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Your wedding is supposed to be the happiest day in your life. But with all the pressure for it to be perfect, stress and sleepless nights, things more often than not go sour. Blame it on the bad weather, lack of planning, mercury in retrograde, or bridesmaids… speaking of whom, that's who this post is really about.

You are probably familiar with the corner of Reddit called “Wedding Shaming” where people gather to roast failed weddings, from tacky dresses to indecent behavior. With 312k members, it’s Reddit’s destination to blow off that steam if you just returned from a wedding you’d much rather have missed.  This time, brides are sharing the worst bridesmaid stories that happened during their weddings both on the subreddit and this Ask Reddit thread.

The stories below make you wonder how important it is to choose your close friends and family members so you don’t end up with a stolen spotlight and a bad memory.

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Bridesmaid/Sil From Hell From Dear Prudence

Bridesmaid/Sil From Hell From Dear Prudence

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To find out more about what it means to be a perfect bridesmaid and how common drama during wedding preparation is, as well as how to avoid it, Bored Panda spoke with the person who knows it all: Jen Glantz, the founder of Bridesmaid for Hire and The Newlywed Card Game, a 3x best-selling author, a voice of You’re Not Getting Any Younger podcast, and the brains behind Jen & Juice coaching, digital courses, & the Pick-Me-Up newsletter.

Glantz said that while we might think there's unity and peace inside of bridal parties, they are actually filled with conflict and drama. “That's because weddings are filled with decisions, pop-up challenges, and a lot of emotions. When you bring your friends and family into that equation and ask them to stand by your side, while also giving them a to-do list of things you expect them to do during your wedding adventure, it can bring a level of intensity that didn't exist before the wedding within that relationship,” she explained.

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She Looks Absolutely Gorgeous.... Except She’s Not The Bride

She Looks Absolutely Gorgeous.... Except She’s Not The Bride

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Brides Who Had Horrible Bridesmaids, What Happened?

Brides Who Had Horrible Bridesmaids, What Happened?

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Joe Blowe
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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

How dare you even ask her to curl her hair, that is going way overboard with the demands, hahaha

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There Is A Whole Lot To Unpack Here

There Is A Whole Lot To Unpack Here

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A lot of conflicts happen because of lack of communication and expectations, Glantz argues. “So much can be avoided if the person getting married clearly states what they want from their bridal party and the people in the bridal party openly share what they are able and willing to do before the wedding process even starts.”When asked about what it takes to be the perfect bridesmaid for the bride, Glantz said it's so much like being a good friend. “Before you even say yes to being a bridesmaid, have a game plan in mind,” she said.

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Shaming My Bridesmaid For Shaming My Eating Habits

Shaming My Bridesmaid For Shaming My Eating Habits

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Lawrencium
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Fun fact: people who make negative comments on other people's eating habits are less likely to die of natural causes!

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Time To Fire The Bridesmaid

Time To Fire The Bridesmaid

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A Perfect Time To Propose (Bridesmaid's Friend's Wedding)

A Perfect Time To Propose (Bridesmaid's Friend's Wedding)

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Vera1
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I don’t think one can blame the bridesmaid. She’s not the one doing the proposing, after all

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Judes
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Isn't this the fault of the guy proposing, not the bridesmaid? (unless she was in on it).

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Little Wonder
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I've seen this done with the full permission of the couple getting married, so it's not ALWAYS terrible, but usually is.

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Carrie de Luka
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I see this as justification a lot but it still isn't THEIR day. Even if the couple are okay with it, why even ask to do it then? What if the couple getting married want to say no but feel they can't? Some people aren't good at sticking up for themselves and what they really want. What is in the heads of the people who even ask??? Do it somewhen else. There are zero reasons to pick someone else's day when, hopefully, it will be the only day they get married. There are many, many other days in the year. It also doesn't give the woman an easy space to say no if she wants. It puts pressure on her to say yes or will embarrass everyone if she says no. It's simply not a good idea.

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Desiree McKinnon
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I've seen this done where, during the bouquet toss the bride hands the bouquet to the girl and the groom walks the guy over. So the girl has the 'caught' the bouquet next to marry and then turns around to find her guy on one knee with a ring.

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Auntriarch
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That would actually be cute if the bride and groom were in on it. But I still wouldn't

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Rachel Ann
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It's the boyfriend that's the jerk, not the bridesmaid, but so incredibly selfish. You can propose anytime and anywhere. Somebody only gets married (hopefully) once.

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Sara Wolfson
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Or maybe he had permission? There’s absolutely zero context provided for the picture.

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Gwyn
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Stop with the public proposals already! It's not fair to the potential spouse.

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Rosie Hamilton
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Totally agree. Make it a private, special moment. That way you're not going to be embarrassed as much if you get told no and you can make a big fuss of an announcement if you want that.

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Callie Ge
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

No no no no no tacky tacky tacky. Hijacking someone else’s wedding & turning it into Your Engagement Party, the groom & other grooms men should frog March them out & lock the door.

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Keerthi Vardhan
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Wish it was a rejection -- to give a taste of his own doing of choosing the occasion.

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Pollywog
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Pathetic! Be sure to announce a pregnancy during their reception!! Even if it's just your dog's!!!

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Ellen Larkin
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Hell NO they would both be kicked out of my wedding time and place for this and someone else's wedding is NOT IT

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Slytherin_4_LYF
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Depends, if it was pre approved then it's fine, but def a bit shitty on the guys part for planning. Like you couldn't think of anything else and involve the immediate family? Sounds like a cheap way to do it if you ask me

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Lu
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Just not the right place or time, ever in my opinion.

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Tree P
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

What an a$$-f**k thing to do!!! Both would be out of my life!

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Trice he/him
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

the girl to the right of the woman in red is deadass ashamed of these two

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Kate Micheals
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

They were welcome to pick any one of the other 364 days of the year to get engaged.

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Id row
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That's a major AH move if they didn't get permission from the couple first.

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signore cappelletti
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

.....that guy...................those shoes.................ick all around there.............

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Zelda Blue
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Unless you discuss this with the bride and groom first and they give the ok to do at their wedding, then this is very rude to do.

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Dill
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Rather rude to ask though - why pick THEN? The bride and groom might not like to say no but secretly hate it. They have spent money and time creating a day for themselves, to share their day with others. It's just so very tacky. What if the person being asked wants to say NO as well?

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Marion
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Daft. I would be soooo embarrassed if that was my partner! And if she knew, she wouldn’t be a friend of mine. I don’t know selfish idiots.

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Mickie Shea
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11 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Never wear white and if your not the bride and as this is the brides day so never propose at another's wedding.

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Chanbae
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I remember seeing something like this on Reddit, but this was during the brides father daughter dance. The groom got back at his brother who decided to propose after telling him not to do this. He hired an actress because he saw the recipt for the ring and she told them that she was his side chick and she was pregnant with his baby and broke them up

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Chanbae
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I remember seeing something like this on Reddit, but this was during the brides father daughter dance. The groom got back at his brother who decided to propose after telling him not to do this. He hired an actress because he saw the recipt for the ring (or his friend did and warned him) and told her to tell them that she was pregnant with his baby and broke them up

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AK to LV
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This happened at my friends wedding. However, the boyfriend proposed in the parking lot with no one around. They didn't announce to anyone after. I only know because I walked up right after it happened.

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Chloe Hagoort
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I am only okay with this if the BF has spoken to the bride and groom before the wedding. If the bride and groom are okay with this, then this is amazing! But please ask and make sure they want to share their special day with you.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

When my partner and I get married, I am actively going to try and seek out a friend who is ready to propose to their partner because I think a proposal at a wedding is so lovely, but NOT without getting permission from the couple first!!! That isn't something you do without their full, enthusiastic endorsement.

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Barbie
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I wouldn't mind but ONLY IF they did the proposal towards the end when everyone is winding down, after dinner and 1st dances and all that..

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I'mNotARoboat
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Honestly, unless the crowd is made up of lunatics and don't know the rule, this seems like permission was given.

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Lady Goldberry
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

More distracted by the horrible gray shoes the men of the wedding party are wearing.

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Memere
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

#1 - NOT cool. #2 - even if the bride & groom say it's ok, still NOT COOL!

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GPZ
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I thought this was universally considered bad form...

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M.
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It's really poor taste to propose to someone at someone else's wedding. Eww.

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just another teen
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

the only way i could agree with this if the bride okayed it and wanted to do it

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Alesha Folsom
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Their outfits remind me of Easter eggs, or butter mints. Or cotton candy... And as for proposing, everybody is smiling, so I guess it's OK with this crowd!!

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Red Panda
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This is when you announce your pregnancy at her wedding (even if you're not pregnant)...

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Moon
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I can see how wrong it is but she could be happy for her friend

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btaglln
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Those shoes are horrendous, it looks like they are painted

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Valerie Anne
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Unless the bride and groom knew and were on with it, this is not cool

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Kainaath Khan
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Hasn't this become common, like I have seen so many videos like this on Instagram.

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Alma Muminovic
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This isn’t bad, happiness inspires and if her friend is mad at her for taking attention away from her big day then thats kinda sad.

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Rosie Hamilton
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I don't think it's so much that it's 'taking attention away' as just is not an appropriate time to do it. Not every proposal gets a yes. Even if people don't mind the attention being taken away from them, it's still just really unnecessary. There are 365 days in the year - pick another moment that isn't costing someone else a small fortune.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Unless they acquired permission from the bride and groom themselves.

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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Granted, this is not really the done things at someone else’s wedding, but if I had good friends who were on the cusp of getting engaged and one asked to proposed to the other at our wedding, I would actually be THRILLED to be part of it all and think it would be a fun bit of excitement to add to our wedding. But that’s just me.

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Stoopham McFernybabes
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My opinion about what I would be happy to happen at my own wedding gets a downvote? That’s so weird. Can you explain why instead of just downvoting? Have a discussion with me

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm not sure if I would be so upset. It's a celebration. I'd be okay with it if I know it was going to happen. Other than that I'd feel left out and not apart of "their" celebration.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I dunno - I’m on the fence here. Half of me says even if you get permission from the happy couple, it is not the time since it is their day. But then, weddings are celebrations of love, so what better time? The cycle of expectant wedded bliss continues with the next coupling.

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Sarah Levine
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Clearly this would need to be cleared with the bride and groom, but happiness is not a zero sum game. The bridesmaids happiness doesn't detract from the wedding, it only adds to it. I don't get the "all eyes must be on me all the time" mentality some brides have.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Because it's their day to get married!!!! And there's the rest of the year for him to propose!

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

To be honest, I would be more annoyed AT THE FRIGGING COLOUR THEME OF THAT WEDDING! What the hell were they thinking?! "I've found some beautiful pale, icy turquoise bridesmaid's dresses!" "Oooooh, lovely! What colour flowers are you having in the bouquets? Pale pinks and creams? Peach? Or simple white?" "Naaaaaaah. I like colours that clash. Bring on the royal blue."

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Glantz’s advice is to reflect on a couple of things: “Understand how much time, money, and energy you can spend on this person's wedding adventure. Say no to things you can't afford or can't do. Be upfront and don't be scared to be honest about your expectations in the role.” Moreover, Glantz argues that “if the person getting married gets mad at you because you can't afford to take three days off work and spend $1,500 on her bachelorette party, then the friendship has bigger issues.”

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With Friends Like These Who Needs Enemies 😬

With Friends Like These Who Needs Enemies 😬

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My Sister Is Getting Married. This Is The Dress One Of Her Bridesmaids Bought

My Sister Is Getting Married. This Is The Dress One Of Her Bridesmaids Bought

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Brides Who Had Horrible Bridesmaids, What Happened?

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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

So either an attention seeking prat or the MOH knew the husband better than the bride thought…

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“Also, as a bridesmaid, it's important to practice some selflessness in the tough moments. Be there for the person getting married and support them. Let things go that don't really matter so you can help your friend get through the wedding. For example, if you're getting your hair done on the morning of the wedding but it's not perfect, rather than holding up the wedding timeline for you to get it re-done and bringing attention to it (which can stress the bride out), fix it privately yourself and move on,” the life coach and Bridesmaid for Hire explained.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Drop her. A "first met" date in comparison to a wedding is like a candle to the sun. It. Is. Not. Her. Day. It is YOURS!

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Brides Who Had Horrible Bridesmaids, What Happened?

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I’m surprised there was a friendship in the first place…or did the new guy turn her into this monster? Huge red flag.

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When it comes to deciding who you want to have as a bridesmaid, Glantz suggests thinking about this: “who would you want to get stuck in an elevator with for 4 hours? Those are the people who should be your bridesmaids. Pick people who make you feel calm and loved.” She added that it’s not a good idea to pick people because you feel obligated to.

For the bride who feels very pressured to have the most perfect day in their life, Glantz reminds that no wedding is perfect, just like no day in your life is. “Instead, think about practicing ways to go with the flow, handle emotions, and rebalance expectations before your big day comes to life.”

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Brides Who Had Horrible Bridesmaids, What Happened?

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Brides Who Had Horrible Bridesmaids, What Happened?

Brides Who Had Horrible Bridesmaids, What Happened?

I’ll try to keep this short. My supposed best friend “E” was a toxic friend but I was still in the 16yr friendship at the time of my wedding, urgh.
I didn’t want a hen do & my hubby didn’t want a stagger so we just had a wee pre-wedding party, it was just cheesey good natured fun including games and stuff. I totally understand that’s not everyone’s idea of fun but, y’know... it was our wedding. She sat apart from us all, audibly making fun of everything we did but I just ignored her because she was always nasty & insufferably ‘cool’ & I didn’t want drama when my sister had organised it & we were having fun.
“E” has stretched ear lobes so I asked her if she wouldn’t mind wearing flesh coloured plugs and earrings to match the other girls. She said yes but on the day she said she’d lost the plugs I’d bought her and had in obnoxiously large black things that really drew your eye but I’m not a maniac, these things happen & I didn’t really care that much.... until I found out she’d been making fun of how she loved throwing the plugs in the bin and that I’m such an idiot, I’d believe her. Why wouldn’t I since I’d only asked her to do it for me as a favour because I liked the earring I bought my bridesmaids, I would never demand someone change their appearance for me.
On my wedding day, she waltzed into breakfast at the venue in her pyjamas with a bucket, claiming she had a migraine and was going to be spewing all day. I knew she was faking because it’s nearly impossible to fake a full on migraine while you’re walking about talking to people & laughing. I suggested that she can go lie down in one of the bedrooms but she aggressively said “I guess I’ll just have to deal with it but I’ll need to have a bucket at the ceremony”. My sister told her that wasn’t an acceptable option and if she needed to go home that could be arranged for her but she didn’t go home nor show any further signs of a migraine. She was snippy for the whole rest of the day & made a scene on the dance floor at night by doing an unplanned choreographed dance with her new friend to a song that we used to dance to when we went out at weekends as kids. It was a kick in the teeth although I was too happy to get upset. Our friendship was never the same after that day & she ended up finishing the friendship in a storm of drama just after I had my first kid. She’s an awful person.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I had a friend like that. Got mad at me for getting married and even worse after I had a kid because "I wasn't hanging out with her anymore." Life happens and it's not up to me to help you find your happiness.

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Brides Who Had Horrible Bridesmaids, What Happened?

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

She may have been embarrassed that she left things too late, or perhaps couldn’t afford them, but this is still a terrible way to treat people. But then why tell other people not to come? There has to be more to this…

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“In the end, you're celebrating a new step you're taking in your relationship. That's all that matters. If the flowers don't look right or a bridesmaid is causing drama, let it go, focus on the good, and have a good time. You staying present and celebrating the good will outshine what goes wrong on your wedding day,” the life coach concluded.

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Brides Who Had Horrible Bridesmaids, What Happened?

Brides Who Had Horrible Bridesmaids, What Happened?

I was pretty young when I got married, got engaged my senior year of college and got married the summer out of college. We’re in the South, so it’s not uncommon for that to happen.

Had a bridesmaid who had been a somewhat close friend. Her boyfriend (of 6 months, but they “had known each other for longer”) had not proposed to her yet, and she would consistently take her frustration about that out on me. Saying things like how they “deserve” to get married first since they knew each other longer than my now husband and I (which, I might add was false), saying nasty, damning with faint praise things to me. Insulting my body, insulting me in general, little caustic comments that would just hurt honestly. It got really out of hand. She finally stopped talking to me and would purposely leave me out of things that our friend group would do. She was a very homely type of person, and a big part of a Church crowd which made things so much worse imo. She constantly acted holier than thou and many people saw her “innocence” as kindness and assumed she was nice just because she was Churchy.

About a month or so later, I confronted her about it. I told her that I felt like our friendship was dwindling and I didn’t understand why. I told her how I felt and that if it was something I had done that I’d do my best to amend it. She flipped out saying “she wasn’t jealous but she just knew what was right and wrong”, inferring that her relationship was “better” somehow. It was absolutely mad. I asked her if she even wanted to be in the wedding at this point. She said she did, she really did and never even apologized. Looking back on this situation I should’ve never asked her in the first place. She suddenly went cold-Turkey ignoring me. I finally asked if she and I could talk and she acquiesced. I “fired” her from being a bridesmaid. I felt horrible about it. I truly did. At the same time, I couldn’t handle all the straight up bullying I was taking. I never once yelled at her, never once called her any names. She told everyone I yelled at her and called her a b***h. 😂 Even if I had, that would’ve been nothing compared to the s**t I endured from her.

My other bridesmaids were amazing and really took my side on this. She finally got engaged and married to that dude and I hope she’s happy now. Jesus she made my life miserable for a solid 6 months.

tl;dr lesson - if you choose to have bridesmaids, pick only the people you know you’ll be close to for years to come. And don’t let people bully you!

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MacKenzie Moore
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

change the color by pouring champagne all over her. problem solved. (have her pay for the wasted bubbly).

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Shaming Bridesmaid

Shaming Bridesmaid

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Olivia Lisbon
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I don’t think I’d mind having a good boy at my wedding or in the pictures…but I’d definitely like to know about it in advance.

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Brides Who Had Horrible Bridesmaids, What Happened?

Brides Who Had Horrible Bridesmaids, What Happened?

I chose my sisters, which was the biggest mistake.

They fought me on every single decision when it came to the dress. Everyone they chose looked too casual or was very inappropriate for a wedding (think either a faux leather peplum dress from Guess, or a casual Wilfred dress from Aritzia). After I searched for weeks online and at stores, they finally agreed on one from Nordstrom which I had to order and take care of. They fought me on any "duties" or helping with any sort of prep. They showed up for 4 hours the day before. Argued on any placement of decorations and took off after I begged everyone to do a short rehearsal. Even though I told them I needed help. (Keep in mind they did not have to travel for the wedding, my husband and I arranged it so WE were the only ones who had to travel far). No bridal shower, no bachelorette party. They claimed they were too busy. A friend offered to throw one and they told her no, they would plan one...they never did. Two nights before the wedding, I told them I booked reservations for us and my mom at a local pub just to have something. I ended up having to cancel because they didn't want too. (My mom enabled and justified a lot of their behavior. And she wonders why I felt like they were the favourites growing up). The day of they did not help me at all get ready at all. My photographers were amazing who did everything from help me finish my hair and make up
(they even ran out to get me new lashes because mine got wrecked) and get me into my dress. And, at the reception, they made a toast...which was so awkward. It was basically about who should have been the maid of honour and basically being all about them. I remember looking out and peoples faces were just cringing. At the end I just focused on having fun the rest of the night and ignoring them.

Looking back, I should have not had them. I came pretty close to having a bridezilla moment, because I was just so fed up. All they did was go dress shopping with me once, they went out one afternoon to look for bridesmaid dresses which they didn't find any, I had too. They showed up a the hall for 4 hours to set up, and they showed up at the wedding. That was it. Anything additional I asked, I got told no. Or, any plans I tried to make to have a bit of fun before I was told no. I had a couple friends who step up big time the weeks before, and I felt so shitty because I should have asked them.

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A Mean Bridesmaid Picked It Apart Before The Bride Could See It. This Is The Only Pic I Took

A Mean Bridesmaid Picked It Apart Before The Bride Could See It. This Is The Only Pic I Took

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Brides Who Had Horrible Bridesmaids, What Happened?

Brides Who Had Horrible Bridesmaids, What Happened?

I chose my best friend of 16 years to be my maid of honor. Big mistake on my part as she has a strong personality, can be very controlling, and is studying to be a lawyer, so she believes she can never be wrong.

About 4 months ago, my fiancé and I were thinking it over and decided it’d be cheaper and easier to just have a backyard wedding to save some money, as we were due to spend at least $16k at our current venue. I told my MOH about it, thinking she’d be supportive, but instead she just s**t all over the idea. She called it trashy and a “glorified graduation party”.

Thinking it would do no harm I asked her mom if it’d be a possibility for us to have the wedding in her backyard. Due to liability reasons she declined. The next day my MOH confronts me and calls me a sh**ty person and selfish for going behind her back and asking her mom. They don’t have the best relationship, but they still talk every now and then and I really thought it wouldn’t be an issue. I apologized over and over to my friend, while she repeatedly told me I was stupid and didn’t know how to use my f*****g brain and didn’t know what I was doing. I finally ended the conversation by basically kicking her out of the wedding party.

We’re now getting married in 3 months on the beach in Florida, with a small set of close friends and family. Either my friend doesn’t know, or she does and hasn’t bothered to confront me about it. I’ve only spoken to her once since our fight a few months ago - to wish her a happy birthday and she was a complete d**k to me. Sad to say I lost one of my best friends over my own wedding, because I didn’t agree with her.

And she called me the selfish one...

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Carol Emory
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I do think it was weird for you to bypass her and ask her mother if you could use her backyard.

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Bridesmaidzilla Can't Accept She's Not Moh, Insists Bride Is Lying About Her Relationship With Real Moh And Thinks It's Because She's "Hot".

Bridesmaidzilla Can't Accept She's Not Moh, Insists Bride Is Lying About Her Relationship With Real Moh And Thinks It's Because She's "Hot".

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Brides Who Had Horrible Bridesmaids, What Happened?

Brides Who Had Horrible Bridesmaids, What Happened?

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Kalpana M
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I don't see a problem with this.. What happened to the bride's family? Her parents or siblings if any? The other bridesmaid was married. Married folks always sleep with their spouses? Single friends definitely can have a sleepover with the bride. But can't be expected the same from married people if the spouse is present right there! MOH was kinda shitty by having affair with photographer, but the other bridesmaid isn't at fault.

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Brides Who Had Horrible Bridesmaids, What Happened?

Brides Who Had Horrible Bridesmaids, What Happened?

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Laid Back Wedding In The Summer. The Bride Wore A Tank Top And Sarong. Her Friend Asked What Her Wedding Dress Would Be (And The Colors)

Laid Back Wedding In The Summer. The Bride Wore A Tank Top And Sarong. Her Friend Asked What Her Wedding Dress Would Be (And The Colors)

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Sarah Pierce
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I don't think these comments are getting the issue is the bridesmaid turned up in the same outfit in the same colours after asking about it, not what the bride wanted to wear for her wedding

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Groomsmen Plans To Propose At Bachelor/Ette Party. Group Is Split On Whether Or Not It's Okay. Comments Are All Bashing The Bride For Not Being Completely On Board. I Don't Think She's Wrong To Feel A Little Upset Though. What's Supposed To Be A Bach Party Is Going To Turn Into An Engagement Party!

Groomsmen Plans To Propose At Bachelor/Ette Party. Group Is Split On Whether Or Not It's Okay. Comments Are All Bashing The Bride For Not Being Completely On Board. I Don't Think She's Wrong To Feel A Little Upset Though. What's Supposed To Be A Bach Party Is Going To Turn Into An Engagement Party!

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A Random Potato
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

as far as I know, its considered super rude to propose at someones wedding, i'm not positive that its the same for bachelor party, but I would assume that its still considered rude, as they are drawing the attention away from the couple, on what is supposed to be their day

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Bride Needs To Find New Bridesmaids Asap

Bride Needs To Find New Bridesmaids Asap

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Linnea
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

WTAF is this person trying to say? Best I can figure, this bridesmaid decided to attend some random bachelor party at a different hotel, instead of going to her friend's bachelorette party? Is...is that it? I'm so confused.

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