A Nurse Contacted The Police After Her Partner Took Her Car To Celebrate New Year’s Eve Before Her Upcoming Shift
When you’re choosing a lifelong partner, the first thing that you want to be sure of is that you can absolutely trust them. After all, building a family will determine your quality of life to a greater extent than, for instance, choosing a career path, as you’d be spending an unthinkable amount of time right by your partner’s side.
Visualize this – you’re a hospital worker whose job is intense, at the very least, but a deadly virus comes, and now you have acquired even more responsibilities. You’re saving lives 24/7 while risking your own health, though you put your whole energy and mindset towards this panic-stricken cause. Yet, one day your significant other chooses to put not only other people at risk but your own family by simply proposing something for the good of his own entertainment.
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This is the story of how a hospital worker ended up without a car right before her night shift
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This Reddit user shared an unfortunate story of how her soon-to-be husband decided to go behind her back and take her car to celebrate New Year’s Eve with his beloved friends, despite knowing that the OP had a hospital shift to attend.
This nurse called the police on her fiancé who took her car to go out with his friends, while being fully aware that she had a hospital shift to cover
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The woman began her post by explaining that she and her partner have been together for 3 years and when the OP decided to move into her fiancé’s house, she had to buy herself a car as she works as a nurse and there were no nearby hospitals that she could’ve potentially relocated to.
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Before the incident, the OP’s partner had also owned a car, but it required some fixing. The woman mentioned that she offered some financial help to her significant other but he decided that it’d be best to just occasionally take the car whenever the OP was out of work and whenever he truly needed it.
The OP is a nurse at the hospital and she had to cover a night shift right on New Year’s Eve. Despite being aware of that, the partner still decided to ask our OP if he could borrow her car. Moreover, the fiancé didn’t think that it was a fair reason, so he asked the OP to take the night off or swap shifts, so that he could still take the car and enjoy his night out.
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After debating and explaining the obvious to her fiancé, the OP proceeded to get ready for her shift. Though, when she got out of the shower, she couldn’t locate her car, nor her partner.
After a number of phone calls, one of the friends finally decided to answer and “weirdly” enough repeated her partner’s exact words and recommended the woman skip her shift, and said that her fiancé would be back with the car later. The OP repeated that she did not give him permission to take her car and said that she would be contacting the police, if the fiancé didn’t bring it back. Obviously, nobody took the OP seriously, which is why she did exactly what she thought was right.
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Her fiancé and his buddies were taken to the police department, while the OP successfully got her car back and went over to the hospital.
Naturally, the OP’s partner was blowing up her phone and accusing her of being insane for doing such a thing. Since the woman was on hospital duty, she left her man alone with his thoughts, and once she returned home the next day, they got into a huge argument. The fiancé blamed her for ruining his New Year’s celebration and, of course, didn’t forget to secure it with the good old silent treatment.
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He also explained his actions by implying that since they’re a family, everything should be considered “ours”, which is why he wouldn’t classify the whole situation as theft – however, the OP was clear enough when she previously told him that he could not under any circumstances take her car, to which he still willingly decided to commit a crime.
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FYI she can't just not show up for work, especially on a holiday. Hospitals have to be staffed, particularly on the alcohol-centric holidays when there are so many accidents. If she fails to show she's risking her job (depending on her boss and hospital policy), nobody will exchange shifts for her at such notice and on a holiday, and if she calls in sick on a major holiday she's going to be on a lot of s**t lists. And her fiancee is a dirtbag, who's risking her job to party with his friends, AND he didn't even invite her along.
Right? Skip the shift? HA! It's not fast food its a HOSPITAL. He's out of his mind.
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I don't like the assumption that being in a relationship and living together automatically means "what's mine is yours and what's yours is mine." No. If that works for you, fine, but that's not automatically how it works. You can still have belongings that you don't want to share. And even if they did have an agreement that they shared everything, the fiancé was a real AH to take the car when he knew OP needed it for work. It was selfish and inconsiderate.
Exactly! They're not married, but even if they were he has no right nor reason to take her car when he knows she needs it for work, and she explicitly told him HE COULD NOT HAVE IT!
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She was lucky to get the car back in one piece before one of the clowns drove it after drinking.
I seriously hope she reconsiders the whole marriage thing with him. After all, if he can think/behave this way, over her job & his buds, partying..what's going to happen, when she has to work, and they have a infant, and the buds are calling him to go party? Irresponsible. Immature. Untrustworthy. Definitely NOT husband or Father/Daddy material. This guy has a LOT of growing up to do & she isn't his mother, shouldn't have to finish raising him. Just my opinion.
Ofc she will. They're too young in every sense of the word to get married. What else is he going to ignore
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I don't subscribe to the 'what's yours is mine and what's mine is yours' mentality. Tried it once and her g-string nearly cut my nads in half whenever I coughed
Some people start with their best behaviour, then drop the act. She tried to make a go of the relationship -- and I don't think she's going to stay with him.
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I want to know, and to be reassured, that this low-IQ jerk has been dumped. PLEASE tell me she packed her gear and left......PLEASE?????
Good you should have called the police and had him and his friends arrested, you told them on the phone and they laughed at you and ignored you, so they're immediately accomplices to theft. If they don't like it they can grow the fuc* up, or stop hanging around with losers who would steal their girlfriends car when she needs to be at work at a HOSPITAL. Dump this fool, pack his crap, throw it out of the house, he can go stay with one of the friends who found it all so funny. Do NOT let little pric*s like this walk all over you. Dump him and find a far more worthy man of your time, attention and money. He does not and WILL NOT EVER respect you.
NTA. Calling the police is a bit much imo. But he seems a massive asshole. I hope that she doesnt marry him
Is it too much? I really don't think so. You KNOW he's going to drive back home over the alcohol limit and be possibly arrested or even cause an accident. If he injures someone you know you share the responsibility. He "couldn't believe" after all the previous --- even though she'd be in trouble at work for not showing up, and she'd already gone to a lot of effort to contact him? Not sure how she can get into an argument after that, there's no relationship he's not even the same species.
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Why did he drove to a bar?? I don't know in other countries but in mine NO ONE takes their car to a bar unless their car insurance has an "angel service" where they pick you up and drive you home in your own car. Or unless you're freaking irresponsible and decide to drink and drive....
exactly. we have 0.0 tolerance for alcohol. not even one beer and not even on a bike. you can only go by foot or public transport/taxi when you are drunk
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Why didn't he take a cab? Don't really understand this story. Plus he was together with other people who probably had a car each
There are so many things wrong here... I hope she dumped this asshole AND pressed charges.
My ex used to do the same thing to me...he had let his car get repo-ed and would always take mine after we moved in together. He would especially do it in the middle of the night to go out with his friends drinking. I was pregnant at the time and I would wake up the next morning with my car parked diagonally across 2 parking spaces and empties in the back seat. The only way I got it to stop was by talking to a friend of mine who was a police officer supervisor and put my car on a BOLO list between 9pm - 5am (knowing I wouldn't be out this late as I was pregnant). Soon after my ex kept getting pulled over and the cops kept messing with him so much he eventually got too paranoid to even look at my car....this girl needs to cancel the engagement, I learned the hard way that people like that only think of themselves and it doesn't get better.
Most to the "NTA"-responders say "stolen car", but is it in the US (I'm guessing)? E.g. in the UK the offence is "TWOC" (Taking a vehicle without consent); mostly used for "joyriding". It's like the difference between a burglary and a tresspass into a house, there has to be a plan for (financial) gain which the joyrider that will crash the car does not have.
Im sure it depends on the state, but I'm guessing it was least a misdemeanor if the cops actually brought them in and held them. If it wasn't a problem then the cops would question them at the bar and then leave.
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Once again - I bet this isn't the 1st time this guy did something selfish and showed what a d**k he is 2 - why do people date them for ages and only when they 2a get married 2b have a kid 2c move in or get engaged do they get the balls to do what they should have done long ago and ended it? Mr. Perfect just didn't decide one night to be selfish as hell, talk as if her life and job weren't important and also "decide" she can let him avoid acting like an adult and fix his car, get a job or Whatever. Yes, calling the cops is a bit much but the way he spoke to her and his little pack of Men Babies just didn't happen. It's a shame she feels she has to do so much apologizing and explaining even as she's typing this.
I Thought same Im sure he has done stuff like this before to her and shes gone easy on him He took her for granted and was devious and manipulating
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He has given you an enormous gift in showing you who he is. Please do not waste it by sticking around and waiting for him to surprise you with more of who he is.
Exactly he has done her a Favour if shes left him Theres that saying When someone shows you who they are Believe them
Load More Replies... How come that every A out of the AITA-threads is an entitle digg or bidge and totally besides themselves when it comes to logic and understandery? Still, I think in most cases it is so obvious that no one in their right mind - or any mind that barely works - needs confirmation from stangers.
He put you in this situation without even bothering to check to make sure it was okay with you. The "what's mine is yours" is bullshit, because it destroys boundaries that everyone needs.
Even in “what’s mine is yours” situations, you figure out how to work things. Instead of waiting for her to be in the shower and taking her car without permission, they could worked out the details so she could get to work and he could see his friends. Like he drives her to work, goes out with his friends, then makes sure he’s able to drive to pick her up when her shift is over. Done! Well, IF he had presented that possibility to her and she agreed (and she just might have). But no, he just decided to go behind her back instead. And has the GALL to turn it around on her because he was embarrassed in front of his friends and they’re ghosting him? They’re ghosting him because HIS behavior got them arrested—-probably the last straw for them anyway. Friends from your teens and early twenties may not be your friends for life. People mature differently—-some never mature at all, like this idiot—-and his friends were probably on the verge of cutting him out of the group and moving on.
Load More Replies... My father constantly stole my mother's car (in her name) and almost ruined her life by driving drunk, getting into accidents, etc. She took a waiver to a judge that if my father was found driving her car, she was not responsible bc he stole it THAT often.
Also he wanted to go Party=Get Drunk. Meaning chances of getting into an accident go up. Who is going to cover the damages if he wrecked her car?
I a guy think she should leave him immediately. She deserves much better.
It was said she put them in that situation. She did not. He did by his actions. He was so rude and inconsiderate, and I hope she dumped him. I once loaned my car to a friend on base. It was a crap car, as long as he returned by 5am the next day so I could get to work. He did not, nor did he call. I called the mp's and asked if I should report it stolen or what since I was stranded and had no way to work. They said let's scare him and see what happens. They came and gave me a ride to work and said they'd work it as stolen, larceny after the fact. Since he didn't return it on time. He came through the gate, and they cuffed him, and a co-worker took me to get my car. He damn near peed himself because he was so scared. He was crying he didn't want to go to the brig. They let him go and he ended up walking a couple miles back to the barracks. He never asked to borrow my car again.
I just got ride to the bar he was at.( with the Where my phone app on his phone too cause of course I was paying for it too so I ride and got my car without telling him than put his clothes in his broke @ss pick up truck . Funny he didn't take the whole very well. He yelled " I hope you die a horrible and painful death" at the top of his lung. I'm have an aggressive form of MS by the way. Of course groveling I'm sorrys And saying he loves me bull crap You are Not the A hole here he is kick him to the curb if he can't respect wishes and obligations
She didn't know the bar, and how much free time do you think people have?
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This enraged me to no end. The entitlement of the bf is off the charts. Didn’t any of his friends have a car they could have used? I hope to hell she threw him out like the trash he is and went on about her life.
I mainly find it wild she still calls him "fiance". Pretty sure they just broke up.
Drop him like a hot potato and find a place closer to your work and live your life free of a moocher.
NTA. He is a narcissistic manchild that needed to be taught a lesson. Lesson #2 should be you dumping his sorry ass and moving back closer to where your work is. The money you save on commuting and supporting the user/loser should also be beneficial.
He sounds very immature and like a spoiled Brat Was he going to drink and drive that YES Stolen Car too or leave it for his Partner to pick up after her Nightshift Sooooo Selfish I knew the Police would act on this knowing shes a Nurse and would be needed at work and her being responsible and doing the right thing by not cancelling her shift Well done Girl I Would have done the same thing Hope she has moved on from him
They are both assholes, imo. To take the car of a nurse on duty is just mindboggeling selfish, but why woudl she stay in a relationship with a partner who is not respecting her work?? And why use the police to fight your own battles? Who knows what emergencies they were late for because of her relationship issues? What is wrong with these people??
NTA what others said. he stole from you and is a piece of dirt. BUT why is he even driving on the New Year? will he go home drunk and possibly crash your car? will he leave the car abandoned somewhere? like wtf he should have taken a public transport or a taxi
I really hope this woman ditches this childish, selfish asshole and never looks back. I doubt this is the first time he has been an inconsiderate jerk. So many women need to raise their standards and realize that marriage isn't the be all, end all of human existence. Being alone is better than being with someone who makes you miserable and disrespects you.
I think this is a ESH. The fiance was wrong to take the car, hands down. The solution is to call a taxi and then ask him for the reimbursement before dumping him. Calling the police and to have him arrested for a felony when this is someone that she planned to marry is messed up. The legal fees are high with felony charges and a felony on the record will screw up job prospects for the rest of his life. This is supposedly someone that she loves.
Can't do the time, don't do the crime. This is supposedly someone HE loves...
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OP certainly is NTA. The broke a$$, selfish, boyfriend is. 28yo person should be able to afford to fix their car or buy a new one. OP needs to move on and find a new partner that has a decent job, make decent money, and able to take care of himself. The least attractive about a person (man or woman) is for being dependent on others. Seriously, 28yo and broke???????? SAD!
Unless you're married or in a long-term (longer than 3 years) relationship like common law or something, THEN WHATS MINE IS MINE AND WHATS YOURS IS YOURS. Period. Leave that man child. Like yesterday.
Like a ommon law wife you mean? Not a real thing in the UK, is it in the US? Even if married there is still no justification for taking her car. She needed it, it is hers and doesn't matter if they've been married for 20 years or more. I agree she needs to leave him, he is pathetic.
Load More Replies... Absolutely a crime in the UK. It's called "taking without consent", and is part of the 1968 theft Act that specifically relates to cars- "the taking motor vehicle or other conveyance without authority of the owner". It's often colloquially referred to as "Twoccing" by the police here.
A) "What's yours is mine" doesn't apply until you're married, B) "What's yours is mine" does NOT mean you can steal, take, grab, or generally be disrespectful. What an absolute t****r. Seems like she's the one doing all the sacrificing. I'd be thanking my lucky stars he was just a fiancé at this stage.
FYI she can't just not show up for work, especially on a holiday. Hospitals have to be staffed, particularly on the alcohol-centric holidays when there are so many accidents. If she fails to show she's risking her job (depending on her boss and hospital policy), nobody will exchange shifts for her at such notice and on a holiday, and if she calls in sick on a major holiday she's going to be on a lot of s**t lists. And her fiancee is a dirtbag, who's risking her job to party with his friends, AND he didn't even invite her along.
Right? Skip the shift? HA! It's not fast food its a HOSPITAL. He's out of his mind.
Load More Replies... I don't like the assumption that being in a relationship and living together automatically means "what's mine is yours and what's yours is mine." No. If that works for you, fine, but that's not automatically how it works. You can still have belongings that you don't want to share. And even if they did have an agreement that they shared everything, the fiancé was a real AH to take the car when he knew OP needed it for work. It was selfish and inconsiderate.
Exactly! They're not married, but even if they were he has no right nor reason to take her car when he knows she needs it for work, and she explicitly told him HE COULD NOT HAVE IT!
Load More Replies... She was lucky to get the car back in one piece before one of the clowns drove it after drinking.
I seriously hope she reconsiders the whole marriage thing with him. After all, if he can think/behave this way, over her job & his buds, partying..what's going to happen, when she has to work, and they have a infant, and the buds are calling him to go party? Irresponsible. Immature. Untrustworthy. Definitely NOT husband or Father/Daddy material. This guy has a LOT of growing up to do & she isn't his mother, shouldn't have to finish raising him. Just my opinion.
Ofc she will. They're too young in every sense of the word to get married. What else is he going to ignore
Load More Replies... I don't subscribe to the 'what's yours is mine and what's mine is yours' mentality. Tried it once and her g-string nearly cut my nads in half whenever I coughed
Some people start with their best behaviour, then drop the act. She tried to make a go of the relationship -- and I don't think she's going to stay with him.
Load More Replies... I want to know, and to be reassured, that this low-IQ jerk has been dumped. PLEASE tell me she packed her gear and left......PLEASE?????
Good you should have called the police and had him and his friends arrested, you told them on the phone and they laughed at you and ignored you, so they're immediately accomplices to theft. If they don't like it they can grow the fuc* up, or stop hanging around with losers who would steal their girlfriends car when she needs to be at work at a HOSPITAL. Dump this fool, pack his crap, throw it out of the house, he can go stay with one of the friends who found it all so funny. Do NOT let little pric*s like this walk all over you. Dump him and find a far more worthy man of your time, attention and money. He does not and WILL NOT EVER respect you.
NTA. Calling the police is a bit much imo. But he seems a massive asshole. I hope that she doesnt marry him
Is it too much? I really don't think so. You KNOW he's going to drive back home over the alcohol limit and be possibly arrested or even cause an accident. If he injures someone you know you share the responsibility. He "couldn't believe" after all the previous --- even though she'd be in trouble at work for not showing up, and she'd already gone to a lot of effort to contact him? Not sure how she can get into an argument after that, there's no relationship he's not even the same species.
Load More Replies... Why did he drove to a bar?? I don't know in other countries but in mine NO ONE takes their car to a bar unless their car insurance has an "angel service" where they pick you up and drive you home in your own car. Or unless you're freaking irresponsible and decide to drink and drive....
exactly. we have 0.0 tolerance for alcohol. not even one beer and not even on a bike. you can only go by foot or public transport/taxi when you are drunk
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There are so many things wrong here... I hope she dumped this asshole AND pressed charges.
My ex used to do the same thing to me...he had let his car get repo-ed and would always take mine after we moved in together. He would especially do it in the middle of the night to go out with his friends drinking. I was pregnant at the time and I would wake up the next morning with my car parked diagonally across 2 parking spaces and empties in the back seat. The only way I got it to stop was by talking to a friend of mine who was a police officer supervisor and put my car on a BOLO list between 9pm - 5am (knowing I wouldn't be out this late as I was pregnant). Soon after my ex kept getting pulled over and the cops kept messing with him so much he eventually got too paranoid to even look at my car....this girl needs to cancel the engagement, I learned the hard way that people like that only think of themselves and it doesn't get better.
Most to the "NTA"-responders say "stolen car", but is it in the US (I'm guessing)? E.g. in the UK the offence is "TWOC" (Taking a vehicle without consent); mostly used for "joyriding". It's like the difference between a burglary and a tresspass into a house, there has to be a plan for (financial) gain which the joyrider that will crash the car does not have.
Im sure it depends on the state, but I'm guessing it was least a misdemeanor if the cops actually brought them in and held them. If it wasn't a problem then the cops would question them at the bar and then leave.
Load More Replies... Once again - I bet this isn't the 1st time this guy did something selfish and showed what a d**k he is 2 - why do people date them for ages and only when they 2a get married 2b have a kid 2c move in or get engaged do they get the balls to do what they should have done long ago and ended it? Mr. Perfect just didn't decide one night to be selfish as hell, talk as if her life and job weren't important and also "decide" she can let him avoid acting like an adult and fix his car, get a job or Whatever. Yes, calling the cops is a bit much but the way he spoke to her and his little pack of Men Babies just didn't happen. It's a shame she feels she has to do so much apologizing and explaining even as she's typing this.
I Thought same Im sure he has done stuff like this before to her and shes gone easy on him He took her for granted and was devious and manipulating
Load More Replies... He has given you an enormous gift in showing you who he is. Please do not waste it by sticking around and waiting for him to surprise you with more of who he is.
Exactly he has done her a Favour if shes left him Theres that saying When someone shows you who they are Believe them
Load More Replies... How come that every A out of the AITA-threads is an entitle digg or bidge and totally besides themselves when it comes to logic and understandery? Still, I think in most cases it is so obvious that no one in their right mind - or any mind that barely works - needs confirmation from stangers.
He put you in this situation without even bothering to check to make sure it was okay with you. The "what's mine is yours" is bullshit, because it destroys boundaries that everyone needs.
Even in “what’s mine is yours” situations, you figure out how to work things. Instead of waiting for her to be in the shower and taking her car without permission, they could worked out the details so she could get to work and he could see his friends. Like he drives her to work, goes out with his friends, then makes sure he’s able to drive to pick her up when her shift is over. Done! Well, IF he had presented that possibility to her and she agreed (and she just might have). But no, he just decided to go behind her back instead. And has the GALL to turn it around on her because he was embarrassed in front of his friends and they’re ghosting him? They’re ghosting him because HIS behavior got them arrested—-probably the last straw for them anyway. Friends from your teens and early twenties may not be your friends for life. People mature differently—-some never mature at all, like this idiot—-and his friends were probably on the verge of cutting him out of the group and moving on.
Load More Replies... My father constantly stole my mother's car (in her name) and almost ruined her life by driving drunk, getting into accidents, etc. She took a waiver to a judge that if my father was found driving her car, she was not responsible bc he stole it THAT often.
Also he wanted to go Party=Get Drunk. Meaning chances of getting into an accident go up. Who is going to cover the damages if he wrecked her car?
I a guy think she should leave him immediately. She deserves much better.
It was said she put them in that situation. She did not. He did by his actions. He was so rude and inconsiderate, and I hope she dumped him. I once loaned my car to a friend on base. It was a crap car, as long as he returned by 5am the next day so I could get to work. He did not, nor did he call. I called the mp's and asked if I should report it stolen or what since I was stranded and had no way to work. They said let's scare him and see what happens. They came and gave me a ride to work and said they'd work it as stolen, larceny after the fact. Since he didn't return it on time. He came through the gate, and they cuffed him, and a co-worker took me to get my car. He damn near peed himself because he was so scared. He was crying he didn't want to go to the brig. They let him go and he ended up walking a couple miles back to the barracks. He never asked to borrow my car again.
I just got ride to the bar he was at.( with the Where my phone app on his phone too cause of course I was paying for it too so I ride and got my car without telling him than put his clothes in his broke @ss pick up truck . Funny he didn't take the whole very well. He yelled " I hope you die a horrible and painful death" at the top of his lung. I'm have an aggressive form of MS by the way. Of course groveling I'm sorrys And saying he loves me bull crap You are Not the A hole here he is kick him to the curb if he can't respect wishes and obligations
She didn't know the bar, and how much free time do you think people have?
Load More Replies... This enraged me to no end. The entitlement of the bf is off the charts. Didn’t any of his friends have a car they could have used? I hope to hell she threw him out like the trash he is and went on about her life.
I mainly find it wild she still calls him "fiance". Pretty sure they just broke up.
Drop him like a hot potato and find a place closer to your work and live your life free of a moocher.
NTA. He is a narcissistic manchild that needed to be taught a lesson. Lesson #2 should be you dumping his sorry ass and moving back closer to where your work is. The money you save on commuting and supporting the user/loser should also be beneficial.
He sounds very immature and like a spoiled Brat Was he going to drink and drive that YES Stolen Car too or leave it for his Partner to pick up after her Nightshift Sooooo Selfish I knew the Police would act on this knowing shes a Nurse and would be needed at work and her being responsible and doing the right thing by not cancelling her shift Well done Girl I Would have done the same thing Hope she has moved on from him
They are both assholes, imo. To take the car of a nurse on duty is just mindboggeling selfish, but why woudl she stay in a relationship with a partner who is not respecting her work?? And why use the police to fight your own battles? Who knows what emergencies they were late for because of her relationship issues? What is wrong with these people??
NTA what others said. he stole from you and is a piece of dirt. BUT why is he even driving on the New Year? will he go home drunk and possibly crash your car? will he leave the car abandoned somewhere? like wtf he should have taken a public transport or a taxi
I really hope this woman ditches this childish, selfish asshole and never looks back. I doubt this is the first time he has been an inconsiderate jerk. So many women need to raise their standards and realize that marriage isn't the be all, end all of human existence. Being alone is better than being with someone who makes you miserable and disrespects you.
I think this is a ESH. The fiance was wrong to take the car, hands down. The solution is to call a taxi and then ask him for the reimbursement before dumping him. Calling the police and to have him arrested for a felony when this is someone that she planned to marry is messed up. The legal fees are high with felony charges and a felony on the record will screw up job prospects for the rest of his life. This is supposedly someone that she loves.
Can't do the time, don't do the crime. This is supposedly someone HE loves...
Load More Replies... OP certainly is NTA. The broke a$$, selfish, boyfriend is. 28yo person should be able to afford to fix their car or buy a new one. OP needs to move on and find a new partner that has a decent job, make decent money, and able to take care of himself. The least attractive about a person (man or woman) is for being dependent on others. Seriously, 28yo and broke???????? SAD!
Unless you're married or in a long-term (longer than 3 years) relationship like common law or something, THEN WHATS MINE IS MINE AND WHATS YOURS IS YOURS. Period. Leave that man child. Like yesterday.
Like a ommon law wife you mean? Not a real thing in the UK, is it in the US? Even if married there is still no justification for taking her car. She needed it, it is hers and doesn't matter if they've been married for 20 years or more. I agree she needs to leave him, he is pathetic.
Load More Replies... Absolutely a crime in the UK. It's called "taking without consent", and is part of the 1968 theft Act that specifically relates to cars- "the taking motor vehicle or other conveyance without authority of the owner". It's often colloquially referred to as "Twoccing" by the police here.
A) "What's yours is mine" doesn't apply until you're married, B) "What's yours is mine" does NOT mean you can steal, take, grab, or generally be disrespectful. What an absolute t****r. Seems like she's the one doing all the sacrificing. I'd be thanking my lucky stars he was just a fiancé at this stage.
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