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There is a vast valley with steep slopes and a raging river winding its way through the bottom that separates the people who are genuinely nice and those who only proclaim themselves to be ‘nice.’ Most of us know from experience that guys who are actually nice act very differently than those who are ‘nice guys.’

However, this post isn’t about nice guys. No, this one is about nice girls. Or rather—‘nice girls’ who believe they’re entitled to ‘perfect’ partners while dripping with hatred for the world and showing their true colors when things don’t go their way. In fact, there’s a place where they get called out: the r/Nicegirls subreddit that proves that fake ‘niceness’ knows no gender boundaries. See for your yourselves, dear Pandas. Be sure to read on for Bored Panda's interview with one of the moderators of the subreddit, user CTFOE_is_Free.

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Selfishness and altruism aren't as black and white as you might think. According to research, human history has shown that some forms of selfishness can be considered to be "healthy" while some altruism can be "pathological." Healthy selfishness led to higher levels of psychological well-being and a "genuine prosocial orientation." Meanwhile, pathological altruism was associated with vulnerable narcissism and selfish motivations for helping others. If that sounds familiar, it's the scientific basis for the difference between nice and 'nice.'

Moderator CTFOE_is_Fee told Bored Panda that the reason why some women are 'nice girls' is a combination of a few factors. "Some of them are too immature to realize what they're doing. Others are that manipulative on purpose. Lastly, some do not even realize what they're doing," they explained.

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Sowieso
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This kind of messaging is why men think they should try harder, and how you create an unsafe feeling for a lot of woman. Because a man will take away from this that no means yes. And that you have to keep trying, even though the woman made clear that she is not into you. It's a dangerous game to play!

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The Cat Isn’t What He Should Be Getting Rid Of

The Cat Isn’t What He Should Be Getting Rid Of

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Sum Guy
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The cat has been there before her and judging by her being jealous of a cat, the cat will be there after she's gone

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We were curious to find out where the line between genuine niceness and fake 'niceness' was for the moderator. Here's what they had to say: "Personally, for me, the line is drawn when you can tell that someone is being passive-aggressive; when you can sense the subdued maliciousness in their words and actions. If your gut is telling you that something is not genuine about the person then they probably are not genuine. I think we've all experienced a few relationships like that in our lives. I do not see there being a large grey area between the two. You know when someone is being kind or not."

According to CTFOE_is_free, one of the things that new members need to keep in mind if they decide to join up is to read and follow the subreddit rules. "We have a strict No doxxing policy, as we work to respect and protect the privacy of the subjects of the content as well as that of the posters."

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I Went On One Date With This Girl And She Spent The Whole Time On Her Phone Drinking Coffee I Bought Her

I Went On One Date With This Girl And She Spent The Whole Time On Her Phone Drinking Coffee I Bought Her

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A Message To All Nice Girls Who Might Have A Screw Loose

A Message To All Nice Girls Who Might Have A Screw Loose

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Saint Thomas
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Or maybe... confront him and talk about it ? Then make a decision ? I understand this is meant as a kind of joke with a twist, but it's not good advice, either way.

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According to the creators of the subreddit, the 'Nice Girls' community is like the ‘Nice Guys’ online group, but different in that they focus on women instead. Bored Panda has even written about them before. You can check out that post right over here once you’re done enjoying this list. Spoiler alert: proclaiming that you’re nice doesn’t make it so. The proof is in how you act, not the mild-mannered facade you show the world.

“For all the self-proclaimed ‘nice girls.’ For the women who complain ‘guys are only interested in [promiscuous women].’ For women who complain that men are shallow for not dating overweight women, while also demanding that their man have washboard abs. For the women who hold others to the highest possible standard, but have no standards for themselves,” the r/Nicegirls creators explain what their group is all about.

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A Nicegirl Daydream

A Nicegirl Daydream

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Laughter is not good for my tummy pain right now, but that reply was funny as heck.

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The main focus of the subreddit is to shame these ‘nice girls’ in all their glory through images, articles, videos, and everything else. “This sub is not for female incels. This place is not for crazy girls. If you swap the genders and it doesn't belong on r/niceguys, then don't post it,” they explain.

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What’s more, the moderators point out that their community is “not a women hating subreddit.” They encourage members to be polite and “refrain from making sexist comments or being a bigot.” They have a zero-tolerance policy regarding things like that, so mind your manners. Yes, there’s a certain unsurprising irony there that a group about shaming people who are supposedly ‘nice’ actually requires folks to be nice.

However, just because r/Nicegirls deems these women worthy of being shamed doesn’t mean that they’re having an all-out war with them. Members of the group can’t post any identifying information about people: this way, they’re protected from internet users who might want to criticize them or insult them. After all, just because someone’s ‘nice’ now doesn’t mean that they’re not learning to be actually, genuinely nice. I’m a big believer that people can change if they set their minds to it.

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So You Know It's Wrong, But You Did It Anyway?

So You Know It's Wrong, But You Did It Anyway?

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Foxxy (The Original)
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Oh boy, and I bet that she still doesn't get the irony after being called out on it.

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So I Broke My Leg, And She Wanted To Go On A Date....

So I Broke My Leg, And She Wanted To Go On A Date....

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"I Just Said Goodnight, But I'm Gonna Throw A Tantrum If You Say Goodnight Back"

"I Just Said Goodnight, But I'm Gonna Throw A Tantrum If You Say Goodnight Back"

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Foxxy (The Original)
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Oh yeah coz men can read our minds and know exactly how we are feeling. How about stop playing games and tell him.

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Urban Dictionary defines 'nice girls' as women who believe they're the best choice to be someone's girlfriend. They're deemed by the internet to be manipulative, have self-esteem issues, and can be passive-aggressive. They also have problems with jealousy and being self-centered. Especially if rejected.

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The "I Don't Want Anything" Classic

The "I Don't Want Anything" Classic

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Foxxy (The Original)
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Ugh another one playing stupid Games. If you say you don't want something then expect to not get it.

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Spanish Girls Are Her #1 Enemy

Spanish Girls Are Her #1 Enemy

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We Have The FBI And Then We Have This

We Have The FBI And Then We Have This

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Foxxy (The Original)
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

What an absolute f*****g bitch. There is no sugar coating how I feel about people doing s**t like this.

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Usually, 'nice girls' are women who get others to pity her into dating her. In short, they're the female version of 'nice guys,' with all the drama and seething hatred you'd expect to see from them. Both 'nice girls' and 'nice guys' feel like they deserve to be in a relationship with anyone that they want or anyone that so much as smiles at them.

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Double Standards Are Great !

Double Standards Are Great !

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There’ll Be Blizzard In Hell Before I Stop Eating Cinnamon Toast Crunch For Breakfast

There’ll Be Blizzard In Hell Before I Stop Eating Cinnamon Toast Crunch For Breakfast

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They also believe that the world owes them what they want just because they're 'well-mannered.' The moment things go south and they don't get what they want, they rage at the world and proclaim that it's not fair that things are this way. Whereas a genuinely nice person is kind to others without expecting a reward, a self-proclaimed 'nice girl' or 'nice guy' hides the fact that they're really just after the reward. Usually, the reward they have in mind is romantic or [ahem] something more.

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I'm Sure Nick Appreciates Your Support!

I'm Sure Nick Appreciates Your Support!

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My Ex Girlfriend Wanted To Meet For A Drink And I Said No As I Was Visiting My Terminally Ill Grandmother. She Said My Grandmother Was Lucky Be Dying Because She Would Be Ashamed Of Me. Then Put This Message On Her Instagram

My Ex Girlfriend Wanted To Meet For A Drink And I Said No As I Was Visiting My Terminally Ill Grandmother. She Said My Grandmother Was Lucky Be Dying Because She Would Be Ashamed Of Me. Then Put This Message On Her Instagram

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The Gentleman’s Journal suggests that the difference between nice and ‘nice’ depends on how honest we are with ourselves about our intentions. For instance, they explain that you should be generous, but that you shouldn’t use your generosity as a bargaining chip for other things. That means that why you’re doing something is just as important as the fact that you’re doing it.

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Don't Get Me What I Ask For

Don't Get Me What I Ask For

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Eva the Egg
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Come on, you cant be THAT unappreciative! You should be grateful you even have a boyfriend with that attitude

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My Ex Sent Death Treats To Me On My Birthday, This Was What Happened Afterwardss

My Ex Sent Death Treats To Me On My Birthday, This Was What Happened Afterwardss

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One thought in particular raised by the Gentleman’s Journal stuck in my mind: “Do be kind. But don’t do it just because you think you ought to.” The implication here is simple: being kind is vital. However, making the decision to be kind because you believe it’s the right thing to do is the key here.

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Nice Girls Don’t Exi-

Nice Girls Don’t Exi-

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Foxxy (The Original)
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3 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That's insane, I think she needs professional help. Super stalkerish. Hopefully she was charged.

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Being nice, polite, and kind just because you feel pressured to doesn’t make you nice. It makes you ‘nice.’ After all, kindness under duress isn’t really kindness, is it? But what do you think, dear Pandas? Why do you think ‘nice girls’ and ‘nice guys’ act the way that they do? Where do you think the line between actual kindness and fake kindness lies? Can we tell which is which from a distance? Share your thoughts with everyone else in the comments below.

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Okay, Thats Not Toxic At All

Okay, Thats Not Toxic At All

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It's Only Okay If I Can Go Through Your Phone

It's Only Okay If I Can Go Through Your Phone

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Foxxy (The Original)
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If you can't trust your partner and have to go through their phone then maybe it's the wrong relationship for you or you need help with getting over your trust issues.

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Damn... I Don‘T Even Know Her

Damn... I Don‘T Even Know Her

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It’s Almost Like They’re There To Workout?

It’s Almost Like They’re There To Workout?

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Wow... they are focused on working out at the gym? I have never heard of that before

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The Truth Comes Out. My Former Best Friend, Who I Ended Up Dating And Then It Killed Off Our Friendship When Things Went South

The Truth Comes Out. My Former Best Friend, Who I Ended Up Dating And Then It Killed Off Our Friendship When Things Went South

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Feel Like This Belongs Here

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And Breaking Worth 40$ Isn't Cruel?

And Breaking Worth 40$ Isn't Cruel?

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Raine Soo
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yeah, keep on telling yourself that after your boyfriend breaks up with you, and you're sitting home alone fuming.

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matthew owen
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Thing is, I bet he's a little insecure and can't see his worth. Stay with her and they both remain unhappy. Such a shame for both really.

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Dippin Dot
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

As someone who was married to a video game addict, I can understand the frustration. The difference is that I never acted on my impulses to break his XBox... instead, I knew when he chose video games over me it was time for us to go our separate ways. He agreed and we are still friends who just so happen to be exes.

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Mister Ghost Foot
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I always found it best to seek someone with your same interests. I had a relationship for 5 years and we were both gaming addicts. Got along really well. Some people have their vices and hobbies. Little extreme to choose video games over a partner but the partner shouldn't throw at ultimatum at them.

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Toujin C'Thlu
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I have a feeling this woman has numerous restraining orders against her

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Jon S.
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

On the contrary most of my friends were gamers and married non-gamers. They reduced their play time accordingly, but never gave games up. Similarly I married a gamer and now one of my favourite things is watching her play, but I'm not afraid to ask her to stop for a while if something needs doing.

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The worst part might be that her post has 22 likes. She is living in a bubble of people who think this is appropriate, and reinforcing those beliefs, and she will never be happy and she will always blame the other person for her problems.

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Maren Gärtner
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

So it is not cruel and abusive destroying other peoples properties?

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Christine Zanfino
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

No, it's not cruel at all - if he prefers to play a video game vs. time with you....it just shows what kind of a girlfriend you are.

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LivingTheDream
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Maybe the game is a better companion.... Don't let the door hit you on the way out.

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A Lemon
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Okay but it’s Fallout 4, 100% better than this bitch

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I want cake
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I just don't understand how someone can impose themselves on someone else like that. It's so rude and inconsiderate. I understand feeling frustrated if your partner is constantly doing their own stuff, but if you think a partner should be attentive and entertain you every waking second you've got a serious problem. You need to have a good balance in a relationship between doing things together and doing your own stuff. And don't tamper with each other's belongings ffs

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Helen Haley
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This needs more context. Yes calling it abuse is stupid, but did he call for her to come over and then ignore her? Or did she just show up expecting attention? There is a difference.

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June
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It's cruel and basically abuse what she does to the game... Don't. Touch. Innocent. Games. OMG.

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Maja Axholt
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

She's lucky if she doesn't end up in a dumpster somewhere. Don't come between a gamer and their games.

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Mewton’s Third Paw
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Then don’t date a guy who likes video games that much! You picked the one who does. Don’t blame him for his boring hobby. Find someone who has hobbies you like instead of torturing him.

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DC
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

... over THAT girlfriend, no. It is perfectly reasonable to not only prefer a game over her, but prefer ... well ... the amount of air her body is blocking seems a better choice to me...

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CatWoman312
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3 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Lmao. I’m a gamer. Xbox automatically downloads the games from the online system so the disk isn’t necessary once you load it. She just wasted her time the game is still there. 😂

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Meh Man
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Nah it asks for you to put in the disk to make sure you didnt just download it and sell it.

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Joseph OReilly
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

She broke a copy of fallout four. Intentionally. I have no words

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Donkey boi
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I have been in relationships where I have been physically beaten, I've been in relationships where I have been manipulated (I don't understand some emotions so look to others for guidance), but if someone bust my fallout 4...

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Cian Thomas McHugh
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If someone broke my copy, well, let's just say that the Fat Man can do a lot of damage.

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KiwiBubbles
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I know right? SERIOUSLY?? "It's bAsIcAlLy AbUsE to choose to spend time on a personal hobby you care about over CONSTANTLY FOCUSING YOUR ATTENTION ON MEEEE" it is sad to realize there are people who find themselves dating individuals like this... oof

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Not-so-MadMax
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Do you need the actual CD to play on xBone? Thought it was just for installation..

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Ryan Deschanel
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3 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I hoped he sent her the bill. And broke up, of course.

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Crep 105
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

And it is borderline illegal to destroy a forty dollar disc.

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Abigail Hill
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Oh heck no. Absolutely not. My boyfriend loves this game and tells me all about it. I can't even imagine damaging something like this, even if I was super upset with him.

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Robert Robi Z
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

She broke his property worth $40. If he breaks up their relationship (as soon as possible) he will break something with no value at all.

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Michael Naretto
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

And she wonders why he would rather play video games than talk to her....

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Dark Pearl
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I showed my mum this, and she asked, 'are they still together?'

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I encourage my husband to play his games if he wants to, men deserve free time as well.

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backatya
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3 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

small claims court and make her pay for it. Then ditch the bitch

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Lynn Morello
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That depends, Did he pick you up and then go back to his place to game on, or did you just turn up? Because it is sometimes more sensible to pick a game over a GF who is as volatile as you.

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Mister Ghost Foot
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Not only 40 if it was new and full priced. Just gotta replace the game and the crappy girlfriend now

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This Is The Second Time I've Ever Talked To Her, What The Hell

This Is The Second Time I've Ever Talked To Her, What The Hell

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Nice Girl Has Trouble With Her Spelling

Nice Girl Has Trouble With Her Spelling

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