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Every bride wants the perfect wedding: starting from the guest list and the x-tiered cake to the gorgeous venue and the magical atmosphere. However, real-life isn’t perfect and there are no perfect weddings. Far from it! But if you demand perfection, then you’ve got to be the perfect bride to all of your guests and bridesmaids, too.

Unfortunately, the harsh truth is that not all brides are wholesome, joyful, and loving—some have got plenty of entitlement to go around that’s making some guests wonder whether to skip the happy occasion altogether. We’re not talking about your regular “we prefer wine over flowers” deal. Oh no! It’s the kind of entitlement and lists of demands that you’re likely to see on the legendary ‘Choosing Beggars’ subreddit.

With wedding season in full swing, you’re likely to get invited to a wedding or two this summer. So here’s a list of posts made by entitled brides that will make you glad that your loved ones and friends are nowhere near as bad. Remember to upvote the pics that you think should to act as an example of what to avoid doing in life and let us know about the biggest bridezillas you’ve ever encountered in your lives, dear Pandas.

Anna and Sarah from The Wedding Society shared with Bored Panda that the pandemic has shifted some wedding trends away from materialism and toward a different way to celebrate the happy day. “We're all being forced to reinvent what a wedding looks like and often now that means toned down, simplified and meaningful. Honestly, if people are looking to go with the trend of a big, gaudy, expensive wedding, that boat has well and truly sailed,” they said. Read on for the rest of the interview.

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My Mum Is An Artificial Florist And Had An ‘Influencer’ With 70k Followers Ask For Free Wedding Flowers For Exposure

My Mum Is An Artificial Florist And Had An ‘Influencer’ With 70k Followers Ask For Free Wedding Flowers For Exposure

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Hey, I Know That I've Given My Wedding No Thought But I Want You Dedicate The Next 48 Hours Of Your Life To It

Hey, I Know That I've Given My Wedding No Thought But I Want You Dedicate The Next 48 Hours Of Your Life To It

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Let Me Not Ask For Permission To Have My Wedding Here (God’s Plan)

Let Me Not Ask For Permission To Have My Wedding Here (God’s Plan)

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“The new trend that we're constantly seeing (and which we believe is here to stay) is having a day that is filled with meaning and feeling, rather than things,” Anna and Sarah pointed out to Bored Panda that current trends show people moving away from the things we’ve read in this list.

The wedding experts also shared with me their wisdom on how to approach situations where the happy couple might have very specific demands of their guests.

#4

"Fortunately I'm Not In A Position Where I Need To Pay To Work"

"Fortunately I'm Not In A Position Where I Need To Pay To Work"

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Rick
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I’d go, make sure I cut the heads off every single photo I took and then open a PayPal dispute afterwards and get my money back, but I’m just a petty bitch like that.

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Bride Cancels Her Wedding Because Her Guests Didn't "Donate" A $1,500 Each To Fund The Event

Bride Cancels Her Wedding Because Her Guests Didn't "Donate" A $1,500 Each To Fund The Event

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What Is It About Weddings That Brings Out The Choosiest Of Beggars

What Is It About Weddings That Brings Out The Choosiest Of Beggars

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“As a guest, if you're invited to a wedding where there is a specific code of conduct, dress, or gift, you're ultimately going to have to respect what is being asked of you or decline to attend,” they said. However, there is a ‘but.’

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“If the marrying couple are close enough to you, you should feel comfortable being honest in a kind way as to your reasons. And if the couple are the people that you know and love, they'll understand,” Anna and Sarah noted that your relationship with the couple really does count for something.

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Wedding Shoot

Wedding Shoot

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GirlFriday
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My niece got married two weeks ago and I was chatting with her photographer. She was telling me about all of the people that ask for free services for their weddings. The stories she told were of some of the most ridiculous stuff I had ever heard.

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Need You To Work For Free, Can’t Pay You Because I’ve Already Paid Others 10 Grand For My Wedding, Lmk

Need You To Work For Free, Can’t Pay You Because I’ve Already Paid Others 10 Grand For My Wedding, Lmk

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During an earlier interview, Anna and Sarah from The Wedding Society went into detail about the various aspects of weddings and perfection with me. They put it very simply: instead of focusing on all of the tiny details and trying to control everything, you should shine the spotlight on the marriage itself. Because that’s all that really matters.

“Trust us—you're only going to truly enjoy the day if you're focusing on what matters—the marriage. Everything else is just details,” they told Bored Panda earlier.

#10

Cb Bride

Cb Bride

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Ember
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I’m amazing people put up with this bull and don’t drop out much earlier

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Bride Tries To Force Friend To Do Photography For Her Wedding, Insists That He Pays Her For The Privilege

Bride Tries To Force Friend To Do Photography For Her Wedding, Insists That He Pays Her For The Privilege

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Parmeisan
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I interpreted this to mean that they said they'd pay but had no intention of doing so. Or do you mean the original giving in and offering to do it free? Yeah, probably a mistake. But I understand the motivation - if all your mutual friends are siding with the other person that you might just give in. Terrible mutual friends though.

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JuJu
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Sue them. Each and every one who threatened you by phone, text or stop in.

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Carmen Sandiego
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Where are these people? I'm gonna need something bigger than my taser.

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SuperChicken
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I would go to the police and file for harassment, and show all the messages and phone calls as proof. I don't care if it's her wedding day or her resurrection day, something has to be done. All these bridezillas are so self-absorbed, they think the world revolves around them.

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mary boone
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

"never had any intention of showing up" BRAVO! GREAT way to fk with the douche bags

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PandaJon
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

bu.. bu... but then who will sell the photos to the guests????

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Bernd Herbert
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

So the difference of a wedding being ruined or not are just 50 buck? Huh.

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Danjal Jannik TIndholm
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I am seriously tired of people. Not only in situations like this, but also like marital problems, child-raising, and so on. SOOOOO many people run to their families and friends and rant about it and drag them into other people's s**tshow. Grow the eff up!

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Susan Bosse
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Call the popo. And I don't blame this person. I'd have said yes and never showed just to shut them up. But that would have been a far behind second to calling the police.

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Don't Look
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Awww. She thinks guests pay for photos of her wedding. That’s swell. 🙄

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jaysko
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If it was her "best friend" wouldn't she either be IN the wedding, or at least attending it? Why would she be working it?? And why would the photographer pay to work??? None of this makes any sense

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Easily Excitable Panda
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2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Who are the people harassing the photographer? Are they prisoners, or just trying to share the misery?

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P.A.B.
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

All the folks who were blowing up your phone with calls and texts and showing up at your door should have pooled their money and paid for your services for Skankzilla’s photos. Otherwise, they should have just STFU.

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Lena Flising
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If her guest are supposed to buy photos, and her guests are badgering the photographer, why don't they just PAY HIM, and get the whole problem solved?

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Em Johnson
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You’re fault for continuing to even converse with the bitch after day one.

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Sue Hazlewood
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

So no plan to call the police to report the threats and harassment?

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Teresa Spanics
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The photographer should show up and post all the text messages that were sent to him and tell the wedding party that he will NOT take any pictures!

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Mickie Shea
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Be lik'n your response. Not easy to be poor and worse yet to make others poor

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Batwench
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Looks like they would have had evidence to go to police with harrasment.

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Bianca Du Toit
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Hope this person didn't show up. What in the f**k is wrong with people? It's a wedding. Boo hoo.

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Angelus Jiménez
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Just say yes and don't shoot anything! This way they have no photographer at all

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Redhead Mode
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I would love to see the follow up on this once they don't show.

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Looby
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

These people are obviously tapped and need a labotomy

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Mazer
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2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You still “MIGHT” get paid - WTF?!?!! This had red flags and toxicity all over it!! Never kowtow to this type of pressure just ignore it or run

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Nandina
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Good way to get them off your back till the wedding, but hope you are packing to enter a witness protection program when you don't show up.

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MuddyPuddles
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Scottish law is pretty much exactly the same as UK law (Scotland is in the UK) and a verbal contract is not a contract. It wouldn't stand in a court of law

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By Scottish law, if you have a verbal contract that you'll do it --- you better go and do it, no "I never had intention of showing up at this point". And in most other jurisdictions, as it's all in texts you have engaged in a valid contract. You're probably liable to the cost of the entire marriage including presents as it "needs a redo".

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Vinnie
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Verbal contracts is the same in most countries. On the other hand, full on harassing someone into to the point where they are left with no other choice than to accept the job isn't really legal either.

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Woman Expects Me To Photograph Her Wedding For $150 But The Exposure Is Priceless

Woman Expects Me To Photograph Her Wedding For $150 But The Exposure Is Priceless

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The duo from The Wedding Society suggested that brides shouldn’t obsess over a single thing, even one as important as a wedding dress. “The concept of a ‘perfect wedding dress’ really only matters deeply to those who are probably focusing on the wrong thing,” they said that we should all step back, reevaluate the situation, and remember what’s truly valuable here. 

#13

Woman Tries To Get Me To Take A Day Off School To Take Photographs Of Her Wedding

Woman Tries To Get Me To Take A Day Off School To Take Photographs Of Her Wedding

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Bride Is Pissed Her Bridesmaid Has The Wrong Color Toenail Polish, Gets Super Defensive In The Comments

Bride Is Pissed Her Bridesmaid Has The Wrong Color Toenail Polish, Gets Super Defensive In The Comments

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2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I was shocked at all of the things I was supposed to care about re: my bridesmaids. We bought a bolt of fabric, and I told them all to have made whatever style dress they felt comfortable in, as long as it was calf-length or longer. Hair? Whatever they wanted. Makeup? Whatever they wanted. Shoes? Whatever they were most comfortable in. Jewelry? Nails? Whatever they liked. I had so many vendors and older family members make comments about how the photographs wouldn't be "uniform" or "cohesive" if one had an updo and the other had a shoulder-length bob. Funny, but I was less concerned about "uniform" pictures and more concerned that people not be effing miserable. I can't believe people micromanage bridesmaids toenails. WHO IS LOOKING AT THAT?!

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A Lifetime Opportunity: Wedding Party With A Contract

A Lifetime Opportunity: Wedding Party With A Contract

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Sorry, I zoned out after 'will be required'. Have a great wedding.

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“There are literally thousands of incredible dresses directly available to you—it's almost a physical impossibility for only one to be right for you and, if that's how you're feeling, it's probably worth stepping back, taking a deep breath, and re-shifting your priorities,” they said. Similarly, focusing on gifts isn’t the way to go either because it takes away the focus from the celebration of love and shifts it towards material things and social status.

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Kindly Refrain From Upstaging The Bride On Her Big Day — Oh, And No Admission Without A Gift Of $75 Or More

Kindly Refrain From Upstaging The Bride On Her Big Day — Oh, And No Admission Without A Gift Of $75 Or More

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Yeah Because Photographers Who Would Normally Charge $2000 Or More Are Just Waiting Around Bored And Willing To Do Your Wedding For Free

Yeah Because Photographers Who Would Normally Charge $2000 Or More Are Just Waiting Around Bored And Willing To Do Your Wedding For Free

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Beggar Bride Asks Stranger To Be Bridesmaid Because She Gives Expensive Gifts - From Wedding Shaming Fb Page

Beggar Bride Asks Stranger To Be Bridesmaid Because She Gives Expensive Gifts - From Wedding Shaming Fb Page

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Rick
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

From potential bridesmaid to “guest list full, sorry” in 0.2 seconds

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According to Anna and Sarah, too many people are “caught up in the party and the image” because they want to impress their social circles. Letting go of the need to impress takes a lot of stress off your shoulders and leaves more time to spend with the people that are supposed to mean the most to us. Entitlement and arrogance serve no one, especially not the person using both as a way to try and get the ‘perfect’ wedding.

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Give Me A Free Wedding Song

Give Me A Free Wedding Song

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Bride Is Expecting Everyone To Spend $400 Or More On Her Wedding Gifts

Bride Is Expecting Everyone To Spend $400 Or More On Her Wedding Gifts

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#21

Bride Upset That Nobody Gave Her Cash At Her Engagement Party

Bride Upset That Nobody Gave Her Cash At Her Engagement Party

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Rick
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I think you should definitely give them another chance to tell you how stupid and selfish you are again, yes.

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#22

Bride Wants My Photographer Friend To Learn Another Photographer's "Style" And Basically Give Her A Discount For A Wedding That's In A Couple Of Weeks

Bride Wants My Photographer Friend To Learn Another Photographer's "Style" And Basically Give Her A Discount For A Wedding That's In A Couple Of Weeks

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PandaJon
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I would just play along and then when it;s too close to actually get anyone else tell her "plans fell through"... but that's just me.

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#23

I've Officially Dropped Out Of The Bridal Party. I'm A Size 12 With No Plans On Dropping To A Size 8 By December

I've Officially Dropped Out Of The Bridal Party. I'm A Size 12 With No Plans On Dropping To A Size 8 By December

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Full of Giggles
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Having your dream wedding planned since you were a kid does not validate fat shaming. There is no justification for it under any circumstance. It is rude. It is insensitive. And it most certainly is offensive. You should be ashamed of yourself.

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Anon Doesn’t Want To Drive A Free Bmw Or Tesla To His Wedding

Anon Doesn’t Want To Drive A Free Bmw Or Tesla To His Wedding

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Not a bride. BP should change the title of this list. Men can be entitled too.

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#25

Nobody Wants To Pay A Bare Minimum Of 250 Dollars In Gifts To Go To A Wedding

Nobody Wants To Pay A Bare Minimum Of 250 Dollars In Gifts To Go To A Wedding

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Sorry You Can’t Come To The Wedding, Send Us Money Anyway

Sorry You Can’t Come To The Wedding, Send Us Money Anyway

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I’ll Just Pay For My Whole Wedding With Experience Points!

I’ll Just Pay For My Whole Wedding With Experience Points!

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PandaJon
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Please allow me to spend many hours of "fun" for you, someone I don't even know to get free stuff for your wedding

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Cb Bride To Be Complaining That Her Fiance Proposed To Her With His Grandmother's Diamond Instead Of The 'Blingy Ring' She 'Always Wanted'

Cb Bride To Be Complaining That Her Fiance Proposed To Her With His Grandmother's Diamond Instead Of The 'Blingy Ring' She 'Always Wanted'

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Samantha Lomb
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2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

In fairness if you ask what she wants and the get something completely different I can see being disappointed. Plus it shows he didn't listen to her and instead sorta foisted his and his family's choice on her. I would be annoyed to be asked and then completely ignored and pressured into something I didn't want. 10 years for a proposal likely also indicates other problems too

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Cb Asks To People Pay To Be In Her Wedding

Cb Asks To People Pay To Be In Her Wedding

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Come To Our Wedding And Pay $700 To Stay In The Guest House But You’ll Be Sleeping On The Pullout Couch Because You’re The Only Singleton. Also, Did I Mention You’re Cooking For Everyone?

Come To Our Wedding And Pay $700 To Stay In The Guest House But You’ll Be Sleeping On The Pullout Couch Because You’re The Only Singleton. Also, Did I Mention You’re Cooking For Everyone?

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