Christian Woman Lists All The Boundaries She And Her Husband Have, Like Not Sitting Next To The Opposite Gender, Apparently It’s All A Joke
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Communication, respect, and equality are the pillars of a happy and thriving relationship. And a solid bond doesn’t just happen — it takes a lot of hard work and a proper dose of healthy boundaries to make it flourish. However, this differs for every couple, as everyone has the right to decide on their own limitations and set of rules that should benefit the relationship as a whole.
But a recent TikTok video by a Christian woman going by Jojo, a self-proclaimed stay-at-home wife, bewilders people from far and wide for just how far some people take boundaries in opposite-sex partnerships. While religion can be a beautiful thing, this list of rather extreme ‘rules’ she and her husband, Tucker, have established in their marriage has sparked a huge debate. In fact, it prompted people to jump to the comment section to share their reactions immediately.
Although it appears the video is meant to be satirical, it has already amassed over 7.1 million views on the platform. Scroll down to read about the matter in full and see the reactions that immediately erupted on TikTok, ranging from ridicule to surprise to confusion. Then decide for yourself what you think about the clip, and be sure to chime in on the discussion in the comments!
TikToker Jojo recently sparked a heated debate on the platform after listing several rather extreme ‘boundaries’ she and her husband have established in their marriage
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As the video went viral, viewers felt confused about whether the woman was for real
You can watch the full clip, which amassed over 7.1 million views, right here
@jojosorrell boundaries in our marriage while we’re still in college!!! #wifelife #libertyuniversity ♬ original sound – jojo
The video sparked enormous controversy in the comment section, illustrating just how confused the internet was to hear Jo’s story. Some TikTokers applauded the couple’s decisions, some were not sure how to take it, and others reacted with shock, saying they were taking things a tad too far. Moreover, a whole other category of people speculated the video is satire and demanded Jo reveal the joke.
In a previous clip, Jo lists the reasons she and her husband got married while still attending attend Liberty University. She explains that dating couples face far more restrictions than married ones: “If you go to Liberty and you’re dating someone, you’re not allowed to hold their hand until you’re married.”
Moreover, dating couples and singles allegedly must comply with a 9:30 PM curfew and live on campus. “For the girls, if you get married, you don’t have to wear floor-length dresses to class every day.” And finally, Liberty actually allows couples to attend the university for free once they get married. “That is how bad they want you to get married,” she added.
However, according to Liberty University Online Honor Code, none of these rules exist.
Other videos from Jo seem to indicate she is poking fun at certain stereotypes. In one clip, she explains her day as a stay-at-home wife. It consists of making her husband’s lunch, preparing snacks for his Ultimate Frisbee team, cheering him on, and then making dinner.
In another follow-up clip, Jo turns to her friends’ opinions about the boundaries. Every woman seems to be on Jo’s side, with one saying: “I’m single right now, which I know is probably shocking if you know Liberty at all, but I’m just taking notes for my future marriage, which I’m hoping is right around the corner. I’m already 20, so.”
The popular Twitter account ‘Christian Nightmares’ reshared the video, saying, “This married Christian couple who are in college together have some rules for each other…” Later on, they added an update: “After checking out her TikTok and other research, there’s some evidence to suggest this might be at least partly satirical. But she does seem to be married to a guy named Tucker and they do go to Liberty U.”
We managed to get in touch with Jo who was kind enough to share a few thoughts about her video. “Honestly, it was all a joke that just blew up,” she told Bored Panda.
“My husband and I got married young because we have loved each other for five years and we wanted to be in a covenant for the rest of our lives,” Jo continued. “Jesus is the center of our lives. The video was satire and just for fun.”
“The only thing I’d want readers to take away is not to believe everything you see on the internet and how much God loves them.”
Later on, Jojo shared her friends’ opinions on these rules
Image credits: jojosorrell
@jojosorrellanswering some FAQ’s♬ original sound – jojo
In another follow-up video, she also explained her husband’s work boundaries
@jojosorrell Replying to @8passenger_chad ♬ original sound – jojo
Jo’s clips still invite a further discussion about setting healthy boundaries in a relationship. According to Lisa Bobby, psychologist and clinical director of Growing Self Counseling & Coaching in Denver, Colorado, boundary-setting has to do more with your own limits and well-being. “You are setting limits for yourself,” she told CNBC Make It. “You are not controlling the behavior of others. You’re telling people what you will or won’t tolerate with the choices you make.”
“Setting healthy boundaries is about detaching from the idea that you need to manage someone else’s emotions,” Bobby added. “Your job is to take care of yourself emotionally and let other people take care of themselves emotionally.”
But Dr. Jacqui Gabb, professor of sociology and intimacy at The Open University, explained that it also includes much more. “When it comes to your life as a couple, consider that there are actually three entities involved: yourself, your partner, and the relationship itself — and boundaries need to be defined for each,” Gabb said. “Each of those three parties needs to be sustained, nourished, and feel respected.”
Well, we’re curious to hear your opinions on this matter below, feel free to share your thoughts with us in the comments!
Commenters have responded with a mix of reactions ranging from applause to surprise to confusion
And other users speculated that the video is satire
So neither of them has the capacity to view their fellow humans outside of a sexual context? I would not want to stand next to either of them if they cannot see me as a human of intrinsic value first and foremost and preferably only that actually. Why does sex have to come into it every time they make a decision about who to speak to or listen to outside their marriage?
Yeah I won’t hire someone who just thinks women are ‘temptation’. Or thinks the same of men. If you can’t think beyond someone’s reproductive organs then stay indoors. Alone.
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This is not about boundaries, this is a toxic relationship. Imagine marrying someone that you don't trust to SPEAK to other women.
Nevermind face to face he can't even reply to a comment made by a woman....What do they do in cases like mine where my name doesn't give away which sex I am? And what do you think she'd do if I pretended to be a guy and chatted with her husband about one of his assignments only to reveal *gasp* I am a woman!
Load More Replies... This couple is definitely not ready for marriage. They don't trust each other at all. Their bond is so fragile they are tempted to cheat on each other merely by attending a lecture by a professor of the opposite sex. 10 year olds have more self control than that, and more maturity for that matter. How will they find jobs with zero contact with the opposite sex? Husband will need to accompany wife on every trip to the store until the end of time?
But it's fine to have TikTok and wear skin-tight sleeveless tops to tempt all the men who will interact with your account. 👌🏻🙄
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Are we really sure that's actual friends and not the op making fake accounts/comments?
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Sounds pretty tiresome to me. How are you supposed to fully live you life with these kinds of boundaries? They're missing out on quite a lot imo.
Most people have more trust in strangers than either of them in their partner. Strange obsession with "opposite gender" too. If anything, it's entirely possible to cheat with people of your own gender.
Rotten Christians. Paul addressed letters to women as his equals. There is no basis for this but Augustine of Hippo being a jackass.
I was a member of somewhat conservative non-denominational Christian churches for over 30 years. There is no freedom in that sort of constrained relationship. It's really a messed up way of thinking. It is fear based. It closets the real problem- lack of trust. I can guarantee you that the people in these "protected" relationships experience just as much infidelity and cheating as others. My ex and I were in marriage counseling with my pastor. My pastor would berate me. He told me "If you were a better wife your J could be a better husband. All on me. Come to find out, years later, at the very same time as our counseling, the pastor had been having an affair with the worship leader.
It's their choice but it's not practical when you get into the working environment and have a boss or co workers of opposite gender. Better get the practice of fighting those temptation demons now.
There’s a couple of letters on Ask A Manager about men refusing to be near women because it ‘looks bad’ or ‘is disrespectful to marriage’ and ye gods do those people NOT belong in the workplace. If you think being near a gender you’re attracted to makes you in the wrong then god help us bisexuals.
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My husband is a truck driver. He also trains new drivers. In the truck driver world Men can be..... pretty fucken creepy. Especially non married ones who don't really have a home & live in the road. So they don't really have personal relationships. It's quite common. They can also be quite sexist. A lot of the truckers I met while on the road with him (spent 2 years driving a truck with him) we're mostly conservatives who viewed me driving a truck as a way to "emasculate" my husband???? No. We just wanted to make double the money! But yeah.. they can be assholes to women... So when women want to become truckers... they might end up getting on a truck with one of these dudes as their trainers. So I suggested to my husband that he specifically trains women. So they're not getting on a truck with a douche or a creep. He's trained 22 women so far. Lol. Women always ask me "don't you get jealous?" Nope.. I trust my husband 10000% n I'd rather know women are safe than be controlling n psycho
none of this is really rules christians have so why is it specfing she is christian
I'm jealous myself but Jesus Christ. I want to trust my bf and not control every aspect of each others life. Also what about relatives, at point are not closely related enough anymore to be allowed contact?
Everyone has a different spiritual journey. I am Hungarian Reformed (same as Dutch Reformed, just a different language), and in our church, traditionally women and men sit separately AND use different doors to exit and enter the church. (Same building, same airspace though, it's just women and men sit on opposite sides of the room.) But as a scientist, if anyone told me to choose my lecturers based on their gender, rather than ability, I'd laugh them out of the room. And my life. Are they going to be choosing medical professionals based on their gender as well? Hubby isn't going to be in the delivery room, lest he has to talk to a woman other than his wife?
Uh, yeah, this isn't a tenable option in most real-life situations. Even with the psychology course- generally you cannot sit in the class if you don't pay. If you don't want/need a grade, you still have to sign up to audit the course. Hopefully it's satire- as others have already stated.
This is actually very common and makes sense. Liberty is a religious university, kind of liberal Christian. Because sex before marriage is not ok, it is of running joke that girls in particular, go to college specifically to find a husband. My parents met at a Christian college and got married when they were 20. Their whole angle, which I would never do but who am I to judge, is to help your partner avoid possible temptations. So not putting yourself in a potentially harmful situation. This thought process is common and whatever, if it works for them have at it.
Please remember to politely disagree with someone, not downvote them. Downvotes are for hateful people and SPAM, not someone you disagree with. They'll get banned after enough downvotes. So @Mirt here's my upvote to help the downvotes. Thank you for sharing your respectful and well stated opinion and story of your parents. I agree with your statement of "which I would never do but who am I to judge" btw.
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So neither of them has the capacity to view their fellow humans outside of a sexual context? I would not want to stand next to either of them if they cannot see me as a human of intrinsic value first and foremost and preferably only that actually. Why does sex have to come into it every time they make a decision about who to speak to or listen to outside their marriage?
Yeah I won’t hire someone who just thinks women are ‘temptation’. Or thinks the same of men. If you can’t think beyond someone’s reproductive organs then stay indoors. Alone.
Load More Replies... This is not about boundaries, this is a toxic relationship. Imagine marrying someone that you don't trust to SPEAK to other women.
Nevermind face to face he can't even reply to a comment made by a woman....What do they do in cases like mine where my name doesn't give away which sex I am? And what do you think she'd do if I pretended to be a guy and chatted with her husband about one of his assignments only to reveal *gasp* I am a woman!
Load More Replies... This couple is definitely not ready for marriage. They don't trust each other at all. Their bond is so fragile they are tempted to cheat on each other merely by attending a lecture by a professor of the opposite sex. 10 year olds have more self control than that, and more maturity for that matter. How will they find jobs with zero contact with the opposite sex? Husband will need to accompany wife on every trip to the store until the end of time?
But it's fine to have TikTok and wear skin-tight sleeveless tops to tempt all the men who will interact with your account. 👌🏻🙄
Load More Replies... Are we really sure that's actual friends and not the op making fake accounts/comments?
Load More Replies... Sounds pretty tiresome to me. How are you supposed to fully live you life with these kinds of boundaries? They're missing out on quite a lot imo.
Most people have more trust in strangers than either of them in their partner. Strange obsession with "opposite gender" too. If anything, it's entirely possible to cheat with people of your own gender.
Rotten Christians. Paul addressed letters to women as his equals. There is no basis for this but Augustine of Hippo being a jackass.
I was a member of somewhat conservative non-denominational Christian churches for over 30 years. There is no freedom in that sort of constrained relationship. It's really a messed up way of thinking. It is fear based. It closets the real problem- lack of trust. I can guarantee you that the people in these "protected" relationships experience just as much infidelity and cheating as others. My ex and I were in marriage counseling with my pastor. My pastor would berate me. He told me "If you were a better wife your J could be a better husband. All on me. Come to find out, years later, at the very same time as our counseling, the pastor had been having an affair with the worship leader.
It's their choice but it's not practical when you get into the working environment and have a boss or co workers of opposite gender. Better get the practice of fighting those temptation demons now.
There’s a couple of letters on Ask A Manager about men refusing to be near women because it ‘looks bad’ or ‘is disrespectful to marriage’ and ye gods do those people NOT belong in the workplace. If you think being near a gender you’re attracted to makes you in the wrong then god help us bisexuals.
Load More Replies... My husband is a truck driver. He also trains new drivers. In the truck driver world Men can be..... pretty fucken creepy. Especially non married ones who don't really have a home & live in the road. So they don't really have personal relationships. It's quite common. They can also be quite sexist. A lot of the truckers I met while on the road with him (spent 2 years driving a truck with him) we're mostly conservatives who viewed me driving a truck as a way to "emasculate" my husband???? No. We just wanted to make double the money! But yeah.. they can be assholes to women... So when women want to become truckers... they might end up getting on a truck with one of these dudes as their trainers. So I suggested to my husband that he specifically trains women. So they're not getting on a truck with a douche or a creep. He's trained 22 women so far. Lol. Women always ask me "don't you get jealous?" Nope.. I trust my husband 10000% n I'd rather know women are safe than be controlling n psycho
none of this is really rules christians have so why is it specfing she is christian
I'm jealous myself but Jesus Christ. I want to trust my bf and not control every aspect of each others life. Also what about relatives, at point are not closely related enough anymore to be allowed contact?
Everyone has a different spiritual journey. I am Hungarian Reformed (same as Dutch Reformed, just a different language), and in our church, traditionally women and men sit separately AND use different doors to exit and enter the church. (Same building, same airspace though, it's just women and men sit on opposite sides of the room.) But as a scientist, if anyone told me to choose my lecturers based on their gender, rather than ability, I'd laugh them out of the room. And my life. Are they going to be choosing medical professionals based on their gender as well? Hubby isn't going to be in the delivery room, lest he has to talk to a woman other than his wife?
Uh, yeah, this isn't a tenable option in most real-life situations. Even with the psychology course- generally you cannot sit in the class if you don't pay. If you don't want/need a grade, you still have to sign up to audit the course. Hopefully it's satire- as others have already stated.
This is actually very common and makes sense. Liberty is a religious university, kind of liberal Christian. Because sex before marriage is not ok, it is of running joke that girls in particular, go to college specifically to find a husband. My parents met at a Christian college and got married when they were 20. Their whole angle, which I would never do but who am I to judge, is to help your partner avoid possible temptations. So not putting yourself in a potentially harmful situation. This thought process is common and whatever, if it works for them have at it.
Please remember to politely disagree with someone, not downvote them. Downvotes are for hateful people and SPAM, not someone you disagree with. They'll get banned after enough downvotes. So @Mirt here's my upvote to help the downvotes. Thank you for sharing your respectful and well stated opinion and story of your parents. I agree with your statement of "which I would never do but who am I to judge" btw.
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