Bridezilla Steals A Dress From A Charity – The Owner Executes Her Revenge On The Wedding Day
Boundaries aren’t just important for a happy life—they’re absolutely essential. Especially when there’s someone in your life who insists on forcing you into becoming besties despite you wanting nothing to do with them. But karma has a way of rewarding and punishing us for our actions. And those consequences… well, nobody’s going to be able to escape those, even if they’re gearing up for their wedding day.
In a viral post on Reddit, user Forestcabin123k explained in incredible detail what happened between her, her manipulative ‘friend’ Pat whom she described as the “epitome of a permissive mother,” and how this bridezilla ended up looking like a pauper at her own wedding after stealing a wedding dress from an underprivileged woman. We don’t like to use the word ‘evil’ too much, but Pat might just be proof that it exists as a fundamental force in the universe, and she was channeling it.
The story’s a pretty long one, so we had to cut some bits out, but it’s well worth the read in full, dear Pandas, because it paints a very intricate picture of what kind of person Pat really is. Hint: she’s not somebody you’d want to invite over for afternoon tea. Ever. Grab yourself a cup of coffee, some popcorn, or both—we’re going to start off the workweek with a wild ride. (Go on, you know you need a break anyway; and there’s a TL;DR below.)
In a world of constant drama, one woman took the cake when she stole a wedding dress from someone else and had her own big day ruined, as karma exacted revenge
Image credits: Schanin (not the actual photo)
For those of you in a rush, here’s the crux of the story. The redditor’s acquaintance, Pat (aka the bridezilla), is a truly awful human being for plenty of reasons and she finally ended up falling victim to her own greed. Pat wanted to renew her vows and ended up stealing a dress from an underprivileged woman, only to have the community exact its revenge on her, ruining her wedding day. And it feels like Justice with a capital ‘J.’
Here’s the kind of dress that the bridezilla wanted to wear as she renewed her wedding vows
Image credits: amyprom
Meanwhile, redditor Forestcabin123k detailed how Pat, a mother of five children, wormed her way into her and her husband’s lives, showing just how entitled she was and just how little she cared about other people’s boundaries.
It also looks like the bridezilla isn’t great at taking hints, both subtle and more overt, that she should back off a bit. Or rather, she’s so used to steamrolling over everyone else that she doesn’t see the need to be a decent human being.
Manipulating others isn’t the only thing this bridezilla is good at. Thievery is something else she’s incredibly proficient at. She stole expensive Christmas gifts for underprivileged children to give to her own kids, constantly harassed her local community, defended her daughter who stole an important heirloom from the redditor’s daughter, and did plenty of other things that each alone would warrant a long post on social media.
And here’s the kind of dress that she finally had to wear down the aisle at the last minute. Just imagine it way, way oversized
Image credits: etsy
But the pinnacle of bridezilla-tude came when Pat decided to renew her vows with her husband, Hank, a guy whom everybody liked but who was a complete ‘doormat.’
Pat was involved in a wedding and prom dress initiative that gives women easy and cheap access to clothes on their big days. Pat had her eye on a particular dress. And the fact that it was reserved for somebody else didn’t stop her from sending the woman the wrong order and claiming the real dress for herself.
However, the redditor and her friend, who headed the dress initiative, sabotaged Pat’s dress at the last minute. Panicking, the bridezilla asked them for any available dress and got the ugliest, most over-sized dress that the vigilante duo could find. After being utterly embarrassed, Pat was never the same again and her manipulations slowly fizzled out.
Here’s how some online peeps have reacted to the drama rollercoaster of a story
What did you think of the story, dear Pandas? How would you have handled the situation? Do you think the redditor was right to shut down the bridezilla like that or do you think the entire community should have put up with her actions? Share your thoughts below.
You could have just cut her off . But you both chose to be nasty vindictive and selfish . You lowered yourself to her ways. So you’re all as bad as each other 🤔
I agree. If these women continued a relationship with her when they knew she was toxic they're just as much to blame. They literally pussyfooted around her for how long?..... and then stooped to ridiculous behavior they could "justify" because "Pat was a Karen". This may be good writing (you're all sucked into) but please don't bend facts to suit your opinion and act like it's responsible adult behavior.
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Grown women acting like teenagers. FFS, they're all pathetic. All this could've been avoided if they hadn't enabled and put up with that Pat character from the start... She deserved to have her day ruined, but people like her exist thanks to the idiots who complain and still put up with their crap.
I agree very childish and a waste of time. They should have put a stop to her behavior way before months in.
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Karen deserved to be confronted about her awful behavior, but not to have her wedding ruined like that. They allowed her bad behavior by not speaking up or calling her out, then they ganged up on her and ruined her wedding? Everyone is kind of the asshole here, honestly
She ruined another person's wedding by purposely mailing the wrong dress. I think she got what was coming to her.
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It started out as a funny story but I liked it less and less towards the end. When people like pat get away with being "Karens" all their life, why wouldn't they keep on being rude and selfish? Someone should have intervened way sooner. Also, I don't buy it. This one revenge was enough for pat to change completely, changing her whole personality. And Hank? Wasn't he an adult before? And he thought about killing himself before he was so unhappy with her? How about a separation years ago. I don't know, this story doesn't suit right with me.
this isn't the full story, BP shortened it. the original went more into Pat's manipulativeness. you have a point about the personality change though
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I don't feel all *that* sorry for her husband. He felt depressed after the birth of their third child, but apparently not too depressed to continue making more babies with her or to use condoms or get a vasectomy. Also, why would either parent have to do their kid's homework? Isn't the kid doing it the whole point?
Emotional abuse is a weird thing. You believe what you've got is the best you'll get, and it'll be too difficult to start over completely. Especially when you're a man - note that the 'emotional cruelty' plea was denied. I know someone in a similar situation, who would be left destitute if he left his abusive wife. You just live with it.
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Couldn,t help but cringe when I got to the word ''polite'' in the text. I was raised to distrust my intuition and go for ''polite'' against all common sense. I am now 67 years old and Mom 88 (''I'm SO ashamed to have such a RUDE daughter'') phones me every other week to complain how she nearly fell for yet another telephone scam because she ''couldn't bear to be rude to a total stranger'' Get over it. Your sanity is more important than your self-image.
Too bad for Hank they didn't live elsewhere - here in Sweden you don't need any grounds for divorce. If only one of you want to get a divorce, you need to "think on it" for 6 months and if you still want a divorce after that, you've got it.
Why did these people let Pat into their lives to begin with? The OP knew she was toxic and manipulative during college and once she got back in contact with her and saw she was the same nasty person why not cut her out of your life? And it sounds like there are too many people in this story who kept letting Pat get away with being a horrible person.
This is the reason when you cut someone out of your life, they remain cut out. No politeness or attempts at rebuilding. People don't change
this story was from Reddit, and i noticed a lot of it was cut out. from only this version, they both seem in the wrong, but Pat did a lot more in the original. here's the full version https://www.reddit.com/r/ProRevenge/comments/j8ujia/bridezilla_karen_ends_up_looking_like_a_pauper_at/?utm_source=amp&utm_medium=&utm_content=post_body
It is odd that a husband who was so henpecked and abused by his wife would have agreed to renew his vows. Pat sounds like a succubus yet apparently Hank married her and has over populated the earth with her 5 times. As far as getting a job she would need to have special skills to earn enough to pay for child care. Renewing vows is nothing more than a wife being desperate for attention. Did they not mean it when they said them at the first marriage? Only a very "whipped" man would do it.
Emotionally immature Pat can go f**k herself, in my opinion. My only hope is that they removed the panel from the original dress in such a way as to allow it to be restored and used again by way more deserving brides. If the picture of a dress close to the way it looked is accurate, it’s beautiful.
We often accept too much rottenness to be "polite". No. Sometimes, what you see is what you get ----- a person in this case who was in no position to be an unsupervised *adult*. I often lose the fight to avoid pettiness, but to ruin a wedding day? like this? No. Just repo the dress. It belonged to L, apparently, so repo the dress, ship to original bride, problem solved.
There is a part of me that wants to say this is cruel (probably because I am a soft touch and give people way too many chances) but considering her age and the amount of manipulation Pat had gotten away with, I have to say that it was a matter of time before someone gave her a good dose of karma. I just wonder if it has made her look at the way she operates and make changes in her life. Hope so.
Good for you and everyone involved in this, no sympathy for people like that, she got what she deserved.
Another enormous story with a horrible woman and a poor guy that lives with her ... yeah ok! I'm tired of these stories especially written from women attacking other women and using words like bridezilla or Karen(ever wonder why there are no male nicknames for these behaviours?- don't tell me about Kyles, nobody uses that anymore)Even if the story is true the idea of destroying a beautiful dress to teach a horrible woman a lesson is not appealing at all!
I'm getting irritated by the 'could have just cut her off' and 'why didn't you confront her' or 'why didn't you you just end the relationship?' attitudes. Have you ever tried doing either with a full on overt narcissist? By the sound of it, 'Pat' had everything but the diagnosis. We know nothing about their town, we know nothing even about the location of the story - cultural difference are important here. And dealing with a narcissist is not as easy as confrontation, avoidance, vengeance, or ignoring. Her HUSBAND dealt with that abuse for YEARS. You ever tried to get a tangle of burrs out of your hair without cutting it out? Get over yourselves.
I'm with a few others below. None of you had to put up with or condone her behavior. The mess could have been avoided from the word go. Politeness can cover a lot of sins!
Was this in the south? Because women in the south will not get confrontational -- we were raised to be too polite. Instead we say things like "Bless your heart" and exact revenge in subtle, hidden ways. It'd be so much easier if we could just say, "You're a b*tch and I never want a thing to do with you again. Get out. And take your brats with you."
I actually like the second dress way more than the first one... but yeah, they need a proper understructure. :)
Half the people in this world see politeness and patience as weakness. Then there's "Pat." Sociopathic and a bully on every level. They feed off others people's passivity. I learned to spot them early on. Two choices: Don't invite them in, even in communications, and call them out on the spot. Elsamala is right, people like her exist because we let them. Stand your ground the second the s**t starts.
I once knew a woman, who was not so clear and open, with her selfishness, controlling, self serving etc[, but lied, stole even from her life long friend, the list goes on, after years of putting up with her, the friend finally dropped the B, she was stunned to be dropped, she constantly called, actually for almost three years, the B, lost the only true friend she ever had, unfortunately, those type of people exist every where, I do like the pay back, nasty but well deserved, we shouldn't allow the B's to go on for so long, learn from this story, speak up to the B's in the beginning !!!
Pat was awful, but so were the other two ladies. Two wrongs etc etc... They should have confronted her and been done with the entire situation way before it ever got to this point.
I would have put the bitch in her place long before the community did, but, she deserved every bit of what happened in the end. I don’t fault these women for what they did in the end, you always hope that a person isn’t that bad and they will change, see the light if you will and when they don’t ....when you reach that screw it all point, the I’ve had enough point, things happen and it’s hard to stop yourself. So I think in the end, Pat got what she deserved, Hank got away and hopefully the kids will think about this (or dad will remind them) when they start or continue with their PAT attitude and put the brakes on their s**t. So yeah, I have absolutely no problem with how these women dealt with Pat. Childish or whatever, when you’ve had enough, Y.O.U. H.A.V.E. H.AD. E.N.O.U.G.H. !!!!!!
I've read a lot of the comments and it's saddening. You all stand in what should be done and how it should be done as if it's all very easy. How many times have you seen something wrong but let it slid by? People who are manipulative do not walk around announcing their purpose. They are nice and they hook you in little by little untl you feel all dried out (like Hank). Why did you not like how OP and her friend handled the situation? Is it the lack of "holywood scene"? Where the underdog finally stands up to the bully? When it finally happens in real life, does it really work?
*reading title, rereading title, one more time just in case* She what now??
You could have just cut her off . But you both chose to be nasty vindictive and selfish . You lowered yourself to her ways. So you’re all as bad as each other 🤔
I agree. If these women continued a relationship with her when they knew she was toxic they're just as much to blame. They literally pussyfooted around her for how long?..... and then stooped to ridiculous behavior they could "justify" because "Pat was a Karen". This may be good writing (you're all sucked into) but please don't bend facts to suit your opinion and act like it's responsible adult behavior.
Load More Replies... Grown women acting like teenagers. FFS, they're all pathetic. All this could've been avoided if they hadn't enabled and put up with that Pat character from the start... She deserved to have her day ruined, but people like her exist thanks to the idiots who complain and still put up with their crap.
I agree very childish and a waste of time. They should have put a stop to her behavior way before months in.
Load More Replies... Karen deserved to be confronted about her awful behavior, but not to have her wedding ruined like that. They allowed her bad behavior by not speaking up or calling her out, then they ganged up on her and ruined her wedding? Everyone is kind of the asshole here, honestly
She ruined another person's wedding by purposely mailing the wrong dress. I think she got what was coming to her.
Load More Replies... It started out as a funny story but I liked it less and less towards the end. When people like pat get away with being "Karens" all their life, why wouldn't they keep on being rude and selfish? Someone should have intervened way sooner. Also, I don't buy it. This one revenge was enough for pat to change completely, changing her whole personality. And Hank? Wasn't he an adult before? And he thought about killing himself before he was so unhappy with her? How about a separation years ago. I don't know, this story doesn't suit right with me.
this isn't the full story, BP shortened it. the original went more into Pat's manipulativeness. you have a point about the personality change though
Load More Replies... I don't feel all *that* sorry for her husband. He felt depressed after the birth of their third child, but apparently not too depressed to continue making more babies with her or to use condoms or get a vasectomy. Also, why would either parent have to do their kid's homework? Isn't the kid doing it the whole point?
Emotional abuse is a weird thing. You believe what you've got is the best you'll get, and it'll be too difficult to start over completely. Especially when you're a man - note that the 'emotional cruelty' plea was denied. I know someone in a similar situation, who would be left destitute if he left his abusive wife. You just live with it.
Load More Replies... Couldn,t help but cringe when I got to the word ''polite'' in the text. I was raised to distrust my intuition and go for ''polite'' against all common sense. I am now 67 years old and Mom 88 (''I'm SO ashamed to have such a RUDE daughter'') phones me every other week to complain how she nearly fell for yet another telephone scam because she ''couldn't bear to be rude to a total stranger'' Get over it. Your sanity is more important than your self-image.
Too bad for Hank they didn't live elsewhere - here in Sweden you don't need any grounds for divorce. If only one of you want to get a divorce, you need to "think on it" for 6 months and if you still want a divorce after that, you've got it.
Why did these people let Pat into their lives to begin with? The OP knew she was toxic and manipulative during college and once she got back in contact with her and saw she was the same nasty person why not cut her out of your life? And it sounds like there are too many people in this story who kept letting Pat get away with being a horrible person.
This is the reason when you cut someone out of your life, they remain cut out. No politeness or attempts at rebuilding. People don't change
this story was from Reddit, and i noticed a lot of it was cut out. from only this version, they both seem in the wrong, but Pat did a lot more in the original. here's the full version https://www.reddit.com/r/ProRevenge/comments/j8ujia/bridezilla_karen_ends_up_looking_like_a_pauper_at/?utm_source=amp&utm_medium=&utm_content=post_body
It is odd that a husband who was so henpecked and abused by his wife would have agreed to renew his vows. Pat sounds like a succubus yet apparently Hank married her and has over populated the earth with her 5 times. As far as getting a job she would need to have special skills to earn enough to pay for child care. Renewing vows is nothing more than a wife being desperate for attention. Did they not mean it when they said them at the first marriage? Only a very "whipped" man would do it.
Emotionally immature Pat can go f**k herself, in my opinion. My only hope is that they removed the panel from the original dress in such a way as to allow it to be restored and used again by way more deserving brides. If the picture of a dress close to the way it looked is accurate, it’s beautiful.
We often accept too much rottenness to be "polite". No. Sometimes, what you see is what you get ----- a person in this case who was in no position to be an unsupervised *adult*. I often lose the fight to avoid pettiness, but to ruin a wedding day? like this? No. Just repo the dress. It belonged to L, apparently, so repo the dress, ship to original bride, problem solved.
There is a part of me that wants to say this is cruel (probably because I am a soft touch and give people way too many chances) but considering her age and the amount of manipulation Pat had gotten away with, I have to say that it was a matter of time before someone gave her a good dose of karma. I just wonder if it has made her look at the way she operates and make changes in her life. Hope so.
Good for you and everyone involved in this, no sympathy for people like that, she got what she deserved.
Another enormous story with a horrible woman and a poor guy that lives with her ... yeah ok! I'm tired of these stories especially written from women attacking other women and using words like bridezilla or Karen(ever wonder why there are no male nicknames for these behaviours?- don't tell me about Kyles, nobody uses that anymore)Even if the story is true the idea of destroying a beautiful dress to teach a horrible woman a lesson is not appealing at all!
I'm getting irritated by the 'could have just cut her off' and 'why didn't you confront her' or 'why didn't you you just end the relationship?' attitudes. Have you ever tried doing either with a full on overt narcissist? By the sound of it, 'Pat' had everything but the diagnosis. We know nothing about their town, we know nothing even about the location of the story - cultural difference are important here. And dealing with a narcissist is not as easy as confrontation, avoidance, vengeance, or ignoring. Her HUSBAND dealt with that abuse for YEARS. You ever tried to get a tangle of burrs out of your hair without cutting it out? Get over yourselves.
I'm with a few others below. None of you had to put up with or condone her behavior. The mess could have been avoided from the word go. Politeness can cover a lot of sins!
Was this in the south? Because women in the south will not get confrontational -- we were raised to be too polite. Instead we say things like "Bless your heart" and exact revenge in subtle, hidden ways. It'd be so much easier if we could just say, "You're a b*tch and I never want a thing to do with you again. Get out. And take your brats with you."
I actually like the second dress way more than the first one... but yeah, they need a proper understructure. :)
Half the people in this world see politeness and patience as weakness. Then there's "Pat." Sociopathic and a bully on every level. They feed off others people's passivity. I learned to spot them early on. Two choices: Don't invite them in, even in communications, and call them out on the spot. Elsamala is right, people like her exist because we let them. Stand your ground the second the s**t starts.
I once knew a woman, who was not so clear and open, with her selfishness, controlling, self serving etc[, but lied, stole even from her life long friend, the list goes on, after years of putting up with her, the friend finally dropped the B, she was stunned to be dropped, she constantly called, actually for almost three years, the B, lost the only true friend she ever had, unfortunately, those type of people exist every where, I do like the pay back, nasty but well deserved, we shouldn't allow the B's to go on for so long, learn from this story, speak up to the B's in the beginning !!!
Pat was awful, but so were the other two ladies. Two wrongs etc etc... They should have confronted her and been done with the entire situation way before it ever got to this point.
I would have put the bitch in her place long before the community did, but, she deserved every bit of what happened in the end. I don’t fault these women for what they did in the end, you always hope that a person isn’t that bad and they will change, see the light if you will and when they don’t ....when you reach that screw it all point, the I’ve had enough point, things happen and it’s hard to stop yourself. So I think in the end, Pat got what she deserved, Hank got away and hopefully the kids will think about this (or dad will remind them) when they start or continue with their PAT attitude and put the brakes on their s**t. So yeah, I have absolutely no problem with how these women dealt with Pat. Childish or whatever, when you’ve had enough, Y.O.U. H.A.V.E. H.AD. E.N.O.U.G.H. !!!!!!
I've read a lot of the comments and it's saddening. You all stand in what should be done and how it should be done as if it's all very easy. How many times have you seen something wrong but let it slid by? People who are manipulative do not walk around announcing their purpose. They are nice and they hook you in little by little untl you feel all dried out (like Hank). Why did you not like how OP and her friend handled the situation? Is it the lack of "holywood scene"? Where the underdog finally stands up to the bully? When it finally happens in real life, does it really work?
*reading title, rereading title, one more time just in case* She what now??
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