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“Several People Have Denied The Invitation”: Bride Wonders If Her ‘No Plus Ones’ Wedding Rule Is Too Ridiculous
He thought that the OP was disrespecting him by not inviting his fiancée, but the OP though he was the one being disrespectful for not coming to her wedding
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But the cousin also realized that he doesn’t have a chance in changing her mind because it is the OP’s big day and those are her rules. When he admitted this, the OP jumped in and asked him to respect them and to attend the wedding.
This whole interaction didn’t sit right with redditors and what bothered them was that the bride was trying to guilt trip the cousin to come. They also were on the cousin’s side because if someone doesn’t want to go to a wedding for not liking the rules, the organizers of the event should respect that as the guest showed respect by not breaking those rules.
People were of the opinion that if the bride and groom have the power to decide who can come and who can’t, guests have a right to decide whether to accept that invitation or not.
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Now the OP wonders if she might be in the wrong here and asks if her reasons for no plus ones are unreasonable
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The OP responded to a few comments and it became clearer why she didn’t understand why her cousin made such a huge deal. Turns out, she was in the same situation as him and didn’t mind it. “In the past, one friend of my fiancé got married and I hadn’t met him so I wasn’t invited. I wasn’t mad.”
In her eyes, her cousin declining the invitation was disrespectful towards her because “he cares more about some moment of discomfort rather than supporting his cousin,” even though she understands that he is allowed not to come. “Of course he has an option, I don’t disagree with that. But that decision could also be disrespectful of him, no?”
It is a situation when both sides have their own logic and feelings, so it’s hard to convince the other. But looking from the outside, who do you think is in the wrong here? Do you feel the bride has too strict of a rule or the cousin is being petty by not coming? Let us know in the comments!
People in the comments were mostly not bothered by OP’s wedding rules but the way how she reacted to her cousin declining her invitation didn’t sit well with them
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Shelp 3 years ago
On the last AITA post I complained on how all of these have a very clearly non-assehole OP. BoredPanda listened to me and gave me the story of someone who was very much an a*****e.
NsG 3 years ago
... wow... Yeah. YTA. So is your fiance if he's going along with this. I'd love to be able to watch your friend circle diminish as you apply these frankly batcrap crazy rules to future dinner parties, only to discover your own rules mean you'll invite fewer and fewer people and fewer and fewer people will accept. Enjoy your enforced hermithood.
Shelp 3 years ago
On the last AITA post I complained on how all of these have a very clearly non-assehole OP. BoredPanda listened to me and gave me the story of someone who was very much an a*****e.
NsG 3 years ago
... wow... Yeah. YTA. So is your fiance if he's going along with this. I'd love to be able to watch your friend circle diminish as you apply these frankly batcrap crazy rules to future dinner parties, only to discover your own rules mean you'll invite fewer and fewer people and fewer and fewer people will accept. Enjoy your enforced hermithood.
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