Bride Changes The Color Of Sister-In-Law’s Top In Her Wedding Photos, Won’t Send Her The Original Pics Unless She Pays For Them
Summer is the official wedding season, and just like the sizzling heat, the pressure to have it perfect and the building stress reaches the boiling point. So no wonder we hear so many stories about things getting out of hand when people are tying the knot.
And sometimes, the problem arises after the wedding ceremony is over and the celebration has already passed. This is what happened to a bride who got married back in June. In a viral post on AITA, the woman nicknamed Low-Abbreviations352 wrote that her “now sister-in-law was wearing an outfit with a white top and a black bottom part.”
This may not have seemed like that big of a deal at first, but when the photographs were ready, the opposite became obvious. “I didn’t say anything to her at the wedding, but going through my photos with the photographer, I felt like they were a bit silly since the top part of her outfit was literally the same color as my wedding dress,” the bride wrote and added that “it really made her pop out.”
Therefore, the bride decided to photoedit her SIL’s dress which not just made her terribly upset, but created a lot of drama in the family.
Recently, a bride shared how she photoshopped her sister-in-law’s dress because she stood out too much in the photographs which left her very upset
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Others, however, thought the bride was wrong
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Share on FacebookThis is so dumb... It's not like the friend wore a white fancy dress, it's just a shirt. If op feels threatened by someone wearing a white shirt to her wedding she has way bigger issues to work through.
She didn’t feel threatened at the wedding, she didn’t do anything but have her photographer retouch *her* wedding photos. That’s an aesthetic decision not feeling threatened 🙄
Load More Replies...This just seems like pointless drama. I can’t say I would care since it’s a black and white jumpsuit and not a white dress. Petty times.
Wait until someone photobombs your wedding photos and becomes the focal point of your special day... Let's see if you still wouldn't care
Load More Replies...If the bride is overshadowed by someone wearing a white shirt on wedding pictures, then it might be worth re-considering whether the designer/stylist & photographer were the right picks for this particular occasion. One way or another, I wish BP would stop pushing this kind of boring pettiness to generate content 🤮
You don't understand how easily the human eye is drawn to bright white focal points in photos. There was nothing wrong with the stylist. It's simply human nature to be drawn to a bright white focal point. If it was some schlub in boring white painter's overalls or something, it would be the same problematic attention grabber - nothing to do with style or aesthetics, don't be stupid.
Load More Replies...as an indian person i have to say this is hilarious. at indian weddings you don't have to worry about upstaging the bride. it's just not possible. but in this situation i'd say nta! if the sil wanted good photos of that outfit she should have taken them another time. also the gray top is really cute anyway.
Oh no it happened! I have a friend whose SIL wore her own wedding dress(absolutely red)to her (my friend's)wedding and was decked up just like a bride. People in groom's party joked that there were two brides for him. Not everyone was happy. I missed the wedding and when I saw the photos I was shocked! It is possible in Indian weddings too.
Load More Replies...Holy f*****g s**t, you’re both TA just because of the banality of that so called problem.
Without seeing the original photos, who here can honestly say whether or not the white top stood out too much? However, that's irrelevant, as the photographer was hired and paid for by the bride, not the SIL. If OP wants the photos touched up that's her right as a client; plus she has already paid for all the photos that she wants. If SIL wants unretouched photos, she can pay for them herself, or hire her own photographer.
This is crazy.... there is so much wrong here! The bride has lost sight of reality and turned into a real bridezilla! I think she's taken the whole don't wear white to a wedding too far; it was the top of an outfit. Saying it's too noticeable in photos shows her to be acting like a spoilt brat. She was the bride; everyone was looking at her, no one will even remember what the SIL wore, and how many people look at their wedding pictures? If you want a couple out on display just choose ones she isn't in. I'd be really pissed with the bride editing my outfit. I think if I've paid for a beautiful outfit to go to an event I'd want to look good in any pictures. If she had worn something less beautiful would the bride have taken issue that she hadn't dressed up enough? The bride is definitely TA here.
She didn’t complain about the white she just wants to be the one noticed in her own wedding photos! Seriously the sil has no say in photos she didn’t pay for. The end. NTA just for wanting to be the main focus I. Your own wedding photos. It’s the sam reason the MOB and MOG west complimentary colors to the bridal party, to make the photos look well composed and attractive to the eye. I can’t imagine a woman not caring that some detracted from her in her own wedding photos. Instead of being pissy, she had a minor edit done to the pics they are both in. The SIL is the one causing drama.
Load More Replies...Unbalanced colour of photo NOT that the bride said no white. If it's that pathetic and petty topic for discussion, what the heck are you discussing it for?
Load More Replies...Was it really worth damaging a relationship with your in laws? Very petty and unnecessary drama.
Is it worth the MIL & SIL damaging a relationship with their inlaws? Their daughter in law. It works both ways.
Load More Replies...Bored Panda likes these "AITA" posts. It's the only place I've ever seen them.
Why the heck are you being downvoted???? I’m so confused, you literally said this is the only place you’ve seen them, how is that offensive?
Load More Replies...I feel like people are completely missing what truly matters now a days. It's not what we wear or how we look that matters. It's really not even the wedding that matters. It's the people and time that we should value and cherish. We've just completely lost focus of life and how we treat each other and ourselves it seems. Worrying more about things that are just very silly in the grand scheme of things. I get it, it's hard not to care about our looks, clothes, cars, money, and someone out shining us. Living in a world that literally shoves all that down our throats and influences us to care about all that above all else. I don't know, the people, time, love, and how we interact with each other in these special moments in our lives is what it should be about. Not the cloth on our backs and the way we look. Maybe I'm wrong, Lord knows I am often.
I…can’t even remember what colours my guests wore at my wedding. Even if they’d rocked up in the same colour as me I wouldn’t care.
Change her into a grey mouse, so you stand out. Why not everyone greyish, then you look even better. Should have demanded grey clothes and grey make up for everyone.
I think the photographer was in the wrong. She only asked for the raw unedited photos, they'd most likely already paid a bomb and the raw digital photos should be included in the base price. Boo bad photographer!
Hot take, and probably unpopular opinion. I don't care what anyone wore to this random internet lady's wedding. 🤷🏻♂️
By sheer coincidence, I don't care that you're not interested etc etc.
Load More Replies...And now SIL will tell people, others will gossip and people will be taking out these photos not to marvel at your glorious beauty but to check SIL's outfit. Congratulations on achieving the direct opposite of what you have wanted. Hope it will be a teaching moment to not be this pathetic in the future.
These self-centered bridezillas have got to calm down with how everyone else is dressing, it just doesn't matter, nobody is going to care or mind, they're mostly there for free food, drinks , and good music anyway and half of them won't remember a thing.
The unbalanced photos are the Bride's forever. She's the only one looking at them. It has nothing to do with being a bridezilla or being self centred. She just wanted nice photos to look back on. The ones she paid for.
Load More Replies...in my opinion, I believe no one is the AH. the bride didn't say anything at the wedding abt the jumpsuit. now what the SIL wore should've been no problem tho bc it's not like it was an all white dress, it was a black and white jumpsuit. on the other hand, the SIL overreacted abt the photos bc these photos weren't for her, so it shouldn't matter if she looked good in them or not. but I do understand how the SIL could be a little upset. altho, the bride offered for her to buy the original photos instead of being petty and refusing them in general. therefore, I do believe nobody is the AH. :)
Wow, you must have looked a right state at your own wedding to feel overshadowed by a white shirt. YTA absolutely. Get over yourself and get therapy for those insecurities girl.
Honestly I don't understand anyone here. So many beautiful colors in the world, but you are hell bent on wearing a bland-a*s white to the wedding. On the other hand, it's not even a dress and it's not even completely white. And all this fuss over the photos? To be honest, I always thought that wedding photos are like firework videos - you take them and never go back to them again.. Any way you look at it - it's such a ridiculous non-issue.
I look at mine on occasion. Parents show their kids. Their grandkids. And so on, when those people in them are long gone. If the bride says the photos didn't look right, I think it's safe enough to believe her. Other photographers have explained what would have been obvious when the photos have been viewed, but, let's just ignore that, shall we? After all, what do they know? Best to listen to all of you 'experts' who can judge without even seeing the photos in question.
Load More Replies...It's just a shirt, not an entire outfit. That goes for both the bride (and anyone else with a problem with a white top) and the sil. Is the sil going to display any of the photos? Probably not so who cares. Both of you need to get over yourselves arguing about something so insignificant. Save it for the big things, like who gets the silver.
People have become ridiculous with their wedding expectations. All that hysteria about other women in white when actually not even most of the brides should be wearing that colour is nothing but insane.
Sorry but if you didn't want anyone to wear white should have stated it. The SIL showed up with a white top not a bridal dress or fancy white dress. I just got married myself and I got tired of everyone saying it's all about me. No it's about my husband and me joining together brining 2 families together and celebrating our love. I could careless what color they wore as long as they were there to celebrate and enjoy in our day. Get over yourself. This is a stupid way to start a marriage and welcome family
That goes both ways. The inlaws should just get over it & welcome their new DIL into the family.
Load More Replies...Nope, nope and nope! First off get over yourself! If you're so concerned about another woman upstaging you then either don't invite them or elope. As to the white issue, a few folks are actually correct. The "rule", if you want to call it that, is not to wear a white "dress" to someone else's wedding. IMO, I don't believe the SIL wanted to have pictures for herself. I get the impression she just wanted to look good in family pictures and wanted one that wasn't changed for herself. Stop being so petty and give your SIL a damn picture! It may set you back around ,, $20 and if that's too much, then have your new hubby pay!! Do you really want to keep this disagreement going for the next 20-30 years over a PICTURE????
Why should it be the bride who has to 'keep the peace'? The inlaws are just as capable of this not developing into a 20/30 year argument by shutting up about it now.
Load More Replies...The bride is simply a drama queen. She mad in her simple mind that sil looked better than her lol. Smfh the men are wearing white shirts.. Why can't the women?!?!.. This is really dumb to stress over. Some ppl take it too far like this zombie bride. You're wearing a dress ma'am she's not!!!get out of your head!
Both are TA. I swear to god These Wedding AITAs are the worst, as they are often revolving about the pettiest of Problems.
People should wear black to weddings. Weddings are more like funerals than anything... Two people giving up on life ready to wait out death forever.
I love my daughter's rules for her upcoming wedding. If your not in the wedding party you can't wear no type of white not even shoes. There will be security so show up with white and you will be excorted from the venue. Have a problem don't come she's not stressing. The only ppl she cares about being at her wedding is her mom brother husband to be grandma aunt best friend and my uncle that's marrying her. She only inviting others so nobody is crying about not being invited. I and her husband to be sister her and my daughter is close. Her husband to be said his own mother is not allow to come. Love it set it out there up front and if ppl feels like they don't have to respect someone wishes or decisions so small like that than they would never respect you and will always do something to out shine you or try to.
It's her day she said the top was taking the attention off of the bride so she tainted it she has every right to. The sil is an entitled brat, she choose to wear a color so she can look good for someone else's day. All sil had to do was pay for the pictures it's not on her to pay for anything someone else wants. That is her day her memories her pictures. Truth be told I wouldn't gave nobody pictures but me. The only pictures people would have gotten is of me and my husband. A woman have the right to be petty about her wedding and about her having children. Any issues and you have to go.
AHs all round in my opinion. The bride, for having the photos edited without saying anything to her sister-in-law. SIL, for making a big deal out of it when the occasion was clearly not about her. And the photographer, for charging extra for the originals when the edited photos had already been paid for.
NAH Both seem right. The newlyweds should get the wedding photos they want. Wearing a white shirt as part of any kind of suit to a wedding is totally reasonable. The photographer might be a bit of an AH for not just handing over the raw unedited white shirt version. They got paid for their time, paid for their edits, the raw photos were part of the process but also part of what they were paid to take. It shouldn't cost extra to get a raw version of a photo they paid for the edited version of.
If someone invited you to an event, tells you there's a dress code or theme and wishes for everyone to abide by, please decline their invitation if you deliberately intend to go against those wishes or if it somehow goes against what you stand for. The OP is NTA because she didn't create a scene at the event, she merely wanted her pics to look how she wanted. Also, She is not obligated to even distribute pics to everyone, when ppl attend events, wedding included, they capture their own memories. Any professional pics paid for by the bride and groom are really for themselves. Why is the SIL upset at this? I have no idea. If she loved the outfit so much, get a photographer and go take some pics in it.
This is so dumb. See this is why I never go to anyone's wedding nor will I ever participate in one because of some people's insecurities. This bride was mad over a white top that she claimed made her sister in law stand out wow. I bet these ladies in laws or not don't like being in the same room let alone around each other. Just sad
I'm so over this wedding rules bs. Can't do this, shouldn't do that, MUST say this, don't say that. I think I'd have more fun living in North Korea than attending a wedding with all these restrictions going on.
Addressed to those thinking white anything should be taboo at a wedding: Bridesmaids had the *original* purpose of distracting would-be kidnappers from knowing positively who the actual bride was, hence the reason for them dressing in finery similarly to the bride's, back when marriages were all about land, titles and money. Also, wearing all white is a very recent invention,. Women used to simply don their best dress, whatever colour and fabric and style it was. Wearing a white article of clothing such as a top or pants IN ZERO WAYS infringes upon a bride, ain't nobody mistaking a woman in a black-and-white pantsuit as the object of kidnapping desires.... Get over your ultimate 'specialness', brides. It's your day, we know, try not to be a turd about it.
Your SIL is still the sister of your husband, so this event is as important for her, and it's normal she wants to look her best; it's her brother's wedding pictures too after all and she hasn't broken any rule. Sorry but YTA, and that's not how you want to start a new family relationship with your SIL. Great for your to have the pictures you want in your album (even if i don't agree too much), but give her her real pictures to be fair with her; certainly won't break the bank..
I feel like nobody comes off well in this story. It's incredibly entitled and obnoxious to demand that anyone get, and pay for, extra/different wedding photos so that you, a guest, look better in them. However, it's a little petty of the bride to have had the photos altered just because a guest had a white shirt on. (But on the third hand, if SIL *habitually* acts entitled and makes other people's occasions all about her, then I'd cut the bride more slack on being a little petty, than if this was an isolated incident.)
Honestly. Nta. OP didn't completely change SILs top just dulled it in the 6 photos of I'm sure 100s that the Bride specifically wanted. I think as the one paying for the photos she can have them altered how ever she wants, especially if she is trying to highlight herself and her new husband who should be the focal point anyway. She did not alter every photo. So I'm sure there are plenty with SIL in her white top just the way it is. But she wants those 6 specific photos the bride chose to be unaltered. SIL is being pretty and even admitted to wanting to look good and stand out. OP even states it had a lot to do with the background and lighting they had available. So honestly this wouldn't be an uncommon thing for a professional photographer to do. Plus OP offered to have them reordered but SIL had to pay for them, which I think is fair. SIL wants them and they cost extra on top of what the OP has already paid. So I don't think asking for compensation on something the SIL wants and not the bride or groom.
Eh esh. The bride completely overreacted by saying that she was StEalInG tHe SpOtLiGhT, but the SIL shouldn’t have been talking behind her back( although as I type this out I realize I would’ve done the same thing).
Some people are really missing the point OP was trying to make. If was the fact that SILs shirt blended into her dress in the wedding pics. No definition, no contrast. This is NOT the photographer's fault. The SIL was clearly just trying to get good pics of herself, kinda sounds like she was being selfish and not thinking of the bride. For OP to only have the shirt slightly greyed out, these are her photos and simply fixed the problem that her SIL caused. OP was not even a bit jealous or threatened, she wanted her dress to stand out. How crazy of the bride to want that, geesh the nerve / s
two words "SCREW HER!" that your relative would even consider marrying someone like that in the first lace speaks much more about him then it does her....
It's 'don't wear white' to a wedding. Not you can't wear anything white at all. That is utterly and completely ludicrous. In countries where white is the traditional colour (which is a very recent tradition in the scheme of things and only thanks to Queen Victoria for making it popular as she was the fashionista of her day when she married) then most people know not to wear a COMPLETELY white outfit. Wearing a white top or bottom with another colour is absolutely okay. People get themselves wound up over nothing - both of them have here. Pathetic.
Load More Replies...This is so dumb... It's not like the friend wore a white fancy dress, it's just a shirt. If op feels threatened by someone wearing a white shirt to her wedding she has way bigger issues to work through.
She didn’t feel threatened at the wedding, she didn’t do anything but have her photographer retouch *her* wedding photos. That’s an aesthetic decision not feeling threatened 🙄
Load More Replies...This just seems like pointless drama. I can’t say I would care since it’s a black and white jumpsuit and not a white dress. Petty times.
Wait until someone photobombs your wedding photos and becomes the focal point of your special day... Let's see if you still wouldn't care
Load More Replies...If the bride is overshadowed by someone wearing a white shirt on wedding pictures, then it might be worth re-considering whether the designer/stylist & photographer were the right picks for this particular occasion. One way or another, I wish BP would stop pushing this kind of boring pettiness to generate content 🤮
You don't understand how easily the human eye is drawn to bright white focal points in photos. There was nothing wrong with the stylist. It's simply human nature to be drawn to a bright white focal point. If it was some schlub in boring white painter's overalls or something, it would be the same problematic attention grabber - nothing to do with style or aesthetics, don't be stupid.
Load More Replies...as an indian person i have to say this is hilarious. at indian weddings you don't have to worry about upstaging the bride. it's just not possible. but in this situation i'd say nta! if the sil wanted good photos of that outfit she should have taken them another time. also the gray top is really cute anyway.
Oh no it happened! I have a friend whose SIL wore her own wedding dress(absolutely red)to her (my friend's)wedding and was decked up just like a bride. People in groom's party joked that there were two brides for him. Not everyone was happy. I missed the wedding and when I saw the photos I was shocked! It is possible in Indian weddings too.
Load More Replies...Holy f*****g s**t, you’re both TA just because of the banality of that so called problem.
Without seeing the original photos, who here can honestly say whether or not the white top stood out too much? However, that's irrelevant, as the photographer was hired and paid for by the bride, not the SIL. If OP wants the photos touched up that's her right as a client; plus she has already paid for all the photos that she wants. If SIL wants unretouched photos, she can pay for them herself, or hire her own photographer.
This is crazy.... there is so much wrong here! The bride has lost sight of reality and turned into a real bridezilla! I think she's taken the whole don't wear white to a wedding too far; it was the top of an outfit. Saying it's too noticeable in photos shows her to be acting like a spoilt brat. She was the bride; everyone was looking at her, no one will even remember what the SIL wore, and how many people look at their wedding pictures? If you want a couple out on display just choose ones she isn't in. I'd be really pissed with the bride editing my outfit. I think if I've paid for a beautiful outfit to go to an event I'd want to look good in any pictures. If she had worn something less beautiful would the bride have taken issue that she hadn't dressed up enough? The bride is definitely TA here.
She didn’t complain about the white she just wants to be the one noticed in her own wedding photos! Seriously the sil has no say in photos she didn’t pay for. The end. NTA just for wanting to be the main focus I. Your own wedding photos. It’s the sam reason the MOB and MOG west complimentary colors to the bridal party, to make the photos look well composed and attractive to the eye. I can’t imagine a woman not caring that some detracted from her in her own wedding photos. Instead of being pissy, she had a minor edit done to the pics they are both in. The SIL is the one causing drama.
Load More Replies...Unbalanced colour of photo NOT that the bride said no white. If it's that pathetic and petty topic for discussion, what the heck are you discussing it for?
Load More Replies...Was it really worth damaging a relationship with your in laws? Very petty and unnecessary drama.
Is it worth the MIL & SIL damaging a relationship with their inlaws? Their daughter in law. It works both ways.
Load More Replies...Bored Panda likes these "AITA" posts. It's the only place I've ever seen them.
Why the heck are you being downvoted???? I’m so confused, you literally said this is the only place you’ve seen them, how is that offensive?
Load More Replies...I feel like people are completely missing what truly matters now a days. It's not what we wear or how we look that matters. It's really not even the wedding that matters. It's the people and time that we should value and cherish. We've just completely lost focus of life and how we treat each other and ourselves it seems. Worrying more about things that are just very silly in the grand scheme of things. I get it, it's hard not to care about our looks, clothes, cars, money, and someone out shining us. Living in a world that literally shoves all that down our throats and influences us to care about all that above all else. I don't know, the people, time, love, and how we interact with each other in these special moments in our lives is what it should be about. Not the cloth on our backs and the way we look. Maybe I'm wrong, Lord knows I am often.
I…can’t even remember what colours my guests wore at my wedding. Even if they’d rocked up in the same colour as me I wouldn’t care.
Change her into a grey mouse, so you stand out. Why not everyone greyish, then you look even better. Should have demanded grey clothes and grey make up for everyone.
I think the photographer was in the wrong. She only asked for the raw unedited photos, they'd most likely already paid a bomb and the raw digital photos should be included in the base price. Boo bad photographer!
Hot take, and probably unpopular opinion. I don't care what anyone wore to this random internet lady's wedding. 🤷🏻♂️
By sheer coincidence, I don't care that you're not interested etc etc.
Load More Replies...And now SIL will tell people, others will gossip and people will be taking out these photos not to marvel at your glorious beauty but to check SIL's outfit. Congratulations on achieving the direct opposite of what you have wanted. Hope it will be a teaching moment to not be this pathetic in the future.
These self-centered bridezillas have got to calm down with how everyone else is dressing, it just doesn't matter, nobody is going to care or mind, they're mostly there for free food, drinks , and good music anyway and half of them won't remember a thing.
The unbalanced photos are the Bride's forever. She's the only one looking at them. It has nothing to do with being a bridezilla or being self centred. She just wanted nice photos to look back on. The ones she paid for.
Load More Replies...in my opinion, I believe no one is the AH. the bride didn't say anything at the wedding abt the jumpsuit. now what the SIL wore should've been no problem tho bc it's not like it was an all white dress, it was a black and white jumpsuit. on the other hand, the SIL overreacted abt the photos bc these photos weren't for her, so it shouldn't matter if she looked good in them or not. but I do understand how the SIL could be a little upset. altho, the bride offered for her to buy the original photos instead of being petty and refusing them in general. therefore, I do believe nobody is the AH. :)
Wow, you must have looked a right state at your own wedding to feel overshadowed by a white shirt. YTA absolutely. Get over yourself and get therapy for those insecurities girl.
Honestly I don't understand anyone here. So many beautiful colors in the world, but you are hell bent on wearing a bland-a*s white to the wedding. On the other hand, it's not even a dress and it's not even completely white. And all this fuss over the photos? To be honest, I always thought that wedding photos are like firework videos - you take them and never go back to them again.. Any way you look at it - it's such a ridiculous non-issue.
I look at mine on occasion. Parents show their kids. Their grandkids. And so on, when those people in them are long gone. If the bride says the photos didn't look right, I think it's safe enough to believe her. Other photographers have explained what would have been obvious when the photos have been viewed, but, let's just ignore that, shall we? After all, what do they know? Best to listen to all of you 'experts' who can judge without even seeing the photos in question.
Load More Replies...It's just a shirt, not an entire outfit. That goes for both the bride (and anyone else with a problem with a white top) and the sil. Is the sil going to display any of the photos? Probably not so who cares. Both of you need to get over yourselves arguing about something so insignificant. Save it for the big things, like who gets the silver.
People have become ridiculous with their wedding expectations. All that hysteria about other women in white when actually not even most of the brides should be wearing that colour is nothing but insane.
Sorry but if you didn't want anyone to wear white should have stated it. The SIL showed up with a white top not a bridal dress or fancy white dress. I just got married myself and I got tired of everyone saying it's all about me. No it's about my husband and me joining together brining 2 families together and celebrating our love. I could careless what color they wore as long as they were there to celebrate and enjoy in our day. Get over yourself. This is a stupid way to start a marriage and welcome family
That goes both ways. The inlaws should just get over it & welcome their new DIL into the family.
Load More Replies...Nope, nope and nope! First off get over yourself! If you're so concerned about another woman upstaging you then either don't invite them or elope. As to the white issue, a few folks are actually correct. The "rule", if you want to call it that, is not to wear a white "dress" to someone else's wedding. IMO, I don't believe the SIL wanted to have pictures for herself. I get the impression she just wanted to look good in family pictures and wanted one that wasn't changed for herself. Stop being so petty and give your SIL a damn picture! It may set you back around ,, $20 and if that's too much, then have your new hubby pay!! Do you really want to keep this disagreement going for the next 20-30 years over a PICTURE????
Why should it be the bride who has to 'keep the peace'? The inlaws are just as capable of this not developing into a 20/30 year argument by shutting up about it now.
Load More Replies...The bride is simply a drama queen. She mad in her simple mind that sil looked better than her lol. Smfh the men are wearing white shirts.. Why can't the women?!?!.. This is really dumb to stress over. Some ppl take it too far like this zombie bride. You're wearing a dress ma'am she's not!!!get out of your head!
Both are TA. I swear to god These Wedding AITAs are the worst, as they are often revolving about the pettiest of Problems.
People should wear black to weddings. Weddings are more like funerals than anything... Two people giving up on life ready to wait out death forever.
I love my daughter's rules for her upcoming wedding. If your not in the wedding party you can't wear no type of white not even shoes. There will be security so show up with white and you will be excorted from the venue. Have a problem don't come she's not stressing. The only ppl she cares about being at her wedding is her mom brother husband to be grandma aunt best friend and my uncle that's marrying her. She only inviting others so nobody is crying about not being invited. I and her husband to be sister her and my daughter is close. Her husband to be said his own mother is not allow to come. Love it set it out there up front and if ppl feels like they don't have to respect someone wishes or decisions so small like that than they would never respect you and will always do something to out shine you or try to.
It's her day she said the top was taking the attention off of the bride so she tainted it she has every right to. The sil is an entitled brat, she choose to wear a color so she can look good for someone else's day. All sil had to do was pay for the pictures it's not on her to pay for anything someone else wants. That is her day her memories her pictures. Truth be told I wouldn't gave nobody pictures but me. The only pictures people would have gotten is of me and my husband. A woman have the right to be petty about her wedding and about her having children. Any issues and you have to go.
AHs all round in my opinion. The bride, for having the photos edited without saying anything to her sister-in-law. SIL, for making a big deal out of it when the occasion was clearly not about her. And the photographer, for charging extra for the originals when the edited photos had already been paid for.
NAH Both seem right. The newlyweds should get the wedding photos they want. Wearing a white shirt as part of any kind of suit to a wedding is totally reasonable. The photographer might be a bit of an AH for not just handing over the raw unedited white shirt version. They got paid for their time, paid for their edits, the raw photos were part of the process but also part of what they were paid to take. It shouldn't cost extra to get a raw version of a photo they paid for the edited version of.
If someone invited you to an event, tells you there's a dress code or theme and wishes for everyone to abide by, please decline their invitation if you deliberately intend to go against those wishes or if it somehow goes against what you stand for. The OP is NTA because she didn't create a scene at the event, she merely wanted her pics to look how she wanted. Also, She is not obligated to even distribute pics to everyone, when ppl attend events, wedding included, they capture their own memories. Any professional pics paid for by the bride and groom are really for themselves. Why is the SIL upset at this? I have no idea. If she loved the outfit so much, get a photographer and go take some pics in it.
This is so dumb. See this is why I never go to anyone's wedding nor will I ever participate in one because of some people's insecurities. This bride was mad over a white top that she claimed made her sister in law stand out wow. I bet these ladies in laws or not don't like being in the same room let alone around each other. Just sad
I'm so over this wedding rules bs. Can't do this, shouldn't do that, MUST say this, don't say that. I think I'd have more fun living in North Korea than attending a wedding with all these restrictions going on.
Addressed to those thinking white anything should be taboo at a wedding: Bridesmaids had the *original* purpose of distracting would-be kidnappers from knowing positively who the actual bride was, hence the reason for them dressing in finery similarly to the bride's, back when marriages were all about land, titles and money. Also, wearing all white is a very recent invention,. Women used to simply don their best dress, whatever colour and fabric and style it was. Wearing a white article of clothing such as a top or pants IN ZERO WAYS infringes upon a bride, ain't nobody mistaking a woman in a black-and-white pantsuit as the object of kidnapping desires.... Get over your ultimate 'specialness', brides. It's your day, we know, try not to be a turd about it.
Your SIL is still the sister of your husband, so this event is as important for her, and it's normal she wants to look her best; it's her brother's wedding pictures too after all and she hasn't broken any rule. Sorry but YTA, and that's not how you want to start a new family relationship with your SIL. Great for your to have the pictures you want in your album (even if i don't agree too much), but give her her real pictures to be fair with her; certainly won't break the bank..
I feel like nobody comes off well in this story. It's incredibly entitled and obnoxious to demand that anyone get, and pay for, extra/different wedding photos so that you, a guest, look better in them. However, it's a little petty of the bride to have had the photos altered just because a guest had a white shirt on. (But on the third hand, if SIL *habitually* acts entitled and makes other people's occasions all about her, then I'd cut the bride more slack on being a little petty, than if this was an isolated incident.)
Honestly. Nta. OP didn't completely change SILs top just dulled it in the 6 photos of I'm sure 100s that the Bride specifically wanted. I think as the one paying for the photos she can have them altered how ever she wants, especially if she is trying to highlight herself and her new husband who should be the focal point anyway. She did not alter every photo. So I'm sure there are plenty with SIL in her white top just the way it is. But she wants those 6 specific photos the bride chose to be unaltered. SIL is being pretty and even admitted to wanting to look good and stand out. OP even states it had a lot to do with the background and lighting they had available. So honestly this wouldn't be an uncommon thing for a professional photographer to do. Plus OP offered to have them reordered but SIL had to pay for them, which I think is fair. SIL wants them and they cost extra on top of what the OP has already paid. So I don't think asking for compensation on something the SIL wants and not the bride or groom.
Eh esh. The bride completely overreacted by saying that she was StEalInG tHe SpOtLiGhT, but the SIL shouldn’t have been talking behind her back( although as I type this out I realize I would’ve done the same thing).
Some people are really missing the point OP was trying to make. If was the fact that SILs shirt blended into her dress in the wedding pics. No definition, no contrast. This is NOT the photographer's fault. The SIL was clearly just trying to get good pics of herself, kinda sounds like she was being selfish and not thinking of the bride. For OP to only have the shirt slightly greyed out, these are her photos and simply fixed the problem that her SIL caused. OP was not even a bit jealous or threatened, she wanted her dress to stand out. How crazy of the bride to want that, geesh the nerve / s
two words "SCREW HER!" that your relative would even consider marrying someone like that in the first lace speaks much more about him then it does her....
It's 'don't wear white' to a wedding. Not you can't wear anything white at all. That is utterly and completely ludicrous. In countries where white is the traditional colour (which is a very recent tradition in the scheme of things and only thanks to Queen Victoria for making it popular as she was the fashionista of her day when she married) then most people know not to wear a COMPLETELY white outfit. Wearing a white top or bottom with another colour is absolutely okay. People get themselves wound up over nothing - both of them have here. Pathetic.
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