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35 “Hot Masculinity Takes” That Are So Wrong, They Had To Be Shamed On This Twitter Page (New Posts)
What does it mean to be a "real" man? Well, masculinity is one of those topics everyone has an opinion on, as gender norms remain a delicate subject that tends to spark heated debates online. And even though public attitudes are becoming more accepting in many ways, stereotypical patterns of masculine behavior are still deeply rooted in our society — according to the age-old cliché of the masculine guy, men are expected to be strong, brave, and dominant.
But in reality, when people are telling everyone that a macho man doesn't cry, takes risks, makes money, fears nothing, and — heaven forbid! — never shows any signs of emotional vulnerability, it can spark some pretty warped ideas about manhood.
Thanks to one illuminating corner of Twitter called 'Hot Masculinity Takes,' we get to see a galore of absurd cases when this happens online. "Welcome to the Alpha Zone," says the account’s description, and you already know it’s gonna be a wild ride. So continue scrolling to check out the absolutely ridiculous opinions about men on the Internet, and don’t miss the chat we had about masculinity with licensed clinical psychologist Dr. Jesse Matthews right below.
Psst! After you’re done with this list, more madness awaits in Part 1 of this feature right here.
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I wanna punch the idiot who wrote this put down. And I’m an oh-so-estrogenic woman. My crushing lack of testosterone must be making me so irrational to say something like this. Isn’t it?🙄😤😡 Who is this misogynistic weirdo, to think he can be rude to the ladies and gentlemen like that? Bet he’s an insecure neckbeard.
It’s hard to avoid encountering the term toxic masculinity these days. But as the person behind the account, who preferred to stay anonymous, told my colleague Rokas in a previous interview, this social media project is not purely about that. The philosophy of the page is to post the takes and let people make their own conclusions. "I do draw a lot from the manosphere but a lot of the takes are from women speaking about men, and I include left-wing hot takes too," the creator added.
A brief scroll through the list proves that harmful stereotypes about what it means to be a man are abundant in today’s society. But what exactly urges people to share their absurd statements without any second thought? And how can these ideas affect men seeking out their masculine identity?
I'm going to guess that our friend Dale here doesn't believe in non-binary people. He'll tell you to DECIDE by what's in your pants and STICK WITH IT, BY GUM!!! ...and THEN and ONLY THEN will you know what to wear and how long to grow your hair out!!! >:O
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Female here.I just TODAY cut my hair short because after chemo it's thin and won't grow long. And I hate wearing dresses. I've also been married for 25 years. Try again.
I am so hopeful that you will have an amazing life post-chemo. All the positive vibes and thinking happy thoughts you way, my friend.
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The founding fathers could really pull off the wigs and heels.
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1st Chad 11-15, the lord said that men should wear denim and cow boy boots. Denim women should not wear, unless in the shape of a dress.
And people who can't grow a beard are gay, no matter what /j
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What if you want long hair AND a beard? Can I you have both? What does that make someone?
Pink was once a manly color and skirts were only allowed for men. So be a men and wear your pink skirt.
Guess they never saw paintings of a fully dressed Jesus. He may have worn a beard, but he also had long hair and wore a robe instead of pants. Because that was—-and still is—-normal clothing for the area of the world he came from***. So what does your tiny Christian brain make of that? ***Correct me if I’m wrong, but I believe it has to do with the climate. Basically, flowing robes allow for more air circulation and keep you cooler than pants.
Hey Dale Partridge, how about if you stop making up stupid rules for Christians.
Fact is, dresses suck in cold weather. Women don't want to freeze their bits either.
Screw you, I'll wear male clothes and keep my hair as short as possible!
What the actual f**k did I just read?!?! I'm a woman who loves to wear jeans. I HATE my hair long! A just to p**s you off I'll sit with legs spread like a man!!! Suck it!!!! 😡😆😆I feel much better🤓
Long hair gets everywhere and drives you insane. I’ll stick to my buzzed pixie.
Dale, have a word with your shirt-maker. He's doing you no favours with the way that collar sits on that neck of yours.
Need I remind you that Jesus had long hair and wore robes and so did all the men and women. Your Bible says nothing about what a man should wear. Tough" men also used to wear fancy clothes, high heels, stockings, wigs and makeup (yes, even your "Christian men). Clothes have nothing to do with gender, masculinity or femininity. Boy babies used to be dressed in pink as it was thought to be a "strong" color. You sir, are a un-evolved and un-educated caveman.
I dunno man, the diety I worship doesn't crumble every time people act true to themselves.
I think every human being should wear clothes while out and about. Not in they're underwear, not swimsuits. Clothes. I don't really care if you're wearing a dress or trousers, just cover a little bit of yourself up! But that's just me...
Jesus is usually portrayed in a 'robe' which looks a lot like a dress.....
Christians should mind their own business. It's their god, it's their imaginary rules, why do they expect the rest of us to give a sh*t?
He has considered that some men cannot grow facial hair genetically, right?? God didn’t care about someone’s appearance, but his heart, when He chose David as the successor to Saul….
me, who is female, has short hair (LIKE REAAAAAAAALLY SHORT), rarely wears a dress: oh okay- lemme time travel so i can talk with you.
I'm a woman, and I hate wearing dresses, have relatively short hair, and an currently sick. Guess I fail the test, LOL
Hm. Uh. Well? Well. If you say so, brother, then do so, but ... why are these people always convinced they'd know better for anyone else, when not knowing stuff, not caring about knowledge, even not reading books, are what they're flexing with? Fück that shid. Do what you want. Dress how you like. May happen that I find it ugly, but how's that your problem? It's mine, I'm keeping it. Mine. MINE! ... heard that manly roar in the "MINE"? Hahahahahaha - what a püssiette, that guy...
Yeah. I personally like when women wear skirts and men dress in "men's" clothes, but guess what, it doesn't matter what I like! The world doesn't bow down to my preferences, and I can't tell other adults how to dress. This guy's commands are an ineffective way to get people to change, if that were even desirable!
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What if want to wear a kilt? I kinda like the idea that if I sit down my trousers won't crush my giant manhood. It's almost like a dress, does that make me gay?
Welcome to the cult. Had a (former) friend who was a devout Christian, never wore pants, long hair, no makeup, basically looked like a Duggar daughter. Cool, whatever - but she was constantly talking about Jesus, etc. and asking me to come to her church. I told her politely many times that I wasn't interested. I finally snapped - "Will you just shut the f*ck up already? I'm am NOT INTERESTED in joining your f*****g cult" made her pull over and got out of her car. I sent her a text that I was no longer interested in having her as a friend and then blocked her number. Enough is enough.
So, what about my grandmother, who was very baptist, who had short hair for most of her life. Guess she wasn't a woman.
Christians are people who followed Christ right? So Christian men really should have long hair and ware dresses too. (Be kind of good if they actually tried the bit about loving your neighbours and being forgiving too)
It’s hard to believe that folks think this an acceptable way to go about life. This is why religion & gov’t policies shouldn’t mix.
I hate having a beard. Tried it, didn't like it. WTF is wrong with these people that think they can dictate other people preferences.
I'm pretty strong, have long hair and a beard, so what now? Am I supposed to building a log cabin?
I don't feel fully female all the time, so I guess I can wear anything.
to all the muscled bearded gay men that wear just jeans and a t-shirt, just don't put on the eye liner and you're good here appearantly.
Ha! As a woman, I got so many dirty looks from men when I shaved my head, but it was the happiest I've ever been with my hair.
meh. you can go around telling people that.. (also a free ticket to the lottery of %25 each: mugging, assasination, poisoning, or beating)
paint yourself rainbow and wear a neon sign on your head that says "I'M GAY!" ;D
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Good thing he wasn't around back in the day, to see men wearing leggings and long curly wigs.
And from his profile pic he looks like a skinny, weak, neckbeard wearing numbnuts.
Well my hair is thick and when it's long it contributes to frequent headaches. I don't like wearing dresses because most do not have pockets. How about you do you and I'll do me. Kthxbyeeeeee
all trough the history most men all over the Earth were considered more manly with long hair and wore some kind of a dress to fight in many wars - just saying
Don't worry; it's a trap; a straight man should ignore what other men have to say... according to these posts.
Wait, if he calls for Christian standards he’ll be surprised as hell to see what Jesus was wearing.
Oooh Dales gonna get a pineapple shoved up his a*s by bin laden in hell!!! The things men do for religion
Grow a beard and look like what? a jobless, depressed, ill individual who can't clean up after themselves, Nah I will pass
Heaven forbid that they attend any Scottish Games. Kilts, and Beards, and Throwing Heavy Objects! Oh, My!
He looked a lot like Che Guevara, drove a diesel van Kept his gun in quiet seclusion, such a humble man The only survivor of the National People's Gang Panic in Detroit...
OR, we wear what we choose and you keep your eyes off our wobbly bits. Neanderthal.
History begs to differ unless you are talking about centuries of culture. Remember men loved wearing tights to show off their legs, wear bright colorful wigs and faces full of makeup.
Weren't dresses originally designed for men and pants for women?
Me as a girl: wearing a boy’s shirt, short hair, still a girl, still straight, also, why do people always think you’re 🏳️🌈 when a girl acts like a boy? (Not taking offense, it’s just not who I am)
Get strong he says. Grow a beard he says. So am I not "manly" if I'm obese? Even if it's not my effing fault? Booooo masculinity.
Me, totally cis and straight with my husband, kids, buzz cut, and no longer owns a dress that fits me...🙄
Not a fan of beards on a man, (as a completely personal preference I want to stress) I always imagine them to feel scratchy against my face when kissing. So now I'm confused, what does that make me, I've always thought I was a heterosexual woman!!!!!
I am shaving my head and taking up heroin just to spite this douchecanoe
I wear pink, can bench press 300 lbs but don't have a beard. Guess I'm not strong
A beard huh? Tell me, Mr. Partridge... if that is indeed your real name... are you, or have you ever been, a member of the Communist Party?
He's got a red tie! And a red handkerchief in his pocket!
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To gain more insight on the topic from an expert, we reached out to Dr. Jesse Matthews, Psy.D., a licensed clinical psychologist based in Chester Springs, PA. According to him, ideas about masculinity have become quite polarized in our society.
"As masculinity has moved away from the 'manly man' or 'tough guy' definitions, many people have not only clung to these stereotypes, but they have made them more extreme," Dr. Matthews told Bored Panda. This usually stems from people rejecting the changing views, and "social media in particular creates echo chambers for this, with various influencers carrying the flags for those who identify with their views."
While we all bear different perspectives on the world around us, masculinity especially can be a very deep rabbit hole with a variety of different viewpoints. But Dr. Matthews raised an important question: why do these ideas matter so much to people?
"Obviously, it’s part of life for any guy or anyone who identifies with masculinity, but the obsession with being a 'real man' is more based in insecurity. The person essentially needs to ensure that they present a masculine enough identity to avoid judgment or being called out as not masculine by other guys," the psychologist explained.
Men who are insecure about their manliness exhibit behavior that is often exaggerated and even caricature-like. But Dr. Matthews says there’s also irony at play here. "Many of these individuals would tell you that being a real man means just doing your thing and not caring about what anyone thinks about it. However, one can’t simultaneously obsess over portraying an ultramasculine image, yet claim to be unconcerned about judgment. It just doesn’t compute."
Hypermasculinity — or toxic masculinity as it’s usually called — is also based on the false belief that masculinity needs to be saved, Dr. Matthews argued. "In the same way that some people seem to be afraid that racism or homophobia might one day die out. So they embrace stereotypes, or how they think things 'should' be or were in 'the good old days.'"
But putting men (half of the world’s population!) in a box can seriously harm their well-being. "It’s limiting at best, and at worst it leads people to play into these stereotypes." For example, hypermasculinity often makes people act in ways "that are sexist or homophobic, or at least not challenging others on this kind of behavior."
"It also has the power to create toxic environments, uncomfortable for women or men viewed as not masculine, and of course to lead to situations involving sexual assault," Dr. Matthews continued. "As well, if these men carry on these thoughts and behaviors through adulthood, they may pass them down to their children or other young people they come into contact with, like kids they are teaching, coaching, and so on."
According to the American Psychological Association (APA), instilling elements of traditional masculinity into men and boys can be psychologically harmful, as it has been shown to limit their development, constrain their behavior, and result in gender role conflict. What’s more, it can negatively influence their mental and physical health.
This screams red flag all over. Anyone under that height is usually underage (with the exception of naturally petite women).
And men wonder why we women have a tendency to come off as cold, closed-off, and wary with men we dont know. Obviously, even the men we DO think we know can be a danger to us.
For men who try to seek out their identity and find a healthy relationship with their inner guy, these societal pressures and expectations can be especially burdensome. "It can be hard for people to stand out or to be seen as going against those around them. For example, a male raised in a family or in a community with traditional masculine stereotypes may find it hard to explore or adopt a less stereotyped identity," Dr. Matthews said, adding the person is likely to be criticized, punished, or excluded for it.
Unfortunately, most people who are raised in stereotyped environments tend to internalize those behavior patterns. Psychologist Matthews explained this happens because they don’t know anything else and it feels right to them, or they feel pressure to fit in.
"This can mean demonstrating extreme or toxic masculinity, as not only could one fit in that way, but he could be praised or more highly valued in the group for it." And, alarmingly, "in places like prisons where this applies, it could actually help you to survive."
Extreme views like the painfully ridiculous ones featured on 'Hot Masculinity Takes' are rarely a positive thing. But as the modern world now teaches us, the subject matter is much less black-and-white.
"Masculinity is not simply the opposite of femininity, just as it is not synonymous with heterosexuality," Dr. Matthews noted. "Many people today see being masculine as being calm and controlled vs angry and reactive, being a good problem solver rather than one who relies on brute force to solve everything, or standing up for other people or what’s right vs trying to control or overpower others."
What people see as healthy masculinity may differ, but generally, we can all foster it by not judging other people. "This means not being worried about what other men are doing and giving people the space to be themselves," Dr. Matthews added. "We can all do what we want to do and believe what we want to believe. Masculinity isn’t going anywhere, so people don’t need to try to be the protectors of it or to act in stereotyped ways to let people know they exist."
High blood pressure, obesity, high blood sugar, malnutrition, but I can't think of any real reasons.
Many men in Dr. Matthews’s practice have never gone to therapy before, and some wouldn't even be expected to be found in a psychologist’s office at first glance. But they are sure glad they did. "This idea of what it really means to be a man and the positive and negative ways in which they have lived this is a frequent topic of conversation."
"I would encourage anyone concerned with issues of identity, including ideas about masculinity, to start reflecting on it in some kind of organized way. Don’t just watch videos by your favorite IG or Tik Tok influencers, but start journaling, reading books, or going and seeing a therapist. It really can change your life," Dr. Matthews concluded.
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Say you're insecure about your masculinity without saying you're insecure about your masculinity
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I get confused in posts like this, am I supposed to upvote the worse/most ridiculous ones or downvote them?
So...being a 'real man' means being a violent, unwashed sexual predator? No wonder women want to stay away from them. Seriously, though, this thread was scary. These men are one step away from idolizing serial killers, and some are already seeing mass murderers as 'saints'
Guys that downvoted Yugan Talovich's post... John Brown was a black abolitionist and General Sherman was a Union Commander who defeated the Confederates at Atlanta, and freed the enslaved people his army encountered, giving each formerly enslaved family forty acres and an army mule. His idea was that black people should be self-sustaining/self-reliant.
Load More Replies... Can you imagine living your life in such great fear of natural human emotions and behaviors in yourself and others? It seems exhausting. I don’t understand how anyone could consider such hand-wringing cowardice desirable or masculine.
They are very obsessed with what other men do and what they are eating especially.
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Do men allow men to do anything? Jeez. I propose we begin the rumor that moving one's body from point A to point B grows a vagina, thereby freezing these morons in place. This way they are easily identified, they can't communicate after their electronics die and eventually they will just wither away.
Can you even imagine being such a scared, insecure little boy that you felt the need to live your life by all these rules in order to "prove" your masculinity? Just wow.
the amount of likes on all of these broke my heart. this radicalisation needs to stop before it hurts even more people
The disturbing thing is that this s$/t pops up a lot thanks to algorithms. I watch pretty normal things on YouTube like music and cat videos and I like video game channels that aren't angry butthurt dudes but that Walsh a$$hole kept popping up and YouTube won't even let me say I'm not interested so I just started reporting every video. So it's pretty easy for them to radicalize people and I think they target naive young men on purpose.
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I need some help with my scorecard, y'all. I cooked my wife breakfast in the kitchen, but then we had sex. I also hung a door, but then did some laundry. Am I gay, or worse, a beta? PS - No soy though
Me too. We decided against dinner last night in lieu of a 2 person shower and booty, but I'm the one that asked him to marry me and I'll be cooking tonight. I'm doing laundry as well. I'm a little confused after this list.
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Wow. So much toxic masculinity and so many people believing that their opinions on how other people should live actually matter.
This. That was a horrible experience and I'm sorry I read it.
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This page is actually an excellent test for anyone you might be interested in romantically. If their reaction is anything but “wtf did I just read?”, it’s a huge red burning Jupiter-sized flag.
I stopped reading at the Nick Adams one. The guy's an idiot. First of all, if you have to say you're "alpha," you're not. Secondly, Nancy Pelosi is more alpha than he is. When domestic terrorists were invading the Capitol, she was flexing her power as Speaker of the House to get reinforcements. He would have been cowering in a closet, trembling and pissing his pants.
I had to stop reading this. People are arseholes. Men: drink and wear what the hell you like. Everyone can stick their judgement up their arses.
Guys, when we talk about Toxic Masculinity... this is the kind of thing we're talking about. Being 'masculine' or 'feminine' is so subjective, ambiguous and amorphous that there's really no point in stressing over it. Are you a guy? Congratulations, you're masculine. Are you a girl? Congratulations, you're feminine. Don't identify as either, or as both? Congratulations, you are a magical human being.
Any man who makes these posts or follows such people should have the police check their basements for kidnapped women. These men ain't right
Further proof that the patriarchal system that oppresses women is also oppressive of men. Pretty much the whole thing is "conform or die" on all sides, boxing us all into a system of false dominance and forced submission. We all lose when we support it.
These guys are on their knees, sucking Tate's limp c@ck, telling us all, as they tickle his balls, that "cooking is gay, right...because..." Slurp, "No man ever steps, knowingly, into the kitchen..." Gobble.
Oh My Gosh!! Your comment made me mentally laugh so f*****g hard! Love it! Best Comment for the win, right here!
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The sad news in all of this is, these are real people, with a belief system that belongs with the Neanderthals. Just think how screwed up their parents were, to turn them into what they are today. This is probably the saddest thing I have seen in a long time.
I bet Neanderthals were more progressive than these brohards
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After reading this I just truly don't know what to say?!? I'm a middle-aged white male and used to getting blamed for everything. 🤷 I'd like to think my views of the world are relatively rational but after all of this...maybe I've been looking at things wrong all of this time? 🤣🤪 This part of the human race/gene pool just needs to be flushed in my opinion. Just such absolutely stupid, toxic, incel, and detrimental ways of thinking. *Stepping off my soapbox*
I have a friend that started to read this s**t and wants to be a part of it.. i dont know how to talk to him about it and now i dont want to hang with him anymore. Breaks my heart, he was such a sweet kid before he found this.
horrible... I feel so bad for him, sucked into a world of misinformation and toxicity.
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I once tuned a guy's guitar for him. Apparently, that was "emasculation".
I think these are really sad, because rather than being themselves and enjoying whatever they want to enjoy, they're choosing to put themselves ... not even into little boxes! They're putting themselves into tiny mental coffins and locking themselves in. Reading this, I am SO glad I don't care about this kind of stuff.
The funny thing about the drinks is that my non-binary partner drinks black coffee and bear, meanwhile me an androgynous guy can't stand either and only drink bitter fruit drinks and coffee with chocolate or caramel. When I tried pinã colada I couldn't drink it for being too sweet and had to give it to my straight cis father who loves sugar and candy more than he should. Gender stereotype is bs.
Flashbacks to when I got into an entire argument in seventh grade because this kid said brushing teeth was gay
Note to myself, to eliminate toxic people go as follows: Get shorts that end above your knees, get fruity drinks and find a girl that would buy you flowers. Look like an anime character....Use lots of emojis and dots and question-marks .... make lots of ticktocks, get rid of any friend who believes in " alpha male, sigma" ... i am describing about 90% of the influencer boys now-days... i was born in the wrong decade i guess...
Definition of a real man: Someone that can do what they want without feeling threatened by other men who THINK they know how real men are supposed to act, dress, eat or feel.
Women can take care of themselves and have made great strides not to be bound by society's definition of "feminine". Because of this men are struggling to continue to define "masculinity" because it's always been dependent on its relationship to femininity. So to fill the void (instead of moving on like women have) they use absurd activities like drinking black coffee, eating steak, and violence toward women as their new badges of masculinity. Pathetic. The new masculinity will be defined as not caring about if something/someone is masculine.
most of them were talking about normal things. bro just because you live in 1880 doesnt mean we have to.
And what is the correct for them „alphas“? Just steak? Nothing else right? Everything else was gay?
Something from a tortured dead animal, and no cutlery.
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My favorite one was about proving your masculinity by drinking black coffee (like my grandmother and mother). There was a detective in novels, named Elvis or something, who proved what a big man he was by eating spicy dishes.
Ironically, a spicy dish is only possible with the use of a vegetable, which therefore makes it womanly
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So many men who will never understand that worrying about what is or isn't manly makes them less manly.
You'll notice only the men who are insecure about their masculinity are the ones who have to prove at every turn just how "manly" they are.
I'm really scared now. I'm never getting social media.
This is the most upsetting topic I've read in years, shame on you for allowing some of those violent and hateful posts
Shame on you for reading something that makes you upset.
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Guys, please tell me that these twits are a very tiny tiny minority??? Please?
This isn't hot masculinity, it's toxic - and on the whole, utter nonsense. These are insecure men, not real men.
I would feel sorry for these unloved and unloving men if they weren’t trying spread their vitriol like a plague. What sad, lonely lives.
I find all of this too triggering and offensive to even finish reading the rest.
Well, according to most of these "geniuses" I'll have to get some eyeshadow and a dress now.... (Not saying I can't rock such outfit ^^)
BP forgot to chop off everything after about 50 posts. That was also a very depressing read.
I get confused in posts like this, am I supposed to upvote the worse/most ridiculous ones or downvote them?
So...being a 'real man' means being a violent, unwashed sexual predator? No wonder women want to stay away from them. Seriously, though, this thread was scary. These men are one step away from idolizing serial killers, and some are already seeing mass murderers as 'saints'
Guys that downvoted Yugan Talovich's post... John Brown was a black abolitionist and General Sherman was a Union Commander who defeated the Confederates at Atlanta, and freed the enslaved people his army encountered, giving each formerly enslaved family forty acres and an army mule. His idea was that black people should be self-sustaining/self-reliant.
Load More Replies... Can you imagine living your life in such great fear of natural human emotions and behaviors in yourself and others? It seems exhausting. I don’t understand how anyone could consider such hand-wringing cowardice desirable or masculine.
They are very obsessed with what other men do and what they are eating especially.
Load More Replies... Do men allow men to do anything? Jeez. I propose we begin the rumor that moving one's body from point A to point B grows a vagina, thereby freezing these morons in place. This way they are easily identified, they can't communicate after their electronics die and eventually they will just wither away.
Can you even imagine being such a scared, insecure little boy that you felt the need to live your life by all these rules in order to "prove" your masculinity? Just wow.
the amount of likes on all of these broke my heart. this radicalisation needs to stop before it hurts even more people
The disturbing thing is that this s$/t pops up a lot thanks to algorithms. I watch pretty normal things on YouTube like music and cat videos and I like video game channels that aren't angry butthurt dudes but that Walsh a$$hole kept popping up and YouTube won't even let me say I'm not interested so I just started reporting every video. So it's pretty easy for them to radicalize people and I think they target naive young men on purpose.
Load More Replies... I need some help with my scorecard, y'all. I cooked my wife breakfast in the kitchen, but then we had sex. I also hung a door, but then did some laundry. Am I gay, or worse, a beta? PS - No soy though
Me too. We decided against dinner last night in lieu of a 2 person shower and booty, but I'm the one that asked him to marry me and I'll be cooking tonight. I'm doing laundry as well. I'm a little confused after this list.
Load More Replies... Wow. So much toxic masculinity and so many people believing that their opinions on how other people should live actually matter.
This. That was a horrible experience and I'm sorry I read it.
Load More Replies... This page is actually an excellent test for anyone you might be interested in romantically. If their reaction is anything but “wtf did I just read?”, it’s a huge red burning Jupiter-sized flag.
I stopped reading at the Nick Adams one. The guy's an idiot. First of all, if you have to say you're "alpha," you're not. Secondly, Nancy Pelosi is more alpha than he is. When domestic terrorists were invading the Capitol, she was flexing her power as Speaker of the House to get reinforcements. He would have been cowering in a closet, trembling and pissing his pants.
I had to stop reading this. People are arseholes. Men: drink and wear what the hell you like. Everyone can stick their judgement up their arses.
Guys, when we talk about Toxic Masculinity... this is the kind of thing we're talking about. Being 'masculine' or 'feminine' is so subjective, ambiguous and amorphous that there's really no point in stressing over it. Are you a guy? Congratulations, you're masculine. Are you a girl? Congratulations, you're feminine. Don't identify as either, or as both? Congratulations, you are a magical human being.
Any man who makes these posts or follows such people should have the police check their basements for kidnapped women. These men ain't right
Further proof that the patriarchal system that oppresses women is also oppressive of men. Pretty much the whole thing is "conform or die" on all sides, boxing us all into a system of false dominance and forced submission. We all lose when we support it.
These guys are on their knees, sucking Tate's limp c@ck, telling us all, as they tickle his balls, that "cooking is gay, right...because..." Slurp, "No man ever steps, knowingly, into the kitchen..." Gobble.
Oh My Gosh!! Your comment made me mentally laugh so f*****g hard! Love it! Best Comment for the win, right here!
Load More Replies... The sad news in all of this is, these are real people, with a belief system that belongs with the Neanderthals. Just think how screwed up their parents were, to turn them into what they are today. This is probably the saddest thing I have seen in a long time.
I bet Neanderthals were more progressive than these brohards
Load More Replies... After reading this I just truly don't know what to say?!? I'm a middle-aged white male and used to getting blamed for everything. 🤷 I'd like to think my views of the world are relatively rational but after all of this...maybe I've been looking at things wrong all of this time? 🤣🤪 This part of the human race/gene pool just needs to be flushed in my opinion. Just such absolutely stupid, toxic, incel, and detrimental ways of thinking. *Stepping off my soapbox*
I have a friend that started to read this s**t and wants to be a part of it.. i dont know how to talk to him about it and now i dont want to hang with him anymore. Breaks my heart, he was such a sweet kid before he found this.
horrible... I feel so bad for him, sucked into a world of misinformation and toxicity.
Load More Replies... I once tuned a guy's guitar for him. Apparently, that was "emasculation".
I think these are really sad, because rather than being themselves and enjoying whatever they want to enjoy, they're choosing to put themselves ... not even into little boxes! They're putting themselves into tiny mental coffins and locking themselves in. Reading this, I am SO glad I don't care about this kind of stuff.
The funny thing about the drinks is that my non-binary partner drinks black coffee and bear, meanwhile me an androgynous guy can't stand either and only drink bitter fruit drinks and coffee with chocolate or caramel. When I tried pinã colada I couldn't drink it for being too sweet and had to give it to my straight cis father who loves sugar and candy more than he should. Gender stereotype is bs.
Flashbacks to when I got into an entire argument in seventh grade because this kid said brushing teeth was gay
Note to myself, to eliminate toxic people go as follows: Get shorts that end above your knees, get fruity drinks and find a girl that would buy you flowers. Look like an anime character....Use lots of emojis and dots and question-marks .... make lots of ticktocks, get rid of any friend who believes in " alpha male, sigma" ... i am describing about 90% of the influencer boys now-days... i was born in the wrong decade i guess...
Definition of a real man: Someone that can do what they want without feeling threatened by other men who THINK they know how real men are supposed to act, dress, eat or feel.
Women can take care of themselves and have made great strides not to be bound by society's definition of "feminine". Because of this men are struggling to continue to define "masculinity" because it's always been dependent on its relationship to femininity. So to fill the void (instead of moving on like women have) they use absurd activities like drinking black coffee, eating steak, and violence toward women as their new badges of masculinity. Pathetic. The new masculinity will be defined as not caring about if something/someone is masculine.
most of them were talking about normal things. bro just because you live in 1880 doesnt mean we have to.
And what is the correct for them „alphas“? Just steak? Nothing else right? Everything else was gay?
Something from a tortured dead animal, and no cutlery.
Load More Replies... My favorite one was about proving your masculinity by drinking black coffee (like my grandmother and mother). There was a detective in novels, named Elvis or something, who proved what a big man he was by eating spicy dishes.
Ironically, a spicy dish is only possible with the use of a vegetable, which therefore makes it womanly
Load More Replies... So many men who will never understand that worrying about what is or isn't manly makes them less manly.
You'll notice only the men who are insecure about their masculinity are the ones who have to prove at every turn just how "manly" they are.
I'm really scared now. I'm never getting social media.
This is the most upsetting topic I've read in years, shame on you for allowing some of those violent and hateful posts
Shame on you for reading something that makes you upset.
Load More Replies... Guys, please tell me that these twits are a very tiny tiny minority??? Please?
This isn't hot masculinity, it's toxic - and on the whole, utter nonsense. These are insecure men, not real men.
I would feel sorry for these unloved and unloving men if they weren’t trying spread their vitriol like a plague. What sad, lonely lives.
I find all of this too triggering and offensive to even finish reading the rest.
Well, according to most of these "geniuses" I'll have to get some eyeshadow and a dress now.... (Not saying I can't rock such outfit ^^)
BP forgot to chop off everything after about 50 posts. That was also a very depressing read.
