 1. She is probably I'm HS so most likely, the boy is an upper classmate. 2. We have all been teens before, lies to parents come with the territory! 3. Dad should have went outside nd made himself known.
Yes she is