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There is a vast valley with steep slopes and a raging river winding its way through the bottom that separates the people who are genuinely nice and those who only proclaim themselves to be ‘nice.’ Most of us know from experience that guys who are actually nice act very differently than those who are ‘nice guys.’

However, this post isn’t about nice guys. No, this one is about nice girls. Or rather—‘nice girls’ who believe they’re entitled to ‘perfect’ partners while dripping with hatred for the world and showing their true colors when things don’t go their way. In fact, there’s a place where they get called out: the r/Nicegirls subreddit that proves that fake ‘niceness’ knows no gender boundaries. See for your yourselves, dear Pandas. Be sure to read on for Bored Panda's interview with one of the moderators of the subreddit, user CTFOE_is_Free.

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Selfishness and altruism aren't as black and white as you might think. According to research, human history has shown that some forms of selfishness can be considered to be "healthy" while some altruism can be "pathological." Healthy selfishness led to higher levels of psychological well-being and a "genuine prosocial orientation." Meanwhile, pathological altruism was associated with vulnerable narcissism and selfish motivations for helping others. If that sounds familiar, it's the scientific basis for the difference between nice and 'nice.'

Moderator CTFOE_is_Fee told Bored Panda that the reason why some women are 'nice girls' is a combination of a few factors. "Some of them are too immature to realize what they're doing. Others are that manipulative on purpose. Lastly, some do not even realize what they're doing," they explained.

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Sowieso
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This kind of messaging is why men think they should try harder, and how you create an unsafe feeling for a lot of woman. Because a man will take away from this that no means yes. And that you have to keep trying, even though the woman made clear that she is not into you. It's a dangerous game to play!

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The Cat Isn’t What He Should Be Getting Rid Of

The Cat Isn’t What He Should Be Getting Rid Of

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Sum Guy
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The cat has been there before her and judging by her being jealous of a cat, the cat will be there after she's gone

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We were curious to find out where the line between genuine niceness and fake 'niceness' was for the moderator. Here's what they had to say: "Personally, for me, the line is drawn when you can tell that someone is being passive-aggressive; when you can sense the subdued maliciousness in their words and actions. If your gut is telling you that something is not genuine about the person then they probably are not genuine. I think we've all experienced a few relationships like that in our lives. I do not see there being a large grey area between the two. You know when someone is being kind or not."

According to CTFOE_is_free, one of the things that new members need to keep in mind if they decide to join up is to read and follow the subreddit rules. "We have a strict No doxxing policy, as we work to respect and protect the privacy of the subjects of the content as well as that of the posters."

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I Went On One Date With This Girl And She Spent The Whole Time On Her Phone Drinking Coffee I Bought Her

I Went On One Date With This Girl And She Spent The Whole Time On Her Phone Drinking Coffee I Bought Her

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A Message To All Nice Girls Who Might Have A Screw Loose

A Message To All Nice Girls Who Might Have A Screw Loose

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Saint Thomas
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Or maybe... confront him and talk about it ? Then make a decision ? I understand this is meant as a kind of joke with a twist, but it's not good advice, either way.

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According to the creators of the subreddit, the 'Nice Girls' community is like the ‘Nice Guys’ online group, but different in that they focus on women instead. Bored Panda has even written about them before. You can check out that post right over here once you’re done enjoying this list. Spoiler alert: proclaiming that you’re nice doesn’t make it so. The proof is in how you act, not the mild-mannered facade you show the world.

“For all the self-proclaimed ‘nice girls.’ For the women who complain ‘guys are only interested in [promiscuous women].’ For women who complain that men are shallow for not dating overweight women, while also demanding that their man have washboard abs. For the women who hold others to the highest possible standard, but have no standards for themselves,” the r/Nicegirls creators explain what their group is all about.

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A Nicegirl Daydream

A Nicegirl Daydream

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Now That's A Logical Leap

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Laughter is not good for my tummy pain right now, but that reply was funny as heck.

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The main focus of the subreddit is to shame these ‘nice girls’ in all their glory through images, articles, videos, and everything else. “This sub is not for female incels. This place is not for crazy girls. If you swap the genders and it doesn't belong on r/niceguys, then don't post it,” they explain.

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What’s more, the moderators point out that their community is “not a women hating subreddit.” They encourage members to be polite and “refrain from making sexist comments or being a bigot.” They have a zero-tolerance policy regarding things like that, so mind your manners. Yes, there’s a certain unsurprising irony there that a group about shaming people who are supposedly ‘nice’ actually requires folks to be nice.

However, just because r/Nicegirls deems these women worthy of being shamed doesn’t mean that they’re having an all-out war with them. Members of the group can’t post any identifying information about people: this way, they’re protected from internet users who might want to criticize them or insult them. After all, just because someone’s ‘nice’ now doesn’t mean that they’re not learning to be actually, genuinely nice. I’m a big believer that people can change if they set their minds to it.

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So You Know It's Wrong, But You Did It Anyway?

So You Know It's Wrong, But You Did It Anyway?

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Foxxy (The Original)
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Oh boy, and I bet that she still doesn't get the irony after being called out on it.

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So I Broke My Leg, And She Wanted To Go On A Date....

So I Broke My Leg, And She Wanted To Go On A Date....

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"I Just Said Goodnight, But I'm Gonna Throw A Tantrum If You Say Goodnight Back"

"I Just Said Goodnight, But I'm Gonna Throw A Tantrum If You Say Goodnight Back"

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Foxxy (The Original)
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Oh yeah coz men can read our minds and know exactly how we are feeling. How about stop playing games and tell him.

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Urban Dictionary defines 'nice girls' as women who believe they're the best choice to be someone's girlfriend. They're deemed by the internet to be manipulative, have self-esteem issues, and can be passive-aggressive. They also have problems with jealousy and being self-centered. Especially if rejected.

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The "I Don't Want Anything" Classic

The "I Don't Want Anything" Classic

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Foxxy (The Original)
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Ugh another one playing stupid Games. If you say you don't want something then expect to not get it.

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Spanish Girls Are Her #1 Enemy

Spanish Girls Are Her #1 Enemy

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We Have The FBI And Then We Have This

We Have The FBI And Then We Have This

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Foxxy (The Original)
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

What an absolute f*****g bitch. There is no sugar coating how I feel about people doing s**t like this.

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Usually, 'nice girls' are women who get others to pity her into dating her. In short, they're the female version of 'nice guys,' with all the drama and seething hatred you'd expect to see from them. Both 'nice girls' and 'nice guys' feel like they deserve to be in a relationship with anyone that they want or anyone that so much as smiles at them.

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Double Standards Are Great !

Double Standards Are Great !

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There’ll Be Blizzard In Hell Before I Stop Eating Cinnamon Toast Crunch For Breakfast

There’ll Be Blizzard In Hell Before I Stop Eating Cinnamon Toast Crunch For Breakfast

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They also believe that the world owes them what they want just because they're 'well-mannered.' The moment things go south and they don't get what they want, they rage at the world and proclaim that it's not fair that things are this way. Whereas a genuinely nice person is kind to others without expecting a reward, a self-proclaimed 'nice girl' or 'nice guy' hides the fact that they're really just after the reward. Usually, the reward they have in mind is romantic or [ahem] something more.

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I'm Sure Nick Appreciates Your Support!

I'm Sure Nick Appreciates Your Support!

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My Ex Girlfriend Wanted To Meet For A Drink And I Said No As I Was Visiting My Terminally Ill Grandmother. She Said My Grandmother Was Lucky Be Dying Because She Would Be Ashamed Of Me. Then Put This Message On Her Instagram

My Ex Girlfriend Wanted To Meet For A Drink And I Said No As I Was Visiting My Terminally Ill Grandmother. She Said My Grandmother Was Lucky Be Dying Because She Would Be Ashamed Of Me. Then Put This Message On Her Instagram

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The Gentleman’s Journal suggests that the difference between nice and ‘nice’ depends on how honest we are with ourselves about our intentions. For instance, they explain that you should be generous, but that you shouldn’t use your generosity as a bargaining chip for other things. That means that why you’re doing something is just as important as the fact that you’re doing it.

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Don't Get Me What I Ask For

Don't Get Me What I Ask For

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Eva the Egg
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Come on, you cant be THAT unappreciative! You should be grateful you even have a boyfriend with that attitude

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My Ex Sent Death Treats To Me On My Birthday, This Was What Happened Afterwardss

My Ex Sent Death Treats To Me On My Birthday, This Was What Happened Afterwardss

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One thought in particular raised by the Gentleman’s Journal stuck in my mind: “Do be kind. But don’t do it just because you think you ought to.” The implication here is simple: being kind is vital. However, making the decision to be kind because you believe it’s the right thing to do is the key here.

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Abuse Ain’t Cute

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Ryan Deschanel
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

"Hey people, I am a physically abusive person! It is funny because women are always right and men's feelings do not matter!"

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Raine Soo
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I hope that he has the strength to leave your sorry ass.

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WilvanderHeijden
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Sad part, she can beat him a million times in public and no one would bat an eye. He beats her once in defense and he is the lowlife scum wife beater.

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MandaPanda
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That's not f***ing funny. No one, and I mean no man, woman, non binary, child. Anyone, should flinch from another person and especially have them make fun of you for it.

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CatWoman312
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

As a domestic violence survivor this is NOT okay. Men can be victims just as much as women.

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Lxm
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

There has been some damage in that toxic relationship

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Shauna Clodfelter
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Years of laughing or cheering when a woman slaps, hits, shoves a man in a movie has lead us to believe it's OK for women to get physical with men. If a man did the same thing that's glorified by Hollywood, it would be considered abusive. It's also why men don't report abuse even though they're abused at nearly the same rate as women.

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Cian Thomas McHugh
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Worst part is, there is a laughing emoji on that post. That means someone found this funny. That makes me sad.

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Johnny
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I had a gf that hit me once in anger. I yelled at her (which I never do) and told her that if she ever did it again, I was leaving. A month later it happened again. I got out of the car at a redlight and took a bus home, broke up over the phone and never saw her again.

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Jon S.
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3 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Good for you. A lot of guys would have stuck with it and lived in misery or punched her back. I think you made the right choice.

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I don't know who I'm more concerned for in this situation: the OP who clearly has some issues, the poor boyfriend, or THE GODDAMN PERSON WHO THOUGHT THIS WAS FUNNY AND CHOSE TO SHARE THEIR AMUSEMENT VIA EMOJI

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

all my bois out there, you should never abuse a woman but if she abuses you dont be scared to defend yourself but you should never start punching or intentionally harming her......unless she has a knife

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Henny Hana
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Bitches like these think they're so badass,huh when in fact they're just trash.

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Elizabeth Molloy
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

ANYONE who finds themselves in this situation, please LEAVE NOW! Everyone deserves respect!!

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Dio
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

There is something deeply wrong with this person... Getting satisfaction from someone being so afraid of you? ... She's a psychopath.

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Justin Seagull
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3 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It might not be because of the girlfriend but something must have happen to him and it should not be treated like a joke.

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BiLal Asif
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Imagine a guy said that he would be in jail so quick for a long time i wonder why she isn't must be toxic masculinity? Right

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MARSELLY REALES
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

girls:beats guy police:oh no worries guys:beats girl police:life setence (im a girl and i stand with my point)

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Joseph OReilly
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That's crazy, almost like I could hear someone whisper "double standard"

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Dokiimon
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I bet if I commented the same thing on that post she'd block my ass. Screw her

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Michael Naretto
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

But the second he kicks her teeth down her throat she will say she is a jerk....

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

There are loads of men who suffer from domestic abuse in silence because they know they won't be believed. Here she is bragging about it.

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Tabby_Sohee
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

And she’s talking about it like she wants everyone to laugh along with her

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Jaybird3939
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Hun, that's not really something to brag about. You're lucky he's not pressing charges. You'll LOL yourself right in to a jail cell.

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Vicki Hardy
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You need help, or your a**e kicked. Your boyfriend needs to get out of this toxic relationship too.

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Isabella R.W.
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Disgusting. Also the way she's literally bragging about it on the internet for everyone to read, and the emojis make it so creepy. She sounds like a phyco, I hope the boyfriend leaves her and finds someone better :(

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backatya
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

ain't and gonna isn't a word bitch. Go back to school and learn something

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Lynn Morello
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Abuse comes in all forms, a common one is when SHE screams her lungs out, or talks to him loud enough on the phone (Not on speaker) that the whole house at the recipients end can hear every word she is screaming loud and clearly, Yet ask her, she has done nothing wrong. (Much)

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WaitingtokissGregDavis
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Holy s**t. Love, you need to seriously reassess your attitude and approach to your relationship. Best to opt for 'not have one'

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Demon Child
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

AHAHAHAHA ABUSE HOW FUNNY. SEE THE GAG IS HES A MAN SO ITS OKAY🤦🤷

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Erik Ivan
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

In most countries, abuse is a crime. No matter the gender of any of the involved.

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Nice Girls Don’t Exi-

Nice Girls Don’t Exi-

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Foxxy (The Original)
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3 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That's insane, I think she needs professional help. Super stalkerish. Hopefully she was charged.

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Being nice, polite, and kind just because you feel pressured to doesn’t make you nice. It makes you ‘nice.’ After all, kindness under duress isn’t really kindness, is it? But what do you think, dear Pandas? Why do you think ‘nice girls’ and ‘nice guys’ act the way that they do? Where do you think the line between actual kindness and fake kindness lies? Can we tell which is which from a distance? Share your thoughts with everyone else in the comments below.

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Okay, Thats Not Toxic At All

Okay, Thats Not Toxic At All

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It's Only Okay If I Can Go Through Your Phone

It's Only Okay If I Can Go Through Your Phone

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Foxxy (The Original)
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If you can't trust your partner and have to go through their phone then maybe it's the wrong relationship for you or you need help with getting over your trust issues.

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Damn... I Don‘T Even Know Her

Damn... I Don‘T Even Know Her

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It’s Almost Like They’re There To Workout?

It’s Almost Like They’re There To Workout?

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Wow... they are focused on working out at the gym? I have never heard of that before

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The Truth Comes Out. My Former Best Friend, Who I Ended Up Dating And Then It Killed Off Our Friendship When Things Went South

The Truth Comes Out. My Former Best Friend, Who I Ended Up Dating And Then It Killed Off Our Friendship When Things Went South

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Feel Like This Belongs Here

Feel Like This Belongs Here

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And Breaking Worth 40$ Isn't Cruel?

And Breaking Worth 40$ Isn't Cruel?

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Raine Soo
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yeah, keep on telling yourself that after your boyfriend breaks up with you, and you're sitting home alone fuming.

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This Is The Second Time I've Ever Talked To Her, What The Hell

This Is The Second Time I've Ever Talked To Her, What The Hell

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Nice Girl Has Trouble With Her Spelling

Nice Girl Has Trouble With Her Spelling

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