Woman Finally Snaps After Her BF Keeps Spoiling The Endings During Movie Night, Asks Who The Real A-Hole Is
Having a hobby that you absolutely love is great and being able to share it with someone really close to you makes it even more special. This not only means that you get to spend more time together but also helps to communicate better or even see the true colors of another person.
Reddit user @Keanulove99 decided to talk about her experience of sharing the same interest in movies with her boyfriend and ask for advice seeing that they don’t see eye to eye on some of the things.
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Sharing the same interest with your significant other is a great way to find out about each other even more
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The user revealed that she is very much into movies, she enjoys watching her favorite actors play, and she even has certain rituals that she follows when she watches them. So she and her boyfriend decided to have weekly movie nights where he would come over and they would spend their time together doing something they both like. However, the woman revealed that her boyfriend has a very annoying habit of spoiling movie endings for her.
Reddit user decided to tell the story of how she tried to share the love for movies with her boyfriend
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Soon she encountered a problem of her boyfriend telling her the spoilers of the movies
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This kept happening, so the user decided to have a conversation with the boyfriend and ask him to stop this. The man explained this behavior as a “habit” but he agreed that it was wrong for him to act this way, so he promised to cut it. However, he did not keep his promise for long. This kept happening, so the user decided to have a conversation with the boyfriend and ask him to stop this. The man explained this behavior as a “habit” but he agreed that it was wrong for him to act this way, so he promised to cut it. However, he did not keep his promise for long.
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The couple decided to have their movie Thursdays as usual after the boyfriend (who the user called Andy) promised that he would not try to find the movie spoilers on the Internet. Some people might think that maybe there is nothing wrong with wanting to know something in advance, but the thing that triggered the narrator the most was that she didn’t want to know the end of the movie until she saw it herself. However, the boyfriend would spoil it for her too even after she explicitly told him not to do it.
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The user noticed that during the movie the man was uncomfortable but he didn’t do anything suspicious. That was until the girlfriend heard some noise that reminded a lot of phone keyboard when she realized that the boyfriend broke his promise and now was looking for clues about how the movie ended.
This made her really mad, so she decided to stop watching movies with him as he made it really difficult for her to enjoy his company. Now the woman is thinking and asking whether she was right by reacting this way.
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Even though the woman insisted to stop doing this and ruining movie endings for him, he still kept doing so until she decided to end their “movie Thursdays”
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People in the comments were pretty unanimous with their decision. They found the guy being disrespectful and selfish. A lot of users even agreed that they should break up because if he doesn’t take into consideration such small but clearly important things to his girlfriend, how their relationship can evolve into something more serious.
What do you think about this situation? Leave your thoughts in the comments down below!
People online agreed that his behavior was unacceptable and even suggested that she should break up with him
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She should have texted him "Hey Andy, here's a spoiler I looked up, we do not have a happy ending and I end up dumping you"
I’m seeing a trend on these advice threads. Dysfunctional relationships that people are desperate to make functional. It’s never about the issue at hand but what’s underneath. In this case he doesn’t respect or value her. This will manifest in a hundred other ways down the line. While perhaps fixable it’s early enough in the relationship that she should just find better
Spoiled 14 movies. I would have dumped him after the second time he did it. What a manipulative dong.
Me too. First time I would explain why it's important to me and ask him to please stop doing it, second time it's over.
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I jump. I flinch. I sometimes ask speculative questions of my wife (usually when I get TOO into a movie). She hates it and I try VERY hard not to do that (can't do much about the jumps and flinches). This guy acts like a chile and is a manipulative ass. He needs to go. You may be hoping to settle down and raise children some day. Don't take some other mothers unfinished man-child as your husband.
My husband and I like to watch mysteries and whodunits together. About halfway through them, we’ll call out who we think did it, or what the cause of, or solution for, the mystery is. Whichever of us calls it correctly gets congratulations and bragging rights. It’s just something we both started doing early in our relationship, and now it’s our “thing” when we watch those kinds of programs. But if either of us had initially objected, it would’ve stopped right away, and never happened again.
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this isn't about movies. it's about control and manipulation. nope... red flag ..you don't need that on your life. time to move on from him.
IMHO it's about putting all her attention onto him, not the movie. Which is a whole shop full of red flags right there, someone who lacks boundaries and craves attention even if it's negative attention is... not good relationship material.
Load More Replies... Nah, he's a passive-aggressive little creep, and his behaviour reeks of hostility. Leave him where you found him. The world is full of men who don't piss of their girlfriends for funsies. Go watch movies with one of them instead. Really. Don't try to convince this little s**t to respect you. The moment you have to convince a man to respect you is one moment longer than you should have stayed.
How does it even get this far - 14 movie endings ruined and she hasn't strangled him yet? I'm no expert, but if someone takes pleasure in spoiling things that give you pleasure, then I'm sure they'll be doing this in other areas of your life. You can't fix people like that, but you can certainly dump them.
The thing this idiot is addicted to is ruining your fun. He knows it wasn't cool. It's a complete dong move. Want revenge? Get him ready for your after movie bed play, just before starting walk to the bathroom, let him hear a humming sound, then come out and tell him about your ending just before you send him packing.
Run! This person is not worth your time. I get a very cruel vibe just reading this
100 percent right. If he can be this cruel too her face imagine what he’ll do behind her back.
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Seriously, 14 is a A LOT of chances. If she never mentioned in that time then that's a bit on her to make it seem like a huge deal all of a sudden after literally months of him doing it. But if she mentioned it at all during/after those experiences then that's massively messed up. My husband likes to talk during movies -- like to speculate about what will happen or why the characters are doing a particular thing, or why the writers scripted it that way -- and it drives me nuts bc I can't follow the movie AND follow what he's saying. And when I complained, he immediately made it a priority to have the remote handy so that we can pause to chat. He didn't derive sick pleasure from destroying my experience. That's what this guy is doing. I hope she breaks up with him...
Reminds me of when my family talked the entire time through A Quiet Place. Most movies, I don't even care, but that movie in particular, it totally ruins the mood.
I look up spoilers but I don't spoil it for others. What a weird habit. IDK, 9 months isn't a significant amount of time and his behavior seems like a big warning flag. 1) He shows no respect for her interests, 2) doesn't take her feelings or enjoyment into consideration (going to do what he want when he wants regardless if she is having a good time), 3) he then gas lighted her about who's fault it was that the night got ruined. He ruined their date and he turns around and blames her for his bad behavior. I would get rid of him. Sounds like he would be an abusive and manipulative person in the long run.
I mean, if he wants to read spoilers beforehand - that's fine, I also do that, it actually helps me to focus on the movie without worrying about what's going to happen next. But spoiling them for you when you made it clear you don't want to hear spoilers is a d**k move. Some people are ok with spoilers, some aren't, don't be a jerk and don't spoil things for other people even if for you it doesn't seem like a big deal. If they want to know - they can google too.
He knows it's important to you but he's doing it anyway. He is either still doing it on purpose and lying, or he's being honest in that he feels compelled to do it and is having trouble controlling it. Neither of these things bode well for a good future. Bonus points: he blames you for ruining the night because you were unhappy that he did something you have repeatedly told him annoys the cr@p out of you and told him. The problem isn't his behavior to him. It's your feelings. Personally, I'd bail now before things get more serious. 9 months is enough. I need to respect and admire a partner to maintain interest. I would have a hard time doing either with this guy.
No more Thursday nights. Invite over someone who wants to enjoy the movie with you, or just watch on your own.
I read movie plots (especially horror, I love them but they're too graphic for me to actually watch) but I never spoil a movie that is being watched by others including me. I just reading to myself and then watch it, content to know if there is a scene I can't handle, I can get up to get a drink and avoid it without ruining anything
I look up spoilers, but only if I don't intend to watch the movie! Don't ask me why I look up spoilers for movies I don't intend to watch, I know it makes no sense, but i do it anyway. And no, I'd never tell anyone a spoiler unless they asked me several times, and I could deliver the spoiler in privacy.
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All the actors who hyped up Suicide Squad 2 were the first to die in the beginning of the movie
And the butler did it. Poison mushrooms. Claims it was an honest mistake. He doesn't die, but he does get fired.
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maybe he's just in it for the s*x so he spoils the movies in the hope you'll skip them and get straight to it. Certainly doesn't make it any less toxic.
I think he was ruining the movies for her hoping she'd get frustrated and the sex (which is all he was interested in anyway) would happen sooner. Good thing they don't live together, don't think they're gonna make it.
I feel like this has to be fake...who describes their boyfriend like "he just kept smiling at me with his sharp teeth"
I thought that was very strange. Sounds like the writing of a bad fanfiction.
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I'm sorry, what? "It's a habit that is hard to break, but I'm trying?" No. No, you're not. Not even remotely trying. It's simple, DON'T F*****G SPOIL IT FOR OP. Just KEEP YOUR TRAP SHUT. He's just butthurt that he missed out on sex. Play stupid games, win stupid prizes. F**k him. Wait, no. Do not f**k him.
Ohoho if that were my boyfriend he’d be in for some interesting movie night movies before getting dumped. Try spoiling this 3 hour movie about silent monks s*cker!
She should ruin any sporting event he recorded to watch later. Just tell him the final score when he’s 10 minutes in!
Sounds like he was just impatient for the "sexy time" they would have had afterword and didn't want her to use "I want to see how this ends" to delay it. Did it not occur to him that ruining the movie that she wanted to see would also ruin the mood or was he so focused on the sex that that was all he could think about?
I agree with most of these comments, red flag, controlling, break up, etc. But I do wonder, is there anything she could have spoiled for him? Not movies, clearly. But does he have anything that she could have ruined for him and has she tried that? Prob not since he a spoiler alert himself, but who knows. Sometimes my spouse would do things and not understand when I told him. He just didn't get what he was doing. So sometimes I'd do stuff back to him to see how it made him feel. Then his light clicked on. Usually.
If I am not interested in watching a movie or show that my mom is watching, I will look it up just to know what she's talking about, but I never ever tell her what I read because I want her to enjoy what she is watching.
I'm sorry, but both parties in this relationship sound like they're 15 years old.
Remember that guy that stabbed the other guy because he ruined the ending of a book? In Antarctica or somewhere like that? https://www.latimes.com/books/la-et-jc-anarctica-stabbing-books-20181030-story.html
Personally not a movie lover so I look up what might happen if I’m bored with it. I do this while watching a movie with the wife but don’t say a word. It’s fun watching her reaction when you know it’s coming. Don’t ruin her experience.
He’s doing it to get to the you know what quicker . He doesn’t care
Wow I just realized I’m just like your boyfriend and that is something I need to stop. I spoil movies for myself because I’m super picky about them and there are some things that trigger me so I make sure the movies are free of any triggers. This explains a lot. No one ever wants to watch movies with me and this is clearly why. Yes he’s the asshole and so am I! Sorry to all the friends out there who I’ve ruined movies for
I do the same. Read the ends of the books, read about the films... I really try not to say a word to others. The problem is that I can't watch the movie or read the book otherwise most of the times. I get impatience, walk around, get unfocused, sometimes i even feel like i have have the flu... This has been going on all my live. So don't blame the relationship - i don't think he can help him self. I can't. Although... learning about impulse-control would help him...
It sounds like this might been a mental illness thing. I have anxiety and often rewatch movies because it's comforting to know what to expect. He might be trying to avert feelings of anxiety or something. That being said, don't ever, ever flipping spoil movies! Movies are my passion, and it baffles the heck out of me when people want spoilers. It's like eating desert before a meal and then finishing with an appetizer. Just why!?
Maybe I'm not reading this properly but I don't get why this is a story that needed to be shared. Some people are not good to watch films with, I literally will not watch any film that I think I would really care about with my siblings because they like to talk over them and ask stupid questions. We still have a good relationship we just don't watch certain films together. This guy has ruined over ten films that she wanted to see, it's crazy that it's got to this point, either watch stuff you have already seen or put on crap like the Marvel films which cannot really be spoilt, alternatively find a different activity to do together.
man, i do like spoilers, telling people them (if they want to) but thats just annoying of him
My daughter is a nightmare for this. She will go and watch a film at the cinema, I tell not to tell me anything about it because I plan to watch it myself. Every time she gets home she tells me the entire plot. I'm so glad she lives with her boyfriend now so she can annoy him instead!
She should have texted him "Hey Andy, here's a spoiler I looked up, we do not have a happy ending and I end up dumping you"
I’m seeing a trend on these advice threads. Dysfunctional relationships that people are desperate to make functional. It’s never about the issue at hand but what’s underneath. In this case he doesn’t respect or value her. This will manifest in a hundred other ways down the line. While perhaps fixable it’s early enough in the relationship that she should just find better
Spoiled 14 movies. I would have dumped him after the second time he did it. What a manipulative dong.
Me too. First time I would explain why it's important to me and ask him to please stop doing it, second time it's over.
Load More Replies... I jump. I flinch. I sometimes ask speculative questions of my wife (usually when I get TOO into a movie). She hates it and I try VERY hard not to do that (can't do much about the jumps and flinches). This guy acts like a chile and is a manipulative ass. He needs to go. You may be hoping to settle down and raise children some day. Don't take some other mothers unfinished man-child as your husband.
My husband and I like to watch mysteries and whodunits together. About halfway through them, we’ll call out who we think did it, or what the cause of, or solution for, the mystery is. Whichever of us calls it correctly gets congratulations and bragging rights. It’s just something we both started doing early in our relationship, and now it’s our “thing” when we watch those kinds of programs. But if either of us had initially objected, it would’ve stopped right away, and never happened again.
Load More Replies... this isn't about movies. it's about control and manipulation. nope... red flag ..you don't need that on your life. time to move on from him.
IMHO it's about putting all her attention onto him, not the movie. Which is a whole shop full of red flags right there, someone who lacks boundaries and craves attention even if it's negative attention is... not good relationship material.
Load More Replies... Nah, he's a passive-aggressive little creep, and his behaviour reeks of hostility. Leave him where you found him. The world is full of men who don't piss of their girlfriends for funsies. Go watch movies with one of them instead. Really. Don't try to convince this little s**t to respect you. The moment you have to convince a man to respect you is one moment longer than you should have stayed.
How does it even get this far - 14 movie endings ruined and she hasn't strangled him yet? I'm no expert, but if someone takes pleasure in spoiling things that give you pleasure, then I'm sure they'll be doing this in other areas of your life. You can't fix people like that, but you can certainly dump them.
The thing this idiot is addicted to is ruining your fun. He knows it wasn't cool. It's a complete dong move. Want revenge? Get him ready for your after movie bed play, just before starting walk to the bathroom, let him hear a humming sound, then come out and tell him about your ending just before you send him packing.
Run! This person is not worth your time. I get a very cruel vibe just reading this
100 percent right. If he can be this cruel too her face imagine what he’ll do behind her back.
Load More Replies... Seriously, 14 is a A LOT of chances. If she never mentioned in that time then that's a bit on her to make it seem like a huge deal all of a sudden after literally months of him doing it. But if she mentioned it at all during/after those experiences then that's massively messed up. My husband likes to talk during movies -- like to speculate about what will happen or why the characters are doing a particular thing, or why the writers scripted it that way -- and it drives me nuts bc I can't follow the movie AND follow what he's saying. And when I complained, he immediately made it a priority to have the remote handy so that we can pause to chat. He didn't derive sick pleasure from destroying my experience. That's what this guy is doing. I hope she breaks up with him...
Reminds me of when my family talked the entire time through A Quiet Place. Most movies, I don't even care, but that movie in particular, it totally ruins the mood.
I look up spoilers but I don't spoil it for others. What a weird habit. IDK, 9 months isn't a significant amount of time and his behavior seems like a big warning flag. 1) He shows no respect for her interests, 2) doesn't take her feelings or enjoyment into consideration (going to do what he want when he wants regardless if she is having a good time), 3) he then gas lighted her about who's fault it was that the night got ruined. He ruined their date and he turns around and blames her for his bad behavior. I would get rid of him. Sounds like he would be an abusive and manipulative person in the long run.
I mean, if he wants to read spoilers beforehand - that's fine, I also do that, it actually helps me to focus on the movie without worrying about what's going to happen next. But spoiling them for you when you made it clear you don't want to hear spoilers is a d**k move. Some people are ok with spoilers, some aren't, don't be a jerk and don't spoil things for other people even if for you it doesn't seem like a big deal. If they want to know - they can google too.
He knows it's important to you but he's doing it anyway. He is either still doing it on purpose and lying, or he's being honest in that he feels compelled to do it and is having trouble controlling it. Neither of these things bode well for a good future. Bonus points: he blames you for ruining the night because you were unhappy that he did something you have repeatedly told him annoys the cr@p out of you and told him. The problem isn't his behavior to him. It's your feelings. Personally, I'd bail now before things get more serious. 9 months is enough. I need to respect and admire a partner to maintain interest. I would have a hard time doing either with this guy.
No more Thursday nights. Invite over someone who wants to enjoy the movie with you, or just watch on your own.
I read movie plots (especially horror, I love them but they're too graphic for me to actually watch) but I never spoil a movie that is being watched by others including me. I just reading to myself and then watch it, content to know if there is a scene I can't handle, I can get up to get a drink and avoid it without ruining anything
I look up spoilers, but only if I don't intend to watch the movie! Don't ask me why I look up spoilers for movies I don't intend to watch, I know it makes no sense, but i do it anyway. And no, I'd never tell anyone a spoiler unless they asked me several times, and I could deliver the spoiler in privacy.
Load More Replies... All the actors who hyped up Suicide Squad 2 were the first to die in the beginning of the movie
And the butler did it. Poison mushrooms. Claims it was an honest mistake. He doesn't die, but he does get fired.
Load More Replies... maybe he's just in it for the s*x so he spoils the movies in the hope you'll skip them and get straight to it. Certainly doesn't make it any less toxic.
I think he was ruining the movies for her hoping she'd get frustrated and the sex (which is all he was interested in anyway) would happen sooner. Good thing they don't live together, don't think they're gonna make it.
I feel like this has to be fake...who describes their boyfriend like "he just kept smiling at me with his sharp teeth"
I thought that was very strange. Sounds like the writing of a bad fanfiction.
Load More Replies... I'm sorry, what? "It's a habit that is hard to break, but I'm trying?" No. No, you're not. Not even remotely trying. It's simple, DON'T F*****G SPOIL IT FOR OP. Just KEEP YOUR TRAP SHUT. He's just butthurt that he missed out on sex. Play stupid games, win stupid prizes. F**k him. Wait, no. Do not f**k him.
Ohoho if that were my boyfriend he’d be in for some interesting movie night movies before getting dumped. Try spoiling this 3 hour movie about silent monks s*cker!
She should ruin any sporting event he recorded to watch later. Just tell him the final score when he’s 10 minutes in!
Sounds like he was just impatient for the "sexy time" they would have had afterword and didn't want her to use "I want to see how this ends" to delay it. Did it not occur to him that ruining the movie that she wanted to see would also ruin the mood or was he so focused on the sex that that was all he could think about?
I agree with most of these comments, red flag, controlling, break up, etc. But I do wonder, is there anything she could have spoiled for him? Not movies, clearly. But does he have anything that she could have ruined for him and has she tried that? Prob not since he a spoiler alert himself, but who knows. Sometimes my spouse would do things and not understand when I told him. He just didn't get what he was doing. So sometimes I'd do stuff back to him to see how it made him feel. Then his light clicked on. Usually.
If I am not interested in watching a movie or show that my mom is watching, I will look it up just to know what she's talking about, but I never ever tell her what I read because I want her to enjoy what she is watching.
I'm sorry, but both parties in this relationship sound like they're 15 years old.
Remember that guy that stabbed the other guy because he ruined the ending of a book? In Antarctica or somewhere like that? https://www.latimes.com/books/la-et-jc-anarctica-stabbing-books-20181030-story.html
Personally not a movie lover so I look up what might happen if I’m bored with it. I do this while watching a movie with the wife but don’t say a word. It’s fun watching her reaction when you know it’s coming. Don’t ruin her experience.
He’s doing it to get to the you know what quicker . He doesn’t care
Wow I just realized I’m just like your boyfriend and that is something I need to stop. I spoil movies for myself because I’m super picky about them and there are some things that trigger me so I make sure the movies are free of any triggers. This explains a lot. No one ever wants to watch movies with me and this is clearly why. Yes he’s the asshole and so am I! Sorry to all the friends out there who I’ve ruined movies for
I do the same. Read the ends of the books, read about the films... I really try not to say a word to others. The problem is that I can't watch the movie or read the book otherwise most of the times. I get impatience, walk around, get unfocused, sometimes i even feel like i have have the flu... This has been going on all my live. So don't blame the relationship - i don't think he can help him self. I can't. Although... learning about impulse-control would help him...
It sounds like this might been a mental illness thing. I have anxiety and often rewatch movies because it's comforting to know what to expect. He might be trying to avert feelings of anxiety or something. That being said, don't ever, ever flipping spoil movies! Movies are my passion, and it baffles the heck out of me when people want spoilers. It's like eating desert before a meal and then finishing with an appetizer. Just why!?
Maybe I'm not reading this properly but I don't get why this is a story that needed to be shared. Some people are not good to watch films with, I literally will not watch any film that I think I would really care about with my siblings because they like to talk over them and ask stupid questions. We still have a good relationship we just don't watch certain films together. This guy has ruined over ten films that she wanted to see, it's crazy that it's got to this point, either watch stuff you have already seen or put on crap like the Marvel films which cannot really be spoilt, alternatively find a different activity to do together.
man, i do like spoilers, telling people them (if they want to) but thats just annoying of him
My daughter is a nightmare for this. She will go and watch a film at the cinema, I tell not to tell me anything about it because I plan to watch it myself. Every time she gets home she tells me the entire plot. I'm so glad she lives with her boyfriend now so she can annoy him instead!
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