Bride Asks Guest To Cover Her Tattoos For The Wedding, So She Shares Their Full Conversation On Bride Shaming Group
Weddings are a joyous occasion that seems to bring out the worst in people – namely the bride. There is no shortage of bridezilla stories and the demands they make for their family in friends on their wedding day, which seems to be more in line with a military boot camp than a wedding party. From what they can eat to dress based on weight, we’ve seen all the public shaming-worthy cases.
Recently, a wedding guest shared her encounter with a bride to be to the Facebook group ‘that’s it, I’m wedding shaming (non-ban-happy edition)‘ – where people “come together to bond over cringe-worthy weddings and wedding-related events.” The woman, a friend of the groom, was informed by the bride that her tattoos and hair color did not go with the wedding photo theme and madness ensued.
A wedding guest with tattoos was contacted by the bride to say her look ‘clashed’ with the wedding theme – and she shuts her down
Image credits: Alessandro-Tomiello (not the actual photo)
The woman who shared the post explained that she had “worked really hard to get along with this girl,” whose fianće was her friend. Described as “challenging at times” she explained that she mostly got along with the bride – but found her demands to be ridiculous – and others agreed. The exchange began with an innocent request, but when the OP refused this bride showed just how rude people can be.
The OP prefaced the screenshots with the backstory and said she hadn’t told the fianće yet but had plans to in person
And added that she preferred names and faces were obscured when sharing the post to avoid even further drama between their friends and family
People were shocked at the request and the behavior of the bride
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This happened to me once!! I was friends with this girl and asked to be in her bridal party. I said yes gladly. At the time I didn't have nearly as many tattoos as I have now but I did have my whole back piece. She asked me to cover my tattoos. Me being nice said ok i will try and find a solution. It was summer. All I could find to go with this dumb dress color she picked was sweaters. NAH. Soooo, She had her makeup artist cake up makeup on my back. It was disgusting, empty and messy. I felt like a shell of myself covering who I am to appease someone else's garbage standards. Made me feel ashamed and depressed to be a part of her wedding. Needless to say our friendship faded away after that. Oh and she got a divorce. Haha
She probably treated the husband with the same disrespect she showed you.
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My wedding was the day of my wife and me. However, what made it our special day was the family and friend who were our guests, not our egos. This helped to make it a day to remember, rather than one that looked fancy on photos or would impress other people.
Ridiculous! My husband and I eloped just because I didn't want to deal with the drama of a wedding, even if it was my own! Both of our parents were divorced and remarried. I wasn't even going to go there. So, he had a tux, I had a dress, and we got married on a private beach with just the minister and his wife to take pictures! I have NEVER regretted it
Looks like the bride was afraid this girl would look cooler than she on the wedding :D
This girl is a friend of the groom, so I guess Bridezilla is steadily weeding all the women out of his friend group.
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I'm getting married and my photographer has bright blue hair and tattoos. She is amazing. My bridesmaids have tattoos and are all different shapes, height and sizes and I am embracing all of it. These bridezilla's blow my mind.
I’m a tattooed bloke and I be very surprised if anyone said anything along those lines to me! My tattoos and shaved head are part of who I am, I chose them, they are ‘me’, if you don’t like that then our friendship ain’t worth squat. I worked for five years as a Concierge at a high end hotel, in my time there we had over 500 weddings and I know which weddings got the best photos, the ones where the bride and groom put the emphasis on sharing their special commitment with family and friends. Beautiful wedding photos are made by the love and respect a gathering of family and friends bring to the celebration, not a ‘look’. Anyone who can’t accept that you are who you are and expects you to change in order to make their photos fit some ridiculous look that they have lodged in her head isn’t really that special to you. Make your apologies and avoid the wedding from hell.
Just don't go. And don't give that narcissist a gift either. Cancel your RSVP and do something fun instead.
I feel like brides who act like this will likely be single again in less than 5 years.
She sounds so insecure and seems to want her out of the picture for real. Just look at how she absolutely JUMPS at the first opportunity to say "well it's not possible? Then you better not come", probably with crossed fingers and a sigh of relief. She's probably just trying to cut out any perceived threats, and if she is her husband's friend, she likely just wishes she'd vanish from their lives. That woman's tattoos look gorgeous btw.
I was thinking the same thing. All it would have taken was the groom to have innocently said, "Her tats look kind of cool." or "That hair color looks good on her" and that would have been enough for the bride to start hating the girl. It doesn't matter that she's already got a partner and is happy. The perceived "threat" is already there in the bride's mind. The bride is quick to throw away the friendship because it wasn't hers to begin with. Bride sounds manipulative. I wouldn't trust her as a person.
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Honestly, I'm really having hard time believing all these shared conversations anymore. Between brides, and customers wanting free things, etc I'm really starting to believe many of these are set up for attention.
Some are fake, but a LOT of them are real. My Mom was an event coordinator and some of things that have been witnessed would blow your mind. The stories are just more prevalent with the advent of social media and the "share everything" mentality we have now a days
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That happens when you put to much expectations and pressure on a wedding. I never hear such Storys from brides in Europe or Asia ... or the rest of the world for that matter.
Agree. Here in Bulgaria we usually don't have cases like this. It was a fun thing to go the wedding of colleague from Macedonia, it's a neighboring country, so we have very similar customs, but it seems a bit different wedding culture we didn't have idea of. There it's pretty normal to have 1 outfit for the day and another for the evening and we had no idea of this. The other guests wore for the day what we usually would wear even for evening wedding - cocktail dresses, mid length. But for the evening it blew our minds - most of the guests were going extra with dresses like for an Oscars party and matching hair and make up and it's seems it's pretty normal thing there. I even saw someone in white (in non-bridal looking dress), but it was less distracting than one girl with a long blinky gold dress with a train. No one thought that any of this is upstaging the bride and I don't think the bride felt offended either, even though she's Bulgarian, so probably not very accustomed to this too
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I don't get these bridezillas... I'm getting married in the spring 2020 and we would never tell our guests to change their appearance because of photos... They're our friends, we accept them the way they are... At least reading such posts makes me feel better that I'm not that level of shallow (I worried I was a bridezilla because I didn't want a multi-layered cake or because I kinda wanted an outdoor- wedding) ...
Throw any ideas of 'rules' into the bin and do what you want. You can have anything (legal) that you want for your wedding. People just need to bear in mind that being a bride or groom doesn't mean you can start making demands of people - even the ones you pay. If you are nice to people providing services/goods they'll be more likely to want to give you a great day. ENJOY arranging it and remember that you are making a wedding that lasts one day so don't sweat the small stuff. The marriage is more important so don't make it a 'do or die'. Relax and have fun.
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What a b... female dog. I hope that she crashed the wedding.
I hate that she thinks she is doing a kindness by inviting you as if your whole world depends on you going to this wedding. Why did she invite you if she's not happy with how you look? Even if you was in the wedding party I would tell her to stuff it because ain't no way this bride looking for a compromise
Oh and how bout just ask your photographer not to take a many pictures of the lady with blue hair easy Peezy
Why do brides think that a ring automatically gives them the authority to become a dictator? And it's not just for the day; it's for the entire time leading up to the wedding. SMH
I agree that the bride is way out of line, but why does the world need to know about this altercation though?
I don't particularly like tattoos and would not have one myself. But, yeah...so what? I have tattooed friends and well...they are attractive because of who they are, not because they are tattooed or not. My dislike of tattoos is just for me, not for anyone else. Stop judging on outer appearance already!
I, for one, LOVE your blue hair! (I work at Zappos, so it's the perfect color!!!)
People need to understand that like their kids, nobody gives a f**k about your wedding but you. No one but you will remember much about it in a few months, and in the big scheme of things it doesn't matter one f*****g bit. No one has fun at a wedding anyway, and if they do, it's not going to be because the centerpieces on the tables were perfect, or because the guests covered their tattoos. This is batshit crazy.
I want to know what happened when they met. I'd just super casually apologise for being unable to make it as the price of the cover up was too much. But don't want to ruin your day...
Some girls seem to have a whole fantasy wedding scenario in their heads, probably been working on them since they were little. This is why the grossly overpriced wedding industry has sprung up and is thriving. We went to a friend's wedding a couple of years ago, we're friends with both of them, and they are short of cash. So it was a budget affair, DJ was a friend who gave his services as a gift, hired a room in a local pub, it was as much fun as any other wedding I've been to. It's all in their head.
I would text my friend (the other half of this couple) anyway. She was his friend before they got together. I would let him know I wouldnt be attending and why I wouldnt be attending. Then id be done. Although this fella and her were friends before he met his new lady, the fact remains that he is with her, they now come as a set. If half the set is dogshit... id toss the whole box.
It's bad enough to ask this of a bridesmaid, but a guest?? I suspect the bride is jealous of this woman and wants to get her out of her husband's life.
I wouldn't go. It's too much. "Are these her real thoughts about me", would be the only thing I would be thinking if I did what she requested.
little confused, This is completely made up or it is two different thread from two different parties...First is says the wedding is in the summer, then she says the wedding is in December??? What???
Oh, classic. I am a female and I am mostly friends with men. This always gets into trouble when they get girlfriends, since they rarely let me spend time with them anymore. When my best male friend got married, I wasn't even invited to the party. His male friends were, but not me. He seemed very sad and I am pretty sure it was her doing..
the temptation to show up at the wedding with an oversize sequined or lurex jacket and a fisherman hat would be strong, but i'd honestly ditch this one and never mantain any further relationship other than basic courtesy greetings with this person. i'm not tattooed but i've been sporting blue hair for 20 years now so if i'm ruining your perfectly claustrophobic day i'll be glad to f**k off :D
My first thought is that the bride is jealous of friendship between the fiancé and the tattooed friend. The basis of the bride's requests is to alienate the girlfriend in the attempt to disengage that friendship any which way she can. Telling her not to text the guy is a dead giveaway the guy knows nothing about this - yes, I predict divorce within 4 years or less.
That's ridiculous! If I were in this situation I would have definitely texted my so called friend, or otherwise what friends are we even :D And yeah, why's that lad so blind to see what kind of a person is he allowing so close? :(
i would forward this to the fiance and make sure he knows and say sorry me and my husband cant attend here's why since he knows which is bs and send a gift to him and say on the card maybe we can come to the next one either way its gonna cause a rift so fight crazy with petty lol
Yeaaaaaah..... your invited wedding guests are not there for decoration.
I dont really understand, if the make up to cover the tattoo's exists and can be had, if the bride really wants them covered, and if she really wants the hair changed, that she didn't offer to cover the costs for getting the hair to the colour she wants and back again and cover the cost of the tattoo makeup. If it really matters that much to her. You can argue whether that request is reasonable or not, I don't know how reasonable that would be, but to act like she girl has to comply at her expense is insane. I'd definitely show the groom because this is a woman who probably is far more in love with the idea of a perfect wedding than she is in love with the idea of getting and staying married. I've met plenty of these over the years. It doesn't usually end well for him.
This made me angry just reading it, i am covered in tattoos, my wife has both arms covered, hair always a rainbow colour and if one of her 'friends' texted her this, i know what the response would be, and it wouldn't be as polite as this.
Next she'll be saying old people shouldn't look so old and kids should behave like quiet grownups and people in wheel chairs should just stand up for her coming down the aisle. Weddings are ALL of your colorful and different loved ones. I'd be happy enough if people didn't wear flip flops and cut off shorts.
When I was married, one of my bestest friends was in my bridal party and she has a bunch of tattoos. She offered to choose a style dress that mostly covered them as she didn’t want to distract from our wedding & photos. I didn’t ask her for that, but she is the sweetest & most thoughtful lady and knew that the majority of our guests were elderly family friends and relatives, she thought her tattoos may have caused drama with them. She also had to cover her tattoos for work and had them specifically placed so she could cover them if the situation called for it—so it wasn’t a huge deal for her. We were also married in the winter and we all wore long sleeves and/or shrugs because it was effin’ cold. The woman in the article wasn’t even IN the wedding party. Who cares what the guests wear, have tattooed on them and/or their hair color? How can you dictate the hair color of guests?? That is beyond nutty.
I mean, this is just a pile of red flags. Right down to throwing a hissy fit about texting so that she's always in control of what information gets to her fiancé. It sounds like he is setting himself up to be emotionally abused for however long the marriage lasts.
Yes, what happened to the idea that weddings are a celebration with your loved ones? I don't get all those brides demanding special attire, special haircuts ec. be happy for yourself and be happy your loved ones are there, celebrating with you. Stop making this a curated event, this is not a fashion show.
I love the idea of the group text declining the invitation to the wedding because of the bride's requests! it let's her know your response & also let's the finace` know what's up w/o being overboard (or as catty/petty as the bride). no need to stoop to her level!
Whoaaaa, I thought she was a bridesmaid..and still felt the bride was over the top with "cover your tattoos"! But she is "just" a guest..this is crazy! (I did not have a big wedding, just the people I love and the people my husband loves..so we did not care AT ALL how they were dressed or else..well, because they were there and we love them! So I don't get this behaviour.)
I had a similar situation at my wedding. My goddaughter was my maid of honor and my husband's best friend in the fire department was best man, both have significant body art. My husband's 87 year old aunt was mortified that we didn't "demand' that they dress to cover up all that "nastiness' that they have riddled their bodies with, she was absolutely floored when we told her it had never even crossed our minds to ask them to cover up their ink, it really is part of who they are and that is why we chose them to stand up for us at our wedding. My husband and I both have ink, just not as significant as them. I would never do this for anyone, so why would I ask someone to do it for me?
WOW.................. My next text would be: Well, I don't want to go then. And thanks for showing me how terrible you are, I no longer have to spend a single precious moment on this Earth doing anything or thinking about you.
I would come in a hot pink tank top, swim trunks and a rainbow Afro wig.
My husband and I asked our quests to come as they saw fit to do so. Some came in full blown dressed to the 9's, and others came in cut off shirts, running shoes, jeans with a dress jacket. And a really dear friend who is 6'3" dressed in a burgandy velvet tuxedo!! We had a blast.
Love the tats in the header, even though it's not her. Alert the groom, maybe he can dodge this killer bullet!
Too many people forget that just because you dont agree with someone doesn't mean "shaming" them is needed...makes you look like just as much of a jackass. So its the brides right to ask someone to cover up and temporary change hair color...just as much as its the other persons right to refuse and not go. Get over it and move on, stop crying cause someone doesn't like how you look for THEIR event. Bunch of cry babies.
People really don't understand what constitutes a 'right' FFS. It's just a f*****g wedding.
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I think bridezilla is very insecure and controlling. She doesn't want to take the chance that others may notice OP more than her at the wedding because she's beautiful! and her tattoos make her an individual. Her remark about not texting the fiancee suggests that he doesn't know anything about her little plan to keep away anyone who may distract the wedding party from her. I don't know what the right answer is, but I hope she doesn't cover her hair or tattoos. She's gorgeous and should be able to be herself at her "friends" wedding.
what a rude bride to be..I would just not bother turning up..just not worth the hassle.
Sorry Tammy - the wedding is in AUSTRALIA so it will be hot then. You did ask to be corrected if you were wrong, yes?
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I'd tell her to shover her wedding where the sun don't shine, I definitely wouldn't go, who needs friends like her !!
Not cool! If I was invited to a wedding & was then told "hey, ummmm, your tats need to be covered etc...." , I'd probably respond with something like "You know I have tattoos so why did you even invite me in the first place? Count me out." This just shows that the bride to be doesn't care for her tattooed guest at all. A friend is someone you accept for who they are, not what they look like. Bridezillas always have awful weddings. The control aspect obliterates any happiness she might otherwise enjoy that day. It's not just the bride's day either. A wedding is a celebration of the union of 2 people who profess love for one another (usually).
"Bridezilla", "Go eat some lipstick!" This was an unexpectedly educational thread, love it. I hope her (male) friend calls it off before their wedding, as that is a much simpler solution than first getting married only to get a divorce... She is definitely the type of woman who ought to buy a lifelike doll instead of making life miserable for real children.
Should have just made the first reply, "yes, of course". And then forgot about it. Turned up as you want. Best still, don't go. A wedding is nothing without guests. There's nothing worse for a diva than no audience!
Hmmmmm ....... Last wedding I attended, I wore raggedy cut off shorts and a T-shirt. I guess maybe I'm not a wedding-attending kind of person.
Id text him anyway. I would tell him I wouldnt be able to attend and why. Id wish him good luck and be done with it. She obviously isnt allowed to be his friend anymore, it's become a package deal. If half that package is dog s**t, id toss the whole box.
As just a guest the whole photo sh#t is bull and it is terribly rude to ask a guest to change who They are to come to your wedding. You could just look back on those pictures with her kids and say " Oh that's your crazy aunt and that's how she wore her hair back then. Make light of it if you even remotely want to have a descent marriage or Run groom Run she will be a nightmare to live with.
I would make sure my hair was extra bright, and then I would find an artist to draw fake tattoos on every part of my body that would be showing.
I'd scribble on my own face with a permanant Sharpie! Nah - I wouldn't, I just wouldn't go. Life is too short.
Load More Replies... At the end of the day tho it's her wedding and it's quite reasonable to ask.
It is never reasonable. Getting married doesn't make anyone a rule-maker for the day. It is just a wedding. It doesn't mean you can do or ask anything you like of people. Never ask someone to change their appearance to fit in with what you think they should look like anyway. The bride and groom get to pick the bridal party outfits - no-one elses (and they need to be reasonable with them as well). If people make too much of their wedding and it becomes all that matters they are doomed for disappointment because anything can go awry on the day. Brides really need to calm the F**k down.
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It's the bride and groom's day, cover your arms off if she asks you to, or just don't go! You can't ruin their one day, as you can ask her to come with fake tats or real ones, to yours. And the condescending way you're speaking about her... Omg YOU should be ashamed, not the other way around.
It's just a wedding FFS. People need to get it into perspective. People will do a lot to help a couple celebrate but why should they change who they are? It will be too hot in Australia in the summer so damned unreasonable to ask them to cover their arms.
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Am I missing something? In the 2nd text she says the wedding is in the summer and it's too hot to wear long sleeves or a jacket. Then it seems that the wedding is in December. Is the wedding in the Southern Hemisphere? Otherwise, this whole thing makes no sense.
It is in Australia... summer in December is quite normal on a large part of the planet.
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I'm thinking if OP requested names and images to be redacted you should do that as well for the snaps of the comments. It is easy to figure s**t out by association.
This was taken from a wedding shaming group. Odds are that NONE of the people in the comments have any actual connection to the OP
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I'd actually start a GoFund me campaign to raise the money to buy those fake tattoo sleeves for everyone in the wedding party (except the bride) with a note that said "The bride changed up the color scheme. Everyone is required to wear these sleeves and dye/spray their hair to their favorite color." Then sit back and watch the bride have a melt down.....
Okay...so let me understand: this bride-to-be only wants her guests if they match her ideal of "good looking" guests to compliment her vision of beauty. Well, it's her right, I suppose, but I suspect soon she will find herself alone or surrounded by those as shallow and judgemental as she. Not a good way to start life as a married person. I predict an unhappy future. Just wait until she has kids. What if, heaven forbid, one doesn't match her standards of attractiveness? Yikes. Grow up lady. Beauty is deeper than appearance -- and you, lady, are about as ugly as they come.
TBH they both seem pretty high maintenance. I feel bad for the groom who has to try to balance this
How are we failing? There are over 7 billion of us. If anything, we're a bit too successful.
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Good grief! No. You don't ask this of people. The only ones you get to dress are the wedding party. Stop acting like weddings are so important that the bride and groom can turn into dictators, it is ridiculous. She's not friends with the bride, she's the groom's friend and he's being carefully left out of this while the bride is being manipulative. Also Australia is incredibly hot in the summer - be reasonable. 'Approve' the outfit... flipping hell.
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She's a guest, not a bridesmaid. Just one of many people at the wedding. Tattoos are so common these days, people probably won't even notice.
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Strange as it may seem, nobody's wedding is *that* special. In fact, most weddings are a chore and a bore to attend. So bridezillas who are this picky are delusional if they think anyone will be broken hearted at not being there.
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Downvoted for not reading the article. Girl was a GUEST.
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In the Southern Hemisphere (like here in Australia for example) - summertime IS in December.
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There is a problem. You shouldn't be expected to change your appearance to fit a the f*****g "theme" of a wedding.
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The southern hemisphere has summer in December......and winter in July. She could be in Australia. Its currently 49F in Sydney
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This happened to me once!! I was friends with this girl and asked to be in her bridal party. I said yes gladly. At the time I didn't have nearly as many tattoos as I have now but I did have my whole back piece. She asked me to cover my tattoos. Me being nice said ok i will try and find a solution. It was summer. All I could find to go with this dumb dress color she picked was sweaters. NAH. Soooo, She had her makeup artist cake up makeup on my back. It was disgusting, empty and messy. I felt like a shell of myself covering who I am to appease someone else's garbage standards. Made me feel ashamed and depressed to be a part of her wedding. Needless to say our friendship faded away after that. Oh and she got a divorce. Haha
She probably treated the husband with the same disrespect she showed you.
Load More Replies... My wedding was the day of my wife and me. However, what made it our special day was the family and friend who were our guests, not our egos. This helped to make it a day to remember, rather than one that looked fancy on photos or would impress other people.
Ridiculous! My husband and I eloped just because I didn't want to deal with the drama of a wedding, even if it was my own! Both of our parents were divorced and remarried. I wasn't even going to go there. So, he had a tux, I had a dress, and we got married on a private beach with just the minister and his wife to take pictures! I have NEVER regretted it
Looks like the bride was afraid this girl would look cooler than she on the wedding :D
This girl is a friend of the groom, so I guess Bridezilla is steadily weeding all the women out of his friend group.
Load More Replies... I'm getting married and my photographer has bright blue hair and tattoos. She is amazing. My bridesmaids have tattoos and are all different shapes, height and sizes and I am embracing all of it. These bridezilla's blow my mind.
I’m a tattooed bloke and I be very surprised if anyone said anything along those lines to me! My tattoos and shaved head are part of who I am, I chose them, they are ‘me’, if you don’t like that then our friendship ain’t worth squat. I worked for five years as a Concierge at a high end hotel, in my time there we had over 500 weddings and I know which weddings got the best photos, the ones where the bride and groom put the emphasis on sharing their special commitment with family and friends. Beautiful wedding photos are made by the love and respect a gathering of family and friends bring to the celebration, not a ‘look’. Anyone who can’t accept that you are who you are and expects you to change in order to make their photos fit some ridiculous look that they have lodged in her head isn’t really that special to you. Make your apologies and avoid the wedding from hell.
Just don't go. And don't give that narcissist a gift either. Cancel your RSVP and do something fun instead.
I feel like brides who act like this will likely be single again in less than 5 years.
She sounds so insecure and seems to want her out of the picture for real. Just look at how she absolutely JUMPS at the first opportunity to say "well it's not possible? Then you better not come", probably with crossed fingers and a sigh of relief. She's probably just trying to cut out any perceived threats, and if she is her husband's friend, she likely just wishes she'd vanish from their lives. That woman's tattoos look gorgeous btw.
I was thinking the same thing. All it would have taken was the groom to have innocently said, "Her tats look kind of cool." or "That hair color looks good on her" and that would have been enough for the bride to start hating the girl. It doesn't matter that she's already got a partner and is happy. The perceived "threat" is already there in the bride's mind. The bride is quick to throw away the friendship because it wasn't hers to begin with. Bride sounds manipulative. I wouldn't trust her as a person.
Load More Replies... Honestly, I'm really having hard time believing all these shared conversations anymore. Between brides, and customers wanting free things, etc I'm really starting to believe many of these are set up for attention.
Some are fake, but a LOT of them are real. My Mom was an event coordinator and some of things that have been witnessed would blow your mind. The stories are just more prevalent with the advent of social media and the "share everything" mentality we have now a days
Load More Replies... That happens when you put to much expectations and pressure on a wedding. I never hear such Storys from brides in Europe or Asia ... or the rest of the world for that matter.
Agree. Here in Bulgaria we usually don't have cases like this. It was a fun thing to go the wedding of colleague from Macedonia, it's a neighboring country, so we have very similar customs, but it seems a bit different wedding culture we didn't have idea of. There it's pretty normal to have 1 outfit for the day and another for the evening and we had no idea of this. The other guests wore for the day what we usually would wear even for evening wedding - cocktail dresses, mid length. But for the evening it blew our minds - most of the guests were going extra with dresses like for an Oscars party and matching hair and make up and it's seems it's pretty normal thing there. I even saw someone in white (in non-bridal looking dress), but it was less distracting than one girl with a long blinky gold dress with a train. No one thought that any of this is upstaging the bride and I don't think the bride felt offended either, even though she's Bulgarian, so probably not very accustomed to this too
Load More Replies... I don't get these bridezillas... I'm getting married in the spring 2020 and we would never tell our guests to change their appearance because of photos... They're our friends, we accept them the way they are... At least reading such posts makes me feel better that I'm not that level of shallow (I worried I was a bridezilla because I didn't want a multi-layered cake or because I kinda wanted an outdoor- wedding) ...
Throw any ideas of 'rules' into the bin and do what you want. You can have anything (legal) that you want for your wedding. People just need to bear in mind that being a bride or groom doesn't mean you can start making demands of people - even the ones you pay. If you are nice to people providing services/goods they'll be more likely to want to give you a great day. ENJOY arranging it and remember that you are making a wedding that lasts one day so don't sweat the small stuff. The marriage is more important so don't make it a 'do or die'. Relax and have fun.
Load More Replies... What a b... female dog. I hope that she crashed the wedding.
I hate that she thinks she is doing a kindness by inviting you as if your whole world depends on you going to this wedding. Why did she invite you if she's not happy with how you look? Even if you was in the wedding party I would tell her to stuff it because ain't no way this bride looking for a compromise
Oh and how bout just ask your photographer not to take a many pictures of the lady with blue hair easy Peezy
Why do brides think that a ring automatically gives them the authority to become a dictator? And it's not just for the day; it's for the entire time leading up to the wedding. SMH
I agree that the bride is way out of line, but why does the world need to know about this altercation though?
I don't particularly like tattoos and would not have one myself. But, yeah...so what? I have tattooed friends and well...they are attractive because of who they are, not because they are tattooed or not. My dislike of tattoos is just for me, not for anyone else. Stop judging on outer appearance already!
I, for one, LOVE your blue hair! (I work at Zappos, so it's the perfect color!!!)
People need to understand that like their kids, nobody gives a f**k about your wedding but you. No one but you will remember much about it in a few months, and in the big scheme of things it doesn't matter one f*****g bit. No one has fun at a wedding anyway, and if they do, it's not going to be because the centerpieces on the tables were perfect, or because the guests covered their tattoos. This is batshit crazy.
I want to know what happened when they met. I'd just super casually apologise for being unable to make it as the price of the cover up was too much. But don't want to ruin your day...
Some girls seem to have a whole fantasy wedding scenario in their heads, probably been working on them since they were little. This is why the grossly overpriced wedding industry has sprung up and is thriving. We went to a friend's wedding a couple of years ago, we're friends with both of them, and they are short of cash. So it was a budget affair, DJ was a friend who gave his services as a gift, hired a room in a local pub, it was as much fun as any other wedding I've been to. It's all in their head.
I would text my friend (the other half of this couple) anyway. She was his friend before they got together. I would let him know I wouldnt be attending and why I wouldnt be attending. Then id be done. Although this fella and her were friends before he met his new lady, the fact remains that he is with her, they now come as a set. If half the set is dogshit... id toss the whole box.
It's bad enough to ask this of a bridesmaid, but a guest?? I suspect the bride is jealous of this woman and wants to get her out of her husband's life.
I wouldn't go. It's too much. "Are these her real thoughts about me", would be the only thing I would be thinking if I did what she requested.
little confused, This is completely made up or it is two different thread from two different parties...First is says the wedding is in the summer, then she says the wedding is in December??? What???
Oh, classic. I am a female and I am mostly friends with men. This always gets into trouble when they get girlfriends, since they rarely let me spend time with them anymore. When my best male friend got married, I wasn't even invited to the party. His male friends were, but not me. He seemed very sad and I am pretty sure it was her doing..
the temptation to show up at the wedding with an oversize sequined or lurex jacket and a fisherman hat would be strong, but i'd honestly ditch this one and never mantain any further relationship other than basic courtesy greetings with this person. i'm not tattooed but i've been sporting blue hair for 20 years now so if i'm ruining your perfectly claustrophobic day i'll be glad to f**k off :D
My first thought is that the bride is jealous of friendship between the fiancé and the tattooed friend. The basis of the bride's requests is to alienate the girlfriend in the attempt to disengage that friendship any which way she can. Telling her not to text the guy is a dead giveaway the guy knows nothing about this - yes, I predict divorce within 4 years or less.
That's ridiculous! If I were in this situation I would have definitely texted my so called friend, or otherwise what friends are we even :D And yeah, why's that lad so blind to see what kind of a person is he allowing so close? :(
i would forward this to the fiance and make sure he knows and say sorry me and my husband cant attend here's why since he knows which is bs and send a gift to him and say on the card maybe we can come to the next one either way its gonna cause a rift so fight crazy with petty lol
Yeaaaaaah..... your invited wedding guests are not there for decoration.
I dont really understand, if the make up to cover the tattoo's exists and can be had, if the bride really wants them covered, and if she really wants the hair changed, that she didn't offer to cover the costs for getting the hair to the colour she wants and back again and cover the cost of the tattoo makeup. If it really matters that much to her. You can argue whether that request is reasonable or not, I don't know how reasonable that would be, but to act like she girl has to comply at her expense is insane. I'd definitely show the groom because this is a woman who probably is far more in love with the idea of a perfect wedding than she is in love with the idea of getting and staying married. I've met plenty of these over the years. It doesn't usually end well for him.
This made me angry just reading it, i am covered in tattoos, my wife has both arms covered, hair always a rainbow colour and if one of her 'friends' texted her this, i know what the response would be, and it wouldn't be as polite as this.
Next she'll be saying old people shouldn't look so old and kids should behave like quiet grownups and people in wheel chairs should just stand up for her coming down the aisle. Weddings are ALL of your colorful and different loved ones. I'd be happy enough if people didn't wear flip flops and cut off shorts.
When I was married, one of my bestest friends was in my bridal party and she has a bunch of tattoos. She offered to choose a style dress that mostly covered them as she didn’t want to distract from our wedding & photos. I didn’t ask her for that, but she is the sweetest & most thoughtful lady and knew that the majority of our guests were elderly family friends and relatives, she thought her tattoos may have caused drama with them. She also had to cover her tattoos for work and had them specifically placed so she could cover them if the situation called for it—so it wasn’t a huge deal for her. We were also married in the winter and we all wore long sleeves and/or shrugs because it was effin’ cold. The woman in the article wasn’t even IN the wedding party. Who cares what the guests wear, have tattooed on them and/or their hair color? How can you dictate the hair color of guests?? That is beyond nutty.
I mean, this is just a pile of red flags. Right down to throwing a hissy fit about texting so that she's always in control of what information gets to her fiancé. It sounds like he is setting himself up to be emotionally abused for however long the marriage lasts.
Yes, what happened to the idea that weddings are a celebration with your loved ones? I don't get all those brides demanding special attire, special haircuts ec. be happy for yourself and be happy your loved ones are there, celebrating with you. Stop making this a curated event, this is not a fashion show.
I love the idea of the group text declining the invitation to the wedding because of the bride's requests! it let's her know your response & also let's the finace` know what's up w/o being overboard (or as catty/petty as the bride). no need to stoop to her level!
Whoaaaa, I thought she was a bridesmaid..and still felt the bride was over the top with "cover your tattoos"! But she is "just" a guest..this is crazy! (I did not have a big wedding, just the people I love and the people my husband loves..so we did not care AT ALL how they were dressed or else..well, because they were there and we love them! So I don't get this behaviour.)
I had a similar situation at my wedding. My goddaughter was my maid of honor and my husband's best friend in the fire department was best man, both have significant body art. My husband's 87 year old aunt was mortified that we didn't "demand' that they dress to cover up all that "nastiness' that they have riddled their bodies with, she was absolutely floored when we told her it had never even crossed our minds to ask them to cover up their ink, it really is part of who they are and that is why we chose them to stand up for us at our wedding. My husband and I both have ink, just not as significant as them. I would never do this for anyone, so why would I ask someone to do it for me?
WOW.................. My next text would be: Well, I don't want to go then. And thanks for showing me how terrible you are, I no longer have to spend a single precious moment on this Earth doing anything or thinking about you.
I would come in a hot pink tank top, swim trunks and a rainbow Afro wig.
My husband and I asked our quests to come as they saw fit to do so. Some came in full blown dressed to the 9's, and others came in cut off shirts, running shoes, jeans with a dress jacket. And a really dear friend who is 6'3" dressed in a burgandy velvet tuxedo!! We had a blast.
Love the tats in the header, even though it's not her. Alert the groom, maybe he can dodge this killer bullet!
Too many people forget that just because you dont agree with someone doesn't mean "shaming" them is needed...makes you look like just as much of a jackass. So its the brides right to ask someone to cover up and temporary change hair color...just as much as its the other persons right to refuse and not go. Get over it and move on, stop crying cause someone doesn't like how you look for THEIR event. Bunch of cry babies.
People really don't understand what constitutes a 'right' FFS. It's just a f*****g wedding.
Load More Replies... I think bridezilla is very insecure and controlling. She doesn't want to take the chance that others may notice OP more than her at the wedding because she's beautiful! and her tattoos make her an individual. Her remark about not texting the fiancee suggests that he doesn't know anything about her little plan to keep away anyone who may distract the wedding party from her. I don't know what the right answer is, but I hope she doesn't cover her hair or tattoos. She's gorgeous and should be able to be herself at her "friends" wedding.
what a rude bride to be..I would just not bother turning up..just not worth the hassle.
Sorry Tammy - the wedding is in AUSTRALIA so it will be hot then. You did ask to be corrected if you were wrong, yes?
Load More Replies... I'd tell her to shover her wedding where the sun don't shine, I definitely wouldn't go, who needs friends like her !!
Not cool! If I was invited to a wedding & was then told "hey, ummmm, your tats need to be covered etc...." , I'd probably respond with something like "You know I have tattoos so why did you even invite me in the first place? Count me out." This just shows that the bride to be doesn't care for her tattooed guest at all. A friend is someone you accept for who they are, not what they look like. Bridezillas always have awful weddings. The control aspect obliterates any happiness she might otherwise enjoy that day. It's not just the bride's day either. A wedding is a celebration of the union of 2 people who profess love for one another (usually).
"Bridezilla", "Go eat some lipstick!" This was an unexpectedly educational thread, love it. I hope her (male) friend calls it off before their wedding, as that is a much simpler solution than first getting married only to get a divorce... She is definitely the type of woman who ought to buy a lifelike doll instead of making life miserable for real children.
Should have just made the first reply, "yes, of course". And then forgot about it. Turned up as you want. Best still, don't go. A wedding is nothing without guests. There's nothing worse for a diva than no audience!
Hmmmmm ....... Last wedding I attended, I wore raggedy cut off shorts and a T-shirt. I guess maybe I'm not a wedding-attending kind of person.
Id text him anyway. I would tell him I wouldnt be able to attend and why. Id wish him good luck and be done with it. She obviously isnt allowed to be his friend anymore, it's become a package deal. If half that package is dog s**t, id toss the whole box.
As just a guest the whole photo sh#t is bull and it is terribly rude to ask a guest to change who They are to come to your wedding. You could just look back on those pictures with her kids and say " Oh that's your crazy aunt and that's how she wore her hair back then. Make light of it if you even remotely want to have a descent marriage or Run groom Run she will be a nightmare to live with.
I would make sure my hair was extra bright, and then I would find an artist to draw fake tattoos on every part of my body that would be showing.
I'd scribble on my own face with a permanant Sharpie! Nah - I wouldn't, I just wouldn't go. Life is too short.
Load More Replies... At the end of the day tho it's her wedding and it's quite reasonable to ask.
It is never reasonable. Getting married doesn't make anyone a rule-maker for the day. It is just a wedding. It doesn't mean you can do or ask anything you like of people. Never ask someone to change their appearance to fit in with what you think they should look like anyway. The bride and groom get to pick the bridal party outfits - no-one elses (and they need to be reasonable with them as well). If people make too much of their wedding and it becomes all that matters they are doomed for disappointment because anything can go awry on the day. Brides really need to calm the F**k down.
Load More Replies... It's the bride and groom's day, cover your arms off if she asks you to, or just don't go! You can't ruin their one day, as you can ask her to come with fake tats or real ones, to yours. And the condescending way you're speaking about her... Omg YOU should be ashamed, not the other way around.
It's just a wedding FFS. People need to get it into perspective. People will do a lot to help a couple celebrate but why should they change who they are? It will be too hot in Australia in the summer so damned unreasonable to ask them to cover their arms.
Load More Replies... Am I missing something? In the 2nd text she says the wedding is in the summer and it's too hot to wear long sleeves or a jacket. Then it seems that the wedding is in December. Is the wedding in the Southern Hemisphere? Otherwise, this whole thing makes no sense.
It is in Australia... summer in December is quite normal on a large part of the planet.
Load More Replies... I'm thinking if OP requested names and images to be redacted you should do that as well for the snaps of the comments. It is easy to figure s**t out by association.
This was taken from a wedding shaming group. Odds are that NONE of the people in the comments have any actual connection to the OP
Load More Replies... I'd actually start a GoFund me campaign to raise the money to buy those fake tattoo sleeves for everyone in the wedding party (except the bride) with a note that said "The bride changed up the color scheme. Everyone is required to wear these sleeves and dye/spray their hair to their favorite color." Then sit back and watch the bride have a melt down.....
Okay...so let me understand: this bride-to-be only wants her guests if they match her ideal of "good looking" guests to compliment her vision of beauty. Well, it's her right, I suppose, but I suspect soon she will find herself alone or surrounded by those as shallow and judgemental as she. Not a good way to start life as a married person. I predict an unhappy future. Just wait until she has kids. What if, heaven forbid, one doesn't match her standards of attractiveness? Yikes. Grow up lady. Beauty is deeper than appearance -- and you, lady, are about as ugly as they come.
TBH they both seem pretty high maintenance. I feel bad for the groom who has to try to balance this
How are we failing? There are over 7 billion of us. If anything, we're a bit too successful.
Load More Replies... Good grief! No. You don't ask this of people. The only ones you get to dress are the wedding party. Stop acting like weddings are so important that the bride and groom can turn into dictators, it is ridiculous. She's not friends with the bride, she's the groom's friend and he's being carefully left out of this while the bride is being manipulative. Also Australia is incredibly hot in the summer - be reasonable. 'Approve' the outfit... flipping hell.
Load More Replies... She's a guest, not a bridesmaid. Just one of many people at the wedding. Tattoos are so common these days, people probably won't even notice.
Load More Replies... Strange as it may seem, nobody's wedding is *that* special. In fact, most weddings are a chore and a bore to attend. So bridezillas who are this picky are delusional if they think anyone will be broken hearted at not being there.
Load More Replies... Downvoted for not reading the article. Girl was a GUEST.
Load More Replies... In the Southern Hemisphere (like here in Australia for example) - summertime IS in December.
Load More Replies... There is a problem. You shouldn't be expected to change your appearance to fit a the f*****g "theme" of a wedding.
Load More Replies... The southern hemisphere has summer in December......and winter in July. She could be in Australia. Its currently 49F in Sydney
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