Woman Goes Viral On Twitter For Showing A Dramatic Message A Guy Sent Her When She Suggested To Meet At Starbucks For Their First Date
With the advancements of technology, many aspects of our lives have changed and in the past decade, the things we did by ourselves and in real life have transferred to the online dimension, like shopping, working and dating.
Dating apps are becoming more and more popular and actually a lot of couples have formed when two people stumbled upon each other swiping through an app. But not everyone is so lucky and also the ones who did find a decent person on an app probably had many failed conversations before that.
We know that because people like to share their best/worst conversations they had on the internet, and this time, a woman posted a screenshot in which you can see a guy being disgusted at the thought of meeting at a Starbucks, which stirred up some conversations on Twitter.
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Turns out, the place a person chooses to meet for the first date can indicate if you are meant to be, as this woman found out
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Twitter user coll, also known as Colleen, posted a screenshot of a conversation she had with Matt, who she first got in touch with on the dating app Hinge. They seemingly exchanged phone numbers and moved away from the app and Colleen thought that it would be a good idea to meet up.
She offered to go for a cup of coffee and suggested they go to Starbucks, which is a popular place to go get drinks as it offers a big variety to choose from and there are a lot of them, so it is easier to find a location that would be comfortable to reach for the both of them.
She suggested to her date that they meet at Starbucks, but he refused and let her know she is not up his standards because of that
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The tweet went viral and the guy saw the screenshot and was not impressed
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Colleen probably didn’t expect that an innocent invitation to grab some coffee would leave her with a bitter taste in her mouth and it wouldn’t be the barista’s fault.
Matt immediately decided that this was the last time they would be talking and it was not worth getting to know each other further because Starbucks is not up to his standards.
But other Twitter users took the opportunity to tear Matt apart
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They were surprised that he didn’t just suggest his own favorite coffee shop but immediately started insulting Colleen
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He doesn’t want to be with a person who thinks that Starbucks is an appropriate place for a first date as he is “trying to build a vision and work towards the finer things in life” and Colleen’s coffee place preference is the proof he needed to know they are not “on the same wavelength.”
The whole interaction sounded quite aggressive and disdainful with the disbelief in the first message and the three dots that followed it.
Also Starbucks is just a generic and popular place to meet and it shouldn’t be considered a reflection of someone’s character
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There were people who believed that Matt exhibited problematic behavior and Colleen probably dodged a bullet
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This is probably not the first time Colleen has been disappointed in a match that the dating app offered her as above the photo, she wrote that she is fed up with online dating because a guy will start swearing because she offered Starbucks, of all the places.
The tweet went quite viral and got over 70k views and it seems that Matt was also one of the people who saw it. He screenshot the tweet and sent it to Colleen asking if it was her and following up with saying that is embarrassing. The thing that is unclear is whether it should be embarrassing for her or it was embarrassing for Matt.
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People who don’t drink coffee choose Starbucks as a place to meet so Matt making it a big deal didn’t make sense
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Because so many people saw the tweet, there were quite a few comments discussing what happened here. Many of them didn’t get why Matt made such a big deal out of it because it’s just a generic meeting place that actually doesn’t say anything about a person.
Others were wondering why Matt wouldn’t just suggest a different coffee shop if he dislikes Starbucks so much. The whole point of Colleen’s message was to discuss when and where they could meet, so it seemed quite drastic that Matt took it so personally.
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Someone pointed out that it is even better to not take strangers to places you like to visit, so you won’t meet them there if it doesn’t work out
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Also, if you think about it, Starbucks is really a good place for a first date, because it’s a casual and warm place to sit at and it is also a public place so you can feel safer meeting a stranger who you just talked on the internet with for the first time.
Twitter user Bethany Rose gave out a valid point that you wouldn’t even want to take a stranger to your favorite place because if they turned out to be dangerous, you wouldn’t want them to know where you come regularly.
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And of course, there were those amazing Twitter users who assess the situation with a little bit of sarcasm
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What was your reaction when you read the conversation? Do you think Starbucks isn’t an appropriate place for a first date? Or do you think that Matt overreacted and shouldn’t have judged Colleen just based on this general suggestion? Let us know your opinions in the comments!
He could've just suggested some other place but instead chose to show what a pretentious, obnoxious, and arrogant a*hole he is right off the bat! Bullet dodged on her part!
Starbucks sucks but that dude is a massive douchenozzle. Bullet dodged.
Douchenozzle is an expression I will not forget and I hope I get to use it in conversation soon.
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Always be grateful when people show you who they really are before you get stuck with them!
Yeah, it's actually a *good* thing, when someone uninhibitedly waves the red flags around! It's the ones who know how to pass as decent people who are really dangerous.
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He sound like the kind of man who wants to date at a bar so he can get her drunk and try to push her to have sex with him.
Hm... I think you're getting carried away a bit here, in adding colour to the characters. I think he's mostly new to it, and doesn't consider that chances of this date working out are 5% or less; so obviously you don't burn your regular places on such a random try. Third date you can go somewhere you would occasionally go, not before that.
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Whether you like Starbucks or not, a first date is more about meeting people rather than perfect food/coffee.Thank goodness he showed himself to be judgmental and pretentious before you wasted any time with him.
I suspect there is no place in the world that would have been acceptable to this D**k. If it was Starbucks it was too déclassé, but if she'd suggested the bar at the Baccarat she no doubt have been blasted for being a gold digger. I imagine that even if she had miraculously suggested a place that didn't offend him, he would have found something else to whinge about... the way she dressed, the car she drove... it would have been something. I think OP was so very fortunate to have been warned off so early and so well.
I once had a guy tell me that wanting to meet in public a couple times before hanging out in private, was "archaic" and that "no one did that anymore." I told him it wasn't going to work out.
The people who don't want to get raped, murdered, or forced into something they don't want sure do still meet at public places! Any person who tries to get you to disregard basic safety is a huge red flag.
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Looking over at the husband I met at a Starbucks for the first time 15 years ago. I don't even drink coffee but you need a nice,crowded, adult-but-not-dangerous, and neutral place to meet.
So funny that nobody noticed that it was probably because she simply decided to ask first. Took all the major man privilege. Honey he was going controlling out of the gate and waiting for your, " oh no, I'm sorry " response that he didn't get. 😂
It's okay not if you don't like the place your date suggested for a meeting. You just make a counteroffer and you agree on the place you are both okay with. But that's good he showed his true colours early on - now she knows he's not worth her time)
There's a radio station here in Mn. that does a segment called 2nd date update. It's when one person doesn't hear from the other person after the date. (Begs the question of why they can't be honest and answer a text or call like a grown-up). It can be VERY awkward most days. Best take away is "there's a reason there is no second date" Guy took a gal to a very upscale steak place.She ordered her steak 'well done', Didn't have the sense to have chicken instead. Bullet dodge there too.
Load More Replies... Ya j ow, yesterday I found myself too lazy to cook. So I went to Red Rooster for some roast chicken to make into chicken and salad rolls. Anyway the car in front of me was a brand new looking BMW convertible sooty thing with personalised plates. Young oblivious couple chattering away, no music just them chatting. It was so sweet, at Red Rooster of all places. Obviously more about their vibe with each other than pretentious.
TBH my SO also flipped his s**t when I said let's meet up at McDonald's for our first date. He thought it was cheap, I just thought it was close to escape routes if he proved to be a weird dude. I don't think he will ever understand why I picked it. He just wanted it to be.... idk, memorable, I guess. I just wanted to be safe.
Wow! Yeah, she dodged a big red bullet with her name on it! If he was indeed a millionaire, he's beyond obnoxious; shown himself to be what sounds like a narcissist. Those kind are "human wrecking balls," that only destroy those around them. Money cannot buy happiness. Beware of meeting first dates with anyone, where you often go.
Yeah people with no money always say money can't buy happiness
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I'm afraid guys know nothing about dating or women. Why would any guy insult a woman that way? Obviously a socially inept buffoon.
There's a local radio station that does a segment '2nd date update' and the DJs said it should be renamed "men are stupid"--however there are a few cases that are just a misunderstanding. One example 'guy takes her to a nice place, really polite to valet, host, then gets cold with waiter, comes to light the waiter was the fellow's bully from H.S.' So she gave him a second chance, as it may throw off many people if that happened.
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The dude was an overly entitled jerk, who thought too much of himself. First meetings/date from online matches should be simple and in a safe/public location. One of my online matches a few years back chose to meet me at a park...which was right in front of a police station. Lol. Smart girl. After talking to me a bit, and deciding I was not some weirdo...she invited me to have dinner at a seaside restaurant nearby, followed by a nice walk by the beach. So there you go guys. Agree to wherever a girl from online or dating apps wants to meet (within reason), no matter how simple or lame it might sound. If she likes you...who knows where it goes? Lol
As a woman, if you removed the names, this is the same attitude men get with women sometimes. Just as that is bad behavior so too is this. Frankly, I don't/would not pay for anyone on a first date, usually waiting until there is a real chance this is going to work.
Personally, I think it's a kindness when someone waves a red flag in your face right up front. It's better than they should give fair warning, you know?
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The guy definitely came off as a douche but sometimes those kind of choices do convey differences in taste that wouldn’t be compatible down the road. I don’t like chains or fast food places, and when asked to go to one in the past have politely suggested a local place/small business, but those situations did end up not working out because our interests and tastes weren’t compatible. If he’s had the experience enough, maybe he just wanted to nip it in the bud. But again…could’ve gone about it differently.
A Starbucks date doesn't mean you have to drink their sh*t coffee! Buy a bottle of water, you douche, and use it to douche yourself between your ears...
Coll, I'd say you dodged a bullet --- go on girl. YOUR guy is out there.
I don't like Starbucks, but you know what to expet, it has comfy seats and if things go horribly, you haven't ruined your real favourite place to got.. What a d**k.
while he handled it VERY poorly, i get where he is coming from, Starbucks is a TERRIBLE company, support a local indy shop not a crap chain. when they refurb a shop, they smash all the equipment so it cant be used, they dont repurpose it or donate it etc. then TAX, dont get me started. she did dodge a bullet tho.
He’s broke. Lol after watching “becoming Anna” or whatever, I’d say, he’s broke. But if you had invited him to your place (for free) he would have assumed you had standards? Lol booooooo. Meet ppl by chance, avoid the algorithm
Well, yeah, Starbucks sucks, but that dude sucks too. Don't date him=>
I’m no fan of chain coffee shops, I’ll happily go out of my way to avoid them. I do prefer owner ran, small coffee shops and cafes. Generally speaking I listen music from lesser known bands and artists, I love the direct connection you can get with an artist and that you get more than just a product, you get a chance to see behind the music and know how it was made. So if my now partner had said ‘hey let’s meet up at a drive through Starbucks and then sit in the car and listen to my favourite Queen album (showing my age there), would I have turned my nose up? Hell no! I’d have been there with bells on, she’s shown an interest in meeting up and sharing something with me. All of my ‘small coffee shop’ and ‘independent music’ la de dah gets put away and I enjoy meeting my date. There’s plenty of time to share the finer things in life, live a bit, leave your ego at home and enjoy the scenery around the Starbucks and concentrate on your date!
My husband and I hung out under a bridge eating amazing street tacos for our first date, just talking all night until the sun came up. It was perfect
I don't know, I'm with him. Starbucks is obviously evil and anyone who frequents it is evil, too. That's Satan's coffee, which is a direct correlation to Colleen's character, ha ha.
I have to say I'd be put off someone who chose Starbucks (very poor eco credentials and not very nice coffee either). However, I'd be slightly more delicate about it, and I'm a massive arsehole.
She's likely thinking, where is a convenient but public enough place I can escape if he turns out to be a lunatic, not about it's eco qualifications.
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OK no Starbucks. In that case, we could drop by the liquor store, grab few bottles, light a trashcan on fire and discuss the merits of the modern day toilet seats.
He could've just suggested some other place but instead chose to show what a pretentious, obnoxious, and arrogant a*hole he is right off the bat! Bullet dodged on her part!
Starbucks sucks but that dude is a massive douchenozzle. Bullet dodged.
Douchenozzle is an expression I will not forget and I hope I get to use it in conversation soon.
Load More Replies... Always be grateful when people show you who they really are before you get stuck with them!
Yeah, it's actually a *good* thing, when someone uninhibitedly waves the red flags around! It's the ones who know how to pass as decent people who are really dangerous.
Load More Replies... He sound like the kind of man who wants to date at a bar so he can get her drunk and try to push her to have sex with him.
Hm... I think you're getting carried away a bit here, in adding colour to the characters. I think he's mostly new to it, and doesn't consider that chances of this date working out are 5% or less; so obviously you don't burn your regular places on such a random try. Third date you can go somewhere you would occasionally go, not before that.
Load More Replies... Whether you like Starbucks or not, a first date is more about meeting people rather than perfect food/coffee.Thank goodness he showed himself to be judgmental and pretentious before you wasted any time with him.
I suspect there is no place in the world that would have been acceptable to this D**k. If it was Starbucks it was too déclassé, but if she'd suggested the bar at the Baccarat she no doubt have been blasted for being a gold digger. I imagine that even if she had miraculously suggested a place that didn't offend him, he would have found something else to whinge about... the way she dressed, the car she drove... it would have been something. I think OP was so very fortunate to have been warned off so early and so well.
I once had a guy tell me that wanting to meet in public a couple times before hanging out in private, was "archaic" and that "no one did that anymore." I told him it wasn't going to work out.
The people who don't want to get raped, murdered, or forced into something they don't want sure do still meet at public places! Any person who tries to get you to disregard basic safety is a huge red flag.
Load More Replies... Looking over at the husband I met at a Starbucks for the first time 15 years ago. I don't even drink coffee but you need a nice,crowded, adult-but-not-dangerous, and neutral place to meet.
So funny that nobody noticed that it was probably because she simply decided to ask first. Took all the major man privilege. Honey he was going controlling out of the gate and waiting for your, " oh no, I'm sorry " response that he didn't get. 😂
It's okay not if you don't like the place your date suggested for a meeting. You just make a counteroffer and you agree on the place you are both okay with. But that's good he showed his true colours early on - now she knows he's not worth her time)
There's a radio station here in Mn. that does a segment called 2nd date update. It's when one person doesn't hear from the other person after the date. (Begs the question of why they can't be honest and answer a text or call like a grown-up). It can be VERY awkward most days. Best take away is "there's a reason there is no second date" Guy took a gal to a very upscale steak place.She ordered her steak 'well done', Didn't have the sense to have chicken instead. Bullet dodge there too.
Load More Replies... Ya j ow, yesterday I found myself too lazy to cook. So I went to Red Rooster for some roast chicken to make into chicken and salad rolls. Anyway the car in front of me was a brand new looking BMW convertible sooty thing with personalised plates. Young oblivious couple chattering away, no music just them chatting. It was so sweet, at Red Rooster of all places. Obviously more about their vibe with each other than pretentious.
TBH my SO also flipped his s**t when I said let's meet up at McDonald's for our first date. He thought it was cheap, I just thought it was close to escape routes if he proved to be a weird dude. I don't think he will ever understand why I picked it. He just wanted it to be.... idk, memorable, I guess. I just wanted to be safe.
Wow! Yeah, she dodged a big red bullet with her name on it! If he was indeed a millionaire, he's beyond obnoxious; shown himself to be what sounds like a narcissist. Those kind are "human wrecking balls," that only destroy those around them. Money cannot buy happiness. Beware of meeting first dates with anyone, where you often go.
Yeah people with no money always say money can't buy happiness
Load More Replies... I'm afraid guys know nothing about dating or women. Why would any guy insult a woman that way? Obviously a socially inept buffoon.
There's a local radio station that does a segment '2nd date update' and the DJs said it should be renamed "men are stupid"--however there are a few cases that are just a misunderstanding. One example 'guy takes her to a nice place, really polite to valet, host, then gets cold with waiter, comes to light the waiter was the fellow's bully from H.S.' So she gave him a second chance, as it may throw off many people if that happened.
Load More Replies... The dude was an overly entitled jerk, who thought too much of himself. First meetings/date from online matches should be simple and in a safe/public location. One of my online matches a few years back chose to meet me at a park...which was right in front of a police station. Lol. Smart girl. After talking to me a bit, and deciding I was not some weirdo...she invited me to have dinner at a seaside restaurant nearby, followed by a nice walk by the beach. So there you go guys. Agree to wherever a girl from online or dating apps wants to meet (within reason), no matter how simple or lame it might sound. If she likes you...who knows where it goes? Lol
As a woman, if you removed the names, this is the same attitude men get with women sometimes. Just as that is bad behavior so too is this. Frankly, I don't/would not pay for anyone on a first date, usually waiting until there is a real chance this is going to work.
Personally, I think it's a kindness when someone waves a red flag in your face right up front. It's better than they should give fair warning, you know?
Load More Replies... The guy definitely came off as a douche but sometimes those kind of choices do convey differences in taste that wouldn’t be compatible down the road. I don’t like chains or fast food places, and when asked to go to one in the past have politely suggested a local place/small business, but those situations did end up not working out because our interests and tastes weren’t compatible. If he’s had the experience enough, maybe he just wanted to nip it in the bud. But again…could’ve gone about it differently.
A Starbucks date doesn't mean you have to drink their sh*t coffee! Buy a bottle of water, you douche, and use it to douche yourself between your ears...
Coll, I'd say you dodged a bullet --- go on girl. YOUR guy is out there.
I don't like Starbucks, but you know what to expet, it has comfy seats and if things go horribly, you haven't ruined your real favourite place to got.. What a d**k.
while he handled it VERY poorly, i get where he is coming from, Starbucks is a TERRIBLE company, support a local indy shop not a crap chain. when they refurb a shop, they smash all the equipment so it cant be used, they dont repurpose it or donate it etc. then TAX, dont get me started. she did dodge a bullet tho.
He’s broke. Lol after watching “becoming Anna” or whatever, I’d say, he’s broke. But if you had invited him to your place (for free) he would have assumed you had standards? Lol booooooo. Meet ppl by chance, avoid the algorithm
Well, yeah, Starbucks sucks, but that dude sucks too. Don't date him=>
I’m no fan of chain coffee shops, I’ll happily go out of my way to avoid them. I do prefer owner ran, small coffee shops and cafes. Generally speaking I listen music from lesser known bands and artists, I love the direct connection you can get with an artist and that you get more than just a product, you get a chance to see behind the music and know how it was made. So if my now partner had said ‘hey let’s meet up at a drive through Starbucks and then sit in the car and listen to my favourite Queen album (showing my age there), would I have turned my nose up? Hell no! I’d have been there with bells on, she’s shown an interest in meeting up and sharing something with me. All of my ‘small coffee shop’ and ‘independent music’ la de dah gets put away and I enjoy meeting my date. There’s plenty of time to share the finer things in life, live a bit, leave your ego at home and enjoy the scenery around the Starbucks and concentrate on your date!
My husband and I hung out under a bridge eating amazing street tacos for our first date, just talking all night until the sun came up. It was perfect
I don't know, I'm with him. Starbucks is obviously evil and anyone who frequents it is evil, too. That's Satan's coffee, which is a direct correlation to Colleen's character, ha ha.
I have to say I'd be put off someone who chose Starbucks (very poor eco credentials and not very nice coffee either). However, I'd be slightly more delicate about it, and I'm a massive arsehole.
She's likely thinking, where is a convenient but public enough place I can escape if he turns out to be a lunatic, not about it's eco qualifications.
Load More Replies... OK no Starbucks. In that case, we could drop by the liquor store, grab few bottles, light a trashcan on fire and discuss the merits of the modern day toilet seats.
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