“He Begged But I Said No”: Wife Asks If She’s In The Wrong After Her Husband Misses His Flight Since She Didn’t Pack His Suitcase
Marriage is like a marathon: you enter it thinking that “’til death do us part” will be the finish line, but you never really know when it will be over. Staying in this race can be the hardest work you have ever done. Hopefully, it’s also the most rewarding. Unless your partner climbs on your shoulders and you have to start racking up the miles for the both of you.
Just yesterday, Redditor u/LydiaBlue asked other users to share their opinion on a marital conflict that’s been plaguing her mind. You see, her husband recently missed a business flight because the two of them couldn’t agree whose job it was to pack his things. It sounds simple, but the situation is much more complex and revolves around empathy, trust, and other vital parts of a healthy relationship.
I could tell you more about it but I think it’d be better if you simply read u/LydiaBlue’s original post.
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People think the woman handled the situation perfectly
If spending time with your wife and kids (there's a playroom. It may be for him given his mentality, but it implies children) makes you miserable, you are A) a sorry git of a human being and B) in the wrong relationship. This guy needs counseling and/or a divorce. Because his family deserves better. Just because you are the 'breadwinner' in a family doesn't give you special rights. The stay at home spouse does just as much work and should be respected. This arsehole played games all night instead of packing, then went to hang out 'with the boys' for hours before he was supposed to leave. He didn't spend that time with his family. He didn't pack his own bags for his own trip. And when he missed his flight (for a trip that takes weeks?) he didn't even book the next flight out, he bitched and whined about it. Dude needs to grow up
Most people don’t understand that a homemaker does more than a full time worker. A usually work week is 40h a week. But we are expected to work every day, every hour that we are awake. No “end of shift”, no sick days, no weekends, no holidays…
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I am reading this on morning I have to take a business trip. It has never even occurred to me to ask my wife to pack my bags. Wtf is wrong with this picture? I'm betting his mommy cleaned his room for him while his daddy would sit out in the garage with his buddies playing poker, drinking beer, and hollering for "more snacks" ever hour or two. Unbelievable how these losers are.
Sadly it’s a very normal thing for some men to demand that their partner does all this chores. In my family for example women are expected to remember appointments, birthdays and plan and buy gifts (plus do all house chores of course). My partner tried to do the same to me and I told them no. His parents didn’t get a Xmas gift this year because he was too lazy to buy it. I would never even think about asking him to buy my parents presents.
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so wait. he gonna miss his buddies because he will be gone for how long? couple of weeks? but he won't miss his wife and his kids? i guess this because he doesn't want to spend time with them and instead of packing before (like how long does it take it? 1 hour?) he stresses himself out after the catchup with his friends? if i were his wife i would have put only shoes or shirts in his bag. and when he realized what i did and asked me why i would have said "sorry you didn't say what you will need and i had no time to think about it" i'm petty and what will his boss think? "hey boss i missed that flight" - yeah pay for the next. it's important that you go "no i'm not going to pay for a flight. it was not my fault that i missed the first one" if i were his boss i wouldn't send him anywhere anymore. he is a man child
He probably has a girlfriend on the side honestly.
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Just to add, it wasn't his wife who made him look "unprofessional and unreliable"...
Imagine him telling his employers: "I missed my flight because my wife refused to pack my bags for me."
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I see a divorce pending. What an immature child. I use to pack my husband's bags and one day I just didn't. I told him he could pack. You know what, my husband forgets more than half of what he was planning to bring but he never complains and he is fine with it. He even packed for me once while I was at work. I get home, he is so proud that he packed for both of us, we drive 18 hours and when we arrive I discover he packed me two shoes, one high heel and one sneaker. I laughed all the way to the store where he bought me a new pair of boots. Thing is, packing takes 10 minutes, you forget something you can typically get a replacement at where ever you are going. I use to get annoyed with my husband for being a bad packer, he was annoyed with me for nagging him about packing, now we just leave each other to fend for ourselves and deal with the consequences when we get there. This husband seems to not care about his wife or kids, seems manipulative and gaslighted the wife. Leave him.
A caring person makes the effort to behave in a caring manner. I'm glad you two worked things out - there's always a learning curve. I'm the absent-minded one, so we've had to work things out.
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he couldn't because he was playing video game? didn't need to go further in the text
No problem in dudes playing video games. It's his priorities that are f****d.
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The second I read "he was up all night playing fortnight" I said "That dude can go eff himself". That was all she needed to say. He's the asshole
Yup. The rest of the story after that sentence was superfluous. That one sentence tells us everything about his priorities and attitude.
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Ma'am, you married a child. You may be wanting to pack your bags some day.
There are way bigger issues in this relationship / family than who should’ve packed a suitcase for a trip and a missed flight. A complete lack of effective communication, no respect, no understanding, and sone seriously selfish behaviour. This situation is a symptom not a cause, it’s time they either got some serious relationship therapy or choose to go their separate ways. I can’t begin to imagine what the children think or what toxic behaviours they are learning. I can’t say I’d tolerate being told to pack a bag so they can stroll in and out at a whim. Time for him to grow up and take responsibility for his actions. PS my partner would quite rightly kick me to the kerb if I behaved like that!
The “boys” probably have a hefty rack. He wasn’t with the “boys”, he is probably cheating.
what's with all these grown ass men expecting their wives to treat them like children? My dad travels all the time for work, and when my mom stayed home to take care of us kids, he still packed his own bag. Because he's a f*****g adult.
I disagree, children will occasionally listen, obey, or use common sense.
Load More Replies... Ladies, you are not required to raise a grown-ass man just because you married him.
Summary: Child in man's body gets thwarted, blames everyone but himself for consequences of his own actions, then tries to guilt his wife (mama?) into taking that blame. CONCLUSION: Divorce. Then get individual counseling. Far from each other.
Having seen it happen to others, I'm gonna guess, "Oh, he's great, my best friend, we have a ton of fun!" and then after the wedding it's responsibility time, and that's his cue to flee. (Note: In one case, no, htey did not cohabit before marriage.)
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Nah, I wouldn't raise my son to be this stupid ;) Must be somebody eleses ;)
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He may be a narcissist (There are many types) His behaviour won't change as they believe they are 'entitled' especially if he is the 'breadwinner', as a stab in the dark, does he discourage or say it's unnecessary for you to work, guilt trip you about abandoning kids etc. Does/did his mother do everything for him? If the answer to any of these is yes, there's the start of your red flags and do some research. If he is one and you want to get a bit of independence/job, his behaviour may change for the worse. I have witnessed this partly with my own husband but mostly with a friend and her marriage. Ps I really hope I'm wrong and he's just being an as*h*le
This isn't enough to make a clinical diagnosis of narcissism, maybe he's just a spoiled, selfish, entitled twerp, who thinks that his status as "breadwinner" entitles to him treat his spouse like a maid. Sadly, this won't teach him to change his ways, this whole mess happened because he didn't listen to her, and he's unlikely to start now.
Load More Replies... Anyone else thinking that if packing his bag made him miss his flight he probably didn't leave enough time make it anyway? Rule of thumb I've always gone by is arrive a couple hours early for an international flight. Give yourself a cushion in case things go wrong. 30 min throwing clothes in a bag shouldn't be enough to make you miss a flight all on its own. Unless you cut it way too close.
Yup, he probably waited until the last possible minute! But at that point he had several options, starting with managing his time better, or listening to his wife, or buying a ticket for the next day and making the trip anyway. But if he had to take off in a hurry, he could have just thrown a few suits and shirts into a bag, hauled ass, and planned to buy toiletries and underwear at his destination. That would have cost a few bucks, but fewer than a second ticket.
Load More Replies... My ex husband used to miss work or be late to work and was fired from a good job. He couldn't get going in the morning and blamed it on me. Said I needed help getting the kids ready for school. I didn't. I'm also the reason he didn't go to medical school. I was the reason he couldn't get his adult responsibilities done. He missed flights home from business trips and wouldn't call to let me know "Because you'd just be mad at me". He didn't take care of our home and we never seemed to have enough money even though we both worked and made decent money. It was my fault because I bought our (5) kids clothing at Walmart. Divorced him after 20 years of marriage. It was awful..but the best decision I ever made. I have a feeling the guy in the AITA has been up to no good and likes to blame things on his wife to keep her head spinning and make her doubt herself so she isn't aware of the real situation.
Wow. I'm glad this particular wife consulted AITA - a lot of folks to open her eyes. A few people here suggested he was having an affair. Maybe the other woman will become the scapegoat - if so, she'll come to regret it.
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ALL his s**t would’ve been thrown on the lawn, and every lock in the house changed. The next time he would hear from you would be through your divorce lawyer—-and please take his ass to the f*****g cleaners! Maybe that’ll be the wake up call he needs to finally grow the f**k up.
Lol. Dumbass. Pack your own bag, kiss the wife and kids goodbye, go hang with your buddies, then go straight to airport. Why would you waste time going back home if you were already out? Basic planning skills here....
They could try counselling but he'd need to actively participate and I don't see that happening. Hire a lawyer unless you want to spend the rest of your life raising an adult who acts like a toddler. And since they have kids - is this really the example you want your children growing up with?
Someone missed out on an excellent opportunity for malicious compliance.
I'm sorry, but that relationship isn't going to work, and the sooner that woman divorces him, the better. He's an immature child who is emotionally abusing her. A real relationship is based on respect and team work, and I say this as a guy who's been married almost 30 years. Also, if you have kids, those kids come first. A good father needs to spend time with his kids. When my kids were little, I rarely went anywhere without them, and rarely played video games until after they were in bed. Yes, it's difficult to have 'me' time when you have kids, but take it from a guy whose kids are grown: spend every second with them that you can because someday they will grow up and move out and you will miss them so much.
This manchild would be out on his ass so fast his head would spin. He doesn't want to spend time with his wife and kids, just his friends. What a selfish ass. Time for a lawyer.
Narcissistic A-Hole who will never respect you and always treat you as his personal slave and butt-wiper. Leave him. Now.
So he spends time with his friends instead of his family before a trip, because he'll miss them? Even without the packing and missed plane drama, that's a big nope from me. And the tantrum he threw about missing the plane seals the deal. He's a jerk, and she needs to look at getting out.
"My husband was up all night playing Fortnite" Are you married to a toxic, pre-teen??!
My son thinks Fortnight is childish, now that he turned 12.
Load More Replies... He had plenty of time to pack his bag so he obv tht it was her job to do it. He basically thinks she is a housemaid.
I think she should have packed his bags. All of his personal belongings on the front step and change the locks. Also, in the suitcase for his trip, you should have put all womens clothes. Don't get mad, don't get even, get one up!
The man she married is a little boy and saying he's gonna miss his boys (and they are his friends, not his kids? and he prioritizes them first, not his business trip??) implies he has a screw loose. She better keep an eye on him, I'd just get a divorce. There is something strange going on in this marriage.
I’d pack his bags alright and kick his sorry a**e out. What a man baby. Doesn’t thank his wife for all that she does, acts like a brat and expects everything done for him. He can get counselling or gtfo.
Do they allow small children to travel alone on a plane? It sounds like he shouldn't have booked the trip and instead attend a session of "Entitled Pricks Anonymous".
does anyone have updates on this? i can't go on reddit and i really hope shes gonna divorce him
He needs to grow up and take responsibilities more seriously if he thinks that playing Fortnite late into the evening then hanging out with the lads makes him an adult. He seems to to regards his wife and both a wife and a mother, with the wife for marital part of his life and potentially, his own mother waited on him, and tidied up after him as well, so now he expects his wife to do the same thing. He needs to pack his own bags for his business trips, or else pack his bags for a one way trip out of the family home.
Man this story really pissed me off that the dude could be so effing selfish and cruel. Your ass out playing when you should be home with your wife and kids and packing your own bag. Your wife needs to kick your ass to the curb! Did u forget ur a grown ass man?
He sounds like a jerk, and she should have packed his bag a long, long time ago.
NTA, hell no kick him right now. He is acting like a child and the reason he is "tired" is his own damn fault too. Video games... smh. He doesn't deserve to be your husband and he sounds like neglecting father tbh
If I were her, I would have packed his bag. But I would mismatch all of his socks, throw his shirts, pants, etc. haphazardly so they'll all be wrinkled and crumpled. And I would conveniently put a pair of kitchen scissors on top of his clothes so TSA would inspect his bag and cause a bigger mess. After all, he never said how his bag should be packed.
How long does it take to pack? You take your important papers, and you can buy everything in town you land. Its a civilization after all, not a deserted island. Also wife is not a wife, but a glorified babysitter bought with a ring and free housing. I would just leave.
Whenever i read these, I can't help but wonder what possessed these women to marry and procreate with men like this. It's actually hard to be on your side just because you married him. You've been married for a while if you've got kids and all - what were you thinking? Then this happens and I can't help but think... You probably should have expected this. No, you're not the AH, but you are guilty of marrying him so... Maybe think about what to do about that.
Pack your own f*****g suitcase ya little bitch id never expect my wife to do s**t like that for me some guys seriously love being mummied does she wipe your ass too?
How does this person even function as an adult? Holy f**k. The only bags she needs to be packing are the ones with all his stuff to be sent to a new permanent location.
I'm not even reading this. If the headline is true. Divorce him. You can do far better.
I couldn't bare being with a man this immature. I would have left him.
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Should've "packed" his bag. With useless stuff. No clothes, no toiletries, nothing that he needs. Just random stuff. Or only his socks and underwear. He can't complain since she packed his bag. He didn't say with what...
I would eventually have packed his bag but with totally random useless things. Waaaay funnier and this jerk would have been far away for a couple of weeks as planned.
She should have pack his bag. After that. And even bring those bags in front of the door. Then change locks.
I once heard of a woman who's husband was used to her preparing his sandwiches, put them in a sandwich box, put the box on the back of his bicycle, open the garage door, put the bicycle outside, while he was putting on his shoes, then he goes to work. One day it was the holidays and she was not up yet. So he asks her why his bike wasn't out of the garage yet. She was just preparing to get in the shower, so she went butnaked to the garage and started to open the garage door. This is when the marriage ended.
She should have packed his bag... in fact she should have packed all of them and told him not to bother coming back.
God, I am so f****ig glad that I am single... NTA, but she better starts looking for a job because she'll be a single mom in about two years tops.
I'm horrified that this poor woman is trapped with this man. She needs to get out. How DARE he.
Okay so the OP or the husband is lying. When missing a flight you don't need to buy a new ticket for another flight, they just book you on the next flight with available seats. Perhaps a change fee may apply (depending on the airline) but not a whole new ticket. This story is fishy.
My ex was like this. I remember one specific instance, where he was on a two week holiday (he often just refused to go to work). I was doing laundry and, because he always threw his dirty clothes all over the house and then blamed me if I didn't find it all to wash, I asked him to gather up whatever clothing items I missed. It took him five minutes. Three days later I am standing right there, folding up his laundry, while he complains to his friends on Xbox that he didn't get any time to enjoy his two weeks off work because he was so busy doing the laundry I made him do. Because I had asked him to pick up his clothes three days prior. Note that I say ex. Just as this man should be her ex. At some point this woman has to accept that her husband is a childish, lazy prick with no respect for her. These men do not deserve wives, and they sure as hell do not deserve slaves.
NTA. Also, he's definitely having an affair. Also, he sucks. Leave his ass.
Stories like this make me fear getting married again. The love and excitement and sparkle always dies.
Yeah, if his business trip was SOOOO IMPORTANT, Then I do wonder why he kept on playing a video game instead of packing his goddamn bags. If the wife takes care of ALL of the household work, then you Sir, can absolutely pack your own stuff yourself. Didn't even think about spending time with the kids, instead goes out with his bros.
He is not a grownup yet. She is not his mommy and shouldn't have to "take care" of him especially when there are kid's to take care of. Time for this hubby to grow UP!
NTA. Divorce is the answer. This is not a grown up men. This is a child. How repulsive. Why are you with him? Seriously. Throw his stuff out and find someone that treats you like a partner. Like a human being. With respect. Someone that wants to spend time with you and your kids. Unbelievable.
After he left, you should have taken everything he owned and dumped it out on the front lawn, with a sign on the door suggesting he pack it in his car and go back and live with his mommy. His attitude was unconscionable! Total asshat! He needs to be gone.
Been here done This, my ex used to want me not only to earn the money but clean the house and lay out his clean outfits for him. These people exist
I would have packed his bags with all of my clothes. Then, when he got to his destination, he will not only realize that he should have packed his own bags...he'll spend the next 24 hours explaining to his "buddies" why he only had dresses and women's underwear for this all important business trip. Maybe he needs to be more professional in his own job by accepting the responsibility of making sure he's prepared.
I bet he calls his wife something like "the old ball and chains" and is "babysitting" his own kids. Never changed a diaper once, can't name his kid's best friend, puts the dirty dishes on top of the dishwasher. Doesn't see his wife as an equal partner, his mom was the best anyway.
I thought by "hanging out with the boys because he might not see them again" meant he's not coming back. And that confused me because he would choose to spend his time hanging out with friends or playing Fortnite rather than spending time with his family or helping with housechores.
My dad would never even dream of treating my mother this way. When we go on trips, my mother usually packs the suitcase that they will be sharing, but my dad gets out his own clothes and has them organized by the suitcase. I believe that he probably missed his flight on purpose so that he could have an excuse to sit up and complain and blame her for the next couple of weeks. If I were her, I would pack his bags now and tell him to get out. She is already raising their kids, she shouldn't have to raise him too.
I don't understand why you folks come in to every story to just say it sounds fake.
Load More Replies... If spending time with your wife and kids (there's a playroom. It may be for him given his mentality, but it implies children) makes you miserable, you are A) a sorry git of a human being and B) in the wrong relationship. This guy needs counseling and/or a divorce. Because his family deserves better. Just because you are the 'breadwinner' in a family doesn't give you special rights. The stay at home spouse does just as much work and should be respected. This arsehole played games all night instead of packing, then went to hang out 'with the boys' for hours before he was supposed to leave. He didn't spend that time with his family. He didn't pack his own bags for his own trip. And when he missed his flight (for a trip that takes weeks?) he didn't even book the next flight out, he bitched and whined about it. Dude needs to grow up
Most people don’t understand that a homemaker does more than a full time worker. A usually work week is 40h a week. But we are expected to work every day, every hour that we are awake. No “end of shift”, no sick days, no weekends, no holidays…
Load More Replies... I am reading this on morning I have to take a business trip. It has never even occurred to me to ask my wife to pack my bags. Wtf is wrong with this picture? I'm betting his mommy cleaned his room for him while his daddy would sit out in the garage with his buddies playing poker, drinking beer, and hollering for "more snacks" ever hour or two. Unbelievable how these losers are.
Sadly it’s a very normal thing for some men to demand that their partner does all this chores. In my family for example women are expected to remember appointments, birthdays and plan and buy gifts (plus do all house chores of course). My partner tried to do the same to me and I told them no. His parents didn’t get a Xmas gift this year because he was too lazy to buy it. I would never even think about asking him to buy my parents presents.
Load More Replies... so wait. he gonna miss his buddies because he will be gone for how long? couple of weeks? but he won't miss his wife and his kids? i guess this because he doesn't want to spend time with them and instead of packing before (like how long does it take it? 1 hour?) he stresses himself out after the catchup with his friends? if i were his wife i would have put only shoes or shirts in his bag. and when he realized what i did and asked me why i would have said "sorry you didn't say what you will need and i had no time to think about it" i'm petty and what will his boss think? "hey boss i missed that flight" - yeah pay for the next. it's important that you go "no i'm not going to pay for a flight. it was not my fault that i missed the first one" if i were his boss i wouldn't send him anywhere anymore. he is a man child
He probably has a girlfriend on the side honestly.
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Imagine him telling his employers: "I missed my flight because my wife refused to pack my bags for me."
Load More Replies... I see a divorce pending. What an immature child. I use to pack my husband's bags and one day I just didn't. I told him he could pack. You know what, my husband forgets more than half of what he was planning to bring but he never complains and he is fine with it. He even packed for me once while I was at work. I get home, he is so proud that he packed for both of us, we drive 18 hours and when we arrive I discover he packed me two shoes, one high heel and one sneaker. I laughed all the way to the store where he bought me a new pair of boots. Thing is, packing takes 10 minutes, you forget something you can typically get a replacement at where ever you are going. I use to get annoyed with my husband for being a bad packer, he was annoyed with me for nagging him about packing, now we just leave each other to fend for ourselves and deal with the consequences when we get there. This husband seems to not care about his wife or kids, seems manipulative and gaslighted the wife. Leave him.
A caring person makes the effort to behave in a caring manner. I'm glad you two worked things out - there's always a learning curve. I'm the absent-minded one, so we've had to work things out.
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No problem in dudes playing video games. It's his priorities that are f****d.
Load More Replies... The second I read "he was up all night playing fortnight" I said "That dude can go eff himself". That was all she needed to say. He's the asshole
Yup. The rest of the story after that sentence was superfluous. That one sentence tells us everything about his priorities and attitude.
Load More Replies... Ma'am, you married a child. You may be wanting to pack your bags some day.
There are way bigger issues in this relationship / family than who should’ve packed a suitcase for a trip and a missed flight. A complete lack of effective communication, no respect, no understanding, and sone seriously selfish behaviour. This situation is a symptom not a cause, it’s time they either got some serious relationship therapy or choose to go their separate ways. I can’t begin to imagine what the children think or what toxic behaviours they are learning. I can’t say I’d tolerate being told to pack a bag so they can stroll in and out at a whim. Time for him to grow up and take responsibility for his actions. PS my partner would quite rightly kick me to the kerb if I behaved like that!
The “boys” probably have a hefty rack. He wasn’t with the “boys”, he is probably cheating.
what's with all these grown ass men expecting their wives to treat them like children? My dad travels all the time for work, and when my mom stayed home to take care of us kids, he still packed his own bag. Because he's a f*****g adult.
I disagree, children will occasionally listen, obey, or use common sense.
Load More Replies... Ladies, you are not required to raise a grown-ass man just because you married him.
Summary: Child in man's body gets thwarted, blames everyone but himself for consequences of his own actions, then tries to guilt his wife (mama?) into taking that blame. CONCLUSION: Divorce. Then get individual counseling. Far from each other.
Having seen it happen to others, I'm gonna guess, "Oh, he's great, my best friend, we have a ton of fun!" and then after the wedding it's responsibility time, and that's his cue to flee. (Note: In one case, no, htey did not cohabit before marriage.)
Load More Replies... Nah, I wouldn't raise my son to be this stupid ;) Must be somebody eleses ;)
Load More Replies... He may be a narcissist (There are many types) His behaviour won't change as they believe they are 'entitled' especially if he is the 'breadwinner', as a stab in the dark, does he discourage or say it's unnecessary for you to work, guilt trip you about abandoning kids etc. Does/did his mother do everything for him? If the answer to any of these is yes, there's the start of your red flags and do some research. If he is one and you want to get a bit of independence/job, his behaviour may change for the worse. I have witnessed this partly with my own husband but mostly with a friend and her marriage. Ps I really hope I'm wrong and he's just being an as*h*le
This isn't enough to make a clinical diagnosis of narcissism, maybe he's just a spoiled, selfish, entitled twerp, who thinks that his status as "breadwinner" entitles to him treat his spouse like a maid. Sadly, this won't teach him to change his ways, this whole mess happened because he didn't listen to her, and he's unlikely to start now.
Load More Replies... Anyone else thinking that if packing his bag made him miss his flight he probably didn't leave enough time make it anyway? Rule of thumb I've always gone by is arrive a couple hours early for an international flight. Give yourself a cushion in case things go wrong. 30 min throwing clothes in a bag shouldn't be enough to make you miss a flight all on its own. Unless you cut it way too close.
Yup, he probably waited until the last possible minute! But at that point he had several options, starting with managing his time better, or listening to his wife, or buying a ticket for the next day and making the trip anyway. But if he had to take off in a hurry, he could have just thrown a few suits and shirts into a bag, hauled ass, and planned to buy toiletries and underwear at his destination. That would have cost a few bucks, but fewer than a second ticket.
Load More Replies... My ex husband used to miss work or be late to work and was fired from a good job. He couldn't get going in the morning and blamed it on me. Said I needed help getting the kids ready for school. I didn't. I'm also the reason he didn't go to medical school. I was the reason he couldn't get his adult responsibilities done. He missed flights home from business trips and wouldn't call to let me know "Because you'd just be mad at me". He didn't take care of our home and we never seemed to have enough money even though we both worked and made decent money. It was my fault because I bought our (5) kids clothing at Walmart. Divorced him after 20 years of marriage. It was awful..but the best decision I ever made. I have a feeling the guy in the AITA has been up to no good and likes to blame things on his wife to keep her head spinning and make her doubt herself so she isn't aware of the real situation.
Wow. I'm glad this particular wife consulted AITA - a lot of folks to open her eyes. A few people here suggested he was having an affair. Maybe the other woman will become the scapegoat - if so, she'll come to regret it.
Load More Replies... ALL his s**t would’ve been thrown on the lawn, and every lock in the house changed. The next time he would hear from you would be through your divorce lawyer—-and please take his ass to the f*****g cleaners! Maybe that’ll be the wake up call he needs to finally grow the f**k up.
Lol. Dumbass. Pack your own bag, kiss the wife and kids goodbye, go hang with your buddies, then go straight to airport. Why would you waste time going back home if you were already out? Basic planning skills here....
They could try counselling but he'd need to actively participate and I don't see that happening. Hire a lawyer unless you want to spend the rest of your life raising an adult who acts like a toddler. And since they have kids - is this really the example you want your children growing up with?
Someone missed out on an excellent opportunity for malicious compliance.
I'm sorry, but that relationship isn't going to work, and the sooner that woman divorces him, the better. He's an immature child who is emotionally abusing her. A real relationship is based on respect and team work, and I say this as a guy who's been married almost 30 years. Also, if you have kids, those kids come first. A good father needs to spend time with his kids. When my kids were little, I rarely went anywhere without them, and rarely played video games until after they were in bed. Yes, it's difficult to have 'me' time when you have kids, but take it from a guy whose kids are grown: spend every second with them that you can because someday they will grow up and move out and you will miss them so much.
This manchild would be out on his ass so fast his head would spin. He doesn't want to spend time with his wife and kids, just his friends. What a selfish ass. Time for a lawyer.
Narcissistic A-Hole who will never respect you and always treat you as his personal slave and butt-wiper. Leave him. Now.
So he spends time with his friends instead of his family before a trip, because he'll miss them? Even without the packing and missed plane drama, that's a big nope from me. And the tantrum he threw about missing the plane seals the deal. He's a jerk, and she needs to look at getting out.
"My husband was up all night playing Fortnite" Are you married to a toxic, pre-teen??!
My son thinks Fortnight is childish, now that he turned 12.
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I think she should have packed his bags. All of his personal belongings on the front step and change the locks. Also, in the suitcase for his trip, you should have put all womens clothes. Don't get mad, don't get even, get one up!
The man she married is a little boy and saying he's gonna miss his boys (and they are his friends, not his kids? and he prioritizes them first, not his business trip??) implies he has a screw loose. She better keep an eye on him, I'd just get a divorce. There is something strange going on in this marriage.
I’d pack his bags alright and kick his sorry a**e out. What a man baby. Doesn’t thank his wife for all that she does, acts like a brat and expects everything done for him. He can get counselling or gtfo.
Do they allow small children to travel alone on a plane? It sounds like he shouldn't have booked the trip and instead attend a session of "Entitled Pricks Anonymous".
does anyone have updates on this? i can't go on reddit and i really hope shes gonna divorce him
He needs to grow up and take responsibilities more seriously if he thinks that playing Fortnite late into the evening then hanging out with the lads makes him an adult. He seems to to regards his wife and both a wife and a mother, with the wife for marital part of his life and potentially, his own mother waited on him, and tidied up after him as well, so now he expects his wife to do the same thing. He needs to pack his own bags for his business trips, or else pack his bags for a one way trip out of the family home.
Man this story really pissed me off that the dude could be so effing selfish and cruel. Your ass out playing when you should be home with your wife and kids and packing your own bag. Your wife needs to kick your ass to the curb! Did u forget ur a grown ass man?
He sounds like a jerk, and she should have packed his bag a long, long time ago.
NTA, hell no kick him right now. He is acting like a child and the reason he is "tired" is his own damn fault too. Video games... smh. He doesn't deserve to be your husband and he sounds like neglecting father tbh
If I were her, I would have packed his bag. But I would mismatch all of his socks, throw his shirts, pants, etc. haphazardly so they'll all be wrinkled and crumpled. And I would conveniently put a pair of kitchen scissors on top of his clothes so TSA would inspect his bag and cause a bigger mess. After all, he never said how his bag should be packed.
How long does it take to pack? You take your important papers, and you can buy everything in town you land. Its a civilization after all, not a deserted island. Also wife is not a wife, but a glorified babysitter bought with a ring and free housing. I would just leave.
Whenever i read these, I can't help but wonder what possessed these women to marry and procreate with men like this. It's actually hard to be on your side just because you married him. You've been married for a while if you've got kids and all - what were you thinking? Then this happens and I can't help but think... You probably should have expected this. No, you're not the AH, but you are guilty of marrying him so... Maybe think about what to do about that.
Pack your own f*****g suitcase ya little bitch id never expect my wife to do s**t like that for me some guys seriously love being mummied does she wipe your ass too?
How does this person even function as an adult? Holy f**k. The only bags she needs to be packing are the ones with all his stuff to be sent to a new permanent location.
I'm not even reading this. If the headline is true. Divorce him. You can do far better.
I couldn't bare being with a man this immature. I would have left him.
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Should've "packed" his bag. With useless stuff. No clothes, no toiletries, nothing that he needs. Just random stuff. Or only his socks and underwear. He can't complain since she packed his bag. He didn't say with what...
I would eventually have packed his bag but with totally random useless things. Waaaay funnier and this jerk would have been far away for a couple of weeks as planned.
She should have pack his bag. After that. And even bring those bags in front of the door. Then change locks.
I once heard of a woman who's husband was used to her preparing his sandwiches, put them in a sandwich box, put the box on the back of his bicycle, open the garage door, put the bicycle outside, while he was putting on his shoes, then he goes to work. One day it was the holidays and she was not up yet. So he asks her why his bike wasn't out of the garage yet. She was just preparing to get in the shower, so she went butnaked to the garage and started to open the garage door. This is when the marriage ended.
She should have packed his bag... in fact she should have packed all of them and told him not to bother coming back.
God, I am so f****ig glad that I am single... NTA, but she better starts looking for a job because she'll be a single mom in about two years tops.
I'm horrified that this poor woman is trapped with this man. She needs to get out. How DARE he.
Okay so the OP or the husband is lying. When missing a flight you don't need to buy a new ticket for another flight, they just book you on the next flight with available seats. Perhaps a change fee may apply (depending on the airline) but not a whole new ticket. This story is fishy.
My ex was like this. I remember one specific instance, where he was on a two week holiday (he often just refused to go to work). I was doing laundry and, because he always threw his dirty clothes all over the house and then blamed me if I didn't find it all to wash, I asked him to gather up whatever clothing items I missed. It took him five minutes. Three days later I am standing right there, folding up his laundry, while he complains to his friends on Xbox that he didn't get any time to enjoy his two weeks off work because he was so busy doing the laundry I made him do. Because I had asked him to pick up his clothes three days prior. Note that I say ex. Just as this man should be her ex. At some point this woman has to accept that her husband is a childish, lazy prick with no respect for her. These men do not deserve wives, and they sure as hell do not deserve slaves.
NTA. Also, he's definitely having an affair. Also, he sucks. Leave his ass.
Stories like this make me fear getting married again. The love and excitement and sparkle always dies.
Yeah, if his business trip was SOOOO IMPORTANT, Then I do wonder why he kept on playing a video game instead of packing his goddamn bags. If the wife takes care of ALL of the household work, then you Sir, can absolutely pack your own stuff yourself. Didn't even think about spending time with the kids, instead goes out with his bros.
He is not a grownup yet. She is not his mommy and shouldn't have to "take care" of him especially when there are kid's to take care of. Time for this hubby to grow UP!
NTA. Divorce is the answer. This is not a grown up men. This is a child. How repulsive. Why are you with him? Seriously. Throw his stuff out and find someone that treats you like a partner. Like a human being. With respect. Someone that wants to spend time with you and your kids. Unbelievable.
After he left, you should have taken everything he owned and dumped it out on the front lawn, with a sign on the door suggesting he pack it in his car and go back and live with his mommy. His attitude was unconscionable! Total asshat! He needs to be gone.
Been here done This, my ex used to want me not only to earn the money but clean the house and lay out his clean outfits for him. These people exist
I would have packed his bags with all of my clothes. Then, when he got to his destination, he will not only realize that he should have packed his own bags...he'll spend the next 24 hours explaining to his "buddies" why he only had dresses and women's underwear for this all important business trip. Maybe he needs to be more professional in his own job by accepting the responsibility of making sure he's prepared.
I bet he calls his wife something like "the old ball and chains" and is "babysitting" his own kids. Never changed a diaper once, can't name his kid's best friend, puts the dirty dishes on top of the dishwasher. Doesn't see his wife as an equal partner, his mom was the best anyway.
I thought by "hanging out with the boys because he might not see them again" meant he's not coming back. And that confused me because he would choose to spend his time hanging out with friends or playing Fortnite rather than spending time with his family or helping with housechores.
My dad would never even dream of treating my mother this way. When we go on trips, my mother usually packs the suitcase that they will be sharing, but my dad gets out his own clothes and has them organized by the suitcase. I believe that he probably missed his flight on purpose so that he could have an excuse to sit up and complain and blame her for the next couple of weeks. If I were her, I would pack his bags now and tell him to get out. She is already raising their kids, she shouldn't have to raise him too.
I don't understand why you folks come in to every story to just say it sounds fake.
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