Imagine you're in the kitchen making dinner and simply hoping your kid is self-dependent enough to make it back home safely. However, the first thing they do when they see you is hand over a note from their teacher. Yikes. I mean, teachers usually do a really good job maintaining order in the classroom, and guiding their students towards a brighter tomorrow. So if they think the little one acted out in a way that requires parental adjustments, it's probably something... surprising. And that's not the word mothers and fathers like to hear. Continue scrolling and check out some of the cringiest notes teachers have written to poor mothers and fathers.
Experts say it's not unusual for kids to behave differently in different settings. After all, you'd expect a child to act one way at a friend's birthday party and another when visiting the grandparents. But the behavior of some kids — especially those with issues such as anxiety, learning disabilities, ADHD, and autism — can vary much more markedly, especially when they're at home versus school. This discrepancy can leave parents puzzled, if not upset, and worried that they're making huge mistakes.
Violet's (My Cousin's Daughter) Drawing On The Right, Teachers Note On The Left
Some kids may meet expectations at school, but if it's a struggle for them, it can take its toll at home. Children with ADHD, anxiety, autism, and learning disabilities "may be using a lot of their resources to follow directions or cope in the classroom," Stephanie Lee, PsyD, a clinical psychologist at the Child Mind Institute, said. Once all these kids get home, "it's challenging for them to conjure up the same amount of resources to manage."
She also added that many kids, in fact, benefit from the consistency, structure, predictability, and routine that come with their school environment. This often cannot be repeated at home "because that's not how life works."
But for most kids, academic and social demands at school are beyond what they typically face at home, Dr. Lee pointed out. That may trigger problem behaviors they don't exhibit at home.
For example, children with social anxiety who worry about how they're being perceived by others, or children who have anxieties relating to performance, might have fewer problem behaviors at home but when they get to school and have to do math or read a passage aloud, they might engage in some negative behaviors to avoid that. “Acting out in this particular situation might end up being functional for them," Dr. Lee said, "because if they act a little silly, the teacher might scold them, but then they move on."
"During Math Today Max Was Having A Hard Time Following Along. When I Asked Him Why He Wasn’t Doing His Work, Max Responded, ‘Well, I’m Just Too Good Looking!’”
"Amara Has A Worm In Her Pocket. She Did Not Want To Throw It Away. I Just Wanted To Give You A Heads Up"
“[Your Kid] And A Few Of His Friends Often Make Up Characters, Give Them Amusing Names, And Then Have Exciting Adventures At Playtimes. This In Itself Is An Imaginative And Creative Pastime … However, It Has Come To Our Attention That One Of The Characters Has The Name 'Wildo The Dildo'”
The Ultimate Juxtaposition Of Naughty And Nice Came Home In Allie’s Folder Today
Picked Up My Toddler From School And Was Handed This Note. I'm Scared To Look
Got Detention While Playing School With Our Youngest. Figures
Let This Be A Lesson For Everyone, Never Under Any Circumstance Let Your Friends Smell Your Chapstick
On This Day, Two Years Ago, I Found Out My Son Liked Big Butts
“Another Student Took Her Pencil And She Referred To Him As A ‘Hanzo Main.’ I Have No Idea What That Means, However, It Was Clearly Meant As An Insult”
A Note From The Teacher That Came Home With The Kid Today
“Kimmy Was Very Proud Of Her Poem … But We’re Going To Try Another One Next Week Without The Potty Language”
“When I Was Reading To The Class, Tanner Removed His Shoe And Sock And Began Playing With Something. It Was A Dead Lizard. I Removed The Sock — It Smelled Of Dead Things”
This Little Note Was In X's Folder When He Got Home... Sneaky Sneaky
My Friend Found A Note Given To His Parents From His First Grade Teacher
"Raeya Used The Child Safe Scissors To Cut Her Hair Today. A Teacher Stopped Her After One Snip"
"During Math Aiden Told Another Student He Drew A Boy With A Penis, Pooping... I Explained That We Don't Need To Talk About Penises And Pooping During Math"
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