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Boss Calls Woman ‘Slutty’ After Seeing Her Linkedin Profile Pic Where She’s Wearing A Basic T-Shirt, Employee Calls Him Out
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Boss Calls Woman ‘Slutty’ After Seeing Her Linkedin Profile Pic Where She’s Wearing A Basic T-Shirt, Employee Calls Him Out

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Women have had to protect themselves against the inappropriate advances of men since the beginning of time, and the internet has not only given them a platform to bring light to these issues (i.e #MeToo) but given men another way to harass them.

Some men don’t understand the kind of fear women carry with them on a daily basis and why they have to arm themselves during simple activities like a jog around the block. Twitter user @sswyers took to the platform to shed some light on the misogyny that leads to fear, by posting an exchange he had with his boss. The superior begins by calling out a woman for her ‘slutty’ LinkedIn profile picture and little by little the employee unpacks the comment through a conversation that will make you cringe.

Part-time podcaster ‘Sawyer’ took to Twitter to share a thread that highlights the misogyny women not only face in real life but online

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According to Bloomberg data compiled by crisis consultant, Temin and Co. show that public accusations of corporate misbehavior and harassment have fallen to their lowest level since October 2017, after Harvey Weinstein sparked the #MeToo movement. “There are lots of reasons the pace of allegations has slowed,” Davia Temin, founder of Temin and Co. told the outlet, “The initial outpouring included decades worth of historical revelations, clearing a kind of backlog. The news cycle has also moved on, and companies have gotten more sophisticated in the way they manage both bad behavior and negative PR.”

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Over the years a shocking amount of sexual assault cases have asked what the victim was wearing to back up the defense of “she was asking for it.” In 1999 the Denim Day campaign was created, which asks people to wear jeans on a Wednesday in April to raise awareness for these sexual assault survivors. The official campaign website explains it was sparked by the 1999 ruling by the Italian Supreme court in which “a rape conviction was overturned because the justices felt that since the victim was wearing tight jeans she must have helped her rapist remove her jeans, thereby implying consent.” This might sound antiquated but there have been multiple rulings since that have used the same grounds.

People were horrified by the thread and said he should be reported to HR

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The most famous opposition to the ‘asking for it’ argument has been the ‘SlutWalks’ wherein which women gather in scantily clad outfits to protest victim-blaming. The movement began after officer Michael Sanguinetti commented to a group of 10 female students in Toronto: “You know, I think we’re beating around the bush here. I’ve been told I’m not supposed to say this — however, women should avoid dressing like sluts in order not to be victimized,” back in January 2011. Since then SlutWalks have been observed around the world and gained celebrity advocates such as Amber Rose.

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Carrie de Luka
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

What a disgusting individual. How do men like that get to think this is okay? Revolting. I've been sexually harrassed numerous times at work despite deliberately dressing like an old woman and covered everything from ankle to neck in the hope it would stop.

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Carol Emory
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

These are the same men that think that women can control their periods every month and that we "choose" to have them so we can get out of work....SMH.

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Something
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The comments to 10 year old girls are especially sickening. How does anyone think that's okay?

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Random Panda
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4 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Or the tweet where the neighbor was watching the two girls and his wife thinks it's ok to ask their mom to put up curtains instead of calling the police on her pedo husband? Ew, ew, ew. I mean obviously kids should have curtains or whatever to protect their privacy, but don't frame it like it's their fault your husband is a freak. Horrifying attitude of the wives in both cases.

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Mommyofboth
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My dad was a pastor at a church, the deacon brought up my appearance and wardrobe at a church meeting. He told my father that I dressed inappropriately and was a distraction. I was 12 and my mom would approve of my outfits before every service. Basically, my dad told him he was disgusting and a pedophile in front of everyone.

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notinterested
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Your dad is awesome! It's horrifying how many of these comments are about grown men sexualizing children.

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Laugh Fan
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Used to wear very conservative clothes to the office - didn't put men off from making inappropriate remarks and touching me. My husband set up his own business and I now work with him thankfully.

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TS Rhodes
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This guy needs to have a meeting with HR. He's not only reacting poorly at work, but may be a danger to other people. Seriously. Maybe he needs to be committed. He's saying that she "deserves whatever she gets" just because of how he perceives her appearance. That could be construed as a threat.

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Carol Emory
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4 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It also goes the other way. When I was skinny, I could get a job at the drop of a hat. It didn't matter what my skills were or what had happened with previous jobs..I could always get hired. Now that I'm fat, I can't get people to look at me twice. I have three bachelor's degrees, studying for a fourth...and yet no one will hire me because I'm fat, so I must be dumb, lazy and sick.

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Carol Emory
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4 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

@Olga...I'm a diabetic with fibromyalgia. I can no more control my medical condition than you can control your stupidity for making that comment. And why should I have to be skinny to prove my intelligence? Being skinny, fat, blonde, brunette, rich or poor shouldn't matter when it comes to hiring skilled people. What should matter is education, personality, ambition and desire. I've met a lot of well dressed skinny people that were dumb as a post and couldn't wrap their heads around the simplest of tasks. I've also met some poor, unshaven, overweight people that could give Einstein and Nikola Tesla a run for their money. Let's not forget that Howard Hughes used to dress like a bum and thumb rides so he could meet genuine people that treated him with dignity despite his appearance. Perhaps you'd be prettier if you weren't so judgmental.

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Cassie
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The woman concerned about the woman in sweat pants because her young sons are looking needs to teach her young sons better.

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W. 5
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Well, use your common sense to dress modest: Don't be a woman! Was that so hard? (/Sarcasm End)

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Sammiche
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I've always been considered unattractive, and now that I'm also fat, I feel I've crossed the line into "ugly". I used to lament it. I'm overlooked. Ignored. Invisible. But I finally see it as a blessing: people praise my actions rather than my looks. I know that I'm hired based on my merits. I've been losing weight due to my new job (moderately active) and I'm afraid that I will start attracting the wrong kind of attention. No one should have to live like this.

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Kate Ten Pas
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

STOP PUTTING THE BLAME AND ONUS ON WOMEN. Thank your for coming to my Kate Talk

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Suzi Gauthier
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Men don't hate women who dress slutty - just the ones who won't give them the time of day.

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R.s. Potter
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Which they define as "slutty" because in their pathetic view, a woman they find attractive owes them attention.

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A E
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

my uncle used to touch my and his own young girls' breasts and butts. all the time. my aunt (his wife) said nothing, nor did my parents.... it still hounts me. but more the behaviour of the adults.

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Lucas
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Ugh, that's so horrible, the uncle should have been locked up. How parents can ignore it - it's beyond my understanding. I hope you can get over this, somehow, can get some support.

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smerv
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Someone's messing with the comments again, downvoting

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Carrie de Luka
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'll be downvoted for this by them, no doubt, but what a bunch of sad losers they must be.

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Shull GaRett
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

And there you have it folks... when i thought nothing will surprise me today... here we have a beautiful example how the heck we the men get the sexist badge. She looks really nice but i just cant figure out how did this guy arrived to the "slutty"conclusion just on the fact that she is "hot". Good thin i dont have a boss like that.

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KarmaQueen
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I will never understand why men do not take responsibility for their role in what is happening. When I was younger, age 22, I work a dress that was called a tank dress back in the 90s. I was larger chested and curvy. I was asked not to wear that dress again without a jacket because of my breast size and distraction to the men. However, a slimmer girl with no chest was able to wear the same dress.

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Danusha Kuchtová
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Same her! When you're curvy or just walking kinda "seductive" the same piece of cloth become two very different things. Still I'm confused

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Sunzilla
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Sad reality of being a woman. I really hope she reported her boss.

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Peta Hurley-Hill
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I once complained to a female teacher ,that a boy had stuck his hand up my jumper and grabbed my boob...She said ...well,what did I expect,when I was so "obvious"... I was 14 and had big boobs...covered by a polo shirt and jumper,both 3 sizes too big...Then she shen me out of the room for the rest of class...She didn't say a word to the boy.

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Christina Sersif
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I hope he complained to HR. This behavior and way of thinking is absolutely disgusting.

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pusheen buttercup
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

unfortunately some of us are born with features- big symmetrical eyes, pouty lips, a large chest and/or butt- and people instantly think they are sluts, for being born with what society currently believes is desirable and sexual qualities. Even if you try and "cover up", I have helped many a large busted woman find suits for work, and let me tell you... it's not easy. Made me happy I was a flat chest.

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Delilah Jones
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Women's fashion has changed all throughout history yet rape and harassment have always existed. No matter what a woman is wearing, her fashion isn't the problem, the would-be rapist/harrasser is.

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Jean Jacket
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My mom remembers the first time a grown man really checked me out... I was 12. And I looked 12... She said she wanted to scream at him "She's a child!!" I was oblivious. Makes me cringe thinking about it now though..

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Ian Carter
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I understand that behaviour like this makes women(rightly) shocked and appalled but as a man I feel utterly ashamed of my gender, I just dont understand why (some and pleas dont put us all in the same boat) men feel they can project their inadequacies on women.

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HoffLensMetalHedLovesAnimalsUK
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4 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Wow, someone had an over-bearing mother or something, what a vile piece of c**p, seriously if that was my friend saying stuff like that i would not be friends with him much longer.Men suck, not all, but a huge chunk and i'm a man.Some of those tweets after are just dark, very dark.

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Id row
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This is why I never use a picture of myself in avatars. I did it once; guys made lewd comments and girls said I must be stupid because of my blonde hair. Other people called me an entitled b*tch because I was white. All it was was a head shot, nothing else. Minimal makeup and hair that was just blow dried, nothing fancy or weird, just straight hair and both genders insulted me for it. It's not just men making assumptions about women.

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Danusha Kuchtová
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You have a point here. Enough women are doing a disservice to their gender, too.

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R.s. Potter
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It's the sheer narcissism and self absorption that's so amazing. "I find you sexually attractive, therefore you must be deliberately making yourself attractive just to tease me." Get a f***ing clue, guy! You are not that important!

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Nirity
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This is probably how burqas were created. She has legs - cover them, she has ankles - cover them, she has feet - cover them, she has arms - cover them, she has hands - cover them, she has neck - cover, she has hair - cover, she has face - cover, she has eyes - cover. Does it help preventing rape - NO. Because somewhere under all that there is a woman and that's tempting enough.

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Azure Adams
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

So this is where you get HR involved as well as legal and take that s**t out

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Giorgio Prodoti
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I understand the girls, the man reaction is unbelievable and unacceptable. But, I can't stop thinking about a thing: what type of brainwash that man should have received for having a reaction like that? I mean, I am a man and I love women, if I see a nice girl I'm happy. That's normal. What type of mental process should lead a person to transform a good sensation (the view of a nice girl) in the stronger rage? What type of pressure society have put on that man, so wildly that he cannot even admit to itself that he likes women? For what I have read, the process could have been this: A like women and says it freely - X tell A to stop because is not good doing it, maybe calling he misogynyst - A stop to make pure appreciation on women, but starts to feel bad because he is choking a simple human tendency. So A starts growing a wild rage against his own good feelings that, at the end, A transforms in a wild rage against what he make feel good. I only think that we all need more education.

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Rosie Hamilton
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4 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Agree with the last sentence. It is normal to appreciate seeing a person that is appealing to you but you keep that INSIDE your head. Most women get fed up with catcalling and comments on their appearance and should have the right to tell men to stop it. I struggle with the idea that society telling a man to keep his comments about an attractive woman to themselves leads to this kind of rage. I don't doubt this man has serious problems but if he's been bent out of shape by someone telling him to keep his comments to himself then there is something else wrong going on.

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KT Trondsen
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I am truly repulsed at the comments about the very clearly pedo men learing at children and the moms thinking it was the kids fault!?!?

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Withnail
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I am a child and your professional profile photo made my peepee feel funny. Shame on you!

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Bob Negi
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Simple psychology, due to women's liberation, and the advent of a' free love' society means: The attractive girl, no matter what she wears, is attractive. Chances are she is a modern women, that more likely than not has had and will have sex before marriage. She is free to choose whom to have sex with, and guess what? It ain't you buddy! So she picks someone that is not you, so you know she has sex, she just does not want to have it with you. Why not? Am I not attractive, monied, funny enough? Guess not! Instead of hating on the girl, maybe you need to up your game? So the man in pursuit of said hot girl, knows that she likes men, she just does not like you, but, because you are an emotional child, you want to degrade her in any way you can, this makes you feel big and powerful in your head, and somehow validates your nasty remarks. This reminds me of a very old joke. What is the difference between a b***h and a s**t? A b***h is a s**t that will F your friends but not you.

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Stephanie Blasyak
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

At my old work if one of the men saw a woman with a large chest in the waiting room they had a code word they would use to eachother to go out and ogle her...they used this code word so that myself or the other women at work wouldn't find out what pigs they were..but I found out from one of the decent men I worked with.

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Carrie de Luka
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Hope you reported them and that it got stopped. Disgusting and immature behaviour.

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Serbob
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I think we've all seen/heard things like this. I worked for a company where the President (male) hired a girl because he " wouldn't toss her out of bed for eating crackers." But the vice president of the company was disgusting. Constantly made inappropriate comments about staff members appearances. Dug into personal lives and would turn everything sexual. Talked often about how good blowjobs were. And this vice president was a woman! I'm female working in a male dominated field and although some men have been pigs, I find a lot of women to be far worse.

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Random Panda
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It's really horrible when women try to out-men the men. They think if they act like 'one of the boys' they will be better accepted by their male peers. It's sad they don't see it doesn't work that way. I have had men tell me they actually have the least respect for those kinds of women (as much as men like that can have respect for any woman). They would joke with them and flirt with them, and then turn around and call them horrible things behind their backs.

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Susanna Vesna
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I was reading the comments & response to this article, and was like "wow, how nice to see women supporting other women!"....And then I went to read another article on BP- "People Call Out This Woman Because Her Palette Doesn’t Change", where women and others are doing completely the opposite! Humanity is so hypocritical !

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R Tate Dancer
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

As a "red"head, I was regularly asked if the "carpet matched the drapes" in the early 90's by coworkers,superiors,and vendors. I was told once that I could "own" the company based on the work environment. I told them I would never sue them, because that was career suicide back then, but I did hope to educate them.

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Cenk Karaferya
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

These idiots should just get sacked... too many dumb people working in work place, specially offices.

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Marina
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

These types of behaviours are very much part of the reality and when i see people - even women- bashing on the need of feminism it is just so sad and enraging...

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elfin
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I remember when I first logged onto the Internet many years ago and got revolting comments just because my first name is usually for females (which I am). These comments happened within just a few minutes of log in. I felt attacked.

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Heidi Matsumoto
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It's obvious. He's sexualizing her. OMG I can't imagine what he'd say if the woman in the photo was wearing something sleeveless.

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Daria B
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The situation described here and the bad boss is stand-up comedy material. So ridiculous it's sad it's not a joke.

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Vicky Zar
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It baffles me that women (wives) in the US defend such behavior too and even blame children for mens faults. There is something seriously wrong with your society! And its not only men who are responsible for it.

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barb čížkovská
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I deleted my lindkedin, i was getting dinner invitations and a inappropriete messages. From high managements .. pic i have for my id. Also it is normal to be s**t when you are pretty, i am being catcalled often too. At my work is even still normal to get promotion only when you will have intercourse with someone. Only job when was good to be pretty with bog boobs was when i was seller... i was wearing uniform and customers were asking me to go out. Itshard to think all men are not same, cause i never met someone different. All pigs

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Ula
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yeah I remember a sermon saying that young girls tempt boys by wearing mini skirts. Always out fault since school.

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Cristina Steele
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I honestly don’t think there is anything women can do to prevent harassment from some individuals. You could go outside in a floor length garbage sack and get told it’s a “sexy outfit.” Some people are just creeps. It’s best to call them out or report them (but only if you feel safe doing so).

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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This s**t makes me so angry. Especially reading the replies to this post. It seems like people are getting angry at these women because the perverts that they work with are getting distracted? Or women are angry at other women because their husbands are perverted? This is a huge problem in our society, and it makes me want to throw up. If I ever got treated this way, I would (or I like to think that I would) punch them in the effing face.

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Christian Bradshaw
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Ugh. People like this are disgusting. Just because a someone looks attractive does not mean they are "slutty". People should be allowed to care about their appearance without being harassed about it.

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deanna woods
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Any man who can look at the photo of a woman in a tshirt and and thinks that is slutty has something wrong with him. I wish that men would realize that women are not objects and shouldn't be treated that way. Also, the women who blame other women for the actions of the men are sad as well.

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Amy Gooden
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This is why i like to cover up. Its because there arw sick men like this.

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Shireen
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"Slutty" is not Misogynist, women use the word as well. Her boss is just a judemental arsehole.

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John Smith
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Woman is offended. Decides to put the world on notice. Sigh.

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Incel Slayer
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4 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Incel baby is offended, decides to p**s in pool like child. How dare the woman have opinions on being treated like object! Go live in cave where you belong, incel baby.

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Ben Smith
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Her pic isn’t slutty but it’s certainly not professional either. In any right, like most “me too” posts, there is little proof that this ever happened.

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no
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The picture on the article clearly states "not the actual photo", but nice casual misogyny regardless

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Cool story, Sawyer. Why should we believe a word of it? You're looking for social media fame.

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Carrie de Luka
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

What a disgusting individual. How do men like that get to think this is okay? Revolting. I've been sexually harrassed numerous times at work despite deliberately dressing like an old woman and covered everything from ankle to neck in the hope it would stop.

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Carol Emory
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

These are the same men that think that women can control their periods every month and that we "choose" to have them so we can get out of work....SMH.

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Something
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The comments to 10 year old girls are especially sickening. How does anyone think that's okay?

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4 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Or the tweet where the neighbor was watching the two girls and his wife thinks it's ok to ask their mom to put up curtains instead of calling the police on her pedo husband? Ew, ew, ew. I mean obviously kids should have curtains or whatever to protect their privacy, but don't frame it like it's their fault your husband is a freak. Horrifying attitude of the wives in both cases.

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Mommyofboth
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My dad was a pastor at a church, the deacon brought up my appearance and wardrobe at a church meeting. He told my father that I dressed inappropriately and was a distraction. I was 12 and my mom would approve of my outfits before every service. Basically, my dad told him he was disgusting and a pedophile in front of everyone.

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notinterested
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Your dad is awesome! It's horrifying how many of these comments are about grown men sexualizing children.

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Laugh Fan
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Used to wear very conservative clothes to the office - didn't put men off from making inappropriate remarks and touching me. My husband set up his own business and I now work with him thankfully.

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TS Rhodes
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This guy needs to have a meeting with HR. He's not only reacting poorly at work, but may be a danger to other people. Seriously. Maybe he needs to be committed. He's saying that she "deserves whatever she gets" just because of how he perceives her appearance. That could be construed as a threat.

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Carol Emory
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4 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It also goes the other way. When I was skinny, I could get a job at the drop of a hat. It didn't matter what my skills were or what had happened with previous jobs..I could always get hired. Now that I'm fat, I can't get people to look at me twice. I have three bachelor's degrees, studying for a fourth...and yet no one will hire me because I'm fat, so I must be dumb, lazy and sick.

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Carol Emory
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4 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

@Olga...I'm a diabetic with fibromyalgia. I can no more control my medical condition than you can control your stupidity for making that comment. And why should I have to be skinny to prove my intelligence? Being skinny, fat, blonde, brunette, rich or poor shouldn't matter when it comes to hiring skilled people. What should matter is education, personality, ambition and desire. I've met a lot of well dressed skinny people that were dumb as a post and couldn't wrap their heads around the simplest of tasks. I've also met some poor, unshaven, overweight people that could give Einstein and Nikola Tesla a run for their money. Let's not forget that Howard Hughes used to dress like a bum and thumb rides so he could meet genuine people that treated him with dignity despite his appearance. Perhaps you'd be prettier if you weren't so judgmental.

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Cassie
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The woman concerned about the woman in sweat pants because her young sons are looking needs to teach her young sons better.

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W. 5
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Well, use your common sense to dress modest: Don't be a woman! Was that so hard? (/Sarcasm End)

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Sammiche
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I've always been considered unattractive, and now that I'm also fat, I feel I've crossed the line into "ugly". I used to lament it. I'm overlooked. Ignored. Invisible. But I finally see it as a blessing: people praise my actions rather than my looks. I know that I'm hired based on my merits. I've been losing weight due to my new job (moderately active) and I'm afraid that I will start attracting the wrong kind of attention. No one should have to live like this.

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Kate Ten Pas
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

STOP PUTTING THE BLAME AND ONUS ON WOMEN. Thank your for coming to my Kate Talk

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Suzi Gauthier
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Men don't hate women who dress slutty - just the ones who won't give them the time of day.

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R.s. Potter
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Which they define as "slutty" because in their pathetic view, a woman they find attractive owes them attention.

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A E
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

my uncle used to touch my and his own young girls' breasts and butts. all the time. my aunt (his wife) said nothing, nor did my parents.... it still hounts me. but more the behaviour of the adults.

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Lucas
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Ugh, that's so horrible, the uncle should have been locked up. How parents can ignore it - it's beyond my understanding. I hope you can get over this, somehow, can get some support.

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smerv
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Someone's messing with the comments again, downvoting

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Carrie de Luka
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'll be downvoted for this by them, no doubt, but what a bunch of sad losers they must be.

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Shull GaRett
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

And there you have it folks... when i thought nothing will surprise me today... here we have a beautiful example how the heck we the men get the sexist badge. She looks really nice but i just cant figure out how did this guy arrived to the "slutty"conclusion just on the fact that she is "hot". Good thin i dont have a boss like that.

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KarmaQueen
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I will never understand why men do not take responsibility for their role in what is happening. When I was younger, age 22, I work a dress that was called a tank dress back in the 90s. I was larger chested and curvy. I was asked not to wear that dress again without a jacket because of my breast size and distraction to the men. However, a slimmer girl with no chest was able to wear the same dress.

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Danusha Kuchtová
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Same her! When you're curvy or just walking kinda "seductive" the same piece of cloth become two very different things. Still I'm confused

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Sunzilla
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Sad reality of being a woman. I really hope she reported her boss.

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Peta Hurley-Hill
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I once complained to a female teacher ,that a boy had stuck his hand up my jumper and grabbed my boob...She said ...well,what did I expect,when I was so "obvious"... I was 14 and had big boobs...covered by a polo shirt and jumper,both 3 sizes too big...Then she shen me out of the room for the rest of class...She didn't say a word to the boy.

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Christina Sersif
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I hope he complained to HR. This behavior and way of thinking is absolutely disgusting.

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pusheen buttercup
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

unfortunately some of us are born with features- big symmetrical eyes, pouty lips, a large chest and/or butt- and people instantly think they are sluts, for being born with what society currently believes is desirable and sexual qualities. Even if you try and "cover up", I have helped many a large busted woman find suits for work, and let me tell you... it's not easy. Made me happy I was a flat chest.

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Delilah Jones
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Women's fashion has changed all throughout history yet rape and harassment have always existed. No matter what a woman is wearing, her fashion isn't the problem, the would-be rapist/harrasser is.

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Jean Jacket
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My mom remembers the first time a grown man really checked me out... I was 12. And I looked 12... She said she wanted to scream at him "She's a child!!" I was oblivious. Makes me cringe thinking about it now though..

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Ian Carter
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I understand that behaviour like this makes women(rightly) shocked and appalled but as a man I feel utterly ashamed of my gender, I just dont understand why (some and pleas dont put us all in the same boat) men feel they can project their inadequacies on women.

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HoffLensMetalHedLovesAnimalsUK
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4 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Wow, someone had an over-bearing mother or something, what a vile piece of c**p, seriously if that was my friend saying stuff like that i would not be friends with him much longer.Men suck, not all, but a huge chunk and i'm a man.Some of those tweets after are just dark, very dark.

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Id row
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This is why I never use a picture of myself in avatars. I did it once; guys made lewd comments and girls said I must be stupid because of my blonde hair. Other people called me an entitled b*tch because I was white. All it was was a head shot, nothing else. Minimal makeup and hair that was just blow dried, nothing fancy or weird, just straight hair and both genders insulted me for it. It's not just men making assumptions about women.

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Danusha Kuchtová
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You have a point here. Enough women are doing a disservice to their gender, too.

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R.s. Potter
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It's the sheer narcissism and self absorption that's so amazing. "I find you sexually attractive, therefore you must be deliberately making yourself attractive just to tease me." Get a f***ing clue, guy! You are not that important!

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Nirity
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This is probably how burqas were created. She has legs - cover them, she has ankles - cover them, she has feet - cover them, she has arms - cover them, she has hands - cover them, she has neck - cover, she has hair - cover, she has face - cover, she has eyes - cover. Does it help preventing rape - NO. Because somewhere under all that there is a woman and that's tempting enough.

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Azure Adams
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

So this is where you get HR involved as well as legal and take that s**t out

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Giorgio Prodoti
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I understand the girls, the man reaction is unbelievable and unacceptable. But, I can't stop thinking about a thing: what type of brainwash that man should have received for having a reaction like that? I mean, I am a man and I love women, if I see a nice girl I'm happy. That's normal. What type of mental process should lead a person to transform a good sensation (the view of a nice girl) in the stronger rage? What type of pressure society have put on that man, so wildly that he cannot even admit to itself that he likes women? For what I have read, the process could have been this: A like women and says it freely - X tell A to stop because is not good doing it, maybe calling he misogynyst - A stop to make pure appreciation on women, but starts to feel bad because he is choking a simple human tendency. So A starts growing a wild rage against his own good feelings that, at the end, A transforms in a wild rage against what he make feel good. I only think that we all need more education.

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Rosie Hamilton
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4 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Agree with the last sentence. It is normal to appreciate seeing a person that is appealing to you but you keep that INSIDE your head. Most women get fed up with catcalling and comments on their appearance and should have the right to tell men to stop it. I struggle with the idea that society telling a man to keep his comments about an attractive woman to themselves leads to this kind of rage. I don't doubt this man has serious problems but if he's been bent out of shape by someone telling him to keep his comments to himself then there is something else wrong going on.

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KT Trondsen
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I am truly repulsed at the comments about the very clearly pedo men learing at children and the moms thinking it was the kids fault!?!?

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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I am a child and your professional profile photo made my peepee feel funny. Shame on you!

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Bob Negi
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Simple psychology, due to women's liberation, and the advent of a' free love' society means: The attractive girl, no matter what she wears, is attractive. Chances are she is a modern women, that more likely than not has had and will have sex before marriage. She is free to choose whom to have sex with, and guess what? It ain't you buddy! So she picks someone that is not you, so you know she has sex, she just does not want to have it with you. Why not? Am I not attractive, monied, funny enough? Guess not! Instead of hating on the girl, maybe you need to up your game? So the man in pursuit of said hot girl, knows that she likes men, she just does not like you, but, because you are an emotional child, you want to degrade her in any way you can, this makes you feel big and powerful in your head, and somehow validates your nasty remarks. This reminds me of a very old joke. What is the difference between a b***h and a s**t? A b***h is a s**t that will F your friends but not you.

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Stephanie Blasyak
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

At my old work if one of the men saw a woman with a large chest in the waiting room they had a code word they would use to eachother to go out and ogle her...they used this code word so that myself or the other women at work wouldn't find out what pigs they were..but I found out from one of the decent men I worked with.

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Carrie de Luka
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Hope you reported them and that it got stopped. Disgusting and immature behaviour.

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Serbob
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I think we've all seen/heard things like this. I worked for a company where the President (male) hired a girl because he " wouldn't toss her out of bed for eating crackers." But the vice president of the company was disgusting. Constantly made inappropriate comments about staff members appearances. Dug into personal lives and would turn everything sexual. Talked often about how good blowjobs were. And this vice president was a woman! I'm female working in a male dominated field and although some men have been pigs, I find a lot of women to be far worse.

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Random Panda
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It's really horrible when women try to out-men the men. They think if they act like 'one of the boys' they will be better accepted by their male peers. It's sad they don't see it doesn't work that way. I have had men tell me they actually have the least respect for those kinds of women (as much as men like that can have respect for any woman). They would joke with them and flirt with them, and then turn around and call them horrible things behind their backs.

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Susanna Vesna
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I was reading the comments & response to this article, and was like "wow, how nice to see women supporting other women!"....And then I went to read another article on BP- "People Call Out This Woman Because Her Palette Doesn’t Change", where women and others are doing completely the opposite! Humanity is so hypocritical !

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R Tate Dancer
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

As a "red"head, I was regularly asked if the "carpet matched the drapes" in the early 90's by coworkers,superiors,and vendors. I was told once that I could "own" the company based on the work environment. I told them I would never sue them, because that was career suicide back then, but I did hope to educate them.

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Cenk Karaferya
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

These idiots should just get sacked... too many dumb people working in work place, specially offices.

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Marina
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

These types of behaviours are very much part of the reality and when i see people - even women- bashing on the need of feminism it is just so sad and enraging...

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elfin
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I remember when I first logged onto the Internet many years ago and got revolting comments just because my first name is usually for females (which I am). These comments happened within just a few minutes of log in. I felt attacked.

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Heidi Matsumoto
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It's obvious. He's sexualizing her. OMG I can't imagine what he'd say if the woman in the photo was wearing something sleeveless.

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Daria B
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The situation described here and the bad boss is stand-up comedy material. So ridiculous it's sad it's not a joke.

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Vicky Zar
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It baffles me that women (wives) in the US defend such behavior too and even blame children for mens faults. There is something seriously wrong with your society! And its not only men who are responsible for it.

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barb čížkovská
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I deleted my lindkedin, i was getting dinner invitations and a inappropriete messages. From high managements .. pic i have for my id. Also it is normal to be s**t when you are pretty, i am being catcalled often too. At my work is even still normal to get promotion only when you will have intercourse with someone. Only job when was good to be pretty with bog boobs was when i was seller... i was wearing uniform and customers were asking me to go out. Itshard to think all men are not same, cause i never met someone different. All pigs

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Ula
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yeah I remember a sermon saying that young girls tempt boys by wearing mini skirts. Always out fault since school.

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Cristina Steele
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I honestly don’t think there is anything women can do to prevent harassment from some individuals. You could go outside in a floor length garbage sack and get told it’s a “sexy outfit.” Some people are just creeps. It’s best to call them out or report them (but only if you feel safe doing so).

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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This s**t makes me so angry. Especially reading the replies to this post. It seems like people are getting angry at these women because the perverts that they work with are getting distracted? Or women are angry at other women because their husbands are perverted? This is a huge problem in our society, and it makes me want to throw up. If I ever got treated this way, I would (or I like to think that I would) punch them in the effing face.

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Christian Bradshaw
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Ugh. People like this are disgusting. Just because a someone looks attractive does not mean they are "slutty". People should be allowed to care about their appearance without being harassed about it.

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deanna woods
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Any man who can look at the photo of a woman in a tshirt and and thinks that is slutty has something wrong with him. I wish that men would realize that women are not objects and shouldn't be treated that way. Also, the women who blame other women for the actions of the men are sad as well.

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Amy Gooden
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This is why i like to cover up. Its because there arw sick men like this.

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"Slutty" is not Misogynist, women use the word as well. Her boss is just a judemental arsehole.

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Woman is offended. Decides to put the world on notice. Sigh.

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Incel Slayer
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4 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Incel baby is offended, decides to p**s in pool like child. How dare the woman have opinions on being treated like object! Go live in cave where you belong, incel baby.

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Her pic isn’t slutty but it’s certainly not professional either. In any right, like most “me too” posts, there is little proof that this ever happened.

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no
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The picture on the article clearly states "not the actual photo", but nice casual misogyny regardless

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Cool story, Sawyer. Why should we believe a word of it? You're looking for social media fame.

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