40 Examples Of ‘Nice Girls’, A Female Equivalent Of The Toxic ‘Nice Guys’
Interview
There is a vast valley with steep slopes and a raging river winding its way through the bottom that separates the people who are genuinely nice and those who only proclaim themselves to be ‘nice.’ Most of us know from experience that guys who are actually nice act very differently than those who are ‘nice guys.’
However, this post isn’t about nice guys. No, this one is about nice girls. Or rather—‘nice girls’ who believe they’re entitled to ‘perfect’ partners while dripping with hatred for the world and showing their true colors when things don’t go their way. In fact, there’s a place where they get called out: the r/Nicegirls subreddit that proves that fake ‘niceness’ knows no gender boundaries. See for your yourselves, dear Pandas. Be sure to read on for Bored Panda's interview with one of the moderators of the subreddit, user CTFOE_is_Free.
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Something That Every Nice Girl Must Hear
What A Sweetheart
I agree with the reply. She deserves so much worse and he deserves so much better.
We All Have Boyfriends
Selfishness and altruism aren't as black and white as you might think. According to research, human history has shown that some forms of selfishness can be considered to be "healthy" while some altruism can be "pathological." Healthy selfishness led to higher levels of psychological well-being and a "genuine prosocial orientation." Meanwhile, pathological altruism was associated with vulnerable narcissism and selfish motivations for helping others. If that sounds familiar, it's the scientific basis for the difference between nice and 'nice.'
Moderator CTFOE_is_Fee told Bored Panda that the reason why some women are 'nice girls' is a combination of a few factors. "Some of them are too immature to realize what they're doing. Others are that manipulative on purpose. Lastly, some do not even realize what they're doing," they explained.
But Why? Smh Entitled Queens Lol
This kind of messaging is why men think they should try harder, and how you create an unsafe feeling for a lot of woman. Because a man will take away from this that no means yes. And that you have to keep trying, even though the woman made clear that she is not into you. It's a dangerous game to play!
Half Way
The Cat Isn’t What He Should Be Getting Rid Of
The cat has been there before her and judging by her being jealous of a cat, the cat will be there after she's gone
Seriously. Besides, what kind of person sees a guy who loves animals and thinks "dealbreaker"? A guy who's kind to animals and kids is at the top of the list for me!
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Same thing happened with my (now ex) boyfriend. My cat and I still laugh about it
As a multiple pet owner, I understand the guy's affection and attitude toward his cat. Boyfriends or girlfriends who have problems with their significant other's pets don't last long. Pack your bags, honey. You're not his girl.
One of my nephews worked out a deal with his ex: he gets to drop in to visit the cats.
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"Do you think I could suggest he get rid of it?". Do you think we could suggest he gets rid of you?
When I met the lady who's now my wife, she had a cat that she loved more than anything. When she decided to invite me to her place for the first time, it's because she wanted me to meet him, the glorious Pascha, king of Bengals. The 3 of us lived very happy together for a few years until he very sadly passed away at the too young age of 8 (kidney malfunction).
The cat meeting is a big test! You passed with flying colours and sounds like you fell in love with him too. I'm sorry for both of your loss. :( I hope you now have some more furry friends running around! <3
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Yeah, if my dog doesn't like you, I probably won't either. Animals somehow just know!
My man is crazy about his cats and that's one of the several reasons I love him
And honestly, what kind of crappy person do you have to be to not get excited about other people's pets?
People who are kind are loving towards pets are usually great people to be in a relationship with.
I would never give up my cats to maintain a relationship with a woman. I would move on, and hope to find a woman who genuinely loves cats. Or stay single. My cats are not things to toss away like an old pair of shoes. I have given them a nice home, and I am responsible for their welfare. Have I mentioned that I love my cats?
Always marry a guy who is kind to animals. Unless you're an insecure narcissist, in which case, marry your mirror. =---- a summary of the life advice given me by my mother
Used to be jealous of my girlfriend's horse. Presently, looking for a horse.
With the amount of effort that goes into horse ownership, it's about the only time you'll spend together- wise move :-) Also, it's an excellent pastime.
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Oh, I saw Fatal Attraction...seriously F****D UP.
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Not a match... move on. There's NO WAY I would get rid of my cats for some 'love interest' - instant deal breaker.
My partner and I have 2 dogs. When 1 of us gets home, we always greet the dogs 1st.
a ton of relationships are the kind where they like the pet more. animals are better then people
So ...she finds him being loyal and caring to a cat unattractive ? Hope she never has kids .
I had a girlfriend that was a bit jealous of my cat. My cat was with me for 19 years. The girlfriend didn't last the week (I swear, I just ghosted her, did not put her down).
The cat is his family/friend and has proven its love. You, on the other hand are already jealous of a cat and that just about proves you are not worth it.
Oh honey, you can ABSOLUTELY suggest to get rid of IT. Be sure to finish packing your s**t before you do though.
No matter how pretty she is or how intelligent she is or whatever. If she makes you decide between her and the cat, show her where the door is. Animals are so much more thankful and loving than humans...
If a man asked me to get rid of my pups, he'd be out the door on the end of my foot, never to darken my door again.
When I begin a relationship, I always make it clear that my cat and I are a package deal. Love me, love my cat. Don't try to make me choose between the two of you. You will lose.
I once saw this clickbait video on Youtube where it was talking about how this guy was jealous of his girlfriend's dog because she was "obsessed" and "in love" with it. This is like that but with cats.
Awww my hubby is abandoning my cat and leaving it to starve so he can love me...how romantic ❤️😍🥰
My husband and I were just talking about the cat he had when I met him. Toejam (and no, not actually for toejam eww. I asked him when I first heard the name. It's 'cause he was always underfoot) was the best cat ever. Sorry other cat lovers but the jury is in... I didn't bond with Jammerhead until I had to take care of him when he was very ill. I had never had a cat because my Mom was allergic. We still miss him even though he's been gone for twenty years. Dump the girl.
I sit on the floor so all my animals can come and say hello to me at once whenever I come in, my wife wouldn't like it any other way, she does the same thing, then we say hello to each other after.
Well... offering other perspectives here: Some people do have excessive affection for pets because of issues with human relationships. It could range from minor social anxiety to the desire for total control, which can lead to disastrous relationships later. But anyway, don't get rid of the cat lol If there's real issues just excuse yourself out.
The cat always comes first! You won't get me unless you love my cat. LOVE her, not just accept that an annoying furball is around. She's not to be seen as annoying to begin with, she's cool. A lot cooler than any cat-hating person, and worth more than all cat-hating persons that even exist! The cat is a given constant that is never to be changed, will never be put in question and will always remain. Cat, cat, cat, cat, cat, fiance, me. That order it is.
But cats are cute! Honestly if I was a man and I had a cat, I would dote on it too.
She’s ugly on the inside. I highly doubt she could be convinced of how pathetic this is either.
We were curious to find out where the line between genuine niceness and fake 'niceness' was for the moderator. Here's what they had to say: "Personally, for me, the line is drawn when you can tell that someone is being passive-aggressive; when you can sense the subdued maliciousness in their words and actions. If your gut is telling you that something is not genuine about the person then they probably are not genuine. I think we've all experienced a few relationships like that in our lives. I do not see there being a large grey area between the two. You know when someone is being kind or not."
According to CTFOE_is_free, one of the things that new members need to keep in mind if they decide to join up is to read and follow the subreddit rules. "We have a strict No doxxing policy, as we work to respect and protect the privacy of the subjects of the content as well as that of the posters."
I Went On One Date With This Girl And She Spent The Whole Time On Her Phone Drinking Coffee I Bought Her
Back Off Girl
A Message To All Nice Girls Who Might Have A Screw Loose
Or maybe... confront him and talk about it ? Then make a decision ? I understand this is meant as a kind of joke with a twist, but it's not good advice, either way.
According to the creators of the subreddit, the 'Nice Girls' community is like the ‘Nice Guys’ online group, but different in that they focus on women instead. Bored Panda has even written about them before. You can check out that post right over here once you’re done enjoying this list. Spoiler alert: proclaiming that you’re nice doesn’t make it so. The proof is in how you act, not the mild-mannered facade you show the world.
“For all the self-proclaimed ‘nice girls.’ For the women who complain ‘guys are only interested in [promiscuous women].’ For women who complain that men are shallow for not dating overweight women, while also demanding that their man have washboard abs. For the women who hold others to the highest possible standard, but have no standards for themselves,” the r/Nicegirls creators explain what their group is all about.
A Nicegirl Daydream
Now That's A Logical Leap
I Feel Like Me Sleeping Is Causing Riots
The main focus of the subreddit is to shame these ‘nice girls’ in all their glory through images, articles, videos, and everything else. “This sub is not for female incels. This place is not for crazy girls. If you swap the genders and it doesn't belong on r/niceguys, then don't post it,” they explain.
What’s more, the moderators point out that their community is “not a women hating subreddit.” They encourage members to be polite and “refrain from making sexist comments or being a bigot.” They have a zero-tolerance policy regarding things like that, so mind your manners. Yes, there’s a certain unsurprising irony there that a group about shaming people who are supposedly ‘nice’ actually requires folks to be nice.
However, just because r/Nicegirls deems these women worthy of being shamed doesn’t mean that they’re having an all-out war with them. Members of the group can’t post any identifying information about people: this way, they’re protected from internet users who might want to criticize them or insult them. After all, just because someone’s ‘nice’ now doesn’t mean that they’re not learning to be actually, genuinely nice. I’m a big believer that people can change if they set their minds to it.
So You Know It's Wrong, But You Did It Anyway?
Oh boy, and I bet that she still doesn't get the irony after being called out on it.
So I Broke My Leg, And She Wanted To Go On A Date....
She could have gone to see him, or bring food..what is wrong with people
"I Just Said Goodnight, But I'm Gonna Throw A Tantrum If You Say Goodnight Back"
Oh yeah coz men can read our minds and know exactly how we are feeling. How about stop playing games and tell him.
Urban Dictionary defines 'nice girls' as women who believe they're the best choice to be someone's girlfriend. They're deemed by the internet to be manipulative, have self-esteem issues, and can be passive-aggressive. They also have problems with jealousy and being self-centered. Especially if rejected.
The "I Don't Want Anything" Classic
Ugh another one playing stupid Games. If you say you don't want something then expect to not get it.
Spanish Girls Are Her #1 Enemy
We Have The FBI And Then We Have This
What an absolute f*****g bitch. There is no sugar coating how I feel about people doing s**t like this.
Usually, 'nice girls' are women who get others to pity her into dating her. In short, they're the female version of 'nice guys,' with all the drama and seething hatred you'd expect to see from them. Both 'nice girls' and 'nice guys' feel like they deserve to be in a relationship with anyone that they want or anyone that so much as smiles at them.
Double Standards Are Great !
F**k that s**t. There is ZERO excuse for cheating whether you are male or female.
There’ll Be Blizzard In Hell Before I Stop Eating Cinnamon Toast Crunch For Breakfast
We Aren’t Dating
They also believe that the world owes them what they want just because they're 'well-mannered.' The moment things go south and they don't get what they want, they rage at the world and proclaim that it's not fair that things are this way. Whereas a genuinely nice person is kind to others without expecting a reward, a self-proclaimed 'nice girl' or 'nice guy' hides the fact that they're really just after the reward. Usually, the reward they have in mind is romantic or [ahem] something more.
Not Sure If This Counts But...
I'm Sure Nick Appreciates Your Support!
What's not cool is acting like you are innocent when you are in fact not.
My Ex Girlfriend Wanted To Meet For A Drink And I Said No As I Was Visiting My Terminally Ill Grandmother. She Said My Grandmother Was Lucky Be Dying Because She Would Be Ashamed Of Me. Then Put This Message On Her Instagram
The Gentleman’s Journal suggests that the difference between nice and ‘nice’ depends on how honest we are with ourselves about our intentions. For instance, they explain that you should be generous, but that you shouldn’t use your generosity as a bargaining chip for other things. That means that why you’re doing something is just as important as the fact that you’re doing it.
Don't Get Me What I Ask For
Come on, you cant be THAT unappreciative! You should be grateful you even have a boyfriend with that attitude
Restoration 100. Smh My Head
My Ex Sent Death Treats To Me On My Birthday, This Was What Happened Afterwardss
One thought in particular raised by the Gentleman’s Journal stuck in my mind: “Do be kind. But don’t do it just because you think you ought to.” The implication here is simple: being kind is vital. However, making the decision to be kind because you believe it’s the right thing to do is the key here.
Abuse Ain’t Cute
Nice Girls Don’t Exi-
That's insane, I think she needs professional help. Super stalkerish. Hopefully she was charged.
You Are But A Pawn Which I Control
Being nice, polite, and kind just because you feel pressured to doesn’t make you nice. It makes you ‘nice.’ After all, kindness under duress isn’t really kindness, is it? But what do you think, dear Pandas? Why do you think ‘nice girls’ and ‘nice guys’ act the way that they do? Where do you think the line between actual kindness and fake kindness lies? Can we tell which is which from a distance? Share your thoughts with everyone else in the comments below.
Okay, Thats Not Toxic At All
It's Only Okay If I Can Go Through Your Phone
If you can't trust your partner and have to go through their phone then maybe it's the wrong relationship for you or you need help with getting over your trust issues.
Damn... I Don‘T Even Know Her
It’s Almost Like They’re There To Workout?
Another "I Don't Want Anything" One!
The Truth Comes Out. My Former Best Friend, Who I Ended Up Dating And Then It Killed Off Our Friendship When Things Went South
Feel Like This Belongs Here
If it was the other way round out would be a different story.
And Breaking Worth 40$ Isn't Cruel?
This Is The Second Time I've Ever Talked To Her, What The Hell
Nice Girl Has Trouble With Her Spelling
Note: this post originally had 63 images. It’s been shortened to the top 40 images based on user votes.
So we are discovering that the REAL problem is that people are assholes, male/female, makes no difference. I do see several incidences of sexism however and it just shows that both sexes fall victim to toxic sexism (yes EVEN THESE assholes are making themselves victims by perpetrating sexist views) We really need kids to be taught how not to be assholes before it's too late..
I'm convinced that some of these people are straight-up mentally ill. Because HOW are they like this???
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I realize this smacks of victim blaming, but if you are training him to think no does not mean no, what do you think will happen when you do mean it? Seriously, these women set everything back. If this is the primary type of women some men have to deal with, is it any wonder we have problems teaching respect?!? What really concerns me is that some of these women are raising sons
Such a good point. I wonder who it is that raises men to be rapists? These attitudes sure don't help..
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The problem with me reading these is it makes me feel like I'm this perfect girlfriend which I'm obviously not. Something to work on...
At least Pamela24 can admit she may have some issues and isn't perfect. I applaud her. I hope the best for her in her relationships.
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I once read an article about a girl who would put nicotine patches on her boyfriend every time he slept at her house, so he'd confuse nicotine withdrawals with just not being with his gf and if that ain't the most toxic s**t you've ever heard...
That’s deeply insane, but I’d also watch a movie about it.
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I'd love to know the ages of these people. All of these people seem like they're in their early teens to very early twenties. The immaturity is palpable.
Tbh, anyone who has to tell you they're nice..... Probably isn't nice.
I don't think you understand what "nice guys" are like. These women are assholes. Only one of them said the guy was missing out on her bad behavior.
These are not female counterparts of "nice guy". No one of them is saying "bc he don't want me? I'm soooooo nice"; "boys only likes sl**s" or something. They are only duba**es
"Good grief i don't have a girlfriend, oh wait im a married man!" that is my old man jokes
Boomer humor / “haha isn’t it funny to hate your own wife?” Gag.
Load More Replies... Sense of entitlement runs deep with the women/girls who posted these examples...
All of that, only to have the most Textbook Nice Girl comment voted LAST from all the Nice Girl / Not Like the Other Girls / incels here.
There are just horrible people around, regardless of male or female. It's not gender specific. So lets not generalize along those lines.
Do we really need these 'them and us' posts, it really doesn't help matters.
Don't know why your comment is down voted as it is a valid point.
Load More Replies... Quite a few people need help. I mean it. We might dismiss it or avoid it. But this behaviour is not good.
These can't be real. If they are, they all sound like they're probably twelve. 'Back in my day', girls were still playing barbie when they were twelve, and there were no cell phones or social media. Crazy, I know. You actually had to talk to someone's face. So, forgive me for being ignorant if these types if women really exist.
If I hadn't experienced this kind of crazy in my life, I don't know if I would have believed it existed.. also.. Meegan! You forgot your jacket!
And women wonder why men would rather just focus on their jobs, work their way up the ladder and ignore BS like this.
No woman wonders that because that’s not what happens. Men get wrapped in drama with these dumb women and they chase them and pursue these women. Most men can’t even recognize these dumb women as long as they’re moderately attractive or the guy is moderately horny.
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............and yet... these are the kinds of people that people I know date... repeatedly... with very similar outcomes... and then they ask me "What's happening, why does this keep happening to me?" - and I say something... average, normal, logical... like "You can stop dating them. Why did you keep the relationship going?" - and when the response is "But s/he was really hot"... then this switch in my head goes "Ah. They didn't actually want a real answer..."
Now I am glad, that I am gay, so I don't have to deal with these kind of abominations.
everyone here reminds me of that one part of heathers the musical where veronica said “she is a mythic bitch...” these girls need serious help! like 179,000 texts then breaking into someone’s house hecking naked! after one date! smh. like my group chat generates sometimes 1700 texts in a weekend when i’m away, but over 3000 in one night is insaneeeeee! you got to be soooo drunk to do something like that-
oK These "nice girs" make Glen Close look like a kindergarden little girl...
Every day, ask "AITA"? and if you don't hesitate to say, "NO!" then I suspect possibly the answer is "yes". But that's my take, b/c I was raised to do a daily examination of conscience. (Or, as they now call it,a pparently, Reddit? ;-D)
Half of these are fake, and the other half are examples of serious personality disorders.
I don't think it's accurate to compare these women to 'nice guys'. Nice guys refers to a particular kind of toxic. These women show a range of toxic behaviours, only a couple of which directly equate to the 'nice guy' thing. And a few of which are much scarier.
Yeah, these are crazy women, not "nice girls"
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Women being borderline psychotic don't scare men? I see what you're going for, but the assumptions you make seem to cut a few corners.
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Agree. Some of them do, but most of those are voted down to the bottom. I don’t think you should call people beta though, that isn’t accurate.
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I think at this point the word "NICE" when referring to dating has lost all meaning, for men when we have in the past talked about Nice Guys we meant guys that always end up in the friend zone for the reasons you outlined above, women mean men that act nice but are not and this just seems to be its own thing altogether; women that are crazy and entitled.
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Almost every woman in this post believed they deserved a boyfriend or sex for behaving a certain way. I'd be hard pressed to say they *aren't* the female equivalent to "nice guys".
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So we are discovering that the REAL problem is that people are assholes, male/female, makes no difference. I do see several incidences of sexism however and it just shows that both sexes fall victim to toxic sexism (yes EVEN THESE assholes are making themselves victims by perpetrating sexist views) We really need kids to be taught how not to be assholes before it's too late..
I'm convinced that some of these people are straight-up mentally ill. Because HOW are they like this???
Load More Replies... I realize this smacks of victim blaming, but if you are training him to think no does not mean no, what do you think will happen when you do mean it? Seriously, these women set everything back. If this is the primary type of women some men have to deal with, is it any wonder we have problems teaching respect?!? What really concerns me is that some of these women are raising sons
Such a good point. I wonder who it is that raises men to be rapists? These attitudes sure don't help..
Load More Replies... The problem with me reading these is it makes me feel like I'm this perfect girlfriend which I'm obviously not. Something to work on...
At least Pamela24 can admit she may have some issues and isn't perfect. I applaud her. I hope the best for her in her relationships.
Load More Replies... I once read an article about a girl who would put nicotine patches on her boyfriend every time he slept at her house, so he'd confuse nicotine withdrawals with just not being with his gf and if that ain't the most toxic s**t you've ever heard...
That’s deeply insane, but I’d also watch a movie about it.
Load More Replies... I'd love to know the ages of these people. All of these people seem like they're in their early teens to very early twenties. The immaturity is palpable.
Tbh, anyone who has to tell you they're nice..... Probably isn't nice.
I don't think you understand what "nice guys" are like. These women are assholes. Only one of them said the guy was missing out on her bad behavior.
These are not female counterparts of "nice guy". No one of them is saying "bc he don't want me? I'm soooooo nice"; "boys only likes sl**s" or something. They are only duba**es
"Good grief i don't have a girlfriend, oh wait im a married man!" that is my old man jokes
Boomer humor / “haha isn’t it funny to hate your own wife?” Gag.
Load More Replies... Sense of entitlement runs deep with the women/girls who posted these examples...
All of that, only to have the most Textbook Nice Girl comment voted LAST from all the Nice Girl / Not Like the Other Girls / incels here.
There are just horrible people around, regardless of male or female. It's not gender specific. So lets not generalize along those lines.
Do we really need these 'them and us' posts, it really doesn't help matters.
Don't know why your comment is down voted as it is a valid point.
Load More Replies... Quite a few people need help. I mean it. We might dismiss it or avoid it. But this behaviour is not good.
These can't be real. If they are, they all sound like they're probably twelve. 'Back in my day', girls were still playing barbie when they were twelve, and there were no cell phones or social media. Crazy, I know. You actually had to talk to someone's face. So, forgive me for being ignorant if these types if women really exist.
If I hadn't experienced this kind of crazy in my life, I don't know if I would have believed it existed.. also.. Meegan! You forgot your jacket!
And women wonder why men would rather just focus on their jobs, work their way up the ladder and ignore BS like this.
No woman wonders that because that’s not what happens. Men get wrapped in drama with these dumb women and they chase them and pursue these women. Most men can’t even recognize these dumb women as long as they’re moderately attractive or the guy is moderately horny.
Load More Replies... ............and yet... these are the kinds of people that people I know date... repeatedly... with very similar outcomes... and then they ask me "What's happening, why does this keep happening to me?" - and I say something... average, normal, logical... like "You can stop dating them. Why did you keep the relationship going?" - and when the response is "But s/he was really hot"... then this switch in my head goes "Ah. They didn't actually want a real answer..."
Now I am glad, that I am gay, so I don't have to deal with these kind of abominations.
everyone here reminds me of that one part of heathers the musical where veronica said “she is a mythic bitch...” these girls need serious help! like 179,000 texts then breaking into someone’s house hecking naked! after one date! smh. like my group chat generates sometimes 1700 texts in a weekend when i’m away, but over 3000 in one night is insaneeeeee! you got to be soooo drunk to do something like that-
oK These "nice girs" make Glen Close look like a kindergarden little girl...
Every day, ask "AITA"? and if you don't hesitate to say, "NO!" then I suspect possibly the answer is "yes". But that's my take, b/c I was raised to do a daily examination of conscience. (Or, as they now call it,a pparently, Reddit? ;-D)
Half of these are fake, and the other half are examples of serious personality disorders.
I don't think it's accurate to compare these women to 'nice guys'. Nice guys refers to a particular kind of toxic. These women show a range of toxic behaviours, only a couple of which directly equate to the 'nice guy' thing. And a few of which are much scarier.
Yeah, these are crazy women, not "nice girls"
Load More Replies... Women being borderline psychotic don't scare men? I see what you're going for, but the assumptions you make seem to cut a few corners.
Load More Replies... Agree. Some of them do, but most of those are voted down to the bottom. I don’t think you should call people beta though, that isn’t accurate.
Load More Replies... I think at this point the word "NICE" when referring to dating has lost all meaning, for men when we have in the past talked about Nice Guys we meant guys that always end up in the friend zone for the reasons you outlined above, women mean men that act nice but are not and this just seems to be its own thing altogether; women that are crazy and entitled.
Load More Replies... Almost every woman in this post believed they deserved a boyfriend or sex for behaving a certain way. I'd be hard pressed to say they *aren't* the female equivalent to "nice guys".
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