Coworker Bombards Guy With Text Messages Calling Him A “Childless Man Child” After He Refused To Cover Her Shift That Fell On Her Son’s 1st Birthday
Most of the time, issues are as complicated as human beings themselves. Sometimes, however, it can be a simple, clear-cut ordeal. Like this little story from the internet.
We have a situation of two retail workers and a manager in conflict with each other over a last-minute scheduling problem. Simple enough.
But what makes this story spicy is the sheer entitlement some of the folks in this situation have. And no matter how many times it happens, we can’t but still be amazed that it’s a thing.
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Working in retail is often bad enough as it is without a coworker blaming you for their inability to participate in their son’s b-day last-minute
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OP, the Original Poster, also known as u/MayITakeYourGoat on Reddit, turned to the Am I The A-Hole community to settle an issue he had with some of his coworkers.
OP works in retail. One morning, he got a text message from his manager, asking (well, more like ordering) him to come in to fill in for another coworker, Brenda. Turns out Brenda’s son was turning 1 that day, and she couldn’t make it to work.
And that’s exactly what happened in this Redditor’s story, asking the AITA community for some perspective
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Her shift started at 2PM and OP got the message at around 10AM, but only read it at 12PM. Just as well, OP already had plans, so that was a no on his part.
However, the manager wasn’t having any of it and started showing some attitude. He said that OP is heartless and horrible (strong words to begin with) for making Brenda miss her son’s 1st birthday.
But then OP asked the key question here—why didn’t Brenda plan this in advance? It’s not like birthdays fall on different dates each year. The manager did the classic maneuver of saying they’d talk once OP was at work.
OP also provided an update, saying Brenda herself attempted to text him, but he just ended up blocking her
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Well, sure enough, Brenda started texting. No idea how she got his number, but she did. She too had something awful to say about OP. After a short argument, he blocked her (and her husband, as she used his phone too).
The only conclusion this led OP to was that he needed to find a new job, so he started applying.
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The folks of the Am I The A-Hole? community were as surprised with this kind of entitlement and arrogance from Brenda and the manager respectively.
While the only thing folks had to say against OP was that he could have used more professional language, what OP actually said was still pretty tame compared to what the other two said. Also, this is a retail job, where professionalism is often thrown out the window.
Folks online were all in support of OP, as surprised as he was by how entitled and clueless Brenda was
Everyone agreed that OP is in the right here. A birthday is something folks can plan way ahead, so this was no excuse for neither Brenda, nor the manager to get mad.
Some shared their own retail stories, swearing they’ll never work there again because of situations like this. Others advised OP not to get trampled by the manager and to stand his ground as retail managers are often on the worse end of the spectrum when it comes to managing.
OP himself also provided some more context in the comments. Like what his manager is like, voicing his ideas on abortion and birth control—anything but professional, that one, so who could blame OP for lacking professionalism? Needless to say, the work environment is toxic.
In a couple of other comments, he rants about how Brenda could have not been able to plan this way ahead of time. It’s the same with Christmas—the date does not change, so plan ahead! He explained how his girlfriend’s daughter effectively has 4 different Christmases, and all are planned thoroughly.
Whatever the case, folks thought OP is not the jerk, far from it. The post got a modest 5,300 upvotes with nearly 500 comments and a single Reddit award. But that’s over 5,000 supporting OP, so it’s definitely something.
You can check out the post in context here, or take a look at our other articles that decide who’s the a-hole and who’s not here. But be sure to let us know your thoughts in the comment section below!
Her child is 365 days old. He is not going to remember his first birthday. It's also apparent that the OP forgot her son's birthday. Otherwise she would have tried to switch shifts with someone as soon as the schedule came out.
Badcat, if you remember your first birthday then you are in a tiny minority. Childhood (or infantile) amnesia affects virtually everyone and can last up to the age of four.
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Somehow, I can't picture someone bitterly complaining: "My childhood was ruined when my mother had to go to work on my 1st birthday." On the other hand, I could see someone saying, "Ma, it's been nearly 20 years, now please shut up about missing my first birthday or go see a therapist."
"I'm sorry that you forgot that it's your kid's first birthday but today is also my cat's bat mitzvah. I planned ahead and, honestly, this is far more important"
Shouldn't that be a cat mitzvah? (btw- Mousletov! to her)
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It's not like a 1 year old is going to remember that birthday anyway, they could celebrate literally any day and make the kid happy. (Just saying.) And NTA, because children aren't a get out of work free card, and your time off is your time off.
but even so, the point is not that the kid won't remember, the point is that the mom should not assume that people with no kids can drop their plans just because she wants to keep her plans.
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As a woman that was a single mother, it was up to me to request things like my sons birthday off. I never expected anybody to ever cancel their plans to accommodate me. I had a coworker that often pulled c**p like this. I think everybody has had to work with type at some point.
Yep. Once a co-worker called saying she was sick. I was asked to fill in on my day off. I canceled my plans and came in. About 2 hours into that shift she comes in to get the next week's schedule wearing a bathing suit because she was heading for the beach with her friends. My jaw dropped and I was ticked. I pointed her out to my manager and she also looked displeased. She had been given the "I'm sick" lie too. About 2 months later she was let go for a couple reasons. A big one being her habit of lying. We had a good boss, but he did not tolerate lying. His words "If you don't want to be here, then I'll find someone who will."
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as a single man with no kids, i absolutely hate when people with kids imply my time is less valuable then theirs. the implication that oh you have nothing going on and can drop everything to accommodate me
I am so sick of parents thinking they are entitled to special accommodations just because they have kids. I'm sorry (no I'm not) but your life choices are not in any way something a childless person should have to deal with in any way, shape, or form. Choices have consequences! Don't make the choice unless you are prepared to 100% deal with the consequences or inconveniences of your decision.
And please stop acting like our lives and free time is less than.
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"Sorry, but you knew a year ago when your child's birthday was going to be. You had time to sort things out like someone who's mature enough to be a parent would do."
I have a child as well and have enough sense to ask off in advance for important days like doctors appointments and birthdays. I too am a busy mom, but I don’t use that as an excuse to be a jerk. No you’re NTA. Just because you don’t have kids doesn’t mean you don’t have a life. You deserve it off just like anyone else. Also you should contact HR. Brenda is clearly harassing you and whoever gave her your number is breaking privacy policy.
Am I the only one who thinks it was probably the manager who gave her the number?
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Since it sounds like a bigger company that guy should totally report this to HR. He is being harassed by this woman from multiple phone numbers.
And the manager for the guilt trip who probably gave out their number to crappy mom.
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I hate it when parents try to pretend their lives are more important/stressful just because they squeezed out a crotch goblin. How could I *possibly* remember my own child's birthday, I'm so BUSY? Well, the rest of the world seems to manage to just fine.
A kid being sick or having an accident can't be predicted. A birthday? Give me a break!
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1. Lack of planning on your part does not constitute an emergency on her part. 2. Do not confuse her free time with her availability.
I bet this is the same kind of doofus driver who doesn't get into the correct lane until the last second and cuts across 3 lanes as she does it.
Sounds like the boss should step up and work the shift. That's exactly what every boss I have had, and were worth a damn would have done.
You know what? I might have done it if I was asked nicely but if you’re going to be a jerk about it, I’d refuse on principle.
Oh after the words "man child" the petty part of my brain kicked in...how can I p**s her off more...lol
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I'm going to be harsh. F*ck these parents. D!psh!ts like these cannot be trusted to raise a flag let along a child. if there is a way to detect these traits in people, I would highly recommend castration but alas...
NTA. She should have requested the day off. How do you forget your childs birthday?! "Im a busy mother" yes key word MOTHER! you shouls have had that day requested off a year ago xD
Everyone but poster is TA. Mother who did not ask off, refused to celebrate a child's b-day before her shift started, thinking an experience the child couldn't remember was more important than the life of someone else. The manager for not scheduling enough labor to cover if someone couldn't work and thinking an inconsiderate employee making a last second request was more valuable than the other one. The owner for underpaying the staff so much that labor was low enough that 1 missing person could shut down the business. The owner and/or manager for violating the poster's legal rights for releasing protected personal data (phone #) of both the poster and their Next of Kin. Last one would be a major fine/possible jail time where I live.
Harassment as well. It's minor but enough to apply for a restraining order. Oopsie can't be employed once you have an action against you. Now she can spend the bday no problem!
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My wife worked on our daughter's first Christmas and birthday. We celebrated them on a different day. It's not that hard. I'm pretty sure she learned a lesson and will request days off in advance for now on. I was a retail manager for a couple of years and would have laughed in my employees face if they tried to call out because it's their kids birthday. That's what schedule requests are for.
And this is why people get cursed tf out, even at the workplace. How DARE that manager basically side with the arrogant mother and try to make OP feel bad for keeping his plans??? People have this weird delusion of assuming that people with no kids can drop their plans for those who have kids. What tf is wrong with people??
No one year-old remembers it first birthday, in my family we always celebrated it on the nearest Sunday or day off available. This woman is being an idiot. Boss is a moron for falling for this last minute B.S.
Shame on the management and the mother. Hopefully OP finds a new and much less toxic workplace.
NTA. It's the colleagues problem if she can't handle a calendar. and mygut says OP would have changed shifts with her if OP didn't have plans and was told in advance. Anyhow, the one year old doesn't have a graps on what dates are, so have the birthday on another day.
When I was a manager in retail and situations similar to this would arise, I would simply ASK someone to come in AND offer an added incentive. Making someone come in and guilting them is never a solution. Also, if one employee called another and tried to guilt them into coming in, the employee that called would be in HR getting written up.
The kids not going to remember that c**p,if she really cared she'd request the day off like everyone else does
Mom's have lots to do, for sure. But relying on a colleague because you forgot to request a vacation day for your child's first birthday is something a mom should manage! And then to guilt trip them so you don't have feel guilty yourself.... There's an ah here but it's not the OP.
Totally NTA if I can't get a birthday off at short notice at work, the line I always get from my manager is... well it's the same birthday every year, you should have booked it earlier
OP NTA. Manager should be fired for disclosing OP’s phone number, Brenda should be fired for harassment and unprofessional behavior. Utility’s Commission and FTC should be notified of Brenda using a phone to harass, which is illegal. Owner should be contacted and given a report. OP should let owner know he has contacted a lawyer about harassment and how the workplace has been made toxic. Bureau of Labor and Industries should also be notified as well as HR, and Employment Department.
She was to busy to plan for a day off for her child’s first birthday? Her child’s birthday is not a big deal to this person nor should it be. The manager should be disciplined for putting him in that position. Hell the manager could’ve worked the shift instead of asking someone else
I have a coworker who is chronically late and seems to always have "car problems" or mysterious illnesses that she has to miss work for right around our paydays. It's consistent enough that my default response when she or the boss wants me to cover is "I already made plans to help my mother in law and she pays better."
Yeah, the kid isn't going to remember, but maybe the mom planned it into this huge event with all the family, rented some kind of event space, and can't just reschedule it easily. That doesn't change the fact that it's not your responsibility to cover for her (or the manager who forgot to write down her time off request). A good reason why you shouldn't answer texts from work on your day off at all. Say your phone broke down and you spent all day getting it fixed if they grill you about it, or you were out of town somewhere with bad cell reception (my dad lives an hour away and my phone gets nothing while I'm visiting him).
"Say your phone broke down..." Nah, just say your phone was dead and on the charger or - so you don't have to lie yourself - just make it clear you don't take work-related calls on your day off. Granted, there can be an emergency where you have to take the call, but that's usually for a public servant (i.e.: snow/ice storms, natural disasters, etc.), not in the retail trade.
Load More Replies... It is so obvious what is going on here. She knew in advance what she was going to do just call in that day. She knew the child's birthday was coming up months in advance. Maybe if she would have offered some money the person might would have worked for her. At my previous job ( retired now) people would offer incentives to work for them. The other person was not entitled to cover her shift if they didn't wanted plans or no plans. I glad they stood up for themselves and for the manager is AH for their behavior toward him. I would find me another job as well because he is on a hit list now. I don't understand why people don't have compassion for each now day. I was on the same job over 30 years so I have seen it all. Don't feel guilty and place a guilt trip on you. If it was all that important she would have done right thing. It wasn't about the birthday she and husband was planning partyingthemselves I have seen this before. People offer a person some money or Gift Card
When I was a child, my parents worked on some of my birthdays or of my siblings, they would give us a small gift and have a special lunch or dinner. And then when they had a day off we would celebrate our birthdays. It was great and we were aware that work is a thing... So she's making a big deal for literally no reason.
Regardless how important is the event that makes you ask for a day off, or if for some reason you forgot or couldn't ask for it in advance, manners make a great difference. People tend to transfer the responsibility of having forgotten their unavoidable personal issue, to the person they should be begging for a favor. If she just said to the manager: ok please, I honestly forgot to ask in advance, could you please ask (whoever) to cover by shift? I will be really grateful and will pay with a big piece of my son's cake (it will be spiderman this year btw) So the manager, will just have to forward this message, and will, for starters, put you in a good mood. Then, if your plan is not a big deal, and can do it tomorrow, won't have a big deal to change shifts. But entitled people just prefer to charge you with the responsibility and humiliation of being themselves the big A who forgot their son's 1st bday. (Btw it will be crowded with a bunch of people who don't give af about the kid.
Sounds like your manager didn't want to deal with Brenda. She sounds like a nightmare so can't say I blame him but coming from a manager, you should never make your employees feel bad for trying to live their life and taking advantage of their SCHEDULED days off. And Brenda sounds like an entitled brat. Good for you standing up for yourself. You did nothing wrong.
I'm sorry but I never have heard in my 58 years a mother forgetting her kid's birthday. Their problem is not yours to solve. Have a great day off
NTA but the manager is. As a manager myself if I need someone to come in on their day off I try to make it worth their while, and not insult them if they say no.
1st off as a mom no matter how busy you are if you are having a birthday party for your child you will remember to request for the day off. I think that was an excuse. I have worked in retail, call centers, offices, and doctors office and never had I heard an excuse like that. It is sad that the manager even went with it and called the OP in and had the nerve to do that.
N T A. Dude. Brenda your co-worker if you still work with her didbthat on purpose. I will tell you right now. NO mother forgets her kids Birth Days. What a load of crock. And the manager is NO BETTER.
Why didn't the manager go in to cover her shift? Isn't that part of his job?! OP was off so they technically have no justification "talking" to him when he returns. These retail mgrs see themselves as Gods for some unknown reason. I hope they talk to Brenda about her treatment of OP but of course they won't do that. Find a new job ASAP, way too toxic!
NTA! You weren't scheduled, she was, it's none of their business whatever you want to do with your day off. Just giving you grief because she forgot to request off. So petty. What about the other 16 hours of the day? How long do you need to celebrate a 1 year olds bday? My dog had cancer and my wife couldn't get some time off from work to take care of him in his last days, but another woman she worked with would get time off at the drop of a hat to pick her kid up from school because he had a tummy ache....
We're going to "talk" ? Darn right we are . This is literally covered by labor laws. Along with the texts is way past workplace harassment, even if it's a "private" business. Contact a lawyer , save those texts, and if possible get corporate involved. Stay calm and make a record of everything.
The "mother" just got salty and projected because she got caught in her own slip up that she forgot her child's first birthday. No mother forgets that. Not a good mother anyway. They make sure everyone knows about it weeks in advance. And what's with the manager adding to the guilt trip? If it's not your shift then you absolutely have the right to refuse.
I would want to know how she got your number. If the boss gave it to her then I'd go to HR. Put in a complaint about the boss giving out your private number, her for harassment and for slander. You know she was talking s**t about you at work.
NTA, schedules come put in advance so she had time to switch with someone else that she didn't do so earlier is no ones fault but her own.
Having just one extra person on the roster each day solves about 90% of your staffing issues, run any service on the bare bones of staff and you will have issues. I learned this rostering healthcare.
As someone who has had a parent in healthcare for nearly all my life. Been in the military and then healthcare myself I find it really annoying when people absolutely have to celebrate a specific holiday or occasion on a specific day. Unless there's some special event going on pretty much any holiday, birthday, anniversary etc... can be celebrated early or late.
For years my mum told me the story about how she missed my first Christmas because her job made her work on Christmas Day. She said she dreaded that shift for the entire month and ruined the rest of Christmas season for herself with all the constant stressing. So while I understand WHY the mom would be upset at missing a milestone like that, HOLY MOLY DID SHE REACT IN THE WRONG WAY.
Honestly don't know why parents feel that they are more important than others. I had a coworker try to tell me she would be the first out on snowdays because she has a child. (We work with kids) I looked her dead in the eyes and told her it goes by first in first out and I would sue for discrimination if they ever tried showing favoritism based on having or not having reproduced. The never tried it and she shut up real fast.
OP is not the a**hole...the manager could have asked nicely . Why couldn't the manager take her place unless he was working also. Also, if the manager wasn't working he could have suggested to OP that maybe they can split Brenda's shift...ask OP if he can work for a couple hours and he himself will work the rest. If the manager gave Brenda OP'S phone number, he can get in trouble for that
Conclusion to this story is, the OP is not the a*****e. The mother didn't plan in advance to take the day off. That is all on her. She knows when her child is born. Birthday parties are planned not just sprung at the last minute. Brenda should have requested the day aff. I don't blame the OP for wanting a new job. I would too. These people are toxic & the OP should be able to work with people that won't verbally abuse him/her & will be better organized with scheduling. Good luck on finding a better job!
First, he doesn't even have to respond to a work text when he's NOT at work. There's no need to be professional. He did the right thing and I would report that woman and the manager if they continue to harass him.
Why are people on here saying it depends on what his plans were? No it doesn't it doesn't matter what they are. If you're in that situation its perfectly acceptable to cover for someone if you choose. I did cover for my coworkers with offspring a lot bc I wanted to and didn't care. OP obviously cares and choose not to. This doesn't make him responsible for any of this. The coworker should have asked off bottom line. Like she didn't have 364 days to request off between the kids birth and 1st bday? Come on same thing with requesting holidays off NEWS FLASH...... They are the same day every year! If her kids bday was so important to her she should have requested off end of story. Full stop!
OP is right. When I worked retail and it was my child's birthday, I asked for the time off three months in advance. Someone else had their child's birthday that day too and my manager kept switching schedules around to try to accommodate everyone and forgot I requested off WAY in advance. So unfortunately I got scheduled after having been given off. Anyway, my coworker and I worked it out. She wound up working it because I worked there a lot longer than she did and requested it off way before she did, but she was super nice about it because we acted like adults. I appreciated her doing that and made sure it didn't ruin her plans, which she said it didn't because she would just celebrate on XYZ day. I am a single mom and had plans set and people's expectations, etc. We had mercy on my boss too because he was trying to do what was best for everyone. I was thankful for that company. They are family owned and it made a huge difference in how management treated their workers.
I'm wondering if it really was the kid's birthday, or if Brenda just wanted an unscheduled day off and thought that sounded like a good excuse.
None of this is his fault. If it's going to be your son's birthday you need to remember that s**t you need to put on the calendar you need to tell everybody. Therefore if you tell people they're going to know and they can tell the manager you have Brenda was supposed to have today off. If you don't like it too f*****g bad. Nobody is a heartless childless man child if they want the day off. If you're working as hard as everybody else and you have a day off you get to take it. Grow the f**k up and get over yourself. And yes I've actually said this s**t to people before that didn't like it either and they straight up called me similar names and I just look at them go you know at least I have a f*****g life outside of children like you
She is actually harassing you by calling you names because you won't do something for her. Yes it would have been nice of you to work for her but it is something had she approached you a few weeks ago about, you probably would have totally worked fir her. And then she would have socially owed you to work a day you needed off in the future. That is how teamwork actually works.if she has zero emotional bank account with you she can't withdrawal.
The manager should have covered the shift. He didn't so he is heartless and horrible. The mom is heartless and horrible for forgetting to schedule time off for her kids birthday party. Your time off is yours you are not required to cover other people's shifts for any reason. She just needed to reschedule the party for her day off and stop being a whiny entitled baby
Yeah, that's pretty bad. I had my kids 1st party planned 2 months before their birthday! Nothing can top being an Atheist at Christmas time! Co-workers either inviting you to go to their Christmas service with them as they are sure you'll feel touched enough to become Christian! Do these people get credits for "1 Free Sin" for every soul they bring in? Besides them, there's "Hey! You don't believe in Jesus, you can take my shift on the 25th". When I said, no, they'd get pissy Why do you need it off?" Because, I have a huge Irish extended family get-together that day, AND I ASKED in November. Plus the office party that used to be held in a hotel for the company, get distilled down to a catered sandwiches lunch IN the office, I'd still get asked why I was there. Because I want my, what they laughingly call a holiday bonus gift card or whatever. BTW it was my fault that bonus went from Christmas to Holiday bonus. No it wasn't! The COO wanted to sound all inclusive.
my co-worker used to guilt me to switch shift with them weekend or holidays, and i used to do it. but now i got fed up, coz if i asked them to cover my shift and it is not even holidays or weekend, they always refused. so now, whenever they want switch with me and uses their kids to guilt me, i just told them that "HR did not hired me to cover your shift".
NTA! In addition to it being not OPs problem I'm sure the shifts were posted earlier than that day or even the night before. Brenda and Manager had time before this to find coverage. More likely they did try and everyone said no so they waited until the last minute to ask the OP, thinking they would do it since they don't have kids so must be available.
I've worked in retail too long to remember. Thank God I'm out. But I do remember I worked in the pharmacy of target (before it was CVS) and had Thanksgiving off or so I thought. They scheduled the pharmacy staff to work register on black Thursday and Friday. I faked a panic attack and went back to my family gathering.
This is why I don't respond to last minute texts until after the time period. Oh, you're asking me at 10am to cover same day at 6? Sorry, I'll reply at 8 and tell you I've been I hadn't been available today. (Apparently some labor laws may allow them to fire you for that, but if they fire me for it I didn't really want that job anyway)
If you remember anything before a certain point it's a good chance the memory is a false one created by stories and photos of the time. The earliest birthday i can remember was in first grade. It was at an arcade, Powerpuff Girls theme, and I got my first and only bike. I have memories from before that though just from repeatedly hearing the same story. Like the banana pudding incident. I was like 3-4, sitting in my car seat in the back of my mom's red mustang. We were going to a family reunion. She had made a big huge bowl of banana pudding and had it in the back seat with me. Mom had stopped to get gas in the car on the way and she opened the door to check on me, cause it was a long drive still . The banana pudding did not attend the reunion... And I guess the car always smelled a little bit like bananas Vanilla pudding after that ...
The earliest memory I have is from when I was 4 yrs old. I got to model new boys' shoes at a department store for photographs to appear in their sales flyers. My dad was a department head. Only my feet and up to my calves were in the photo. I did get a toy farm set as part of the deal. :grin: My earliest memory of school was my first day at Kindergarten. When I saw my mother leaving I began to cry. My teacher asked me what was wrong. I told her the pin on my name tag was too tight around my neck. (It was actually to my chest.) After she "loosened" it I stopped crying and went on to make new friends. I also had the same teacher in 2nd grade. When I brought up that memory, she too remembered and just smiled.
Load More Replies... I used to work with a guy whose birthday was on Valentine's day. Several years in a row he forgot to request it off and was begging for people to switch shifts with him. I blame this somewhat on his partner because he rarely took any time off before he got with her and then she must have started making an issue about needing to do something for Valentine's Day.
NTA. When I used to work,, I was happy to go in and work if 1, I felt like it. And 2, i was available for that shift. And sure, they may try to walk all over me and take advantage of me in the future. But heres the thing: I hold no shame. I literally do not feel shame about anything. As such, I held no reservations about telling my boss to leave me alone, its my day off, contact me again, and I'll file harassment. No work place ever called me again after that. Instead, I'd go tell my bosses before my days off "hey, im open this weekend. Call me if anyone needs a shift covered. No more unsolicited "we need you here!"
Oh gosh, I hope she doesn't have another kid. I always took a week off for my bday and requested it off in Feb! Because I remember when I was born lol
The child is 1 year old. Even if they weren't celebrating it, nobody would know. Let alone celebrating it 1 week earlier. That's stupid and I know I'm a strict parent, but we celebrate birthdays when we can and if we can, it won't be the end of the world if it will be some days later. The less hassle you make for their birthdays when their still youn, the less problems you will have to fulfill their wishes when older and so will their wifes/husbands have less problems with it too.
I'm sure manager and Brenda are "besties" at work. I'm fairly certain that Brenda butter up'd the manager up to that point and manager gave in and approved her call in. OP should have asked manager why he approved it and difinatly ask why guilt trip him. Manager is creating a toxic work environment environment and IS NOT can make it an unsafe situation to where something drastic can happen in the workplace. Managers need special trainings on HOW NOT to be soft with some employees and then then hard on others.
The best excuse to give when getting called into work on your day off is tell them " I totally would but I've been drinking and am feeling a lil tipsy". They won't try to guilt you into working cuz that would more than likely be against there policy. So you can enjoy your day without feeling bad or worry about getting shunned when you return.
Welcome to retail. You're effectively on call 24/7 and the pay is pretty garbage. Obviously NTA unless she has covered for him in the past and he neglected to mention it but even then I blame the retail industry more than OP. So let me just add a friendly reminder not to be rude to retail workers. They are not the cause of whatever problem you are having.
I have a company phone and my personal phone. We are NOT allowed to use our personal phones for ANY company business. Why? Because the law says the company has to pay your phone bill if you do. You might want to mention this to your manager when he talks to you.
Sure it's not his problem but id say it could still be concidered him being a a*****e purly on the indifference thing, not that's he's in the wrong cause sometimes you gotta be a a*****e so you won't be walked all over. Still doesn't mean it wouldn't be a a*****e thing to do
Do you guys do any news anymore or are you just reading Reddit all day? If so I'd like a job. I certainly exceed the minimum requirements.
Just because the guy refused to cover her shift, wasn't an excuse for her to behave like a child. Any responsible adult with morals and common sense would of made arrangements to get the day off or call off that day. She chose to embarrass herself. Alot of the comments are saying the kid wouldn't remember his birthday. Is not having a retainable memory the point of his mom acting like a child? Just because a kid is too young to remember, doesn't mean a party doesn't have to take place. The child is being celebrated and the family will have the memory and pics can be looked at when the kid is older. Imagine your family skipped your birthday until you started to retain yours?
I would have gotten a lawyer and sued the company for discrimination and hostile work environment. What they did was not ok.
Childless Manchild I think I would have had to say yes your right but that's what my plans are I'm getting ×@#÷ to try and become a with child manchild BWAHAHAHAHA BWAHAHAHAHA BWAHAHAHAHA
So the manager spoke out against murdering unborn humans. Good for him!
I just retired. I'm tempted to get a pt job in retail so I can experience first hand what petty c**p "managers" will try to force on people.
Im sure he plans where more imporatant than his. I agree he's heartless. Im a nurse and have covered for coworkers
This puts me at a kind-of. Someone close to me that works as a retail department manager recently got an injury that keeps her from being able to work, so her assistant's stepped in her place, and didn't let an employee take time off for her daughter's kindergarten graduation. That was an a-hole move and I kind of feel like this is a similar scenario. However this doesn't really mean that Brenda was in the right, per se. Her entitlement was completely unwarranted and undeserved by OP. To me the AITA is determined by what plans OP refused to put off.
Her child is 365 days old. He is not going to remember his first birthday. It's also apparent that the OP forgot her son's birthday. Otherwise she would have tried to switch shifts with someone as soon as the schedule came out.
Badcat, if you remember your first birthday then you are in a tiny minority. Childhood (or infantile) amnesia affects virtually everyone and can last up to the age of four.
Load More Replies... Somehow, I can't picture someone bitterly complaining: "My childhood was ruined when my mother had to go to work on my 1st birthday." On the other hand, I could see someone saying, "Ma, it's been nearly 20 years, now please shut up about missing my first birthday or go see a therapist."
"I'm sorry that you forgot that it's your kid's first birthday but today is also my cat's bat mitzvah. I planned ahead and, honestly, this is far more important"
Shouldn't that be a cat mitzvah? (btw- Mousletov! to her)
Load More Replies... It's not like a 1 year old is going to remember that birthday anyway, they could celebrate literally any day and make the kid happy. (Just saying.) And NTA, because children aren't a get out of work free card, and your time off is your time off.
but even so, the point is not that the kid won't remember, the point is that the mom should not assume that people with no kids can drop their plans just because she wants to keep her plans.
Load More Replies... As a woman that was a single mother, it was up to me to request things like my sons birthday off. I never expected anybody to ever cancel their plans to accommodate me. I had a coworker that often pulled c**p like this. I think everybody has had to work with type at some point.
Yep. Once a co-worker called saying she was sick. I was asked to fill in on my day off. I canceled my plans and came in. About 2 hours into that shift she comes in to get the next week's schedule wearing a bathing suit because she was heading for the beach with her friends. My jaw dropped and I was ticked. I pointed her out to my manager and she also looked displeased. She had been given the "I'm sick" lie too. About 2 months later she was let go for a couple reasons. A big one being her habit of lying. We had a good boss, but he did not tolerate lying. His words "If you don't want to be here, then I'll find someone who will."
Load More Replies... as a single man with no kids, i absolutely hate when people with kids imply my time is less valuable then theirs. the implication that oh you have nothing going on and can drop everything to accommodate me
I am so sick of parents thinking they are entitled to special accommodations just because they have kids. I'm sorry (no I'm not) but your life choices are not in any way something a childless person should have to deal with in any way, shape, or form. Choices have consequences! Don't make the choice unless you are prepared to 100% deal with the consequences or inconveniences of your decision.
And please stop acting like our lives and free time is less than.
Load More Replies... "Sorry, but you knew a year ago when your child's birthday was going to be. You had time to sort things out like someone who's mature enough to be a parent would do."
I have a child as well and have enough sense to ask off in advance for important days like doctors appointments and birthdays. I too am a busy mom, but I don’t use that as an excuse to be a jerk. No you’re NTA. Just because you don’t have kids doesn’t mean you don’t have a life. You deserve it off just like anyone else. Also you should contact HR. Brenda is clearly harassing you and whoever gave her your number is breaking privacy policy.
Am I the only one who thinks it was probably the manager who gave her the number?
Load More Replies... Since it sounds like a bigger company that guy should totally report this to HR. He is being harassed by this woman from multiple phone numbers.
And the manager for the guilt trip who probably gave out their number to crappy mom.
Load More Replies... I hate it when parents try to pretend their lives are more important/stressful just because they squeezed out a crotch goblin. How could I *possibly* remember my own child's birthday, I'm so BUSY? Well, the rest of the world seems to manage to just fine.
A kid being sick or having an accident can't be predicted. A birthday? Give me a break!
Load More Replies... 1. Lack of planning on your part does not constitute an emergency on her part. 2. Do not confuse her free time with her availability.
I bet this is the same kind of doofus driver who doesn't get into the correct lane until the last second and cuts across 3 lanes as she does it.
Sounds like the boss should step up and work the shift. That's exactly what every boss I have had, and were worth a damn would have done.
You know what? I might have done it if I was asked nicely but if you’re going to be a jerk about it, I’d refuse on principle.
Oh after the words "man child" the petty part of my brain kicked in...how can I p**s her off more...lol
Load More Replies... I'm going to be harsh. F*ck these parents. D!psh!ts like these cannot be trusted to raise a flag let along a child. if there is a way to detect these traits in people, I would highly recommend castration but alas...
NTA. She should have requested the day off. How do you forget your childs birthday?! "Im a busy mother" yes key word MOTHER! you shouls have had that day requested off a year ago xD
Everyone but poster is TA. Mother who did not ask off, refused to celebrate a child's b-day before her shift started, thinking an experience the child couldn't remember was more important than the life of someone else. The manager for not scheduling enough labor to cover if someone couldn't work and thinking an inconsiderate employee making a last second request was more valuable than the other one. The owner for underpaying the staff so much that labor was low enough that 1 missing person could shut down the business. The owner and/or manager for violating the poster's legal rights for releasing protected personal data (phone #) of both the poster and their Next of Kin. Last one would be a major fine/possible jail time where I live.
Harassment as well. It's minor but enough to apply for a restraining order. Oopsie can't be employed once you have an action against you. Now she can spend the bday no problem!
Load More Replies... My wife worked on our daughter's first Christmas and birthday. We celebrated them on a different day. It's not that hard. I'm pretty sure she learned a lesson and will request days off in advance for now on. I was a retail manager for a couple of years and would have laughed in my employees face if they tried to call out because it's their kids birthday. That's what schedule requests are for.
And this is why people get cursed tf out, even at the workplace. How DARE that manager basically side with the arrogant mother and try to make OP feel bad for keeping his plans??? People have this weird delusion of assuming that people with no kids can drop their plans for those who have kids. What tf is wrong with people??
No one year-old remembers it first birthday, in my family we always celebrated it on the nearest Sunday or day off available. This woman is being an idiot. Boss is a moron for falling for this last minute B.S.
Shame on the management and the mother. Hopefully OP finds a new and much less toxic workplace.
NTA. It's the colleagues problem if she can't handle a calendar. and mygut says OP would have changed shifts with her if OP didn't have plans and was told in advance. Anyhow, the one year old doesn't have a graps on what dates are, so have the birthday on another day.
When I was a manager in retail and situations similar to this would arise, I would simply ASK someone to come in AND offer an added incentive. Making someone come in and guilting them is never a solution. Also, if one employee called another and tried to guilt them into coming in, the employee that called would be in HR getting written up.
The kids not going to remember that c**p,if she really cared she'd request the day off like everyone else does
Mom's have lots to do, for sure. But relying on a colleague because you forgot to request a vacation day for your child's first birthday is something a mom should manage! And then to guilt trip them so you don't have feel guilty yourself.... There's an ah here but it's not the OP.
Totally NTA if I can't get a birthday off at short notice at work, the line I always get from my manager is... well it's the same birthday every year, you should have booked it earlier
OP NTA. Manager should be fired for disclosing OP’s phone number, Brenda should be fired for harassment and unprofessional behavior. Utility’s Commission and FTC should be notified of Brenda using a phone to harass, which is illegal. Owner should be contacted and given a report. OP should let owner know he has contacted a lawyer about harassment and how the workplace has been made toxic. Bureau of Labor and Industries should also be notified as well as HR, and Employment Department.
She was to busy to plan for a day off for her child’s first birthday? Her child’s birthday is not a big deal to this person nor should it be. The manager should be disciplined for putting him in that position. Hell the manager could’ve worked the shift instead of asking someone else
I have a coworker who is chronically late and seems to always have "car problems" or mysterious illnesses that she has to miss work for right around our paydays. It's consistent enough that my default response when she or the boss wants me to cover is "I already made plans to help my mother in law and she pays better."
Yeah, the kid isn't going to remember, but maybe the mom planned it into this huge event with all the family, rented some kind of event space, and can't just reschedule it easily. That doesn't change the fact that it's not your responsibility to cover for her (or the manager who forgot to write down her time off request). A good reason why you shouldn't answer texts from work on your day off at all. Say your phone broke down and you spent all day getting it fixed if they grill you about it, or you were out of town somewhere with bad cell reception (my dad lives an hour away and my phone gets nothing while I'm visiting him).
"Say your phone broke down..." Nah, just say your phone was dead and on the charger or - so you don't have to lie yourself - just make it clear you don't take work-related calls on your day off. Granted, there can be an emergency where you have to take the call, but that's usually for a public servant (i.e.: snow/ice storms, natural disasters, etc.), not in the retail trade.
Load More Replies... It is so obvious what is going on here. She knew in advance what she was going to do just call in that day. She knew the child's birthday was coming up months in advance. Maybe if she would have offered some money the person might would have worked for her. At my previous job ( retired now) people would offer incentives to work for them. The other person was not entitled to cover her shift if they didn't wanted plans or no plans. I glad they stood up for themselves and for the manager is AH for their behavior toward him. I would find me another job as well because he is on a hit list now. I don't understand why people don't have compassion for each now day. I was on the same job over 30 years so I have seen it all. Don't feel guilty and place a guilt trip on you. If it was all that important she would have done right thing. It wasn't about the birthday she and husband was planning partyingthemselves I have seen this before. People offer a person some money or Gift Card
When I was a child, my parents worked on some of my birthdays or of my siblings, they would give us a small gift and have a special lunch or dinner. And then when they had a day off we would celebrate our birthdays. It was great and we were aware that work is a thing... So she's making a big deal for literally no reason.
Regardless how important is the event that makes you ask for a day off, or if for some reason you forgot or couldn't ask for it in advance, manners make a great difference. People tend to transfer the responsibility of having forgotten their unavoidable personal issue, to the person they should be begging for a favor. If she just said to the manager: ok please, I honestly forgot to ask in advance, could you please ask (whoever) to cover by shift? I will be really grateful and will pay with a big piece of my son's cake (it will be spiderman this year btw) So the manager, will just have to forward this message, and will, for starters, put you in a good mood. Then, if your plan is not a big deal, and can do it tomorrow, won't have a big deal to change shifts. But entitled people just prefer to charge you with the responsibility and humiliation of being themselves the big A who forgot their son's 1st bday. (Btw it will be crowded with a bunch of people who don't give af about the kid.
Sounds like your manager didn't want to deal with Brenda. She sounds like a nightmare so can't say I blame him but coming from a manager, you should never make your employees feel bad for trying to live their life and taking advantage of their SCHEDULED days off. And Brenda sounds like an entitled brat. Good for you standing up for yourself. You did nothing wrong.
I'm sorry but I never have heard in my 58 years a mother forgetting her kid's birthday. Their problem is not yours to solve. Have a great day off
NTA but the manager is. As a manager myself if I need someone to come in on their day off I try to make it worth their while, and not insult them if they say no.
1st off as a mom no matter how busy you are if you are having a birthday party for your child you will remember to request for the day off. I think that was an excuse. I have worked in retail, call centers, offices, and doctors office and never had I heard an excuse like that. It is sad that the manager even went with it and called the OP in and had the nerve to do that.
N T A. Dude. Brenda your co-worker if you still work with her didbthat on purpose. I will tell you right now. NO mother forgets her kids Birth Days. What a load of crock. And the manager is NO BETTER.
Why didn't the manager go in to cover her shift? Isn't that part of his job?! OP was off so they technically have no justification "talking" to him when he returns. These retail mgrs see themselves as Gods for some unknown reason. I hope they talk to Brenda about her treatment of OP but of course they won't do that. Find a new job ASAP, way too toxic!
NTA! You weren't scheduled, she was, it's none of their business whatever you want to do with your day off. Just giving you grief because she forgot to request off. So petty. What about the other 16 hours of the day? How long do you need to celebrate a 1 year olds bday? My dog had cancer and my wife couldn't get some time off from work to take care of him in his last days, but another woman she worked with would get time off at the drop of a hat to pick her kid up from school because he had a tummy ache....
We're going to "talk" ? Darn right we are . This is literally covered by labor laws. Along with the texts is way past workplace harassment, even if it's a "private" business. Contact a lawyer , save those texts, and if possible get corporate involved. Stay calm and make a record of everything.
The "mother" just got salty and projected because she got caught in her own slip up that she forgot her child's first birthday. No mother forgets that. Not a good mother anyway. They make sure everyone knows about it weeks in advance. And what's with the manager adding to the guilt trip? If it's not your shift then you absolutely have the right to refuse.
I would want to know how she got your number. If the boss gave it to her then I'd go to HR. Put in a complaint about the boss giving out your private number, her for harassment and for slander. You know she was talking s**t about you at work.
NTA, schedules come put in advance so she had time to switch with someone else that she didn't do so earlier is no ones fault but her own.
Having just one extra person on the roster each day solves about 90% of your staffing issues, run any service on the bare bones of staff and you will have issues. I learned this rostering healthcare.
As someone who has had a parent in healthcare for nearly all my life. Been in the military and then healthcare myself I find it really annoying when people absolutely have to celebrate a specific holiday or occasion on a specific day. Unless there's some special event going on pretty much any holiday, birthday, anniversary etc... can be celebrated early or late.
For years my mum told me the story about how she missed my first Christmas because her job made her work on Christmas Day. She said she dreaded that shift for the entire month and ruined the rest of Christmas season for herself with all the constant stressing. So while I understand WHY the mom would be upset at missing a milestone like that, HOLY MOLY DID SHE REACT IN THE WRONG WAY.
Honestly don't know why parents feel that they are more important than others. I had a coworker try to tell me she would be the first out on snowdays because she has a child. (We work with kids) I looked her dead in the eyes and told her it goes by first in first out and I would sue for discrimination if they ever tried showing favoritism based on having or not having reproduced. The never tried it and she shut up real fast.
OP is not the a**hole...the manager could have asked nicely . Why couldn't the manager take her place unless he was working also. Also, if the manager wasn't working he could have suggested to OP that maybe they can split Brenda's shift...ask OP if he can work for a couple hours and he himself will work the rest. If the manager gave Brenda OP'S phone number, he can get in trouble for that
Conclusion to this story is, the OP is not the a*****e. The mother didn't plan in advance to take the day off. That is all on her. She knows when her child is born. Birthday parties are planned not just sprung at the last minute. Brenda should have requested the day aff. I don't blame the OP for wanting a new job. I would too. These people are toxic & the OP should be able to work with people that won't verbally abuse him/her & will be better organized with scheduling. Good luck on finding a better job!
First, he doesn't even have to respond to a work text when he's NOT at work. There's no need to be professional. He did the right thing and I would report that woman and the manager if they continue to harass him.
Why are people on here saying it depends on what his plans were? No it doesn't it doesn't matter what they are. If you're in that situation its perfectly acceptable to cover for someone if you choose. I did cover for my coworkers with offspring a lot bc I wanted to and didn't care. OP obviously cares and choose not to. This doesn't make him responsible for any of this. The coworker should have asked off bottom line. Like she didn't have 364 days to request off between the kids birth and 1st bday? Come on same thing with requesting holidays off NEWS FLASH...... They are the same day every year! If her kids bday was so important to her she should have requested off end of story. Full stop!
OP is right. When I worked retail and it was my child's birthday, I asked for the time off three months in advance. Someone else had their child's birthday that day too and my manager kept switching schedules around to try to accommodate everyone and forgot I requested off WAY in advance. So unfortunately I got scheduled after having been given off. Anyway, my coworker and I worked it out. She wound up working it because I worked there a lot longer than she did and requested it off way before she did, but she was super nice about it because we acted like adults. I appreciated her doing that and made sure it didn't ruin her plans, which she said it didn't because she would just celebrate on XYZ day. I am a single mom and had plans set and people's expectations, etc. We had mercy on my boss too because he was trying to do what was best for everyone. I was thankful for that company. They are family owned and it made a huge difference in how management treated their workers.
I'm wondering if it really was the kid's birthday, or if Brenda just wanted an unscheduled day off and thought that sounded like a good excuse.
None of this is his fault. If it's going to be your son's birthday you need to remember that s**t you need to put on the calendar you need to tell everybody. Therefore if you tell people they're going to know and they can tell the manager you have Brenda was supposed to have today off. If you don't like it too f*****g bad. Nobody is a heartless childless man child if they want the day off. If you're working as hard as everybody else and you have a day off you get to take it. Grow the f**k up and get over yourself. And yes I've actually said this s**t to people before that didn't like it either and they straight up called me similar names and I just look at them go you know at least I have a f*****g life outside of children like you
She is actually harassing you by calling you names because you won't do something for her. Yes it would have been nice of you to work for her but it is something had she approached you a few weeks ago about, you probably would have totally worked fir her. And then she would have socially owed you to work a day you needed off in the future. That is how teamwork actually works.if she has zero emotional bank account with you she can't withdrawal.
The manager should have covered the shift. He didn't so he is heartless and horrible. The mom is heartless and horrible for forgetting to schedule time off for her kids birthday party. Your time off is yours you are not required to cover other people's shifts for any reason. She just needed to reschedule the party for her day off and stop being a whiny entitled baby
Yeah, that's pretty bad. I had my kids 1st party planned 2 months before their birthday! Nothing can top being an Atheist at Christmas time! Co-workers either inviting you to go to their Christmas service with them as they are sure you'll feel touched enough to become Christian! Do these people get credits for "1 Free Sin" for every soul they bring in? Besides them, there's "Hey! You don't believe in Jesus, you can take my shift on the 25th". When I said, no, they'd get pissy Why do you need it off?" Because, I have a huge Irish extended family get-together that day, AND I ASKED in November. Plus the office party that used to be held in a hotel for the company, get distilled down to a catered sandwiches lunch IN the office, I'd still get asked why I was there. Because I want my, what they laughingly call a holiday bonus gift card or whatever. BTW it was my fault that bonus went from Christmas to Holiday bonus. No it wasn't! The COO wanted to sound all inclusive.
my co-worker used to guilt me to switch shift with them weekend or holidays, and i used to do it. but now i got fed up, coz if i asked them to cover my shift and it is not even holidays or weekend, they always refused. so now, whenever they want switch with me and uses their kids to guilt me, i just told them that "HR did not hired me to cover your shift".
NTA! In addition to it being not OPs problem I'm sure the shifts were posted earlier than that day or even the night before. Brenda and Manager had time before this to find coverage. More likely they did try and everyone said no so they waited until the last minute to ask the OP, thinking they would do it since they don't have kids so must be available.
I've worked in retail too long to remember. Thank God I'm out. But I do remember I worked in the pharmacy of target (before it was CVS) and had Thanksgiving off or so I thought. They scheduled the pharmacy staff to work register on black Thursday and Friday. I faked a panic attack and went back to my family gathering.
This is why I don't respond to last minute texts until after the time period. Oh, you're asking me at 10am to cover same day at 6? Sorry, I'll reply at 8 and tell you I've been I hadn't been available today. (Apparently some labor laws may allow them to fire you for that, but if they fire me for it I didn't really want that job anyway)
If you remember anything before a certain point it's a good chance the memory is a false one created by stories and photos of the time. The earliest birthday i can remember was in first grade. It was at an arcade, Powerpuff Girls theme, and I got my first and only bike. I have memories from before that though just from repeatedly hearing the same story. Like the banana pudding incident. I was like 3-4, sitting in my car seat in the back of my mom's red mustang. We were going to a family reunion. She had made a big huge bowl of banana pudding and had it in the back seat with me. Mom had stopped to get gas in the car on the way and she opened the door to check on me, cause it was a long drive still . The banana pudding did not attend the reunion... And I guess the car always smelled a little bit like bananas Vanilla pudding after that ...
The earliest memory I have is from when I was 4 yrs old. I got to model new boys' shoes at a department store for photographs to appear in their sales flyers. My dad was a department head. Only my feet and up to my calves were in the photo. I did get a toy farm set as part of the deal. :grin: My earliest memory of school was my first day at Kindergarten. When I saw my mother leaving I began to cry. My teacher asked me what was wrong. I told her the pin on my name tag was too tight around my neck. (It was actually to my chest.) After she "loosened" it I stopped crying and went on to make new friends. I also had the same teacher in 2nd grade. When I brought up that memory, she too remembered and just smiled.
Load More Replies... I used to work with a guy whose birthday was on Valentine's day. Several years in a row he forgot to request it off and was begging for people to switch shifts with him. I blame this somewhat on his partner because he rarely took any time off before he got with her and then she must have started making an issue about needing to do something for Valentine's Day.
NTA. When I used to work,, I was happy to go in and work if 1, I felt like it. And 2, i was available for that shift. And sure, they may try to walk all over me and take advantage of me in the future. But heres the thing: I hold no shame. I literally do not feel shame about anything. As such, I held no reservations about telling my boss to leave me alone, its my day off, contact me again, and I'll file harassment. No work place ever called me again after that. Instead, I'd go tell my bosses before my days off "hey, im open this weekend. Call me if anyone needs a shift covered. No more unsolicited "we need you here!"
Oh gosh, I hope she doesn't have another kid. I always took a week off for my bday and requested it off in Feb! Because I remember when I was born lol
The child is 1 year old. Even if they weren't celebrating it, nobody would know. Let alone celebrating it 1 week earlier. That's stupid and I know I'm a strict parent, but we celebrate birthdays when we can and if we can, it won't be the end of the world if it will be some days later. The less hassle you make for their birthdays when their still youn, the less problems you will have to fulfill their wishes when older and so will their wifes/husbands have less problems with it too.
I'm sure manager and Brenda are "besties" at work. I'm fairly certain that Brenda butter up'd the manager up to that point and manager gave in and approved her call in. OP should have asked manager why he approved it and difinatly ask why guilt trip him. Manager is creating a toxic work environment environment and IS NOT can make it an unsafe situation to where something drastic can happen in the workplace. Managers need special trainings on HOW NOT to be soft with some employees and then then hard on others.
The best excuse to give when getting called into work on your day off is tell them " I totally would but I've been drinking and am feeling a lil tipsy". They won't try to guilt you into working cuz that would more than likely be against there policy. So you can enjoy your day without feeling bad or worry about getting shunned when you return.
Welcome to retail. You're effectively on call 24/7 and the pay is pretty garbage. Obviously NTA unless she has covered for him in the past and he neglected to mention it but even then I blame the retail industry more than OP. So let me just add a friendly reminder not to be rude to retail workers. They are not the cause of whatever problem you are having.
I have a company phone and my personal phone. We are NOT allowed to use our personal phones for ANY company business. Why? Because the law says the company has to pay your phone bill if you do. You might want to mention this to your manager when he talks to you.
Sure it's not his problem but id say it could still be concidered him being a a*****e purly on the indifference thing, not that's he's in the wrong cause sometimes you gotta be a a*****e so you won't be walked all over. Still doesn't mean it wouldn't be a a*****e thing to do
Do you guys do any news anymore or are you just reading Reddit all day? If so I'd like a job. I certainly exceed the minimum requirements.
Just because the guy refused to cover her shift, wasn't an excuse for her to behave like a child. Any responsible adult with morals and common sense would of made arrangements to get the day off or call off that day. She chose to embarrass herself. Alot of the comments are saying the kid wouldn't remember his birthday. Is not having a retainable memory the point of his mom acting like a child? Just because a kid is too young to remember, doesn't mean a party doesn't have to take place. The child is being celebrated and the family will have the memory and pics can be looked at when the kid is older. Imagine your family skipped your birthday until you started to retain yours?
I would have gotten a lawyer and sued the company for discrimination and hostile work environment. What they did was not ok.
Childless Manchild I think I would have had to say yes your right but that's what my plans are I'm getting ×@#÷ to try and become a with child manchild BWAHAHAHAHA BWAHAHAHAHA BWAHAHAHAHA
So the manager spoke out against murdering unborn humans. Good for him!
I just retired. I'm tempted to get a pt job in retail so I can experience first hand what petty c**p "managers" will try to force on people.
Im sure he plans where more imporatant than his. I agree he's heartless. Im a nurse and have covered for coworkers
This puts me at a kind-of. Someone close to me that works as a retail department manager recently got an injury that keeps her from being able to work, so her assistant's stepped in her place, and didn't let an employee take time off for her daughter's kindergarten graduation. That was an a-hole move and I kind of feel like this is a similar scenario. However this doesn't really mean that Brenda was in the right, per se. Her entitlement was completely unwarranted and undeserved by OP. To me the AITA is determined by what plans OP refused to put off.
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