Following the conventional norms of manhood can bring social and professional rewards to some boys and men. But it's not a one-size-fits-all kind of thing.
So when people are telling everyone that real men don't express emotion openly, that they have to be "tough all the time", that anything other than that makes them "feminine" or weak, there's a problem. They're putting others in a box. Scratch that. They're putting half of this world's population in a box.
Showing just how often that happens online, the Twitter account Hot Masculinity Takes accepts submissions from folks who find the absolute worst opinions about men on the Internet and reshares them on its wall. Sadly, judging by the number of entries, there's no shortage of these instances.
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Yep, he got her pregnant by being gay. That’s how being gay works
The person behind Hot Masculinity Takes wanted to remain anonymous but they told Bored Panda that the point of this account is just to post the takes and let people draw their own conclusions.
"I will say that it’s not purely about 'toxic masculinity,'" they explained. "I do draw a lot from the manosphere but a lot of the takes are from women speaking about men, and I include left-wing hot takes too."
Yet anyone can knock someone else out but not everyone can cook good food.
According to the American Psychological Association (APA), these cultural "lessons" have been linked to “aggression and violence,” leaving boys and men at “disproportionate risk for school discipline, academic challenges and health disparities,” including cardiovascular problems and substance abuse.
“Men are overrepresented in prisons, are more likely than women to commit violent crimes, and are at greatest risk of being a victim of violent crime,” the American Psychological Association (APA) wrote.
Societal pressures, expectations from family, friends, and partners, and even expectations of religious identities can be burdensome to a man seeking out his masculine identity.
While some social, political, or religious groups may provide a set of guidelines for a healthy form of masculinity, experts say it is better for an individual to stick to their own definition, so long as it does not harm themselves or others.
Wait staff in the U.S. make less than minimum wage. Plus I'd love to see these people actually wait tables. Seriously. Lets see how long they last when they have to deal with other people like themselves and everything else wait staff has to deal with.
Pretty sure powdered sugar and sausage counts as unhealthy
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I'd like to believe he's just jealous, but apparently he always has to comply with some confusing manliness that seems to change at whim according to this list. Maybe they use these things to cover their own faults? He likely can't even make ramen.
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Wow, cooking this amazing meal for your children makes you uncomfortable? I feel sorry for you.
Providing for your kids is soo gay. *eyeroll* I really hate people sometimes.
Huh? I didn't understand any of this. Someone needs to learn basic English and lay off the dope!
Its gay to make an amazing breakfast for your hungry "babies", ok *eye roll*
Yes because living longer and healthy is a sign of weakness! Ohmygod what the actual bs is this????
Okay, strawberries...maybe (not really), but - sausage links are somehow "feminine"?!?
Looks like a good dad making breakfast to me. Sorry for your kids, if you think this is something to criticize.
He probably eats nothing but some greasy hodgepodge for breakfast with that attitude
That does not look in any way appetising. Eggs (well I assume they are eggs) are over-cooked. Sausages look massively over-processed nasty things. And what the hell is that with strawberries on it? However it does not look in any way 'gay', whatever 'gay' is supposed to look like!
HMMM. a father saw his children needed sustenance. He went out, and hunted up some supplies, before coming home and preparing them a (kinda) nutritious meal to get their day started? How the hell is that gay? that's literally what a man's role is in a gendered society. gay, straight, bi, pan, it doesn't matter. feed your family
how is a food item gay.. and of all the food items to call gay, a sausage link? where is the logic here?
He made this for his kids, all that tells me is he's an amazing father who loves his kids and would do anything for them
and if you think that's gay please do me a favor, and never ever have children or go anywhere near a child ever
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Not sure how food can be gay though, someone in the know please explain?
Oh child.... so stupid you have yet to learn the joy of making a woman laugh and proving you can cook....
Oh dear sky daddy someones been reading too much paranormal romance novels.
I would think that a man who does not want to make me sick cares about me. Even if it's just as a human being who deserves their health protected.
Modern men beg for women's appreciation..and ancient men didn't? MUHAHAHA The Greek 'ancient man' Paris chose Aprodite as the winner of this beauty pageant because she promised him that if he did so, Helen of Troy (the most beautiful girl in the world) would love him. This started a 10 year war..10 YEARS!!!!
I think men with illegible handwriting have far more explaining to do...
No, I kinda like this one. Sawdust gets abso-fricken-lutely everywhere, just like glitter. It's just as irritating. Statistically speaking, more men are going to generate sawdust than women. That's the trouble with absolutes though - men will use glitter (if they are an artist, for example, or a chef and it's the edible kind) and women will do woodworking and create sawdust. But lumping stereotypes together makes for a short, pithy joke.
Would be funny to pop up to a construction site wearing business attire.
Guess the overabundance of testosterone keeps them from typing. Or is that gay too?
Ok depends on *how* frugal. Regular to moderate Frugal I can get behind, sure we'll probably need to triple coupon but saved money is security. Excessive frugalness to to the point of where you're issued 4 squares of TP a day, that's just insane and kind of scary. None of it's gay unless they're talking about how happy the Frugal man is to buy his car or house in cash.
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All of this is sad on so many levels. So much insecurity, so much self-hate in many of the posters. So much misogynist thinking. So little tolerance, openness. I shall return to being decorated with glitter unicorn barrettes by my daughters and pity those who deem that a non-masculine action.
It isn't traditionally masculine, but that shouldn't matter. The issue is they think masculinity=respect, so women are obvi, not respected.
Load More Replies... Never seen such a collection of losers in my life. But they will never see my comment because I'm sure reading a computer screen is "gay" to them.
It's sad to see that men can't be a human being. Or women. Or anybody. I feel sorry for these poor souls, they don't seem to understand about the concept of being a human.
Good for you! That's a big step towards manly, or so I learned.
Load More Replies... This just screams of a lot of entitlement and insecurity and people being threatened by the mere existence of other human beings. And how do they react if your response to their rambling is "ok, you do you, I don't care? I'm happy and having regular sex"? Outright fury that they are being denied their "rightful" whatever by someone "lesser" getting what they want. I wish I knew who or what to blame for all this, but I suspect it's way more complicated than a listicle website can analyse.
So none of them worries their Fear of the Feminine makes them look... fearful, weak, ... effeminate?
If it was up to these people we would have been extinct. They wouldnt have let others invent tools, or fire or language. I can see the first male supremacist being "eating cooked meat is gay".
Indeed!!! It truly confused me. Some I had to red a few times a I could not even follow their thoughts, let alone identify with ANY of them. Truly messed up people.
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Well as a woman I have to say after reading all this I don't want a "real man
Jeez! Reading this article just makes my blood boil! But that seems to be the world we're living in right now?! Anti-vaxxers, anti-maskers, anti-everything against all that is common sense and empathetic! Men with a feminine side are the true men, because they are not trying to rule the world by killing or raping or cheating everyone! Few people seems to even know that word nowadays. Sad sad world, I'm gonna go cry now and have a single-malt and then take care of my eyebrows!
Day made after reading your comments. Thank you!
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What did I just read? Can I please have these minutes of my lifetime back?
I get why men might think such things... but how can women? Is this d as some kind of Stockholm syndrome?
Today I learned that real men smell incredibly bad, they are miserable on principal, and they are terrible at sex. I am going to go straight home and have a long conversation with my husband about his over use of soap, his endless desire to smile and laugh, and my 98% sexual satisfaction rate, we gotta get that number way down.
I know, right? What next? They comb their hair?!?! ;-S
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We just had a commenter on here the other day swearing that they had never had MEN perpetuate Toxic Masculinity toward him...it was always the women. I hope this article chock full of male on male toxic masculinity puts that nonsense to rest. It is not just, or even a majority, women that put these nonsensical "rules" onto men, men are perfectly capable of doing so as well...and it all needs to END.
I guess I'm a woman by their definition. But then their definition only works in their own tiny circle located in a basement somewhere. Good to know nonetheless.
I went to the comments after the 4th post, hoping they were sarcastic posts, but no, i'm shocked people think like this in the 21th century.
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There's enough toxicity to poison a municipal water supply in these posts! So much self-induced misery for no good reason... Just to fit misguided social norms that have been on the decline for decades...
Imagine, if all men would suddenly meet all these "criteria" and turn into smelly, grumpy, emotional unstable cave men....we'd go extinct.
Don't insult cave men. I'm pretty sure they weren't as dumb as this.
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Many of these post lacks so much common sense that I feel they are posting these just to troll people.
So basically, if you're a "real man" then you're bounded to live a miserable and unhappy life? Geez, that's why they're angry all the time I guess..
Where do they keep finding these people? Not even in my kickboxing class would you find a guy who thinks like that.
Another problem here too is that they seem to think gay men can't be manly and that straight men can't be feminine, and also that they think any combination thereof is correct or incorrect. The only right way to be is to be who you are
GRAHHH MEN!!! THEY ONLY EAT RAW PULSING BEAR HEART AND DRINK REINDEER PISS WE S**T IN THE OPEN AND SHOOT ARROWS WITH OUR FORESKIN!!!! MEEEEEEEEENNNNNNN!
Some of these guys are so far in the closet there is a talking lion trying to explain how messed up they are.
anything that you dont like ... can be called gay or feminine... so easy... whoa... being gay and feminine is still an insult..
These are so annoying 🙄 can't believe that there are people out there who think like this.
At first i thought this was about guys being sarcastic, making macho jokes, but it was real! Its sad to see that much insecure people out there.
I love this, its every red flag of thinking to stay away from. Also they obviously don't know much about men in history because all of these things have at one time or another have been considered extremely masculine traits; including wearing heels and make-up. Comments like this shows how little these people really know about life... probably all still living in their mums garages
I tried to laugh at this bs but it gave me a knot in my stomach. But this is just the extreme end of th stupidity scale. So it hurts from stupid and it hurts from cultural norms are b******t, both.
Couldn't even get through the whole thing. Simple bastards trying to define masculinity, and they can't even spell "a". I've got what is probably considered to be a man's job, but I don't really feel the need to flash my balls in public, lol. Besides, I've got a fine dog who loves to handle their type of s**t-work.
A bunch of insecure jerks decided to put this sexist/homophobic crap up, just to start drama. Pretty sad actually.
Honestly, it shows a great amount of insecurity for men to adhere to these rules. When I see a man who's willing to wear a pink dress, get painted in glitter and have a tea party with his daughters, that shows me a man who's very secure in himself.
I couldn't even finish this. And one can assume many of these people have kids or may have kids. Is this just a US thing?
ABSOLUTELY NOT!!! This is an ignorant asshole thing. These men are truly sick and in need of therapy.
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Goodness gracious, the stupidity of these posts makes me weep for humanity's future. There is obviously a LONG way to go before people have an understanding of accepting and respecting people for who they are... Sad, really.
I'm female, and these comments still pissed me off! Has 'masculinity' in the USA really become that damn fragile?!
Hot take and actual fact: If you belittle another man based on stupid toxic and illogical reasons, you yourself, are not worthy of calling yourself a man,or a woman, or even agender/nonbinary for that matter. The only thing you are worthy of labeling yourself as is s**t and trash.
I was cringing so hard I only made it to #10, I'm sorry, i refuse to read any more.
I love how some of those sentient penises with bodies attached to them do not unterstand what the word "gay" even means
I Have Outlined All The Things GAY Here...If You Can Not Be Alpha Destructive Male Like Me Don't Get Born...HARRUMPH
If you bothered to read the tricksy "words" at the top of the article you would know that these are from one Twitter account that collected them from other places. Kinda like reddit or Buzzfeed or Boredpanda do all the time. Is this a new concept to you?
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another "only in Texas" rant, if interested.... In TX, people have an image of what a real man is: a combination of John Wayne, the Marlboro Man, and a buff, rough, tough, gruff young 20-something Marine who can beat up anybody on a whim.... They will call you Gay or VERY GAY if you are seen doing any of the following: drinking hot tea on afternoon break instead of coffee; acting one little bit "too friendly" for their taste when getting to know a new male co-worker; gardening, enjoying growing things (growing award-winning roses gets you the VERY GAY stamp); enjoying making gourmet meals for a few friends (male & female or couples) at get-togethers (grilling on the barbecue is okay for men); owning a cat, all gay men have cats; owning more than two cats gets you the VERY GAY stamp; owning six or more cats gets you the VERY GAY PATHETIC OLD WOMAN IN A MAN'S BODY stamp; ordering a "woman's drink" at the bar (not a whiskey, neat or beers).
ALL EU MEN, EUROPEAN MEN, SOUTH AFRICAN MEN, OR BRITS: please reply to this with your score. Score one point for each "gay" stamp, two points for each "very gay stamp", and also mention any behaviour I missed if it gets you a stamp. Show one point for each cat you own over a total of two. Thanks!
Load More Replies... I live in Texas... this means I have to dodge giant Ford F-350 or -250 pickups, or maybe a big Dodge Ram everywhere I go.... These trucks are literally big enough to tow an Abrams tank. I asked the owner of one once in a store parking lot what you could do with such a big pickup truck, and he said, "Well, I can tow a modern battle tank if I need to"... And he was serious! Why would a man spend an extra $30,000 for such a huge thing???... IT IS BECAUSE THE JERKS ARE COMPENSATING FOR THEIR MICRO-PACKAGES BEHIND THEIR ZIPPERS.... And it gets worse if they have their fashion model girlfriend in the front seat with them... Then they really show off with rude driving, sudden lane changes with no signal, anger to the point of moral outrage if you are in front of them and driving so much as a mile an hour slower than they want to go.... They really don't like it if you have a regular-sized car & have the audacity to use "their road"... WHAT JERKS! This is why you hear about "road-rage" gunfights on TX highways in the news. Warning: don't challenge someone like this if they are intimidating you. Just back down, and they will drive on, laughing at your obvious cowardice.
These are a collection of toxic male stereotypes collected by a Twitter account, they range supporting it.
Load More Replies... All of this is sad on so many levels. So much insecurity, so much self-hate in many of the posters. So much misogynist thinking. So little tolerance, openness. I shall return to being decorated with glitter unicorn barrettes by my daughters and pity those who deem that a non-masculine action.
It isn't traditionally masculine, but that shouldn't matter. The issue is they think masculinity=respect, so women are obvi, not respected.
Load More Replies... Never seen such a collection of losers in my life. But they will never see my comment because I'm sure reading a computer screen is "gay" to them.
It's sad to see that men can't be a human being. Or women. Or anybody. I feel sorry for these poor souls, they don't seem to understand about the concept of being a human.
Good for you! That's a big step towards manly, or so I learned.
Load More Replies... This just screams of a lot of entitlement and insecurity and people being threatened by the mere existence of other human beings. And how do they react if your response to their rambling is "ok, you do you, I don't care? I'm happy and having regular sex"? Outright fury that they are being denied their "rightful" whatever by someone "lesser" getting what they want. I wish I knew who or what to blame for all this, but I suspect it's way more complicated than a listicle website can analyse.
So none of them worries their Fear of the Feminine makes them look... fearful, weak, ... effeminate?
If it was up to these people we would have been extinct. They wouldnt have let others invent tools, or fire or language. I can see the first male supremacist being "eating cooked meat is gay".
Indeed!!! It truly confused me. Some I had to red a few times a I could not even follow their thoughts, let alone identify with ANY of them. Truly messed up people.
Load More Replies... Well as a woman I have to say after reading all this I don't want a "real man
Jeez! Reading this article just makes my blood boil! But that seems to be the world we're living in right now?! Anti-vaxxers, anti-maskers, anti-everything against all that is common sense and empathetic! Men with a feminine side are the true men, because they are not trying to rule the world by killing or raping or cheating everyone! Few people seems to even know that word nowadays. Sad sad world, I'm gonna go cry now and have a single-malt and then take care of my eyebrows!
Day made after reading your comments. Thank you!
Load More Replies... What did I just read? Can I please have these minutes of my lifetime back?
I get why men might think such things... but how can women? Is this d as some kind of Stockholm syndrome?
Today I learned that real men smell incredibly bad, they are miserable on principal, and they are terrible at sex. I am going to go straight home and have a long conversation with my husband about his over use of soap, his endless desire to smile and laugh, and my 98% sexual satisfaction rate, we gotta get that number way down.
I know, right? What next? They comb their hair?!?! ;-S
Load More Replies... We just had a commenter on here the other day swearing that they had never had MEN perpetuate Toxic Masculinity toward him...it was always the women. I hope this article chock full of male on male toxic masculinity puts that nonsense to rest. It is not just, or even a majority, women that put these nonsensical "rules" onto men, men are perfectly capable of doing so as well...and it all needs to END.
I guess I'm a woman by their definition. But then their definition only works in their own tiny circle located in a basement somewhere. Good to know nonetheless.
I went to the comments after the 4th post, hoping they were sarcastic posts, but no, i'm shocked people think like this in the 21th century.
Load More Replies... There's enough toxicity to poison a municipal water supply in these posts! So much self-induced misery for no good reason... Just to fit misguided social norms that have been on the decline for decades...
Imagine, if all men would suddenly meet all these "criteria" and turn into smelly, grumpy, emotional unstable cave men....we'd go extinct.
Don't insult cave men. I'm pretty sure they weren't as dumb as this.
Load More Replies... Many of these post lacks so much common sense that I feel they are posting these just to troll people.
So basically, if you're a "real man" then you're bounded to live a miserable and unhappy life? Geez, that's why they're angry all the time I guess..
Where do they keep finding these people? Not even in my kickboxing class would you find a guy who thinks like that.
Another problem here too is that they seem to think gay men can't be manly and that straight men can't be feminine, and also that they think any combination thereof is correct or incorrect. The only right way to be is to be who you are
GRAHHH MEN!!! THEY ONLY EAT RAW PULSING BEAR HEART AND DRINK REINDEER PISS WE S**T IN THE OPEN AND SHOOT ARROWS WITH OUR FORESKIN!!!! MEEEEEEEEENNNNNNN!
Some of these guys are so far in the closet there is a talking lion trying to explain how messed up they are.
anything that you dont like ... can be called gay or feminine... so easy... whoa... being gay and feminine is still an insult..
These are so annoying 🙄 can't believe that there are people out there who think like this.
At first i thought this was about guys being sarcastic, making macho jokes, but it was real! Its sad to see that much insecure people out there.
I love this, its every red flag of thinking to stay away from. Also they obviously don't know much about men in history because all of these things have at one time or another have been considered extremely masculine traits; including wearing heels and make-up. Comments like this shows how little these people really know about life... probably all still living in their mums garages
I tried to laugh at this bs but it gave me a knot in my stomach. But this is just the extreme end of th stupidity scale. So it hurts from stupid and it hurts from cultural norms are b******t, both.
Couldn't even get through the whole thing. Simple bastards trying to define masculinity, and they can't even spell "a". I've got what is probably considered to be a man's job, but I don't really feel the need to flash my balls in public, lol. Besides, I've got a fine dog who loves to handle their type of s**t-work.
A bunch of insecure jerks decided to put this sexist/homophobic crap up, just to start drama. Pretty sad actually.
Honestly, it shows a great amount of insecurity for men to adhere to these rules. When I see a man who's willing to wear a pink dress, get painted in glitter and have a tea party with his daughters, that shows me a man who's very secure in himself.
I couldn't even finish this. And one can assume many of these people have kids or may have kids. Is this just a US thing?
ABSOLUTELY NOT!!! This is an ignorant asshole thing. These men are truly sick and in need of therapy.
Load More Replies... Goodness gracious, the stupidity of these posts makes me weep for humanity's future. There is obviously a LONG way to go before people have an understanding of accepting and respecting people for who they are... Sad, really.
I'm female, and these comments still pissed me off! Has 'masculinity' in the USA really become that damn fragile?!
Hot take and actual fact: If you belittle another man based on stupid toxic and illogical reasons, you yourself, are not worthy of calling yourself a man,or a woman, or even agender/nonbinary for that matter. The only thing you are worthy of labeling yourself as is s**t and trash.
I was cringing so hard I only made it to #10, I'm sorry, i refuse to read any more.
I love how some of those sentient penises with bodies attached to them do not unterstand what the word "gay" even means
I Have Outlined All The Things GAY Here...If You Can Not Be Alpha Destructive Male Like Me Don't Get Born...HARRUMPH
If you bothered to read the tricksy "words" at the top of the article you would know that these are from one Twitter account that collected them from other places. Kinda like reddit or Buzzfeed or Boredpanda do all the time. Is this a new concept to you?
Load More Replies... another "only in Texas" rant, if interested.... In TX, people have an image of what a real man is: a combination of John Wayne, the Marlboro Man, and a buff, rough, tough, gruff young 20-something Marine who can beat up anybody on a whim.... They will call you Gay or VERY GAY if you are seen doing any of the following: drinking hot tea on afternoon break instead of coffee; acting one little bit "too friendly" for their taste when getting to know a new male co-worker; gardening, enjoying growing things (growing award-winning roses gets you the VERY GAY stamp); enjoying making gourmet meals for a few friends (male & female or couples) at get-togethers (grilling on the barbecue is okay for men); owning a cat, all gay men have cats; owning more than two cats gets you the VERY GAY stamp; owning six or more cats gets you the VERY GAY PATHETIC OLD WOMAN IN A MAN'S BODY stamp; ordering a "woman's drink" at the bar (not a whiskey, neat or beers).
ALL EU MEN, EUROPEAN MEN, SOUTH AFRICAN MEN, OR BRITS: please reply to this with your score. Score one point for each "gay" stamp, two points for each "very gay stamp", and also mention any behaviour I missed if it gets you a stamp. Show one point for each cat you own over a total of two. Thanks!
Load More Replies... I live in Texas... this means I have to dodge giant Ford F-350 or -250 pickups, or maybe a big Dodge Ram everywhere I go.... These trucks are literally big enough to tow an Abrams tank. I asked the owner of one once in a store parking lot what you could do with such a big pickup truck, and he said, "Well, I can tow a modern battle tank if I need to"... And he was serious! Why would a man spend an extra $30,000 for such a huge thing???... IT IS BECAUSE THE JERKS ARE COMPENSATING FOR THEIR MICRO-PACKAGES BEHIND THEIR ZIPPERS.... And it gets worse if they have their fashion model girlfriend in the front seat with them... Then they really show off with rude driving, sudden lane changes with no signal, anger to the point of moral outrage if you are in front of them and driving so much as a mile an hour slower than they want to go.... They really don't like it if you have a regular-sized car & have the audacity to use "their road"... WHAT JERKS! This is why you hear about "road-rage" gunfights on TX highways in the news. Warning: don't challenge someone like this if they are intimidating you. Just back down, and they will drive on, laughing at your obvious cowardice.
These are a collection of toxic male stereotypes collected by a Twitter account, they range supporting it.
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