“Several People Have Denied The Invitation”: Bride Wonders If Her ‘No Plus Ones’ Wedding Rule Is Too Ridiculous

Weddings are supposed to be a once-in-a-lifetime event, so the people who organize it have a lot of pressure to do it right. Because of the stress and the desire to have it all perfect, weddings are often surrounded by drama that makes families and friends get into fights.

Brides always feel that they are in the right because it is their big day, so why should anyone else have a say in it? This is true, but they shouldn’t be mad if someone refuses to come because they won’t feel comfortable at their ceremony.

Reddit user TAplusonedrama is a bride and she won’t apply the plus one tradition at her wedding, so only people that get an invitation can come. Although it is a person’s right to decide if they will come, she feels offended that several people didn’t want to attend anymore, but redditors think it is not the bride’s place to insist that someone come.

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Bride has strict rules about who can come to her wedding but is upset about other people declining her invitation

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The Original Poster (OP) is a bride and the wedding is her and her fiancé’s love celebration, so in order for it to be enjoyable for them, they have certain rules. One of the rules is that only people who have an invitation can come.

According to wedding etiquette, married, engaged and cohabiting guests traditionally get a plus-one as they are considered kind of as a unit. Other guests may also be allowed to bring people so that they won’t be uncomfortable, but these rules aren’t the law and you really don’t have to follow them.

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The OP has a few criteria if her guests want to take a plus one

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Both the bride and the groom have to know that person and have a good relationship with them

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The OP said that she would allow her guests to bring a plus one if both she and her fiancé already know that person, if their relationship is close enough that they would enjoy having dinner together with them, if they would get a separate invitation anyway and if that person is also her friend.

It doesn’t matter if the guest is married, engaged or in a long-term relationship, their significant other can’t come if they don’t meet the criteria. This might not seem fair for everyone, but if the bride and groom only want close friends and family to attend that they know and cherish; it is their decision.

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Which doesn’t necessarily mean that married and long-term couples can automatically bring their partners

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Understandably, some people declined the wedding invitation because maybe they don’t feel comfortable going there alone or they don’t want to go to a celebration without their partner.

In general, the bride should have expected a similar reaction from people, but what she didn’t expect was for her cousin to refuse to attend. The cousin has been engaged with his fiancée for a year and was upset that she wasn’t invited.

Which led to some people declining invitations

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The OP was mostly upset about her cousin not attending because he didn’t want to come without his fiancée

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She wasn’t invited because the OP’s fiancé hasn’t met her yet and it seems that the bride isn’t fond of the woman either. But the OP still wanted her cousin to come and told him how heartbroken she was he couldn’t leave his fiancée for a few hours to celebrate his cousin’s big day.

The cousin got angry and said that being separated from his fiancée was not the point because they can easily spend time away from each other because they go on separate vacations and have separate friend groups. What bothered him was that he felt disrespected and that she excluded his long-term partner.

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