30 Times Brides Rightfully Called Out Their Bridesmaids For Ruining Their Weddings
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Your wedding is supposed to be the happiest day in your life. But with all the pressure for it to be perfect, stress and sleepless nights, things more often than not go sour. Blame it on the bad weather, lack of planning, mercury in retrograde, or bridesmaids… speaking of whom, that's who this post is really about.
You are probably familiar with the corner of Reddit called “Wedding Shaming” where people gather to roast failed weddings, from tacky dresses to indecent behavior. With 312k members, it’s Reddit’s destination to blow off that steam if you just returned from a wedding you’d much rather have missed. This time, brides are sharing the worst bridesmaid stories that happened during their weddings both on the subreddit and this Ask Reddit thread.
The stories below make you wonder how important it is to choose your close friends and family members so you don’t end up with a stolen spotlight and a bad memory.
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To find out more about what it means to be a perfect bridesmaid and how common drama during wedding preparation is, as well as how to avoid it, Bored Panda spoke with the person who knows it all: Jen Glantz, the founder of Bridesmaid for Hire and The Newlywed Card Game, a 3x best-selling author, a voice of You’re Not Getting Any Younger podcast, and the brains behind Jen & Juice coaching, digital courses, & the Pick-Me-Up newsletter.
Glantz said that while we might think there's unity and peace inside of bridal parties, they are actually filled with conflict and drama. “That's because weddings are filled with decisions, pop-up challenges, and a lot of emotions. When you bring your friends and family into that equation and ask them to stand by your side, while also giving them a to-do list of things you expect them to do during your wedding adventure, it can bring a level of intensity that didn't exist before the wedding within that relationship,” she explained.
She Looks Absolutely Gorgeous.... Except She’s Not The Bride
Brides Who Had Horrible Bridesmaids, What Happened?
There Is A Whole Lot To Unpack Here
A lot of conflicts happen because of lack of communication and expectations, Glantz argues. “So much can be avoided if the person getting married clearly states what they want from their bridal party and the people in the bridal party openly share what they are able and willing to do before the wedding process even starts.”When asked about what it takes to be the perfect bridesmaid for the bride, Glantz said it's so much like being a good friend. “Before you even say yes to being a bridesmaid, have a game plan in mind,” she said.
Shaming My Bridesmaid For Shaming My Eating Habits
Fun fact: people who make negative comments on other people's eating habits are less likely to die of natural causes!
Time To Fire The Bridesmaid
A Perfect Time To Propose (Bridesmaid's Friend's Wedding)
Glantz’s advice is to reflect on a couple of things: “Understand how much time, money, and energy you can spend on this person's wedding adventure. Say no to things you can't afford or can't do. Be upfront and don't be scared to be honest about your expectations in the role.” Moreover, Glantz argues that “if the person getting married gets mad at you because you can't afford to take three days off work and spend $1,500 on her bachelorette party, then the friendship has bigger issues.”
With Friends Like These Who Needs Enemies 😬
My Sister Is Getting Married. This Is The Dress One Of Her Bridesmaids Bought
I'd "accidentally" spill some red wine on it if I saw someone pull a stunt like this
This fabric looks so cheap and such poor quality that it should be a crime to wear it!
You mean to openly purposefully pour a gallon of cheap read wine over her? Yes.
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If she dyes it to the wedding color, ok. But DON'T KEEP IT WHITE!!!
That’s an opinion. Granted, a very popular opinion. I’ll be the only one in white on my wedding day. But bridesmaids all in white have been trending.
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For reference, this particular bride asked her party to choose their own dresses but wanted them to be good colored. She gave them a color Swatch to go with. This gal bought the dress shown before she shared the picture
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Ignoring that it is white (which is a jerky thing to do) that dress isn't very nice
I honestly do not understand the logic of trying to steal the bride's thunder. Even if all eyes are on you can you really feel good knowing that the only reason people are looking is because they are marveling at your stupidity? I really don't see where the feel good part is. Also the dress looks like a slip.
Why do people do this? Is it or is it not a universal rule to never wear white to a wedding? Ever.
No, it's not. It's only been a thing in some Western conservative countries for the last two-three decades. For thousands of years, brides didn't even wear white!
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White is traditionally only for the bride.
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Before the wedding, I would trip and accidentally spill the glass of grape juice I would conveniently have in my hand lol.
You sure she didn't just throw on some curtains? BTW, this would be an instant uninvite, even if it was the day of the wedding.
If you’re going to be disrespectful, at least have some class… what is this- a glorified tablecloth?
Wow... Even if it's a hideous potato sack like this, it's still white which is NOT OKAY.
For my wedding Im going to have the bridesmaids wear white. My dress will be Lilac!
I think many people are raised without any knowledge of what is considered proper etiquette or appropriate for things like this.
I think a lot of people are raised with no idea of what is deemed proper.
Lots of people here want to spill wine or whatever on this dress... If just say nothing and let her show up in this. The quality and fit is so poorly, no one is going to mistake get for the bride anyway... She'll be making an impression alright, but not the one she's looking for. This looks more like a slip dress anyway.
Tell her to save it for her own wedding. If she can find someone dumb enough to marry her.
No one should wear cream, white or anything close to the bride’s dress colour.BTW my ex.mother in law wore cream when I asked her to wear blue. My Mum had to get a new dress & my ex told me not to say anything to his mother!🤬
They're purposely trying to steal the bride's thunder with that. Even an intellectual doorstop would know better than to wear a white dress to a wedding, let alone one that looks like Great Value lingerie. 🤨
Um, no, unless in a country where the bride does not traditionally wear white...
That looks like Lingerie, but even if it is a gown, don't wear white to a wedding, How do people not know that?
You need to tell her straight up that she better not EVEN wear that to your wedding! Totally inappropriate. Little attention wh*re.
Nope not this time.either she gets another not white dress or she's not a bridesmaid.
Could the bridesmaid be trying to channel Pippa Middleton at the wedding of Catherine to Prince William?
If I'm a guess at someone's wedding I'll respect their dress code and not wear white if they ask but at my own wedding I said wear what ever color makes you happy I wasn't a virgin anyway which is what white supposed to signify
Well, she can't walk in this dress anyway, look at her knees. Serves her right.
I don’t get what is going through their heads when they choose a white dress. Maybe this isn’t the whole story and she is arranging to have it dyed.
Don't the brides usually pick the bridesmaids dresses, or at least give guidelines?
Since I’ve never really been to a wedding I don’t get it. Can someone please explain?
People how are deeply into christian tradition will tell you that only the bride should wear white. Althought this dress isn't technically white, these people also tend to have a love of expressing how offended they are.
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White is the color for wedding dresses. It's pure and it stands out. Wearing white to another's wedding it rude because you aren't the bride
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Brides Who Had Horrible Bridesmaids, What Happened?
So either an attention seeking prat or the MOH knew the husband better than the bride thought…
“Also, as a bridesmaid, it's important to practice some selflessness in the tough moments. Be there for the person getting married and support them. Let things go that don't really matter so you can help your friend get through the wedding. For example, if you're getting your hair done on the morning of the wedding but it's not perfect, rather than holding up the wedding timeline for you to get it re-done and bringing attention to it (which can stress the bride out), fix it privately yourself and move on,” the life coach and Bridesmaid for Hire explained.
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Drop her. A "first met" date in comparison to a wedding is like a candle to the sun. It. Is. Not. Her. Day. It is YOURS!
Brides Who Had Horrible Bridesmaids, What Happened?
I’m surprised there was a friendship in the first place…or did the new guy turn her into this monster? Huge red flag.
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When it comes to deciding who you want to have as a bridesmaid, Glantz suggests thinking about this: “who would you want to get stuck in an elevator with for 4 hours? Those are the people who should be your bridesmaids. Pick people who make you feel calm and loved.” She added that it’s not a good idea to pick people because you feel obligated to.
For the bride who feels very pressured to have the most perfect day in their life, Glantz reminds that no wedding is perfect, just like no day in your life is. “Instead, think about practicing ways to go with the flow, handle emotions, and rebalance expectations before your big day comes to life.”
Brides Who Had Horrible Bridesmaids, What Happened?
Brides Who Had Horrible Bridesmaids, What Happened?
I’ll try to keep this short. My supposed best friend “E” was a toxic friend but I was still in the 16yr friendship at the time of my wedding, urgh.
I didn’t want a hen do & my hubby didn’t want a stagger so we just had a wee pre-wedding party, it was just cheesey good natured fun including games and stuff. I totally understand that’s not everyone’s idea of fun but, y’know... it was our wedding. She sat apart from us all, audibly making fun of everything we did but I just ignored her because she was always nasty & insufferably ‘cool’ & I didn’t want drama when my sister had organised it & we were having fun.
“E” has stretched ear lobes so I asked her if she wouldn’t mind wearing flesh coloured plugs and earrings to match the other girls. She said yes but on the day she said she’d lost the plugs I’d bought her and had in obnoxiously large black things that really drew your eye but I’m not a maniac, these things happen & I didn’t really care that much.... until I found out she’d been making fun of how she loved throwing the plugs in the bin and that I’m such an idiot, I’d believe her. Why wouldn’t I since I’d only asked her to do it for me as a favour because I liked the earring I bought my bridesmaids, I would never demand someone change their appearance for me.
On my wedding day, she waltzed into breakfast at the venue in her pyjamas with a bucket, claiming she had a migraine and was going to be spewing all day. I knew she was faking because it’s nearly impossible to fake a full on migraine while you’re walking about talking to people & laughing. I suggested that she can go lie down in one of the bedrooms but she aggressively said “I guess I’ll just have to deal with it but I’ll need to have a bucket at the ceremony”. My sister told her that wasn’t an acceptable option and if she needed to go home that could be arranged for her but she didn’t go home nor show any further signs of a migraine. She was snippy for the whole rest of the day & made a scene on the dance floor at night by doing an unplanned choreographed dance with her new friend to a song that we used to dance to when we went out at weekends as kids. It was a kick in the teeth although I was too happy to get upset. Our friendship was never the same after that day & she ended up finishing the friendship in a storm of drama just after I had my first kid. She’s an awful person.
I had a friend like that. Got mad at me for getting married and even worse after I had a kid because "I wasn't hanging out with her anymore." Life happens and it's not up to me to help you find your happiness.
Brides Who Had Horrible Bridesmaids, What Happened?
She may have been embarrassed that she left things too late, or perhaps couldn’t afford them, but this is still a terrible way to treat people. But then why tell other people not to come? There has to be more to this…
“In the end, you're celebrating a new step you're taking in your relationship. That's all that matters. If the flowers don't look right or a bridesmaid is causing drama, let it go, focus on the good, and have a good time. You staying present and celebrating the good will outshine what goes wrong on your wedding day,” the life coach concluded.
Brides Who Had Horrible Bridesmaids, What Happened?
I was pretty young when I got married, got engaged my senior year of college and got married the summer out of college. We’re in the South, so it’s not uncommon for that to happen.
Had a bridesmaid who had been a somewhat close friend. Her boyfriend (of 6 months, but they “had known each other for longer”) had not proposed to her yet, and she would consistently take her frustration about that out on me. Saying things like how they “deserve” to get married first since they knew each other longer than my now husband and I (which, I might add was false), saying nasty, damning with faint praise things to me. Insulting my body, insulting me in general, little caustic comments that would just hurt honestly. It got really out of hand. She finally stopped talking to me and would purposely leave me out of things that our friend group would do. She was a very homely type of person, and a big part of a Church crowd which made things so much worse imo. She constantly acted holier than thou and many people saw her “innocence” as kindness and assumed she was nice just because she was Churchy.
About a month or so later, I confronted her about it. I told her that I felt like our friendship was dwindling and I didn’t understand why. I told her how I felt and that if it was something I had done that I’d do my best to amend it. She flipped out saying “she wasn’t jealous but she just knew what was right and wrong”, inferring that her relationship was “better” somehow. It was absolutely mad. I asked her if she even wanted to be in the wedding at this point. She said she did, she really did and never even apologized. Looking back on this situation I should’ve never asked her in the first place. She suddenly went cold-Turkey ignoring me. I finally asked if she and I could talk and she acquiesced. I “fired” her from being a bridesmaid. I felt horrible about it. I truly did. At the same time, I couldn’t handle all the straight up bullying I was taking. I never once yelled at her, never once called her any names. She told everyone I yelled at her and called her a b***h. 😂 Even if I had, that would’ve been nothing compared to the s**t I endured from her.
My other bridesmaids were amazing and really took my side on this. She finally got engaged and married to that dude and I hope she’s happy now. Jesus she made my life miserable for a solid 6 months.
tl;dr lesson - if you choose to have bridesmaids, pick only the people you know you’ll be close to for years to come. And don’t let people bully you!
Groom’s Sister Is Told Prior To Wedding That Her Dress Choice Is Inappropriate. Sister Replies She Will Never Speak To Her Brother Again If He Goes Through With The Wedding. She Is Uninvited From Wedding, Then Shows Up To Wedding In This Off-White Cocktail Dress.
change the color by pouring champagne all over her. problem solved. (have her pay for the wasted bubbly).
Shaming Bridesmaid
I don’t think I’d mind having a good boy at my wedding or in the pictures…but I’d definitely like to know about it in advance.
Brides Who Had Horrible Bridesmaids, What Happened?
Brides Who Had Horrible Bridesmaids, What Happened?
I chose my sisters, which was the biggest mistake.
They fought me on every single decision when it came to the dress. Everyone they chose looked too casual or was very inappropriate for a wedding (think either a faux leather peplum dress from Guess, or a casual Wilfred dress from Aritzia). After I searched for weeks online and at stores, they finally agreed on one from Nordstrom which I had to order and take care of. They fought me on any "duties" or helping with any sort of prep. They showed up for 4 hours the day before. Argued on any placement of decorations and took off after I begged everyone to do a short rehearsal. Even though I told them I needed help. (Keep in mind they did not have to travel for the wedding, my husband and I arranged it so WE were the only ones who had to travel far). No bridal shower, no bachelorette party. They claimed they were too busy. A friend offered to throw one and they told her no, they would plan one...they never did. Two nights before the wedding, I told them I booked reservations for us and my mom at a local pub just to have something. I ended up having to cancel because they didn't want too. (My mom enabled and justified a lot of their behavior. And she wonders why I felt like they were the favourites growing up). The day of they did not help me at all get ready at all. My photographers were amazing who did everything from help me finish my hair and make up
(they even ran out to get me new lashes because mine got wrecked) and get me into my dress. And, at the reception, they made a toast...which was so awkward. It was basically about who should have been the maid of honour and basically being all about them. I remember looking out and peoples faces were just cringing. At the end I just focused on having fun the rest of the night and ignoring them.
Looking back, I should have not had them. I came pretty close to having a bridezilla moment, because I was just so fed up. All they did was go dress shopping with me once, they went out one afternoon to look for bridesmaid dresses which they didn't find any, I had too. They showed up a the hall for 4 hours to set up, and they showed up at the wedding. That was it. Anything additional I asked, I got told no. Or, any plans I tried to make to have a bit of fun before I was told no. I had a couple friends who step up big time the weeks before, and I felt so shitty because I should have asked them.
You would not have been a bridezilla even if you would have blown up!
Shaming Bridesmaid
A Mean Bridesmaid Picked It Apart Before The Bride Could See It. This Is The Only Pic I Took
Brides Who Had Horrible Bridesmaids, What Happened?
I chose my best friend of 16 years to be my maid of honor. Big mistake on my part as she has a strong personality, can be very controlling, and is studying to be a lawyer, so she believes she can never be wrong.
About 4 months ago, my fiancé and I were thinking it over and decided it’d be cheaper and easier to just have a backyard wedding to save some money, as we were due to spend at least $16k at our current venue. I told my MOH about it, thinking she’d be supportive, but instead she just s**t all over the idea. She called it trashy and a “glorified graduation party”.
Thinking it would do no harm I asked her mom if it’d be a possibility for us to have the wedding in her backyard. Due to liability reasons she declined. The next day my MOH confronts me and calls me a sh**ty person and selfish for going behind her back and asking her mom. They don’t have the best relationship, but they still talk every now and then and I really thought it wouldn’t be an issue. I apologized over and over to my friend, while she repeatedly told me I was stupid and didn’t know how to use my f*****g brain and didn’t know what I was doing. I finally ended the conversation by basically kicking her out of the wedding party.
We’re now getting married in 3 months on the beach in Florida, with a small set of close friends and family. Either my friend doesn’t know, or she does and hasn’t bothered to confront me about it. I’ve only spoken to her once since our fight a few months ago - to wish her a happy birthday and she was a complete d**k to me. Sad to say I lost one of my best friends over my own wedding, because I didn’t agree with her.
And she called me the selfish one...
I do think it was weird for you to bypass her and ask her mother if you could use her backyard.
Bridesmaidzilla Can't Accept She's Not Moh, Insists Bride Is Lying About Her Relationship With Real Moh And Thinks It's Because She's "Hot".
Brides Who Had Horrible Bridesmaids, What Happened?
I don't see a problem with this.. What happened to the bride's family? Her parents or siblings if any? The other bridesmaid was married. Married folks always sleep with their spouses? Single friends definitely can have a sleepover with the bride. But can't be expected the same from married people if the spouse is present right there! MOH was kinda shitty by having affair with photographer, but the other bridesmaid isn't at fault.
Brides Who Had Horrible Bridesmaids, What Happened?
I’m starting to wonder on what basis people choose their bridesmaids…
Laid Back Wedding In The Summer. The Bride Wore A Tank Top And Sarong. Her Friend Asked What Her Wedding Dress Would Be (And The Colors)
I don't think these comments are getting the issue is the bridesmaid turned up in the same outfit in the same colours after asking about it, not what the bride wanted to wear for her wedding
Groomsmen Plans To Propose At Bachelor/Ette Party. Group Is Split On Whether Or Not It's Okay. Comments Are All Bashing The Bride For Not Being Completely On Board. I Don't Think She's Wrong To Feel A Little Upset Though. What's Supposed To Be A Bach Party Is Going To Turn Into An Engagement Party!
as far as I know, its considered super rude to propose at someones wedding, i'm not positive that its the same for bachelor party, but I would assume that its still considered rude, as they are drawing the attention away from the couple, on what is supposed to be their day
Bride Needs To Find New Bridesmaids Asap
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I have a good nightmare bridesmaid story. It was at the wedding of a close relative. The woman in question got to be a bridesmaid because she was married to the Best Man (IIRC she made a fuss until she was asked) she wasn't especially close to the bride or groom herself. In fact they found her really annoying and tolerated her because she was the wife of a very good friend. I had made the wedding cake. I have also been fencing / demonstration sword fighting since I was about 15 and I have some nice swords. So brought one to cut the cake with style. The kids at the wedding were fascinated and I was letting them have their photo taken holding it under very close supervision. Cue the bridesmaid from hell coming over and trying to snatch the sword off one of the kids to have a go herself. I took it off her, and she had a tantrum because, "You'll let the kids hold it but not me and I am an adult." My response was, "There are three reasons for that. The kids asked first... 1/2
"...The kids listened to the safety briefing and didn't try to wave it about in a crowded marquee, and most importantly, the kids aren't steaming drunk before we've even got to the toasts." I spent the next hour (until the cake was cut) standing guard because she kept trying to steal the sword. After the cutting I locked it in my room. Fast forward to today. The bridesmaid from hell cheated on the Best Man (lovely chap who did not deserve that) and they are now divorced. The juiciest bit? All this time she has worked as one of Boris Johnson's "advisors" and she is now heavily implicated in the Partygate scandal. I shouldn't laugh. 2/2
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Some people just have a very shallow friendships. Almost every post is about it.
I just had my wedding in May. I am no longer friends with my maid of honor (and friend of 20 years) and my husband is no longer friends with any of his groomsman (also friends of 20 years). We learned they were literally bad mouthing us to our guest and friends during the wedding. They also got belligerently drunk and caused a scene,. My maid of honor takes the cake though by screaming “b***h a*s hoe!” At me in front of all my friends and family while my husband and I are waiting to do our grand exit. There was stuff leading up to the wedding as well, but to do what they did during the actual wedding was pretty despicable. We will now never be able to look back at our wedding photos without having those awful memories. It feels gross to even see her standing next me in the photos.
Renew your vows. Get a photographer and have a elaborate shoot and make it into a book. Send copies of the book to your loved friends and family. Send a middle finger to the as.s.hats and celebrate your love.
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Seriously, just don't invest thousands of dollars into a huge wedding. There is so much pressure for everything to be fairy-tale perfect and it won't be. You can't control everything but especially the weather and OTHER PEOPLE. I had a huge wedding first and a simple ceremony the second time around. You can have something beautiful with a small ceremony. Maybe in a beautiful public park or a swanky hotel, invite immediate family and/or a few of your closest friends. Nice dress but not wedding gown and no bridesmaids dresses to worry about. Hire a photographer and and officiant, and have a bouquet of flowers. Make reservations for a nice restaurant for everyone afterwards. Still spending a little money but not breaking the bank and because of the simplicity you won't be a nervous wreck.
I think that’s how weddings used to be. But now it’s become a billion dollar industry that the mentality is like everything else more more more. I want a simple dress for mine and to elope and have a great day afterwards. I don’t want to be stressed worrying about random s**t I don’t give a damn about.
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Apparently a lot of people don't know there friends until their getting married.
Will there be an article about groomsmen ruining the wedding for the grooms too? Reminds me of my husband who's groomsman was terrible.
It’s sad that the majority of people don’t know the basics of writing these days. I struggled to read through each one of these. I normally don’t complain because it’s usually just one out of every few posts that’s poorly written. But these were just all trash.
As a professional writer, I must agree with you. What happened to capitalization, Or to punctuation? Does sentence structure not mean anything anymore? I sometimes misspell words, or leave off letters at the end of a word: for example, "an" rather than "and". And for this I apologize. A neurological issue that formerly affected only my balance, is affecting other areas of my life. I do try. Which seems to be the case here.
Load More Replies... I have always wondered why the bridesmaids are expected to full on BUY their own dresses and shoes. Tux rental maybe, though it should still be in the wedding budget, but why ask a woman to put down hundreds of dollars on a dress she's only going to wear once. I know in an ideal world she could just say the role is out of her price range, but as we see here, so many interpersonal relationships would be ruined if she declined.
There are a number of places in this area (central MD) where you can donate formal clothing and they will loan them to poor income students/adults for prom or other occasions so they can go and have a good time.
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See this right here...this is why I eloped 21 years ago and have never regretted it. My family is large and full of drunken a-holes and I wasn't funding a kegger for them to beat the c**p out of each other. Save your money people! Go to your local courthouse have a nice little party after and invite people who actually care about you and your marriage. Don't start out your life together in debt. Use the money you'd spend on the wedding and put a down payment on a house. You'll have a much happier and healthier relationship in the long run.
My parents were married in their synagogue with just family, which was very small. They were married for 68 years when my dad dies. Fancy wedding does not equate to happy marriage, and vice versa.
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When my sisters bff got married she wanted to ask my sis to be MOH. But the brides mother wouldn't accept that. The MOB asked one of her own friends to be her daughters MOH. The friend accepted and neither of them would let her have any say in her own wedding. The girl didn't even really love the groom only accepted his proposal to be able to get away from her controlling mother. She was 19 and he was almost 30. Weirdest wedding I've ever been to.
I guess I'm the weird one, lol. My friend, who was a co-worker and the best man, proposed to his gf at my wedding reception. They stepped outside, then came back in about 10 minutes later. They both kept it VERY quiet until all the major events were done, then took me aside and broke the news, even apologizing for doing it that day. I was delighted! I even set up with our DJ to play their song and a low-key announcement. It just made the reception more fun.
Not my wedding but my youngest brother's. Now SIL is a really cool laid back personality to the point she really should stand up for herself as people sometimes walk all over her. Backstory, SIL had a small country themed wedding at an outdoor venue - think orange burlap and recycled compost flatware and plates, simple but very well executed. The bridesmaids had an earthy color pallet to choose from and the only strict condition was the girls had to go to a specific dress maker that was a family friend to get measure and decide on what style of dress they wanted. Day of the wedding, SIL forgot two batches of cupcakes in the freezer at home - brother and SIL went with homemade cupcakes instead of traditional wedding cake. My brother had to make an emergency trip back to their apartment which was an hour and a half away so he didn't know about the fiasco until it was too late, so don't get mad at him.
Cue the most ballsy ovaries I have ever seen/heard of. Bridesmaidzilla, lets call her Abby, had lost a significant amount of weight and had gotten a boob job - a jump from an A cup to a D cup - done from the time she was fitted for the dress and the wedding. So naturally when she put on the dress the day of the wedding it didn't fit well and this girl began to ball her eyes out and telling my SIL that she would not be seen in such an unflattering dress - especially now that she looked really good, mind you she lost the weight and got the boob job after the fitting and conveniently forgot to go back and get refitted. Abby is throwing this woe is me fit two hours before SIL is suppose to walk down the aisle. SIL, the amazing saint that she is, actually sits down with Abby and tries to comfort her and tell her that the dress isn't that bad, but Abby digs her heels in and tells SIL that she needs to find someone else or come up with another dress as Abby will not be seen in that dress.
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I am SO glad to be solitary and single after reading all this...
I have a good girlfriend who has a lot of insecurity issues. When I got engaged she didn't talk to me for two weeks because she "had to process that you got engaged before me." At my bachelorette party she got drunk and spent the whole time making fun of me, trying to contradict me, and pointing out all of my most embarrassing stories from our shared past. I think she was trying to "prove" to the other women (whom she was jealous of) that we were so close that she knew me better than anyone else and could make fun of me without it bothering me. Then her boyfriend's wallet got stolen from their hotel the day of my wedding and she blamed me for recommending a "crappy hotel" (it was one of the nicest hotels in the area). We didn't talk for a long time after those displays of crazy...
I have a good nightmare bridesmaid story. It was at the wedding of a close relative. The woman in question got to be a bridesmaid because she was married to the Best Man (IIRC she made a fuss until she was asked) she wasn't especially close to the bride or groom herself. In fact they found her really annoying and tolerated her because she was the wife of a very good friend. I had made the wedding cake. I have also been fencing / demonstration sword fighting since I was about 15 and I have some nice swords. So brought one to cut the cake with style. The kids at the wedding were fascinated and I was letting them have their photo taken holding it under very close supervision. Cue the bridesmaid from hell coming over and trying to snatch the sword off one of the kids to have a go herself. I took it off her, and she had a tantrum because, "You'll let the kids hold it but not me and I am an adult." My response was, "There are three reasons for that. The kids asked first... 1/2
"...The kids listened to the safety briefing and didn't try to wave it about in a crowded marquee, and most importantly, the kids aren't steaming drunk before we've even got to the toasts." I spent the next hour (until the cake was cut) standing guard because she kept trying to steal the sword. After the cutting I locked it in my room. Fast forward to today. The bridesmaid from hell cheated on the Best Man (lovely chap who did not deserve that) and they are now divorced. The juiciest bit? All this time she has worked as one of Boris Johnson's "advisors" and she is now heavily implicated in the Partygate scandal. I shouldn't laugh. 2/2
Load More Replies... Some people just have a very shallow friendships. Almost every post is about it.
I just had my wedding in May. I am no longer friends with my maid of honor (and friend of 20 years) and my husband is no longer friends with any of his groomsman (also friends of 20 years). We learned they were literally bad mouthing us to our guest and friends during the wedding. They also got belligerently drunk and caused a scene,. My maid of honor takes the cake though by screaming “b***h a*s hoe!” At me in front of all my friends and family while my husband and I are waiting to do our grand exit. There was stuff leading up to the wedding as well, but to do what they did during the actual wedding was pretty despicable. We will now never be able to look back at our wedding photos without having those awful memories. It feels gross to even see her standing next me in the photos.
Renew your vows. Get a photographer and have a elaborate shoot and make it into a book. Send copies of the book to your loved friends and family. Send a middle finger to the as.s.hats and celebrate your love.
Load More Replies... Seriously, just don't invest thousands of dollars into a huge wedding. There is so much pressure for everything to be fairy-tale perfect and it won't be. You can't control everything but especially the weather and OTHER PEOPLE. I had a huge wedding first and a simple ceremony the second time around. You can have something beautiful with a small ceremony. Maybe in a beautiful public park or a swanky hotel, invite immediate family and/or a few of your closest friends. Nice dress but not wedding gown and no bridesmaids dresses to worry about. Hire a photographer and and officiant, and have a bouquet of flowers. Make reservations for a nice restaurant for everyone afterwards. Still spending a little money but not breaking the bank and because of the simplicity you won't be a nervous wreck.
I think that’s how weddings used to be. But now it’s become a billion dollar industry that the mentality is like everything else more more more. I want a simple dress for mine and to elope and have a great day afterwards. I don’t want to be stressed worrying about random s**t I don’t give a damn about.
Load More Replies... Apparently a lot of people don't know there friends until their getting married.
Will there be an article about groomsmen ruining the wedding for the grooms too? Reminds me of my husband who's groomsman was terrible.
It’s sad that the majority of people don’t know the basics of writing these days. I struggled to read through each one of these. I normally don’t complain because it’s usually just one out of every few posts that’s poorly written. But these were just all trash.
As a professional writer, I must agree with you. What happened to capitalization, Or to punctuation? Does sentence structure not mean anything anymore? I sometimes misspell words, or leave off letters at the end of a word: for example, "an" rather than "and". And for this I apologize. A neurological issue that formerly affected only my balance, is affecting other areas of my life. I do try. Which seems to be the case here.
Load More Replies... I have always wondered why the bridesmaids are expected to full on BUY their own dresses and shoes. Tux rental maybe, though it should still be in the wedding budget, but why ask a woman to put down hundreds of dollars on a dress she's only going to wear once. I know in an ideal world she could just say the role is out of her price range, but as we see here, so many interpersonal relationships would be ruined if she declined.
There are a number of places in this area (central MD) where you can donate formal clothing and they will loan them to poor income students/adults for prom or other occasions so they can go and have a good time.
Load More Replies... See this right here...this is why I eloped 21 years ago and have never regretted it. My family is large and full of drunken a-holes and I wasn't funding a kegger for them to beat the c**p out of each other. Save your money people! Go to your local courthouse have a nice little party after and invite people who actually care about you and your marriage. Don't start out your life together in debt. Use the money you'd spend on the wedding and put a down payment on a house. You'll have a much happier and healthier relationship in the long run.
My parents were married in their synagogue with just family, which was very small. They were married for 68 years when my dad dies. Fancy wedding does not equate to happy marriage, and vice versa.
Load More Replies... When my sisters bff got married she wanted to ask my sis to be MOH. But the brides mother wouldn't accept that. The MOB asked one of her own friends to be her daughters MOH. The friend accepted and neither of them would let her have any say in her own wedding. The girl didn't even really love the groom only accepted his proposal to be able to get away from her controlling mother. She was 19 and he was almost 30. Weirdest wedding I've ever been to.
I guess I'm the weird one, lol. My friend, who was a co-worker and the best man, proposed to his gf at my wedding reception. They stepped outside, then came back in about 10 minutes later. They both kept it VERY quiet until all the major events were done, then took me aside and broke the news, even apologizing for doing it that day. I was delighted! I even set up with our DJ to play their song and a low-key announcement. It just made the reception more fun.
Not my wedding but my youngest brother's. Now SIL is a really cool laid back personality to the point she really should stand up for herself as people sometimes walk all over her. Backstory, SIL had a small country themed wedding at an outdoor venue - think orange burlap and recycled compost flatware and plates, simple but very well executed. The bridesmaids had an earthy color pallet to choose from and the only strict condition was the girls had to go to a specific dress maker that was a family friend to get measure and decide on what style of dress they wanted. Day of the wedding, SIL forgot two batches of cupcakes in the freezer at home - brother and SIL went with homemade cupcakes instead of traditional wedding cake. My brother had to make an emergency trip back to their apartment which was an hour and a half away so he didn't know about the fiasco until it was too late, so don't get mad at him.
Cue the most ballsy ovaries I have ever seen/heard of. Bridesmaidzilla, lets call her Abby, had lost a significant amount of weight and had gotten a boob job - a jump from an A cup to a D cup - done from the time she was fitted for the dress and the wedding. So naturally when she put on the dress the day of the wedding it didn't fit well and this girl began to ball her eyes out and telling my SIL that she would not be seen in such an unflattering dress - especially now that she looked really good, mind you she lost the weight and got the boob job after the fitting and conveniently forgot to go back and get refitted. Abby is throwing this woe is me fit two hours before SIL is suppose to walk down the aisle. SIL, the amazing saint that she is, actually sits down with Abby and tries to comfort her and tell her that the dress isn't that bad, but Abby digs her heels in and tells SIL that she needs to find someone else or come up with another dress as Abby will not be seen in that dress.
Load More Replies... I am SO glad to be solitary and single after reading all this...
I have a good girlfriend who has a lot of insecurity issues. When I got engaged she didn't talk to me for two weeks because she "had to process that you got engaged before me." At my bachelorette party she got drunk and spent the whole time making fun of me, trying to contradict me, and pointing out all of my most embarrassing stories from our shared past. I think she was trying to "prove" to the other women (whom she was jealous of) that we were so close that she knew me better than anyone else and could make fun of me without it bothering me. Then her boyfriend's wallet got stolen from their hotel the day of my wedding and she blamed me for recommending a "crappy hotel" (it was one of the nicest hotels in the area). We didn't talk for a long time after those displays of crazy...
