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Beggars can’t be choosers or at least they shouldn’t be. But we keep seeing that this isn’t the case—there are plenty of people out there who keep putting their needs ahead of everyone else’s and get featured in the incredibly popular Choosing Beggars subreddit.

This Reddit community has a whopping 1.9 million members and is dedicated to stories about people who are way too picky. Be sure to check out Bored Panda's previous posts about the Choosing Beggars community right here and here, and give their subreddit a visit for some more awesome content.

Meanwhile, scroll down and upvote your fave pics of people who really need to get a grip and let us know in the comments if you’ve ever had the “pleasure” of meeting folks like this in real life. Some people feel like they’re entitled to special treatment and they don’t even realize that they might be hurting someone else. There are psychological reasons for this, so let’s get into them.

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I Finally Caught One In The Wild

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Foxxy (The Original)
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Wow, how ungrateful. If someone offered to pay for my groceries I would put the non essentials back (if I had any).

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Feeling special and entitled is entirely natural when you’re a child: kids think that they’re the center of the world and it’s what psychologists refer to as healthy narcissism. However, it’s only one stage of a person’s psychological and emotional development—they eventually need to grow out of it and learn to respect others and what they want, too.

According to psychotherapist and psychoanalyst F. Diane Barth, L.C.S.W, who has a private practice in New York City, sometimes a sense of entitlement can even emerge when people feel mistreated or they don’t think that they’re getting what they need.

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Also if you're poor, why on earth would you pay 800 dollars for your kids' Christmas present??

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“Often individuals who have been mistreated or disrespected exhibit a sense of entitlement when they start to feel that they deserve better than they have been getting. This is part of a healthy shift towards self-respect. Yet they, too, eventually need to find a way to balance self-respect with respect for others,” Barth writes on Psychology Today.

She points out that a small amount of entitlement is good for adults. Things like believing that we have the right to be respected by others and that we have the right to take care of ourselves and our loved-ones are positive things. But this doesn’t extend to situations where our actions or sense of entitlement benefit us at the cost of hurting those around us. Like cutting in line. Don’t cut in line. It’s a jerk move.

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Pamela24
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'll make an educated guess that the name Leigha wasn't chosen randomly...

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I feel bad for people who are named Karen. Remember it’s a meme, but for a very realistic depiction of behaviors in the Wild.

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Judging by their taste in interior decor, they're stuck in the 80s as well as being an arsehole

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Barth’s colleague Steven Stosny claims that we’re currently living in the Age of Entitlement because our culture doesn’t support the development process that teaches us to balance our needs with the needs of others. And that’s one of the reasons that we have so many choosing beggars out there!

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

He should be greatfull that sommeone has a kind enough heart to give them some of his hard erned money.

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

What are those people who leave emojis and “kind” trivialities after a passive aggressive message called?

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Pamela24
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The conversation makes me think that other people have accepted this form of payment before. Which makes me sad.

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

So basically, homie wanted to trade an over-sized paperweight for a motorcycle. $1800 is too generous for a prick like that.

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

When will people understand that exposure won't pay rent and bills and food

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I mean...if that person encouraged them to do it, maybe. But still - you're behind the wheel, you make the decisions, own up to them.

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3 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You probably got a special because your first books are new. I’m hoping that I’m understanding it correctly, that you’re publishing more because you’re more successful now. Guess what? I would choose a beautiful book cover over a bland one for the same story. How much of your success do you think is dependent on people who edit your work and help you with the artwork.

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Right? I've actually taken a pass on a few books based on their cover art (I know, shallow - but I collect hardbacks and have certain standards). Good cover art can actually boost sales and if this moron is actually starting to sell, that means he's also starting to make some money. I find this mentality to be pretty common when a family member helps you out initially (I'm a bookkeeper - trust me, I get it), but then informs you that they can't afford to keep working for basically free. I have set rates: family, friends, random clients. Period. If you agree to my rate, I will perform a few smallish tasks and invoice you. If you balk or try to renegotiate, you're on your own. Oh and any programs I've installed? Those are proprietary and belong to me & trust me, there's a background "kill switch".

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Being a graphic designer is not cheap or easy. I have to invest thousands in hardware and software to be able to create what my clients want. I have to keep that software up to date, then there is printing costs, sample costs, file costs, copyrighting costs. Yeah, I have done a few things for free and a few more things at a discounted price to help people when they are starting out, but once you get off the ground, I want to be paid a normal wage. It is only fair.

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BiLal Asif
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I wouldn't give u that type of discount in the first place

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Vanta Black
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

No, you lost friends because you were a jackass, and they couldn't tolerate you any longer.

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Malakai
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

As someone who dabbles in graphic design, this kind of attitude infuriates me. The people who complain about design/art/other creative works being too "pricey" have never done such kind of work, and 9 times out of 10 subconsciously are thinking 'well this is easy enough to do myself so why should I pay so much for it'. It is NOT easy and if you COULD do it yourself, then you'd fricking do it yourself. That cost includes time, cost of stock images (not all stock is free--ESPECIALLY if you want a good, professional design), possible drawing by the graphic designer, and a number of other things. This person was DAMN LUCKY the designer gave them such an amazing discount on the first 3 covers. $100 per cover for the first 3 is what I would have expected, but it was $100 TOTAL if I'm reading this right. What an entitled jerk they have to be to think another 6 should only be $200 and to insult the designer to boot when they didn't get their way.

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm sorry...he charged how much for 3 covers? I'm a professional graphic designer...either that man *is* actually terrible at his job and his prices reflect that, or he has no idea how to value his time and his work.

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Malakai
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It says they're related, so maybe the designer placed them that low as a favor or gift or something?

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I wonder what the books are called. Because i want to read them and see if they're actually GOOD and I also want to see the cover pics

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Brent Kaufman
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You're the author aren't you? Are you happy with your little 'virtue signaling' reaching for low hanging fruit? Doesn't it get old, or are you just looking for likeminded upvotes?

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Steve Cruz
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Three book covers for $100? That's $33 each. Graphic designers usually charge $40–85/hour, depending on experience. With a 2-hour minimum per project, that's $80/cover, minimum.

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

And what the f**k is your writing like in 'these' BOOKS? Can't be much from your 'professional' interaction!!!!!!

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Douchebag took advantage of a family member who probably thinks they're doing a one time favor for them. I bet this person wound up with zero friends, deservedly so.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I have a hobby for writing, and I think some people don't deserve the ability to read/write.

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Carolee Samuda-Bailey
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

As a cover designer and author, I hate working with people like this, I usually give new authors either a free cover or a discount. I tell them up front what the original price is and if they can't pay the price for the second or third book, then they need to find a different designer. $100 is really low price for 3 covers! And $250 is standard for most designers.

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Catherine Todd
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Another cheapskate rip-off person who probably hasn't sold ONE novel, but thinks they will be the next Hemingway therefore everything should be done as cheaply as possible or for free, and then they will badmouth and blame the book cover designer for why their ridiculous books did not sell. If this is how they write now, think of what lays between those covers! Ugh.

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Jane Dorothy Warner
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Wow! Where did you go? My first book cover was all of £12, and beautifully done by a professional.

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Brent Kaufman
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

A kid just out of college looking for his first job, may be called a professional, but not someone with pride, or who wasn't manipulated 'to get exposure'.

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Rã. R. Field
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Again Artists being told what they are worth... It’s very simple, if the ‘situation’ seems to be to costly all of a sudden,then do it yourself:)

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Tanya Kysel'ova
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

depends on the regular prices and quality of design actually. hard to judge

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Leodavinci
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If someone's book cover required an illustration, $250 would be about (at the very least) 10% of what even a mediocre artist would charge... and that's just for the illustration, not including mention design, layout, typography, etc. A "name" artist? Expect 10X that amount.

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