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Woman Gives Her Boyfriend Of 3 Years An ‘Out’ After Getting Cancer, He Proposes Instead
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Woman Gives Her Boyfriend Of 3 Years An ‘Out’ After Getting Cancer, He Proposes Instead

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No matter who you are or where you live, life seems to give a fair share of lemons to everyone. It could be a single fruit or an enormous handful but you can be sure of one thing only – you will definitely get it. Jillian Hanson from New Jersey got her handful when she found out she had cancer. Knowing times would get pretty rough, she decided it would only be fair to her and her boyfriend as well if he knew it wouldn’t be easy and take his chance to leave before it gets really rough. The man did not blink for a second and stayed by her side through the worst. Little did she know he had a very special surprise planned for the already special day of her last chemo.

Jillian Hanson was dating Max Allegretti for 3 years before she was diagnosed with breast cancer

Image credits: Jillian Hanson

After finding out she has stage 2 breast cancer, Jillian Hanson thought it would only be fair for both her and her then-boyfriend of three years, Max Allegretti, if she’d give him the heads up that times will get really hard and if he’s not ready for it, it would be okay to leave then. “Jillian told me that it was going to be hard and that she did not know what to expect with everything and if I couldn’t handle it, she wanted to know now,” he said. But Max didn’t actually see that as an option and stuck by her through two years of treatment. Furthermore, he figured the best way to celebrate the end of her chemo was by popping the question.

Instead of choosing an easy way out like she suggested, he stuck by her through two years of treatment

Image credits: Jillian Hanson

And popped the question on her last day of chemo to which she, of course, said yes!

Image credits: Jillian Hanson

“I talked with Jill’s friends and family, and we decided how we could make her last day of chemo even better,” he said. “And then we planned everything out for the proposal with Memorial Sloan Kettering, the hospital where she was receiving treatment.” He asked for her hand in marriage on February 28, 2018, surrounded by her family, friends, and nurses. Even though they had talked about getting married before Jillian got her diagnosis, it came as a big shock to her. “I was so surprised that he decided to propose on a day that was already so special. It was such an exciting bonus that we were now celebrating two amazing milestones!” she said.

After hearing their story, wedding planner Lauren Grench offered her services for free and got vendors to donate their services as well

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The couple tied the knot on October 18th, surrounded by friends and family

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After getting engaged, they felt equally excited and overwhelmed with the planning. But they were saved from this headache after Jillian met a wedding planner from New York, Lauren Grench of LLG Events and shared her story with her. She was so touched, she decided she would lift the struggles off the couple’s shoulders and plan their wedding free of charge. They even got vendors to donate their services to the couple. “When we told Jillian that Kenneth Winston gifted her dream wedding dress, I cried alongside her,” Grench admitted. “I knew it was the one thing she wanted as she felt the most beautiful in that gown.” The college sweethearts finally tied the knot after five years together on October 18th in Tinton Falls, New Jersey, surrounded by friends and family.

People were overjoyed for the couple

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Colin Leetham
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I frequently despair about people... and then I find stories like this. I love that we have so many ways of beating cancer. Add to that they didn't just beat cancer, they conquered it. I also want to acknowledge thw amazing courage she had saying: it's ok, this isn't your fight and letting him go. And it genuinely isn't easy sticking by through it. ... dammit, who is cutting onions?

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Night Owl
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4 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I wish them the best of luck and happiness, and for them to stay strong and healthy for the rest of their lives

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Lu
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Joy begets joy, it’s universal and it may not always “sprout” right away or right before our eyes, trust in goodness !

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Carol Emory
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I always remember the story of a woman that said she was in a car accident which sent the tailgate of her truck flying up into the cab, breaking her back. As she lay in the hospital, her fiance walked in, took one look at her, said "I can't do this" and left, never to be seen again. She was paralyzed from the waist down but managed to get back to normal life using a wheelchair. She said she was actually grateful for the accident because it showed her what a coward her fiance was and allowed her to meet the most wonderful supportive man that became her husband and father to her kids. Sometimes tragedies separates the horrible people from the heroes.

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Stille20
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Here's the thing with giving someone an out, it is terrifying. I did it and the person left and it broke my heart, but I still think it was the right this to do. If the person isn't ready to deal, they aren't the kind of person you need when you are facing something so big. It's better to know so you can find support and love elsewhere.

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Gabriel Sbárbaro
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Replying to Kizzy Ple... "God" gave her the cancer, so keep the blessings...

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Ani
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This is so beautiful! The most touching thing I`we read today. Wish them all good luck

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Selena Jacque
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

CURED FROM GENITAL HERPES VIRUS AFTER USING DOCTOR HAZIM HERBAL MEDICINE  Herbal supplements have existed for thousands of years and can be traced over several different cultures. For now. Herbs are now used to cure diabetics, herpes, chronic pain, asthma,hepatitis b, cancer , ALS , Ovarian Cyst and even  GENITAL HERPES. I like herbs so much. Most of the time, the injection and the drug are only a loss of duration. I was cured of GENITAL HERPES  last year with the use of herbs, I suffered from GENITAL HERPES  for 13 years, but with the help of DR. Hazim Usman  Herbal Medicine, I was cured in a few weeks of using the herbs he sent me by UPS Service Delivery. I don't know the kind of health problem you are facing right now, but I assured you that you will be cured if you contact Dr. Hazim Usman and explain your problem to him, that the issues will resolve in a few weeks , contact Dr. Hazim Usman by his e-mail address:-----( usmandrhazim@gmail.com )-----or reach him via  WHATSAP number---

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Joe Bloe
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This is heartwarming and touching, sure. However, standing by your partner is NOT miraculous, amazing or incredible. It's expected. That is the absolute minimum of what you would do without question if you have any sense of moral or ethical standard.

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Pittsburgh rare
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4 years ago

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So...when things get rough after 3 years (when they've probably faced ups and downs already), she thinks he might need a way out? That's not being generous, that's being afraid of rejection and wanting to take the first step to make it less painful. I understand her, but let's call it by its name. Glad he reacted as he should have and this had a happy ending.

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Daniel (ShadowDrakken)
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4 years ago (edited)

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I don't know... waiting until the challenges were over with before asking does seem like the easy way out. He waited until the hardship was over before committing himself? It's great he stuck by her through it, he's a good guy for that. Not saying he's bad for proposing when he did, that's fine actually. But it tells a different kind of story. He showed a different kind of commitment than this story is trying to portray. Which is a shame, because the real story is just as good. Wow, thumbs downing me because I think the real story is better than the click bait b******t title? Good job pandas.

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NotWoke
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I don't understand what you're trying to say... you're making no sense...

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Colin Leetham
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I frequently despair about people... and then I find stories like this. I love that we have so many ways of beating cancer. Add to that they didn't just beat cancer, they conquered it. I also want to acknowledge thw amazing courage she had saying: it's ok, this isn't your fight and letting him go. And it genuinely isn't easy sticking by through it. ... dammit, who is cutting onions?

bpbperic avatar
Night Owl
Community Member
4 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I wish them the best of luck and happiness, and for them to stay strong and healthy for the rest of their lives

luyendao avatar
Lu
Community Member
4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Joy begets joy, it’s universal and it may not always “sprout” right away or right before our eyes, trust in goodness !

emory_ce avatar
Carol Emory
Community Member
4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I always remember the story of a woman that said she was in a car accident which sent the tailgate of her truck flying up into the cab, breaking her back. As she lay in the hospital, her fiance walked in, took one look at her, said "I can't do this" and left, never to be seen again. She was paralyzed from the waist down but managed to get back to normal life using a wheelchair. She said she was actually grateful for the accident because it showed her what a coward her fiance was and allowed her to meet the most wonderful supportive man that became her husband and father to her kids. Sometimes tragedies separates the horrible people from the heroes.

hazelree avatar
Stille20
Community Member
4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Here's the thing with giving someone an out, it is terrifying. I did it and the person left and it broke my heart, but I still think it was the right this to do. If the person isn't ready to deal, they aren't the kind of person you need when you are facing something so big. It's better to know so you can find support and love elsewhere.

tutulkas avatar
Gabriel Sbárbaro
Community Member
4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Replying to Kizzy Ple... "God" gave her the cancer, so keep the blessings...

inareklameogtull avatar
Ani
Community Member
4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This is so beautiful! The most touching thing I`we read today. Wish them all good luck

selenajacque avatar
Selena Jacque
Community Member
4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

CURED FROM GENITAL HERPES VIRUS AFTER USING DOCTOR HAZIM HERBAL MEDICINE  Herbal supplements have existed for thousands of years and can be traced over several different cultures. For now. Herbs are now used to cure diabetics, herpes, chronic pain, asthma,hepatitis b, cancer , ALS , Ovarian Cyst and even  GENITAL HERPES. I like herbs so much. Most of the time, the injection and the drug are only a loss of duration. I was cured of GENITAL HERPES  last year with the use of herbs, I suffered from GENITAL HERPES  for 13 years, but with the help of DR. Hazim Usman  Herbal Medicine, I was cured in a few weeks of using the herbs he sent me by UPS Service Delivery. I don't know the kind of health problem you are facing right now, but I assured you that you will be cured if you contact Dr. Hazim Usman and explain your problem to him, that the issues will resolve in a few weeks , contact Dr. Hazim Usman by his e-mail address:-----( usmandrhazim@gmail.com )-----or reach him via  WHATSAP number---

joebloe_1 avatar
Joe Bloe
Community Member
4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This is heartwarming and touching, sure. However, standing by your partner is NOT miraculous, amazing or incredible. It's expected. That is the absolute minimum of what you would do without question if you have any sense of moral or ethical standard.

rhodaguirreparras avatar
Pittsburgh rare
Community Member
4 years ago

This comment is hidden. Click here to view.

So...when things get rough after 3 years (when they've probably faced ups and downs already), she thinks he might need a way out? That's not being generous, that's being afraid of rejection and wanting to take the first step to make it less painful. I understand her, but let's call it by its name. Glad he reacted as he should have and this had a happy ending.

danielshadowdrakken avatar
Daniel (ShadowDrakken)
Community Member
4 years ago (edited)

This comment is hidden. Click here to view.

I don't know... waiting until the challenges were over with before asking does seem like the easy way out. He waited until the hardship was over before committing himself? It's great he stuck by her through it, he's a good guy for that. Not saying he's bad for proposing when he did, that's fine actually. But it tells a different kind of story. He showed a different kind of commitment than this story is trying to portray. Which is a shame, because the real story is just as good. Wow, thumbs downing me because I think the real story is better than the click bait b******t title? Good job pandas.

shireen_2 avatar
NotWoke
Community Member
4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I don't understand what you're trying to say... you're making no sense...

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