Controlling Mom Loses It When Her Adult Daughter Stops Her From Tracking Her Location At All Times
For those of you who had controlling parents, the nightmare was most likely over as soon as you started your adult life. It wasn’t easy juggling new responsibilities, bills, student loans, and a new mode of life, but it was all worth it and made you who you are today.
Except in the instances where parents just won’t let you off the leash. And for one 19-year-old woman, having her location constantly tracked by her mom was part of her teenage years. Naturally, it put a strain on their relationship and the daughter moved out to start her independent life.
“When I moved out, I told myself that I would turn off my GPS, but when I did, it caused a fight and she threatened to take away my car,” the author has shared her story on r/AITA. Mom insisted her daughter was hiding something and that she was out of her mind for cutting the tracker off. Let’s read the full story below, and share your thoughts in the comments below.
The 19-year-old daughter had enough of her mom tracking her location so she decided to turn it off, but mom was less than happy with it
Image credits: Liza Summer (not the actual photo)
Bored Panda reached out to Anita Cleare, a parenting expert, director of The Positive Parenting Project, and author of “The Work/Parent Switch” who shared a couple of useful insights about controlling parents.
“I can understand why some parents use location tracking with younger teens as a way to help keep them safe,” Anita said in connection to the case. “But there comes a time when parents need to let go and allow their children to take responsibility for themselves as young adults,” she added.
The parenting expert is wondering why a parent feels the need to know where their 19-year-old is at all times in the first place. “Spending time with friends is essential for young people’s mental health and well-being and, for many, that includes staying out late and being spontaneous. Each young person is different but our job as parents is to equip them with the skills they need to keep themselves safe rather than always watching over them,” Anita explained.
When asked what could be possible reasons for why some parents control their kids so much, Anita said that it can be really hard to let go. “Being the parent of a teenager means transitioning from being the center of your child’s world to on the periphery, and that can be painful for parents.”
“If our teenager has not always been good at making sensible decisions, it can be hard to trust them even when they become young adults. We all fear for our children, and the teenage years can be especially scary for parents,” the parenting expert explained.
However, “allowing our teens to become independent young people who make their own decisions is essential. And that also means respecting their right to privacy,” Anita concluded.
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NTA. When my sister graduated from high school, she wanted to go to college. She got the applications and financial aid forms, but back then, people who were under 23 and whose parents made decent money had to have a parent sign off on the financial aid. My sister brought the paperwork to our mother. My mother told her that our father refused to sign off on them because he thought she should go to a local community college. Turns out, my mother never showed the paperwork to our father and lied because she thought my sister, being overweight, would have a miserable time at college and get picked on. In actuality, I think my mother was afraid that my sister, being the most responsible of us kids, would leave and never come back. I hated my mother for sabotaging my sister's future.
It's still the case that parents have to sign the FAFSA and no matter if you're doing college completely on your own, your parents' income determines how much financial aid you get.
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In a nutshell; adult woman cuts ties with a controlling bitch, seeks confirmation on the internet that she isn't the one who is crazy.
Sometimes people need to hear it from others. This abusive parent has been gaslighting this poor kid for her entire life - to the point where the writer doesn't know what normal looks like.
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Surely mom playing "oh I can only track you with iphone", while hiding the fact she put a tracker bug in the car and a few other places? I'd be checking the lining of any coat or sizable object I've been "given", for bugs.
NTA. When my sister graduated from high school, she wanted to go to college. She got the applications and financial aid forms, but back then, people who were under 23 and whose parents made decent money had to have a parent sign off on the financial aid. My sister brought the paperwork to our mother. My mother told her that our father refused to sign off on them because he thought she should go to a local community college. Turns out, my mother never showed the paperwork to our father and lied because she thought my sister, being overweight, would have a miserable time at college and get picked on. In actuality, I think my mother was afraid that my sister, being the most responsible of us kids, would leave and never come back. I hated my mother for sabotaging my sister's future.
It's still the case that parents have to sign the FAFSA and no matter if you're doing college completely on your own, your parents' income determines how much financial aid you get.
Load More Replies... In a nutshell; adult woman cuts ties with a controlling bitch, seeks confirmation on the internet that she isn't the one who is crazy.
Sometimes people need to hear it from others. This abusive parent has been gaslighting this poor kid for her entire life - to the point where the writer doesn't know what normal looks like.
Load More Replies... Surely mom playing "oh I can only track you with iphone", while hiding the fact she put a tracker bug in the car and a few other places? I'd be checking the lining of any coat or sizable object I've been "given", for bugs.
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