Mom Kicked Her 17 Y.O. Son Out Of The House He Owned By Inheritance, When He Grew Up, He Changed All The Locks While She Was Away
Receiving a valuable inheritance is a blessing and a curse. On one hand, if you were struggling financially, this aspect of your life can be fixed, but on the other hand, it can bring out the worst in a person and cause family fights.
Redditor Yes_ISaidThat experienced it firsthand as he inherited properties after his dad passed away. He then owned the house he was living in with his mom and her new partner, but was forced to move in with his grandparents following his mom’s request and was actually asked to gift one of the properties to the mom’s new partner as a sign of welcoming his new dad.
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Man is finally old enough to access his father’s inheritance and doesn’t hesitate to kick out his mom and her new family from the house
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The Original Poster (OP) is now 23 years old, but when he was 15, his dad passed away. His parents weren’t married, so in his will, the dad left everything to his son. The will was very well written as it couldn’t be challenged and the assets couldn’t be accessed until the son turned 21 years old.
Despite that, the OP’s mom tried to convince him to pass over one of the properties he inherited to her new partner she got together with only 2 months after the passing of her previous one. The gift would have been considered a welcome gesture to the OP’s new dad, but it wasn’t possible because the son didn’t even have access to the property yet.
The OP’s dad passed away and left everything to his son who was just 15 at the time
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Not only that, but the OP’s mom and her new partner weren’t really even trying to keep him happy and included in the family. The man had two kids and it seemed that the mom put more effort into making her stepkids happy, paying less attention to her biological child.
The OP didn’t feel like he was abused or neglected, even though listening to his story, it might appear so, because the mom would favor the other kids and would take them on vacations, but tell her son to stay with his grandparents from his dad’s side instead.
One of the properties was the house the son, his mom and his stepdad with his stepsiblings were living in
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Another concerning event that happened was that Yes_ISaidThat’s mom made him leave the family house, which was in his name, when he was 17 because he didn’t accept the replacement for his dad and would fight a lot.
The teen listened to his grandparents’ advice and avoided confrontation by moving in with them. During this period, the mom would often visit the OP and would often tell him how she loved him, but peace at home was more important.
When the OP finished college, he decided to inspect what his father left him. His plan was to renovate the house he had been kicked out of, which his mom was living in with her new family, and to rent it so the money would fund his master’s degree.
When he went to the house, nobody was there and his mom wasn’t picking up her phone as the family had gone on a vacation. The OP decided not to wait until they came back and changed the locks to officially take possession of the property.
But at the age of 17, the OP was forced to move out as the mom couldn’t stand him constantly fighting with his stepdad
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Understandably, that made the mom and her now-husband really mad because they couldn’t get in and the OP was out of town that day. However, he did give them the keys to the new lock as he gave his mom and her family two weeks to find a place to live.
The whole family on his mom’s side shamed him for acting like this, but most people in the comments felt sorry for the young man who had been essentially kicked out of home when he was a teen and treated as an outcast in his mom’s newly formed family.
After college, the OP finally was old enough to access his assets so he planned to renovate the family house and rent it
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While most of the people who read the story were on the OP’s side, they had questions and Yes_ISaidThat was active in the comments replying to questions. Turns out, he is from Nicaragua and it is totally legal to kick someone out of your property the second you find it is necessary without any notice.
Also, he was the one paying all the property taxes and there was no contract between him and his mom that would prove they were renting the place, so there was nothing stopping the son from making his mom leave.
Although, the OP admitted that two weeks is not enough time to find a new place to live, so after considering the response other redditors gave, he extended that time to a month.
He changed the locks when nobody was at the house and gave his mom 2 weeks to move out
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His family on the mom’s side thought he was being a bad child even though his actions were legal
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Do you think the OP was in the wrong here and shouldn’t have changed the locks while the family was away? Or do you think his behavior was justified because of how he was treated in his teen years? Let us know your thoughts in the comments!
People in the comments sided with the OP as the house is his property, but they believed he could have given the family more time to find a new home
NTA - if the mom and step-family didn't figure it was coming after how they treated him, they're pretty dumb.
I want to say that the OP was gaslighted or if his mom had ulterior motives.
Load More Replies...What a gold digger his egg donor is! The hide of her trying to get a grieving 15yo to hand over his inheritance to her current bed warmer who was moved in 8 WEEKS after his fathers death. His old man definitely had his mother summed up well and truly to have an ironclad will and trust like that.
Right on yes. I'm all for moving on and starting over but only 2 weeks after his father's death wow, or was it 8 weeks, still omg???
Load More Replies...All I see are a bunch of assholes on here defending a theif who STOLE someone else's house. Good for you OP. Kick them out. Hopefully they starve to death. They stole someone else's house and unlawfully kept it, while illegally squatting without the owner's consent. Charge them for all the YEARS they didn't pay rent, and sue them for all the years they kept you from living in your own house
I personally feel that the young man was absolutely right for what he did. The mother is full of s*** for accepting another man and her husband haven't even let the dirt settle on his grave. Then she decided to kick her flesh and blood out of the home he inherited from his father. Damn shame. Also great job for the grandparents for letting there grandson stayed with them and giving positive advice for him to follow.
F that! He's giving them 8 years. Maybe his mom should learn not to live off other people. Good for him
He was absolutely in the right and he should have had her served with papers to appear for court to be sued for back rent and a restraining order to not come back to the property and all their personal belongings would have been packed in boxes at the end of the driveway
He's making himself a priority. Nothing wrong with that after the way he was treated. And yes, that was abuse. Not physical but emotional.
The son isn't in the wrong. She is! She is getting exactly what she deserves. This sort of thing happens the world over. Too many "mother's" put their own selfish desires for a lover and regular sex over the necessity to BE a mom and take care of their kids!!! Her own kid should come first over some boyfriend and his kids! Way I see it? If she's trampy enough to move in a lover less than 2 months after her child's father died, and then asks the son to leave, then I got no sympathy for her whatsoever. Pretty sure a lawyer will take his side. Dad must have known the mom wasn't trustworthy. Hence reason the will was written as it was. Clearly he didn't love and trust her enough to marry her. That says a lot right there.
It really sickens me to see how people show there true colors after a loved one passes away..the greed etc..I think the son did the right thing..clearly she chose her man over her son..sad and disgusting.
KEEP THESE DIRTBAGS OUT OF YOUR LIFE! ANY MOTHER WHO WOULD DO SOMETHING SO VILE TO HER OWN SON, DESERVES TO LIVE ON THE SIDEWALK WITH HER "BUM", AS WELL AS HIS PREGNANT, LAZY "COW", DAUGHTER! NEVER SPEAK TO THEM AGAIN!
Abusive is forbidden word? What's next? I'm really dismayed that everything is censored.
You did right my man. Better than myself I would of told them start packing n hit the road. So ballsy, cold blooded. Your father knew what he was doing. You seen the truth at 15 I did the same, mine just got divorce but very same scenario. Good luck to your future,great job my man!
What a sad situation for the young man. He lost his father and basically lost his mother as well. Thankfully he has loving grandparents to support him. He’s young and made an impulsive decision when they were away but I’m not going to fault him for that considering the pain they put him through. He and his kids are adults and can get jobs to help the couple out. I wish him the best of luck with his Masters program and happiness in the future. Losing a parent young affects you your whole life.
NTA It sounds like u have the legal part under controll. Iirc in my country it wouldn't make a difference if they pay rent or not. As long as they lifed in a place for a certain time they get a term of notice. Those abusive relationships can be quiet subtile. Imo your mother neglected u and that is abusive. Changing the locks without telling them is a tiny little bit nasty but sometimes u need that to get the feeling back of beeing of equal value.
I'm not in favor of having children; I don't believe the world needs more humans, or any at all really. But I do believe if you're going to bring life into the world, you should do the best for that life that you possibly can. Kicking your kid out to "keep the peace" is bailing on a human you created in favor of one you stumbled upon, and unless the kid is a flat out sociopath (at least some of which must come from the parents), that's the ultimate betrayal.
Momma sowed the wind, now it's time to reap the whirlwind. Take care of yourself, OP. John Conroy can get off his coddled backside to care for the family they excluded you from. CYA and best of luck.
NTA--I wish my father's will was as foolproof...my mom spent the money I was supposed to have for post secondary on a money pit..and multiple problems arose after that. Good on you for standing up for what is yours, and had the will and people to support you. The rest of us in the same but not so protected situation..salute you!!!-- lol..( hopefully you are able to turn one of your properties into investment!!-- kudos for the foresight is someone of your age!!)-- again super NTA!!!
Oh please...just No...NTA. Classic " What Goes Around Comes Around." This woman is abjectly self-centered & an unabashed con- not a very good one to boot. Likely why OP's father never married her. Children of self-absorbed parents often learn to be quite self-sufficient. Evicting his mum was probably the wisest thing he could've done.
I'm just baffled the mom was allowed to stay, rent free for all those years. How did no one help this kid get rid of her sooner!?
Omg I love this story, this is justice hardcore. U think u can treat your son like c**p cause he inherited everything from his dad and u not. Not smart, if the mom treated him better, maybe the son could've shared his inheritance with her, wow.
You are so NOT an AH!!! As I read in between the lines of your story. Your father never married her. So, he made an IRON CLAD will leaving you his assets. More than likely a lawyer/family member took power of attorney of his assets. Until you turned 18. Mom preferred to do a stepmom's job than a mother's. She kicked you out of your house. Wanted you to legally hand over property to her for free. AND she even tried to contest the will. So, there's no legally binding contract between your mom and the PA. Paying the mortgage, etc... ASAY turned 18 you paid the taxes. Because, the house was paid for. When your dad died. So, you actually were SUPER nice giving the 2 weeks notice to them to get out. I wouldn't have done that. No contract, not legally blinding. 2 weeks to get out was a courtesy. Like you said. My sympathy for how you grew up and my condolences for your loss.
Wow. Ur a better then me. They wouldn't have even got 2 weeks from me. U was put out ur own home by ur mom to satisfy a man she had already probably been messing around with when ur dad was alive. Yea I would have changed the locks and they would have not gotten a key. U need something out my house. Call me I be there to let u in get what u Need and lock up behind yall. With the rights u have where ur at and the fact that u waited 2 extra years after u were legally entitled shows even more strength to me. I applaud u for what and how u handled it cause that been me a person who don't give a damn about what people think or there opinions I'd set a time everyday I'm free for them to come get as much as they can in that time frame. U don't owe nobe of them anything especially the man and his kids who's need living of u since u were 15 and mom f****d up wen she choose his family over her own flesh and blood. Not to be bogus but hell she probably only had u to try and get what u inherited
She put her boyfriend ahead of her biological son he was a outcast to her he let her live there with the new family and ignored him so he done great kicked them out and hope his father is proud of him .
You did what you needed to do. Sorry your mom totally turned her back on you. I don't think that you were in the wrong at all. There was no real agreement between the mom and you right?
If the property was in his name and he was paying for it he should of kicked them out when they decided it would be better for him to live elsewhere. He would of been well within his rights if whoever oversaw his finances had informed him of that. He could of had that many more years of income waiting for him once he turned of age.
The part that doesn't sit well with me is changing the locks without their knowledge and in their absence. In my country it is illegal to do so, as you would potentially risk someone's safety by locking them out of their living space without prior warning. Are his mum and her new partner assholes? Sure. Is it his fault the girl is pregnant? Of course not. Had they had it coming? Definitely. Should he be claiming his properties? Of course! But why not send a letter with registered mail, ordering them to leave within 4 weeks. Would be interesting to know what country he is in. I was able to move into a new flat in a couple of days in the UK, in Germany not so much... My main concern here really is the safety issues of denying someone access to their (temporary) living quarters with absolutely no notice. A quick *edit*: with locking someone out with absolutely no warning could (could!) potentially also mean locking their access to medicine, money, documents needed to rent a new property, etc. Yes, they have the keys to the new locks now, but clearly not upon arrival. I would not want to have that on my conscience if someone could not get to a fresh inhaler in time for example. Hypothetical example I know, but you never know.
Easy: don't be an a.s.s.hole to your teenager, who in 6 years will be in charge with your housing. I
Load More Replies...Commenting on the comments thread of an online article writing about the thread you commented on is the meta verse in real life,lol.
Your own mother...I am so sorry. She lived for all that time for free in another man's/your house with a new boyfriend!! She got more than she deserved. She is lucky you are giving her a month! Let's see how long Mr. Self-employed sticks around!!
I think the son did just fine. His mom and her new family got the benefit of the house all that time and should of already had plans in place to give back the house. But they didn’t because they weren’t planning on leaving. They got free rent and didn’t have to pay taxes. They could of had a good nest egg to buy their own home. Kudos to the generous son
NTA....the step mom & her "new" family must reap what they sow...obviously she never even loved or had feelings for your father bc someone just doesn't "move" on that quickly...first red flag & I'm sure she started treating him different long ago! My father remarried after him & my mom divorced when I was 2...I'm now 40...my step mom all these years has not been the greatest but my brother & I also hope that she goes before my father bc if not then my brother & I are screwed bc she will take everything for her & my step brother. Since moving in with them when I was 13 my step mom would always remind me of how much she hated my mother, how much $ she would spend on us & supposedly how much she loved us. I got pregnant @ 15 & my step mom asked me to get an abortion when I was 8 months pregnant...that's how much she "loved" us! Our relationship has finally got better but my mother has been gone now for 6 yrs & my step mom still tells me how much she hated my mother....we are getting bette
I think OP's Dad realized Mom had a wondering eye👁 , because why else would he go to the extreme of putting those restrictions on the Estate?🤔 As for OP following through on his rights to his Estate; I truly believe he realized his Mom was not going to favor his decisions and as the Romans do heed the moment you have at hand for who knows when it will present itself again. I pray all goes well for this Young man's future and that no weapon be formed against him. Amen.
As OP pointed out, not everybody living in USA, who is posting on twitter. Totally believable in an eastern-european country, for example. In Eastern-Europe many, like 80% of the population has own properties, especially the population over 50. That's a long story of 45 years of communist-system.
Load More Replies...Nah.That's your mom.You'll never understand how much she loves you until are a mom and you won't be because you are a male.Your dad and her weren't married,sure.But they loved each other enough to have you.Of course your dad would leave everything to his only child.Your mom cared for u,with whose money? I'm so happy in my culture and religion,parents are respected and valued as they should be.
People commented on how he should give them more time to leave, I don't think he was given much notice when he was kicked out at 17.
Not the a*s, at all. She made you leave your home, you now owned, made you a very low priority, tried to influence you to “ give” a property to her new dude, as a gift. They likely full well k ew how expensive the properties you owned, were! Land is money. Anywhere you go! She never arranged to oay for anyrhing , you paid it all. I’d say that what you did was legal and fine. You were/ are her son and she treated you like c**p. Do what you need to! Your father left you a legacy to secure your future and do well when you married and started a family. Your dad had his reasons for structuring his will to be unbreakable and binding… so there was something he suspected or knew about your mom. He protected you well! I am just sorry your mom was an uncaring person. Go have a wonderful life and enjoy it! Get your masters and go for it!
An awful lot of legal advice for a story that definitely didn’t happen.
Dreadful! My parents promised when they died everything would be divided by 4. Did not happen, my younger two siblings went to the lawyer, dragged the parents along and put the lot in a trust with only her and her sister . My brother and I never got a penny!
Oh WOW 😳😳😳! How sad, frustrating and very hurtful to hear about this... Especially from someone who just lost his Father and to find out his mother would literally give him more pain to deal with in the after fact. To: OP Are You Ok? I Hope and Pray You are doing very well Spiritually, Emotionally, Mentally and Physically because as a mother, I be damned to take a man over my babies!!! You have such a bigger heart than most after enduring a loss and to find out your mom has a boyfriend 2 months after your dad passed. To Me THAT'S F***** UP! Your Father probably knew what kind of person your Mom was before He made a decision on your inheritance. Remember, NO MATTER WHAT ALWAYS BE KIND! Because I know HOW F***** UP IT CAN BE WHEN BEING TREATED THAT TYPE OF WAY ESPECIALLY FROM PEOPLE YOU THOUGHT HAD LOVED YOU! NOW DAYS LOVE IS REALLY HARD TO FIND BECAUSE YOU NEVER KNOW WHAT ANYONE'S INTENTIONS ARE. MAY YOUR FUTURE BE BRIGHTER THAN YOUR PASS AND MAY GODS SON ALWAYS GUIDE YOU EVERYDAY.
Strange that this us slmost identical to an "article" about a guy who knocked his step mother out, after his father left the house to him, when she and her deadbeat new hubby were on vacation.
Sorry, tablet typos .... *is almost and kicked*
Load More Replies...I do not think the new guy just came along in two month after his father's death. I think he was around before his father died. I think in some way kid giving up house was a way to pay mom back for putting up with dad all those years. Would not be at all surprised if dad was cheating too. I assume mom never thanked grandparents or gave them a nickel for his support. I feel sorry for this kid who seems honest and nice.
Bruh I say this as an uncle who raised his 2 nephews and niece and I'll say this. If you don't treat kids and raise your them right then they don't owe you s**t. Being a parent is hard but you have to accommodate all of you to your children. Clearly the dad was the sane parent here thinking for his son while mom was off in lala land maybe even seeing this man before his father passed. Some people are just unbelievable especially if you look at the whole story.
I would of given them 2 months to leave. Exactly the amount of time it took your mom to move on when your dad died. I would even of said this.... "you changed your life and moved on in months before.. you can do it again".
It was a difficult read because the whole story kept using run on sentences. It was very repetitive in it's paragraph's structures from beginning to end. It took too many words to say the same point. Clarification and succinctly well written points were missing. Descriptions and lack of adjectives did not paint a beautiful picture for the reader.
Right here folks...a PERFECT example of missing the forest for the trees. Well done, Donna! Is that succint enough for you?
Load More Replies...ESH. OP sounds like a douche telling the primary demographic of Reddit that it's their fault he didn't specify where he was from.
This is sad. I am sorry for 15 yr old you...you lost your father AND mother in a way at least. You're NTA...and it seems like you have a good plan going forward. I have young adult children, so it makes me sad to hear this. I hope it all works out for you.. Edit: I suppose you need to decide if this is all worth those relationships, I do not envy you for this. I disagree with ppl saying yta... It's always been your house, they're the assholes for making you feel unwelcome and unwanted in your home. As a parent, their job is to protect you..and it seems your father did that. Is there a way you would rent it to your mom?
Slight YTA for how OP went about it (changing the locks without any kind of notice) but NTA for everything else.
The mother didn't give him notice before deciding to bring in a new man (2 MONTHS after he lost his father) or prior to kicking him out if HIS house. Honestly, I would have done it the minute the clock struck 12 on my 21st birthday.
Load More Replies...Not sure here. I absolutely understand his anger but I wish he acted a bit more human by giving them more time.
Are you simple??? You're think kind of person who got their lunch money take in school. Personally at 11:59 pm on the eve of my birthday I'd be knocking on the door goin...."times up...get your useless asses out of my house. You can keep the keys. I'll be changing the locks again."
Load More Replies...Act like a landlord for tenants that don't pay rent? Yeah you kick them to the curb. She wasn't a tenant, she was squatting.
Load More Replies...He was fn 15 and his father just died, and his mom tried to replace his dad like an old pair of shoes, and tried to get him to give her new bf (who I guarantee she was already screwing around with like a lot of females do) one of the properties his dad left him. Fck you. You're a pos if you think he was wrong for being overwhelmed with emotions. Then, after being treated as an unwelcomed dog by his own fn mother, and booted out of the house and left out on all those vacations, he's supposed to be all happy nice to them? Fck you for thinking that, too. I'll bet you're a pos that would do the same things his mom and her bfs family did to a child of yours. Eat sh*t fckface.
Load More Replies...Oh, fck off and eat sh*t. The family fcked him over and his mom sh*t on a grieving 15 yr old and tried to manipulate him while simultaneously neglecting and abusing him. You're a pos if you side with that worthless fn mom and her pos bf and family. You'd probably do that sh*t to your own kids if you have any.
Load More Replies...Disproportionate?? He was a grieving fn child, and his mother wasn't there for him and instead tried to manipulate him and abused him. You're a fn pos for thinking like this, and I'll bet you'd do the same to any kids of yours if you have any. Fck off, you deserve to be punched in the fn mouth and throat.
Load More Replies...NTA - if the mom and step-family didn't figure it was coming after how they treated him, they're pretty dumb.
I want to say that the OP was gaslighted or if his mom had ulterior motives.
Load More Replies...What a gold digger his egg donor is! The hide of her trying to get a grieving 15yo to hand over his inheritance to her current bed warmer who was moved in 8 WEEKS after his fathers death. His old man definitely had his mother summed up well and truly to have an ironclad will and trust like that.
Right on yes. I'm all for moving on and starting over but only 2 weeks after his father's death wow, or was it 8 weeks, still omg???
Load More Replies...All I see are a bunch of assholes on here defending a theif who STOLE someone else's house. Good for you OP. Kick them out. Hopefully they starve to death. They stole someone else's house and unlawfully kept it, while illegally squatting without the owner's consent. Charge them for all the YEARS they didn't pay rent, and sue them for all the years they kept you from living in your own house
I personally feel that the young man was absolutely right for what he did. The mother is full of s*** for accepting another man and her husband haven't even let the dirt settle on his grave. Then she decided to kick her flesh and blood out of the home he inherited from his father. Damn shame. Also great job for the grandparents for letting there grandson stayed with them and giving positive advice for him to follow.
F that! He's giving them 8 years. Maybe his mom should learn not to live off other people. Good for him
He was absolutely in the right and he should have had her served with papers to appear for court to be sued for back rent and a restraining order to not come back to the property and all their personal belongings would have been packed in boxes at the end of the driveway
He's making himself a priority. Nothing wrong with that after the way he was treated. And yes, that was abuse. Not physical but emotional.
The son isn't in the wrong. She is! She is getting exactly what she deserves. This sort of thing happens the world over. Too many "mother's" put their own selfish desires for a lover and regular sex over the necessity to BE a mom and take care of their kids!!! Her own kid should come first over some boyfriend and his kids! Way I see it? If she's trampy enough to move in a lover less than 2 months after her child's father died, and then asks the son to leave, then I got no sympathy for her whatsoever. Pretty sure a lawyer will take his side. Dad must have known the mom wasn't trustworthy. Hence reason the will was written as it was. Clearly he didn't love and trust her enough to marry her. That says a lot right there.
It really sickens me to see how people show there true colors after a loved one passes away..the greed etc..I think the son did the right thing..clearly she chose her man over her son..sad and disgusting.
KEEP THESE DIRTBAGS OUT OF YOUR LIFE! ANY MOTHER WHO WOULD DO SOMETHING SO VILE TO HER OWN SON, DESERVES TO LIVE ON THE SIDEWALK WITH HER "BUM", AS WELL AS HIS PREGNANT, LAZY "COW", DAUGHTER! NEVER SPEAK TO THEM AGAIN!
Abusive is forbidden word? What's next? I'm really dismayed that everything is censored.
You did right my man. Better than myself I would of told them start packing n hit the road. So ballsy, cold blooded. Your father knew what he was doing. You seen the truth at 15 I did the same, mine just got divorce but very same scenario. Good luck to your future,great job my man!
What a sad situation for the young man. He lost his father and basically lost his mother as well. Thankfully he has loving grandparents to support him. He’s young and made an impulsive decision when they were away but I’m not going to fault him for that considering the pain they put him through. He and his kids are adults and can get jobs to help the couple out. I wish him the best of luck with his Masters program and happiness in the future. Losing a parent young affects you your whole life.
NTA It sounds like u have the legal part under controll. Iirc in my country it wouldn't make a difference if they pay rent or not. As long as they lifed in a place for a certain time they get a term of notice. Those abusive relationships can be quiet subtile. Imo your mother neglected u and that is abusive. Changing the locks without telling them is a tiny little bit nasty but sometimes u need that to get the feeling back of beeing of equal value.
I'm not in favor of having children; I don't believe the world needs more humans, or any at all really. But I do believe if you're going to bring life into the world, you should do the best for that life that you possibly can. Kicking your kid out to "keep the peace" is bailing on a human you created in favor of one you stumbled upon, and unless the kid is a flat out sociopath (at least some of which must come from the parents), that's the ultimate betrayal.
Momma sowed the wind, now it's time to reap the whirlwind. Take care of yourself, OP. John Conroy can get off his coddled backside to care for the family they excluded you from. CYA and best of luck.
NTA--I wish my father's will was as foolproof...my mom spent the money I was supposed to have for post secondary on a money pit..and multiple problems arose after that. Good on you for standing up for what is yours, and had the will and people to support you. The rest of us in the same but not so protected situation..salute you!!!-- lol..( hopefully you are able to turn one of your properties into investment!!-- kudos for the foresight is someone of your age!!)-- again super NTA!!!
Oh please...just No...NTA. Classic " What Goes Around Comes Around." This woman is abjectly self-centered & an unabashed con- not a very good one to boot. Likely why OP's father never married her. Children of self-absorbed parents often learn to be quite self-sufficient. Evicting his mum was probably the wisest thing he could've done.
I'm just baffled the mom was allowed to stay, rent free for all those years. How did no one help this kid get rid of her sooner!?
Omg I love this story, this is justice hardcore. U think u can treat your son like c**p cause he inherited everything from his dad and u not. Not smart, if the mom treated him better, maybe the son could've shared his inheritance with her, wow.
You are so NOT an AH!!! As I read in between the lines of your story. Your father never married her. So, he made an IRON CLAD will leaving you his assets. More than likely a lawyer/family member took power of attorney of his assets. Until you turned 18. Mom preferred to do a stepmom's job than a mother's. She kicked you out of your house. Wanted you to legally hand over property to her for free. AND she even tried to contest the will. So, there's no legally binding contract between your mom and the PA. Paying the mortgage, etc... ASAY turned 18 you paid the taxes. Because, the house was paid for. When your dad died. So, you actually were SUPER nice giving the 2 weeks notice to them to get out. I wouldn't have done that. No contract, not legally blinding. 2 weeks to get out was a courtesy. Like you said. My sympathy for how you grew up and my condolences for your loss.
Wow. Ur a better then me. They wouldn't have even got 2 weeks from me. U was put out ur own home by ur mom to satisfy a man she had already probably been messing around with when ur dad was alive. Yea I would have changed the locks and they would have not gotten a key. U need something out my house. Call me I be there to let u in get what u Need and lock up behind yall. With the rights u have where ur at and the fact that u waited 2 extra years after u were legally entitled shows even more strength to me. I applaud u for what and how u handled it cause that been me a person who don't give a damn about what people think or there opinions I'd set a time everyday I'm free for them to come get as much as they can in that time frame. U don't owe nobe of them anything especially the man and his kids who's need living of u since u were 15 and mom f****d up wen she choose his family over her own flesh and blood. Not to be bogus but hell she probably only had u to try and get what u inherited
She put her boyfriend ahead of her biological son he was a outcast to her he let her live there with the new family and ignored him so he done great kicked them out and hope his father is proud of him .
You did what you needed to do. Sorry your mom totally turned her back on you. I don't think that you were in the wrong at all. There was no real agreement between the mom and you right?
If the property was in his name and he was paying for it he should of kicked them out when they decided it would be better for him to live elsewhere. He would of been well within his rights if whoever oversaw his finances had informed him of that. He could of had that many more years of income waiting for him once he turned of age.
The part that doesn't sit well with me is changing the locks without their knowledge and in their absence. In my country it is illegal to do so, as you would potentially risk someone's safety by locking them out of their living space without prior warning. Are his mum and her new partner assholes? Sure. Is it his fault the girl is pregnant? Of course not. Had they had it coming? Definitely. Should he be claiming his properties? Of course! But why not send a letter with registered mail, ordering them to leave within 4 weeks. Would be interesting to know what country he is in. I was able to move into a new flat in a couple of days in the UK, in Germany not so much... My main concern here really is the safety issues of denying someone access to their (temporary) living quarters with absolutely no notice. A quick *edit*: with locking someone out with absolutely no warning could (could!) potentially also mean locking their access to medicine, money, documents needed to rent a new property, etc. Yes, they have the keys to the new locks now, but clearly not upon arrival. I would not want to have that on my conscience if someone could not get to a fresh inhaler in time for example. Hypothetical example I know, but you never know.
Easy: don't be an a.s.s.hole to your teenager, who in 6 years will be in charge with your housing. I
Load More Replies...Commenting on the comments thread of an online article writing about the thread you commented on is the meta verse in real life,lol.
Your own mother...I am so sorry. She lived for all that time for free in another man's/your house with a new boyfriend!! She got more than she deserved. She is lucky you are giving her a month! Let's see how long Mr. Self-employed sticks around!!
I think the son did just fine. His mom and her new family got the benefit of the house all that time and should of already had plans in place to give back the house. But they didn’t because they weren’t planning on leaving. They got free rent and didn’t have to pay taxes. They could of had a good nest egg to buy their own home. Kudos to the generous son
NTA....the step mom & her "new" family must reap what they sow...obviously she never even loved or had feelings for your father bc someone just doesn't "move" on that quickly...first red flag & I'm sure she started treating him different long ago! My father remarried after him & my mom divorced when I was 2...I'm now 40...my step mom all these years has not been the greatest but my brother & I also hope that she goes before my father bc if not then my brother & I are screwed bc she will take everything for her & my step brother. Since moving in with them when I was 13 my step mom would always remind me of how much she hated my mother, how much $ she would spend on us & supposedly how much she loved us. I got pregnant @ 15 & my step mom asked me to get an abortion when I was 8 months pregnant...that's how much she "loved" us! Our relationship has finally got better but my mother has been gone now for 6 yrs & my step mom still tells me how much she hated my mother....we are getting bette
I think OP's Dad realized Mom had a wondering eye👁 , because why else would he go to the extreme of putting those restrictions on the Estate?🤔 As for OP following through on his rights to his Estate; I truly believe he realized his Mom was not going to favor his decisions and as the Romans do heed the moment you have at hand for who knows when it will present itself again. I pray all goes well for this Young man's future and that no weapon be formed against him. Amen.
As OP pointed out, not everybody living in USA, who is posting on twitter. Totally believable in an eastern-european country, for example. In Eastern-Europe many, like 80% of the population has own properties, especially the population over 50. That's a long story of 45 years of communist-system.
Load More Replies...Nah.That's your mom.You'll never understand how much she loves you until are a mom and you won't be because you are a male.Your dad and her weren't married,sure.But they loved each other enough to have you.Of course your dad would leave everything to his only child.Your mom cared for u,with whose money? I'm so happy in my culture and religion,parents are respected and valued as they should be.
People commented on how he should give them more time to leave, I don't think he was given much notice when he was kicked out at 17.
Not the a*s, at all. She made you leave your home, you now owned, made you a very low priority, tried to influence you to “ give” a property to her new dude, as a gift. They likely full well k ew how expensive the properties you owned, were! Land is money. Anywhere you go! She never arranged to oay for anyrhing , you paid it all. I’d say that what you did was legal and fine. You were/ are her son and she treated you like c**p. Do what you need to! Your father left you a legacy to secure your future and do well when you married and started a family. Your dad had his reasons for structuring his will to be unbreakable and binding… so there was something he suspected or knew about your mom. He protected you well! I am just sorry your mom was an uncaring person. Go have a wonderful life and enjoy it! Get your masters and go for it!
An awful lot of legal advice for a story that definitely didn’t happen.
Dreadful! My parents promised when they died everything would be divided by 4. Did not happen, my younger two siblings went to the lawyer, dragged the parents along and put the lot in a trust with only her and her sister . My brother and I never got a penny!
Oh WOW 😳😳😳! How sad, frustrating and very hurtful to hear about this... Especially from someone who just lost his Father and to find out his mother would literally give him more pain to deal with in the after fact. To: OP Are You Ok? I Hope and Pray You are doing very well Spiritually, Emotionally, Mentally and Physically because as a mother, I be damned to take a man over my babies!!! You have such a bigger heart than most after enduring a loss and to find out your mom has a boyfriend 2 months after your dad passed. To Me THAT'S F***** UP! Your Father probably knew what kind of person your Mom was before He made a decision on your inheritance. Remember, NO MATTER WHAT ALWAYS BE KIND! Because I know HOW F***** UP IT CAN BE WHEN BEING TREATED THAT TYPE OF WAY ESPECIALLY FROM PEOPLE YOU THOUGHT HAD LOVED YOU! NOW DAYS LOVE IS REALLY HARD TO FIND BECAUSE YOU NEVER KNOW WHAT ANYONE'S INTENTIONS ARE. MAY YOUR FUTURE BE BRIGHTER THAN YOUR PASS AND MAY GODS SON ALWAYS GUIDE YOU EVERYDAY.
Strange that this us slmost identical to an "article" about a guy who knocked his step mother out, after his father left the house to him, when she and her deadbeat new hubby were on vacation.
Sorry, tablet typos .... *is almost and kicked*
Load More Replies...I do not think the new guy just came along in two month after his father's death. I think he was around before his father died. I think in some way kid giving up house was a way to pay mom back for putting up with dad all those years. Would not be at all surprised if dad was cheating too. I assume mom never thanked grandparents or gave them a nickel for his support. I feel sorry for this kid who seems honest and nice.
Bruh I say this as an uncle who raised his 2 nephews and niece and I'll say this. If you don't treat kids and raise your them right then they don't owe you s**t. Being a parent is hard but you have to accommodate all of you to your children. Clearly the dad was the sane parent here thinking for his son while mom was off in lala land maybe even seeing this man before his father passed. Some people are just unbelievable especially if you look at the whole story.
I would of given them 2 months to leave. Exactly the amount of time it took your mom to move on when your dad died. I would even of said this.... "you changed your life and moved on in months before.. you can do it again".
It was a difficult read because the whole story kept using run on sentences. It was very repetitive in it's paragraph's structures from beginning to end. It took too many words to say the same point. Clarification and succinctly well written points were missing. Descriptions and lack of adjectives did not paint a beautiful picture for the reader.
Right here folks...a PERFECT example of missing the forest for the trees. Well done, Donna! Is that succint enough for you?
Load More Replies...ESH. OP sounds like a douche telling the primary demographic of Reddit that it's their fault he didn't specify where he was from.
This is sad. I am sorry for 15 yr old you...you lost your father AND mother in a way at least. You're NTA...and it seems like you have a good plan going forward. I have young adult children, so it makes me sad to hear this. I hope it all works out for you.. Edit: I suppose you need to decide if this is all worth those relationships, I do not envy you for this. I disagree with ppl saying yta... It's always been your house, they're the assholes for making you feel unwelcome and unwanted in your home. As a parent, their job is to protect you..and it seems your father did that. Is there a way you would rent it to your mom?
Slight YTA for how OP went about it (changing the locks without any kind of notice) but NTA for everything else.
The mother didn't give him notice before deciding to bring in a new man (2 MONTHS after he lost his father) or prior to kicking him out if HIS house. Honestly, I would have done it the minute the clock struck 12 on my 21st birthday.
Load More Replies...Not sure here. I absolutely understand his anger but I wish he acted a bit more human by giving them more time.
Are you simple??? You're think kind of person who got their lunch money take in school. Personally at 11:59 pm on the eve of my birthday I'd be knocking on the door goin...."times up...get your useless asses out of my house. You can keep the keys. I'll be changing the locks again."
Load More Replies...Act like a landlord for tenants that don't pay rent? Yeah you kick them to the curb. She wasn't a tenant, she was squatting.
Load More Replies...He was fn 15 and his father just died, and his mom tried to replace his dad like an old pair of shoes, and tried to get him to give her new bf (who I guarantee she was already screwing around with like a lot of females do) one of the properties his dad left him. Fck you. You're a pos if you think he was wrong for being overwhelmed with emotions. Then, after being treated as an unwelcomed dog by his own fn mother, and booted out of the house and left out on all those vacations, he's supposed to be all happy nice to them? Fck you for thinking that, too. I'll bet you're a pos that would do the same things his mom and her bfs family did to a child of yours. Eat sh*t fckface.
Load More Replies...Oh, fck off and eat sh*t. The family fcked him over and his mom sh*t on a grieving 15 yr old and tried to manipulate him while simultaneously neglecting and abusing him. You're a pos if you side with that worthless fn mom and her pos bf and family. You'd probably do that sh*t to your own kids if you have any.
Load More Replies...Disproportionate?? He was a grieving fn child, and his mother wasn't there for him and instead tried to manipulate him and abused him. You're a fn pos for thinking like this, and I'll bet you'd do the same to any kids of yours if you have any. Fck off, you deserve to be punched in the fn mouth and throat.
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