Relationships are hard work, and although we’re all bound to experience some difficulties, it’s crucial to set your limits.
Sometimes, a person is going through a rough patch that triggers them to act differently, or perhaps your beloved partner is simply revealing their true self – whatever the reasoning is, tackling such issues can be challenging.
We’re all aware that communication is vital in just about every aspect of life, which is why it’s in your best interests to talk through your struggles.
However, at times, talking doesn’t help, and your significant other may not understand what consequences his actions carry, leaving you no other choice than to expose him to his already fed-up boss.
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Sometimes it gets to the point where all you can do is expose your husband to his manager
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“AITA for causing my husband to get fired?” – this woman turned to a well-known subreddit to find out whether she’s indeed a jerk for exposing her lazy husband to his boss, who was tired of his abnormally regular absences. The post has managed to receive over 11K upvotes and 1.5K worth of comments discussing the man’s irresponsibility.
Woman asks if she’s the bad guy for getting her husband fired for playing video games all night
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The author began her post by revealing that her husband has a habit of making up excuses just to get out of work. She said his laziness has affected their family financially because even though his boss is still hanging onto him, he keeps lowering his salary.
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In fact, the OP had to get a second job to support their relationship.
However, recently the man bought a PS5 from his 14-year-old cousin, and he’s been playing day and night ever since. He skipped a couple of shifts and lied to his boss about having clichéd emergencies such as diarrhea or a fever.
Naturally, the author got fed up with him taking his job for granted and making them struggle financially. She said that he needed to knock it off, yet was told to “stay out of it and focus on her jobs.”
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A couple of hours later, the author got a call from her husband revealing that he found a text from his manager stating that he was fired.
The man caused a scene and asked the woman whether she said anything that led him to do this. She said that she told him the truth, and the husband lashed out stating that he was “cooking up” an excuse to get his boss off his back but she had gone and messed it all up.
The OP argued that he couldn’t blame her after the lack of commitment he’d shown to his boss.
The man hung up but the text messages kept coming.
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A couple of hours later, the author got a call from husband revealing that he found a text from his manager claiming that he was fired.
The man caused a scene and asked the woman whether she said anything that led him to do it. She said that she told him the truth, but the husband lashed out stating that he was “cooking up” an excuse to get his boss off his back but she went and messed it all up.
The OP argued that he can’t blame her after the lack of commitment he’s shown to his boss.
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The man hung up but the text messages kept coming.
When the OP arrived home, she was greeted with the silent treatment – however, the husband did occasionally vent about how she ruined his job.
What do you think about this situation? And what would have you done?
Fellow Redditors shared their opinions on this situation
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Share on FacebookYou married a child who will continue to enjoy his life while you work yourself to death supporting someone who not only adds nothing to your life, but also sucks dry every resource you provide. File for divorce.
Why are you with him? - you got a SECOND job to support his lazy. I'm unemployed, my man works. He can play what he wants and when, he works full time and his dedication to his work has allowed me to stay at home. Under no circumstances would I expect him to get a second job so I could continue being at home. And I'm literally off work due to health l,
Work becomes the spouses business the moment that his lack of performance results her having to work extra hours, particularly if it's as a result of choices he makes rather than issues he can't control. Marriages are supposed to be partnerships and clearly he isn't holding up his end of the deal.
That firing was coming no matter what you did...Well since you already proved you run your own household just fine without him I'd look into divorce.
His boss has the right idea. You should fire him too and get someone to fill the position of husband who isn’t a deadbeat.
Seems like you married a child and now he’s throwing a temper tantrum. You should divorce him and go live your best life. His boss even gave him a last warning. What a tool.
My experience with people like is that they don’t stop no matter how much you tell them they are hurting you. You complain, but you stay, so there’s no consequences for him and he either lacks empathy or there is such a deep drive (e.g. addiction) for the behavior that any empathy he has is irrelevant. The result is the same. Don’t light yourself on fire trying to keep someone else warm, especially someone who won’t lift a finger for you.
If he were me I would have been kicked out by the second call off lie. Til death do us part doesn't include partner turning into pond scum.
I spent 6 years in an abusive relationship with a man who stayed at home and play computer games while I worked my a*s off. He also forced me into committing benefit fraud because he was claiming benefits while I was working, and as a foreigner, at the time, I didn't know any better. He financially controlled by keeping my bank cards; he also took my Tax rebate and used it to buy himself a new gaming laptop. I am now free and have been for 4 years and in control of my own finances. Nobody will ever do that to me again
Omg, he kept the bank cards while you were working and he was sitting on his a*s playing video games? Just wow. I wouldn't let something like that go on for a month, let alone years. There had to have been some kind of abuse, perhaps psychological, going on to completely erase your sense of entitlement to what is yours and what you worked hard for.
Load More Replies...Time to divorce him and let him go live with his 14 year old cousin. You don't work two jobs while your significant other lays on their a*s playing video games. That's a hard NOPE and outta there. He is using you to support his gaming habit and you are enabling him. 2nd job my a*s. His butt would be out of there so fast...you didn't take him to raise, he is supposed to be a partner to you. I can't believe you haven't kicked him to the curb. Whatever you decide, don't have kids with this man, he is still one himself.
If she answered his phone, I could see a problem. But otherwise, no. She was honest and he should not have expected her to lie for him. But the main issue isn't that, but that she is still with him. I don't understand that.
As a woman, you have options. Don't support some guy who wants to dodge responsibility and make excuses. Keep your two jobs, kick him to the curb and treat yourself to something expensive but smart...property maybe?
If she was worried about money coming into the household surely telling his Boss has now made the money worries twenty times worse? Yes her partner is a lazy turd, she should have sold the PS5 to stop him playing on it all the time. Yes she was annoyed with him for doing sod all and bunking off work for a day, but does it justify cutting her own nose off to spite her face?
She should have sold his PS5? Is she his mother or his wife? Also: there is this concept of saying something in the spur of the moment without meaning to. Haven't you ever said something stupid because you were super annoyed?
Load More Replies...I think it's time to face reality and realize you married a man child who would rather play video games than be an adult in the real world. I would suggest divorce. He is taking full advantage of you and he will only get worse now that he's unemployed.
By the title - YTA, then the text came, NTA. Wow, the husband is a giant douche
There is something wrong here. If husband isn't a childish lazy jackass, he might have undiagnosed ADHD or depression. Try medication, if that doesn't work, try divorce.
If my SO was coming up with lies to skip work , at all, but especially on a regular basis that would be a big issue to me. Add in all the other c**p he was and wasn't doing. I wouldn't be able to stomach being around someone taking that sort of advantage of me and have such a low level of personal integrity.
"We're financially struggling...lets help get my husband fired". Yeah, he had behavioral issues that I would've voiced my concerns about (loudly) but snitching on your life partner and diminishing your household income...a good idea?
He'd already had his salary cut because of his laziness and was going to get fired in short order anyway. Now he's either got to shape up and get a new job, and start pulling his weight, or else she ditches him instead of letting him sponge off her.
Load More Replies...Lock his PS5 by putting a passcode on it. Tell him he can have the code back once he gets a job. Also give him hours he is allowed to play on the PS5 or what needs to be done before hand. If he is acting like a tween, treat him like a tween until he can show more responsibility. I am also a gamer and have found I enjoy gaming more once I take care of other things. It also helps with addictive tendencies to put limits on playing.
This would be a good strategy with a child. With a husband, divorce would be more appropriate.
Load More Replies...Whatever he says, do NOT believe him. He'll never change.
Load More Replies..."which few have anymore" ive never been to a house that doesn't have a home phone. these people are in their 30s, are married, & have a house (assumed because rent issues from low money were never mentioned). they're not freshly moved-out 18-year-olds. chances are high they have a home phone & that's what the boss called.
Load More Replies...You married a child who will continue to enjoy his life while you work yourself to death supporting someone who not only adds nothing to your life, but also sucks dry every resource you provide. File for divorce.
Why are you with him? - you got a SECOND job to support his lazy. I'm unemployed, my man works. He can play what he wants and when, he works full time and his dedication to his work has allowed me to stay at home. Under no circumstances would I expect him to get a second job so I could continue being at home. And I'm literally off work due to health l,
Work becomes the spouses business the moment that his lack of performance results her having to work extra hours, particularly if it's as a result of choices he makes rather than issues he can't control. Marriages are supposed to be partnerships and clearly he isn't holding up his end of the deal.
That firing was coming no matter what you did...Well since you already proved you run your own household just fine without him I'd look into divorce.
His boss has the right idea. You should fire him too and get someone to fill the position of husband who isn’t a deadbeat.
Seems like you married a child and now he’s throwing a temper tantrum. You should divorce him and go live your best life. His boss even gave him a last warning. What a tool.
My experience with people like is that they don’t stop no matter how much you tell them they are hurting you. You complain, but you stay, so there’s no consequences for him and he either lacks empathy or there is such a deep drive (e.g. addiction) for the behavior that any empathy he has is irrelevant. The result is the same. Don’t light yourself on fire trying to keep someone else warm, especially someone who won’t lift a finger for you.
If he were me I would have been kicked out by the second call off lie. Til death do us part doesn't include partner turning into pond scum.
I spent 6 years in an abusive relationship with a man who stayed at home and play computer games while I worked my a*s off. He also forced me into committing benefit fraud because he was claiming benefits while I was working, and as a foreigner, at the time, I didn't know any better. He financially controlled by keeping my bank cards; he also took my Tax rebate and used it to buy himself a new gaming laptop. I am now free and have been for 4 years and in control of my own finances. Nobody will ever do that to me again
Omg, he kept the bank cards while you were working and he was sitting on his a*s playing video games? Just wow. I wouldn't let something like that go on for a month, let alone years. There had to have been some kind of abuse, perhaps psychological, going on to completely erase your sense of entitlement to what is yours and what you worked hard for.
Load More Replies...Time to divorce him and let him go live with his 14 year old cousin. You don't work two jobs while your significant other lays on their a*s playing video games. That's a hard NOPE and outta there. He is using you to support his gaming habit and you are enabling him. 2nd job my a*s. His butt would be out of there so fast...you didn't take him to raise, he is supposed to be a partner to you. I can't believe you haven't kicked him to the curb. Whatever you decide, don't have kids with this man, he is still one himself.
If she answered his phone, I could see a problem. But otherwise, no. She was honest and he should not have expected her to lie for him. But the main issue isn't that, but that she is still with him. I don't understand that.
As a woman, you have options. Don't support some guy who wants to dodge responsibility and make excuses. Keep your two jobs, kick him to the curb and treat yourself to something expensive but smart...property maybe?
If she was worried about money coming into the household surely telling his Boss has now made the money worries twenty times worse? Yes her partner is a lazy turd, she should have sold the PS5 to stop him playing on it all the time. Yes she was annoyed with him for doing sod all and bunking off work for a day, but does it justify cutting her own nose off to spite her face?
She should have sold his PS5? Is she his mother or his wife? Also: there is this concept of saying something in the spur of the moment without meaning to. Haven't you ever said something stupid because you were super annoyed?
Load More Replies...I think it's time to face reality and realize you married a man child who would rather play video games than be an adult in the real world. I would suggest divorce. He is taking full advantage of you and he will only get worse now that he's unemployed.
By the title - YTA, then the text came, NTA. Wow, the husband is a giant douche
There is something wrong here. If husband isn't a childish lazy jackass, he might have undiagnosed ADHD or depression. Try medication, if that doesn't work, try divorce.
If my SO was coming up with lies to skip work , at all, but especially on a regular basis that would be a big issue to me. Add in all the other c**p he was and wasn't doing. I wouldn't be able to stomach being around someone taking that sort of advantage of me and have such a low level of personal integrity.
"We're financially struggling...lets help get my husband fired". Yeah, he had behavioral issues that I would've voiced my concerns about (loudly) but snitching on your life partner and diminishing your household income...a good idea?
He'd already had his salary cut because of his laziness and was going to get fired in short order anyway. Now he's either got to shape up and get a new job, and start pulling his weight, or else she ditches him instead of letting him sponge off her.
Load More Replies...Lock his PS5 by putting a passcode on it. Tell him he can have the code back once he gets a job. Also give him hours he is allowed to play on the PS5 or what needs to be done before hand. If he is acting like a tween, treat him like a tween until he can show more responsibility. I am also a gamer and have found I enjoy gaming more once I take care of other things. It also helps with addictive tendencies to put limits on playing.
This would be a good strategy with a child. With a husband, divorce would be more appropriate.
Load More Replies...Whatever he says, do NOT believe him. He'll never change.
Load More Replies..."which few have anymore" ive never been to a house that doesn't have a home phone. these people are in their 30s, are married, & have a house (assumed because rent issues from low money were never mentioned). they're not freshly moved-out 18-year-olds. chances are high they have a home phone & that's what the boss called.
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