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The miracle of birth can quickly become a very complicated and confusing affair when delivery room drama starts flaring up. Fights with doctors, peculiar comments, and even partners accidentally leaving the moms going into labor at home are just the tip of the iceberg.

Reddit users shared the most intense, wildest, and weirdest things they’d witnessed in the delivery room after user u/Roach2791 started up a thread on r/AskReddit asking them exactly that. One thing’s for sure, the thread increased our respect for the doctors and nurses who have to keep the situation under control under these extremely emotional conditions, alongside their actual jobs.

If you think that delivery rooms and hospitals are drama-free zones, then these stories are likely to change your mind. Scroll down and have a read, Pandas. Let us know what you think about these situations in the comments. And if you feel like sharing, why not tell us about the bizarre things that you’ve seen as well?

I reached out to Labor and Delivery (L&D) Nurse Holly D. to learn the secrets to staying calm in the delivery room, how medical professionals can keep the situation in control if there's drama, and how important communication is for professionals and parents.

L&D Nurse Holly stressed how vital it is that medical professionals "remained unbiased and focused on the safety of the patient" no matter the exact details of the situation in the delivery room or the hospital. "Safety in a delivery room for the baby and mother come first above all else. Ensuring your patient is safe mentally, emotionally, and physically during this time is vital. Reminding the parties involved in the drama why we are all here can help diffuse and refocus the energy. We can ask involved parties (not the patient) to leave and return at a later time due to the circumstances of the situation. However, if things become unsafe and nurses are unable to diffuse the situation security will be called," she told Bored Panda.

You'll find my full interview with Holly as you scroll down. Meanwhile, you can visit her TikTok and Instagram for her insights about her job.

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35 People Share The Wildest Things They Witnessed In The Baby Delivery Room My great grandmother had 13 children. Somewhere around number 5 or 6 she made it as far as the front lawn of the hospital and gave birth. The next pregnancy she only made it as far as the elevator and was totally mortified. The nurse on staff tried to reassure her by saying "it's okay, last year someone gave birth on the front lawn." She had the rest of her babies at home.

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According to nurse Holly, how we stay calm can depend a lot on who we are as people and on how intricate the circumstances are. "The most effective way of remaining in control and calm in these moments as the patient is communicating with your medical team. Open up to the team about your thoughts, fears, and questions from the start," she said.

"The healthcare team can begin to walk you through common scenarios as well as possible emergency situations before they happen. By doing this it permits parents to ask additional questions that would arise in these scenarios, as well as give a 'sense of calmness' during an emergency," she explained to Bored Panda.

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35 People Share The Wildest Things They Witnessed In The Baby Delivery Room Workmate of mine is about to become a dad in the next week. His wife has been getting to know the nurses at their local hospital and listening to some of the stories....

One day a bloke came running down the ward hallway screaming for help that his wife was in labour and they needed the docs to come quickly! The nurses looked around curiously and asked him "ok... so where is she?"

The colour from the bloke's face drains for a second as he thinks this over...

"OH S**T!" and he legs it out of there.

40 minutes later he returns with wife in tow. In his initial rush, he'd packed change of clothes, the car seat, camera gear, high tailed it to the hospital and left the missus at home!

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I would love to hear this story from the wife's point of view.

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35 People Share The Wildest Things They Witnessed In The Baby Delivery Room A doctor was delivering the baby via ventouse, a vacuum extraction. He was pulling, and you do honestly have to put some muscle into it, those babies are stuck pretty fast in there sometimes. Anyway, the suction cap came off the baby's head, this happens a lot. The father of the baby thought that the doctor had pulled so hard that he had pulled the baby's head off, so naturally punched the doctor in the jaw, who went straight down to the ground like a felled tree. Much yelling ensued, people holding the father back, him realising that the baby was fine once we pointed out that the head was still inside, unconscious doctor being pulled into a chair, another doctor coming in to do the delivery, the mother crying hysterically.

We had to have a quick and frantic conversation at the midwives' station about whether to allow the father to remain in the room. We decided that from his vantage point it may have appeared that the baby's head had been, uh, removed and that he had a momentary loss of reason. He was also hugely apologetic and took responsibility for his actions. The doctor who got punched took every opportunity afterwards to tell that story as often as possible and we all laughed.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Usually if the baby's head pops off they can reattach it. It's like the five second rule.

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Communication is the bedrock of quality work and care. Nurse Holly believes that it should be maintained at all times, no matter how complex, intense, or dramatic the situation. In fact, it becomes even more valuable in those types of situations.

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"Communication is necessary in Labor and Delivery between the medical team and the patient/parents. Miscommunication or lack of communication can lead to mistakes and chaos between both dynamics. Communication throughout the duration of the patient's stay should be expected," she highlighted.

"During emergencies in Labor and Delivery communication between parents and medical team should be available. Great practice is designating knowledgeable personnel to walk parents through the emergency situation as it is happening, this could be a nurse. This allows parents to understand the priority of the situation, also this allows questions to be asked and decisions to be made by parents during the emergency. Although the situation is moving fast communication should be kept at priority between all."

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I gave birth in an emergency room hallway, courtesy of having sudden onset preterm, super short labor. We had JUST moved to a new town and they did not have a full hospital, only a stand alone ER.

So husband goes casually cruising up the freeway on the way to the hospital 30 minutes away and I had a feeling s**t was about to go down, saw a sign for the ER and just screamed at him to pull off.

We get into the ER and they immediately call an ambulance to take me to a hospital with a NICU. Paramedics are literally wheeling me down the hall to the ambulance when my daughter started crowning.

They rounded the corner of the ER to get to an area with some space and the dude in the room right next to us was in cardiac arrest. So this poor ER is completely empty except the screaming pregnant woman birthing a preterm infant in the hallway and the elderly gentleman dying.

My daughter wound up being solely delivered by the 2 paramedics who were transporting me because the ER doc was busy running the code and the 2 nurses on staff were flying EVERYWHERE. They were running in and out of the other guys room with meds and fluid, sprinting around with the baby isolette, etc.

The other patients' family is clustered in the hallway staring at my gaping vagina while also crying over their dying relative. When my daughter let out her first cry there was a paltry round of cheers from that family and then they all went back to their crying. Meanwhile my husband is curled up in a waiting room chair heavy breathing from light headedness and everyone is ignoring his feeble cries for water. He was literally acting like he was about to die.

In the end no one died, baby was fine, husband passed out, and 5 years later I became a paramedic.

It was 0600 AM, hence the minimal staffing.

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35 People Share The Wildest Things They Witnessed In The Baby Delivery Room This is actually my grandfather's birth sometime in the 1920s: my great grandma was giving birth at home, on the reservation (Apache), and as the labor kicked in full swing, a crow or raven landed on the windowsill.

Now, this is a bad omen, it means someone is going to die or has died. Needless to say, my great x2 aunts and great grandma's mother started straight tripping, shooing the bird and whatnot. Bird would not f*ck off, looked at my great grandma and squawked.

Grandpa was born a few minutes later, while someone is trying to get the crow to go away. Crow flies off the minute the baby cries. A few minutes later, someone rode up on horseback to tell everyone that my great great grandfather had passed away about 15 minutes beforehand. That was right when the crow had landed on the sill.

Family legend says that grandpa was his reincarnation.

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In Cherokee culture, it is the owl that is the messenger of death. If it hoots three times, you're in trouble.....

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35 People Share The Wildest Things They Witnessed In The Baby Delivery Room I was once present at the birth of a very white baby to not white parents. The parents spoke a different language to staff and there was this awkward silence while staff tried desperately not to exchange eye contact or stare at the father for his reaction. After a while, it was obvious that the father either hadn't noticed or didn't care, as he looked delighted and was chatting to the mother happily.

Subsequently determined albinism ran in the man's family.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Since this is coming up in a lot of comments: Skin tone isn't like a PUnnett square in high school biology. Children and parents often don't share skin *tone*, or exact "color", and it's just the roll of the DNA dice.

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Some time ago, nurse Holly gave me some in-depth insights about her job and how some parents, especially dads, behave while their partners are in labor.

“On average I would say that approximately 1 in 10 are unsupportive and/or insensitive dads. There tend to be a lot more dads that don’t know how to support their significant others in labor, but I wouldn’t say those dads are insensitive, they just need guidance," Holly told Bored Panda during an earlier interview.

“As a nurse in Labor and Delivery we do a lot of coaching and educating the support person to help their significant others through labor,” Holly said that a nurse’s job involves a lot of human contact and communication.

"Their place and presence in the labor/delivery room is noticeable and can be iconic for your laboring wife or significant other. It’s okay to not know what to do, but being mentally and emotionally present is essential," the nurse explained that anyone who is in the delivery room to support the mom is playing a vital role.

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Doctor here, I have only ever 'delivered' one baby...(sorry for formatting, on my phone)

So I'm in medical school on my obstetric rotation. I'm doing a late night shift cuz I just want to see some births (labor lasts forever, yo). 20s something schizophrenic woman comes in, laboring with her 6th child. Her mother apparently has custody of the other kids, kind of a sad situation. Police had to break her door down because she went into labor and continuously screamed "I'm not giving birth to Satan's baby! This is Satan's baby!" The doctor I'm with looks unamused and just says to the nurse "sedate her a bit, we'll do a c section if she refused to push, etc". After about 30 minutes and some sedating drugs the doctor tells me to go in and do a pelvic exam and to report to him how far along things are. He went in with me, and then got called out as I'm putting on gloves, saying he'll be back in a minute. I introduce myself to the patient, explain what I'm doing and start the examination. I feel a contracting sensation and next thing I know a baby's head pushes my hands out and I'm holding a screaming newborn. I am so in shock I am just staring at the baby and I start to feabily scream, "I, uh, need, uh, some help here!"

Everything was well with the baby and mom. I had to throw away my socks and shoes.

I forgot the best part, where the mother goes, "what's your name, I'll name it after you!" It was a boy, I'm female, she insisted I give her my name. I didn't want to screw up this kids life so I said Henry.

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Baby daddy is so exicited about the birth. We ask mom if she wants to do skin to skin bonding with the baby. She says yes. We go to put baby on her chest and baby daddy rips his shirt off and is stoked to do skin to skin. A for effort dude!

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This was a nice intense, and for the record, I'm a midwife. In Australia and the UK, midwives deliver the vast majority of babies.

Anyway. there was a woman who was in labour with her fifth child, she and her husband already had four girls. She knew that they were having a boy, but he didn't (he hadn't wanted to know the gender). He really, really wanted a boy, not for sexist reasons or anything like that, and I know that he was a wonderful father to his daughters and wouldn't treat the son any different, but he just wanted a son.

He sat in the corner, reading the paper for basically the whole birth. He wasn't ignoring his wife or anything, she didn't want him to touch her while she was in labour, that was just how she went about birthing (she also didn't want the midwives to touch her, so we stayed as hands off as possible). When the baby was finally born she broke out in a sweaty grin, looked at me and said, 'Tell him.' I told him that the baby was a boy and he raced around the bed to give his wife a hug and a kiss and to meet his firstborn son. He was crying and laughing and just absolutely overjoyed by the birth of the baby.

That was a good birth :)

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"Labor is no easy task, and it comes in all variations. Talk with your partner about their expectations and desires during labor, be adaptable as things progress, and be mentally and emotionally supportive of them. I guarantee your experience in the labor room will be unforgettable and you will develop more appreciation for your significant other during labor,” she said.

"I fell in love with L&D when I had my first child, and I knew this was where I needed to be. I am inspired daily when I work with my patients as to just how incredibly strong women are. I love being able to support women during this time by encouraging, laughing, praying, and even crying with them and still being able to guide them through a moment in their life they will never forget."

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35 People Share The Wildest Things They Witnessed In The Baby Delivery Room Oh. Friends a midwife. Baby comes out looking very very Asian to an apparently white couple. Lots of umms and looks.

Turns out that the father was mixed race on his mums side and she never mentioned it.

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2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That's why you f*****g don't ummm and look. Honestly, one would expect more professionality - and experience in how genes can be inherited - from delivery staff. We're all white in my family but my great grandpa was dark skinned like a gypsy, so yeah, it can resurface again. EDIT: I am from Hungary and I am quite taken aback that there are lands where gypsy is considered a slur.

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35 People Share The Wildest Things They Witnessed In The Baby Delivery Room Holy cow, have I got a story for you. I’m not a doctor. This was my husband’s birth in 1944. His mom was in labor in a small town birthing home. It was literally in the local doctor’s home. Mom was in a back room with the doctor and a nurse. My husband’s dad was in the waiting room (living room). The doctor came out and told dad there were complications: he could save mom or save the baby. Dad had to choose. My father-in-law got up, walked out, got a gun out of his truck and came back in. He pointed the gun at the doctor and said both better live or the doctor wouldn’t. Then dad sat down on the couch with the gun in his lap. I’ve tried to imagine that doctor’s state of mind at that moment. He went back into the room with the laboring mother and ended up pulling the baby out with forceps. Mother and baby lived. So did the doctor. My husband’s skull is a testament to this story. It’s like craters on the moon. I’m grateful he’s never gone bald.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

What a roller coaster ride! Lord!!! Happy everything "came out" OK. And bless your heart regarding your husband's head. :)

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35 People Share The Wildest Things They Witnessed In The Baby Delivery Room Obligatory not a doctor, but when my nephew was born, he was so ugly my sister didn't want to hold him, saying, serious as f**k, "put it back in, it's obviously not ready yet"

She loves him to bits now, but we never let either of then forget it

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It more than harsh to tell a child that it had been ugly at birth!!! What's the point in doing so?

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35 People Share The Wildest Things They Witnessed In The Baby Delivery Room Not a doctor but a fire fighter. Got called for a pregnancy, baby already born. Get on scene and mom and daughter (who just gave birth) are arguing back and forth. Mom summed her argument up best with "I told ya you was pregnant"

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It's possible to be pregnant and not show at all. My mom stayed a size 8 and never needed maternity clothes. People were astounded when she suddenly turned up with a new baby!

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35 People Share The Wildest Things They Witnessed In The Baby Delivery Room Husband was sitting in the corner playing candy crush on his wife’s phone whilst she was in labour, up popped a text message saying “does he know that it might not be his?”. Shouting ensued and he walked out and left the unit with her crying.

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35 People Share The Wildest Things They Witnessed In The Baby Delivery Room One from a colleague of mine. One woman during her second stage (where you’re cervix is fully dilated and you can push the baby out) started pushing. As she did she passed what has been described to me as an utterly massive, 7.5 couric-worthy s**t, that just kept coming. The midwives had to receive it on a large pad and place it quickly on the nearest place which was the baby resuscitaire, as it was still coming. They then went back to the woman to catch the rest and clean up. As they moved back over to her she panicked and asked “is it breathing?!”. They had to get the husband to tell her it wasn’t the baby she’d passed.

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When I was an intern we had a woman who was 8 months pregnant get crushed in a subcompact vs truck collision. Mom was pulseless on scene so EMS brought her in hot (ie, ongoing chest compressions, very unstable). We had about a 60 second warning in the ED to get the OBGYN crash team and the NICU response team down.

It was clear mom wasn't going to make it. Blunt trauma arrests in the field survive about 1% of the time under the best of conditions. But we had to try to keep her alive so we could do a perimortem C-section to get the kid out. I was on the trauma team, so while I was working on trying to keep mom's circulation going to perfuse the uterus OB started the perimortem section. We opened the chest to start internal compressions and see if there was an aortic injury we could temporize.

Sections are usually fast; perimortem sections are faster. From skin cut to baby out and over to NICU team was about 45 seconds. They started CPR because baby was severely bradycardic and essentially dead. That's when we found baby #2. Turns out mom was having twins.

Now, in retrospect in turns out this twin had died in utero earlier and this was a known problem, but we didn't know that immediately. I joined the impromptou NICU team #2 as we tried to save #2. But it became clear this was futile and we abandoned efforts and turned all our resources to baby #1. We worked on that baby for over an hour but never was really able to get to a stable place. We were able to get the baby to the NICU but unfortunately arrested again and could not be resuscitated shortly after getting there. Likely catastrophic hemorrhage.

The husband and father, who was in the car as well, was physically fine. He had some minor contusions. But when he told him what happened, that he had just lost essentially his whole family, poor man just collapsed. There was no crying, screaming, he just went down like a sack of potatoes. The expression on his face, though, with such immense sorrow and pain and suffering. I will never forget it.

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35 People Share The Wildest Things They Witnessed In The Baby Delivery Room I worked as a hospital parking attendant manning the booth. A car pulled up and the woman was mid way pushing out her baby in the passenger seat. One relative in the back was giving her a back massage, one was fanning her, her kid was playing on his DS, and her husband in the driver seat nonchalantly smiled at me and asked for one ticket all while the mother just delivered her own baby looking calmed like it was a perfunctory task. I didn't know what to do so I just gave them free parking.

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35 People Share The Wildest Things They Witnessed In The Baby Delivery Room The way my dad tells it, part way through labor with me my mum said "that's it, I'm done, I'm going home" and tried to get off the table. Mum claims not to remember this.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

A fairly common reaction, I believe. Once the heavy contractions hit me, I remember thinking very clearly that I'd totally changed my mind about this whole labor thing, and I'd like to go straight home, please and thank you.

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My first baby was born by emergency c-section and spent 5 weeks in the NICU. I wanted to try for a VBAC (vaginal birth after cesarean) with my second. I was given a foley bulb induction at 39 weeks and 5 days. They put the bulb into my cervix and expanded it with fluid, and then it slowly expanded my cervix as it fell out. That took about 12 hours and was quite painful.

Then I was given pitocin, but they cranked it up too high and I was having 6 or 7 contractions in a ten minute period and I was only at 5cm. They tried to turn it down. I got an epidural and was trying to get some rest when my shoulders started to hurt. I mentioned that I wished the epidural was in my neck so I wouldn't feel my shoulder pain, which I assumed was from lying on my side.

My husband says at that point I passed out as my blood pressure dropped and about seven doctors and nurses rushed into the room. They pumped me full of epinephrine and stuff. They thought I was having an amniotic embolism or a heart attack. I got rushed to a c-section.

I remember thinking, as they were pushing me down the hall, that the movies get it totally right. The lights on the ceiling did that streaming by thing they show in movie scenes.

They opened me up to discover that my uterus had ruptured and my baby's hand was coming through into my stomach cavity, which was full of blood and amniotic fluid. It was quite gruesome.

Baby was fine, but my husband was convinced I was going to die. I didn't, obviously.

I was bitterly disappointed about not doing a VBAC and I've had people ask me why I "chose" to have a c-section many times. It has really done a number on me emotionally.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Even if you had "chosen" to have a C-section, it's no one's business but yours! Why are people so judgemental? It's a miracle you survived these two births.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I can't even think of a situation where I would ask a woman how she gave birth. Like... how is that information I should know?

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2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

There is a very real issue with the preasure on women to have a "natural" birth. I remember having a c-section and feeling incredibly guilty and like I failed or something. Why do we do this to ourselves and why do we let others do this to us? Older, I have a real f-u attitude to anyone who tries to look down on me for anything.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My doctor actually apologized for me having to have a c. I still do not understand it. For me it was necessary, and it turned out fine. I gave birth, I am a REAL mother ( would be even if I did not give birth), so these judgmental biddies can shove it where they should get fcked (up the a**e).

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You don't choose! OMG, C-sections are not the easy option. It's not like you get a tiny scar or something... Frankly, even in modern ORs they seem barbaric AF, it's traumatizing to mothers, and a ruptured uterus is potentially *lethal* even if the patient is already in hospital.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It's not always traumatizing to moms. I had a maternal request C-section and it was the best experience I ever had.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

why do people care if you have a c-section or not? birth is birth.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I agree. I don’t have children but have always felt this way. You’re a real mom either way and there are pros and cons to both—all need recovery time, epidural or not, still a real mom/birth. It’s ridiculous. I was an emergency C-Section, my husband was a planned one, due to his brother being a c-section. I know more women with c-sections than vaginal births. All are amazing women.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This has got to stop. It's a woman's decision whether she wants to give birth vaginally, by C-section, VBAC, whatever. I had a maternal request C-section and it was the best thing I ever did. The pressure on women to give birth as "naturally" as possible - even when they might not want to - is idiotic. If that's your goal, okay, cool. But remember that when women gave birth all "naturally" all the time, A LOT OF WOMEN AND BABIES DIED. C-sections saved the lives of so many of my friends and family that if anyone ever dared say something to them about, "Oh, how disappointing you didn't ACTUALLY give birth", I will reply, "Oh, how disappointing they chose to give birth to a live baby and live to see it!"

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That's a really traumatic birth experience - I really hope this lady got the emotional support she needed after it

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I know many women that don't want to try for a second baby because of a very traumatic birth experience!! Psychological support should be provided all the times for sure

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Anyone that criticizes you for having a c-section is truly evil and ignorant. Same for people that say not breastfeeding your baby makes you a bad mom. It doesn't matter how your child came into this world or became your child or how you feed your child. You are a mother and not having a vaginal birth was the best for you and your child. And FYI I had a vaginal birth for both my youngest and breastfed and that doesn't make me any more or less a mother than you. Hugs

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

What business is of anyone to inquire about your "choice" of getting a C-section? There was a woman on reddit claiming that women that had a C-section were not "real mothers". I was never aware of this madness, but now I am, and I feel like visiting these people to slap them real hard. Being a parent has very little to do with the birthing process. It's all that happens later that count. Idiots.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This obsession about c-sectins vs naturals births needs to f*cking stop!

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

OP, I’m really sorry that you didn’t get your vbac and had such a traumatic experience. I’m really hearing you when you say how much it effected you emotionally. And I am so sorry you have had people be so insensitive as to suggest you “chose” that. People here are getting cranky about women feeling pressured into natural births and feeling u hi kitty about having a CS, can I just present a different perspective: I really wanted to experience a natural birth. I wasn’t pressured into it I just really wanted to - the same way a person may want to look pretty at their wedding, do a good job at work, make a nice meal for a friend’s birthday, it was just something I wanted to do. I was sad when I needed a cs - really sad (especially when I do not believe it was clinically necessary and my agency was not respected). What hurt even more was friends and family overruling my sadness with platitudes of “you should be grateful for you baby” and “who cares how you had him, you had him”.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Of course I am grateful. Of course I would make a decision to do that a thousand times over if it meant he was safe. But that doesn’t stop me feeling sad about it. It would be nice if people could just allow women space to have those emotions instead of coming up with reasons why they shouldn’t have them.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

OP: Plese, please try not to be disappointed about not having a VBAC. Life rarely goes according to plan. And birth almost never does. Baby chooses its own time and method to enter the world. All you can do is hold on for the ride. The very most important thing to remember, is that no matter how it had to happen, you and your baby are both healthy! I know it sucks to have this whole plan in your head, and then to feel like nothing is working out the way you wanted it to. But it is! You have your sweet baby, and your own health, and nothing else matters! And if you feel like you need help, please, I beg you ASK for it! YOU know your body best! If it feels like more than "baby blues" it is! I say this as someone who suffered a terrible bout of post-partum depression, and thankfully due to my wonderful husband and doctors who were absolute angels, came out smiling again on the other side: it DOES get better!! I promise!! I wish you health, luck, and all the happiness you could ever want!!

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Lindsey Judd-Bruder
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

And one more thing: don't worry about what ANYONE else says! If you're happy, and your husband is happy, and baby is happy, that is ALL that matters! Fvck the haters!!

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You got your babies here. Maybe in a different way then you planned. I'm sorry for that. It sounds scary and awful. But they're here, as are you. The world is better because of that.

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Lena Flising
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

"I chose life over death, that's all." Or "I chose for my kids to have a living mom, instead of having to visit her at the cemetery".

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Must Be Bored Again
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Simple: to save your life and the life of your child. No other explanation or guilty feelings need follow!!

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Laura
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My sister (32F) had to have a C-section for her first birth. I've had 3 miscarriages (29F), and to be honest, I never really understood it. Thank you for sharing this. I hope it helps in the way I speak to her <3

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Grace and Lucy
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You gave birth and your baby was born. It worked out just as it was suppose to under some difficult circumstances. Issues were outside your control but you made it. There is no wrong way in delivery. Just people giving you their wrong opinions.

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Chaotic-Pansexual (she/they)
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My mother also had to have an emergency c-section because I was turned around the wrong way as she tried to give birth. I’m glad they did it because had they not, we both would’ve died. I can’t imagine how people would judge her, or this woman for that!! Some people just have no soul

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June
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

"Almost died because I wanted to do a VBAC. Now, I guess we have learnt something about asking inappropriate questions."

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Debbie Burton
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Tell them baby made the 'choice' not you! I used to get the same stupid question.

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Lisa Tetlow
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Doesn't matter how the baby is born as long as it's born healthy. I had 2 C-sections. Adore my scars that bring back precious memories. and I tell people the kids were smart and took the short cut.

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Cathy
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Natural birth, c-section or adoption, it doesn't matter how you become a Mom, everything that matters is what you do and how you do it from that moment.

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N S
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I had a successful VBAC 3 months ago. My team said no inductions and no pitocin if possible as it increases the risk of rupture. What happened to this woman is malpractice.

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Cydney Golden
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

No guilt for a C-section. That's just not anyone's business or anything to be guilty about.

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Rett
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If you get a happy birth story you are extremely lucky. Your a mum no matter how it arrives. Motherhood comes after the delivery not because of it. I hope you had support and have put it behind you. It’s nobody’s business how it arrived. My daughter works in a woman’s hospital and has witnessed mothers experience child loss because of being insistent on wanting a perfect birth, and not letting them do a c section. I wish you well.

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Cybele Spanjaard
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2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Phew and I thought my 7 months pregnancy emergency Placental abruption C-Section was dramatic.We were both expected to die as I bled so profusely prior to the surgery, but here I am at 83 and she a Professor at 55

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Meami
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I had a VBAC for my second child. I had heard that they quit doing them because of situations like this.

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Kim Lorton
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You tried! And that's all that means anything. Other people, including family, can just mind their own business. Many women go on to give vaginal birth after C section! My sisters first baby was a whopper at 9 pounds something. Had to have a C section. But her two brothers were vaginal, and smaller than their sister. So, don't be sorry, or take that emotional face smacking for anyone.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I can relate to a lot of this. There was an error in my medication and I ended up being given dozens of shots of pitocin instead of two (pitocin is a hormone that makes your contractions much, MUCH stronger, to precipitate birth). It ended up basically destroying my uterus and because I was in Africa and there was a shortage of doctors, I was in intense labour for four days like this, and ended up haemorrhaging and actually dying. They managed to revive me and my daughter, but I was never able to have more children.

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Alice Teasdale
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Hey I've been there, babe! Yes those ceiling lights as they rush you to c section are my main memory too.

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Alice Teasdale
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

And the whole sense of failure and grief, especially when you "fail" at a vbac

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Summer Mason
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Your still a mommy no matter what. And your alive for your babies. They did a good job. Don't beat yourself up. Carrying a child and birthing them are the most dangerous things in the world us woman chose to do. I'm glad your alive.

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Kelley Baltierra
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That's when you tell them every excruciating detail and see how quick they shut up

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Karina H
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I had an emergency c-section. never felt guilty that I didnt have any contractions at all. but messed me up in my head and one of the main reasons I didn't want another child. can't imagine what would have happened if we wouldn't have been at the hospital already.

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C W
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I thought the same thing... the nurses rushing in and then running down the hall to the OR felt like a movie. I'm a ED and ICU nurse so I'm usually the one rushing into a room! It felt terrible and scary to be on the other side of things 😔

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Not me sitting here hoping this woman makes it...lol. Realized my idiot thought about halfway through. Think I'm still traumatized from the car accident post.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

When I prepared for my vbac, my OBGYN told me that they never induced on a scarred uterus (= scar from the previous c section), as there was too much risk of uterine rupture because the contractions are stronger...

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I had to have a c-section w both mine. 1st one, I'd had preterm labor starting at 20 wks & continued (was on 36 pills per day to stop contracting & 3 near deliveries). Took me off everything at 36 wks bc they thought I'd had enough bed rest & he was measuring very well (I'd also gotten two rounds of steroids to strengthen his lungs as just in case measure). At 40 wks, he still wasn't there. Oh, I was miserable. Got induced at 8 am with pitocin, about 4 hours later a wall of pain hit so hard I couldn't even see straight. Got an epidural, got to 10 cm & then pushed. And pushed. For 5 hrs straight. Dr finally came in & felt that I was pushing his hand out, he just wasn't budging. Said he thought he was trying to come out neck first. So, he gave me the option: wait it out & try again in a few hours or c-section. I practically yelled it at that point. Then my mother and grandmother start freaking out and bawling. Anyway, he was 9lbs 7 oz 23 in long. Went straight to c-section w/#2.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm so sorry. It makes me sad that so many women are judgy about things like that anyway and on top of the fact that as long as the baby is fine who cares how it's done,you almost died! That's way more metal than natural;)

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Sounds like this baby decided to imitate the Alien birth from the movies

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35 People Share The Wildest Things They Witnessed In The Baby Delivery Room The baby’s father was caught cracking open the anesthesia cart and stealing meds. When police officers came to arrest him, he was sobbing and kept saying over and over “y’all aren’t going to let me see my baby be born?” and the officers were both like um nope should’ve thought about that before

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This is always fun. You get this a lot more than you think. If you wonder why care is slow and crazy at times? We're guarding the meds carts.

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35 People Share The Wildest Things They Witnessed In The Baby Delivery Room Ambulance officer here.

Got dispatched to "17 year old female, difficult pregnancy. Caller statement: Baby born, didn't know was pregnant. Can't find umbilical cord."

Whooooa boy...

Get there, healthy baby girl born. Mother and grandmother sitting on floor, blood everywhere. Both emotionally shocked. Umbilical cord right where it should be. Grandmother holding baby, outstretches arms and hands me the baby without words while my partner checks out mum.

Grandma comes to me and just says "I thought she was a virgin!"

Mother had texted grandmother while at work to say "Mum, come home, I've had a baby."

The tension in that room... Holy cr*p.

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When I was having a c section I was jamming out to Journey looped on the epidural. I noticed that people started walking around carefully and my husband turned kind of green, but everyone’s response was “it’s okay, you’re doing great, baby’s great, just finishing up!”

Only after I was in recovery did they tell me the end of the suction tube came loose and sprayed blood all over the floor and everyone was covered in it and leaving bloody footprints everywhere. Lol, good times.

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35 People Share The Wildest Things They Witnessed In The Baby Delivery Room Father broke down, started yelling at his wife that they can't afford it. She flushes red with anger and embarrassment like "NOW you think is a good moment to bring this up to me? You want me to go back in time for you?" Older child, like 5-6, was in the room too, staring and looking terrified. I tried to calm the father down and he just stormed out. I was delivering a pizza though, not a baby.

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35 People Share The Wildest Things They Witnessed In The Baby Delivery Room Mom doesn't want to push because she doesn't want to poop. I tell her she better get used to poop because that's what babies do. She pushes and a giant turd comes out, then baby. Then baby poos on the floor as I'm handing him off. Supervising doc asks me why the room smells like s**t.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My first midwife told me I might poop and not to worry about it. I’ve had three babies and have no idea if I pooped during any delivery. My midwives were very discreet if I did!

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35 People Share The Wildest Things They Witnessed In The Baby Delivery Room When I was a nursing student doing my OB rotation, a group of us watched our first delivery. There was no time to do an epidural because the baby was ready and he wasn’t waiting.

After the baby’s delivered, the first thing the dad says is ‘You can rub it my ex’s face that you did it natural.’

It wasn’t a huge dramatic thing but everyone in the room just kinda looked at each other. Like buddy, your son was just born and you’re more excited to one up your ex?

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35 People Share The Wildest Things They Witnessed In The Baby Delivery Room Im a doctor but this is not my story. There was this couple who were gonna birth their first. The father though had already a child from a previous marrige. So when it was time for labour, instead of being supportive and calm and leaving it to the proffesionals. The father went bats**t and started screaming ”my previous wife wasnt in this much pain, something is wrong”. That is excactly what a woman in labour would like to hear

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Funnily how this male, obviously so blind to how a women's body works, has found another woman to set children in this world. I hope she is doing fine and that their child prosper besides its dad cringeworthy unawareness.

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35 People Share The Wildest Things They Witnessed In The Baby Delivery Room Not a doctor but security guard outside delivery room. I just remember cracking up(wtf moment) as one lady was screaming she would not have her baby born on Hitler's birthday.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Well, poor baby only has 365 days to choose from ... Mine WAS born on April 20 though. It made her worry for a bit that she'd secretly have a super nasty personality too, but hey, of course not!!

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35 People Share The Wildest Things They Witnessed In The Baby Delivery Room My parents took those birth classes and were ready to go natural, but had the anesthesiologist on standby. After some pretty bad contractions my mom gave in and asked for the epidural. My dad went and talked to the anesthesiologist, came back and whispered in my mom's ear "he said it's 500 for it. In cash". Another contraction came through, and along with it a crack opened on the earth's crust and my mom screamed "FIND A F**KING ATM".

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The more I read about the costs involved in the US medical system, the more relieved I am to live in the UK. A mother would just be given everything she needs for a pain-free birth. What a barbaric system where you have to pay for pain relief.

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35 People Share The Wildest Things They Witnessed In The Baby Delivery Room Not a doctor but am a midwife. We do home delivery in the US. One labor mom was on the bed just working through the contractions. Dad was sitting next to the bed looking at p*rn. I gave him a look and he knew I caught him. No remorse just angled the screen better. Later on same Dad was just slamming shots and beers. After baby was born he refused to put on the first diaper or hold his daughter. We needed to transfer the baby in due to some blood sugar issues. I go find his drunk ass playing video games in the kitchen. I told him we needed to go in. He was so pissed off he said now?!! Its three in the morning. Yeah dude now. I drove the car because he was so wasted he couldn't even stand. Lots more but thats one of the worst.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Some people should not be allowed to reproduce. Too late now, I can only hope that he gets his act together.

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35 People Share The Wildest Things They Witnessed In The Baby Delivery Room Wife just gave birth and we asked that same question to our nurse. She told us about the time a guy brought in his pregnant wife and his pregnant girlfriend. The doctors thought that they were going to try and kill each other so they kept them on separate floors. All the nurses thought the guy was a complete and utter douchebag.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'll never understand why two women are mad at each other instead of the man who cheated on both of them. I would want to gang up on him, not the other woman.

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35 People Share The Wildest Things They Witnessed In The Baby Delivery Room Baby daddy and baby grandma are in delivery room. We're setting up the table to deliver and cheerfully ask "okay dad, want to cut the cord?". Baby daddy loses his s**t "not if this she devil is in the room" and points to baby grandma. They get into a yelling match and meanwhile the patient and I make awkward eye contact and while the nurse and the other resident try to calm them down, we deliver the baby and I cut the cord.

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35 People Share The Wildest Things They Witnessed In The Baby Delivery Room Mom's cousin is with her as she rolls in at 9 cm with her 3rd kid. She's snapchatting pictures of herself posing next to mom who looks very uncomfortable. We deliver baby whom she deems her "sexy lil nephew" MA'AM HE IS FIVE MINUTES OLD.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

We were the first of all our friends to have a baby. so luckily not in the delivery room, but afterwards, Little Deon had like 25 visitors. We got a full photo album from our friends documenting his first poo on his christening as a gift from our friends. (Keeping this for his 18th birthday)

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Not a doctor, but my (now ex) mother in law got mad because I didn't want anyone in the delivery room other than my husband so she ran around the hospital hiding. (Now ex) Husband almost missed the birth because he was too busy trying to find her and calm her down.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Disgusting woman who should know better than behave like a child - playing hide and seek. Though that the father-to-be decided to go searching his mother instead of staying by his wife clearly explains the 'Ex'.

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35 People Share The Wildest Things They Witnessed In The Baby Delivery Room Mom asks if the baby is mixed....in front of baby daddy who is the same race.

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35 People Share The Wildest Things They Witnessed In The Baby Delivery Room I know my mom punched a nurse and my dad when she was giving birth to me, they had to restrain her. No wonder I turned out the way I did.

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