Someone Asked “What Is Something You Changed Your Stance On After Learning More About It?”, Here Are 30 Of The Most Fascinating Answers
Have you ever been extremely passionate about a topic just to years later look back and be embarrassed that you ever felt that way? Maybe it was supporting a certain politician or animal rights group in college, but since then you’ve realized they don’t represent your beliefs as much as you once thought. The beauty of being human is that we can form opinions on anything, and those opinions aren’t static.
Last week, Reddit user Pineapple_WarpDrive reached out to fellow members of the Ask Reddit community to pose the question, “What is something you changed your stance on after learning more about it?” And a very interesting conversation was sparked. We’ve gathered some of the most eye-opening responses for you to read right here, and as you make your way through the list, we implore you to keep an open mind. Perhaps your opinions will be changed too!
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Understanding why people shake their baby.
Of course it is absolutely horrible and it seems like it should make sense that nobody should even think about doing it but I have an understanding of how it can happen now.
I had my own daughter 4 years ago and swore up and down that nobody but a monster would shake their child but let me tell you that sleep deprivation is hell and it is terrifying.
When my daughter was a newborn, she was crying very hard one particular night and nothing we did seemed to soothe her crying. My insanely sleep deprived brain started trying to take over and I could feel the urge to shake her.
Luckily, I had just enough cognitive function to recognize that I was in a very vulnerable and bad situation. I set my daughter back down in her crib and walked away for a little while so as to wake myself up some more.
That is the most scared I've ever been of what the human brain is capable of.
I’m sure you’ve heard someone say before that “people can’t change”. While this may have been uttered by a bitter, pessimistic individual, it’s actually a pretty common belief to hold. Whether it’s in reference to someone who cheated on their partner, someone struggling with addiction or a student who just won’t do their homework, feeling this way about another person isn’t likely to encourage them to change their habits.
But this list is a prime example that people can change. I think the issue is less about whether or not people can and more about whether or not they want to. People can certainly enact change within themselves, but we aren’t often successful in trying to alter anyone else. Mark Manson, author of The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck, addresses this in a piece on his website saying, “For a person to truly change, they must feel that the change is theirs, that they chose it, they control it. Otherwise, it loses all its effect.”
Assisted Suicide. I was against it, but after seeing my uncle suffer with extreme Rheumatoid Arthritis for a few years before eventually dying from it, I’m all for it now. If we put down our pets when they’re suffering, why can’t we do the same to our humans with their written consent?
A human life riddled with pain and agony is not a life anymore. Some people get so in their own feelings that they forget their loved ones are essentially suffering. "How can I play God and decide who gets to live and who gets to die?" What about basic compassion? Assisted suicide is cherishing human life, it's giving the opportunity to the suffering people to die with dignity.
That's such an interesting argument too. We think "How can I play God and decide who gets to live and who gets to die?"...but don't realize we do it every day. We're deciding our child gets to live when we give them antibiotics to clear out their infection. We're deciding we get to live a little longer when we take our heart medication. If we're already "playing God" in that way, why can't we also help the person who says "Please, I'm suffering, I want to die".
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I'm a nurse and I worked in a pain management clinic for years. This is where you go when you need such strong medicines your regular doctor doesn't want to manage them, so they send you to a special doctor for that. We had a lot of (advanced) cancer patients. So many of them weren't living. I can't help but to think that assisted suicide is compassionate. I am fully in favor of it being legal.
I struggle to understand why so many people are against it and would rather have their loved ones suffer. It's so cruel. It should be the individuals choice. Why are we allowed to have the option to end our pets pain and suffering, yet us humans don't have that right in most places.
The main concern I would have is coercion. There are plenty of cases of elder abuse and this could an extension of that. That's why it has to be almost a constant discussion and just about everyone in the family needs to know what each elderly relative wants so there's no craziness at the end. You might sign a document stating the circumstances under which you would do this, then later change your mind... but then a serious accident occurs and... poof, the plug is pulled. There's also religious objections, I know Christianity (and I think Islam and Judaism-at least orthodox- do too) views suicide as a serious sin, which has serious negative implications on the afterlife. All that said, I am totally for physician assisted euthanasia.
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I think there's also an issue with people thinking the 'assisted' part is murder. They say things like 'well if you want to kill yourself do it but don't involve anyone else. Slash your wrists or take a bunch of pills.' But they forget that to take the pills or slash your wrists you have to have control of your hands and have the ability to swallow. If you are so disabled that you can't do those things, you HAVE to have help. It really goes to this misunderstanding of how bad some disabilities can be and how painful they actually are. I'd personally rather have it controlled by a doctor so I just go to sleep and don't feel pain, then to do it myself by slashing my wrists or taking the wrong combination of pills that cause me horrifying pain and convulsions etc before I die. I lived in pain enough... at least let me die the way I want! I don't think anyone has the right to tell me I'm required to live in pain and suffer because of their personal beliefs that have nothing to do with me.
I believe anyone should be able to do what they want with their bodies as long as it does not hurt others. Abortion, drugs (I understand people can get high snd get behind a wheel, but alcohol is legal so I do not see a difference), sex for money, suicide, sexual preference, religious preference and everything on between. No one should be able to control others. Of course I am talking about adults here. 18 and over.
As a chronic pain patient with who's dealing with a body that is constantly on the decline I think about this a lot. Personally, the issue isn't just the pain. It's the burden. Burden on my family is so much harder for me to consider then my comfort. Financially debilitating people so I can continue living a non productive life is just pointless to my thinking. I'm not there yet. I hope not to be for a long time. But I've already made the decision that when my quality of life has declined beyond redemption and my existence burdens my family too greatly, I will do I what ensure peace for everyone. No. I've not discussed this with anyone yet. I know they will struggle with it. But I don't need their permission. It's my choice.
Also, consider donating your body for research after you die. Google donating body to science and the place you live in and you should be able to find some university that accepts bodies for research. Leaving your body to research means no financial burden on your family for funeral costs as they use your body and then when they've learnt all that is to know they create your remains and will contact your family to ask if they would like to have your ashes. For me I've chosen that they scatter my ashes in their memorial garden at the university.
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American system is so cruel. Our system basically forces many folks to "manage" their pain until they can no longer eat or drink, and they die from dehydration/starvation. It's horrible.
Not just the US - any country where euthenasia is illegal.
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You can assist the, or force them to find a way to do it alone. Assisting is kinder, to me.
My dad was diagnosed with Idiopathic Pulmonary Fibrosis (IPF) in 2016. IPF causes scar tissue to build up in the lungs, gradually reducing their functionality. There is no cure. The patient slowly suffocates to death. He died in 2019 after three years of absolute Hell. I would have supported him had he chosen assisted suicide.
I've always wondered why we can treat our beloved pets more humanely than our human loved ones.
I had a vet tell me once (in regards to an aging pet), “I will help you enrich their life, but not help prolong their death.” I think of that statement often.
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The priest who married me and baptized my children had a PhD in theology, and he wrote his dissertation about assisted suicide. He believes that God has given us a way of easing each other’s suffering.
Just a quick reminder to please write down how you wish to be treated in case of an emergency, who do you want to be in charge, how your funeral should look like. I've been in a coma this year, it all happened so fast and left my family up in the air. They only gave me a 50/50 survival chance (I'm still recovering, but I'm fine) and it really bothered me when I woke up that they would have had to decide so many little things while still coming to terms with everything and that they didn't know that I want to be an organ donor.
It's not legal in my country. Last year, 37 years old man went to Switzerland, so he could end his life there. He has fast-progressing ALS.
Those of us with chronic illnesses and/or terminal disorders are usually living with extreme pain, loss of Cognitive ability, loss of muscle control, etc and we know what our long-term diagnosis is and what is going to happen to us. I think when a person gets to a certain point, they should be allowed to pass peacefully instead of excruciating pain or locked in their mind while their body fails, or stuck in a life of misery
I used to work as a CNA in a nursing home about 15 years ago. I will never forget Roger (name changed for privacy). He had cancer of the eye and it absolutely horrible. He was on enough morphine and fentanyl patches to kill a horse but he had developed an amazing tolerance to pain meds. Even with all that pain management, he was in excruciating pain all the time and would ask the nurses just to give him more so he could end the pain forever. It was awful watching him in this condition for 6 months before he finally passed away. There is totally truth in quality of life over quantity of life.
Many of the laws in Canada to support this are s**t. You can't make arrangements ahead of time and must complete it while competent. In other words, you are giving up 'good time'. If I get a terminal diagnosis, I don't see why I can't make arrangements while I'm competent for assisted death, specifying the conditions under which it will happen?
Hospice. Watched my mother in a drug induced coma die of thirst while she lay breathing the death rattle with her tongue dried up, no matter how much I moistened it with a wet sponge. The smell was purifying and filled the room, her body flaccid, it takes about a week of this before actual death. Meanwhile, I took my old dying chihuahua to the vet for a lethal injection and he died wrapped in my arms in his favorite blanket.
I watched my Mum go the same way but without drugs after a massive stroke, she was aware of me being there as when I held her hand she would squeeze it, I knew she should have gone her way not died of starvation and dehydration
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Partly that. Partly the worry that it'll be abused. I'm for it, as long as there are very strict and enforced regulations to protect all parties.
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Why would you ever be against it. You're condemning another person to a life of pain, one they do not want. I'd that's all their life is, it should be their decision only. With a list of my own problems I once told my sister that it's a real possibility for me in the next 2 decades if it doesn't improve. She went on about how selfish I was to not want to be there for my nephew and any other kids she has. I love my family, but I don't live for them and am not about to subject myself to a lifetime of pain just to watch their lives.
An ex just went through this with her mom. Where I am, it is legal. She died in her own home, on her own terms, surrounded by her children.
There is dangers to assisted suicide that will need safeguards in place to protect people from like for instance somebody gaslighting an elderly relative and convincing them to do it so they can either avoid looking after them or even get some kind of inheritance when they die, but once those safeguards are in place then I completely agree it should be available in all countries.
this is rooted in some bogus religion belief that life is a gift from god and you'll go straight to hell if you take your own life. having that drilled into your brain since childhood makes it hard to get rid of the prejudice later in life. even if you become non religious, sometimes these things are hard to get over.
There isn't enough research into pain and how to combat it. This is the reason that most people want to end their lives (due to illness) Attitudes to pain relief are awful now and those in chronic pain are treated as though they are addicted..
You're right. I HATE going into an emergency room. Often been treated like I'm looking for drugs. Seriously? I have the drugs! I need treatment. Makes me hesitate to go when I need to.
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We watched for three years, my beloved grandpa waste away from lung cancer ( black lung) he was a sack of emaciated skin & bones , in agony all the time when he died. When he reached stage 4 terminal, he should have had the choice , to pass away peacefully with his family around him, instead he died in agony, alone, not even his adored wife of 40 years with him.
I feel the same way. I have 2 types of arthritis, right now the pain is manageable but I'm dreading the future.
Necessary, but it must be very well-regulated so that people don't get pushed into dying because of pressure, poverty, denial of benefits, etc.,
Same here. I spent my tween/teen years developing serious health issues which could not be stopped, and cannot be cured, but only shorten my lifespan by about 20 years. I’m 25 now, and the number of times I’ve wanted to kill myself from the pain have been many. I have a loving family, good doctors, and an amazing therapist, yet I still sometimes find myself daydreaming about the day I die, when the pain will go away. I’ve lost everything I’ve ever loved besides my family. I’m more stable at the moment, but I still regularly have days on which, if someone offered to help me die, I’d take them up on their offer. This is not an attention grab— it’s a PSA: if someone you know suffers from chronic illness or pain, NEVER underestimate how much it affects their minds and hearts. Check on them. Talk to them. You never know what might make all the difference.
I have an elderly friend in a nursing home, she is deaf and blind and can’t move on her own or eat. She’s on “end of life care” and has been since last year. How this is humane or even legal I will never know.
I have unusually aggressive rheumatoid arthritis. I also have deep reservations about assisted suicide. It should be an option, but not the only option. We shouldn't be driven to choose it because other options are inaccessible or withheld. I fear that sometimes we are.
Everyone in my familly had passed from cancer. most of them would have used assisted suicide instead of being pumped full of pain drugs. What's the point of knowing you'll die in a few weeks but can't even feel your body anymore and your mind is slipping away in a drug induced catatonic state? My dad was a stoic man and seeing him screaming from pain was a traumatic experience for me.
Firm believer that people have every right to choose when their life ends. It's THEIR life.
"Dignity in Dying are clear to point out that they advocate assisted dying - where terminally ill yet mentally competent people take prescribed medication to end their life. It's not assisted suicide, voluntary euthanasia or euthanasia. They're not the same thing. They've also said to me that this issue is not about disabled people. Disability campaigners such as Baroness Jane Campbell say it's a "dangerous time" to consider any change to the law. She says that the economic downturn and austerity has led to a serious hardening of attitudes towards vulnerable members of society, with pensioners and disabled people being routinely branded as "scroungers" or accused of being a "burden". She argues that in the current climate, relaxing the law on assisted suicide would be like an open invitation to those with something to gain from pressuring them into ending their lives." Both sides covered in article https://www.bbc.com/news/blogs-ouch-28311809
My late father suffered from dementia for the last decade or so of his life. To watch this once robustly healthy, intelligent, man who loved his family above all else slowly disintegrate and collapse inward, until by the end of his life he couldn't even recognise his own wife and sons - it just broke my heart. I sincerely hope that, when it's my time to die, and if I'm physically and mentally incapable of caring for myself, that my family will respect my wishes and let me die in the manner of my choosing, whatever that may be.
I used to agree 100%. But one day I heard someone speak with a different opinion. His point was how do we know the patient wasn't coerced? Guilted? Bullied? It has given me pause and I need to learn more.
Fair points. What about those people with no family, dependants and nobody to inherit in a will etc? Are you going to force them to suffer more months or years of torture too?
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I was a single mom at age 20 and full-time college student. Minimal help from my family. I was really doing it alone and I was exhausted. (I remember coming home and crying one night because I had to wash a sink of dishes) One day, I lost my temper, but did not shake my baby. I put him in his crib and walked away. Everyone needs to do the 10 or 15 second countdown and deep breathing. It can save a child from being injured. I agree with the OP. I would never hurt my child but I can see how people get in a situation where they feel like it. It was a tough time, but today my son is a happy young man and I'm very proud of him.
I think you posted this on the wrong thing. Just wanted to alert you that some people are downvoting this. I don't want you to get suspended for an accident.
Load More Replies...In the case of wanting someone else in our lives to change, we often have to sit back and fight the impulse to impose our own opinions. It can be painful, but as Mark notes, “The best attempts at helping someone often backfire. You can’t make someone be confident or respect themselves or take responsibility—because the means you use to do this destroys confidence, respect, and responsibility.”
So what does he recommend to gently guide loved ones towards better choices while maintaining our relationships? First, he notes that leading by example can be an effective tactic. If you think your partner is drinking too much and it’s beginning to negatively impact their life or health, you can set an example by inviting them to stay in with you more often or opting for nonalcoholic drinks in their company. It might not cause them to reconsider their own choices, but it does present them with an option they might have previously not even considered.
Universal healthcare. When I actually learned more about healthcare systems in other countries and then compared it to my own (I live in America) it really showed me just how far behind we are. For years I staunchly thought it was a horrible idea, but now I’m pissed everyday cause the US doesn’t have it.
I really don't understand how people think universal healthcare is a bad idea, it exists in all EU countries plus the UK, and people aren't weighed down with medical debt.
Abortion. Grew up Christian (not anymore). I started shifting more left but didn’t know if I could call myself pro-choice. So I researched it. 70%+ of abortions are done by women who live below the poverty line. 60% of those (45% of all) are done by women who also already have a child.
So its a mother who already struggles to feed her child making an impossible choice. Maybe instead of telling her what to do, we can figure out how to provide her basic needs and healthcare and educate her so she can get out of poverty.
Even if you eliminate the poverty no one should be allowed to force you to keep a lump of developing cells in your body. One which will change your body and life forever, and you might potentially not even survive it. Especially if it was conceived after rape, or if it generates a risk to the person carrying it.
Next, Mark recommends providing them with better questions, rather than answers. Avoid explicitly sharing your own opinions, and ask the other person questions that allow them to reflect on their actions. Mark provides the example of rather than telling someone they need to request a raise, you could ask them, “Do you believe you’re fairly paid?” They won’t feel judged, and it’s empowering for them to come to their own conclusions. Whether they agree with you or not, they’re at least considering the topic you raised.
Lastly, Mark notes how important it is to provide help unconditionally. Whether you think you know what’s best for them or not, resist the urge to tell them exactly what to do. Make yourself available, so they can take you up on the offer if they want to. Lots of people don’t want to hear advice, but they may relate to a personal story you share of a similar situation. And you’re not forcing them to do anything, especially change; you’re just opening up their mind.
Homosexuality. I “knew” that the Bible said it was wrong (fewer times than it said divorce was wrong). In college I actually met a lesbian for the first time. I had known them for months before I found it out though, so my brain was confused.
“But they’re normal! But they’re gay! So does that change anything? How does that affect me? Wait . . . That doesn’t affect me? So then what is the issue?”
I’ve never gone back to that stance.
Vaccines. My mom has always been an anti vaxxer, so I grew up with all the propaganda. Once i moved out and had to get all my vaccines for my job, I *did my own research* and learned the truth.
When it comes to what we change our minds on, it can be anything and everything. Maybe when you were growing up you hated brussels sprouts because of the way your parents prepared them, but after trying them roasted in the oven and drizzled with a bit of balsamic glaze, they became one of your favorite vegetables. Politics are certainly a common topic that people’s opinions ebb and flow on. Perhaps as a teenager you felt one way because that’s what your parents told you was right. Then when you went to college you joined some activist groups, and your political ideology did a 180. According to the Pew Research Center, even social media can play a role in affecting our political beliefs. In 2018, 14% of Americans say something they saw on social media caused them to alter their opinion on a political or social issue.
Jehovahs witnesses. I grew up as one and when I finally started doing research outside of their publications I couldn’t believe what I saw, and I left.
EDIT: I was disfellowshipped because I didn’t have the balls to disassociate myself. There were a lot of horrible things that happened to me in the religion in 2017-2019, so I felt my only way out was suicide. I failed my attempt in January of 2020, and was disfellowshipped in August of 2020, about four months after I got out of rehab. I lost my home, my job, my family, and my friends. Pretty much my entire life foundation. But I’ve built a support system from scratch and now I have friends who love me for me, and not just based on religion.
It’s sad but not many people get to start a brand new life in their 20’s so I’m grateful in many ways as well as grieving those I lost.
ANOTHER EDIT: Thank you for all of the love and the awards! It’s so heart warming to see so many people going through the same experiences. We are never alone and I’m sorry so many of you have been effected by this too.
FINAL EDIT: If you are a Jehovah’s Witness, I really don’t need you commenting on this to tell me I’m wrong and you’re not in a cult. What I’ve been through speaks for itself. So please let me be.
I would be dead if I was a Jehovah witness coz I needed a blood transfusion. How anyone could choose a deity that we don't know actually exists, over saving the life of your own child/partner etc. F**k that s**t.
Climate Change. Looking at the evidence it's clearly a hoax.
Just kidding, I was a firm denier until I had to do an assignment proving or disproving it in highschool. Realised I couldn't find any decent source to back up my claim. Basically changed my mind on the spot
Helium balloons; helium is a finite resource of immense scientific value and we use it for party decorations
Well, today I learned something ! I thought it was produced chemically, or by some sort of extraction process from other stuff. Turns out it's a natural gaz, and yes, we're slowly depleting the world reserves.
Certain groups were more impressionable, however. Men between the ages of 18-29, for example, were the most likely to be affected by what they read online, with 29% of them reporting that a social media post changed their views on an issue. The people who note that social media affects their beliefs also credit those sites for inspiring them to become more socially active. 67% of them said that social media is important to them for “finding others who share views about important topics” and 63% of them say social media is important for “getting involved with political or social issues”. 56% of them also noted that social media is important to them personally for “giving them a venue to express their political opinions”.
Horse racing. I come from an area that takes great pride in it. I've recently learned more about it and feel that it is animal abuse. They are shot up with steroids and other drugs and die more often than you would even think.
Working Hard.
More specifically, working hard in a corporate environment. I like to work hard for things that I own and maintain, my home, my family, my body, my hobbies. But I've worked for almost 20 years for big tech companies. I've started at entry level jobs and worked up to middle management. Support jobs. Sales jobs. I've made 6 figures.
What I've noticed is that they want to pay you less and keep training and experience as a reward. That is to say, you are not working for a paycheck. You are working towards the next thing. But they convince everyone to work hard in an entry level position, working unpaid overtime and you might be rewarded with a higher job. Statistically, you will not be promoted. There are 30 people on your team who all have that same goal and you can't all be supervisor or manager.
Now, I just work for my paycheck. If you would like me to work harder, you can pay me more. I'm not going to go above and beyond for 2 years just to get passed over again.
I didn't think orthopedic shoes were for me, but I stand corrected.
By 2020, 23% of Americans on social media said that “they have changed their views about a political or social issue because of something they saw on social media in the past year”. That alone (the jump from 14% to 23% over the course of 2 years) is a perfect indication of how people’s opinions change over time. People between the ages of 18-29 were still the most impressionable in 2020, with 34% of them reporting that their views had shifted from social media. The topics that people were most likely to change their minds about were the Black Lives Matter Movement, police brutality/need for police reform, political parties/ideologies/politicians, and race relations in general. One 64 year old woman stated, “Reading articles on the BLM movement has opened my eyes to the degree of systemic racism in this country and the world.” While another respondent, a 50 year old man said, “I used to support BLM, but now I see them as violent domestic terrorists not interested in addressing the real problems within the Black community. BLM is about a communist revolution not about helping the Black community…”
Mormons.
My ex-wife’s sister married one.
Before they met, my opinion of Mormons was “oh they’re basically just Christian’s with a couple wacky beliefs. They have multiple wives! How kooky yet ultimately harmless.”
The more of his family & community I met and interacted with, the more clear it became that Mormonism is a cult that preys on weak people like my ex-SIL. She converted within three months. His temple wouldn’t allow her own mother or father inside during the wedding. They had to sit outside in the sun, alone, then pay for a separate “ring ceremony” they were allowed to attend.
Learning more about a different culture or religion usually makes me more accepting, but maaaan f**k Mormons.
I was raised a Mormon. The oppressiveness is very subtle and creates sort of a Stockholm Syndrome among true believers. One of my biggest objections with them is their one-size-fits-all view of life that they claim is God's Plan. Conform conform conform...
Feminism. I thought it excluded the inequalities men face. I learned that if the problem women face is fixed it takes care of the ones men do as a bonus.
Homelessness. I used to have no patience or or empathy thinking that if they really wanted to change their circumstances they could find the resources. My mind changed when I began working with special education children and realized most of these people probably have specific learning disabilities that our school system/their families failed to identify or help them with. I also realize how privileged I grew up (my dad was a store manager and my mom a teacher so nothing too special but still we had everything we needed and good relationships with each other) and how much worse some people grew up with and how easily people can get trapped in bad circumstances.
I used to think most homeless people were criminals, druggies or alcoholics but after watching quite a few docos and lots of research I discovered that most homelessness is caused by unfortunate circumstances. Things like mental illness (main cause), disability, aged out of the foster system, family abuse, job loss which cause housing loss, medical debt (US) and much more. A lot of homeless turn to drugs and alcohol once they are on the street. It's a way tonumb their reality, as well as pass the time. There is not enough support for homeless people and what services there are, there scattered all over the place or just not enough to go around. Homelessness is FAR more complicated than you actually think.
While we’re certainly all capable of changing our minds, it can be challenging to get there. We tend to be stubborn, so Dr. Maria Cohut of Medical News Today took a look at why exactly that is. She references a study that investigated “what, exactly, happens in the brain that makes people so unlikely to change their minds”, and notes that facts are often not enough to alter people’s opinions. “For instance,” the researchers of the study wrote, “over the last decade climate scientists have expressed greater confidence that climate change is man-made. Yet, the percentage of the population that believes this notion to be true has dropped over the same period of time.”
All lives matter VS Black Lives Matter. I’m not racist, and I thought saying that “all lives matter” was better than BLM because it included everyone, meaning that everyone is important. Thankful I have a wife who is smarter than me and helped me to realized that BLM is important because of the attention that it shows/brings to the group of people who are being treated unfairly. That’s the nice thing about being open minded is you can change and not feel bad about it.
Cats! I never grew up around cats, thought they were mean. Now I date a girl who has a cat and I have a cat of my own. I love them so much.
I hated cats for years, didn't help that my dad was anti cats, I am allergic to cats and the first time I pet a cat the bugger scratched me. Anyway over the years my mind has changed, I don't hate cats anymore (I hate a lot of cat owners instead lol) If I wasn't allergic I would even consider having one as a pet.
That case where McDonald's had to pay a bunch of money to a woman who spilled hot coffee on herself.
According to the researchers, confirmation bias is a strong force. This was tested through an experiment where participants were randomly paired off with partners and shown images of real estate listings. The participants were then asked to evaluate what they would expect the asking price of each property to be, either more or less than an amount set by investors. Each participant then decided how much they would be willing to invest. Next they were asked to take functional MRI scans facing their partners, with a glass screen dividing them. Each participant could see on the glass screen images of the properties, the asking price estimates and how much they said they would be willing to invest. Then, the participants were shown their partners’ responses.
Turns out girls don't have cooties. It's actually pretty great to spend time with one. You don't even have to pick on them to get their attention... Who knew!
Being sober, took a eightish year landslide to one of the darkest places I've been in my life and not once in those eight years you could of talked me into putting down the bottle of whiskey that was glued to my hand. Been sober coming up on five years now and I couldn't think of being anything other than sober. I won't sit here and say it's not easy, it is honestly one of the hardest things I have to deal with on a consistent basis. But the rewards are priceless.
Getting therapy. My upbringing is within an asian household so when it comes to dealing with emotions, we tend to shove that into jar and move on.
I used to think that receiving therapy is for the mentally ill, weak etc. I don't have "problems" therefore I don't need therapy. But after recent events in 2021 with certain people I tried therapy and after a few sessions it just revealed some baggage I wasn't even aware of.
Honestly I wish I started earlier when I was in my 20s. I would be more emotionally prepared, and would probably have had healthier relationships with women if I had dealt with the trauma growing up and from my first relationship that devastated me.
We have a friend from Shanghai and felt the same about therapy as that's how he was brought up. That was until he ended up in a mental health facility. Now he is much more understanding when it comes to mental health and the necessary support.
The researchers found that, when their partners agreed with their evaluation of the property value, participants would be more willing to invest more into those houses, especially if their partners had said they would invest larger amounts. Yet when the partnered participants disagreed about the property value, their opinions would fail to influence each other’s final decision as to how much they would be willing to invest in that house. The conclusion researchers came to, after studying the brain activity revealed by the MRI scans, is that our “brains fail to encode opposing views”. We ignore beliefs that contradict our own and cling to ideas that strengthen ours.
Pineapple on pizza is absolutely delicious as f**k. and the only reason I ever thought it was bad was beause I was bandwagonning on the hate just like everyone else is. It's hard to appreciate a piece of food if you literally go into it with the intent of hating it.
For me, it was exactly the opposite. I thought it'd be okay until I tried and immediately hated it. However, I don't hate on others what they eat, it's just my personal decision.
Legalization of marijuana. Used to be incredibly anti drug and pro keeping it illegal. Now I fully support decriminalization at the very least (still extremely anti drug personally, but came to my senses regarding real life)
Same. We were inundated with anti drug propaganda as kids, and up until my late teens I thought you tried weed once and next day you were a junkie (drugs were also non existent in the area where i grew up, so I didn't know anyone who had tried it) Then I read some stuff, and met some people, and though I've never used drugs myself I'm definitely pro legalization and regulation. That's the logical route, based on the science.
Mother Teresa, my family spoke highly of her when I was a kid, she received a number of honours from Indian government, won the Nobel Peace Prize and the church made her a saint, I thought she was a good person until a friend told me the truth about her and showed me some articles.
Although opinions can be difficult to alter in brief moments, according to Christopher Soto at NPR, our personalities naturally change throughout our entire lives. Soto first explained that our personalities are organized into the “Big Five” trait dimensions: extraversion, agreeableness, conscientiousness, negative emotionality, and open-mindedness. According to various studies, most of us can become more agreeable, conscientious and emotionally resilient as we get older. Soto notes that these shifts typically happen over decades and are hard to pinpoint to specific causes, but they can be beneficial to our lives. Further developing these specific traits can even lead to happier, longer lasting marriages, according to a study in Sage Journals. This slow personality evolution can also explain how our beliefs can shift over time as well.
Roundabouts. Based on all the complaints, I assumed they were confusing and unnecessary. When my city put in a bunch, I realized that I no longer had to wait 3 minutes at all of the punishment lights. Love roundabouts now.
...Of course that didn't stop the older population of the city from trying to have them removed. One guy even ran for city council on the platform that he would immediately put the stop lights back in. Change is hard, I guess.
Nuclear Power. I used to be anti-nuke, based solely on the potential worst-outcome of a catastrophic failure. While in college I saw a presentation on the various short-term and long-term negativities of all the different power generation methods and nuclear is actually one of the safest, even including the 3 major incidents of Chernobyl, 3-Mile Island, and Fukushima. Additionally, coal-burning power is so unfathomably bad for everyone involved in every stage from mining the coal to living anywhere close to the plant that it is just orders of magnitude worse than anything else. Nuclear has the best balance of reliability, base-load, safety, and ROI of any method known for generating power.
Ok, talking about safety is alright. What about the storage of waste? Deconstruction of old reactors (storing that waste too) I would go this way: if we stop using it, we stop developing new methods , netter procedurs and so on. So not a complete no, but still, it’s not forever a go to way of producing electricity.
People going on morning runs. I kept reading stuff about how it helps with anxiety and depression. I didn't really understand because one, who tf has the energy to get up before the sun rises to RUN??? and two, what if ppl look at me weird etc etc... One day after a major afternoon breakdown which lead to deep sleep i woke up at 4am. Felt sick of looking at my room, changed into leggings and a hoodie, left the house without anyone knowing (i left a note) and started walking. Eventually, i started running. I felt my brain shut up for those few hours i spent running, i reached the next city and stopped to sit down at this random park. It just,, it felt so nice. I ran all the way over to the next city with nothing but my phone, earphones, and a bottle of water. The only way for me to get back home is to run back or call my dad to pick me up. I ran back. When I got home i felt so much better. Started going out to run once a week since then, found a usual spot for people who run, met nice people. Happiest I've ever been. Those sane and healthy f*****s were right.
Started walking (running hurts) for at least an hour every morning and I can confirm it is a great feeling
While humans have a tendency to be stubborn and hold fast to our opinions, it’s refreshing to read this list of examples that we are capable of being open-minded. Especially because we live in a world that is so unpredictable and constantly changing, we should be allowed to do the same as well. Be sure to upvote the responses that gave you reason to pause and think, then let us know in the comments something you’ve changed your mind about!
College education. I always thought it would benefit everyone to get one. These days, the benefits don’t _always_ outweigh the debts and many people in trades make very good money.
I would recommend to learn a trade. Electrician, carpenter, plumber... are all much more useful than most managers.
Empathy. I used to always want to give people the benefit of the doubt if it meant they were learning or working on themselves, because I know I’d want the same. Turns out some people will take your kindness and run with it, and you need to cut yourself off from people that do or you’re going to find yourself mentally or emotionally drained. Can’t pour from an empty cup and all that.
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Saying the pledge of allegiance every day in school. We all grew up thinking it was normal. Until we had twitter and TikTok and could hear from people in other countries. This is not normal! No one else does this?!? except for militaristic, dictatorship style countries. It's an intentional method of training younger generations to do whatever their government asks because "patriotism" and "national pride". It's creepy and it's weird. And no country should ever get your blind allegiance.
Same with the national anthem at sports games it's done so often that it's not special anymore and somehow it became super political.
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Yup people need to have their own epiphanies. More often than not, no matter how logical and convincing your points are, most will simply brush them off as a "difference of opinion". Until that lightbulb moment.
And here we are at today's blocked-for-Android post. Always good to have Bored Panda remind us all how much they dislike visitors who use Android.
I have android, what is blocked? I read the whole article and I can see comments. Only thing 'blocked' are comments that are hidden due to many downvotes.
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I noted with interest that the majority of these are not about someone having researched a topic, but rather having encountered it in their own lives. It's hard to change your mind, especially hard to lose a prejudice, without personal influence of somebody close to the topic / belonging to the group.
When my son was just six weeks old, I went into his room to check on him before going to bed myself. He wasn't breathing, so I started screaming for my husband, and at the same time, picked up Son and tilted him head to toe, over and over, until he started breathing again. Husband wanted to shake him, but I knew not to do that, and the tilting worked safely and well. Scared the tar out of me that my newborn baby was so close to death. Husband didn't want him sleeping in our tiny bedroom (1976, tiny trailer house), so I slept in Baby's room for a few months until I "got it" that it was a one-off incident. He didn't suffer any kind of damage, thankfully, although he was killed in an accident just days before Thanksgiving when he was 31 (16 years ago). Still, I saved his life that night, and got to have him for nearly 32 years, so I would've done it again, knowing I wasn't 'shaking' him, just tilting him to get him breathing again.
GMOs. As a teenager I really hated GMOs, after starting to study food sciences in college I actually got educated on the different methods and reasons. Changed my stance a lot. There's still some modifications I find unnessecary or bad, but I'm far from thinking all are bad.
Can I just say that we as people have too much judgement and not enough emphathy? We look at things from the outside and just because we can't understand it, we judge it as wrong instead of not FOR me. Hindsight is 20/20 but recognizing that there are things beyond you and your understanding would greatly reduce the hate and anger people project over an opinion that can change by experiencing it. So, instead, we could just have a little bit of selflessness (or a whole lotta "mind your own business") and say "to each their own".
To this I would add Marvin Heemeyer, the "killdozer" guy. often portrayed as some sort of underdog antihero who got back at The Man without killing anybody, he was actually a bitter whackadoodle who had every intention of killing his perceived enemies. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Marvin_Heemeyer
Saying the pledge of allegiance every day in school. We all grew up thinking it was normal. Until we had twitter and TikTok and could hear from people in other countries. This is not normal! No one else does this?!? except for militaristic, dictatorship style countries. It's an intentional method of training younger generations to do whatever their government asks because "patriotism" and "national pride". It's creepy and it's weird. And no country should ever get your blind allegiance.
Same with the national anthem at sports games it's done so often that it's not special anymore and somehow it became super political.
Load More Replies... Yup people need to have their own epiphanies. More often than not, no matter how logical and convincing your points are, most will simply brush them off as a "difference of opinion". Until that lightbulb moment.
And here we are at today's blocked-for-Android post. Always good to have Bored Panda remind us all how much they dislike visitors who use Android.
I have android, what is blocked? I read the whole article and I can see comments. Only thing 'blocked' are comments that are hidden due to many downvotes.
Load More Replies... I noted with interest that the majority of these are not about someone having researched a topic, but rather having encountered it in their own lives. It's hard to change your mind, especially hard to lose a prejudice, without personal influence of somebody close to the topic / belonging to the group.
When my son was just six weeks old, I went into his room to check on him before going to bed myself. He wasn't breathing, so I started screaming for my husband, and at the same time, picked up Son and tilted him head to toe, over and over, until he started breathing again. Husband wanted to shake him, but I knew not to do that, and the tilting worked safely and well. Scared the tar out of me that my newborn baby was so close to death. Husband didn't want him sleeping in our tiny bedroom (1976, tiny trailer house), so I slept in Baby's room for a few months until I "got it" that it was a one-off incident. He didn't suffer any kind of damage, thankfully, although he was killed in an accident just days before Thanksgiving when he was 31 (16 years ago). Still, I saved his life that night, and got to have him for nearly 32 years, so I would've done it again, knowing I wasn't 'shaking' him, just tilting him to get him breathing again.
GMOs. As a teenager I really hated GMOs, after starting to study food sciences in college I actually got educated on the different methods and reasons. Changed my stance a lot. There's still some modifications I find unnessecary or bad, but I'm far from thinking all are bad.
Can I just say that we as people have too much judgement and not enough emphathy? We look at things from the outside and just because we can't understand it, we judge it as wrong instead of not FOR me. Hindsight is 20/20 but recognizing that there are things beyond you and your understanding would greatly reduce the hate and anger people project over an opinion that can change by experiencing it. So, instead, we could just have a little bit of selflessness (or a whole lotta "mind your own business") and say "to each their own".
To this I would add Marvin Heemeyer, the "killdozer" guy. often portrayed as some sort of underdog antihero who got back at The Man without killing anybody, he was actually a bitter whackadoodle who had every intention of killing his perceived enemies. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Marvin_Heemeyer
