Women Are Saving Time On Dating Apps By Asking For Controversial Opinions As The First Thing And These Are 30 Answers They Got
The internet can be a wonderful tool to use to connect with people that are like-minded, that can help you with your problems or that can become your romantic partners in the future. There are numerous apps which can assist you with the latter. But if you have any experience with those apps, you realize that there are so many people who don’t share the same values as you and it turns out that you just wasted your time getting to know a person with whom you can’t see yourself.
But after some time, you find some tricks and control questions that immediately reveal if the conversation is worth continuing. TikToker Amanda N went viral with 9 million views for sharing her method of asking the other person to tell their most controversial opinion and showing their answers. Other TikTokers joined the trend too and we found out that this simple question actually reveals a lot about a person.
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Amanda N posted her video earlier this month and 9.4 million people were interested to hear what she said. And apparently people thought that her advice is really useful and is a time-saver when it comes to finding out if the conversation is worth continuing and if the person is worth their time because the video also has 1.4 million likes and has started a bit of a trend.
Other people on TikTok started creating videos similar to Amanda’s using the same song in the background and showing what their matches on dating apps were saying were their most controversial opinions.
The "Unwind" Series is based kinda like a what if around this opinion. Very good and thought inducing
I will probably get downvoted, and I’m sorry if I am misinterpreting this, but I kind of agree! (I swear that I don’t mean to say anything rude, ever!)
I don't think it's supposed to be alarming. It's supposed to be an answer to the question.
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May I add...if you're a man, you're a mister all your life. If you're a woman, you start out as a Miss, move on to a Miz, and might become a Missus. There's no valid 21st century reason for this...except for a man to identify whether a woman is single or married.
Yes - we women have always been labelled as our status *relative to men.* That is bu11s**t.
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Personally I think we should just get rid of them both and NOT replace them with anything. For one even a new gender-neutral word can have its meaning twisted and userped by people with an agenda, just like ANY word technically can - just have to look at how the words "queer" and "gay" have had their meanings changed over the years to see an example of this. Queer used to mean 'out of the ordinary, unusual, strange, odd, different' (but not necessarily just in a negative way, it was used positively too as more of a statement of observation) and then it became a slur against non-straight/non-cis people and now it's being taken by non-straight/non-cis people and turned into something far more positive. Almost the exact same thing happened with "gay" - used to mean 'happy, joyous, full of spirit, energetic', then became a slur against non-straight/non-cis people, now has been taken by non-straight/non-cis people and turned into something more positive.
Secondly, the whole reason these honorifics exist in the first place don't come from a positive place that we, in the 21st Century, should be continuing or trying to fill. The male version "Sir" was designed to make you feel automatically respectful and subservient to a "better man" than yourself and basically put you in your place - we don't want that sort of thing now so that needs to go and NOT be replaced. And the female versions "Miss, Mrs and Ms." were solely designed to publicly denote the marital status of a woman - well that's nobody's business but your own. There's no reason for them to exist any more so THOSE can also go and NOT be replaced. And as for it being "just" a "fancy greeting"? In a world trying to be MORE inclusive the very existence of such a thing would still cause exclusions because then it would be about who it's used on and who it isn't and when its used, unless it's used all the time which makes it no longer fancy and needing to exist.
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This is actually very thoughtful and inclusive, very nice! I feel very uncomfortable when people call me "madam" or something.
I think there really needs to be a gender neutral title though, im non binary and people cant tell whether im a boy or a girl so don’t know what to adress me as
Considering how humans treat one another, I think it's safe to say we can dispense with the overblown formalities. Besides, gender fluidity has made these gender terms antiquated.
Yes! make it like Perse or smth. like short for Person. if thats a word in another language im sorry lol i cant be bothered to check
Get inspired by the French Revolution, try "citizen". 😆 Well in French it is not gender neutral as it is "citoyen" and "citoyenne" But at least you don't have the married/not married thing for women 😁
I mean, correct me if I'm wrong, but isn't the default pronoun of the English language masculine? If I'm incorrect please tell me
So for me I'm a believer in, if you have a vja ja then you're female and if you have a w***y you're male!!!! I understand trans in the form of people believing they were born the opposite sex as there is sometimes evidence in that, but, I'm sorry I'm not buying this gender neutral business. You're one of the other!!!
What? Your arguments are not very good.
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What's wrong with the male and female distinctions. We should use their own unique words like confused, mentally ill, and just plane stupid. Come on ladies and gentleman what's your problem.
I find it confusing to call someone they or them. Have you heard yourself doing that? It's awkward, at times even hilarious. Like a third party, being oblivious and expecting one more for diner to come over when 'them' are coming too. And you can never just simply explain or someone will always be offended. It's true.
We can’t know if those people who were sharing the answers showed everything they received or just the ones that were actually controversial and borderline concerning, but even if they showed the worst messages they got, there were too many of them.
Some of the answers were more lighthearted, like liking a specific movie or having an opinion about food. But others were highly political, racist or sexist, immediately indicating that person's core values.
Too bad that wouldn't work for many jobs like construction, transit, people on call etc.
Yeah, I'm a woman and I don't get the almost comically long nails some women have. The ones about as long as half their finger again. They're not practical for anything; you could literally have someone's eye out and fingernails on a keyboard is way more annoying than fingernails on a chalkboard - the latter is limited by the size of the board, you'd have a brief pause while they reposition their fingers. But on a keyboard they could theoretically be at it for 8 WHOLE HOURS (theoretically, because I'd have thrown their damn computer out the window before the first hour is up)
Not really controversial. We all land on a spectrum in oh-so-many areas. :-)
People are often skeptical towards the odds of finding a long-term relationship through dating apps. But both in real life and online, there are different people who you just wouldn’t get along with and people who you really click with.
According to Imperial College Business School’s data, in the UK, 32 percent of relationships started between 2015 and 2019 originated online. This is quite a significant increase from 19 percent during the period recorded earlier between 2005 and 2014.
The Imperial Business School predicts that by 2035, more people will be in relationships that started online rather than meeting through friends, family or at other social gatherings. Online dating definitely has its pros and cons and to make the experience smoother, tips like Amanda’s will surely come in handy.
What is your experience with dating apps? Will you be trying to ask for controversial opinions from now on? What is your take on the answers TikTokers got there? Leave us your thoughts and reactions in the comments!
probably not as evil and bad as "the purge" style of no government, though
As a cyclist who has been hit by a car, AND lived in the Netherlands, I agree that we can't safely co-exist on small roads - car drivers get impatient when they have to (god forbid) slow down to safely pass a cyclist. But it's not like they are suffering - they're just sitting there in a comfy seat, shaking their fist at someone who ALSO pays taxes for the same road.
Yes omg we were debating this at school last year and it never did get resolved
I guess you're allowed to feel weird if you get hit on by someone from the same gender? I mean, as long as that doesn't become a reason to treat someone else like crap.
Also could be viruses and diseases which have been frozen in Antarctica which are melting, but sure, real estate is a priority as opposed to a second pandemic and destroying the planet
when someone says "free will is a lie", run away! They are just laying the groundwork for not having to take any blame or responsibility for their actions. And don't we all know at least one person who is NEVER to blame?
don't worry, I won't get you started because I know all I need to from that one statement.
All you need to do is look at the statistics to know this is false.
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My controversial opinion is that it's okay to not have an opinion about something that has no impact on your own life. You can say "I don't have any opinion on that" and that's acceptable. NOT acceptable is saying you don't have an opinion on something while forwarding an agenda that clearly demonstrates that you do have one, however. That's just denial.
It's disgusting when people's opinions are just flat out misogynist, racist, homophobic, etc.
Load More Replies... My controversial opinion: I believe that every person on this planet needs therapy to some degree.
My controversial opinion: Space aliens are really us from the future, who've invented time travel to come back here to ensure some major event does/does not happen to ensure their own future.
Many of these were disgustingly misogynist, racist, homophobic etc. And of course untrue.
My most controversial opinion: oreos are disgusting and so are m&m's and come to think of it most American candy
Remember Harambe? He wasn’t the one who should have been shot. No one is special. You’re a terrible person. A hot dog is neither a sandy or a taco. Fight me.
I think this is a great idea to screen potential dates and save yourself a lot of time and energy.
They will quickly learn this is a test and they will learn to pass it. So, it can't be anything more than a passing fad.
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Absolutely agree with you until I tried the roasted garlic flavor.
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I know, tik tok is a thing now, but, never seen a youtube trend talking here. Wonder why. Feels uncomfortable every time, i see a article about tik tok here.
Controversial opinion: Opioides can be good for some people and work, kind of, opposite to what is expected. When I started using them for a chronic pain, I also recognized something had changed in my thinking - I can now focus on stuff. If all your thoughts are read of and written into a book, my book stood next to an open window for more than 20 years, and now, I closed this window, get things done, am pretty good at my job, regardless of having very low experience in that specific field, and therefore, should not have to lie in order to get proper medication. But ... but, if I do tell this, it won't be believed by many, seen as an excuse to get high ... high? As a daily user, I never get high. Haven't been for years now - totally fine. May not be for all people, but ... I don't fug with other people's needs and beliefs, yet mine likely are taken as an excuse just to get high, regardless of daily use prevents even slight highs from happening.
@ DC yes, my comment is only meant to help if I can I'm a healer it's in my nature and I'm always happy to share the things I've learned in my 22 years in healthcare. I'm not judging you nor do I think any less of you for needing medication. I know some physicians just prescribe medication instead of doing tests to find out the cause of pain and while that's not doing any harm it's not doing everything that can be done. I only wanted to help you if that's the case. Over 20 years a lot of advancements have been made in treating chronic intractable pain. I wish you well and nothing but the best!
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Probably, but in large state societies, there has not yet been found a system that results in a higher standard of living or happiness index. My bigger problem with it is that it has the side effect of destroying the environment. And because we are reaching a point of non-fixable destruction, that makes capitalism and the human species in general basically more evil than anything we've seen since the asteroid destroyed the dinosaurs.
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A hot dog is, in fact, a taco. A taco is the only other food that has meat held by the shell/bun on three 'sides'. (Yes, I'm mostly joking, but I will stand by this.)
My controversial opinion: You can be anti-religion without being a bigot. In other words, you can be against the dogma and controlling aspects of a religion (any religion) and not hate the adherents of said religion(s). So saying "XYZreligion is dangerous mind control with violent features" is not analog to XYZreligion-phobia or hating against XYZ-ers.
These questions are saving time for both the woman and the man.
My controversial opinion: staunch heartedly labeling yourself and things puts a further divide between people. It breeds mistrust/racism/civil unrest/intolerance. Instead of shutting down at dividing lines we should be having open and honest communication even if it ends in a non hostile agree to disagree.
I'm curious what they would get if they asked women their most controversial opinion.
Jaffa cakes are a biscuit! You can dunk them in tea and everything. Although personally, those dunking Jaffa cakes in tea are hell bound anyway. The only decent dunking biscuit is a squashed fly biscuit. Full stop, end of discussion.
Cakes go hard when stale and biscuits go soft. What does a Jaffa cake do? It's a teeny tiny chocolate covered cake and the sooner you come to terms with it the better you'll feel. Although a I agree there's a special circle of hell for people that dunk them in tea. Custard creams kick the s'"+ out if any other tea dunker.
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My controversial opinion: Posting screenshots of private conversations online is beyond rude. Preventing imminent harm to others is the only exception.
If you identify the other person, sure. These do not.
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My controversial opinion is that it's okay to not have an opinion about something that has no impact on your own life. You can say "I don't have any opinion on that" and that's acceptable. NOT acceptable is saying you don't have an opinion on something while forwarding an agenda that clearly demonstrates that you do have one, however. That's just denial.
It's disgusting when people's opinions are just flat out misogynist, racist, homophobic, etc.
Load More Replies... My controversial opinion: I believe that every person on this planet needs therapy to some degree.
My controversial opinion: Space aliens are really us from the future, who've invented time travel to come back here to ensure some major event does/does not happen to ensure their own future.
Many of these were disgustingly misogynist, racist, homophobic etc. And of course untrue.
My most controversial opinion: oreos are disgusting and so are m&m's and come to think of it most American candy
Remember Harambe? He wasn’t the one who should have been shot. No one is special. You’re a terrible person. A hot dog is neither a sandy or a taco. Fight me.
I think this is a great idea to screen potential dates and save yourself a lot of time and energy.
They will quickly learn this is a test and they will learn to pass it. So, it can't be anything more than a passing fad.
Load More Replies... Absolutely agree with you until I tried the roasted garlic flavor.
Load More Replies... I know, tik tok is a thing now, but, never seen a youtube trend talking here. Wonder why. Feels uncomfortable every time, i see a article about tik tok here.
Controversial opinion: Opioides can be good for some people and work, kind of, opposite to what is expected. When I started using them for a chronic pain, I also recognized something had changed in my thinking - I can now focus on stuff. If all your thoughts are read of and written into a book, my book stood next to an open window for more than 20 years, and now, I closed this window, get things done, am pretty good at my job, regardless of having very low experience in that specific field, and therefore, should not have to lie in order to get proper medication. But ... but, if I do tell this, it won't be believed by many, seen as an excuse to get high ... high? As a daily user, I never get high. Haven't been for years now - totally fine. May not be for all people, but ... I don't fug with other people's needs and beliefs, yet mine likely are taken as an excuse just to get high, regardless of daily use prevents even slight highs from happening.
@ DC yes, my comment is only meant to help if I can I'm a healer it's in my nature and I'm always happy to share the things I've learned in my 22 years in healthcare. I'm not judging you nor do I think any less of you for needing medication. I know some physicians just prescribe medication instead of doing tests to find out the cause of pain and while that's not doing any harm it's not doing everything that can be done. I only wanted to help you if that's the case. Over 20 years a lot of advancements have been made in treating chronic intractable pain. I wish you well and nothing but the best!
Load More Replies... Probably, but in large state societies, there has not yet been found a system that results in a higher standard of living or happiness index. My bigger problem with it is that it has the side effect of destroying the environment. And because we are reaching a point of non-fixable destruction, that makes capitalism and the human species in general basically more evil than anything we've seen since the asteroid destroyed the dinosaurs.
Load More Replies... A hot dog is, in fact, a taco. A taco is the only other food that has meat held by the shell/bun on three 'sides'. (Yes, I'm mostly joking, but I will stand by this.)
My controversial opinion: You can be anti-religion without being a bigot. In other words, you can be against the dogma and controlling aspects of a religion (any religion) and not hate the adherents of said religion(s). So saying "XYZreligion is dangerous mind control with violent features" is not analog to XYZreligion-phobia or hating against XYZ-ers.
These questions are saving time for both the woman and the man.
My controversial opinion: staunch heartedly labeling yourself and things puts a further divide between people. It breeds mistrust/racism/civil unrest/intolerance. Instead of shutting down at dividing lines we should be having open and honest communication even if it ends in a non hostile agree to disagree.
I'm curious what they would get if they asked women their most controversial opinion.
Jaffa cakes are a biscuit! You can dunk them in tea and everything. Although personally, those dunking Jaffa cakes in tea are hell bound anyway. The only decent dunking biscuit is a squashed fly biscuit. Full stop, end of discussion.
Cakes go hard when stale and biscuits go soft. What does a Jaffa cake do? It's a teeny tiny chocolate covered cake and the sooner you come to terms with it the better you'll feel. Although a I agree there's a special circle of hell for people that dunk them in tea. Custard creams kick the s'"+ out if any other tea dunker.
Load More Replies... My controversial opinion: Posting screenshots of private conversations online is beyond rude. Preventing imminent harm to others is the only exception.
If you identify the other person, sure. These do not.
Load More Replies... What if the death row inmate is later found to be innocent?
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