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Woman Wears Red Dress To Cousin’s Wedding To Show That She Slept With The Groom First, But The Bride Outsmarts Her
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Woman Wears Red Dress To Cousin’s Wedding To Show That She Slept With The Groom First, But The Bride Outsmarts Her

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No matter what, family always has your back. Except when they don’t.

Just a few days ago, a now-deleted Reddit user submitted a story about her wedding to the ‘True Off My Chest’ community, which invites people to speak their minds when no one else listens to them.

In it, the woman explained that her cousin had a thing with her new husband, and, feeling bitter, decided to wear a red dress to their wedding to inform everyone about it.

However, the bride came up with an idea of how to protect her big day from becoming a scandal.

This woman learned that her cousin had a fling with the man she was marrying and was planning to wear a red dress to their wedding to let everyone know about it

Image credits: Joeyy Lee (not the actual photo)

So she devised a plan to outsmart her

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Image credits: Karolina Grabowska (not the actual photo)

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It’s not entirely clear how widespread the whole red dress equals infidelity thing is. But many industry experts dismiss it.

For example, Lisa Burton, aka The Bridal Consultant, who has two decades worth of experience in planning weddings abroad and currently focuses on throwing ceremonies in Greece and Italy, didn’t even know it existed.

“I’ve been planning weddings for just over 20 years and I can honestly say that I’ve never heard anything negative about wearing red to a wedding,” she told Bored Panda. “In fact, at Chinese weddings, red represents joy and celebration and is a very popular choice with Chinese brides.”

“The only color I’m aware of that has any type of ‘taboo’ to it would be all white, which traditionally is reserved for the bride.”

“I think I might even have worn red myself at one time. Red is widely worn by guests of all ages so I dare say there is very little truth to this unless the groom is a very busy man,” Burton explained.

Meredith Stoeklein, the founder of bridal label LEIN, also advocates for wearing red to a wedding because it is often associated with love and passion, and has an extensive palette. According to her, red attire for a guest should ideally have a muted shade and elegant undertones such as burgundy, berry, or rust. If the look is subtle and tasteful, a red ensemble is wedding-appropriate.

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You could say that the whole mess could’ve been avoided had the bride just uninvited her cousin, but that’s a really complicated process. “I had a bride that once uninvited her chief bridesmaid due to arguments about the style of bridesmaid dress,” Lisa Burton recalled. “The situation escalated to a few nasty conversations over text which eventually led to the bridesmaid being ‘fired’ and the invitation being revoked completely, and more sadly, the end of a long, close friendship. I dare say there was more to it than this, because losing a friendship over a style of dress seems incredibly sad.”

“Most situations with difficult guests tend to be in the close bridal party, or at least these are the ones I hear about,” Burton said. “And mainly due to falling out, so the way the guest is disinvited is often quite abrupt and not in the nicest way. However, is there a way to nicely uninvite a guest? I don’t think so, considering it’s often due to unpleasant circumstances.”

Luckily, the author of the story seems to have found the perfect solution that prevented all the family drama that could’ve come in case she demanded the cousin stay away from the ceremony.

Unfortunately, though, sometimes you just feel you have no choice.

If you feel it’s impossible to avoid, Burton suggests “to do this verbally over the phone, or even better in person. Emails and texts can be misconstrued and they might portray the wrong intention.”

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The wedding planner feels a verbal conversation is more personal and you can better communicate your reasoning, no matter what it is. “It’s also the hardest way, and takes courage, but for the sake of future relations, I’d say it’s worth the effort,” she said.

People had a lot to say after reading what happened

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Laura Ketteridge
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Has anyone one heard of this 'red' tradition? If so, can you say which area/culture you have come across it?

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The Other Guest
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I did a quick Google search; apparently it's a Southern US thing? Red is in reference to being "a scarlet woman," or so one article said. Weird.

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Amy Taylor
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

LOL!! It makes me want to wear red to every wedding I ever attend now just to stir the pot lol

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Ivana Bašić
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

"I'm not inviting her because she wants to brag to everyone she slept with the groom. Whoever feels uncomfortable because of it is welcome to skip the wedding, too." There.

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Kate Jones
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I agree. She could have just disinvited her and had a nice day. By doing what she did, no matter how satisfying it was, it sort of gave the other girl exactly what she wanted which was to take attention away from the bride on her wedding day and made it all about her. The bride's memory of the day will never not have that mixed in with it because it was a big part of the day, and included a lot of people and pictures, etc. SO... I mean, I get the girl was a jerk but simply uninvite her and move on with your life.

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Ivanka van der Reest
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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I've never heard of the "wearing red means you slept with the groom" thing before. Must be something cultural I guess. The only reason why it's not always advised to wear red is that you risk outshining the bride as it's a very strong color. But still, what a weird family. That aunt should be ashamed. OP didn't "steal" anyone. Humans aren't property and OP and her husband are two consenting adults who are in love and should be allowed to celebrate that. And they definitely shouldn't have to break up because of some fling he had back in the day. Just because he slept with her cousin 8 years ago and then dumped her doesn't give her any claim to him at all. Instead of being angry at OP the aunt should be angry with her own daughter for PLANNING to ruin someone's wedding just because she's jealous.

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Marguerite Towson
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I actually think it comes from the movie “Gone With The Wind” because Scarlett had a thing for Ashly Wilkes, who was married to Melanie. Scarlett was throwing herself at Ashly and Rhett caught her and made her wear a garish red dress to Melanie’s birthday party. It was quite scandalous

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Therese Ernholdt
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

LOL my wedding gown was scarlet red so guess this tradition applied “true” I slept with the groom 😂

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Boerenhond
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I always thought it was for the bride. White is I'm still vigin. Red = couldnt contain myself.

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Keith O
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Hi Aunt, you're a b!tch, and you're daughter is c#nt. I didn't "steal" anyone, as he had ZERO interest in her and I didn't even find out until MONTHS after we'd been together. People absolutely should not care about hurting the feelings of someone who acts this way, and if the FAM has a problem with it tell them the fu@king truth and out her for how sh!tty she is.

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Aldert Nagel
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I am confused with the "its gross" comments. How can this be gross? it is not like it was happening at the same time...

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Khara Mei
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The only thing that I have ever heard of against wearing red to a western (assuming this is a western wedding) wedding is "too bright will take away attention from the bride". Only others I have heard is in Chinese and Indian weddings because red is a bridal colour. No one else seemed to take issue with wearing red.

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Casey McAlister
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I have a feeling that this cousin might be the only person in the world who knows about this "tradition" and most guests, seeing her in a red dress, would think nothing of that. She'd have to carry a banner.

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Yunterria Tatum
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

No in Louisiana its a known thing and there's would have been whispers. She definitely would have stood out but im glad the bride cut her out that way... Priceless!!

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Hope Springs
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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I believe she did the best she could here. By asking her mom what would happen if she uninvited the cousin shows that the family is already prone to drama, since she had to guage the extent of the fallout. Secretly switching the color scheme allowed the bride to avoid embarrassment and being made to feel uncomfortable on their wedding day (as anyone should be able to) and still permitted the cousin to do the spiteful thing she wanted to do. The only difference is the cousin's act of be-redding herself didn't produce the outcome she clearly desired. I'd call that 3 for 3. ⚡

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Hope Springs
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Additionally, keeping the change a secret prevented the cousin from discovering her plan had been foiled and concocting one even more dastardly that no one else knew about.

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Donna Leduc
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Wow! Imagine red being the harlot's color in the southern USA. Someone should inform the cousin the Handmaid's Tale is fiction not a guidebook.

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Kota Ball
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It more likely would have been associated with the Scarlet Letter (if actually a thing, which it all but isn't) but still

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Mika N
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I've never heard of wearing red to wedding having that meaning either! Apparently it was/is a thing (according to google), but it sounds like uncommon enough knowledge that I feel like we should all just deicide to drop that meaning and not worry about wearing red 🙄

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Fergus Corgi
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The aunt claiming the bride stole her cousin's man is just hilarious. I assume the aunt is the cousin's mother so she probably didn't get the real story. Some guy you randomly hook up with once at a party is in no way your man. The cousin clearly never got over him.

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Laura Gillette
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Uhhh my fall wedding's colors were gold and cranberry, all my bridesmaids wore a shade of red... 🤣

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LH25
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'll bet the cousin would have been sure to tell everyone why she was wearing red if given the chance. I'm another who never heard of that.

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Julie Ham
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I suspect the red "message" was something the cousin saw in a book or movie; sand believes it's a thing. Just like she apparently believes a drunken one night stand means a "happily ever after". Cousin must have exhibited some of her true colors back then. And the groom obviously dodged a bullet. Cousin needs some therapy to get past her imaginary relationship with the groom.

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S
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Well we see where cuzzo got her petty attitude from... Also, you didn't steal anyone's man, HE DIDN'T WANT YOU SIS haha

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Lindy Mac
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I have never head of this "Tell" and the cousin and the aunt sound like a piece of work. WHY was this cousin invited to the wedding in the first place?... she is a b***h. Brilliant move on the Bride's part inviting one and all to wear red. Just because someone is family doesn't mean they get to be part of your life if they have such rude motives.

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Alexis Dominey
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

White only became traditional because people wanted to copy Queen Victoria in 1840. We need to go back to more colorful gowns; me I wouldn't look good in all white, darker shades suit me better.

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Forever Changed
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You mean Victoria. The word Queen or royalty is completely made up. Anyone who thinks they can just make a word up impose it on everyone then claim they are above people is an absolutely disgusting horrible person. I despise anyone who claims to be royal. All they are is descendents of monsters.

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Kristina Cowan
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Wow, fruit doesn't fall far from tree, if her mom acts like that! Petty... 🙄

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Amanda Madden
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This is not a tradition I am aware of. I do understand bright red to be an attention grabbing color so avoided by many. On the other hand my brother in law just got married to a Mexican woman and she let us know red will be something the ladies in her family will wear. We had a brief conversation about her family customs. Just enough for me to let her know I’m generally down for having a “ respectfully good time.” Meaning simply that I want to respect her traditions and share in the good times.Some ladies in her family wore red. They looked amazing but they still let her shine. The rest wore neutral business attire with comfortable but cute shoes. They also looked lovely. I didn’t see any stop sign red. Honestly I don’t think anyone really would have batted an eye. The bride looked stunning.

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General Anaesthesia
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Next you'll be telling me that wearing white means that the bride is a virgin. These newfangled traditions have got to stop!

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Nessie Will
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Isn't that what it was supposed to have meant initially? Also, the fact that we have never heard of the wearing red tradition, does not mean it is a new one. It could be an old one that we have simply never heard about.

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SkekVi
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

All of this is so incredibly straight I don't even know where to begin. EIGHT years ago your cousin has a fling and she and you are both weird about the fact that your husband wasn't a total virgin before meeting you?? People have lives before marriage. Cousin was wrong but OP pls chill. You're not gross. Your husband's sexual history is not something it is reasonable to judge him for at all. And don't judge yourself either?? Like damn purity culture relaly out of control at this point. Straight people y'all okay? Please relax.

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TwitchyBird
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It's much more about his d**k being inside a family member before than his d**k being inside just anyone before her. It is kind of weird to think of going to bed with someone who you know for a fact has had relations with family, especially close family. Not gross, not something to judge about, but I see how it could feel odd.

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Polly Troy
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9 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Your cousin is just jealous that you got a better man than she’ll ever get his stupid jerk. You don’t care about her at all or your aunt for that matter you go girl.

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JahJahBinx
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

8years ago... and she's still caught up on him??? Ffs cousin needs to get lost. And so does her mother.

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Matt Ronald Slater
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If I was the OP: OP [talking to aunt]: "Your daughter tried to create drama at my wedding, and you're blaming ME for taking countermeasures?!"

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Trista Weidenborner
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The “red dress means you slept with a groom” isn’t a thing so I imagine this attention-seeking tart was hoping to go “aren’t you guys wondering why I’m wearing THIS dress?” With her reason followed by a “everyone totally knows this” to get people to assume they themselves hadn’t heard that fact.

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Grace Note
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

So, if wearing red is such a well-known sign that you've slept with the groom - which seriously the majority of us only heard about while reading this - surely all and sundry wearing red must have made it look like the groom really got around. Or. The majority of people at the wedding have never heard of it either and so her cousin wearing red wouldn't have mattered at all. That's a whole heap of oddness.

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LittleLiz
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Someone commented that the cousin's plan wouldn't have worked because nobody knows what it means. I believe that the cousin is the type to tell people at the wedding/reception (who didn't ask) what it means.

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Sarah Branham
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This was a BRILLIANT solution on the bride's part and that sounds petty, vindictive, and not worth a friendship at any level. I suggest therapy--and I mean that kindly. Holding onto that much resent for 8 years is not healthy and suggests underlining issues.

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Ivan Petrov
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I don't understand why it "was gross" she had a one night stand with the groom YEARS ago. This is really stupid and petty, in the end there is still drama, but at least it wasn't on the wedding.

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Sheila Simonson
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

52 yr old, live in the south, never heard of this. not sure where this is from

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DaFetus
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

In Chinese culture red signifies happiness and luck. So on a typical wedding day for a bride in Chinese culture , only she will wear red. This is the only meaning for a red dress I know.

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SkekVi
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The fact that your cousin (and you, lowkey) seems to think you're 'gross' for... ::checks notes:: your boyfriend not being a virgin when you got together? That's weird OP. Also why are her panties in a twist? EIGHT years ago she and the groom had a one-night stand and he clearly communicated with her and y'all BOTH hung up on this still? Wtf. Are straight people okay???? damn. anyway bride you did the right thing your cousin can boil her head. But stop s**t shaming yourself and your husband also??? Like people do exist before getting married and they have lives and stuff. Damn.

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TwitchyBird
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It's much more about his d**k being inside a family member than his d**k being inside just anyone before her. It is kind of weird to think of going to bed with someone who you know for a fact has had relations with family, especially close family. Not gross, not something to judge about, but I see how it could feel odd. Pretty sure the assumption that she's upset about his non-virginity is incorrect lol.

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Dog Mom
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Who else is desperately trying to remember everything they've ever worn to a wedding right now? This red thing is not common knowledge that I know of.

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Zena Marsh
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Not in the UK, as far as I know. Glad the bride had a lovely day.

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Kat Peterson
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9 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I think it’s hilarious. The cousin is an idiot. She wanted to wear red to the wedding to let everybody know that she had a one night stand. Hooked up with a guy she just met. Is that something to brag about? Quite frankly, it’s just kind of slutty.

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Tiffany Persaud
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Kudos to the bridge for having a healthy conversation with her groom and moving forward in a creative way to handle family drama.

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Jessica Jensen
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Well, no one mentioned this when I chose red for my wedding colors and had the bridesmaids and FLOWER GIRLS in red dresses and the groomsmen in red vests (including my husband's own brother lol) and my brother wore a red shirt and my mom even wore a darker reddish burgundy to go with our colors so I think it is safe to say this is not a very widespread or well known thing. Red looks amazing on so many people and it made my white dress and his black tux stand out so nicely. In fact, David's Bridal offers all of their bridesmaid's dresses in the color Apple Red.....well they did 20 years ago when I was planning my wedding, just had our 18th anniversary....but I assume they still offer the color even if the dress styles have changed.

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Hrudz
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The moral of the story is: if you want to crash a wedding, don't tell anyone about your plan

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idrow1
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I honestly would have chosen war. I don't care if it's not the high road, you're not coming to my wedding if your plan is to sabotage it. I don't need your negative energy on what's supposed to be a celebration. The aunt is just as much of a head case as the cousin.

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Lou Cam
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I got married in a red dress and yes, I had done the dirty with the groom. No shame in that.

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Pacifico Fernandez
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

ok, that definitely is fake. An aunt sends an email to a bride to tell her that she is a b.. because [checks notes] hurting her cousin by not letting her be petty on her wedding. There is no way anyone in real life does that.

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Valerie Witter
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I’m from New Orleans and have never heard of this. I’m 71 and have to quite a few weddings! But I think your cousin needs therapy. I won’t even ask if she’s single!

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E M
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

She needs to just kick these 2 idiots out of her life for good.

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Got Myself 4 Pandas
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Never heard of the red dress thing, now wondering if I've ever worn red to a wedding.......

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Hannah
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8 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

"stealing her man?" You can't steal someone who didn't want you lol

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Janet Howe
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8 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

A one night stand does not make him someone's "man" as the aunt put it. The cousin seems to have pangs of jealousy or something.

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weatherwitch
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8 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

So one microscopic area of the world and this is claimed to be a thing everyone knows about 🙄 Given the area involved they've probably had most of the family too 😂😂😂

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June Miller
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8 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It says a lot about your cousin that she would want to brag about being so 'easy', and rejected as well! I would have let her.

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Okatango
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10 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

When did weddings go from celebrating a couple's love with friends and family to being a weird day of entitled megalomania and petty one upmanship?

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Debbie
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11 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The "you are gross because you are going to marry a guy I hooked up with once" gives me " virgin " vibes. I mean, double standards, that someone is gross for not being pure.

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Lemon_squeezy
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8 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I highly doubt that's the case. I'm surprised people think that's the issue, but they are cousins, so obviously it's a matter of smashing the same person as your family member did, nothing to do with virginity.

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Flaming Kitsune
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11 months ago

So she basically salty that she rejected 8 years and somehow she has claims if op dates or married him. He not object he clearly rejected and she see him as her because she sleep with him and " had" him frist. It actually kind of creepy. She should moved onto some one who actually want be relationship with her but instead she acting like child that didn't get her way to a thing that happened 8 year ago...

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Willow Ashley
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Never heard about the red dress thing. In China people wear red wedding dresses and white for funerals. Meanwhile your cousin makes me sad. So very sad. Maybe get an out of state friend sent her an anonymous list of therapists in her area. Or help her self esteem yourself. If you want the to stop BTA. Tell her despite everything she looked damn good in her dress.

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Hyun Aera
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Actually in my culture or I think in just my family, wearing black to marriage means you are trying to curse their marriage to break and red colour or shades of red are the only colours worn by bride for her wedding in India.

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Tiffany C
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My friend wore a red dress to my wedding reception and I know, without a doubt, she had no interest in my husband at all. Some people just wear bold colors.

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Donald Holder
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm with the group that had no frkn idea or heard of this 'red dress' meaning. I'm 60 and besides my own I think I've been in about 14. No mention of it anywhere. Most were in the United States but also 6 'overseas' to include Sicily, Rome, London and The Philippines.

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Gregg Bender
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Never heard of the red thing and I'm old enough to be retired. OP, well played. Very well played. I strongly suggest to cut Cuz right out of your life for that stunt. She's as toxic as a Superfund site. Your aunt and any other family member who are buying Cuz's story are suspect too, IMHO.

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Pat Turner
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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Good job on the red dresses. Congrats on the marriage and putting your cousin in the corner....🤗🤗

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Bella V
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Well Hubs and I had a Christmas wedding last year, everyone was in red and green and every other Christmas color. All the brides maids were in green the groomsmen were in re-.... uh oh..... lol J/K This is the dumbest thing I've ever heard. And hold up, you stole her man but that happened 8 YEARS before you met him?! (obsessed much???) Here, I thought my family was effed up.

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Debra Minchew
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The cousin is the gross one. She was just a one night stand. Jealous much.

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Simone Beaumont
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My wife and I are from the south and all of our bridesmaids wore red. We definitely have never heard of this.

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Darleen Marie
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I feel so bad for OP. First her cousin wanted to take away the attention from the bride on her wedding date. When her petty action was rebutted back to not let her ruin a wedding. She leaves early upset because her pettiness. Then the aunt calls out the bride for pettiness? I really don't understand the nosy meddling aunt doing that. I find her cousin a psycho, petty person that if pushed to the brink can become dangerous. In a way of f*****g up people's lives and mental health. She should really block her from her life.

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Charles McCallum
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The wedding expert that referenced red in Asian weddings needs to do some research. Wearing red at a Vietnamese wedding is seen as an attempt to take attention away from the bride.

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Lemon_squeezy
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8 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Actually, in some Asian cultures, like china, the bride apparently wears red to signify good omens. People only started wearing white dresses after queen Victoria started it.

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Caroline Starr
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My daughter's wedding. https://www.rocknrollbride.com/2021/12/red-yellow-blue-cardiff-covid-wedding/

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Joanne Lang
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1 day ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

When my daughter got married she was VERY EXPLICIT about me not wearing a fuddy duddy "mother-of-the-bride" dress. She chose a sleeveless, vibrant red lace jump suit with a mandarin collar and flare pant legs. Her bridesmaids dresses were red satin.

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Suzie
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3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The cousin wants to wear red so everyone knows she had the groom first but it's the bride who is petty by thwarting her petty cousin? Well, at least the bride knows where her cousin learned the behavior.

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Deborah B
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6 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This was a brilliant and classy way to handle it. Yeah, disinviting her would have been easier, but if you can't do that for the sake of family peace, making her one of the (red-wearing) crowd is a good way to make her blend in instead of standing out.

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Pamela Blue
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6 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Sounds to me like you have some pretty toxic relatives who need to be cut out of your life. I would go as low-contact as I could without causing your own parents difficulties. If it doesn't cause them any trouble, I'd go no-contact. They sound like awful people, and you don't need those kind of people in your life.

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Rita Benkő
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7 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My only reference comes from Miss Manners: it is/used to be considered wearing red at a wedding as racy; therefore, it indicates questionable taste on behalf of the wearer.

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Hannah
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7 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Why would you want to advertise you slet with the groom? You might as well just wear a giant sign that says "Last place!" Lol

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4498s
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7 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

bored panda needs to get rid of the ad videos cuz idc about this shi

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Albawind Blair
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7 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I've always heard if the bride wore red on her wedding day, she would wish herself dead. And if she wore black she would wish herself back. I've never heard if anyone else wore a specific color. So many silly superstitious!

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Mudassar Hameed
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8 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Its hilarious. Join us to get the wedding dresses on low prices of top selling brand: https://list.com.pk/wedding/

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Eledore Massis
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8 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My mom asked everyone to come in white or cream, she wore purple and dad was grey. Break the system, do what you want, but don't be a a*s and intentionally ruin a day of celebration..

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Harriet Burgess
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8 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I've heard of the tradition of the bride wearing red being a poor omen. Also the cousin sounds like a spoilt brat. If I was the bride and I had heard about this, instantly uninvited. She would be relegated to the reception.

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Lemon_squeezy
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8 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Actually, in China, brides wear red and it is a symbol of good omens. Red is a big part of Chinese culture.

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Diolla
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9 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Huh... reading this made me realize that the last wedding I officially attended was in 2003 or so.

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9 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Ok, first of all u aren't petty, and second, ur cousin got rejected, he wasn't hers in the first place, damn

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Mr Old School Cool
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10 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Fake/clickbait. First red dresses mean nothing of the sort, and if this was real at all then the bad (red) apple cousin simply gets banned from the wedding

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jennifer Hamm
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10 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Umm I wore red to a wedding and I didn't sleep with the groom!! I have never heard of this!!! But also I was told it was Christmas theme so I wore red!

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Flaming Kitsune
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11 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

So she basically hook 8 years ago and he rejected her and then op met months later? How gross she dating/marrying him? She just salty she was rejected and seems she mentally that because she sleep with him frist, she owns him and ties salty girl mom calming " she stole him". The groom isn't a f*****g object he Clearly wants to be with op and the fact she still salty when this eight years is really sad, she should moved on from this rejection and just find someone who actually wants to be relationship with her.

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Lita Bradshaw
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11 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

First of all I Never heard of such thing about wearing a red dress but that was a good move you made with having them all to wear Red, don't worry about your cousin or aunt getting mad, as long as you're Happy everything is great you don't have to sleep or deal with them at all 👍👏

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Syl Clark
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11 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

She mad he didnt put a ring on her, just a booty call. To hell with her. She and her mother are delusional. I would tell them both to kick rocks. If she said she was wearing a red dress, her invite would have gotten lost in the mail.

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Carol Edmonds
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11 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I wore a red gown(not a bright red shade; it was cranberry)in my sister's wedding, but never heard of this meaning. It was many years ago, anyway.

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Fresh Big
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11 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

what a load of s**t. Who cares what color you wear as long as its not white.

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Dorian
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11 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

True she doesn't own the guy, but let's keep it real. Thirsty beotch couldn't dig for her own dic, hundreds of men all around and she's secretly checking for sloppy seconds. Jus sayn. Guessing she and her relative must not be close or didn't grow up together and were like distant strangers, cuz in my family we don't suc the same dix. Doesn't matter if she had em in highschool, college or whatever. That creates friction. And family ties last forever, n lot more important than some fly by dix. Especially with high divorce rates these days. Just my opinion based on my own family members. Years ago one of my old sisters old boyfriends tried to talk to me. Lol I laughed in his face cut em off. Told him look don't ruin our friendship with this nonsense. And I'll give u an hour to let her know. But that's it, one hour before I call her. He thought was joking at first, then he realized I wasn't when I reminded him clock was ticking. Told him we don't share dic. Diff type guys 2

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Mike_The_Nike (gender fluid)
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

i’ve never heard of this red thing, and i wore a red dress to my aunt’s wedding. (to be fair, the girls in my mom’s family wore red, and the girls in my aunt’s family wore blue) also, when i was trying to get a slice of cake, i accidently knocked it over😂 (don’t worry, it was already destroyed by other people getting cale very poorly)

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Brandon Parisien
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Why does every bord panda article I open reload to this page? Think the editors bother to read the comments?

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Jade H
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Lol the real issue here is that the cousin is pissed bc she was a one and done but op managed to seal the deal 😂😂😂

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AK to LV
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My cousin(F) got married this last spring. Another cousin (M) wore a red suit to it. How awkward😂😂

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Celtic Pirate Queen
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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

He chose not to purse a relationship from EIGHT years ago & she's still upset? Honey, no one "stole your man". It sounds like he dodged the crazy bullet. (Or maybe he just decided you were a sl*t? and took a pass). I've never heard of the red dress thing either, but I love how the OP ruined her cousin's plan to ruin her wedding. That's a level of petty immaturity I've never seen before.

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Kelley Eidem
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

To summarize: The malignant narcissist left early, and her mother got the petty cure.

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Molly Spurgeon
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The aunt had to be misinformed (or she's as crazy as her daughter), but EVEN giving her that benefit of the doubt still makes it hard to understand where she gets off calling the bride "petty" for letting others wear red at her wedding instead of letting only the cousin wear a special color at someone else's wedding...like, what?!?

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Kj Walker
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

As a reader I do not know the full scope of anyone's family neither will I pretend to. With that said I must acknowledge that the cousin was classless and anyone who was in support of her gesture was also classless unless this is some diehard tradition which must be upheld and even so it's foolish. If she was always apposed to the relationship then why was she invited? If she was apposed to the relationship then why go to the wedding?After those 2 major questions are answered I find it tasteless to want to make a statement at someone else's wedding. I feel she can make a statement by finding someone to marry her.

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Rachel Ann
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Apparently it's southern US thing. I was raised with basic etiquette in the NE US and the only place you're not supposed to wear red is a funeral because it's disrespectful.

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Forever Changed
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Not a southern thing as we all keep on trying to say. Clearly it's a made up story. Whoever wrote it was trying to be clever but it backfired on them.

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Brian Garrett
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Never heard of this. Not southern but in Missouri. Personally I would of let her wear it. It would of only embarrassed her anyways. If anyone even got the reference (and judging by the comments unless she sent out a family wide email nobody there would of either) it would just show that she was apparently not good enough for him and he chose the better person. Imo

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Eline
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

So, the cousin is immature enough to try to cause drama on a wedding, years after being rejected, and to go cry in mama's arms? No wonder she was rejected, this man dodged a bullet. It's so satisfying to know that the bride was way smarter than her, and made her pay .

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Mickey S
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I’m 63 yrs old never heard of such a thing so ? if the entire bridal party wears a red dress …. ? ☺️

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Don't worry, it's because the writer made it up. Apparently they were trying to be clever but it backfired on them.

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Houseof No
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If this toxic person is someone you call "one of your closest friends," no offense but you should seriously consider raising your standards. A true friend would keep the drama out of it and make an effort not to ruin your special day with her tasteless choice in wardrobe. Showing up the bride on her wedding day almost never ends well. Best wishes.

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Mark Davis
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Why would you deliberately wear a red dress for that purpose? Sounds like a $hitty friend.

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Nathan Wolfe
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm petty. I'd have said some cr*p like "I didn't steal him. Its not my fault your pu**y couldn't keep him".

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Gwendolyn Pond
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Has anyone ever heard of GIRL CODE OR MORALS OR FAMILY VALUES. Why do you want someone your cousin slept with and I know I don't believe this story especially if the Aunt got into it. There's a lit more to it. I definitely don't want anyone who knows what my sister cousin or best friend or any friend for that matter v- jayjay look smell taste or feel like. Heffas are desperate

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Conan Maschingon
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

it's still funny to me that people think they can't cut off family when they are toxic just because "they are family" trust me cutting negative people out of your life will only improve your way of living.

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Shantae
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I love the pettiness of the bride but just disinvite her and any other relative who had a problem with it! No jealous chick would've ruined my wedding. 😎✌🏽

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TearyRaindrop
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Your cousin was hurt you went out with someone that probably hurt her deeply. If she was being petty its because she was reacting from a place of pain and anger. She probably doesnt like the guy but your her family. Had you been a good cousin you would of spoken to her first (not because it was “her man”) but because you need to considered her feelings. Its called respect and LOVE. Why not go apologize and let her know you love her and your sorry for making her feel hurt all over again. Your hubby probably owes her an apology too for the way he hit and ended things. JUST SAYING 🤷🏻‍♀️

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Ricky Namara
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My father and mother got divorced before my father remarried my cousin and my mother married the sidepiece she was banging for the last five years leading up to their divorce. Lady, you have no idea what "gross" means.

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Jesse Lines
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I would have dis-invited her from the get go. Anyone who announces their intent to sabotage a wedding needs to go... brides maid or not.

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Lisa Brooks
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Didn't I read this a few months ago but that time it was white? Lol, I guess nothing is wrong with using left overs

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Lana Jig-maker
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

No lie cousin sleeping with a guy before I started dating him would probably stop me from marrying him

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Kathy Olinger
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Red is anciently (medieval times) the color of martyrs. Jilted lovers of high societal standing (at royal courts) often wore red as well as a nonverbal protest, a reminder to the gent, followed by outrageous flirting with his perceived court rivals, hence the whole "dangerous" vibe to the red dress. This could have been a thing at weddings at one time but is less likely because of the church's long standing emphasis on purity (for women) and the cultural degradations that followed for unrepentant sinners in those days. Black dresses as wedding attire for women is also anciently associated with a wish to 'curse' or bring disaster to the marriage, and plans for weddings were carefully planned and even postponed to avoid having attendees appear in black due to the year of mourning for deceased loved ones.

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P Webb
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Wearing red because you slept with the groom is not even a thing.

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Tina Newman
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Stupidest "problem " I've seen so far. Red dress means she likes red..nothing more, nothing less.

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Chanel Badgett
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The fact that the aunt called and was upset, tells us exactly why the cousin is an a*s; she got it from her mama! If she was so upset that her cousin is marrying this man, why not just stay tf home?! The OP shouldn’t have invited the cousin AT ALL but I’m happy her wedding wasn’t ruined and she’ll have a funny story to tell.

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Leila Abdelmeguid
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Trying to think back on how many times I wore red and to who's wedding🤔😨😝

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OneHappyPuppy
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Okay, I too was today years old when I found out about this "red" thing. My MOH wore a red/burgundy dress to my wedding, and had maybe met my husband a handful of times before (we were in a LDR). Oopsie :D I gotta tell her, I'm LMAO

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nini
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I have a beautiful red dress that I also already have worn to weddings... It's a dark red, whine red, though. And I've never slept with anyone's husband 😅

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M.
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Never heard of this. Ever. Wearing red to a wedding means you f****d the groom? Since when? I'm gonna haveta google this.

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Cody Hill
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Not really outsmart honestly anyone who thinks that's what wearing a red dress means now thinks he had orgy with the rest of the bridesmaids

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Windtree
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Never heard of this tradition in all of my middle aged life. Hope it dies.

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Debbie Burns
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Lesson #1- if you have a family that would *start a war because you didn't invite a whore of a cousin who insisted on attempting to ruin one of the best days of your life"- maybe, perhaps, just a thought, flip em the bird and don't worry about what anyone else thinks about what makes YOU happy. FFS.

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JuniorCJ82
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

F**k that cousin and f**k that aunt. Now we know where she gets it from. Go no contact.

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JuniorCJ82
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Since when has wearing a red dress meant that someone slept with the groom?

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resisting the patriarchy
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Honestly this was a lesson in you having better boundaries. Why invite someone then gossip about their bad behavior when you knew it would be dicey. Boundaries.

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Sonia Burns
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The only reason that I have ever known for not wearing red to a wedding is the connection to the "wound and the winding sheet". In that it symbolizes sickness, harm and death (think dead bodies in a shroud)

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Wayne Dent
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I would have uninvited the slutty cousin and told rest of family to get over it, that’s not a family it’s a drama clan!!! They don’t deserve to be in your life, let alone tell you how to orchestrate your wedding. Good for you for showing them that you smarter than they are!!

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Hello
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Never heard of that red thing. I read it as "red means he found someone better"

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Michał Osiecki
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Jesus what's wrong with pll and colors of their dress on the wedding. Soo much color drama

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Paulo Leitao
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

i dont understand this "damage done" mentality. people arent allowed to have a life prior and post someone ? this is ridiculous. neither is this woman gross, nor is there any damage done just because they went to bed before they met.

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Diphylleia Grayi
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Moral of the history: don't be an a*s&(le with your relatives because of human being -_-

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Penny Hollifield
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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Many years ago, when I was young & lovely, my sister bought me a designer dress for Christmas that was bright red, but not glitzy, backless, or strappy- it was very modest in style, but bright-red with a bright sky-blue belt. I wore it to many weddings (I had never heard anything about it meaning the wearer previously having sex with the groom!) I had never heard of it until reading reading this post (I am from Indiana, by the way.)!!

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Renata Tarnawski
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I had a bf, Ex now who's SiL HATED ME, Anyway 1 day she sends her husband to tell me NOT 2 WEAR GREEN as she DOESN'T want me looking like I'm in the wedding party. So I tell him to tell her that I'm going to wear RED from Head to Foot! So after I let That sink in, I did 1 BETTER! I went and bought this INCREDIBLE DRESS But in Black! Now ladies we All know know, We zip up the dress, Turn around Take a look and Then Buy it Right? Well that's What I did, Matched it With FISHNET Stayup Stockings AND Stiletto Heels ALL BLACK! Now Here's Where HER, MY NOW SiL's Karma Kicked in 4 being such a Mean Witch When I got in the car I realized 1 little problem. That beautiful black dress with tiny embroidered flowers Had NO GIVE! To Move, To Sit Down To Get Up I Had 2 HIKE THE DRESS UP + SHOWING OFF MY FISHNET STOCKINGS!! As I was Going up some stairs 1 waiter collided With another!! SCREW U MARISABELL I WOULD HAVE NEVER WORN THAT IF U WERE NICE!!

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Yvonne Dauwalder Balsiger
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I am confused that a) a red dress means that but we have weird customs here, too, b) anyone sane would want to brag about having slept with the groom or bride at their wedding c) instead of just disinviting such a weirdo, the solution of the bride is to make the groom look like a totally insatiable womanizer, who had sex with half the wedding party?

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Donna Leduc
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Wow. Imagine red being a harlot's color in the southern USA. How very Handmaid's Tale.

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MachinistsRule
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10 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Whatever happened to just being able to tell people like your cousin to fk off? Ah, right, we live in a country where half of the people voted for the Klansman Biden. After that, nothing else that lame is any more impressive. White people problems are funny sometimes.

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Shiraz Malik
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It sounds like someone made up a story so that they could make this “red dress” a new thing. I call BS on the whole thing.

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Front_Runner
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This story is BS. It's the second such story I've read here. Bottom line, if a cousin was so petty as to insist on wearing red to indicate she slept with the groom previously, then you just don't invite her. Why would the family be cool with the cousin being petty by insisting on the dress, but go to "war" if the OP didn't invite her? Such phoney nonsense.

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Def_not_a_snake (they/them)
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8 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Actually some families are very what's the word.. Entitled. They think they are entitled to do everything with everyone and others actually just decide to go with it

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I really don't think weight should be such a touchy subject. Honestly most people including myself should be working out more and eating better.

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The cousin is a whore going around having one night stands and the bride has to suffer for it? Someone needs to give her a reality check. No wonder the guy didnt wanna have anything to do with her after that night. Which man wanna have anything serious with a woman that opens her legs that easily? Serious relationships require trust. I doubt the aunt knows the real story because no daughter tell mommy shes sleeping around with strangers

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I promise you this isn't real. if it was real, the cousin would actually be excited and happy to see all the women wearing red. She wouldn't sulk or leave early. And she would stir around gossip at the wedding talking to people about all the different women the groom slept with. This is clearly a made up story. And anyone trying to push this as real has a problem with compulsive lying.

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Trinity Christie
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11 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Um, no, the story is real, first of all, you cannot just say that someone else is making something up and tell everyone else that you're right and they're wrong, and second of all, the cousin wouldn't be happy at all because she was trying to do something petty by standing out with that sort of meaning, but because everyone wore red, she didn't stand out and it ended up seeming like she was going with the red theme. Also, what in gods name do you think that OP would gain if she had made up the story?

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None of this story hangs true. Red tradition, never heard of it. Aunt complaining about taking the guy from a one night stand from 8 years ago, really? Aunt complaining about the colour the bridesmaids wore? I reckon BS.

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Sounds like something the bride made up for attention to me.

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I wonder if he went in raw with the cousin thats why shes so attached....seems like a one nite stand

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Laura Ketteridge
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Has anyone one heard of this 'red' tradition? If so, can you say which area/culture you have come across it?

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The Other Guest
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I did a quick Google search; apparently it's a Southern US thing? Red is in reference to being "a scarlet woman," or so one article said. Weird.

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Amy Taylor
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

LOL!! It makes me want to wear red to every wedding I ever attend now just to stir the pot lol

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Ivana Bašić
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

"I'm not inviting her because she wants to brag to everyone she slept with the groom. Whoever feels uncomfortable because of it is welcome to skip the wedding, too." There.

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Kate Jones
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I agree. She could have just disinvited her and had a nice day. By doing what she did, no matter how satisfying it was, it sort of gave the other girl exactly what she wanted which was to take attention away from the bride on her wedding day and made it all about her. The bride's memory of the day will never not have that mixed in with it because it was a big part of the day, and included a lot of people and pictures, etc. SO... I mean, I get the girl was a jerk but simply uninvite her and move on with your life.

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Ivanka van der Reest
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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I've never heard of the "wearing red means you slept with the groom" thing before. Must be something cultural I guess. The only reason why it's not always advised to wear red is that you risk outshining the bride as it's a very strong color. But still, what a weird family. That aunt should be ashamed. OP didn't "steal" anyone. Humans aren't property and OP and her husband are two consenting adults who are in love and should be allowed to celebrate that. And they definitely shouldn't have to break up because of some fling he had back in the day. Just because he slept with her cousin 8 years ago and then dumped her doesn't give her any claim to him at all. Instead of being angry at OP the aunt should be angry with her own daughter for PLANNING to ruin someone's wedding just because she's jealous.

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Marguerite Towson
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I actually think it comes from the movie “Gone With The Wind” because Scarlett had a thing for Ashly Wilkes, who was married to Melanie. Scarlett was throwing herself at Ashly and Rhett caught her and made her wear a garish red dress to Melanie’s birthday party. It was quite scandalous

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Therese Ernholdt
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

LOL my wedding gown was scarlet red so guess this tradition applied “true” I slept with the groom 😂

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Boerenhond
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I always thought it was for the bride. White is I'm still vigin. Red = couldnt contain myself.

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Keith O
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Hi Aunt, you're a b!tch, and you're daughter is c#nt. I didn't "steal" anyone, as he had ZERO interest in her and I didn't even find out until MONTHS after we'd been together. People absolutely should not care about hurting the feelings of someone who acts this way, and if the FAM has a problem with it tell them the fu@king truth and out her for how sh!tty she is.

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Aldert Nagel
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I am confused with the "its gross" comments. How can this be gross? it is not like it was happening at the same time...

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Khara Mei
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The only thing that I have ever heard of against wearing red to a western (assuming this is a western wedding) wedding is "too bright will take away attention from the bride". Only others I have heard is in Chinese and Indian weddings because red is a bridal colour. No one else seemed to take issue with wearing red.

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Casey McAlister
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I have a feeling that this cousin might be the only person in the world who knows about this "tradition" and most guests, seeing her in a red dress, would think nothing of that. She'd have to carry a banner.

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Yunterria Tatum
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

No in Louisiana its a known thing and there's would have been whispers. She definitely would have stood out but im glad the bride cut her out that way... Priceless!!

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Hope Springs
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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I believe she did the best she could here. By asking her mom what would happen if she uninvited the cousin shows that the family is already prone to drama, since she had to guage the extent of the fallout. Secretly switching the color scheme allowed the bride to avoid embarrassment and being made to feel uncomfortable on their wedding day (as anyone should be able to) and still permitted the cousin to do the spiteful thing she wanted to do. The only difference is the cousin's act of be-redding herself didn't produce the outcome she clearly desired. I'd call that 3 for 3. ⚡

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Hope Springs
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Additionally, keeping the change a secret prevented the cousin from discovering her plan had been foiled and concocting one even more dastardly that no one else knew about.

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Donna Leduc
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Wow! Imagine red being the harlot's color in the southern USA. Someone should inform the cousin the Handmaid's Tale is fiction not a guidebook.

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Kota Ball
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It more likely would have been associated with the Scarlet Letter (if actually a thing, which it all but isn't) but still

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Mika N
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I've never heard of wearing red to wedding having that meaning either! Apparently it was/is a thing (according to google), but it sounds like uncommon enough knowledge that I feel like we should all just deicide to drop that meaning and not worry about wearing red 🙄

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Fergus Corgi
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The aunt claiming the bride stole her cousin's man is just hilarious. I assume the aunt is the cousin's mother so she probably didn't get the real story. Some guy you randomly hook up with once at a party is in no way your man. The cousin clearly never got over him.

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Laura Gillette
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Uhhh my fall wedding's colors were gold and cranberry, all my bridesmaids wore a shade of red... 🤣

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LH25
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'll bet the cousin would have been sure to tell everyone why she was wearing red if given the chance. I'm another who never heard of that.

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Julie Ham
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I suspect the red "message" was something the cousin saw in a book or movie; sand believes it's a thing. Just like she apparently believes a drunken one night stand means a "happily ever after". Cousin must have exhibited some of her true colors back then. And the groom obviously dodged a bullet. Cousin needs some therapy to get past her imaginary relationship with the groom.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Well we see where cuzzo got her petty attitude from... Also, you didn't steal anyone's man, HE DIDN'T WANT YOU SIS haha

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Lindy Mac
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I have never head of this "Tell" and the cousin and the aunt sound like a piece of work. WHY was this cousin invited to the wedding in the first place?... she is a b***h. Brilliant move on the Bride's part inviting one and all to wear red. Just because someone is family doesn't mean they get to be part of your life if they have such rude motives.

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Alexis Dominey
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

White only became traditional because people wanted to copy Queen Victoria in 1840. We need to go back to more colorful gowns; me I wouldn't look good in all white, darker shades suit me better.

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You mean Victoria. The word Queen or royalty is completely made up. Anyone who thinks they can just make a word up impose it on everyone then claim they are above people is an absolutely disgusting horrible person. I despise anyone who claims to be royal. All they are is descendents of monsters.

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Kristina Cowan
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Wow, fruit doesn't fall far from tree, if her mom acts like that! Petty... 🙄

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Amanda Madden
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This is not a tradition I am aware of. I do understand bright red to be an attention grabbing color so avoided by many. On the other hand my brother in law just got married to a Mexican woman and she let us know red will be something the ladies in her family will wear. We had a brief conversation about her family customs. Just enough for me to let her know I’m generally down for having a “ respectfully good time.” Meaning simply that I want to respect her traditions and share in the good times.Some ladies in her family wore red. They looked amazing but they still let her shine. The rest wore neutral business attire with comfortable but cute shoes. They also looked lovely. I didn’t see any stop sign red. Honestly I don’t think anyone really would have batted an eye. The bride looked stunning.

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General Anaesthesia
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Next you'll be telling me that wearing white means that the bride is a virgin. These newfangled traditions have got to stop!

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Nessie Will
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Isn't that what it was supposed to have meant initially? Also, the fact that we have never heard of the wearing red tradition, does not mean it is a new one. It could be an old one that we have simply never heard about.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

All of this is so incredibly straight I don't even know where to begin. EIGHT years ago your cousin has a fling and she and you are both weird about the fact that your husband wasn't a total virgin before meeting you?? People have lives before marriage. Cousin was wrong but OP pls chill. You're not gross. Your husband's sexual history is not something it is reasonable to judge him for at all. And don't judge yourself either?? Like damn purity culture relaly out of control at this point. Straight people y'all okay? Please relax.

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TwitchyBird
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It's much more about his d**k being inside a family member before than his d**k being inside just anyone before her. It is kind of weird to think of going to bed with someone who you know for a fact has had relations with family, especially close family. Not gross, not something to judge about, but I see how it could feel odd.

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Polly Troy
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9 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Your cousin is just jealous that you got a better man than she’ll ever get his stupid jerk. You don’t care about her at all or your aunt for that matter you go girl.

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JahJahBinx
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

8years ago... and she's still caught up on him??? Ffs cousin needs to get lost. And so does her mother.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If I was the OP: OP [talking to aunt]: "Your daughter tried to create drama at my wedding, and you're blaming ME for taking countermeasures?!"

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Trista Weidenborner
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The “red dress means you slept with a groom” isn’t a thing so I imagine this attention-seeking tart was hoping to go “aren’t you guys wondering why I’m wearing THIS dress?” With her reason followed by a “everyone totally knows this” to get people to assume they themselves hadn’t heard that fact.

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Grace Note
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

So, if wearing red is such a well-known sign that you've slept with the groom - which seriously the majority of us only heard about while reading this - surely all and sundry wearing red must have made it look like the groom really got around. Or. The majority of people at the wedding have never heard of it either and so her cousin wearing red wouldn't have mattered at all. That's a whole heap of oddness.

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LittleLiz
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Someone commented that the cousin's plan wouldn't have worked because nobody knows what it means. I believe that the cousin is the type to tell people at the wedding/reception (who didn't ask) what it means.

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Sarah Branham
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This was a BRILLIANT solution on the bride's part and that sounds petty, vindictive, and not worth a friendship at any level. I suggest therapy--and I mean that kindly. Holding onto that much resent for 8 years is not healthy and suggests underlining issues.

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Ivan Petrov
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I don't understand why it "was gross" she had a one night stand with the groom YEARS ago. This is really stupid and petty, in the end there is still drama, but at least it wasn't on the wedding.

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Sheila Simonson
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

52 yr old, live in the south, never heard of this. not sure where this is from

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DaFetus
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

In Chinese culture red signifies happiness and luck. So on a typical wedding day for a bride in Chinese culture , only she will wear red. This is the only meaning for a red dress I know.

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SkekVi
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The fact that your cousin (and you, lowkey) seems to think you're 'gross' for... ::checks notes:: your boyfriend not being a virgin when you got together? That's weird OP. Also why are her panties in a twist? EIGHT years ago she and the groom had a one-night stand and he clearly communicated with her and y'all BOTH hung up on this still? Wtf. Are straight people okay???? damn. anyway bride you did the right thing your cousin can boil her head. But stop s**t shaming yourself and your husband also??? Like people do exist before getting married and they have lives and stuff. Damn.

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TwitchyBird
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It's much more about his d**k being inside a family member than his d**k being inside just anyone before her. It is kind of weird to think of going to bed with someone who you know for a fact has had relations with family, especially close family. Not gross, not something to judge about, but I see how it could feel odd. Pretty sure the assumption that she's upset about his non-virginity is incorrect lol.

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Dog Mom
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Who else is desperately trying to remember everything they've ever worn to a wedding right now? This red thing is not common knowledge that I know of.

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Zena Marsh
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Not in the UK, as far as I know. Glad the bride had a lovely day.

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Kat Peterson
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9 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I think it’s hilarious. The cousin is an idiot. She wanted to wear red to the wedding to let everybody know that she had a one night stand. Hooked up with a guy she just met. Is that something to brag about? Quite frankly, it’s just kind of slutty.

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Tiffany Persaud
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Kudos to the bridge for having a healthy conversation with her groom and moving forward in a creative way to handle family drama.

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Jessica Jensen
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Well, no one mentioned this when I chose red for my wedding colors and had the bridesmaids and FLOWER GIRLS in red dresses and the groomsmen in red vests (including my husband's own brother lol) and my brother wore a red shirt and my mom even wore a darker reddish burgundy to go with our colors so I think it is safe to say this is not a very widespread or well known thing. Red looks amazing on so many people and it made my white dress and his black tux stand out so nicely. In fact, David's Bridal offers all of their bridesmaid's dresses in the color Apple Red.....well they did 20 years ago when I was planning my wedding, just had our 18th anniversary....but I assume they still offer the color even if the dress styles have changed.

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Hrudz
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The moral of the story is: if you want to crash a wedding, don't tell anyone about your plan

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idrow1
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I honestly would have chosen war. I don't care if it's not the high road, you're not coming to my wedding if your plan is to sabotage it. I don't need your negative energy on what's supposed to be a celebration. The aunt is just as much of a head case as the cousin.

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Lou Cam
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I got married in a red dress and yes, I had done the dirty with the groom. No shame in that.

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Pacifico Fernandez
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

ok, that definitely is fake. An aunt sends an email to a bride to tell her that she is a b.. because [checks notes] hurting her cousin by not letting her be petty on her wedding. There is no way anyone in real life does that.

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Valerie Witter
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I’m from New Orleans and have never heard of this. I’m 71 and have to quite a few weddings! But I think your cousin needs therapy. I won’t even ask if she’s single!

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E M
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

She needs to just kick these 2 idiots out of her life for good.

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Got Myself 4 Pandas
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Never heard of the red dress thing, now wondering if I've ever worn red to a wedding.......

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Hannah
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8 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

"stealing her man?" You can't steal someone who didn't want you lol

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Janet Howe
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8 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

A one night stand does not make him someone's "man" as the aunt put it. The cousin seems to have pangs of jealousy or something.

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weatherwitch
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8 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

So one microscopic area of the world and this is claimed to be a thing everyone knows about 🙄 Given the area involved they've probably had most of the family too 😂😂😂

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June Miller
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8 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It says a lot about your cousin that she would want to brag about being so 'easy', and rejected as well! I would have let her.

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Okatango
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10 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

When did weddings go from celebrating a couple's love with friends and family to being a weird day of entitled megalomania and petty one upmanship?

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Debbie
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11 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The "you are gross because you are going to marry a guy I hooked up with once" gives me " virgin " vibes. I mean, double standards, that someone is gross for not being pure.

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Lemon_squeezy
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8 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I highly doubt that's the case. I'm surprised people think that's the issue, but they are cousins, so obviously it's a matter of smashing the same person as your family member did, nothing to do with virginity.

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Flaming Kitsune
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11 months ago

So she basically salty that she rejected 8 years and somehow she has claims if op dates or married him. He not object he clearly rejected and she see him as her because she sleep with him and " had" him frist. It actually kind of creepy. She should moved onto some one who actually want be relationship with her but instead she acting like child that didn't get her way to a thing that happened 8 year ago...

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Willow Ashley
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Never heard about the red dress thing. In China people wear red wedding dresses and white for funerals. Meanwhile your cousin makes me sad. So very sad. Maybe get an out of state friend sent her an anonymous list of therapists in her area. Or help her self esteem yourself. If you want the to stop BTA. Tell her despite everything she looked damn good in her dress.

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Hyun Aera
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Actually in my culture or I think in just my family, wearing black to marriage means you are trying to curse their marriage to break and red colour or shades of red are the only colours worn by bride for her wedding in India.

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Tiffany C
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My friend wore a red dress to my wedding reception and I know, without a doubt, she had no interest in my husband at all. Some people just wear bold colors.

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Donald Holder
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm with the group that had no frkn idea or heard of this 'red dress' meaning. I'm 60 and besides my own I think I've been in about 14. No mention of it anywhere. Most were in the United States but also 6 'overseas' to include Sicily, Rome, London and The Philippines.

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Gregg Bender
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Never heard of the red thing and I'm old enough to be retired. OP, well played. Very well played. I strongly suggest to cut Cuz right out of your life for that stunt. She's as toxic as a Superfund site. Your aunt and any other family member who are buying Cuz's story are suspect too, IMHO.

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Pat Turner
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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Good job on the red dresses. Congrats on the marriage and putting your cousin in the corner....🤗🤗

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Bella V
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Well Hubs and I had a Christmas wedding last year, everyone was in red and green and every other Christmas color. All the brides maids were in green the groomsmen were in re-.... uh oh..... lol J/K This is the dumbest thing I've ever heard. And hold up, you stole her man but that happened 8 YEARS before you met him?! (obsessed much???) Here, I thought my family was effed up.

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Debra Minchew
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The cousin is the gross one. She was just a one night stand. Jealous much.

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Simone Beaumont
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My wife and I are from the south and all of our bridesmaids wore red. We definitely have never heard of this.

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Darleen Marie
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I feel so bad for OP. First her cousin wanted to take away the attention from the bride on her wedding date. When her petty action was rebutted back to not let her ruin a wedding. She leaves early upset because her pettiness. Then the aunt calls out the bride for pettiness? I really don't understand the nosy meddling aunt doing that. I find her cousin a psycho, petty person that if pushed to the brink can become dangerous. In a way of f*****g up people's lives and mental health. She should really block her from her life.

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Charles McCallum
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The wedding expert that referenced red in Asian weddings needs to do some research. Wearing red at a Vietnamese wedding is seen as an attempt to take attention away from the bride.

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Lemon_squeezy
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8 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Actually, in some Asian cultures, like china, the bride apparently wears red to signify good omens. People only started wearing white dresses after queen Victoria started it.

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Caroline Starr
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My daughter's wedding. https://www.rocknrollbride.com/2021/12/red-yellow-blue-cardiff-covid-wedding/

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Joanne Lang
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1 day ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

When my daughter got married she was VERY EXPLICIT about me not wearing a fuddy duddy "mother-of-the-bride" dress. She chose a sleeveless, vibrant red lace jump suit with a mandarin collar and flare pant legs. Her bridesmaids dresses were red satin.

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Suzie
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3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The cousin wants to wear red so everyone knows she had the groom first but it's the bride who is petty by thwarting her petty cousin? Well, at least the bride knows where her cousin learned the behavior.

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Deborah B
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6 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This was a brilliant and classy way to handle it. Yeah, disinviting her would have been easier, but if you can't do that for the sake of family peace, making her one of the (red-wearing) crowd is a good way to make her blend in instead of standing out.

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Pamela Blue
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6 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Sounds to me like you have some pretty toxic relatives who need to be cut out of your life. I would go as low-contact as I could without causing your own parents difficulties. If it doesn't cause them any trouble, I'd go no-contact. They sound like awful people, and you don't need those kind of people in your life.

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Rita Benkő
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7 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My only reference comes from Miss Manners: it is/used to be considered wearing red at a wedding as racy; therefore, it indicates questionable taste on behalf of the wearer.

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Hannah
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7 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Why would you want to advertise you slet with the groom? You might as well just wear a giant sign that says "Last place!" Lol

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4498s
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7 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

bored panda needs to get rid of the ad videos cuz idc about this shi

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Albawind Blair
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7 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I've always heard if the bride wore red on her wedding day, she would wish herself dead. And if she wore black she would wish herself back. I've never heard if anyone else wore a specific color. So many silly superstitious!

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8 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Its hilarious. Join us to get the wedding dresses on low prices of top selling brand: https://list.com.pk/wedding/

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Eledore Massis
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8 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My mom asked everyone to come in white or cream, she wore purple and dad was grey. Break the system, do what you want, but don't be a a*s and intentionally ruin a day of celebration..

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Harriet Burgess
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8 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I've heard of the tradition of the bride wearing red being a poor omen. Also the cousin sounds like a spoilt brat. If I was the bride and I had heard about this, instantly uninvited. She would be relegated to the reception.

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8 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Actually, in China, brides wear red and it is a symbol of good omens. Red is a big part of Chinese culture.

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Diolla
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9 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Huh... reading this made me realize that the last wedding I officially attended was in 2003 or so.

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9 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Ok, first of all u aren't petty, and second, ur cousin got rejected, he wasn't hers in the first place, damn

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Mr Old School Cool
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10 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Fake/clickbait. First red dresses mean nothing of the sort, and if this was real at all then the bad (red) apple cousin simply gets banned from the wedding

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jennifer Hamm
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10 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Umm I wore red to a wedding and I didn't sleep with the groom!! I have never heard of this!!! But also I was told it was Christmas theme so I wore red!

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Flaming Kitsune
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11 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

So she basically hook 8 years ago and he rejected her and then op met months later? How gross she dating/marrying him? She just salty she was rejected and seems she mentally that because she sleep with him frist, she owns him and ties salty girl mom calming " she stole him". The groom isn't a f*****g object he Clearly wants to be with op and the fact she still salty when this eight years is really sad, she should moved on from this rejection and just find someone who actually wants to be relationship with her.

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Lita Bradshaw
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11 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

First of all I Never heard of such thing about wearing a red dress but that was a good move you made with having them all to wear Red, don't worry about your cousin or aunt getting mad, as long as you're Happy everything is great you don't have to sleep or deal with them at all 👍👏

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Syl Clark
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11 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

She mad he didnt put a ring on her, just a booty call. To hell with her. She and her mother are delusional. I would tell them both to kick rocks. If she said she was wearing a red dress, her invite would have gotten lost in the mail.

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Carol Edmonds
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11 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I wore a red gown(not a bright red shade; it was cranberry)in my sister's wedding, but never heard of this meaning. It was many years ago, anyway.

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Fresh Big
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11 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

what a load of s**t. Who cares what color you wear as long as its not white.

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Dorian
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11 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

True she doesn't own the guy, but let's keep it real. Thirsty beotch couldn't dig for her own dic, hundreds of men all around and she's secretly checking for sloppy seconds. Jus sayn. Guessing she and her relative must not be close or didn't grow up together and were like distant strangers, cuz in my family we don't suc the same dix. Doesn't matter if she had em in highschool, college or whatever. That creates friction. And family ties last forever, n lot more important than some fly by dix. Especially with high divorce rates these days. Just my opinion based on my own family members. Years ago one of my old sisters old boyfriends tried to talk to me. Lol I laughed in his face cut em off. Told him look don't ruin our friendship with this nonsense. And I'll give u an hour to let her know. But that's it, one hour before I call her. He thought was joking at first, then he realized I wasn't when I reminded him clock was ticking. Told him we don't share dic. Diff type guys 2

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Mike_The_Nike (gender fluid)
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

i’ve never heard of this red thing, and i wore a red dress to my aunt’s wedding. (to be fair, the girls in my mom’s family wore red, and the girls in my aunt’s family wore blue) also, when i was trying to get a slice of cake, i accidently knocked it over😂 (don’t worry, it was already destroyed by other people getting cale very poorly)

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Brandon Parisien
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Why does every bord panda article I open reload to this page? Think the editors bother to read the comments?

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Jade H
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Lol the real issue here is that the cousin is pissed bc she was a one and done but op managed to seal the deal 😂😂😂

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AK to LV
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My cousin(F) got married this last spring. Another cousin (M) wore a red suit to it. How awkward😂😂

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Celtic Pirate Queen
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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

He chose not to purse a relationship from EIGHT years ago & she's still upset? Honey, no one "stole your man". It sounds like he dodged the crazy bullet. (Or maybe he just decided you were a sl*t? and took a pass). I've never heard of the red dress thing either, but I love how the OP ruined her cousin's plan to ruin her wedding. That's a level of petty immaturity I've never seen before.

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Kelley Eidem
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

To summarize: The malignant narcissist left early, and her mother got the petty cure.

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Molly Spurgeon
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The aunt had to be misinformed (or she's as crazy as her daughter), but EVEN giving her that benefit of the doubt still makes it hard to understand where she gets off calling the bride "petty" for letting others wear red at her wedding instead of letting only the cousin wear a special color at someone else's wedding...like, what?!?

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Kj Walker
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

As a reader I do not know the full scope of anyone's family neither will I pretend to. With that said I must acknowledge that the cousin was classless and anyone who was in support of her gesture was also classless unless this is some diehard tradition which must be upheld and even so it's foolish. If she was always apposed to the relationship then why was she invited? If she was apposed to the relationship then why go to the wedding?After those 2 major questions are answered I find it tasteless to want to make a statement at someone else's wedding. I feel she can make a statement by finding someone to marry her.

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Rachel Ann
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Apparently it's southern US thing. I was raised with basic etiquette in the NE US and the only place you're not supposed to wear red is a funeral because it's disrespectful.

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Forever Changed
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Not a southern thing as we all keep on trying to say. Clearly it's a made up story. Whoever wrote it was trying to be clever but it backfired on them.

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Brian Garrett
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Never heard of this. Not southern but in Missouri. Personally I would of let her wear it. It would of only embarrassed her anyways. If anyone even got the reference (and judging by the comments unless she sent out a family wide email nobody there would of either) it would just show that she was apparently not good enough for him and he chose the better person. Imo

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Eline
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

So, the cousin is immature enough to try to cause drama on a wedding, years after being rejected, and to go cry in mama's arms? No wonder she was rejected, this man dodged a bullet. It's so satisfying to know that the bride was way smarter than her, and made her pay .

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Mickey S
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I’m 63 yrs old never heard of such a thing so ? if the entire bridal party wears a red dress …. ? ☺️

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Don't worry, it's because the writer made it up. Apparently they were trying to be clever but it backfired on them.

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Houseof No
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If this toxic person is someone you call "one of your closest friends," no offense but you should seriously consider raising your standards. A true friend would keep the drama out of it and make an effort not to ruin your special day with her tasteless choice in wardrobe. Showing up the bride on her wedding day almost never ends well. Best wishes.

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Mark Davis
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Why would you deliberately wear a red dress for that purpose? Sounds like a $hitty friend.

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Nathan Wolfe
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm petty. I'd have said some cr*p like "I didn't steal him. Its not my fault your pu**y couldn't keep him".

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Gwendolyn Pond
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Has anyone ever heard of GIRL CODE OR MORALS OR FAMILY VALUES. Why do you want someone your cousin slept with and I know I don't believe this story especially if the Aunt got into it. There's a lit more to it. I definitely don't want anyone who knows what my sister cousin or best friend or any friend for that matter v- jayjay look smell taste or feel like. Heffas are desperate

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Conan Maschingon
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

it's still funny to me that people think they can't cut off family when they are toxic just because "they are family" trust me cutting negative people out of your life will only improve your way of living.

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Shantae
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I love the pettiness of the bride but just disinvite her and any other relative who had a problem with it! No jealous chick would've ruined my wedding. 😎✌🏽

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TearyRaindrop
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Your cousin was hurt you went out with someone that probably hurt her deeply. If she was being petty its because she was reacting from a place of pain and anger. She probably doesnt like the guy but your her family. Had you been a good cousin you would of spoken to her first (not because it was “her man”) but because you need to considered her feelings. Its called respect and LOVE. Why not go apologize and let her know you love her and your sorry for making her feel hurt all over again. Your hubby probably owes her an apology too for the way he hit and ended things. JUST SAYING 🤷🏻‍♀️

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Ricky Namara
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My father and mother got divorced before my father remarried my cousin and my mother married the sidepiece she was banging for the last five years leading up to their divorce. Lady, you have no idea what "gross" means.

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Jesse Lines
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I would have dis-invited her from the get go. Anyone who announces their intent to sabotage a wedding needs to go... brides maid or not.

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Lisa Brooks
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Didn't I read this a few months ago but that time it was white? Lol, I guess nothing is wrong with using left overs

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Lana Jig-maker
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

No lie cousin sleeping with a guy before I started dating him would probably stop me from marrying him

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Kathy Olinger
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Red is anciently (medieval times) the color of martyrs. Jilted lovers of high societal standing (at royal courts) often wore red as well as a nonverbal protest, a reminder to the gent, followed by outrageous flirting with his perceived court rivals, hence the whole "dangerous" vibe to the red dress. This could have been a thing at weddings at one time but is less likely because of the church's long standing emphasis on purity (for women) and the cultural degradations that followed for unrepentant sinners in those days. Black dresses as wedding attire for women is also anciently associated with a wish to 'curse' or bring disaster to the marriage, and plans for weddings were carefully planned and even postponed to avoid having attendees appear in black due to the year of mourning for deceased loved ones.

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P Webb
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Wearing red because you slept with the groom is not even a thing.

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Tina Newman
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Stupidest "problem " I've seen so far. Red dress means she likes red..nothing more, nothing less.

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Chanel Badgett
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The fact that the aunt called and was upset, tells us exactly why the cousin is an a*s; she got it from her mama! If she was so upset that her cousin is marrying this man, why not just stay tf home?! The OP shouldn’t have invited the cousin AT ALL but I’m happy her wedding wasn’t ruined and she’ll have a funny story to tell.

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Leila Abdelmeguid
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Trying to think back on how many times I wore red and to who's wedding🤔😨😝

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OneHappyPuppy
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Okay, I too was today years old when I found out about this "red" thing. My MOH wore a red/burgundy dress to my wedding, and had maybe met my husband a handful of times before (we were in a LDR). Oopsie :D I gotta tell her, I'm LMAO

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nini
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I have a beautiful red dress that I also already have worn to weddings... It's a dark red, whine red, though. And I've never slept with anyone's husband 😅

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M.
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Never heard of this. Ever. Wearing red to a wedding means you f****d the groom? Since when? I'm gonna haveta google this.

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Cody Hill
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Not really outsmart honestly anyone who thinks that's what wearing a red dress means now thinks he had orgy with the rest of the bridesmaids

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Windtree
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Never heard of this tradition in all of my middle aged life. Hope it dies.

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Debbie Burns
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Lesson #1- if you have a family that would *start a war because you didn't invite a whore of a cousin who insisted on attempting to ruin one of the best days of your life"- maybe, perhaps, just a thought, flip em the bird and don't worry about what anyone else thinks about what makes YOU happy. FFS.

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JuniorCJ82
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

F**k that cousin and f**k that aunt. Now we know where she gets it from. Go no contact.

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JuniorCJ82
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Since when has wearing a red dress meant that someone slept with the groom?

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resisting the patriarchy
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Honestly this was a lesson in you having better boundaries. Why invite someone then gossip about their bad behavior when you knew it would be dicey. Boundaries.

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Sonia Burns
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The only reason that I have ever known for not wearing red to a wedding is the connection to the "wound and the winding sheet". In that it symbolizes sickness, harm and death (think dead bodies in a shroud)

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Wayne Dent
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I would have uninvited the slutty cousin and told rest of family to get over it, that’s not a family it’s a drama clan!!! They don’t deserve to be in your life, let alone tell you how to orchestrate your wedding. Good for you for showing them that you smarter than they are!!

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Hello
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Never heard of that red thing. I read it as "red means he found someone better"

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Michał Osiecki
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Jesus what's wrong with pll and colors of their dress on the wedding. Soo much color drama

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Paulo Leitao
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

i dont understand this "damage done" mentality. people arent allowed to have a life prior and post someone ? this is ridiculous. neither is this woman gross, nor is there any damage done just because they went to bed before they met.

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Diphylleia Grayi
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Moral of the history: don't be an a*s&(le with your relatives because of human being -_-

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Penny Hollifield
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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Many years ago, when I was young & lovely, my sister bought me a designer dress for Christmas that was bright red, but not glitzy, backless, or strappy- it was very modest in style, but bright-red with a bright sky-blue belt. I wore it to many weddings (I had never heard anything about it meaning the wearer previously having sex with the groom!) I had never heard of it until reading reading this post (I am from Indiana, by the way.)!!

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Renata Tarnawski
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I had a bf, Ex now who's SiL HATED ME, Anyway 1 day she sends her husband to tell me NOT 2 WEAR GREEN as she DOESN'T want me looking like I'm in the wedding party. So I tell him to tell her that I'm going to wear RED from Head to Foot! So after I let That sink in, I did 1 BETTER! I went and bought this INCREDIBLE DRESS But in Black! Now ladies we All know know, We zip up the dress, Turn around Take a look and Then Buy it Right? Well that's What I did, Matched it With FISHNET Stayup Stockings AND Stiletto Heels ALL BLACK! Now Here's Where HER, MY NOW SiL's Karma Kicked in 4 being such a Mean Witch When I got in the car I realized 1 little problem. That beautiful black dress with tiny embroidered flowers Had NO GIVE! To Move, To Sit Down To Get Up I Had 2 HIKE THE DRESS UP + SHOWING OFF MY FISHNET STOCKINGS!! As I was Going up some stairs 1 waiter collided With another!! SCREW U MARISABELL I WOULD HAVE NEVER WORN THAT IF U WERE NICE!!

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Yvonne Dauwalder Balsiger
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I am confused that a) a red dress means that but we have weird customs here, too, b) anyone sane would want to brag about having slept with the groom or bride at their wedding c) instead of just disinviting such a weirdo, the solution of the bride is to make the groom look like a totally insatiable womanizer, who had sex with half the wedding party?

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Donna Leduc
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Wow. Imagine red being a harlot's color in the southern USA. How very Handmaid's Tale.

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MachinistsRule
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10 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Whatever happened to just being able to tell people like your cousin to fk off? Ah, right, we live in a country where half of the people voted for the Klansman Biden. After that, nothing else that lame is any more impressive. White people problems are funny sometimes.

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Shiraz Malik
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It sounds like someone made up a story so that they could make this “red dress” a new thing. I call BS on the whole thing.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This story is BS. It's the second such story I've read here. Bottom line, if a cousin was so petty as to insist on wearing red to indicate she slept with the groom previously, then you just don't invite her. Why would the family be cool with the cousin being petty by insisting on the dress, but go to "war" if the OP didn't invite her? Such phoney nonsense.

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Def_not_a_snake (they/them)
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8 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Actually some families are very what's the word.. Entitled. They think they are entitled to do everything with everyone and others actually just decide to go with it

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Kody Digre (Kody)
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I really don't think weight should be such a touchy subject. Honestly most people including myself should be working out more and eating better.

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The cousin is a whore going around having one night stands and the bride has to suffer for it? Someone needs to give her a reality check. No wonder the guy didnt wanna have anything to do with her after that night. Which man wanna have anything serious with a woman that opens her legs that easily? Serious relationships require trust. I doubt the aunt knows the real story because no daughter tell mommy shes sleeping around with strangers

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I promise you this isn't real. if it was real, the cousin would actually be excited and happy to see all the women wearing red. She wouldn't sulk or leave early. And she would stir around gossip at the wedding talking to people about all the different women the groom slept with. This is clearly a made up story. And anyone trying to push this as real has a problem with compulsive lying.

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Trinity Christie
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11 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Um, no, the story is real, first of all, you cannot just say that someone else is making something up and tell everyone else that you're right and they're wrong, and second of all, the cousin wouldn't be happy at all because she was trying to do something petty by standing out with that sort of meaning, but because everyone wore red, she didn't stand out and it ended up seeming like she was going with the red theme. Also, what in gods name do you think that OP would gain if she had made up the story?

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None of this story hangs true. Red tradition, never heard of it. Aunt complaining about taking the guy from a one night stand from 8 years ago, really? Aunt complaining about the colour the bridesmaids wore? I reckon BS.

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Sounds like something the bride made up for attention to me.

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James Thomas
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I wonder if he went in raw with the cousin thats why shes so attached....seems like a one nite stand

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