Rich Girl Confesses She Resents Her Boyfriend Because He Can’t Spoil Her, Gets Shut Down With Responses
We all have our core values and dating really highlights them. For example, your Tinder match takes you to the cemetery for a wine tasting and suddenly you realize that alcohol doesn’t play an important role in your life. One woman, however, needed a few “signs” to come to the conclusion that her boyfriend wasn’t ideal for her. You know, because it’s his fault that she’s not satisfied with receiving a $30 Valentine’s gift. Or the fact that his family only has two properties. Probably looking for someone to relate to, she anonymously posted her thoughts to “Confessions from UC Berkeley.” Unfortunately for her, instead of support people sympathized with her boyfriend, not her. In fact, they felt so sorry for him, they wanted to her to break up with him.
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Sadly, money is one of the major reasons people break up. According to a study by LearnVest, nearly one in four (24 percent) of Americans have split with a partner because of financial issues. It appears that the weight of debt and lack of safety are particularly problematic, with the study stating that the top financial expectations people had for their significant others were to pay down debt (51 percent) and build up savings (44 percent).
Moreover, a study published in Proceedings of the Royal Society B, pointed out that people in higher social classes have a lesser tendency toward “wise reasoning” than those in lower ranks. Igor Grossmann, the co-author of the research and an associate professor of psychology at the University of Waterloo, defined wise reasoning as something “more about how to manage knowledge and how to figure out a solution.” He told NBC News BETTER that it includes open-mindedness, intellectual humility, flexibility, and empathy, saying that “it’s a collection of strategies that help you deal with uncertain situations in contrast to situations that are well-defined.”
Across two in-depth studies (one of which assessed participants’ views on a Dear Abby letter), Grossman and his team came to the conclusion that those who belong to the upper-class are “associated with a lower propensity of reasoning wisely in interpersonal situations.” To put it in other words, rich people are less likely than poorer people to exhibit flexibility, empathy and all the other traits that make up wise reason when it comes to having a relationship.
People were really sorry for the guy she was dating
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This reminds me of a story I heard on NPR years ago. There was a young college student that was a nanny in the summer to help with spending money. What the parents who hired her didn't know was that she was the granddaughter of Warren Buffett. He pays for all of their college, books, dorm, food, etc., however if they wanted anything further they had to work for it. That is the way you raise responsible adults that don't feel like everything should be handed to them.
Princess Di was also a nanny before she married jug ears.
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Well that's what you get for entering a courtship with a man whose family only has a single last name. You're a disgrace to your family, Penelope Margaret Catherine Abernathy-Hollingsworth!
I was set up on a date with a girl. It seemed to go well, she was easy on the eyes and had a nice personality. However she didn't follow up with wanting to go on a second date. She told me she only dates people who make a minimum of $X She had a minimum allowable salary for people she dated. Oh well. I told her that's OK. A few weeks later a mutual friend /coworker told her I make much more that $X. Because of this she called me and asked me out. I told her no. Explained that she wouldn't like me, because "I'm still the same person you met before" I understand her point. She only had so much time to date before she found a husband. Maybe it would have worked out, maybe not.
I knew someone like that. She's married four times. She was never faithful to any of her husbands. Yes, she benefitted from each marriage financially and is now extremely comfortably off. Yet she's bitter and lonely. People like that are high maintenance and lack that core of genuine decency. They wouldn't stand by someone in times of trouble and I doubt they'd be faithful. Their values are too outwardly focused. Everything would be about them all the time.
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Yeah, she's terrible. But imagine having such a low self-confidence, that you need to emphasize that a woman (your mum) is earning more than your partner's dad. Are we still in the 50's that I, as a woman need to have a less valued job so insecure little twats (of both sexes) don't feel threatened?
Sad to see posts like this. First off, why put it out there... was she really expecting pitty from random strangers? And second, I am assuming that she gets this "attitude" from her parents, especially since she uses the word "caste" - thus the cycle will probably continue if/when she breeds.
Does anyone know how to check what caste you're in? I never checked my wife's caste before I married her - what is she's in a different caste than me? Is that grounds for annullment? She should have disclosed her caste.
No one is of more value due to the nature of their birth, Their parents may have more material products of value---that is all. Absolutely DISGUSTING, and beneath contempt.
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English is not my native language. But I think I mastered english enough to discuss my thoughts with people from other countries. Anyways this time I had to google again the meaning of "to spoil sth". I again found only negative translations as I remembered. Why is this person using this term as something positive? As something desirable? Can please some native english speaker explain if there is a different meaning or if this person is just garbage.
Yes, this person is just garbage. You understood it well!
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If all you are concerned about is how much your boyfriend spends when he "spoils you," then it's not really love. Here's hoping he's realized that. But to those that say "I hope he breaks up with you and finds someone better." Nah..let him stay with her long enough to collect some of those seven properties and high wages. And if he's majoring in CS..it's only a matter of time before you're too cheap to be with him, honey.
Oh, and to Troffels that commented that they thought they were reading a diary entry from 1882, with her antiquated theories about what constitutes love...it may as well have been.
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She is going to make some man very miserable some day. And after the divorce she can make another man miserable.... then another
If she uses the word caste, she might be Indian actually.... And it is ingrained into them just how different the castes are there... She is despicable of course but still it makes sense IF she is Indian...
So if you are born in the "right" family, it is ok to be an a*****e? Other parts of the world also ended stupid traditions.
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It's sad to see so many people nowadays who don't care about anything but money. Please, get your act together and realize if you love somebody, they shouldn't have to be rich!
"He is of the right caste"??????????? Wow. She doesn´t even begin with "I love my boyfriend" or something like that. Straight for the jugular here.
He should find a better woman, what girlfriend in their right mind WOULDN'T want to spoil their boyfriend rotten? Why should the man always have to do the spoiling? I would love to be a successful rich lady and just make my money rain over him. Plus give a bunch to family and donate to good causes, I mean, if I have millions more then we need, why not help out...
Why did she date him, if she knew right off the bat that they were not "economically compatible" Was it to make herself feel superior in her own rich mind? The materialistic thinking in this article is mind boggling.
I bet she’s pretty, women like this always are. They never match their personalities. This is why men should value a woman for more than her looks because otherwise you’ll be stuck with one like this.
Exactly - looks will fade eventually. A decent personality will remain.
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HOpe that guy was the one to dump her, and publicly, and find a very decent and kind woman while this entitled princess was met with "an unfortunate accident" on her yacht by her manipulative gold-digging husband
I had to go back and reread that she said "ok caste" my thoughts were, did she really just say that. I am shocked to read this statement from someone who has never struggled a day in her life and is starting 50 steps ahead of the minority people and 20 head from the rest. She needs to be knocked down a couple of castes herself.
The only reason she made "confessions from uc Berkeley" is so other spoilt brats can agree with her
Wow, seeing this makes me really angry. She should be grateful he actually went and got her a present, despite being "poor". Plus, a $30 gift really isn't so bad. If it were me I'd be really touched. Some people in the world just don't know how to appreciate others.
I used to know a guy (we were not friend very long...) who refused to work before his parents' belongings were worth a million euros, and "he just had to wait that he inherits from them"...
Whilst that is a disgusting attitude at least he wasn't taking the job from someone who needed it.
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Only a complete entitled moron could go to Cal and think they could get away with using the word "caste".
If her parents lost their wealth, she would have no life skills to survive. Also, what if she has an unwed pregnancy with one of the poor? I doubt her family would financially support her. This guy dodged a bullet. She sounds like a whiny toddler.
Since you have so much money why the F don't you spoil yourself?!?!?! Why TF do you need someone else to buy you expensive things when you can afford them? I make enough money and I would never expect my boyfriend to "spoil" me with expensive gifts. If I want to get something I would save up and get it for myself.
I've stayed with my hubby even when he was broke. I still love him and love him no matter what
I was working with a young chap from RSA for £7.5 as a hospitality hostess. Fantastic and intelligent guy. Pleasure to work with. I did know nothing untill 2008 global crush, when he started to be worried about his dad as dad's company was losing a couple of million pounds per week.... His mum has her own helicopter and dad a little jet. But.... this young chap was sent to the real world to get an experience to be a good boss in the future. We all loved him before we knew his status and after too...
don''t get married, princess, until you get done with your unreasonable expectations
continued from below....and do what you have to do. She upped the ante by throwing tantrums. I asked for a cooling off period. She divorced me. Then the jerk had the nerve to ask for half the equity in my house (her name was not on the title since I had it when we got married). Why? She said it really hurt her and cost her a lot to clean the house. She felt she had made such an investment (boo-hoo) that she deserved half house. She didn't get it. The stress of getting married and leaving her mother at the tender age of 32 must have pushed her over the edge. Sorry for the complaint, but catharsis like this helps the healing process. Don't get married, princess, until you have shed all of your unreasonable expectations. Why not hold out for a billionaire? They date the regular girls for fun, but like to marry princesses like you.
I married a spoiled brat just like you....she lied her way into the marriage, acted like a complete jerk until I asked for a separation, and then lied her way out of the marriage...and for good measure, proceeded to destroy my reputation. The poor dear cleaned house exactly once in the short marriage. She did not cook, but said we had to go out to eat every night. She insisted we buy a new house that would have cost more every month than my paycheck brought in because she was ashamed to bring her friends over to my house I already owned. We talked every saturday afternoon for 6 weeks going through a marriage prep class book my pastor gave us. No problem, she said, she knew who she was marrying & what she was getting in to...The last straw was when she gave me an ultimatum that I had to get rid of my cat. She had just had new kittens. It bothered wifey that there were cats in the garage. She insisted I take the cat & her kittens to the pound & put them to sleep. I said no.
This seems like one of those banal over the top oh look at how spoilt I am trolling posts put out there just for some attention. Best way to deal with it is to stop responding to it because otherwise we will have to put up with more nonsense like this post and those stupid fake confrontational videos people put up hoping they go viral and hence become "famous". Please please stop reacting to these dicktards.
This reminds me of a story I heard on NPR years ago. There was a young college student that was a nanny in the summer to help with spending money. What the parents who hired her didn't know was that she was the granddaughter of Warren Buffett. He pays for all of their college, books, dorm, food, etc., however if they wanted anything further they had to work for it. That is the way you raise responsible adults that don't feel like everything should be handed to them.
Princess Di was also a nanny before she married jug ears.
Load More Replies... Well that's what you get for entering a courtship with a man whose family only has a single last name. You're a disgrace to your family, Penelope Margaret Catherine Abernathy-Hollingsworth!
I was set up on a date with a girl. It seemed to go well, she was easy on the eyes and had a nice personality. However she didn't follow up with wanting to go on a second date. She told me she only dates people who make a minimum of $X She had a minimum allowable salary for people she dated. Oh well. I told her that's OK. A few weeks later a mutual friend /coworker told her I make much more that $X. Because of this she called me and asked me out. I told her no. Explained that she wouldn't like me, because "I'm still the same person you met before" I understand her point. She only had so much time to date before she found a husband. Maybe it would have worked out, maybe not.
I knew someone like that. She's married four times. She was never faithful to any of her husbands. Yes, she benefitted from each marriage financially and is now extremely comfortably off. Yet she's bitter and lonely. People like that are high maintenance and lack that core of genuine decency. They wouldn't stand by someone in times of trouble and I doubt they'd be faithful. Their values are too outwardly focused. Everything would be about them all the time.
Load More Replies... Yeah, she's terrible. But imagine having such a low self-confidence, that you need to emphasize that a woman (your mum) is earning more than your partner's dad. Are we still in the 50's that I, as a woman need to have a less valued job so insecure little twats (of both sexes) don't feel threatened?
Sad to see posts like this. First off, why put it out there... was she really expecting pitty from random strangers? And second, I am assuming that she gets this "attitude" from her parents, especially since she uses the word "caste" - thus the cycle will probably continue if/when she breeds.
Does anyone know how to check what caste you're in? I never checked my wife's caste before I married her - what is she's in a different caste than me? Is that grounds for annullment? She should have disclosed her caste.
No one is of more value due to the nature of their birth, Their parents may have more material products of value---that is all. Absolutely DISGUSTING, and beneath contempt.
Load More Replies... English is not my native language. But I think I mastered english enough to discuss my thoughts with people from other countries. Anyways this time I had to google again the meaning of "to spoil sth". I again found only negative translations as I remembered. Why is this person using this term as something positive? As something desirable? Can please some native english speaker explain if there is a different meaning or if this person is just garbage.
Yes, this person is just garbage. You understood it well!
Load More Replies... If all you are concerned about is how much your boyfriend spends when he "spoils you," then it's not really love. Here's hoping he's realized that. But to those that say "I hope he breaks up with you and finds someone better." Nah..let him stay with her long enough to collect some of those seven properties and high wages. And if he's majoring in CS..it's only a matter of time before you're too cheap to be with him, honey.
Oh, and to Troffels that commented that they thought they were reading a diary entry from 1882, with her antiquated theories about what constitutes love...it may as well have been.
Load More Replies... She is going to make some man very miserable some day. And after the divorce she can make another man miserable.... then another
If she uses the word caste, she might be Indian actually.... And it is ingrained into them just how different the castes are there... She is despicable of course but still it makes sense IF she is Indian...
So if you are born in the "right" family, it is ok to be an a*****e? Other parts of the world also ended stupid traditions.
Load More Replies... It's sad to see so many people nowadays who don't care about anything but money. Please, get your act together and realize if you love somebody, they shouldn't have to be rich!
"He is of the right caste"??????????? Wow. She doesn´t even begin with "I love my boyfriend" or something like that. Straight for the jugular here.
He should find a better woman, what girlfriend in their right mind WOULDN'T want to spoil their boyfriend rotten? Why should the man always have to do the spoiling? I would love to be a successful rich lady and just make my money rain over him. Plus give a bunch to family and donate to good causes, I mean, if I have millions more then we need, why not help out...
Why did she date him, if she knew right off the bat that they were not "economically compatible" Was it to make herself feel superior in her own rich mind? The materialistic thinking in this article is mind boggling.
I bet she’s pretty, women like this always are. They never match their personalities. This is why men should value a woman for more than her looks because otherwise you’ll be stuck with one like this.
Exactly - looks will fade eventually. A decent personality will remain.
Load More Replies... HOpe that guy was the one to dump her, and publicly, and find a very decent and kind woman while this entitled princess was met with "an unfortunate accident" on her yacht by her manipulative gold-digging husband
I had to go back and reread that she said "ok caste" my thoughts were, did she really just say that. I am shocked to read this statement from someone who has never struggled a day in her life and is starting 50 steps ahead of the minority people and 20 head from the rest. She needs to be knocked down a couple of castes herself.
The only reason she made "confessions from uc Berkeley" is so other spoilt brats can agree with her
Wow, seeing this makes me really angry. She should be grateful he actually went and got her a present, despite being "poor". Plus, a $30 gift really isn't so bad. If it were me I'd be really touched. Some people in the world just don't know how to appreciate others.
I used to know a guy (we were not friend very long...) who refused to work before his parents' belongings were worth a million euros, and "he just had to wait that he inherits from them"...
Whilst that is a disgusting attitude at least he wasn't taking the job from someone who needed it.
Load More Replies... Only a complete entitled moron could go to Cal and think they could get away with using the word "caste".
If her parents lost their wealth, she would have no life skills to survive. Also, what if she has an unwed pregnancy with one of the poor? I doubt her family would financially support her. This guy dodged a bullet. She sounds like a whiny toddler.
Since you have so much money why the F don't you spoil yourself?!?!?! Why TF do you need someone else to buy you expensive things when you can afford them? I make enough money and I would never expect my boyfriend to "spoil" me with expensive gifts. If I want to get something I would save up and get it for myself.
I've stayed with my hubby even when he was broke. I still love him and love him no matter what
I was working with a young chap from RSA for £7.5 as a hospitality hostess. Fantastic and intelligent guy. Pleasure to work with. I did know nothing untill 2008 global crush, when he started to be worried about his dad as dad's company was losing a couple of million pounds per week.... His mum has her own helicopter and dad a little jet. But.... this young chap was sent to the real world to get an experience to be a good boss in the future. We all loved him before we knew his status and after too...
don''t get married, princess, until you get done with your unreasonable expectations
continued from below....and do what you have to do. She upped the ante by throwing tantrums. I asked for a cooling off period. She divorced me. Then the jerk had the nerve to ask for half the equity in my house (her name was not on the title since I had it when we got married). Why? She said it really hurt her and cost her a lot to clean the house. She felt she had made such an investment (boo-hoo) that she deserved half house. She didn't get it. The stress of getting married and leaving her mother at the tender age of 32 must have pushed her over the edge. Sorry for the complaint, but catharsis like this helps the healing process. Don't get married, princess, until you have shed all of your unreasonable expectations. Why not hold out for a billionaire? They date the regular girls for fun, but like to marry princesses like you.
I married a spoiled brat just like you....she lied her way into the marriage, acted like a complete jerk until I asked for a separation, and then lied her way out of the marriage...and for good measure, proceeded to destroy my reputation. The poor dear cleaned house exactly once in the short marriage. She did not cook, but said we had to go out to eat every night. She insisted we buy a new house that would have cost more every month than my paycheck brought in because she was ashamed to bring her friends over to my house I already owned. We talked every saturday afternoon for 6 weeks going through a marriage prep class book my pastor gave us. No problem, she said, she knew who she was marrying & what she was getting in to...The last straw was when she gave me an ultimatum that I had to get rid of my cat. She had just had new kittens. It bothered wifey that there were cats in the garage. She insisted I take the cat & her kittens to the pound & put them to sleep. I said no.
This seems like one of those banal over the top oh look at how spoilt I am trolling posts put out there just for some attention. Best way to deal with it is to stop responding to it because otherwise we will have to put up with more nonsense like this post and those stupid fake confrontational videos people put up hoping they go viral and hence become "famous". Please please stop reacting to these dicktards.
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