Bride-To-Be Gets Backed Online For Refusing To Alter Her Wedding Meals For A Nagging Guest
Have you ever organized a wedding? And what about your own wedding? Then you perfectly understand how difficult this task is and how much responsibility it entails, especially when there are a lot of guests and you want everyone to have only positive memories of this incredibly important day for you. Whatever you do, it’s hard to please everyone…
Of course, each person has their own medical conditions and their own preferences regarding, first of all, food. Therefore, the preparation of a wedding menu is a process that sooner or later will bring you into a confrontation with one of the guests-to-be. After all, your menu is not a hundred dollar bill to please absolutely everyone. Well, your celebration – your rules.
But it can always turn out differently, and one such story recently appeared in the AITA Reddit community, where a post by user u/TAHairQuery gained 4.3K upvotes and almost 800 different comments in just a few days. Yes-yes, this is another wedding story that we all love so much!
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The author of the post is a bride-to-be and she’s making the party menu for her upcoming wedding
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So, the author of the original post will soon get married, but for now she is organizing her own wedding party. The Original Poster and the groom sent invitations to the guests in advance – after all, their family members, as she herself says, are scattered all over the world, so a little foresight definitely does not hurt.
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One of the guests was extremely whimsical, so he wanted to order something special beyond three available options
Among the invited guests was one of the bride’s friends, and her partner, a guy in his late twenties, who turned out to be very picky in his culinary requests. Upon receiving the invitation, the first thing he asked was what food options were available. The options were grilled salmon with a lemon and caper sauce, grilled chicken or mushroom stroganoff. The salmon and chicken came with baby potatoes and seasonal vegetables.
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Needless to say, the guy did not like these options, and he immediately asked if he could order something for himself separately. The OP asked if he had any medical conditions, but it turned out it was just the man’s food preferences. At the same time, the bride-to-be was ready to order something special for guests if there were conditions – for example, one of her guests was a dairy free vegetarian, so the stroganoff was being made vegan for them.
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The guest changed his mind several times throughout the next few days
The following days passed in continuous communication with the capricious guest, who chose one of the options, then called back to refuse it. Moreover, the reasons why he refused would do credit to any professional taster – for example, salmon would taste too fishy, the chicken seemed to be dry, stroganoff looked too heavy for a wedding meal, and so on.
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“Guestzilla” ended up calling the caterer himself and trying to order an expensive steak, vegetables, boiled potatoes and peppercorn sauce
It all ended with the fact that one day, the OP got a call from her caterer (who, by the way, turned out to be that very picky guest’s partner’s brother). It turned out that this trickster decided to take advantage of family ties to go around the bride and order something special, specifically an expensive steak, vegetables, boiled potatoes and peppercorn sauce. As it turned out, the caterer and her brother were not on the best of terms (let’s try to guess why…), so she decided it was better to warn the client.
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The bride told this entitled guy he will have either chicken or nothing at all
As a result, the bride, in her own words, literally saw red, so she called the guest and categorically stated that there would be no special dish for him. She will simply order chicken for him, and if he refuses, he’ll be left without anything. The guy began to protest, calling the OP “a bridezilla”, but she did not change her mind. So the attempt to outsmart everyone got its instant karma.
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People in the comments sided with the bride-to-be, saying the guest should be uninvited overall
Commenters were almost unanimous in their support of the author of the post, arguing that if this entitled guest wants red meat so badly, he can just go through the McDonald’s drive-thru on his way home. Some people in the comments went even further, wondering if it’s too late to cancel the invitations for this guest and his partner, since he causes so many problems even at the stage of wedding preparations.
By the way, the idea of McDonald’s seemed funny to people in the comments, and they began to actively develop it. For example, they suggested the caterer set out 2 kids’ placemats, with crayons and the paper menu, and give them Happy Meal cheeseburgers. So the picky guest now gets the meal his tummy wanted and can color while the adults celebrate, one of the wittiest commenters wrote.
Wedding stories are always fascinating, you must agree! For example, you can also read this story of ours about a bride who refused to invite her SIL to the wedding because she tried on her gown and accidentally ruined it. Or, let’s say about this guest who was not allowed a +1 simply because the newlyweds wanted to set her up with their old friend. And, of course, we’re looking forward to your comments on this tale as well.
As someone with oddly specific dietary issues, you pick the least complicated one. Eat what you can. Bring snacks. You’re there for the happy couple, not for the free food. You’re a grown man who can figure out how to feed himself. Uninvite the couple, it may only get worse day of and you don’t need stupid drama like this.
It says a lot about someone who can even suggest ordering up a different meal (one that probably many of the other guests would see as a better meal) at a wedding than what all of the other guests are eating, save for the dairy-free vegetarian.
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My hubby needs protein at every meal, hates fish and cannot eat mushrooms. He would have picked the chicken, no questions asked, then had an icebox in the car with a sandwich that he could slip out and scarf if needed. If that wasn't a viable option, then protein bars in a pocket. He meets his needs without adding stress to the bride and groom. And he would choose a time to slip away where it wouldn't cause issues. As a plus one that is most of the reception.
That is because you and your husband are reasonable people who do not think the world revolves around them. Good for you.
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What a weird person? Imagine what he's like to live with or in work etc if he is that a**l retentive about just a wedding meal that's in the future for just some friend of your partner? Can't people like this work out things in their life? Like just have a big meal before you go and eat the dessert or something? Why the insane need to control other people? I would have straight up uninvited him after this dude, non family twat of a man ( who's a plus one!) rang the caterer to my wedding! The nerve! And to request steak as well and not even offer to pay. He is treating her wedding meal like his own personal restaurant.
I would uninvite them. The audacity is sickening! You’re invited to a wedding and given a FREE meal and you really have the gall to make demands? Stop being nice, just say sorry I can’t invite you at this point. The day of the wedding go to a steakhouse and drink in my honor.
I can rarely eat what's on offer at a wedding, I just opt for the vegetables. Plate of baby potatoes with salt and butter? Yes, please!
They said he needs protein. Beans and rice are a perfect protein. Cheap too.
Load More Replies... A wedding is one of the most important (and stressful) events for the bride and groom - and that's just it, a wedding is for the bride and groom. They have enough to worry about without worrying about wether a +1 thinks the chicken might be too dry. Going behind their back to the caterer more than justifies not having him a the wedding.
I'm part of a couple bqt teams. A few weeks ago we had a high end wedding. Options were steak or fish. We were waiting for the bride and groom to get back to their seats to make their plates. They kept getting up to go outside to smoke. (About 9pm) groom had no clue what was going on. Asked what the options were. His response..."ummmm....I'll have the lobster." Funniest thing ever. Gave him both. He couldn't tell the difference.
Pretty sure I know what they were smoking that day. 🙃
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I've never in my life heard of someone getting sick from missing "proper" meat for one meal. Sounds made up.
Oh it's absolutely fake. If he were severely anemic or something, he could take a pill.
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It sounds like one of those entitled people who is used to getting their ridiculous requests fulfilled. Was he a child star?
"He needs proper meat at every meal"? I wonder what else he's convinced GF that he needs or he's going to die?
My niece at my reception. Got her invite. Proceeded to return it asking for "noodles and butter." I asked what she meant. She literally wanted plain spaghetti and butter. Like girl your 30 so it's not even the correct name. I know she's a picky eater but damn ur in your 30s.
If there's ever a day that's not about you, it's someone else's wedding. You're not there to have the best meal of your life, you're there to celebrate with your relative/friend etc. And regardless of what it's like you say thank you so much, it was lovely because its not about you.
The invite says "chicken or fish" not "chicken or fish...for life" they don't have a genie or witch there to curse you to eat the same meal every day for breakfast, lunch, and dinner for the rest of your life. If you absolutely can't eat the food leave early and eat somewhere else.
So he thinks he has a right to spend someone else's money without their permission, by going behind the back of the person paying the bill to demand a pricier option from the caterer? Even if he were the invited guest and not a +1, that would be totally out of line. Why is it the guest he's tagging along with is even still invited?
Have they not been to a wedding before or any other catered event? That's not how they work.
The arrogance of this rando plus one causing all this drama. Contacting the caterer for his own special meal is out of line. His gf has apparently coddled his entitled antics, and now expects the rest of the world to do so. The insults calling you a bridezilla and your friend trying to guilt you into this goober's notice me request would be it. UNINVITE! I would be so embarrassed if they were my partner. Is he not capable of feeding himself before or after the event? Either be there to celebrate the wedding or stay home. I seriously doubt anyone would miss him.
The "guest's" actions are not about the wedding or the food. They are all about control.
Another thing, if you don't like what is being served eat before you get there. You are going to be apart of loved one's special day, not to eat a free meal.
Tou know why people do things like this? It is because the O.P. entertains this c**p. I WISH a M**o would, they know who to try and who not to try with c**p like this.
The guy is an @sshat... three options... three strikes... you're uninvited (as is your enabling other half).
so he thinks he can sit there and have a steak when everyone else eats what is on the menu... do you honestly think others at his table won't notice he got the preferred treatment.
If my husband acted like that to one of my friends wedding invitations, we'd be divorced. We'd have been divorced long before that by the way he acts though. I can't believe her "friend" justified this behavior. That is the biggest manchild red flag I've ever seen. How women tolerate men like that, I'll never know! My husband is far from perfect (as am I) but he is solid and acts right. Thankful for going on 16 years!
I am lactose intolerant, I have celiac disease, I have irritable bowel syndrome and I'm a vegetarian. I have a very restrictive diet. I went to a wedding in the summer and at dinner, I excused myself and went to a vegetarian restaurant for dinner. Then I came back and enjoyed the speeches and the reception. It's not up to the bride and groom to make sure that my preferences or my dietary restrictions are met. Definitely NTA.
Divorced now but my uncle was a guestzilla at my wedding. Let the married couple have their day ffs.
Wow, didn’t realize it was that serious of a problem that someone would spend days trying to figure out how to get someone else to pay for their steak. What a nut job. NTA, I think with this one all you have to do is say sure you can have whatever you want if you pay for it. Otherwise you can choose from whats available. Simple. I bet he will do a 180 and choose the chicken real quick. Lol
Since he was Not her friend but the partner of her friend,I would have slammed on the brakes with the friend PERIOD and laid down the law on contacting MY CATERER. PERIOD. Accept or don’t accept the wedding invitation. I have been to many weddings,a few OVER the top with food selections and a few so bad,I was waiting for them to pass the feed bag from the guest next to me. I’ve been sitting at my table a few times when deliveries from local fast food places arrived because they didn’t like the food. Wow !!
He is the plus one..he doesn't get a say in any of this! He will only cause drama at the wedding...Uninvite this "man-child" and his partner will come without him or not...their decision
Winnings are complicated enough to plan without this type of nitpicking. He should definitely just STFU and eat what he can. Or bring snacks. Or have a heavy lunch. I can't imagine bugging people about this. Especially people who are not my friend. They're just my girlfriend's friends.
I think a big thing we're missing is she was very accommodating first off with her vegan friend and as someone with food allergies we appreciate it, and try not to be difficult. She even let this idiot change his meal multiple times, good grief cut him off now
Couldn't have been me either pick from what has been offered or don't attend that's it! I wouldn't have wasted any of my time or my energy over a picky, inconsiderate person and their whims. I would've told the catering people my wishes and don't stray from what I'm paying for.
Disinvite them immediately, if he is gonna sit there savoring steak leaving other guests to wonder why they had chicken, salmon if mushrooms, they are not your friends. They will either "brag" about the special food or says their so very special you gave them a nice juicy steak.
Should have told him to eat before he gets to to wedding since it's a wedding and not a date to a restaurant.
As a diabetic, I always take snacks wherever I go - just in case. Usually left in the car until needed. Any of those options would have worked
Dietary restrictions are one thing. This guy is a straight up a*****e. The OP is NOT in any manner a bridezilla. Her friend is at total fault for not checking her boyfriends attitude too. They are supposed to be honored guests at a happy occasion, not pests.
This level of entitlement is just astounding! Who raised this kid? I bet his mother was glad when this spoiled, self centered, child she raised left home. The problem is that now society has to deal with him. Good job mom!
I PRAY/HOPE this bride Uninvited this couple. I’ve never in my entire life heard of anyone being so incredibly rude , obtrusive and utterly disrespectful. And the friend of the brides that is dating this troll and backed him up when he had the Gaul to demand a Steak. F Her. She’s not a real friend. If my man would have ever been this rude to a friend of mine he’d be on the curb. Utterly ridiculous. No manners. No class. Get to steppin. UNINVITED!!!
He would have hated the meal at my reception. We had a fish fry courtesy of my brother and uncle, my mom made potato salad and baked beans. My SIL made cole slaw, and home made pickles and a few other items from stuff out of their garden, I brought stuff for a build your own salad and we actually paid for a bakery wedding cake. My brother also grilled a few hot dogs and burgers for the kids. It was awesome and fun and not one complaint!!
I wouldn't like any of these options... What would I do? Ask for just the potatoes and veggies and bring my own meat replacement rather than wtf he is doing.
Wow. This takes b*lls. I could see if he were a vegan, or diabetic, or had severe food allergies. This guy is just being the biggest AH ever. He just wants the $150 meal. He probably won't like it if the champagne is domestic either. Too bad. He has the option of picking one or none. OR, the bride could just cross him off the list. This AH won't be missed.
I'll be honest: I never expect catered food at a wedding to be super awesome. I usually go through a drive-through between the ceremony and the reception so I'm not hungry and cranky at the reception when it takes forever to get your food
I was invited to an enormous 300 person wedding, and we didn't even get a choice on what we ate. I had no idea what would be served until I arrived at the table. What's worse: the food was served front of house to back, and by the time they got to my table, they only had Greek salad, and a small about of mashed potatoes left. Lol. It was clearly a failure. I just stopped and got food on my way home.
Are American weddings always this elaborate? Every single wedding I've been to is buffet style with simple food.
mushrooms strogunath i have never had that i should ry it sometime i love making steak strogunath
Is it just me or the title has nothing to do with the text / article?
There are a lot of other articles? Kind of weird you delibrately came to an article you didn't want to read?
Load More Replies... As someone with oddly specific dietary issues, you pick the least complicated one. Eat what you can. Bring snacks. You’re there for the happy couple, not for the free food. You’re a grown man who can figure out how to feed himself. Uninvite the couple, it may only get worse day of and you don’t need stupid drama like this.
It says a lot about someone who can even suggest ordering up a different meal (one that probably many of the other guests would see as a better meal) at a wedding than what all of the other guests are eating, save for the dairy-free vegetarian.
Load More Replies... My hubby needs protein at every meal, hates fish and cannot eat mushrooms. He would have picked the chicken, no questions asked, then had an icebox in the car with a sandwich that he could slip out and scarf if needed. If that wasn't a viable option, then protein bars in a pocket. He meets his needs without adding stress to the bride and groom. And he would choose a time to slip away where it wouldn't cause issues. As a plus one that is most of the reception.
That is because you and your husband are reasonable people who do not think the world revolves around them. Good for you.
Load More Replies... What a weird person? Imagine what he's like to live with or in work etc if he is that a**l retentive about just a wedding meal that's in the future for just some friend of your partner? Can't people like this work out things in their life? Like just have a big meal before you go and eat the dessert or something? Why the insane need to control other people? I would have straight up uninvited him after this dude, non family twat of a man ( who's a plus one!) rang the caterer to my wedding! The nerve! And to request steak as well and not even offer to pay. He is treating her wedding meal like his own personal restaurant.
I would uninvite them. The audacity is sickening! You’re invited to a wedding and given a FREE meal and you really have the gall to make demands? Stop being nice, just say sorry I can’t invite you at this point. The day of the wedding go to a steakhouse and drink in my honor.
I can rarely eat what's on offer at a wedding, I just opt for the vegetables. Plate of baby potatoes with salt and butter? Yes, please!
They said he needs protein. Beans and rice are a perfect protein. Cheap too.
Load More Replies... A wedding is one of the most important (and stressful) events for the bride and groom - and that's just it, a wedding is for the bride and groom. They have enough to worry about without worrying about wether a +1 thinks the chicken might be too dry. Going behind their back to the caterer more than justifies not having him a the wedding.
I'm part of a couple bqt teams. A few weeks ago we had a high end wedding. Options were steak or fish. We were waiting for the bride and groom to get back to their seats to make their plates. They kept getting up to go outside to smoke. (About 9pm) groom had no clue what was going on. Asked what the options were. His response..."ummmm....I'll have the lobster." Funniest thing ever. Gave him both. He couldn't tell the difference.
Pretty sure I know what they were smoking that day. 🙃
Load More Replies... I've never in my life heard of someone getting sick from missing "proper" meat for one meal. Sounds made up.
Oh it's absolutely fake. If he were severely anemic or something, he could take a pill.
Load More Replies... It sounds like one of those entitled people who is used to getting their ridiculous requests fulfilled. Was he a child star?
"He needs proper meat at every meal"? I wonder what else he's convinced GF that he needs or he's going to die?
My niece at my reception. Got her invite. Proceeded to return it asking for "noodles and butter." I asked what she meant. She literally wanted plain spaghetti and butter. Like girl your 30 so it's not even the correct name. I know she's a picky eater but damn ur in your 30s.
If there's ever a day that's not about you, it's someone else's wedding. You're not there to have the best meal of your life, you're there to celebrate with your relative/friend etc. And regardless of what it's like you say thank you so much, it was lovely because its not about you.
The invite says "chicken or fish" not "chicken or fish...for life" they don't have a genie or witch there to curse you to eat the same meal every day for breakfast, lunch, and dinner for the rest of your life. If you absolutely can't eat the food leave early and eat somewhere else.
So he thinks he has a right to spend someone else's money without their permission, by going behind the back of the person paying the bill to demand a pricier option from the caterer? Even if he were the invited guest and not a +1, that would be totally out of line. Why is it the guest he's tagging along with is even still invited?
Have they not been to a wedding before or any other catered event? That's not how they work.
The arrogance of this rando plus one causing all this drama. Contacting the caterer for his own special meal is out of line. His gf has apparently coddled his entitled antics, and now expects the rest of the world to do so. The insults calling you a bridezilla and your friend trying to guilt you into this goober's notice me request would be it. UNINVITE! I would be so embarrassed if they were my partner. Is he not capable of feeding himself before or after the event? Either be there to celebrate the wedding or stay home. I seriously doubt anyone would miss him.
The "guest's" actions are not about the wedding or the food. They are all about control.
Another thing, if you don't like what is being served eat before you get there. You are going to be apart of loved one's special day, not to eat a free meal.
Tou know why people do things like this? It is because the O.P. entertains this c**p. I WISH a M**o would, they know who to try and who not to try with c**p like this.
The guy is an @sshat... three options... three strikes... you're uninvited (as is your enabling other half).
so he thinks he can sit there and have a steak when everyone else eats what is on the menu... do you honestly think others at his table won't notice he got the preferred treatment.
If my husband acted like that to one of my friends wedding invitations, we'd be divorced. We'd have been divorced long before that by the way he acts though. I can't believe her "friend" justified this behavior. That is the biggest manchild red flag I've ever seen. How women tolerate men like that, I'll never know! My husband is far from perfect (as am I) but he is solid and acts right. Thankful for going on 16 years!
I am lactose intolerant, I have celiac disease, I have irritable bowel syndrome and I'm a vegetarian. I have a very restrictive diet. I went to a wedding in the summer and at dinner, I excused myself and went to a vegetarian restaurant for dinner. Then I came back and enjoyed the speeches and the reception. It's not up to the bride and groom to make sure that my preferences or my dietary restrictions are met. Definitely NTA.
Divorced now but my uncle was a guestzilla at my wedding. Let the married couple have their day ffs.
Wow, didn’t realize it was that serious of a problem that someone would spend days trying to figure out how to get someone else to pay for their steak. What a nut job. NTA, I think with this one all you have to do is say sure you can have whatever you want if you pay for it. Otherwise you can choose from whats available. Simple. I bet he will do a 180 and choose the chicken real quick. Lol
Since he was Not her friend but the partner of her friend,I would have slammed on the brakes with the friend PERIOD and laid down the law on contacting MY CATERER. PERIOD. Accept or don’t accept the wedding invitation. I have been to many weddings,a few OVER the top with food selections and a few so bad,I was waiting for them to pass the feed bag from the guest next to me. I’ve been sitting at my table a few times when deliveries from local fast food places arrived because they didn’t like the food. Wow !!
He is the plus one..he doesn't get a say in any of this! He will only cause drama at the wedding...Uninvite this "man-child" and his partner will come without him or not...their decision
Winnings are complicated enough to plan without this type of nitpicking. He should definitely just STFU and eat what he can. Or bring snacks. Or have a heavy lunch. I can't imagine bugging people about this. Especially people who are not my friend. They're just my girlfriend's friends.
I think a big thing we're missing is she was very accommodating first off with her vegan friend and as someone with food allergies we appreciate it, and try not to be difficult. She even let this idiot change his meal multiple times, good grief cut him off now
Couldn't have been me either pick from what has been offered or don't attend that's it! I wouldn't have wasted any of my time or my energy over a picky, inconsiderate person and their whims. I would've told the catering people my wishes and don't stray from what I'm paying for.
Disinvite them immediately, if he is gonna sit there savoring steak leaving other guests to wonder why they had chicken, salmon if mushrooms, they are not your friends. They will either "brag" about the special food or says their so very special you gave them a nice juicy steak.
Should have told him to eat before he gets to to wedding since it's a wedding and not a date to a restaurant.
As a diabetic, I always take snacks wherever I go - just in case. Usually left in the car until needed. Any of those options would have worked
Dietary restrictions are one thing. This guy is a straight up a*****e. The OP is NOT in any manner a bridezilla. Her friend is at total fault for not checking her boyfriends attitude too. They are supposed to be honored guests at a happy occasion, not pests.
This level of entitlement is just astounding! Who raised this kid? I bet his mother was glad when this spoiled, self centered, child she raised left home. The problem is that now society has to deal with him. Good job mom!
I PRAY/HOPE this bride Uninvited this couple. I’ve never in my entire life heard of anyone being so incredibly rude , obtrusive and utterly disrespectful. And the friend of the brides that is dating this troll and backed him up when he had the Gaul to demand a Steak. F Her. She’s not a real friend. If my man would have ever been this rude to a friend of mine he’d be on the curb. Utterly ridiculous. No manners. No class. Get to steppin. UNINVITED!!!
He would have hated the meal at my reception. We had a fish fry courtesy of my brother and uncle, my mom made potato salad and baked beans. My SIL made cole slaw, and home made pickles and a few other items from stuff out of their garden, I brought stuff for a build your own salad and we actually paid for a bakery wedding cake. My brother also grilled a few hot dogs and burgers for the kids. It was awesome and fun and not one complaint!!
I wouldn't like any of these options... What would I do? Ask for just the potatoes and veggies and bring my own meat replacement rather than wtf he is doing.
Wow. This takes b*lls. I could see if he were a vegan, or diabetic, or had severe food allergies. This guy is just being the biggest AH ever. He just wants the $150 meal. He probably won't like it if the champagne is domestic either. Too bad. He has the option of picking one or none. OR, the bride could just cross him off the list. This AH won't be missed.
I'll be honest: I never expect catered food at a wedding to be super awesome. I usually go through a drive-through between the ceremony and the reception so I'm not hungry and cranky at the reception when it takes forever to get your food
I was invited to an enormous 300 person wedding, and we didn't even get a choice on what we ate. I had no idea what would be served until I arrived at the table. What's worse: the food was served front of house to back, and by the time they got to my table, they only had Greek salad, and a small about of mashed potatoes left. Lol. It was clearly a failure. I just stopped and got food on my way home.
Are American weddings always this elaborate? Every single wedding I've been to is buffet style with simple food.
mushrooms strogunath i have never had that i should ry it sometime i love making steak strogunath
Is it just me or the title has nothing to do with the text / article?
There are a lot of other articles? Kind of weird you delibrately came to an article you didn't want to read?
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