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Museum Asks Breastfeeding Mom To Cover Her Nipple, And Now They Wish They Hadn’t
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Museum Asks Breastfeeding Mom To Cover Her Nipple, And Now They Wish They Hadn’t

A London mom was recently breastfeeding her 1-year-old son in the courtyard of the Victoria and Albert Museum when a staff member asked her to ‘cover up’ while doing so. Yeah, it’s 2017 and we’re still dealing with this.

The woman, whom we know only by the Twitter handle Vaguechera, had apparently only flashed a “nanosecond of nipple” when the incident occurred, and it goes without saying that she was just a little bit dismayed. After all, not only is breastfeeding one of the oldest and most natural practices known to humankind, it’s also protected by law in the UK, even in museums. To make matters worse, this all took place on August 5th – smack dab in the middle of World Breastfeeding Week.

The V&A found itself in serious hot water over this one, and in addition to issuing an official apology to the mom on behalf of both the museum and its director, Tristram Hunt, they had a lot of explaining to do after the woman’s clever Twitter post on the issue went viral with more than 7 thousand retweets. Scroll down to find out how she did it, how the museum responded, and what people are saying about it.

This mom was asked to ‘cover up’ while breastfeeding her son in a museum

However the place was full of nude women sculptures, so she thought of the perfect response

She took some photos of bare-breasted sculptures to show how ironic it was that she was not allowed to breastfeed there

She also added some hilarious captions to ridicule the situation even further

The tweets got shared so many times that the museum had nothing left to do, but publicly apologize

As breastfeeding is protected by law in the UK and other countries, many users were in support of her too

Others, however, clung to an alternative rhetoric

What do you think? Is breastfeeding in public a big deal? Tell us in the comments!

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Jennifer .S
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5 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Calling her toddler obese was uneccesary

Zenozenobee
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5 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

And not even true. Toddlers are cheeky. Even my daught who is on the very low part of the weight curve is cheeky...

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Zenozenobee
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5 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I love the fact that in the world we're living in, people have nothing more important to get upset with than a woman feeding her kid... I really hope that the same people militate against the ads that cover our streets with half naked women (and men) to make us by yogurt and cars.

Ash
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5 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Seriously?! Fat-shaming a baby?! This world is going down the drain smh

Echo
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5 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Is going? Already been sliding for sometime unfortunately.

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Olli Westphal
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5 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I remember during my studies, when I was talking with one of my fellow study colleagues, who happened to also be a young mother, she would also start to breastfeed her child, and you know what I did? I would either look her directly in the eye, or look away and just continue talking with her, because god forbid for not allowing her to feed her own damn kid. I really wish this wasn't an issue.

criminalgirl
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5 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

He's one year old..not a toddler. Get a grip you fucking horrible bastards, this is a woman out and about with her child, she needs to feed him and that's it. Get to fuck with your ignorant rants about "privates" Maybe you were breastfed in public places, but didn't know it, so go live with your horrendous morals, somewhere life doesn't touch you. Ghastly horrible people.

Ed Mo
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5 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

No one, especially men, have a right to tell women what they may do with their bodies. Breastfeeding is a natural & beautiful function, peeps need to get over the puritan body shaming BS. If you don't like it then look away.

Milo Rastapopoulos
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5 years ago

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Next time I will take a shit right in the middle of a dining-room, I know what I will reply if a puritan body shamer protests. "No one, especially women, have a right to tell men what they may do with their bodies. Taking a shit is a natural and beautiful function, if you don't like it then look away... OKAYYYY???😠"

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Mark Daniel
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5 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I do not know why people keep double standards. And why every time they find reasons to put some restrictions on women?

Vesna Brnić
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5 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Funny thing is women put restrictions on women. Mainly those who don't breastfeed are hell annoyed with every little topic, image or promotion on breastfeeding, claiming they feel threatened and attacked. Sickening.

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Peta Hurley-Hill
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5 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Boobs are there to feed babies.Any other idea people have of them is a secondary thing.And what is more disruptive,a Mum quietly feeding her child, as nature intended,or a hungry baby screaming the place down?I'm sure people would complain then too,

Leni
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5 years ago

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Nobody is forcing you to look, Jennifer... you could just look the other way.

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Brigitte
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5 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You can't really compare art to a real person. Showing naked statues and a breast while breastfeeding is not the same. If I ever have a kid and I'm breastfeeding in public, I would want to cover up. I'd wear a breastfeeding shirt or use a scarf... I just don't want strangers see my breast. But just because I would cover up, I don't expect every mom to do so too and I certainly don't make a fuss about it.

Sarah Lennie
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5 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You'd be surprised how little of the breast is visible when breastfeeding, even without a cover.

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Elena Rogers
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5 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

People go around telling Muslim women that they must be "oppressed" to want to wear head coverings for "modesty", completely oblivious to the hypocrisy of most countries' views on the "modesty" of a female nipple which they themselves perpetuate.

Denise Geddes-mcclure
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5 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Double, triple and quadruple bravo! Touché and hear hear as well! I hate the word 'modest' it is invariably used by men or ultra conservative women, to shame women and oppress them into covering up parts of the body that the other person or group finds uncomfortable or arousing. I cannot recall ANYONE EVER calling on a man to be modest ! FUCK modesty! If your baby needs feeding, get the boobs out and feed them. The only decent and proper response to anyone who complains, is to slowly and purposefully raise your middle finger.

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Rabbitt209
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5 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This "issue" along with so many others concerning a woman's body and the choices she makes, just makes me nuts. Men aren't harassed this way

Deyonce Bond
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5 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Happened to me in a national gallery in Oz that spent 1.5 mil on a bronze era statue of s breast feeding mum: nips and all!

Amy Peters
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5 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You're not a hero for breast feeding your kid. SO tired of this subject.

Louiiiise
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5 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I've breastfed myself, and witnessed a certain number of mothers do it. Only once did I see a mother unnecessarily flaunting her nipples. All the other times, it was made in a totally natural way that you'd have to be deranged find offensive. I myself tried to cover up in the beginning, but I found out rather quickly that it was terribly unpractical and drawing attention even more so from that moment I did it without fuss, neither hiding nor showing. But I've always felt a bit anxious about it, and no mothers should feel that way. There are parts of the world where it's not such a big deal...

Vesna Brnić
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5 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Neither showing nipples is a big deal in such places, because that's natural.

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Joelle Jansen
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5 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Because somehow breastfeeding is so much more offensive than the "sexy" advertisement you see everywhere.. ? At least with breastfeeding you're using the body part the way it's meant to.

June Pixeld
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5 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I really don't get why is this even an issue. Babies need to be fed. I personally would not choose to do it in the museum but that should be her choice. It is such a normal thing to do , why should people get a say in when and where she does it. People look at disgusting things on the internet , but god forbid we see a boob used for its biological purpose.

Alusair Alustriel
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5 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Ah, yet another boob attack! I guess as long as we pay attention to boobs, such stories will pop up. I don't mind women breastfeeding publicly, wouldn't do it myself (come from a point where my boob is mine + my husbands and no strangers need to see it). Like someone said though - you don't like it, don't look at it. As a matter of fact you should turn your sight elsewhere, why would you look at her breast in the first place even? I face away, cause her boob is her private sphere, would make me uncomfortable to stare at her. If she feels ok with "sharing" it's her thing, not yours. Or mine. Mind your own boob (men and women alike).

Vesna Brnić
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5 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

She's not sharing boob with anyone. She's feeding her baby.

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N G
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5 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The museum should hold a breast feeding party for moms and their babies, just to show everyone that breast feeders are welcome.

Vesna Brnić
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5 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm upvoting in hope you are not sarcastic.

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Cappy Walls
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5 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I am 76. Breastfeeding was just making a comeback when my kids were born. I think there should be a balance - yes, breastfeed your child in public. But perhaps just a bit of discretion? And really how silly is it when there is a statue of a breastfeeding Mom right in the museum!! If more women would breastfeed their children it would become the norm. And it is so much better for your child.

Jennifer Mead
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5 years ago

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It's the lack of a tiny bit of sensible discretion which winds everyone up. Just look like you are even attempting to be modest and I bet a lot more people would be fine with it.

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Ben Smith
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5 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Fine, breastfeed your baby in public, I don't care. However don't breastfeed your dang toddler anywhere. It's weird and unhealthy.

Mary Arroyo
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5 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I breastfed all of my sons. I hated having to go to a public bathroom to do it. If you have no issue seeing a mans chest then there should not be an issue seeing a woman breastfeed. All I can say is grow the heck up. Breastfeeding isn't a ploy for attention.

Jennifer Mead
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5 years ago

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Sadly many seem to use it as a ploy for attention which I think is a major part of the problem. If there were no places to pee and you had to do it in public, you would find a discreet spot because it involves an area which society generally agrees to cover up and you want privacy. You don't whip down your pants like 'here's my glorious vagina, everyone bask in my womanly glow as I pee and if anything congratulate me on how womanly I am to do this in sight of everyone.'

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Shari H
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5 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Free the Ta-Ta's! Personally I think the world would be a better place if we could go around topless whenever we wanted. I mean honestly, if guys can go around shirtless showing off their nipples, which exist only for aesthetic reasons, women should be able to do the same. Not for equality, but because boobs are awesome and only total prudes don't want to see them in all their glorious variations! I don't care if you are using them to feed your kid, or if you're just tired of sweating into your bra, let the girls go free! Also, since when are breasts part of your privates?

Alusair Alustriel
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5 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I think breasts are privates when someone sees them as so. For me my breasts are a private thing and I would feel uncomfortable showing them to stragers. Some things are reserved only for my hubby.

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Casandra Nițescu
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5 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Ok Kristine Owens, chill out. "do we critizise you when you prop a nasty bottle full of fake milk in your kid's mouth" , uhm apparently that's exactly what you're doing , yes. And "fake milk" , I'm assuming this person means formula(?) and there is nothing wrong with formula at all. There has been plenty of research comparing breastfeeding and formula and the difference is pretty much none .

Meredith Avila
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5 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I formula fed both my kids after being shamed into trying a hellish, traumatic and thankfully short breastfeeding experience, I gave absolutely zero fucks if anyone said anything because I knew that I was doing what was the right thing. My kids are now in school, smart and very healthy. The basics who criticize feeding choices are saying a lot more about themselves than anyone else

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Master Markus
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5 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

OH MY GOD, WHO CARES? I'd only think it's inappropriate somewhere like a fancy restaurant or something, but then the issue isn't so much "breastfeeding" as "you shouldn't have a baby there".

Medusa
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5 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If I were in her place, I'd go somewhere less crowded or cover up since I wouldn't be okay with strangers seeing my privates. But I understand that not everyone thinks like me so if I were part of the public, I'd just move away and avoid looking at her. I'm just too lazy to bother reacting to other people x)

Elena Rogers
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5 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Privates? It's a nipple. Almost everyone on the planet has them.

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Jacob Henrich
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5 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Why is this even an issue? Let the mother feed her child.

Melissa Kennedy
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5 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I don't want to see anybodys breasts. What the heck is up with that now? People don't want men to go shirtless in the summer and they want to whip out their breasts to feed their babies. It's a bloody mess.

Leni
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5 years ago

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I don't know anyone who cares about shirtless men tbh.

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Debra Starr Moon
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5 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I love how we demonize something so pure and natural, yet insist that things like hate speech and pornographic art are covered under freedom of speech.

Nicklas Linder
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5 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

One day, I'm going to breastfeed a lifelike doll (I'm a man) and see if I get the same reactions. Probably not, because male nipples haven't been sexualized even though they look the same as women's. We're on a slippery slope to stupid, when breastfeeding is controversial, but electing a sexually predatory madman as president... We have that, climate change, wars, famine etc etc to worry about and we complain about breastfeeding?!? Holy f--k, people...

Brandi Dickerson
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5 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Here's a simple solution, if you don't want to see a mother breastfeeding her child, then don't look. I would assume that if you want to eat, you would just eat and not go into seclusion to go and have your meal. The same holds true for mothers that breastfeed. They should not be made to cover up or go into seclusion to feed their child. We don't make mothers that bottle feed their children to into special areas or cover them up as they feed, so why should it be mandatory that a breastfeeding mother covers up? As a mother that was on both ends of the spectrum (my kids both breast fed and bottle fed) I fail to see the need to have an issue about a child getting the nutrients and nourishment that they need, however they need it. Again, if a child had to be fed through a feeding tube, or an IV would you request that they cover up too? If you don't want to see it, don't look. It's pretty damn simple.

Sofia Bellavista
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5 years ago

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The child is equally fed if you cover up the breast. If you don't cover it up, you are an exhibitionist. It's pretty damn simple.

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Robin Talsma
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5 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

IMO, the more women breastfeed in public, the more people will become comfortable with seeing a mother and child doing something so natural. Breastfeeding in public is not the norm and a lot of people are reacting to perceptions of bodily functions should be performed in private. We cough, we spit, people scratch their crotches and pick their noses in public. They are never asked to cover up that I'm aware of except cough and sneezing because of the spread of germs. The more mothers do this, the more we will accept it as normal behavior.

Heather Keedy Bateman
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5 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

As a woman who breastfed my youngest for 8.5 months--breasts are for food. Sorry if that messes with the sexualization of them...

Robert Hall
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5 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Jeez, who gives a crap? Breasts are not obscene.

Mandy Phillips
Community Member
5 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm very sad about the negative comments on this thread. There is nothing unnatural about breast feeding, get a life

Zori the degu
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5 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017