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“AITA For Causing My Husband To Get Fired?”
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“AITA For Causing My Husband To Get Fired?”

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Relationships are hard work, and although we’re all bound to experience some difficulties, it’s crucial to set your limits.

Sometimes, a person is going through a rough patch that triggers them to act differently, or perhaps your beloved partner is simply revealing their true self – whatever the reasoning is, tackling such issues can be challenging.

We’re all aware that communication is vital in just about every aspect of life, which is why it’s in your best interests to talk through your struggles.

However, at times, talking doesn’t help, and your significant other may not understand what consequences his actions carry, leaving you no other choice than to expose him to his already fed-up boss.

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Sometimes it gets to the point where all you can do is expose your husband to his manager

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“AITA for causing my husband to get fired?” – this woman turned to a well-known subreddit to find out whether she’s indeed a jerk for exposing her lazy husband to his boss, who was tired of his abnormally regular absences. The post has managed to receive over 11K upvotes and 1.5K worth of comments discussing the man’s irresponsibility.

Woman asks if she’s the bad guy for getting her husband fired for playing video games all night

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The author began her post by revealing that her husband has a habit of making up excuses just to get out of work. She said his laziness has affected their family financially because even though his boss is still hanging onto him, he keeps lowering his salary.

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In fact, the OP had to get a second job to support their relationship.

However, recently the man bought a PS5 from his 14-year-old cousin, and he’s been playing day and night ever since. He skipped a couple of shifts and lied to his boss about having clichéd emergencies such as diarrhea or a fever.

Naturally, the author got fed up with him taking his job for granted and making them struggle financially. She said that he needed to knock it off, yet was told to “stay out of it and focus on her jobs.”

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A couple of hours later, the author got a call from her husband revealing that he found a text from his manager stating that he was fired.

The man caused a scene and asked the woman whether she said anything that led him to do this. She said that she told him the truth, and the husband lashed out stating that he was “cooking up” an excuse to get his boss off his back but she had gone and messed it all up.

The OP argued that he couldn’t blame her after the lack of commitment he’d shown to his boss.

The man hung up but the text messages kept coming.

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A couple of hours later, the author got a call from husband revealing that he found a text from his manager claiming that he was fired.

The man caused a scene and asked the woman whether she said anything that led him to do it. She said that she told him the truth, but the husband lashed out stating that he was “cooking up” an excuse to get his boss  off his back but she went and messed it all up.

The OP argued that he can’t blame her after the lack of commitment he’s shown to his boss.

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The man hung up but the text messages kept coming.

When the OP arrived home, she was greeted with the silent treatment – however, the husband did occasionally vent about how she ruined his job.

What do you think about this situation? And what would have you done?

Fellow Redditors shared their opinions on this situation

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nikkisevven avatar
Nikki Sevven
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You married a child who will continue to enjoy his life while you work yourself to death supporting someone who not only adds nothing to your life, but also sucks dry every resource you provide. File for divorce.

tiinabender avatar
Iifa A.
Community Member
1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Why are you with him? - you got a SECOND job to support his lazy. I'm unemployed, my man works. He can play what he wants and when, he works full time and his dedication to his work has allowed me to stay at home. Under no circumstances would I expect him to get a second job so I could continue being at home. And I'm literally off work due to health l,

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Tams21
Community Member
1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Work becomes the spouses business the moment that his lack of performance results her having to work extra hours, particularly if it's as a result of choices he makes rather than issues he can't control. Marriages are supposed to be partnerships and clearly he isn't holding up his end of the deal.

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Michelle C
Community Member
1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That firing was coming no matter what you did...Well since you already proved you run your own household just fine without him I'd look into divorce.

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The Starsong Princess
Community Member
1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

His boss has the right idea. You should fire him too and get someone to fill the position of husband who isn’t a deadbeat.

praecordia avatar
Alma Muminovic
Community Member
1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Seems like you married a child and now he’s throwing a temper tantrum. You should divorce him and go live your best life. His boss even gave him a last warning. What a tool.

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Honu
Community Member
1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My experience with people like is that they don’t stop no matter how much you tell them they are hurting you. You complain, but you stay, so there’s no consequences for him and he either lacks empathy or there is such a deep drive (e.g. addiction) for the behavior that any empathy he has is irrelevant. The result is the same. Don’t light yourself on fire trying to keep someone else warm, especially someone who won’t lift a finger for you.

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Dan Collins
Community Member
1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If he were me I would have been kicked out by the second call off lie. Til death do us part doesn't include partner turning into pond scum.

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Rens
Community Member
1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I spent 6 years in an abusive relationship with a man who stayed at home and play computer games while I worked my a*s off. He also forced me into committing benefit fraud because he was claiming benefits while I was working, and as a foreigner, at the time, I didn't know any better. He financially controlled by keeping my bank cards; he also took my Tax rebate and used it to buy himself a new gaming laptop. I am now free and have been for 4 years and in control of my own finances. Nobody will ever do that to me again

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Amer Hodzic
Community Member
1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Omg, he kept the bank cards while you were working and he was sitting on his a*s playing video games? Just wow. I wouldn't let something like that go on for a month, let alone years. There had to have been some kind of abuse, perhaps psychological, going on to completely erase your sense of entitlement to what is yours and what you worked hard for.

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Karen Gladden
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Time to divorce him and let him go live with his 14 year old cousin. You don't work two jobs while your significant other lays on their a*s playing video games. That's a hard NOPE and outta there. He is using you to support his gaming habit and you are enabling him. 2nd job my a*s. His butt would be out of there so fast...you didn't take him to raise, he is supposed to be a partner to you. I can't believe you haven't kicked him to the curb. Whatever you decide, don't have kids with this man, he is still one himself.

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El Dee
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

They are beyond asking AITA, they shouldn't be in a relationship never mind marriage..

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Mary Rogers
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If she answered his phone, I could see a problem. But otherwise, no. She was honest and he should not have expected her to lie for him. But the main issue isn't that, but that she is still with him. I don't understand that.

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Ivana
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

He screwed up his job. I am so sick of people who play the victim all the time. I have heard every excuse in the book.

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Zaza Zooey
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

As a woman, you have options. Don't support some guy who wants to dodge responsibility and make excuses. Keep your two jobs, kick him to the curb and treat yourself to something expensive but smart...property maybe?

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Fall F.
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

DIVORCE! Like now! You married a mommy's-little-boy, if it is not obvious till now.

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P.A.B.
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Fun-Two-1414. Telling her she should have kept quiet so he could keep the job (that he was going to lose anyway because of his atrocious work ethic) is 😵‍💫😵‍💫😵‍💫.

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Ramona Jackson
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1 year ago

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It doesn't matter what age he's attained chronological. Emotionally he's a 10 YO brat with his pathetic lies and ridiculous gaming addiction. He's her child.

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Deborah Harris
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If she was worried about money coming into the household surely telling his Boss has now made the money worries twenty times worse? Yes her partner is a lazy turd, she should have sold the PS5 to stop him playing on it all the time. Yes she was annoyed with him for doing sod all and bunking off work for a day, but does it justify cutting her own nose off to spite her face?

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xolitaire
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

She should have sold his PS5? Is she his mother or his wife? Also: there is this concept of saying something in the spur of the moment without meaning to. Haven't you ever said something stupid because you were super annoyed?

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Rens
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Throw away the whole husband. There is nothing worth salvaging here, if he wants to live the life of a teenager, tell him to go and live with his mother.

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Trillian
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

All these guys must be PHENOMENAL in bed bc I literally can think of no other reason why someone would put up with them for more than a week.

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CatWoman312
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I think it's time to face reality and realize you married a man child who would rather play video games than be an adult in the real world. I would suggest divorce. He is taking full advantage of you and he will only get worse now that he's unemployed.

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Michał Osiecki
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

By the title - YTA, then the text came, NTA. Wow, the husband is a giant douche

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Deborah B
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

There is something wrong here. If husband isn't a childish lazy jackass, he might have undiagnosed ADHD or depression. Try medication, if that doesn't work, try divorce.

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Ramona Jackson
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1 year ago

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WHY? There's no point in getting him diagnosed now. While there may be ADD/ADHD/ Autism issues, likely he won't want to bother with a diagnosis. He wants to play games while leeching off someone else.

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Cory Tollman
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If my SO was coming up with lies to skip work , at all, but especially on a regular basis that would be a big issue to me. Add in all the other c**p he was and wasn't doing. I wouldn't be able to stomach being around someone taking that sort of advantage of me and have such a low level of personal integrity.

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kit kat
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Op needs to seriously consider if she's willing to put up with this man child for the rest of his natural life

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ERIKA H.
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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I mean...she's not the a*****e, but i don't know how this helps her if they have a shared income. She admitted to already struggling financially, now they really are dependent on her income. Just seams kinda stupid.

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Eevi
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Am I the only one that thinks YTA? Yes, her husband was doing wrong. Yes, she should divorce him is things were that bad. But no, she should not have talked to his boss. Its his private business, were they married or not. I

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MsGendered
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

"We're financially struggling...lets help get my husband fired". Yeah, he had behavioral issues that I would've voiced my concerns about (loudly) but snitching on your life partner and diminishing your household income...a good idea?

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GFSTaylor
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

He'd already had his salary cut because of his laziness and was going to get fired in short order anyway. Now he's either got to shape up and get a new job, and start pulling his weight, or else she ditches him instead of letting him sponge off her.

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B.Nelson
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Lock his PS5 by putting a passcode on it. Tell him he can have the code back once he gets a job. Also give him hours he is allowed to play on the PS5 or what needs to be done before hand. If he is acting like a tween, treat him like a tween until he can show more responsibility. I am also a gamer and have found I enjoy gaming more once I take care of other things. It also helps with addictive tendencies to put limits on playing.

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Lousha
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This would be a good strategy with a child. With a husband, divorce would be more appropriate.

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Ramona Jackson
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1 year ago

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Forty years ago I was the wife with 2 jobs and an abusive lying husband with no job....I got sick of it and dumped him. He deliberately left me with all the debt AND car payments while he TOOK THE CAR. Then he claimed that he was sorry from 5 states away....if he had been sorry he'd have paid off the debts as he'd promised. ... Two years of riding the bus ensued while I paid it all off, rescuing my credit rating. When he recieved the divorce documents he said he thought I wasn't serious. Then he again tried to win me back. ... Not a chance in Hell would I put up with him again.

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Wil Fossum
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1 year ago

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Total a*****e maneuver. I'm thinking she's leaving out parts of the story that would be inconvenient to her. Not an adult way to respond when problems arise. The "woe is me" card has been played on all of you without knowing all the other details.

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Blarrg
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1 year ago

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Clearly husband is a lazy loser. I did find myself wondering, when she says "boss called and I picked up the phone", whose phone? If it was the home phone (which few have anymore), then it's legit for her to answer. If it was loser hubby's phone, she is out of line to answer and tell the boss what she did, and it becomes an EHS.

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butt soup
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

"which few have anymore" ive never been to a house that doesn't have a home phone. these people are in their 30s, are married, & have a house (assumed because rent issues from low money were never mentioned). they're not freshly moved-out 18-year-olds. chances are high they have a home phone & that's what the boss called.

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Nikki Sevven
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You married a child who will continue to enjoy his life while you work yourself to death supporting someone who not only adds nothing to your life, but also sucks dry every resource you provide. File for divorce.

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Iifa A.
Community Member
1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Why are you with him? - you got a SECOND job to support his lazy. I'm unemployed, my man works. He can play what he wants and when, he works full time and his dedication to his work has allowed me to stay at home. Under no circumstances would I expect him to get a second job so I could continue being at home. And I'm literally off work due to health l,

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Tams21
Community Member
1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Work becomes the spouses business the moment that his lack of performance results her having to work extra hours, particularly if it's as a result of choices he makes rather than issues he can't control. Marriages are supposed to be partnerships and clearly he isn't holding up his end of the deal.

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Michelle C
Community Member
1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That firing was coming no matter what you did...Well since you already proved you run your own household just fine without him I'd look into divorce.

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The Starsong Princess
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

His boss has the right idea. You should fire him too and get someone to fill the position of husband who isn’t a deadbeat.

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Alma Muminovic
Community Member
1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Seems like you married a child and now he’s throwing a temper tantrum. You should divorce him and go live your best life. His boss even gave him a last warning. What a tool.

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Honu
Community Member
1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My experience with people like is that they don’t stop no matter how much you tell them they are hurting you. You complain, but you stay, so there’s no consequences for him and he either lacks empathy or there is such a deep drive (e.g. addiction) for the behavior that any empathy he has is irrelevant. The result is the same. Don’t light yourself on fire trying to keep someone else warm, especially someone who won’t lift a finger for you.

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Dan Collins
Community Member
1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If he were me I would have been kicked out by the second call off lie. Til death do us part doesn't include partner turning into pond scum.

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Rens
Community Member
1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I spent 6 years in an abusive relationship with a man who stayed at home and play computer games while I worked my a*s off. He also forced me into committing benefit fraud because he was claiming benefits while I was working, and as a foreigner, at the time, I didn't know any better. He financially controlled by keeping my bank cards; he also took my Tax rebate and used it to buy himself a new gaming laptop. I am now free and have been for 4 years and in control of my own finances. Nobody will ever do that to me again

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Amer Hodzic
Community Member
1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Omg, he kept the bank cards while you were working and he was sitting on his a*s playing video games? Just wow. I wouldn't let something like that go on for a month, let alone years. There had to have been some kind of abuse, perhaps psychological, going on to completely erase your sense of entitlement to what is yours and what you worked hard for.

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Karen Gladden
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Time to divorce him and let him go live with his 14 year old cousin. You don't work two jobs while your significant other lays on their a*s playing video games. That's a hard NOPE and outta there. He is using you to support his gaming habit and you are enabling him. 2nd job my a*s. His butt would be out of there so fast...you didn't take him to raise, he is supposed to be a partner to you. I can't believe you haven't kicked him to the curb. Whatever you decide, don't have kids with this man, he is still one himself.

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El Dee
Community Member
1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

They are beyond asking AITA, they shouldn't be in a relationship never mind marriage..

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Mary Rogers
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If she answered his phone, I could see a problem. But otherwise, no. She was honest and he should not have expected her to lie for him. But the main issue isn't that, but that she is still with him. I don't understand that.

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Ivana
Community Member
1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

He screwed up his job. I am so sick of people who play the victim all the time. I have heard every excuse in the book.

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Zaza Zooey
Community Member
1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

As a woman, you have options. Don't support some guy who wants to dodge responsibility and make excuses. Keep your two jobs, kick him to the curb and treat yourself to something expensive but smart...property maybe?

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Fall F.
Community Member
1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

DIVORCE! Like now! You married a mommy's-little-boy, if it is not obvious till now.

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P.A.B.
Community Member
1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Fun-Two-1414. Telling her she should have kept quiet so he could keep the job (that he was going to lose anyway because of his atrocious work ethic) is 😵‍💫😵‍💫😵‍💫.

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Ramona Jackson
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1 year ago

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It doesn't matter what age he's attained chronological. Emotionally he's a 10 YO brat with his pathetic lies and ridiculous gaming addiction. He's her child.

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Deborah Harris
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If she was worried about money coming into the household surely telling his Boss has now made the money worries twenty times worse? Yes her partner is a lazy turd, she should have sold the PS5 to stop him playing on it all the time. Yes she was annoyed with him for doing sod all and bunking off work for a day, but does it justify cutting her own nose off to spite her face?

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xolitaire
Community Member
1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

She should have sold his PS5? Is she his mother or his wife? Also: there is this concept of saying something in the spur of the moment without meaning to. Haven't you ever said something stupid because you were super annoyed?

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Rens
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Throw away the whole husband. There is nothing worth salvaging here, if he wants to live the life of a teenager, tell him to go and live with his mother.

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Trillian
Community Member
1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

All these guys must be PHENOMENAL in bed bc I literally can think of no other reason why someone would put up with them for more than a week.

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CatWoman312
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I think it's time to face reality and realize you married a man child who would rather play video games than be an adult in the real world. I would suggest divorce. He is taking full advantage of you and he will only get worse now that he's unemployed.

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Michał Osiecki
Community Member
1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

By the title - YTA, then the text came, NTA. Wow, the husband is a giant douche

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Deborah B
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

There is something wrong here. If husband isn't a childish lazy jackass, he might have undiagnosed ADHD or depression. Try medication, if that doesn't work, try divorce.

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Ramona Jackson
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1 year ago

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WHY? There's no point in getting him diagnosed now. While there may be ADD/ADHD/ Autism issues, likely he won't want to bother with a diagnosis. He wants to play games while leeching off someone else.

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Cory Tollman
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If my SO was coming up with lies to skip work , at all, but especially on a regular basis that would be a big issue to me. Add in all the other c**p he was and wasn't doing. I wouldn't be able to stomach being around someone taking that sort of advantage of me and have such a low level of personal integrity.

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kit kat
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Op needs to seriously consider if she's willing to put up with this man child for the rest of his natural life

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ERIKA H.
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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I mean...she's not the a*****e, but i don't know how this helps her if they have a shared income. She admitted to already struggling financially, now they really are dependent on her income. Just seams kinda stupid.

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Eevi
Community Member
1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Am I the only one that thinks YTA? Yes, her husband was doing wrong. Yes, she should divorce him is things were that bad. But no, she should not have talked to his boss. Its his private business, were they married or not. I

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MsGendered
Community Member
1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

"We're financially struggling...lets help get my husband fired". Yeah, he had behavioral issues that I would've voiced my concerns about (loudly) but snitching on your life partner and diminishing your household income...a good idea?

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GFSTaylor
Community Member
1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

He'd already had his salary cut because of his laziness and was going to get fired in short order anyway. Now he's either got to shape up and get a new job, and start pulling his weight, or else she ditches him instead of letting him sponge off her.

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B.Nelson
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Lock his PS5 by putting a passcode on it. Tell him he can have the code back once he gets a job. Also give him hours he is allowed to play on the PS5 or what needs to be done before hand. If he is acting like a tween, treat him like a tween until he can show more responsibility. I am also a gamer and have found I enjoy gaming more once I take care of other things. It also helps with addictive tendencies to put limits on playing.

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Lousha
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This would be a good strategy with a child. With a husband, divorce would be more appropriate.

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Ramona Jackson
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Forty years ago I was the wife with 2 jobs and an abusive lying husband with no job....I got sick of it and dumped him. He deliberately left me with all the debt AND car payments while he TOOK THE CAR. Then he claimed that he was sorry from 5 states away....if he had been sorry he'd have paid off the debts as he'd promised. ... Two years of riding the bus ensued while I paid it all off, rescuing my credit rating. When he recieved the divorce documents he said he thought I wasn't serious. Then he again tried to win me back. ... Not a chance in Hell would I put up with him again.

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Wil Fossum
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Total a*****e maneuver. I'm thinking she's leaving out parts of the story that would be inconvenient to her. Not an adult way to respond when problems arise. The "woe is me" card has been played on all of you without knowing all the other details.

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Blarrg
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Clearly husband is a lazy loser. I did find myself wondering, when she says "boss called and I picked up the phone", whose phone? If it was the home phone (which few have anymore), then it's legit for her to answer. If it was loser hubby's phone, she is out of line to answer and tell the boss what she did, and it becomes an EHS.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

"which few have anymore" ive never been to a house that doesn't have a home phone. these people are in their 30s, are married, & have a house (assumed because rent issues from low money were never mentioned). they're not freshly moved-out 18-year-olds. chances are high they have a home phone & that's what the boss called.

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