According to a common definition, chivalry is “the combination of qualities expected of an ideal knight, especially courage, honor, courtesy, justice, and a readiness to help the weak.”
The word is usually associated with the medieval institution of knighthood when knights’ and gentlewomen’s behaviors were governed by chivalrous social codes.” Today, however, we understand chivalry as a courtesy and gentleness to women.
Little acts do wonders: from waiting for a woman to sit before a man does, to help her with a coat to let her go through a door first. Having said that it’s subject to debate whether chivalry is still relevant today in a world where we put gender equality before other things.
So while you think about where you stand in this discussion (and share your thoughts below!) scroll down for Bored Panda’s list of pics showing chivalrous men in action.
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Chivalry refers to the medieval knights' code of honor that references a range of male behaviors. According to Texas A&M literary historian Jennifer Wollock, in the middle ages, European literature featured knights and kings as protectors of women.
For example, In Geoffrey of Monmouth’s “History of the Kings of Britain” of 1138, King Arthur kills the rapist giant of Mont-Saint-Michel. A few decades later, the French poet Chrétien de Troyes portrays Sir Lancelot casting aside reputation, glory and treasured warhorses to save the kidnapped Queen Guinevere. Wollock argues that “such popular tales of chivalry pressured aristocrats to adopt the chivalric code – to some extent.”
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On My Flight Back To Georgia I Saw A Man Who Offered To Help This Woman Because She Was Pregnant And Alone On The Flight And Her Son Was Upset And Fussy
He did not complain, he just told her that he was a DAD, and wanted to help her so she could rest. This MAN walked the aisle for most of the flight from Minneapolis to Atlanta comforting this woman's son as if he was his own... I was in tears... Not because he was white and she was black... But because it showed me today that there are still GOOD people out there in a world full of turmoil. Big UPS to this DAD and all the DADS out there... You are the real MVPS!
In the 14th and 15th centuries, English writers like Geoffrey Chaucer and Sir Thomas Malory depicted the court of King Arthur as a bastion of justice for women, well beyond the norms of that day, Wollock argues. As knights intervened to protect civilians, western chivalry became a force of its own kind.
In today’s world, however, our society is very much in dispute over the value of chivalry. It’s because chivalry demands that maltreatment of women be crushed, whereas feminism calls for equal rights between women and men, by which logic, both feminism and chivalry mean the same thing: respect.
However, some people are not truly comfortable with chivalrous gestures as they believe that it’s not the same as respect. Skeptics see chivalry at odds with feminism, and argue it’s no longer relevant.
Both A Kind Gesture And A Flex. Best Of Both Worlds
He's A Keeper
In modern Western cultures, chivalry can be seen in men offering a range of special courtesies to women. This includes paying on dates, carrying heavy objects, pulling out chairs, opening doors, and allowing women to go first, even when the man was there first.
Beatrice Alba, a lecturer at Deakin University, argues that despite being generally seen as polite and even romantic, these acts of chivalry – where men are excessively courteous to women simply because they are women – have a dark side.
“Psychologists refer to the paternalistic attitudes underlying these behaviors as benevolent sexism. Benevolent sexism involves the belief that men should cherish and protect women, and ‘put them on a pedestal.’ This is because women are viewed as being more morally pure, weaker, and in need of protection,” Alba explained.
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This Kind Bus Driver Stopped His Bus, Which Was Full Of Passengers, To Comfort A Bullied Girl He Saw Crying On The Side Of The Road
This Lovely Gentleman Came In Today To Learn How To Curl His Wife’s Hair. His Wife Is Unable To Curl Her Own Hair And Often Burns Herself
So he stepped up to the plate and learned how to curl her hair. We had the pleasure of teaching him! We taught him how to do volume curls on short hair, how to protect her skin from being burned and we even taught him to put on her mascara.
It’s also important to note that research has found people higher on these attitudes also tend to be higher on hostile sexism, Alba argues. “Hostile sexism involves overtly negative and suspicious views of women – this is what people generally think about when they think of sexism.”
Benevolent sexism reinforces traditional gender roles about how women and men should relate to one another, and chivalrous acts may be understood as a manifestation of them. “It’s the same old problem that who we are or what we want should be predetermined by our sex rather than our own preferences and personalities,” Alba explained.
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Dude looks like actor Alexandre Ludwig. He’s about the same size too.
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Upon entering the Magic Kingdom, one of the security guards said to the girl "Excuse me, princess, can I have your autograph". I could see that the book was filled with children's scribbles as the guard asked the same question of many little Princesses. The little girl could not get over the fact that the guard thought she was a real princess".
Both benevolent and hostile sexism are intertwined with systematic sexism, which, when put in this context, makes chivalry extremely problematic. Bored Panda reached out to Nicole Froio, a feminist writer who researches masculinity, sexual violence and the media.
Froio explained that systematic sexism is a term that refers to a “system of discrimination that targets women specifically for being women. So, for example, if a woman isn't promoted because her boss is afraid she will get pregnant and take time off, that's sexism.”
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He's A Keeper
Lithuanian Police Tradition To Pull Over Every Female Driver On International Women’s Day And Give Them Flowers
And while there's been a lot of work done towards building a world with better equality in terms of gender and minorities, Froio argues that there will be a long way to go as long as we keep doing things the same exact way.
“If we all committed to a better, more equitable world, this wouldn't be an issue, but it's difficult to do that. So yes, there's a long, long way to go,” she added.
When thinking of a more equitable world where equal rights are among the most valuable aspects of a strong and well-developed society, it’s interesting to think how chivalrous acts may (or may not) intervene with it. The answers may not be straightforward ones, and yet it’s the act of discussing these issues that matters.
So Sweet
Not to mention so many photos get taken when someone first holds a baby. That lad has his head screwed on.
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I Got A Flat & Although My BF Was On The Phone Trying To Help, I Was Struggling To Loosen The Lug Nuts. Then These Guys Came Up
They spoke limited English but gestured toward the tire. They put my spare on & I was back on the road in no time. I thanked them & tried to offer them $ to no avail.
Been there done that lol, got to work late and covered in black sut from the brake pads, again not só much chivalry more like respecting and helping others.
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This Punk Helping A Woman Carry Heavy Stuff In Berlins Subway
This Man Offered To Hold Woman's Baby While She Filled Out Paperwork At The Doctor's Office
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Good Samaritan Carries Elderly Woman Struggling To Use Stairs
Y'all I have to brag about my husband big time tonight! He made me soo proud. As we were sitting in our seats waiting for the rodeo to start I noticed an elderly lady (pictured below) her grown daughter and 2 young granddaughters trying to come down the stairs. The elderly lady was having a rough time. I pointed them out to my husband and said they may need help. Not only did he help get her to her seat, but she did not have the strength to come back up the stairs. So, he carried her!
The Woman Pushing The Car Is Blind. The Man Right Next To Her Repeats Every Single Thing He Sees - What’s On Sale, The Brands And Styles
I heard her say while choosing bath towels “ Please get me two white ones, I love the color white”... let us cherish the small gift that is eyesight!
This Little Lady Has Been Asking Her Husband To Push Her Around So She Can Catch Pokémon While They Wait To Board Their Flight
He keeps checking in and cheering her on to see if they got one. Find someone who loves you like this.
A Young Man Sheltering An Old Lady From Hail While Crossing The Road. Tbilisi, Georgia
My Girlfriend Lost Her Purse With Her Passport And A Lot Of Money In It. This Dude Found It, Contacted Her, And Got It Back To Her With Everything Still In It
I once lost my wallet, someone picked it up and searched inside for some way to contact me. He ended up phoning my aunt, who is listed as next of kin on my organ donor card. I got my wallet back with everything still inside.
My husband, who has a mobility scooter, was out shopping and dropped his wallet, only realised when he got home. Retraced his "steps", no sign of it. It was lying on the door mat when he got home. (Think I might have posted this before, if so, apologies)
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There was a social experiment done several years ago, where a wallet filled with money and I think a fake ID with a phone number on it, was “lost”. The researchers wanted to see how many times people would contact the “owner” and return to wallet with all the money in it. Turns out the majority of people are 100% honest, and most of them wouldn’t accept any reward. Not sure how many times this experiment has been replicated, but it comforts me to know that the majority of humans are actually good, kind, honest people who can be counted on to do the right thing. Unfortunately, we rarely hear about them because the bad guys are deemed more newsworthy. We need to reverse that trend, as it makes it seem as if we’re all rotten to the core when the truth is the majority of us aren’t.
Oh god this takes me back. I once lost my purse at a highway rest stop while on vacation. Since I was already back on the road when I realized it was missing I gave up all hope of ever seeing it again. When I came home from the vacation I found a package at my doorstep with my purse in it. There was no sender or anything, only a note attached that read: "While searching for mine, I found yours." To this day I wonder about that poor person searching for their purse. Thank you so much and I hope you found it!
I found a wallet on my way from a party once. When I checked the documents I found out that the owner lived in a block of flats next to mine. Next morning, walking my dog I brought it back to him. He was quite shocked as he had just woken up and didn’t even realise he’d lost it 🤣
My wallet was once stolen in high school months later a hitchhiker found my license on the side of the highway and mailed it back to me. Thought that was pretty cool
I had my license mailed back to me also. Need more thoughtful people in the world like this.
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I found a wallet once, no money in it, returned it, and he mentioned there was €200 in it 😑 Guess I wasn't the first one to find it
While exiting my car, my watch clasp broke and the watch fell onto the roadway. I didn’t even realize it was gone until a young man knocked on my front door. He found it on the pavement and thought it might be mine!! ☺️
I left my purse in a port a potty at a carnival. With my grandchildren whose parents were out of town. Would have lost car keys and house keys to say the least a nightmare. One of the carnival employees returned it to police who gave it to me when we went back to look for it. That honest person made my year!
When I was in fourth grade I had a little duct-tape wallet that my brother made for me, and I’d put a drivers license that I’d drawn inside and it had my moms phone number on it. It had about $10. I lost it in a store and was devastated that I never got it back, because $10 to a fourth grader is a lot lol
I once found a wallet on the floor, with noone around. I opened it to look for any informations, and found an adress on a medical paper. We ( I was with a friend)took a bus, the wrong one, then the right one, walked in an unknown street for 10-15 min and found the house. We gave it back to the owner, but refused to come in for te (you never know).
I found a wallet once, and drove 75 miles to the address on his ID. When he answered the door I explained to him that I found it at a gas station and how I wanted to make sure it got right to you, and everything is still there. He took the wallet, said "Okay" and slammed the door on my face. I honestly only expected a thank you, but...nope lol
Came home one day and found a woman purse on my porch. Looked through it, found out it belonged to the daughter of the family I bought the house from like 2 years before, she still had my address on license. Contacted her bf and mother through a business card and number on cell phone (back in the day before you locked your phone, not a smartphone). Purse had been stolen at a club a few days before. Money was missing but everything else was there. Mother came and picked it up.
Left my wallet in a shopping cart at K-mart the day I was leaving for vacation. Got home, called K-Mart, called police, nothing. 10 mins later get a phone call from a woman stating they had my wallet. 10 mins later they show up, the woman with sponsored asian family who spoke little english, the daughter (~10 y/o) had found my wallet. They were Jehovah's Witness', gave me the pamphlets (lol). Gave the girl $20, and asked the parents to please let her buy something nice with it, hopefully they didn't make her 'donate' it to the church. Able to go on vacation worry free, although it was a driving vacation so didn't actually need anything in the wallet to go :)
Lost my wallet in school once. Someone found it and stole the wallet and cash, which wasn't much. But they threw my id and cards in the trash. A janitor found them and turned them in. $20 and a good wallet is nice, but replacing all those cards would have been hard and cost a pretty penny!
Working as a cashier I once had a lady leave her address book. Looked inside the cover for contact information. None. I picked a name at random and explained. Turns out I had got ahold of her mother and the woman came back to get her book when her mother told her the store had it. Point is people-put contact information so you get your property back. Umbrella, phone, books.
I forgot to pick up my quite large handbag after having lunch in a busy shopping centre. A lady had picked it up, found my phone, called my mum to let her know. I met the lady after and she gave it to me, everything still inside.
I lost my wallet in a field in the low income housing project near my house. Minutes after I realized what I'd done, there's a knock on the door. Three kids found it and handed it over to a security guard. Lost my wallet somewhere in the student services building and seconds after I realized it was missing (again), I got a call from the bursar's office. Someone found it and turned it in. Forgot my entire purse in a shopping cart at the local strip mall. A Dollar Tree employee saw it and took it inside. I need adult supervision.
The person who had found a wallet along their work route, brought it home with them with the intention of seeing if I could find any way of contacting the owner. It had the usual I.D, credit cards, but no business cards, or anything with contact details. Buried in one of the side pockets he had a paper rewards card, and it happened to be for my work. It was late on a Thursday night, but my store was still open. I may have been a little dodgy and called my guys at the store. I got them to run the rewards number, and luckily he'd signed up with his email address. I had a very confused reply from the owner who hadn't yet realised that it was lost, or how I got his email address. I explained how to put a temporary block on his credit cards through internet banking. That way he didn't have to cancel his credit cards, or order a new drivers licence, and made arrangements to get the wallet back to him.
My mom saw someone take it right from her the dude clearly did not do anything to stop it and seemed as though he wanted it. To no surprise she canceled everything after he bought hundreds of dollars worth of stuff. Some people don’t deserve kindness
Must be Canada. C'mon! Tell me I'm not wrong! Canadian people are very kind
Every Day For One Week, Lifeguards Would Meet Ms. Dottie And Her Family To Help Assist Her Down To Her Beach Chairs. At The Days End, They Escort Her Back To The Condo
I Got A Flat Tire In An Unfamiliar Area, These Men Stopped And Offered To Help. They Ended Up Doing All The Work And Wouldn’t Accept Money When I Offered
Bonus: my lil man in the car keeping me safe from strangers.
A Train Driver Helping A Passenger
Saudi Police Officers Handing Out Roses To Women Drivers (Today Is The First Day They Can Drive Legally)
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I could imagine all the stories she has to tell. We can learn so much from our elders! Man my grandma can be annoying, but I love all of her fun kindergarten teaching stories, or stories from her childhood.
Real Chivalry
One driving test route in my city go almost entirely through a quiet residental area. The residents there have a very good tradition of stopping for any cars with the driving test sign on display.
Just Landed NYC. People Across Aisle Didn't Know Each Other. She Was Flying For First Time And Was Terrified. He Talked Her Through It And Held Her Hand. Just People Being People
My Neighbor Knows I'm At Home With A 2-Year-Old While My Husband Is At Work. He Kindly Removed Snow, Cleared Our Walkways, And Salted The Driveway
An Elderly Woman’s Door Was Ripped Off Its Hinges In An Attempted Break In. Constable Boswell Put His Tradie Skills To Work And Repaired Her Broken Door
My Great-Uncle Visits His Wife Every Day Because She's In An Assisted Living Facility As She Has Alzheimer's. He Can't Go In Right Now For Safety Reasons
The Firefighters That Helped Deliver Our Baby In Our Driveway Last Week Just Dropped Off Flowers
This Dude That Gave His Girl His Shoes Cause Her Feet Hurt Just Set The Bar Way Too High
Dude Saw A Little Old Lady Was Having Trouble Bagging Some Stuff So He Stopped And Held Her Bag Open For Her
Small act but man did it make my day... And yes I absolutely took a pic of 2 complete strangers.
You can see this every time you go to the store, just so nice and what a real effect it has on others.
This Gate Agent Offered To Help An Exhausted Mother Travelling Alone Calm Down Her Crying Infant
Isn't That Just Love?
Wholesome Hair Husband
Jack Purchased Seats In The Upper-Class Cabin For A Flight Home. When He Got Onboard, Jack Found Violet In The Economy Class And Swapped Seats With Her
This Guy Kept His Hand In This Position For More Than 45 Minutes So His Daughter Could Sleep Well
On My Flight Today We Hit Some Really Bad Turbulence Over The Atlantic. Pilot Comes On & Says, "Flight Attendants Please Take Your Jump Seats"
As the turbulence picks up, in the seat in front of me, a gentleman reaches his hand across the aisle so the woman he was flying with could hold on.
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These are lovely stories, but to me, it's not chivalry, it's people being kind to others.
I remove the snow and or ice from my partners car, clear the windows and get it demisted and warmed up for when they head to work in the early hours. But I do think there are loads of us out there that do the same thing because we worry about them and also care. Those little gesture etc may not seem much but without them we are poorer as a society, the littlest of things can make the biggest of differences.
When Texas has the bad ice and snow I had tried to get to my mailbox (apts) which is literally on my wall outside but the farthest out from my door, but ended up slipping but not falling. I have hip dysplasia and a fall like that could end me up having to have surgery. I happened to be looking out my front door and my sweet neighbor Ruben was looking out too. I mentioned about the fact I was not getting out even for mail because of nearly falling. The next morning I hear a bunch of scraping. He had found a shovel and scraped all the ice and snow off our porch area and the sidewalk and to our cars. Couldn't ask for a better neighbor
These stories are absolutely lovely and heartwarming! However...with all the gross, horrid men in the world...I'd honestly be scared to accept these sort of acts of kindness. I know that it's weird to say (how can you be scared of niceness?) but...for ones especially like holding the baby or holding my hand, it is a bit risky. What if they're only being nice to get something? What if they attack me? I know it's not ALL men...but yeah. I'm very glad that these boys all grew up to be good men.
Those "guys" who calls themselves alfa, beta, gama or whatever, this is what big penis energy is. Watch and learn how to behave/act.
I once was at a taffy place on my b-day and I was wearing something that said birthday kid and the person selling it to us gave us extra taffy for free!
The only thing I can remember, is a few years ago during worship in church, I just started sobbing. My mom who was right next to me- didn't notice for some time. But the man across the aisle reached over and handed me a small pack of tissues. Never got to thank him, it was loud and I was too busy crying, but I still remember it. I also got baptized later that day!! A surprise to me even, I hadn't planned it, just suddenly knew I had too
Now, don’t take this the wrong way, most of the actions portrayed in the article is sweet. However the concept of chivalry is heteronormative sh*te. It sets a bad precedent to have so men are the helpers and women are to be the helped. There is a reason men don’t talk about their struggles, and “take like a man (protector)”, or when people get shocked when women seek male-dominated things (fishing, automobiles, the S.T.E.M field), and then treat them weirdly and look at them like they have three heads because they have stepped out of the acceptable realm of womanhood, especially if they don’t like dress up or don’t want kids. And it is seen as a bad trait for women to have self-worth, they supposed to be pretty and soft-spoken. And this heteronormative concept is not good for the LGBTQ community. You say stuff like chivalry isn’t dead, but you don’t take a closer look at what you’re saying, would you agree that chivalry was strong in the 1950’s? You would probably say yes, and that is
a romanticized view of the 1950’s, but you don’t want to do that, segregation was still a thing, women couldn’t get a bank account without approval from a man, and gay rights was hardly a thing, and you’re telling me you want to romanticize this. Chivalry is a cr*ppy thing that should be put in a trash bin, you are mistaking chivalry for being polite. I would argue that sexism is in no way polite, and nice things can be done for the wrong reason. With the sweet gestures in the article they are nice when they are done in regards to kindness, but when they are done specifically because of gender, it lessens the kind gesture, and makes it heteronormative shite, chivalry dirties the waters of kindness, disguising sexist drivel and the dehumanization of women and setting the precedent of women as needing helped as default as kindness, and I find that concerning. We humans need to look out for each other, no matter what’s between are legs. The article would’ve been a thousand times better
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When I was pregnant, I was doing a lot of laundry at the laundromat. It was a terribly snowy day, so the owner looked at my inadequate cart, asked where I lived, and dropped it off for me. One year when I was scrambling to buy a tree just before Christmas, and the owner of the tree lot had to leave to plow roads. He saw I couldn't load a tree alone, so I was giving up on getting one. He asked where I live, and the next day just dropped one off. I caught him before he left and gave him a dozen eggs from our chickens and he was delighted, said his wife would love them. If you slow down, you can notice (and give to others) many such stories. (And they don't all turn on telling random strangers where I live) where I live...)
Last year, during the really bad winter storm here in Texas, my elderly neighbor cleared the sidewalks of multiple people with just a dustpan. After my car accident last year, a lady brought me a bottle of water. My mom crochets blankets for people and doesn't ask for payment. She just likes making the blankets.
Thoughtful, caring, compassionate... these notions come to mind when I see these acts of kindness .
indeed, blunt lies and satanic propaganda have the same effect on me.
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This whole article made me ugly cry! I cant even blame the onion ninjas. It's so nice to see things like this when most of my hope for humanity has gone down the drain. All the comments about people being kind "for the likes" just needs to stfu. If it wasn't for this kindness being documented, my hope in the human race would be even less. It's nice to see people being kind, be that in person or via photo
Sometimes a sweet gesture goes a long way. Recently I bought a very small travelling iron for my niece who wished for one, but it was secondhand and without manuals. I couldnt' figure out how to use it, and searched on the internet for manuals. There were none that I could find, but a woman had one for sale (also second hand) so I wrote and asked if she had a manual, and would she send me a copi. She did, and when I asked how I could pay her, she answered. You owe me nothing, Merry Christmas. I feel warm inside every time, I think about her kindness.
I can just feel my heart easing and smiling as I see these pictures. Just kindness, that's all and that's plenty. Humans can be sh** and humans can be wonderful
In late October of 2019, I went to my doctors office to get my annual flu shot. This year was a bit different because all the people getting the shot were lined up in the hallway with only 2 or 3 chairs available to sit on. I have difficulty walking and use a cane to help support me. There were a couple of instances where I received some wonderful help. The first was a lady who was sitting on one of the chairs that was close to the back of the line. I had only been standing for a couple of minutes and she got up and offered me that chair. I thanked her for that kind help. As the line progressed, I stood up and joined the queue where I was initially standing. I was in the lineup about half way, with about 9 or 10 people ahead of me, when everyone in front of me offered to let me go next for my shot. I asked them all if that was ok, and they all agreed. My doctor was very impressed with all the kindness, and right after the “jab”, I thanked everyone for their thoughtful consideration.
Just so everyone knows before you all downvote me. I didn't delete this comment because others thought it was offensive... I just deleted it because it gave away too much personal stuff that I think I should not share.
sniffling by #20, straight up crying by #30. Too sweet for me to cope with today dangit
When I was 19 my car got a flat on a tollway between Dallas and Ft.Worth. The side of the road was small and as I tried to lift my car on a Jack it would shake every time a truck zoomed by. I was truly frightened even though I knew well how to change a tire. A man stopped with his wife in the car and changed my tire for me. He turned out to be a pastor. Very thankful he stopped. Another time I was in DC and got lost trying to find my hotel. The highways were not labeled like where I came from and it was confusing. I stopped at a gas station and asked a man passing buy for help. It was right before google maps were a thing. I am sure I sounded funny in my full southern twang. I showed him my paper map and several other fellas came over. All about my dad's age. Between us we figured it out. I was just blocks from where I needed to be. Appreciated their kind help.
I like the line from the Luke Bryan Soong: Most People Are Good: if you just go by the nightly news, your faith in all mankind would be the first thing you'd lose. I help manage a food program that provides groceries and meals to anyone in need. We are a small community, but despite surface appearances, there is a lot of need around here. Any time I find myself slipping into negativity I head to work and as our volunteers show up to work long hours, I remember - YES most people are good! We all hear the horror stories on the nightly news and sometimes forget that amid all that noise many good people are making our world a better place in many small ways that matter big time.
ok i'm only 23 in and i had to come and hide in the comments for a minute... tears... tears just streaming down the side of my face lol
What a wonderful selection of kind and chivalrous actions. Great to see such a positive thread.
Yes, yes, and more yes! Please keep these stories coming!
indeed, the humans are good. It's the Universe's fault that it doesn't want to donate its soul quietly and politely.
You sound like Chthulu. Nice try, dark lord, nice try. Not donating my soul today
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Stop crying oppression, God damned drama queen
Load More Replies... These are lovely stories, but to me, it's not chivalry, it's people being kind to others.
I remove the snow and or ice from my partners car, clear the windows and get it demisted and warmed up for when they head to work in the early hours. But I do think there are loads of us out there that do the same thing because we worry about them and also care. Those little gesture etc may not seem much but without them we are poorer as a society, the littlest of things can make the biggest of differences.
When Texas has the bad ice and snow I had tried to get to my mailbox (apts) which is literally on my wall outside but the farthest out from my door, but ended up slipping but not falling. I have hip dysplasia and a fall like that could end me up having to have surgery. I happened to be looking out my front door and my sweet neighbor Ruben was looking out too. I mentioned about the fact I was not getting out even for mail because of nearly falling. The next morning I hear a bunch of scraping. He had found a shovel and scraped all the ice and snow off our porch area and the sidewalk and to our cars. Couldn't ask for a better neighbor
These stories are absolutely lovely and heartwarming! However...with all the gross, horrid men in the world...I'd honestly be scared to accept these sort of acts of kindness. I know that it's weird to say (how can you be scared of niceness?) but...for ones especially like holding the baby or holding my hand, it is a bit risky. What if they're only being nice to get something? What if they attack me? I know it's not ALL men...but yeah. I'm very glad that these boys all grew up to be good men.
Those "guys" who calls themselves alfa, beta, gama or whatever, this is what big penis energy is. Watch and learn how to behave/act.
I once was at a taffy place on my b-day and I was wearing something that said birthday kid and the person selling it to us gave us extra taffy for free!
The only thing I can remember, is a few years ago during worship in church, I just started sobbing. My mom who was right next to me- didn't notice for some time. But the man across the aisle reached over and handed me a small pack of tissues. Never got to thank him, it was loud and I was too busy crying, but I still remember it. I also got baptized later that day!! A surprise to me even, I hadn't planned it, just suddenly knew I had too
Now, don’t take this the wrong way, most of the actions portrayed in the article is sweet. However the concept of chivalry is heteronormative sh*te. It sets a bad precedent to have so men are the helpers and women are to be the helped. There is a reason men don’t talk about their struggles, and “take like a man (protector)”, or when people get shocked when women seek male-dominated things (fishing, automobiles, the S.T.E.M field), and then treat them weirdly and look at them like they have three heads because they have stepped out of the acceptable realm of womanhood, especially if they don’t like dress up or don’t want kids. And it is seen as a bad trait for women to have self-worth, they supposed to be pretty and soft-spoken. And this heteronormative concept is not good for the LGBTQ community. You say stuff like chivalry isn’t dead, but you don’t take a closer look at what you’re saying, would you agree that chivalry was strong in the 1950’s? You would probably say yes, and that is
a romanticized view of the 1950’s, but you don’t want to do that, segregation was still a thing, women couldn’t get a bank account without approval from a man, and gay rights was hardly a thing, and you’re telling me you want to romanticize this. Chivalry is a cr*ppy thing that should be put in a trash bin, you are mistaking chivalry for being polite. I would argue that sexism is in no way polite, and nice things can be done for the wrong reason. With the sweet gestures in the article they are nice when they are done in regards to kindness, but when they are done specifically because of gender, it lessens the kind gesture, and makes it heteronormative shite, chivalry dirties the waters of kindness, disguising sexist drivel and the dehumanization of women and setting the precedent of women as needing helped as default as kindness, and I find that concerning. We humans need to look out for each other, no matter what’s between are legs. The article would’ve been a thousand times better
Load More Replies... When I was pregnant, I was doing a lot of laundry at the laundromat. It was a terribly snowy day, so the owner looked at my inadequate cart, asked where I lived, and dropped it off for me. One year when I was scrambling to buy a tree just before Christmas, and the owner of the tree lot had to leave to plow roads. He saw I couldn't load a tree alone, so I was giving up on getting one. He asked where I live, and the next day just dropped one off. I caught him before he left and gave him a dozen eggs from our chickens and he was delighted, said his wife would love them. If you slow down, you can notice (and give to others) many such stories. (And they don't all turn on telling random strangers where I live) where I live...)
Last year, during the really bad winter storm here in Texas, my elderly neighbor cleared the sidewalks of multiple people with just a dustpan. After my car accident last year, a lady brought me a bottle of water. My mom crochets blankets for people and doesn't ask for payment. She just likes making the blankets.
Thoughtful, caring, compassionate... these notions come to mind when I see these acts of kindness .
indeed, blunt lies and satanic propaganda have the same effect on me.
Load More Replies... This whole article made me ugly cry! I cant even blame the onion ninjas. It's so nice to see things like this when most of my hope for humanity has gone down the drain. All the comments about people being kind "for the likes" just needs to stfu. If it wasn't for this kindness being documented, my hope in the human race would be even less. It's nice to see people being kind, be that in person or via photo
Sometimes a sweet gesture goes a long way. Recently I bought a very small travelling iron for my niece who wished for one, but it was secondhand and without manuals. I couldnt' figure out how to use it, and searched on the internet for manuals. There were none that I could find, but a woman had one for sale (also second hand) so I wrote and asked if she had a manual, and would she send me a copi. She did, and when I asked how I could pay her, she answered. You owe me nothing, Merry Christmas. I feel warm inside every time, I think about her kindness.
I can just feel my heart easing and smiling as I see these pictures. Just kindness, that's all and that's plenty. Humans can be sh** and humans can be wonderful
In late October of 2019, I went to my doctors office to get my annual flu shot. This year was a bit different because all the people getting the shot were lined up in the hallway with only 2 or 3 chairs available to sit on. I have difficulty walking and use a cane to help support me. There were a couple of instances where I received some wonderful help. The first was a lady who was sitting on one of the chairs that was close to the back of the line. I had only been standing for a couple of minutes and she got up and offered me that chair. I thanked her for that kind help. As the line progressed, I stood up and joined the queue where I was initially standing. I was in the lineup about half way, with about 9 or 10 people ahead of me, when everyone in front of me offered to let me go next for my shot. I asked them all if that was ok, and they all agreed. My doctor was very impressed with all the kindness, and right after the “jab”, I thanked everyone for their thoughtful consideration.
Just so everyone knows before you all downvote me. I didn't delete this comment because others thought it was offensive... I just deleted it because it gave away too much personal stuff that I think I should not share.
sniffling by #20, straight up crying by #30. Too sweet for me to cope with today dangit
When I was 19 my car got a flat on a tollway between Dallas and Ft.Worth. The side of the road was small and as I tried to lift my car on a Jack it would shake every time a truck zoomed by. I was truly frightened even though I knew well how to change a tire. A man stopped with his wife in the car and changed my tire for me. He turned out to be a pastor. Very thankful he stopped. Another time I was in DC and got lost trying to find my hotel. The highways were not labeled like where I came from and it was confusing. I stopped at a gas station and asked a man passing buy for help. It was right before google maps were a thing. I am sure I sounded funny in my full southern twang. I showed him my paper map and several other fellas came over. All about my dad's age. Between us we figured it out. I was just blocks from where I needed to be. Appreciated their kind help.
I like the line from the Luke Bryan Soong: Most People Are Good: if you just go by the nightly news, your faith in all mankind would be the first thing you'd lose. I help manage a food program that provides groceries and meals to anyone in need. We are a small community, but despite surface appearances, there is a lot of need around here. Any time I find myself slipping into negativity I head to work and as our volunteers show up to work long hours, I remember - YES most people are good! We all hear the horror stories on the nightly news and sometimes forget that amid all that noise many good people are making our world a better place in many small ways that matter big time.
ok i'm only 23 in and i had to come and hide in the comments for a minute... tears... tears just streaming down the side of my face lol
What a wonderful selection of kind and chivalrous actions. Great to see such a positive thread.
Yes, yes, and more yes! Please keep these stories coming!
indeed, the humans are good. It's the Universe's fault that it doesn't want to donate its soul quietly and politely.
You sound like Chthulu. Nice try, dark lord, nice try. Not donating my soul today
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