“She Was In Her 50s When I Was 14”: 50 True Stories Of Women Giving Men The Creeps
Imagine going on a first date and being asked whether you have life insurance. Or having your phone hacked by a partner. What about being filmed without consent? Unsettling much...
We've seen our fair share of stories about men behaving badly. And sending women running for the hills, completely freaked out by their creepy behavior. But that's not what this is about.
Every now and again, the tables turn. And women prove that they too have a scary side that might be fit for a horror movie. Someone asked, "Guys, what’s the creepiest thing a girl said or done to you?" and men did not hold back. Many of the answers read like a script for Baby Reindeer Part 2.
Bored Panda has put together a compilation of the best of the worst ways women have managed to give men the creeps. So buckle up and keep scrolling. But be warned: you might look at the girl next door in a whole new light after reading these deeply disturbing tales.
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I have a female coworker who kept following me around and not respecting my boundaries. She once came into the men's washroom while I was on the toilet and didn't leave even after I asked her to. I went to HR to have her held accountable for harassment but they said she apologized, so it was ok. I still have to work with her.
Side note I asked HR what would happen if the roles were reversed, and they said I would be fired, and most likely, the police would be involved. Love the double standards.
You should have said "Good idea, I'll call the cops now" I d**n well would have.
Creepy doesn't have a gender. It can come packaged as a man or woman. And it sometimes arrives very much disguised.
When people say someone is "creepy," they're often talking about how that person made them feel. Sometimes it's because their personal space was violated, their boundaries were pushed, they were left feeling unsafe, anxious or simply uncomfortable.
"The term ‘creepy’ doesn’t simply describe social awkwardness, nor is it solely about a person’s appearance or behavior," says psychotherapist and author Duygu Balan.
The expert adds that when someone undermines trust, safety, or autonomy, they can come across as threatening. And leave those around them feeling uneasy and intimidated.
Cut off all of her pubes. Put them in between layers of scotch tape. Crammed them in an envelope with a pair of her used panties and put the envelope under my windshield wiper.
There was a note. Read something like, "I know we can't be together, but now you'll always remember me."
She was right.
"You have one year to decide if you're going to marry me."
First date - Dinner had just been ordered.
My response:
"I'm still trying to decide on a second date...".
There are the desperate and the expectations all in one.
That's not exactly what you'd be saying, but it's kinda funny.
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But Balan says there are some red flags that signal you're dealing with a creep - whether they're male or female...
The first is when they don’t respect your personal space. "They invade your space by failing to maintain an appropriate distance and moving closer even when you step away," the expert explains. "They touch you without permission, ignoring clear cues of discomfort, such as pulling your hand away."
Filmed me without my consent the first time we fooled around.
I trust you stopped whatever you were doing and pushed her away and never saw her again....or were you slightly intrigued and excited anyway?
I’ve told this before.
Little after I turned 21 I was at the bar with some friends. Shooting pool enjoying a beer. This group of rough looking 45+yr women come in. They slowly make their way over to the same side of the bar. We keep minding our business having fun. I’m standing at the end of the table. When I feel a hand slide down the back of my pants and boxers and grab my bum. Then she screeched out loud. Boy your momma raised you right. Then walks back to her friends all proud. The bartender kicked them out shortly after. My buddies were cool. They don’t give me tease about it. We were all just like what. I’ve never groped some random person like that. I’m sorry to all the women who get groped like that. It completely catches you off guard. It’s meant to be a compliment. But just makes you feel used and revolting.
Just for reference. A compliment is something like "You have a wonderful smile," or "wow, you make that outfit look really good." A compliment is NOT grabbing someone without permission.
I’d have thrown my drink in her face! Don’t touch people without permission! Full stop!!
That has never, ever been a compliment. "It's a compliment" is just an excuse many people have used to get away with SA.
There's a guy that had to learn exactly how a woman feels when that kind of thing happens first hand, unfortunately. Hope he expresses it to his guy friends and they can be made aware also. Guys that say how lucky he was or think that it was a complement are beyond help. Men, do better. Women, same.
That's not a compliment, that is a$sault. I would have called the cops on her.
A life experience not forgotten, whatever the motives, if any...they sound like trouble and enjoy shocking people.
No, it is NOT meant to be a compliment. It's a power move. Don't touch people you don't know, ffs. This is not difficult.
Just started dating, showed her a pic of my son, she then asked what I was going to do with him once we Had kids. Ghosted.
I dated a guy that purposely got me pregnant, then asked me to get rid of my son from previous relationship. I choose to believe he meant give him to my mother, and not kîll him, but he left it quite ambiguous. Instead, I got rid of him. And with all the stress, I lost the baby he desperately wanted. But since I had an 18 month old, and the guy was nuts, it was probably for the best... Edit: a comma
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Response: Oh, he's gonna be a part of my life long after I've figured out what to do with you, and spoiler, that won't take long and it DOESN'T involve having kids...!!!
Another warning sign is when someone struggles to maintain appropriate eye contact.
When dating coach Blaine Anderson conducted a survey of 2,000 women, 51% of all women and 55% of single women said they'd experienced creepy staring in the past 12 months. So what is "creepy staring" anyway?
Balan says creepy people will either gaze into your eyes intensely, or look away when you look at them. They might stare at you when you are looking away, leaving you with an unsettling feeling in the pit of your stomach. In short, their gaze makes you uneasy, anxious, uncomfortable or on edge. It might even scare you.
Which brings us to another red flag: they don't seem to care how they make you feel. More on that further down.
First date, asked if I had life insurance.
this reminds me of a funny meme i saw where a dude says my wife just changed her relationship status to widowed should I be worried
Told me that she wished she could die like my fiance did so that I would love her...we had never been a couple.
A girl I dated drunkenly admitted at a party years later that she used to stalk me. She would follow me around everywhere I went and would climb the backyard fence and watch me watch tv at night.
At least you were ignorant (possibly both very young) of her stalking, and she didn't move on you any further!
"They don’t respond to your cues of discomfort and disregard your attempts to change the topic, insisting on steering the conversation back to their own agenda," says Balan. "They give overly exaggerated compliments, putting you on the spot and disregarding or simply not caring how their comments land on you."
Creepy people exploit basic social niceties, Balan adds. They love taking advantage of politeness or courtesy... but it often feels manipulative or insincere.
After doing stuff she told me I looked and reminded her of her dad.
After doing stuff she told me, I looked and reminded her of her dad.
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Met a girl at a bar and we ended up back at her place. We fell asleep. She seemed normal all night, and I saw no red flags at all. I definitely would have dated her again, until she went crazy.
I woke up around 5am and started getting dressed to leave. I had to get home and get ready for work.
She woke up while I was dressing and totally freaked out. She was screaming, angrily "YOU CAN'T LEAVE!!" I explained I needed to go to work, and that I'd call her later. She was having none of that.
Then she attacked. I literally had to physically fight my way out of her apartment, with a few scratches on my arm for souvenirs.
I have no idea what her deal was, and I never went back to the bar I met her in.
Wowza. This sounds like a significant mental health problem, possibly borderline personality disorder. Hope the girl got help and absolutely not OP's problem to fix (but OP might want to factor in the risks of hooking up with a stranger he met in a bar...eeek).
I have border, and no, that's crazy. Too psihotic... don't think it can be that bad! Crazy, I would die from fear!!
Load More Replies...Right move....she may have been waiting for someone to arrive and for whatever reasons blackmail you...I have a colourful mind, sorry.
"You're really expensive to stalk" -- As I delivered pizza to their apartment :/.
I seriously hope that's a joke... Otherwise, suuuuuuuuuurrrrrreeeee, that'll be $18.33. Restraining order on the house... -_-"
Many creeps are also unable to follow the basic rules of having a conversation with another person. They might interrupt frequently, not care about anyone else’s opinions, or dominate conversations.
Their tone of voice is also "off," says Balan. They're either speaking too loudly or too softly. And they love making inappropriate jokes, or bizarre, passive-aggressive comments. They're basically a not very nice to talk to.
The psychotherapist believes this is because many creepy people lack social skills. "They appear unusually isolated, with no significant social circle or family. They appear socially awkward and lack basic personal skills such as being overly friendly or rude to service staff or others in the community," she explains.
A week after I broke up with her, and blocking her everywhere I could, she got a burn phone app and pretended to be a women’s health care company to text me to let me know that she was “pregnant”.
Nothing new, a common thing, for centuries, a woman claiming she is pregnant in any way she can( who has been intimate with you) with a grudge at the man leaving her.
Took advantage of me when I was blacked out.
Let's call it what it is....r-ape. And it doesn't matter if it's guy on girl, girl on guy, 2 guys or 2 girls. Forcing any kind of s*x on somebody who cannot give consent is r-ape.
There is a high percentage of my guy friends who've been incapacitated and taken advantage of. Somw by men, some by women. They tell me because I'm honest about past experiences and have no intentions. R**e is r**e. Just because you have an erection, it doesn't mean you want s*x.
I was probably nine. It was after church service and there's this new lady there who took a liking to me. She was the new wife of the minister. We were outside waiting for the grown-ups to come out (I think they were having a meeting inside) and this new lady took me to a bench nearby. We sat, asked me lots of questions, then she put my head on her lap, stroke my hair while humming a lullaby like I'm a baby.
It felt really uncomfortable and I really wanted to "escape" but I was a shy little boy and didn't want to offend her or something. Saw my sister from afar snickering at us. It went on for like 30 minutes but felt like hours, I was dying with cringe inside.
When I was 13, my best friend’s Mom was behaving like this to me a lot. Stroke my hair, kissed me on the cheeks all the time, put my head in her lap, bought me presents. Her son started hating me because his Mom would literally spend more time with me than with him. My Mom eventually told her to stop contacting me.
Had some strange responses? At 9, I guess you were not sure what to do or if it to go on? Maybe she lost a son.
According to Balan, people who can't respect boundaries tend to bring up taboo subjects and/or use provocative language.
"Their behavior may seem as though they take pleasure in making you uncomfortable," writes the expert. "At times they give the impression that if they can’t get positive attention, they’ll settle for negative attention – even rejection – by deliberately pushing your boundaries."
Literally hacked into my phone and spied on me .
I used to sell cherries at the market with my foster mother at the time, which of course led to a lot of cherry popping jokes from other kids my age. I was about 13. A woman came up and started asking about what kind of tools to use when cooking and I told her what we use for making jams and pies, and then she did the typical "so can I pop your cherry sometime?"
I know it was a joke, but she would have been late 20s to early 30s, and I was very obviously a kid. It's not as bad as some of the other stuff I've seen in the comments (and my sympathy for all the men in this thread who have been assaulted or harassed, hope you guys are doing okay), but it's the creepiest thing I've ever gotten from a woman. Most of the time I get creepy stuff from other guys to be honest.
Stop demeaning your own experiences. Trauma is trauma. Demeaning my own experience only meant that I was 40 before I could acknowledge my childhood trauma because it "didn't look like" trauma.
...great advice !!, sure hope all is good with you, child of the 🌟 🤩.....
Load More Replies...What s***o would say that to a kid? I was a late bloomer and probably wouldn't have understood that at 13.
Expected jokes..I can understand your embarrassment, hoping she was not around the corner, ready to jump on you
“I’m going to have my IUD removed without telling you.”.
I hope you are telling her that you are removing her from your life...
She wanted to be a mother after waiting so long for you to agree or ..???
A girlfriend once told me how much you have to trust someone to sleep next to them, because it would be so easy to suffocate someone in that position.
Thanks to my neurodivergent brain and odd sense of humour, this would be my attempt at flirting.
My son-in-law told me that he walked into the room to see my daughter sat watching a programme about women who kílled their husbands, and she was also writing in a notepad. He panicked for a second because he thought she was taking notes. Turned out she was just writing a shopping list.
Axe. Tarps. Rubber gloves. Rubber apron. Goggles. Acid. Acid resistant plastic tubs.
Load More Replies...She's wrong. Most people don't even think about how easily you could suffocate them.
Unsettling, but a fair observation. Maybe she was into True Crime, or studying criminal justice?
That shouldn't be thought of as creepy, but as obvious. Every woman has to be at least as concerned with intimate partner violence as they are about being attacked outside the house. If I was with a woman who hadn't even thought about how vulnerable she was asleep next to someone, I'd think she was irresponsible.
Did you sleep with her after that? I think people say things as they come to their mind, with no ill intent..just fancy
Oh goodness. I am that person. I've told my fiancé multiple times how sweet it is that we sleep next to eachother, because it would be so easy for me to k**l him. I appreciate that he trusts me enough to sleep next to me, and that's the most honest way of expressing it. He finds it it odd, I consider it love. Never in a million years would I hurt him, but the thought of how to get away with it is a nice way to pass insomnia.
"What a coincidence we both ended up on this training course"
When my ex showed up at a training course completely unrelated to her employment in another state which I was attending.
Ineresting. Wonder if her employer knows they're paying for that course? Wonder if the course instructor is aware that there is no reason for her being there other than stalking him? Wonder if the police and a lawyer should be notified of this interesting coincidence.
Girl i had seen for 2 dates had her best friend SMS me anonymously claiming we met in a bar the night before & offering to come over to my place. I rarely went to bars as I worked night shift at the time so I knew i hadn't met anyone at a bar.
Eventually after probing and pushing, I got the girl to confess.
She said she was just 'testing' to make sure i was trustworthy. Didn't see her again.
I hate when I read about someone "testing" someone's loyalty, etc. If they feel the need for a test, they shouldn't be in the relationship.
For those that think these "test" are a way to see relationship loyalty, I hope you are happy when you finally get dumped for testing the patience of the one who could have been loyal forever... -_-"
I got roofied by a girl while in the army. She lived in the same barracks and asked me over to watch a movie with her bc she was lonely. I agreed, and when I got there she already had a drink prepared for me sitting by her sink. I thought that was weird especially since she wasn't drinking, but I was under drinking age at the time so I grabbed it anyways. It was a screwdriver and didn't taste particularly strong. She put on The Jerk with Steve Martin and I took maybe 2 sips and set it down. That's all I remember and I woke up the next morning on her bed with my pants and belt undone with her meticulously cleaning her room in a t-shirt and panties. Managed to stumble back to my room and passed out hard until 6pm that evening. It took me like 3 days to feel physically fine again.
Are you sure it was a woman in the Army? Women in the services are known to be a****d and s****************d by such big, brave men.
Oh, how could we overlook that this is proof that every woman is innocent. Thanks for educating us. Thanks for making us realize how wrong we were in assuming that being guilty or innocent is an issue tied to an individual, not a gender. But, as I'm a german, may I even participate in such debates? You know, I'm so guilty by my - no, our! - ancestors' doings, that I may have a truly warped perception of innocence and guiltiety, ...
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Me, when she was in her 50s, when I was 14.
wow bp. excellent job protecting us from the word p-e-d-o-p-h-l-i-a. i'm sure that it helps.
Load More Replies...An awkward age. Especially if it was someone as old as his grandmother..
Hey, I was just a skinny lad. Never knew no good from bad. But I knew life before I left my nursery, huh Left alone with big fat Fänny. She was such a naughty nanny. Hey, big woman. You made a bad boy out of me. Edit: Yeah, it's inappropriate, but can you downvote Queen? Moral dilemma. I'm /JK of course.
In rage, in the middle of the argument she took my fish out of the aquarium and threatened to step on it.
I saved the little guy. It was a beta if you want to know.
Would you please give a little warning before posting a comment where I spit coffee all over my iPad?
Load More Replies...Poor little thing! That's my ''beserk button'': hurting/attempting to hurt/mentioning hurting my animals.
Do that to my pet and you'll be lucky to not sleep with the fishes!!! >:-(
I would have asked her not to take her rage out on a little innocent fish, and then wanted to 'k**l her for being so cruel.. Glad little Beta survived, and you are now not talking to the girl, not the little fish.
Would have grabbed her by the throat and put her through the f*****g wall.
Yeah no. turning an argument into a charge for DV not a good idea.
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Probably not as exciting as most here, but still super weird.
I was staying at my friend's house, sleeping in his guest room. Friend is at work, his girlfriend is at home. One thing about this room is that it has a very heavy door that has to be held open by something super heavy or else it slams shut.
Well I sleep with the door closed.
I wake up in the morning and as I do every morning, I laid there for a bit longer before actually getting out of bed. Well this time all of a sudden I see the door open. The light is still off but the hallway light being on means I can see if someone's standing in the doorway. I have my eyes kind of open and I can see that she's just standing there in the doorway, staring at me. I didn't move. I wanted to see what would happen because this was thoroughly freaking me out.
She just stood there. For at least 10 minutes. Didn't look away, didn't walk around the room. I was laying at a weird angle where I could see her perfectly, she could see me, but she couldn't see that my eyes were half open. I thought she may have been in there to grab something because there's a bunch of stuff in the closet, clothes and such. Nope.
10 minutes I waited for her to do something or to walk out. Finally I flinched and feigned waking up and I heard her run out and the door SLAM.
I got up, went into the kitchen and she was as bubbly as could be, acting like nothing happened. Acting like she didn't just spend 10 minutes watching me sleep.
Ten minutes, did you have the clock in your view too, with those pretences to be asleep with half-closed eyes? Why not just say Hi as you lie still, and she could have bolted but 'sprung' staring, maybe not! She had intentions, or she wanted to tell you something.
“Discreetly” recorded me at the gym while I was working out.
If this happens to any man or woman, the recording party should meet with the police so the recordings can be deleted, and then barred from the gym. If they ever join a different gym that the aggrieved party is a member of, they should be refused admittance there also based on their violation of personal privacy.
I reckon there are more secret mobile phones recording females doing 'their thing' at gyms than any other place.
I met this girl when I was out one night. She was nice, seemed normal. Went to her house and there was pictures of me around her mirror.
Begged me to go to her house which was 350 miles away while she was on her period because she couldn't take the pain. Note, we'd only been talking for 2 days at that point, and I ended things on day 6 because she was an absolute train wreck.
As someone with endo, I do not find this creepy so much as sad that she did not have a support system closer by.
Sad, but still creepy to expect anyone you've known for two days to be a support system of any kind.
Load More Replies...er women do NOT ask a new beau, potential or otherwise, to travel to see her as she has a strong period pain. That is a time a girl needs to be alone !!
No. No. No. If a woman needs medical treatment, then she should reach out for help.
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My ex was bisexual and at a party she tried making moves on my younger sister (who was only 15 at the time, ex was 17) and touching her without permission. I got angry and told her to stop, and so the party ended soon after that.
A week later not only did she not apologise, she tried to organise a meetup involving both me and my sister along with a few friends, so I told her I don't want her near me or my sister again. This made her so angry she called me on the phone and told me she had a knife and if I keep acting this way she'll use it, she also said she was on the way to my house right now. I was freaking out at this point, but I was hoping she was just bluffing, however sure enough 20 minutes later she arrived right outside my door. I texted her saying I wasn't going to let her in, but she kept ringing the doorbell constantly, I texted her again and again to go away before eventually saying after a few minutes that I would call the cops if she didn't leave right now, this finally got her to leave.
Luckily, I haven't seen her since.
You are lucky to have missed a rage accident. Credos for protecting your 15-year-old sister, almost the same age as your GF, who may have known as much as you.
Well I was at a party when this girl that I went to university with (and I only treated as a classmate) tried to choke me into telling her the name of the girl that I was seeing so that she could in her words "help" me, and only let go when she threw up on herself. That was pretty traumatic and creepy, 0/10 would not do again.
I hope OP got that girl the "help" she needed, via attempted a*s*s*a*u*l*t charges... -_-"
Crazy to me...drunks do all manner of things they wouldn't even dare think of when sober
My local vet is a middle aged woman. She always seemed really caring and lovely. Never had a problem with her but then she started texting me late at night asking me to get coffee with her. She said I reminded her of her sons who lived far away. I blocked her number when she offered me money. I got a super creepy vibe from the wording she used.
The night I blocked her my power went out unexpectedly at about midnight. For a moment I was absolutely terrified that she had cut my power and was about to come in but it turned out the whole neighbourhood had gone dark.
Sad, she was so overworked that no one would keep her company. I can see why you freaked out, and good you did, as she obviously had intentions. Vets have difficult lives as people expect them to work miracles (and never want to pay much either, despite the expenses of running a medical and surgical clinic)on loved pets, yet a high incidence of s*****e is found to be among vets who also suffer the grief of what they do as well.
She had only worked at the pub for a month. We barely knew each other. I worked in the dish pit and on the line, she worked as a server. She frequently commented on how I looked, how hard I worked, and how healthy I was.
One day, she came up to me and said: "Hey, I bought two tickets to cancun for a week, but my friend said that they are suddenly unable to make it! Do you want to take a break from this place and go on a vacation?"
I told her I'd think about it. The other cooks on the line said she was either into me OR (more likely) she was going to harvest my organs on the vacation.
I didn't go on the vacation with her, and she disappeared from the pub soon afterwards.
I mean, if she's going to harvest your organs, she's into you. Or will be. Wrist deep.
Well if she's into him, she would be interested in harvesting his organ. I'm sorry, I'll see myself out now.
Load More Replies...Cancun could have been fun, you never know! Those cooks were mean and ribbing you. Use your gut feelings..they tell the truth!!
Went through my phone and contacted some of my past girlfriends. Then was interrogating me about them catching me in differences from what I was saying and what she was told. Not trying to hide anything it was more of the fact of her actually sinking in my phone and then actually contacting these people she's never met and asking questions about me and them. First off I find that to be embarrassing. Second, who the heck does that especially the people they don't know and someone they're in a relationship with and still trying to impress.
er...who keeps the numbers of all their exes on their phone anyhow ?.. She needs to move on and you delete hers.
Who are you - the relationship police or the grammar police?
Load More Replies...Some adults are able to remain friends with their exes. Some of mine ended up being closer with my current then they are with me! Apparently I don't have enough tools to borrow? Lol. Seriously though, I was very close to my SO's ex until she passed tragically.
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Had a gf that used to say this about twice a month... "oooh i love your eyes so much, sometimes i just want to scoop them out with a spoon and put them in a jar".
Did you hand her a spoon? That is sort of cute. Just creepy when you think about it.
Saw a chick for about 4-5 months. Seemed cool at the beginning. I called it off as I was moving interstate for work. She told me a week later she was pregnant and needed money for appointments and dragged this on for like 3 months. I was freaking out.
She worked with my best mate who called the nonsense. He kicked the door of the female toilet in while she was in there and made her take a test there and then. It was all a lie.
I love that man. Absolute balls of steel.
Backstory: years ago when me and that mate lived together, he was poor on Austudy and I used to pay for his smokes and booze to enjoy his early years. Best investment ever.
Hang on a minute, I can’t side with the OP on this. Firstly he calls her a ‘chick’ are we in the 1950’s? And nobody, NOBODY should ever kick a door down in a female toilet regardless of how unhinged the woman might be. What if other women had been in there? She was after his money and he sound like a proper c**t. Deserved each other.
Chick is still quite a common word, not necessarily a derogatory term, depending on language and cultural background (this was apparently in Australia, so I don't know exactly how it's seen there). Yeah, I'm hoping they were exaggerating about the toilet door bit.
Load More Replies...I don't get this whole thing about about a woman threatening pregnancy and men running scared. If they had s*x, she either is or isn't pregnant; it's either by him or not by him. If you wrap the rascal, there's a large chance it's not real, but if you didn't take precautions, you're and idiot, and start worrying. If she's pretending, call her out on it. Tell her you expect her to provide doctor's confirmation along with permission for you to contact said doctor to discuss the veracity of the pregnancy. At that time, you can let him know that, although you don't believe you are the father, if you were, that you have no objections to her terminating the pregnancy. If that doesn't scare her off, tell her to contact a lawyer in 9 months with a DNA test and at that point you'll take one, too. Until then, no contact or you'll file for stalking and harassment. Be serious. She'll go away. Or, if it turns out it's yours, pay your child support like a man.
What would she achieve if she were pregnant? You run back to her, where she conveniently had a miscarriage? That was brave and a bit scary of your friend to corner her in the ladies' room, though. He would have been in trouble if caught or she had yelled and screamed.
"Sometimes I fart thinking about you"
What.
After the Home Depot guy helped me load a toilet, I said, "I'll think of you while I'm using it!"
what indeed. i would never speak to someone again if they said that to me.
A novel impolite polite way to say "I really detest you"?
So, if you have to see a doctor about a farting issue... Nevermind, I don't think I want to know...
I met a woman through a dating site (this was just before dating apps). After talking/texting for a few days she added me on facebook. The next day I see she has also added my mother and siblings as well. Not only that she messaged them and introduced herself as my girlfriend. We all blocked her on everything. Then for a time I would get friend requests from extremely hot women with no friends, until I modified my privacy settings so randoms couldn't friend request me.
When i was about 16 my sister had friends over for sleepovers often. One day one of her regular sleepover friends went into my room while i was playing video games and said i was cuter when i was asleep then left the room. I was so confused then I thought about it and realized something. I sleep with my door closed but I didn’t feel the need to lock it, i did ever since.
If one of my friends had done that to my little brother, 1) I would have kicked her a*s, and 2) we wouldn't have been friends anymore.
Aw, she was having a sneaky peek. She was only 16 and possibly ribbing you!!
No, OP was 16. We don't know how old his sister and her friends were. They could easily have been adults. And even if not, that's in no way acceptable!
Load More Replies...My ex wanted to lick my eye, like literally my eye ball. I let her, and it was very weird. Did not repeat.
Ewww, that is seriously unsanitary. Eye infections are no joke. Same for inside the ear.
I think this may not be too uncommon, quirky ask, and those that do might get an eye infection or the other a, mouthful of lashes..
My one and only Tinder date.
Turned out she had signed her divorce papers that day.
On the date she layed out her 1-year plan for us to date and get married.
Let her know I wasn't interested in a second date.
She thanked me for my opinion and declined not having a second date.
Very luckily I hadn't been able to meet her at my house at the start of the date like she'd suggested and we had to meet someplace neutral. I don't like to think what would have happened if she'd known where I lived.
Considering that I'm not attractive or rich or otherwise someone women are usually interested in this was a very wierd situation. It was just a "Hi, I don't know anything about you, but we're going to be married by the end of the year. No, your opinion isn't relevant.".
On a first date with a coworker-at-the-time:
"By the way, you can't break up with me without my permission. I have power of attorney.".
Response: And I'm overriding the POA as of right now on the grounds of you NOT being mentally sound. BYE!!! -_-"
My ex kept making new phone numbers to try talking to me after I blocked her on everything then proceeded to try ruining my new relationship even though she was the one that cheated.
Must have cost her a bit to play that silly game! Hope she is very much in the past now.
An ex I never really wanted to be with told me that she went to a witch doctor or something and casted a spell to get me to date her.
oooh-eee-oooh-eee-aaaah-ting-tang-wallawalla-bing-bang-oooh-eee-oooh-eee-aaah-ting-tang-wallawalla-bang-bang
I'd like to have such a face-saving excuse for my involvement with most of my exes.
Went on a date with this chick we had dinner and chatted. we were taking separate cars to our next activity and She pulled over on the way to whatever it was into a cemetery. I hopped out and walked up to her car to find out what was up. She said, “I LOVE cemeteries!!! Can we go look around?”
I was a little weirded out, but she was smokin hot, and I had me LCP in my pocket, so I said sure.
We started walking around and she got really close. She asked if I was familiar with this cemetery and I told her my father was buried there. She responded “Oh my , let’s go see him!”
I was way weirded out, but at this point I was super curious where this was going to go.
We walked up to his tombstone and stood there for what felt like a really long time. She held me tightly and started running her hands down my back.
She then pivoted sideways and took some selfies of us and the gravestone.
It felt like someone was about to knock me out and harvest my organs or something so I started saying “look at the time. Sheesh. It’s been fun but I gotta work in the am.”
I walked back to my car and quickly drove home and just sat in the driveway just processing the weirdness of the evening.
She was a sweet, but quirky woman that had a curly haired Morticia Adam’s vibe going on.
She sent me an acapella song of her singing about me being painted into her dreams.
The next day I saw that she posted the pictures that she took of the grave on social media saying we went to visit someone special last night.
I cannot explain how that made me feel, it was a combination of nauseous and violated. I called her and asked her to take them down. She meant it as a sweet gesture but it tooooootallly weirded me out. She said she didn’t think that I minded her taking my picture. I didn’t until I saw it and got super weirded out.
That was such a weird night on so many levels.
Edit: PS I was recently divorced and this was one of my first dates in my 40s after being married for almost 20 years.
I don’t think this is super creepy. Super weird but not super creepy . Carrying a gun on a first date, or in most circumstances is pretty creepy.
Living in Australia, carrying any gun, if not a rifle for farming country use, would have terrified me!
Load More Replies...Who am I supposed to identify with in this scenario: the person who finds cemeteries interesting beyond places where we dump our loved ones and forget about them, or the person who includes deadly weapons along with a comb and nail clippers in their everyday carry?
Being from a European country with very strict gun control, it indeed feels incredibly creepy to imagine a man getting ready for a date and sticking a gun into his pocket. Then again, it might just be a cultural difference.
Load More Replies...Well...she sounds quirky, a little unhinged but with a big heart. And obviously too much for you to handle. Your loss.
I found a hand gun of that name, so I'm guessing this is America, but really , is it that normal there to carry a gun in your pocket when going on a first date?
Load More Replies...I have always been curious about looking through cemeteries, especially the older ones; they are so interesting. Although one night in my youth, as we were walking a while after a meal, I mentioned to my date that this cemetery has been closed for decades, but I have an uncle who died as a baby ( accident), buried somewhere here. Let's see if we can find him? The gates were closed, not locked and a bit squeaky. I think it was banned from public entry, but he more or less agreed, to please me, I reckon, as it was lit reasonably well by street lights and vehicles on the busy road outside and a small cemetery. The winds rustled through the palms as I looked for baby David's grave I never found. I turned around to say something to him, only to see his back, racing at breakneck speed down the path to the entrance. I laughed and laughed. He still asked me out several times later ( no more cemeteries), but he was not the man for me. This was 60 years ago."I still laugh at the memory of how terrified he really was, but trying to be brave to impress me. Not all readers here on Bored Panda are young..ish
Maybe if they knew each other better and had been on several dates . . . But this reads as if it was their first and only date? In that case, nope, it’s creepy. And I get why he felt violated.
"I could ruin your life" after I said I didn't think we would work as a couple.
I had only known her for like 3 weeks...
"I'm sure you'd ruin my life. That's why I don't think we'd work a a couple."
I hope you believed her, as that is not a thing one says when flirting for the future.
If it is in written, OP could very much ruin her life instead by involving the authorities under the guise of a potential threat... -_-"
Chronologically:
I was breaking up with this girl and she brought up my ex and started comparing the way I had broken up with both. I had never told her any of it, so I was shocked/scared. When I expressed my surprise, she told me she had researched me before we even had our first kiss (we had flirted for a couple of days, before we first kissed).
Slapping me inside the bus, in front of our classmates, when I said "hi" to her (we were both first year students in college, same major).
Tailing the bus I was in, to find out where I lived at the time.
Calling me around 3am to tell in me in detail the things she had been doing with her recently-back-together boyfriend.
Calling me around 3am to tell me that if we had stayed together we could have raised oystriches in the future, because she had just learned that was a good business, and not explored in our country.
Btw, it is the same girl in all these episodes.
Now you know where they get their plots for scary movies.. the people do exist!! Although raising ostriches is an interesting prospect.
raising ostriches sounds kinda fun tho, if you do it with the right person
Was in a bar. I was about 20 at the time with my girlfriend. I was ordering us drinks and a drunk woman in 40s came up to me, started calling me Juan, didn’t believe me when I told her that wasn’t my name. She then stuck her finger up my nose.
You can pick your friends. You can pick your nose. But you can't pick your friend's nose.
Load More Replies...Response: HAAAAAAAAHHHH-CHHHHOOOOOOOOOO on her hand. Hey, you're the one that got my sinus worked up -_- XP
"we're gonna get married aren't we?"
second date, no alcohol involved.
"Like when?" I would have asked her back..." in the never never years time?"
I (guy) was invited to a girls place after school. She was alone at home and she went to take a shower. She came out the shower with only a towel and sat in the living room couch across me. I noped out there like a bat out of hell. We were only 11 then....
If she was 11, she possibly did not realize there was anything strange about that. She possibly did that every time she took a shower.
And it's not weird to take a shower in the middle of the day while you have people over?
Load More Replies...Rather forward child at 11...they do exist. As do children who have been molested and know no different how to please a male.
One time this is the lady I met on the interstate told me that I smelled fast like a rocket ship.
I had an ex who lied about being pregnant and after we broke up used to text me like almost every day with paragraphs of insults. She was nice.
This happened to me fairly recently.
There was this girl, we'll call her Cherry, I was in a dance class with. Very attractive, lots of tattoos, incredibly flirty, but she had a boyfriend so I brushed it off.
Well the story starts when I broke her boyfriend's ribs (by accident). She starts texting me later saying she thought it was super hot (should've been the first clue). We start texting back and forth, it's getting more aggressive. Then I find out they're in an open relationship and she has permission from her boyfriend to do whatever with me. Weird, but being a 20-something guy I'm okay with it.
So we're fooling around for a few weeks and it starts becoming clear that something weird is going on. I came home a few times to find Cherry and her boyfriend drunk on my porch writing me weird love notes.
Then one night she's trying to get me to go to her boyfriend's birthday party. I had other plans so I just said no but she was being very persistent. I go do my thing, ignore her texts, go home and pass out around 1am.
I wake up around 5am and there's someone standing at the foot of my bed. I can see the outline of fairy wings. At first I think I'm hallucinating but then the figure moves a little. Obviously it's Cherry. She had decided to come see why I had stopped responding and climbed up into my second story bathroom window. w*f possesses someone to do that?!?
I escorted her out of the house, double and triple checked that every door and window was locked, and never talked to her again. Luckily I also moved halfway across the country later that week.
TL;DR: crazy fairy girl with boyfriend climbs into my second story bathroom window at 5am to find out why I stopped responding to texts.
My ex wife who was a registered nurse, and manipulated my prescriptions. She changed the dosage, and called the prescription to walgreens as though she were my physician. The dea investigated, and all they could find out was that it was a woman's voice who called in the prescription. I got very sick from it, and when I realized what was happening I left, and asked for a divorce. Her attorney placed a restraining order on the $250,000 life insurance policy I had with her as beneficiary, and I was forced to pay the premiums until the divorce was final. That was 10 years ago. I will never remarry, or even be in a relationship.
I would have followed up with the state licensing board and every other available path to get her license revoked.
That is scary, so sorry she spoiled you for a safe and caring relationship. We all need to be sure of the type of people we attract, and if this is not going too well, change your own perspectives a little until the right one is in front of you. Ensure every legal matter is up to date and clarified. So sad to read this.
Woman I was engaged to was doing all the prep for the wedding, this was in her country and I didn't understand the language all that well so I was a bit limited on how much I could help her out other than helping to cut the invite cards out etc...
She was a very hot tempered person as she was but as much as I asked her what tasks I could help out with she just refused to involve me in anything at all, and then complain that I wasn't helping enough. She argued and argued with me about how I 'didn't care' despite my efforts to be involved in all the prep. It was all very manipulative.
Eventually she actually pulled a knife out at me. I slapped it off her wrist and she stormed off.
When she left for work the next day I packed my bags, took a taxi to the airport and noped out of there.
Wearing my university sport jacket when I went to grab a fast food order. Some woman I've never seen before shouted hi and waved at me like we were best friends. Gave an awkward confused wave back and left with my food. A couple hours later I get a friend request on Facebook from someone I recognized as her. Best guess is she saw my jacket and stalked the sport roster to find my name and added me from that. Got blocked real quick.
Wow, that was quick...and in a way, sneakily clever. Courting today sure is different!!
When I was 17. Eating a slice of pizza in a pizzeria in New York. I was sitting facing the glass looking out to the street. Time was around 7pm. It was getting dark. I'll never forget this 50 something year old lady who was walking on the sidewalk. Saw me eating. Slowed down. Stared straight at me with the most seductive grin and then winked. Then continued on walking. Until that point in my life I had never felt so many emotions at once. I was turned on. Weirded out. Intrigued. Scared. This was is a day I will never forget. She had black hair and was pretty hot.
I had the opposite happen to me recently. I'm in my 60s. My husband and I were seated outside a restaurant. He went inside to get drinks, and I'm just watching people walk by. This tall, cute young man catches my eye and as he passes he turns back and gives me a great smile and a wink. I almost burst out laughing! It actually made my night!
You were seduced! Sometimes so much can be had in mere seconds.
I was at a party and this Puerto Rican girl was getting progressively flirty throughout the night. At one point she leaned over and told me she wanted to bend me over. English was definitely not her first language so I asked if she meant she wanted me to bend HER over.
"I know what I said."
My first gf outside of highschool...we were kissing and suddenly with no context she says something along the lines of "breathe out before you kiss me", I'm like sure why not. I do the thing, she pretends to suck in all my breath and then tells me that she "stole my soul" :(
Still haven't gotten it back to this day.
It will grow back after being harvested like this. Might just take a bit. (ASK your preacher for a check up) By the way: souls taste like Chicken.
"If I was 30 years younger, you were going to bed with me, sugar". I was 17.
In high school a girl hid in the bed of my truck when I left a football game thinking I was going home. I went out to a friends house way out in the country and after an hour she came in and asked for a ride home. I had talked to this girl only a handful of times but apparently she had told people we were dating. We never talked again and then years later when Facebook blew up she sent me a friend request about 2 hours after I created an account and it freaked me out.
My ex said she saw dead people. At a party she said there was a dead man in the house wanting us to get out. She sat on the bathroom floor for 20 minutes staring into nothing. Then she let out a big breath, lowered her head and started crying.. then we left. She was a really nice girl but that particular side of her was creepy.
My sixth sense would probably tell me to always be careful around this ex if our paths ever crossed...
I believe in the paranormal, and in psychic phenomena, but also believe this woman was being an attention seeker. at a party, people tend not to be in THAT headspace to notice these thing. I was at a friends house once, and she's interested in the same things, and I once commented on a non physical cat I saw trotting through the hallway from the door. and she just remarked that she'd not seen the cat before, and we got on with what we were doing. and this is us with a shared interest in such things. we've been on investigations together and everything. but there's a time and a place for it, and a party isn't it. she just wanted people to think she was special.
Some people just want to seen as being "special". I met this woman at a bar who told me she sees dead people, I told her if I want to see dead people I go to a funeral home. Her husband was enthralled with her.
She may really have seen dead people. Did you ever think that? That movie was really inspiring. Then again, there is more to the supernatural sensory skills than perhaps we think.
She told me she loved me after meeting me once. My 17 year old self was scared.
Aw, so cute,(if she was also around 17) she was watching you with loving teenage eyes and then dared to tell you to your face. If older, she may have meant it too!!!
Walking in a street, a girl I knew from school screeched out my name and then went on to attack me and try to scratch my face. No idea why at all.
I wonder if someone could find out for you? That is a somewhat unreasonable response unless you have been gossiping about her?????
Maybe a bit inappropriate, but sounds to me like someone was taken over by the Body Snatchers...
A girl I knew from class got my phone number somehow (I didn't give it to her) and started texting me incessantly. Constantly asked to hang out, no matter the time or day.
Now, though I wasn't particularly fond of her, I didn't want to be rude, so I would make excuses. I once told her that I had lots of family over, so I was too busy to hang out with her.
Ten minutes later I get a text. It was a picture. Of my empty driveway. At my house. She found out where I lived, *drove to my house*, and took a picture to prove that I was lying.
I came outside to tell her that I didn't have time, and that she should go home. She refused to accept that, going so far as to sit in front of my door, not allowing me to go back inside my own home.
I walked around the house, went in a back door, and texted her that I never wanted her to contact me again.
She sat there for about 20 minutes before she left.
I dumped my ex about 9 years ago and she pulled up outside my back door and held the horn down blocking the road for literally 30 minutes straight.
I got in the shower and left via the front door and went to a friends party. She could have been there for hours because she was still going when I left.
I doubt that his neighbors would have tolerated listening to someone's car horn blaring, nonstop for more than 5-10 minutes, without either calling the authorities or trying to get the girl to stop on their own.
I guess the battery was flat before too much longer, and the neighbours checked her out too. Called the cops for noise pollution, perhaps. Stupid act, as you were gone anyhow.
"Maybe there's a picture of you naked on your Drive"
My former boss (f), who is pretty attractive and married said so to me(m), who was an intern at the time.
I don't know if this is creepy per se, sometimes it is, but I've had women get really into the fact that I'm gay and get very visibly just ecstatic at the idea that I'm going to occupy some sort of gay best friend role in their life, these are very often not even women I know well AT ALL. This has fortunately become less common over the years. I really don't care for it.
The "gay bestie" appears to be some weird social f****h for straight women. I'm sure it feels just as objectifying and demeaning to the targets of their obsession as the unwanted attention from someone who's s******y fetishizing you.
Cool, I don't need to wait around for BP to let me know whether or not my comment has forbidden words anymore. They just auto censor when I post.
Load More Replies...I think some heterosexual women think it's cool to befriend a Gay man or men, as if it were a free pass to male understanding. A friend is a friend, not a sexual preference.
At a party, out of nowhere she declared her undying love for me, leaped on me and ate my face (not literally), I pushed her off of me and she smashes her phone into the wall destroying it and goes outside and lays in the middle of the road to get run over by a car.
That is exactly what I said to a co-worker a few years ago when he told a group of us that a young lady he had casually dated a few times announced to him that she was taking him to meet her parents the following weekend, and then she followed that up with "Oh, by the way, you need to shave your beard."
Load More Replies...The most unsettling thing a women has ever done to me? Married me. Some women have no taste.
And tomorrow, or two or three days from now, creepiest-things-men-done-stories from Reddit. BP, you are so predictable sometimes.
Well a lot of people wanted women-bashing posts too, and voila !
Load More Replies...Good cautionary tales... What I learnt many moons ago is that you should ALWAYS meet up for a first date in a public place.
I met my wife on a dating site 20 years ago, and our first date was to a museum. I can highly recommend that - can't get more public than this, plus no real risk of alcohol being involved to cloud any judgement.
Load More Replies...this woman I met at work I liked and could tell she liked me as well. We talked a lot flirted and then she decided to tell me she has always wanted to cut off someone's head I laughed thinking she was kidding but she told me she was very serious. Any attraction instantly disappeared I wasnt gonna be the the person she did that to I stopped speaking to her after that.
You ask the question above, BP, without allowing for a female to comment, so I put yes. I have had to avoid some female approaches in my time. Happily so. It is not all sexual!!
The most unsettling thing a women has ever done to me? Married me. Some women have no taste.
And tomorrow, or two or three days from now, creepiest-things-men-done-stories from Reddit. BP, you are so predictable sometimes.
Well a lot of people wanted women-bashing posts too, and voila !
Load More Replies...Good cautionary tales... What I learnt many moons ago is that you should ALWAYS meet up for a first date in a public place.
I met my wife on a dating site 20 years ago, and our first date was to a museum. I can highly recommend that - can't get more public than this, plus no real risk of alcohol being involved to cloud any judgement.
Load More Replies...this woman I met at work I liked and could tell she liked me as well. We talked a lot flirted and then she decided to tell me she has always wanted to cut off someone's head I laughed thinking she was kidding but she told me she was very serious. Any attraction instantly disappeared I wasnt gonna be the the person she did that to I stopped speaking to her after that.
You ask the question above, BP, without allowing for a female to comment, so I put yes. I have had to avoid some female approaches in my time. Happily so. It is not all sexual!!
