Bride Shames Bridesmaid Who Got Angry After The Bride Refused To Buy Her $250 Shoes For The Wedding
It’s impossible to make everyone in the world like you and no matter how generous or charitable you are, there will always be someone who complains that what you’re doing isn’t enough.
That’s the situation one bride found herself in when she offered to pay for her four bridesmaids’ dresses, make-up, and even said she’d buy one of them a pair of shoes.
However, instead of thanking the bride for her willingness to cover a lot of the costs, one of the bridesmaids found something to complain about. Specifically, that the bride wouldn’t buy her an expensive pair of shoes of her own choosing and told her to pick out a budget option.
One bride was generous enough to offer to pay for one of her bridesmaid’s shoes for the wedding…
Image credits: Quinn Dombrowski (not the actual photo)
…but the bridesmaid chose a very expensive pair of shoes
The shoes cost 190 pounds (250 dollars), which is a lot when you take into account that the bride is already paying for so many things for her bridesmaids. Not to mention the cost of the actual wedding!
The cherry on top is that the bridesmaid has an ‘all or nothing’ attitude and isn’t willing to compromise by picking out a cheaper pair of shoes. Talk about being a real choosing beggar.
When Redditor Palm-vie posted the story on the ‘Choosing Beggars’ subreddit, it went viral, getting more than 12,200 upvotes in less than 7 hours. The Redditor had to explain several times to everyone that they weren’t the bride in question, though.
The question of whether the bride and groom should pay for everything related to the wedding is one that comes up a lot when the big day approaches.
For example, Gabriella Risatti of Gabriella New York Bridal Salon told journalists from the online magazine Brides that the rules regarding paying for bridesmaids have changed. “We’ve seen more brides paying for their bridesmaid dresses, especially if they pick a more expensive dress for their ‘maids to wear,” she said, stating that it would be thoughtful of the bride to help her bridesmaids out if she can afford to.
Usually, conflicts between brides and their bridesmaids center around the cost of clothing, make-up, etc. Some bridesmaids don’t want to shell out a lot of cash for clothes they’ll wear for one day and often this can lead to arguments, fights, and lots of bickering.
Some Reddit users gave the bride advice on how to handle the situation
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Sorry to be negative, but seriously, boredpanda. Just about every post lately has fallen into this formula: "Person is mean/says bad thing/ won't support x political movement, gets destroyed/shamed in the comments/on twitter/ other social media."
I honestly don't get this whole "several bridesmaids and all of them looking alike" thing. Different culture I guess.
It's just stupid! People want perfect photos. I never had any bridesmaids. Why bother? It just stresses your friends out.
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$20 in payless this is why I'm jealous of American pricing. The cheapest shoes in a pay less that actually can be warn are like $50 $20 shoes are like flip flops at best.
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This bridesmaid is being so childish. She should just pick a different pair of shoes or decide that she doesn't want to be involved anymore. If you are demanding 250 dollar shoes then you need to buy them yourself. Especially when the bride has paid for everything else.
When my husband and I got married, we looked at all the hassle and money entailed in a traditional wedding and then eloped. We got an officiant, went to the beach at sunrise and we married each other as the sun rose over a pink and orange ocean, with waves gently rolling into shore. We got two early-morning beach walkers to act as witnesses, and another volunteered to take pictures. It was the best wedding we ever went to! Later that day, we joined all our friends (who had no idea we were getting married that day) at a community wide reunion picnic and had a blast. I hear so much of people taking out loans to pay for these ridiculous weddings for marriages that don't last long enough to pay off the loan. Our wedding cost just over $100 (I bought a dress on Amazon for $30 and beaded it myself, plus made my flower headpiece and veil. All together it cost under $50.) We spent the rest of the day with all the people we cared about, and didn't have to spend the next 10 years paying it off.
So many brides put waaay too much energy and angst into the wedding. I'm more impressed by a couple who values the marriage more than the ceremony. My husband and I had a simple wedding (1 bridesmaid, who bought her own dress; 75 guests) and a paid for honeymoon. No debt. We had a beautiful 30-year marriage to death did us part. I never regretted a simple wedding.
I've heard of a Bridezilla, but a Bridesmaidzilla that is a first!
I just had this happen with the "I know you're helping me, but I'm going to take advantage of that and not be grateful for it." Who does this bridesmaid think she is? Demanding the expensive shoes or nothing. She sure has an over inflated belief of how important she is to this wedding. Bridesmaids can be replaced, Honey. Kick her to the curb.
It's choosy beggar. Please stop saying "choosing beggar". The phrase "choosing beggar" doesn't even make sense. Definition "choosy" (which is an adjective): "hard to please, particular; fastidious, especially in making a selection". Definition "choosing": "present participle of choose". It's a verb: "She is currently choosing her wedding dress."
I got married by an ordained minister friend in my parents backyard. We had chili for dinner. It was great and cost under $100.
For my wedding , I bought the brides maids and maid of honor dress, paid for their make up , hair and jewelry, when it came to the shoes, there was an issue because one of my brides maids has a foot issue, which means she can only where a certain type of, which would cost more than the others, all the brides maids decided to wear the same type of shoe as her, for continuity, and I split the cost of the more costly shoes, which they got to keep. I never asked them to do this, they got together to work out the shoe issue and they offered to do it, for me, they are still some of the most awesome people I know today! The brides maid in this story is just trying to take advantage of an already generous bride and it says a lot about the brides maid's character.
I would cut the bridesmaid from the wedding party. If she can't be happy to be asked to be part of the wedding day of her friend without being a pain in the butt about it then she needs to hit the street walking.
Getting sick of these small family/friend arguments "going viral". Who cares about your stupid bridesmaid "problem"?! Why does everyone feel the need to share every detail of their lives with the world? If her choice in husband is as bad as her choice in friend this marriage will be over pretty quickly.
It's called...social media. Where you hear every Damn thought everyone has 24/7. Lol.
Load More Replies... Luckily nobody sent me the memo about needing bridesmaids 10y ago. Would have added 25% to total cost apparently.
I suppose it's all personal preference as to how similar you want the bridesmaids to look, but at the end of the day it's going to be harder to find something that suits a higher number of people while looking the same. As for me, I had two bridesmaids. I had them wear the same skirt (my aunt made it from fabric I paid for), they then chose a black top (yes, black) which I paid for, and they wore their own black shoes. They both looked cohesive, but because they chose tops that suited their frames it meant they were also comfortable and could even re-wear the top after the wedding.
Guess you could call this choosing beggar a bridesmaidzilla. And a barefoot one at that.
Is this bridesmaid a friend of the bride or someone from the groom's family like a sister or cousin who the bride is being forced to make a bridesmaid? If a friend of the bride, !!!!, if not, tricky.
Both of them are bitches. How about stop forcing your " freinds" to buy expensive outfits for your wedding. I told my friends wear whatever they want! Weddings are for couples, who needs bridesmaids/ groomsmen?? I had a flower girl only cause my niece wanted to. Keep it humble don't be a totally insufferable a hole
Wow, what a lovely bridesmaid /s On another note, I have never understood why traditionally bridesmaids pay for their own dresses, shoes etc when the bride asked THEM to be part of the wedding. I actually find it quite rude. The only thing I didn’t pay for with my bridesmaids was their hair and that because they were just wearing it down and straightened with my hair straightener.
Everyone I know in the UK who has got married has paid for the bridesmaids' kit....but the bridesmaid consequently has to fit in with what the bride wants unless the bride is very chilled.
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Mens can be so horrible when it's about women.
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Sorry to be negative, but seriously, boredpanda. Just about every post lately has fallen into this formula: "Person is mean/says bad thing/ won't support x political movement, gets destroyed/shamed in the comments/on twitter/ other social media."
I honestly don't get this whole "several bridesmaids and all of them looking alike" thing. Different culture I guess.
It's just stupid! People want perfect photos. I never had any bridesmaids. Why bother? It just stresses your friends out.
Load More Replies... $20 in payless this is why I'm jealous of American pricing. The cheapest shoes in a pay less that actually can be warn are like $50 $20 shoes are like flip flops at best.
Load More Replies... This bridesmaid is being so childish. She should just pick a different pair of shoes or decide that she doesn't want to be involved anymore. If you are demanding 250 dollar shoes then you need to buy them yourself. Especially when the bride has paid for everything else.
When my husband and I got married, we looked at all the hassle and money entailed in a traditional wedding and then eloped. We got an officiant, went to the beach at sunrise and we married each other as the sun rose over a pink and orange ocean, with waves gently rolling into shore. We got two early-morning beach walkers to act as witnesses, and another volunteered to take pictures. It was the best wedding we ever went to! Later that day, we joined all our friends (who had no idea we were getting married that day) at a community wide reunion picnic and had a blast. I hear so much of people taking out loans to pay for these ridiculous weddings for marriages that don't last long enough to pay off the loan. Our wedding cost just over $100 (I bought a dress on Amazon for $30 and beaded it myself, plus made my flower headpiece and veil. All together it cost under $50.) We spent the rest of the day with all the people we cared about, and didn't have to spend the next 10 years paying it off.
So many brides put waaay too much energy and angst into the wedding. I'm more impressed by a couple who values the marriage more than the ceremony. My husband and I had a simple wedding (1 bridesmaid, who bought her own dress; 75 guests) and a paid for honeymoon. No debt. We had a beautiful 30-year marriage to death did us part. I never regretted a simple wedding.
I've heard of a Bridezilla, but a Bridesmaidzilla that is a first!
I just had this happen with the "I know you're helping me, but I'm going to take advantage of that and not be grateful for it." Who does this bridesmaid think she is? Demanding the expensive shoes or nothing. She sure has an over inflated belief of how important she is to this wedding. Bridesmaids can be replaced, Honey. Kick her to the curb.
It's choosy beggar. Please stop saying "choosing beggar". The phrase "choosing beggar" doesn't even make sense. Definition "choosy" (which is an adjective): "hard to please, particular; fastidious, especially in making a selection". Definition "choosing": "present participle of choose". It's a verb: "She is currently choosing her wedding dress."
I got married by an ordained minister friend in my parents backyard. We had chili for dinner. It was great and cost under $100.
For my wedding , I bought the brides maids and maid of honor dress, paid for their make up , hair and jewelry, when it came to the shoes, there was an issue because one of my brides maids has a foot issue, which means she can only where a certain type of, which would cost more than the others, all the brides maids decided to wear the same type of shoe as her, for continuity, and I split the cost of the more costly shoes, which they got to keep. I never asked them to do this, they got together to work out the shoe issue and they offered to do it, for me, they are still some of the most awesome people I know today! The brides maid in this story is just trying to take advantage of an already generous bride and it says a lot about the brides maid's character.
I would cut the bridesmaid from the wedding party. If she can't be happy to be asked to be part of the wedding day of her friend without being a pain in the butt about it then she needs to hit the street walking.
Getting sick of these small family/friend arguments "going viral". Who cares about your stupid bridesmaid "problem"?! Why does everyone feel the need to share every detail of their lives with the world? If her choice in husband is as bad as her choice in friend this marriage will be over pretty quickly.
It's called...social media. Where you hear every Damn thought everyone has 24/7. Lol.
Load More Replies... Luckily nobody sent me the memo about needing bridesmaids 10y ago. Would have added 25% to total cost apparently.
I suppose it's all personal preference as to how similar you want the bridesmaids to look, but at the end of the day it's going to be harder to find something that suits a higher number of people while looking the same. As for me, I had two bridesmaids. I had them wear the same skirt (my aunt made it from fabric I paid for), they then chose a black top (yes, black) which I paid for, and they wore their own black shoes. They both looked cohesive, but because they chose tops that suited their frames it meant they were also comfortable and could even re-wear the top after the wedding.
Guess you could call this choosing beggar a bridesmaidzilla. And a barefoot one at that.
Is this bridesmaid a friend of the bride or someone from the groom's family like a sister or cousin who the bride is being forced to make a bridesmaid? If a friend of the bride, !!!!, if not, tricky.
Both of them are bitches. How about stop forcing your " freinds" to buy expensive outfits for your wedding. I told my friends wear whatever they want! Weddings are for couples, who needs bridesmaids/ groomsmen?? I had a flower girl only cause my niece wanted to. Keep it humble don't be a totally insufferable a hole
Wow, what a lovely bridesmaid /s On another note, I have never understood why traditionally bridesmaids pay for their own dresses, shoes etc when the bride asked THEM to be part of the wedding. I actually find it quite rude. The only thing I didn’t pay for with my bridesmaids was their hair and that because they were just wearing it down and straightened with my hair straightener.
Everyone I know in the UK who has got married has paid for the bridesmaids' kit....but the bridesmaid consequently has to fit in with what the bride wants unless the bride is very chilled.
Load More Replies... Mens can be so horrible when it's about women.
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