Woman Gets Fired When She Causes Drama Because Coworker Accidentally Revealed Her Lies
It would be slightly ridiculous to brag about how you can do something that you actually can’t. Right? And yet, there are still people out there who have such deep self-esteem issues that they fabricate all of these fantastic details about their lives. But the moment you look closer at these pathological liars’ tall tales, that illusion starts to crack and eventually shatters.
This is what internet user u/throw_friescountry accidentally did to her new coworker, who bragged about knowing tons of different languages. The author was ecstatic because she actually did know how to speak them, so she tried interacting with her colleague in a different tongue. That’s when everything started falling apart for the braggart. Scroll down for the full story, an important update, a big dollop of secondhand embarrassment, and a reminder not to lie about your skills.
Liars don’t like getting caught. Accidentally catching a pathological liar in the middle of a lie can lead to quite a bit of office drama
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That’s what happened to one woman. She was excited to learn that her new coworker spoke the same foreign languages as she did. As it turns out, she was a fraud
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She later shared a few more thoughts in a handful of updates
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Pathological liars can wreck their careers and personal relationships, but they often don’t care about the consequences of their actions
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It’s incredibly likely that you know at least one person who likes to exaggerate everything. They tell very dramatic stories, brag about their accomplishments, and claim to be super duper awesome. When, in fact, their life might be mundane.
While these individuals might be entertaining, they’re also exhausting to be around. They’re untrustworthy and unreliable. Now imagine that this isn’t just someone you hang out with, but actually a person on your team at work.
Liars are unimaginably hard to work with. You’re unsure of their actual skills, they can overpromise and underdeliver, constantly look for excuses, and you’re constantly worried about having to manage them.
On top of that, on a very fundamental level, it’s deeply annoying to speak with someone who you know is outright making stuff up. You can’t create a genuine connection with someone like this. Relationships built on lies aren’t worth much.
The fact is that everyone lies to some extent, whether for gain, to avoid negative consequences, or to protect someone they love. But a tiny sliver of humankind are pathological liars, who lie not just for the sake of one goal or another, but also regardless of the reason. They don’t care about the consequences of their lies.
WebMD warns that pathological liars compulsively tell untruths that often are extensive and elaborate. These liars continue telling tall tales even when the consequences of their actions directly affect their lives, e.g., forcing them to lose their jobs or damaging their relationships.
Being lied to is an awful feeling. But the best tools in your arsenal are staying cool, directly calling out the lie, and no longer engaging with the person
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“It isn’t clear whether pathological liars understand that what they say isn’t true. Some people believe the things they say, even when those things are clearly false. Other pathological liars will admit that they’ve been lying only when their lies are proved false.”
Some pathological liars suffer from personality disorders (antisocial, narcissistic, histrionic, etc.), while others might have no other conditions at all. Meanwhile, individuals with borderline personality disorder might frequently lie, but not pathologically.
While there is no medical way to treat pathological lying, psychotherapy can help. But even then, it’s a massive challenge. The fact is that pathological liars might not want to address their behavior, and so, they might simply, well, lie to mental health specialists during therapy sessions.
Liars tend to tell long, dramatic, often contradictory stories, and include details that can’t be verified. If something sounds too intense and dramatic to be true, it probably isn’t.
The best way forward is not to engage with a person’s lies. Tell them, straight up, that you know they’re lying and don’t continue having the conversation. Don’t get angry, stay calm, and if you care about the person, suggest they get professional help.
Have you ever had to deal with a pathological liar, whether at work or in your personal life? How did you handle their nonsense? What do you personally think is the right way to deal with someone at work who keeps bragging? Share your thoughts in the comments.
Internet users rushed to share their thoughts about the workplace drama. Here’s what they had to say
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Later, the author shared an update about how the situation with her colleague escalated. Here’s what she wrote
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And here’s how the internet reacted to the second chapter of the story. Many folks were glad for the follow-up
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I'm German, don't speak Dutch but I would have understood that sentence. How is it that when people get called out on their b******t it's always the fault of the person calling them out? Don't claim "native-like" knowledge when you can't understand a simple sentence.
Cathy lied. She meant to lie. She has lied before. She sees nothing wrong with lying. She quickly blames others when caught. This is her life.
Load More Replies...as somebody who speaks 4 languages, the only ones who talk about 'accent' are the ones who speak only one language :D
I'm jealous; well done you! That is impressive. May I ask what languages you speak, or is that being too nosy?
Load More Replies...I checked, there's an update: https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/nzsu2d/update_aita_for_accidentally_calling_out_a_new/ TLDR: Cathy made things worse before getting called out on the lie by the higher ups and given the boot.
Looks like that is the same update as included in the article. (I'm not sure if BP updated the article since your comment, or if you missed amongst all the selected NTA comments, so just mentioning it to save others from visiting Reddit.)
Load More Replies...People (edit: 'can be' -- are' is a bit of a generalisation) very quick to assume, too, I find. I am adopted; born from SK parents. I don't know the language because I was adopted by Australian parents. I remember telling someone this (in a queue to get an iPhone, of all things, lol) and the person behind me started speaking Korean to me. I was thinking, "what part of I don't speak Korean, even though I was born in Korea, don't you understand?" I think we both finished that conversation feeling stupid.
If you aren't familiar with a US comedian named Henry Cho, you might enjoy him. He is also of Korean heritage, but was born in the southern US, and also doesn't speak Korean. He occasionally uses that in his humor.
Load More Replies...I'm American and "exotic" has never been a bad word where I come from. It simply means something very different from our experiences. Heck, Scandinavia is exotic to me. So is all of Europe. Your description of a Caribbean island getaway sounds exotic to me. It's very different from our corn/bean belt in mid-USA. The word means more about geography than people. ♥
I once convinced a co-worker I spoke Dutch by using Google translate to convert some of the paragraphs in the emails I sent him (long story behind that). I knew he had a good sense of humor and he did indeed find it funny when I finally confessed a couple months down the line. Speaking of which, according to Google translate "kingspiermusketier" (as mentioned in one of the replies in the article) is Dutch for "sphincter musketeer."
Oof, yeah, never lie about knowing a language. I’m Latvian, immigrated to the UK when I was just two months shy of my fourth birthday and have forgotten almost all of my Latvian (and all of my Russian). I’ll happily tell people I’m Latvian if they ask about my accent, but I’m quick to explain I lost my native tongue on the flight over. Most I can do is listen to my relatives speak Latvian and understand, but I can’t string together a sentence myself.
I've lost most of my zulu in the 27 years I have been in the UK.
Load More Replies...I've lived in France for nearly a quarter century and I've worked here for something like eighteen years, and even then I would be hesitant to claim to "know French".
I’m Dutch. Parents are from opposite ends of the Netherlands. I speak my mums local dialect, provincial dialect as well as understand some friesian. My dad comes from The Hague and spoke the “ queens Dutch”. In other words official Dutch. What was said was so basic in any sense of the word. If she knew any Dutch at all this would have been understood. Accent or not. I speak some Indonesian, Fijian, even some Māori; I would claim fluency because I feel I couldn’t hold a full conversation. She couldn’t, wouldn’t admit and doubled down. S***s to be her. Called out and lost.
Ok, I was confused by the headline because I had read this before - that escalated. Cathy did herself a dirty there.
Aside from Cathy being a total lier, there can be huge differences in Dutch speakers and that accents. Dutch from the east, south and the rest of the Netherlands sound wie different where sometimes people have difficulty understanding eachother. Then there's Belgian Dutch with it's own accent. There are differences between hard and soft g, rolling r, swallowing vowels, a flat ei or a sliding eijj. So the first thing I'd ask if a non native speaker says they speak Dutch (and we're not in the Netherlands), I ask where they learned it /which part of the Netherlands. Just like English isn't just English. Texas, England, Scotland, India, to name a few very different accents.
If it wasn't OP Cathy ended up having an issue with, it would've just been someone else. And then someone after that. Etc.
w*f is with the ones as said ignore it to avoid drama WAKE UP IDIOTS FFS and get a spine already lira are S c u m !! anyone as lets lies in a work place lie ,is as vile as as the liar ! this stupid biatch lied got found out end off lol NOTE TO PEOPLE DO NOT EVER TO ANYONE , LESS SO SOMEWHERE AS PAYS YOUR BLOODY WAGES 😂😂🙄🙄🙄🙄
I'm German, don't speak Dutch but I would have understood that sentence. How is it that when people get called out on their b******t it's always the fault of the person calling them out? Don't claim "native-like" knowledge when you can't understand a simple sentence.
Cathy lied. She meant to lie. She has lied before. She sees nothing wrong with lying. She quickly blames others when caught. This is her life.
Load More Replies...as somebody who speaks 4 languages, the only ones who talk about 'accent' are the ones who speak only one language :D
I'm jealous; well done you! That is impressive. May I ask what languages you speak, or is that being too nosy?
Load More Replies...I checked, there's an update: https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/nzsu2d/update_aita_for_accidentally_calling_out_a_new/ TLDR: Cathy made things worse before getting called out on the lie by the higher ups and given the boot.
Looks like that is the same update as included in the article. (I'm not sure if BP updated the article since your comment, or if you missed amongst all the selected NTA comments, so just mentioning it to save others from visiting Reddit.)
Load More Replies...People (edit: 'can be' -- are' is a bit of a generalisation) very quick to assume, too, I find. I am adopted; born from SK parents. I don't know the language because I was adopted by Australian parents. I remember telling someone this (in a queue to get an iPhone, of all things, lol) and the person behind me started speaking Korean to me. I was thinking, "what part of I don't speak Korean, even though I was born in Korea, don't you understand?" I think we both finished that conversation feeling stupid.
If you aren't familiar with a US comedian named Henry Cho, you might enjoy him. He is also of Korean heritage, but was born in the southern US, and also doesn't speak Korean. He occasionally uses that in his humor.
Load More Replies...I'm American and "exotic" has never been a bad word where I come from. It simply means something very different from our experiences. Heck, Scandinavia is exotic to me. So is all of Europe. Your description of a Caribbean island getaway sounds exotic to me. It's very different from our corn/bean belt in mid-USA. The word means more about geography than people. ♥
I once convinced a co-worker I spoke Dutch by using Google translate to convert some of the paragraphs in the emails I sent him (long story behind that). I knew he had a good sense of humor and he did indeed find it funny when I finally confessed a couple months down the line. Speaking of which, according to Google translate "kingspiermusketier" (as mentioned in one of the replies in the article) is Dutch for "sphincter musketeer."
Oof, yeah, never lie about knowing a language. I’m Latvian, immigrated to the UK when I was just two months shy of my fourth birthday and have forgotten almost all of my Latvian (and all of my Russian). I’ll happily tell people I’m Latvian if they ask about my accent, but I’m quick to explain I lost my native tongue on the flight over. Most I can do is listen to my relatives speak Latvian and understand, but I can’t string together a sentence myself.
I've lost most of my zulu in the 27 years I have been in the UK.
Load More Replies...I've lived in France for nearly a quarter century and I've worked here for something like eighteen years, and even then I would be hesitant to claim to "know French".
I’m Dutch. Parents are from opposite ends of the Netherlands. I speak my mums local dialect, provincial dialect as well as understand some friesian. My dad comes from The Hague and spoke the “ queens Dutch”. In other words official Dutch. What was said was so basic in any sense of the word. If she knew any Dutch at all this would have been understood. Accent or not. I speak some Indonesian, Fijian, even some Māori; I would claim fluency because I feel I couldn’t hold a full conversation. She couldn’t, wouldn’t admit and doubled down. S***s to be her. Called out and lost.
Ok, I was confused by the headline because I had read this before - that escalated. Cathy did herself a dirty there.
Aside from Cathy being a total lier, there can be huge differences in Dutch speakers and that accents. Dutch from the east, south and the rest of the Netherlands sound wie different where sometimes people have difficulty understanding eachother. Then there's Belgian Dutch with it's own accent. There are differences between hard and soft g, rolling r, swallowing vowels, a flat ei or a sliding eijj. So the first thing I'd ask if a non native speaker says they speak Dutch (and we're not in the Netherlands), I ask where they learned it /which part of the Netherlands. Just like English isn't just English. Texas, England, Scotland, India, to name a few very different accents.
If it wasn't OP Cathy ended up having an issue with, it would've just been someone else. And then someone after that. Etc.
w*f is with the ones as said ignore it to avoid drama WAKE UP IDIOTS FFS and get a spine already lira are S c u m !! anyone as lets lies in a work place lie ,is as vile as as the liar ! this stupid biatch lied got found out end off lol NOTE TO PEOPLE DO NOT EVER TO ANYONE , LESS SO SOMEWHERE AS PAYS YOUR BLOODY WAGES 😂😂🙄🙄🙄🙄




















































































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