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The internet can be a wonderful tool to use to connect with people that are like-minded, that can help you with your problems or that can become your romantic partners in the future. There are numerous apps which can assist you with the latter. But if you have any experience with those apps, you realize that there are so many people who don’t share the same values as you and it turns out that you just wasted your time getting to know a person with whom you can’t see yourself.

But after some time, you find some tricks and control questions that immediately reveal if the conversation is worth continuing. TikToker Amanda N went viral with 9 million views for sharing her method of asking the other person to tell their most controversial opinion and showing their answers. Other TikTokers joined the trend too and we found out that this simple question actually reveals a lot about a person.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Never trust a person that doesn't like animals. (Unless they have a verifiable bad experience with one, like being bitten. I guess they get a pass)

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Amanda N posted her video earlier this month and 9.4 million people were interested to hear what she said. And apparently people thought that her advice is really useful and is a time-saver when it comes to finding out if the conversation is worth continuing and if the person is worth their time because the video also has 1.4 million likes and has started a bit of a trend. 

Other people on TikTok started creating videos similar to Amanda’s using the same song in the background and showing what their matches on dating apps were saying were their most controversial opinions. 

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The "Unwind" Series is based kinda like a what if around this opinion. Very good and thought inducing

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2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I will probably get downvoted, and I’m sorry if I am misinterpreting this, but I kind of agree! (I swear that I don’t mean to say anything rude, ever!)

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We can’t know if those people who were sharing the answers showed everything they received or just the ones that were actually controversial and borderline concerning, but even if they showed the worst messages they got, there were too many of them.

Some of the answers were more lighthearted, like liking a specific movie or having an opinion about food. But others were highly political, racist or sexist, immediately indicating that person's core values.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Well that's just science. Is it controversial to say that there are physical differences between men and women? I teach anatomy - am I about to get cancelled?

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Too bad that wouldn't work for many jobs like construction, transit, people on call etc.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yeah, I'm a woman and I don't get the almost comically long nails some women have. The ones about as long as half their finger again. They're not practical for anything; you could literally have someone's eye out and fingernails on a keyboard is way more annoying than fingernails on a chalkboard - the latter is limited by the size of the board, you'd have a brief pause while they reposition their fingers. But on a keyboard they could theoretically be at it for 8 WHOLE HOURS (theoretically, because I'd have thrown their damn computer out the window before the first hour is up)

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Not really controversial. We all land on a spectrum in oh-so-many areas. :-)

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People are often skeptical towards the odds of finding a long-term relationship through dating apps. But both in real life and online, there are different people who you just wouldn’t get along with and people who you really click with.

According to Imperial College Business School’s data, in the UK, 32 percent of relationships started between 2015 and 2019 originated online. This is quite a significant increase from 19 percent during the period recorded earlier between 2005 and 2014.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Not really original controversies, but the most egregious is the misspelling of lettuce.

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The Imperial Business School predicts that by 2035, more people will be in relationships that started online rather than meeting through friends, family or at other social gatherings. Online dating definitely has its pros and cons and to make the experience smoother, tips like Amanda’s will surely come in handy.

What is your experience with dating apps? Will you be trying to ask for controversial opinions from now on? What is your take on the answers TikTokers got there? Leave us your thoughts and reactions in the comments!

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2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

As a cyclist who has been hit by a car, AND lived in the Netherlands, I agree that we can't safely co-exist on small roads - car drivers get impatient when they have to (god forbid) slow down to safely pass a cyclist. But it's not like they are suffering - they're just sitting there in a comfy seat, shaking their fist at someone who ALSO pays taxes for the same road.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I guess you're allowed to feel weird if you get hit on by someone from the same gender? I mean, as long as that doesn't become a reason to treat someone else like crap.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Also could be viruses and diseases which have been frozen in Antarctica which are melting, but sure, real estate is a priority as opposed to a second pandemic and destroying the planet

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

when someone says "free will is a lie", run away! They are just laying the groundwork for not having to take any blame or responsibility for their actions. And don't we all know at least one person who is NEVER to blame?

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

don't worry, I won't get you started because I know all I need to from that one statement.

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Chiuki
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

But actually that's NOT a fact - that's your opinion - there's a difference. There are 2 gender majorities, but those are not the ONLY genders.

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thatmagicgaychick
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

everyone saying gender is made-up: it's really not. I don't know how to explain it, it's deeply ingrained in your head to the point where it's just kind of *there*, but you would definitely notice its absence.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I don't know why some people who strongly identify with one of the 2 conventional genders (and I am one as well) get so offended that others may not. How does it affect them?

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Gender is a social and emotional concept (sex is the biological classification, and I think many people still struggle with the difference). As a result, no matter how many labels/boxes we create to try and capture everyone, there will still be people who struggle to fully identify as one of the limited number of options available. As a result, I find it difficult to identify any value in gender as a concept. I much prefer the approach of accepting that biological sex isn't an appropriate way of choosing to treat people differently and to try and treat everyone equally and without making any assumptions about what kind of genitalia they have, what they like to do with it, or it having any bearing on how they like to live as an individual person.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

There's a vast difference between a controversial opinion and a blatantly ignorant one.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Whacking off your d*ck, getting some fake boobs, and growing your hair & nails doesn't make you a "woman", it makes you a dude in a dress.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yet so many people can't tell the difference between that sexual orientation, or feeling like they might be in the wrong body. Unless they literally have both sets of reproductive organs. When will people get it right, mixing up things because they don't want to be identified as either male or female won't help them when they are at the doctors and need to be treated accordingly to their actual gender if they claim their neither or something completely different. But logic doesn't exist for everyone

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The idiocy of equating sex and gender leaves baffled every time. I blame it on the English language having logical and not grammatical gender.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Actually, If we are talking birth-wise, there is three. Male, female, and intersêx. (Intersêx is when you are born as both male and female btw)

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I have a controversial opinion. I believe there are more genders, but not to the proportion that are often claimed.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

People conflate sex and gender. There are two sexes. Gender is a social construct and you can have as many of those as you want, they're socially constructed, most of them will go away again anyway.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That’s why we call it gender identity. You are either male or female-but you don’t have to call yourself that.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You were born a boy or a girl, it really can't be that hard to understand.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Boy, you're going to have a hard time when you learn about Androgen Insensitivity Syndrome. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Androgen_insensitivity_syndrome

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm just gonna go ahead and say it again. Gender is stupid as f**k. Death to whoever the hell this is.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Not a fact. There are unusual chromosome combinations and such things as "testicular feminization", where someone is born XY but is androgen insensitive and looks female.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

There are THREE physical genders, male, female, intersex. BUT the chemical genders are endless, we never completely know *exactly* how our brains will form in the womb, or how our hormone levels will shift. (Also, it is proven that Transgender and the like exist chemically in the brain, due to the part of the brain that deals with gender identity being formed identical to the gender they identify as.)

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Not even sex in humans is binary due to mutations, and gender expression which is a SOCIAL CONCEPT is far more complex than that. There are more than two genders, non-human animals express themselves in different ways too and they too have their own cultures. This person just clearly isn't educated.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It is body shaming when you feel the need to put someone down for their appearance based on of what YOU believe is a standard for beauty or health. If that's the case, you're an a-hole

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